WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: Have you ever BLOCKED someone for your partner? 🚫 0:00:12.600 --> 0:00:14.520 Laura, come on in. 0:00:18.200 --> 0:00:20.120 Hello ladies high Country. 0:00:20.239 --> 0:00:24.840 Hello, everybody have Friday the weekend. Thank the Lord. It's 0:00:24.840 --> 0:00:27.040 been a long week with you too. Yeah, we've still 0:00:27.040 --> 0:00:29.560 got a whole show to get through. Yeah. I'm not 0:00:29.600 --> 0:00:31.760 talking to you too, I'm talking to the listeners. Yeah, 0:00:31.760 --> 0:00:33.040 they've had to put up with that's all week. 0:00:33.080 --> 0:00:33.479 The thing. 0:00:33.760 --> 0:00:34.680 More than two listeners? 0:00:35.000 --> 0:00:35.360 Do we? 0:00:35.760 --> 0:00:36.160 How many? 0:00:37.159 --> 0:00:37.760 At least six? 0:00:37.840 --> 0:00:38.040 More? 0:00:38.120 --> 0:00:38.320 No? 0:00:38.360 --> 0:00:40.920 I come on, I've read the stats. I'm so stressed today. 0:00:41.000 --> 0:00:42.519 You know when you book a hotel for just one 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:44.040 night and you want to wait the most of the 0:00:44.080 --> 0:00:47.000 whole experience because check out is tomorrow. I'm staying of 0:00:47.000 --> 0:00:49.199 a night with my boyfriend, Stephen's birthday tonight. Check in 0:00:49.479 --> 0:00:51.680 four pm, check out eleven am. 0:00:52.040 --> 0:00:53.320 Just ask for a late checkout. 0:00:53.840 --> 0:00:55.400 No, I get anxious doing that. 0:00:55.560 --> 0:00:57.360 Why because you get more time to line in bed 0:00:57.400 --> 0:00:58.600 and have a breakfast buffet. 0:00:58.800 --> 0:01:00.560 Have you ever ought us for a late check out? 0:01:00.600 --> 0:01:02.760 It is so stressful. You're sure we've granted it. 0:01:02.800 --> 0:01:04.400 You get out of eleven thirty, like they give you 0:01:04.440 --> 0:01:05.280 thirty extra minutes. 0:01:05.360 --> 0:01:06.640 No, it's not stressful. 0:01:06.800 --> 0:01:09.320 Sometimes they're super generous. When we were just in Bali recently, 0:01:09.400 --> 0:01:11.280 I asked for late checkout. They gave us still six 0:01:11.400 --> 0:01:13.400 thirty pm and didn't charge us any extra. 0:01:13.560 --> 0:01:16.960 It only depends if anyone else's rebooked in the room. 0:01:16.959 --> 0:01:19.279 If it's empty, Yeah, if it's empty, they're like, yeah. 0:01:19.160 --> 0:01:21.200 Whatever, I love more means that I've already paid for it. 0:01:21.240 --> 0:01:22.920 So like check ins four, I want to get there 0:01:22.920 --> 0:01:24.080 in four. I don' want to get there any Note. 0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:25.920 What Mitch is saying is that as soon as this 0:01:26.000 --> 0:01:28.360 show ends, he wants to get to the hotel so 0:01:28.360 --> 0:01:30.039 that he can get in the spa bath and he 0:01:30.080 --> 0:01:30.959 would like it to be there. 0:01:31.000 --> 0:01:31.160 Now. 0:01:31.240 --> 0:01:33.640 That's fine. I always probably want to live and go home. 0:01:33.680 --> 0:01:34.399 Thank you get to a spa. 0:01:34.560 --> 0:01:36.560 We can we can all we can all go home 0:01:36.600 --> 0:01:37.039 after this. 0:01:37.040 --> 0:01:38.880 And have a wonderful weekeed or you're the only one 0:01:38.880 --> 0:01:39.600 that enjoys the show. 0:01:39.680 --> 0:01:40.480 I really want to be. 0:01:40.480 --> 0:01:41.240 At work, guys. 0:01:41.319 --> 0:01:42.720 All right, guys, you guys are going home to have 0:01:42.720 --> 0:01:45.399 a beautiful weekend. Literally, my children still have gastro. It's 0:01:45.400 --> 0:01:46.920 been a whole week of it now and I'm going 0:01:46.959 --> 0:01:49.320 back home to deal with more gastro. I don't just 0:01:49.400 --> 0:01:52.240 wrap them in glad rut, just let them simmer in 0:01:52.280 --> 0:01:55.640 their own soup humans soup wrap you put plastic over 0:01:55.880 --> 0:01:56.760 like they're manning. 0:01:56.920 --> 0:01:59.640 I have well, I have kids that had a tough time. 0:01:59.680 --> 0:02:05.240 Frank Munas, Oh, I'd tell who child is Malcolm in 0:02:05.280 --> 0:02:06.600 the Middle in case you didn't know. 0:02:06.680 --> 0:02:08.400 It's like one of the biggest child actors of all 0:02:08.480 --> 0:02:10.079 time and we have him on the show. 0:02:10.200 --> 0:02:12.320 Yeah, Frankie joins his next on the Pickup. 0:02:13.600 --> 0:02:16.320 This week on Life on Cut podcast, Laura and I 0:02:16.400 --> 0:02:20.120 had such an incredible chat with Frankie Munas aka Malcolm 0:02:20.160 --> 0:02:23.800 in the Middle, aka the biggest child star of his time. 0:02:24.080 --> 0:02:26.200 Like he was only eight years old when he got 0:02:26.200 --> 0:02:27.880 cast as Malcolm in the Middle and he played it 0:02:27.919 --> 0:02:29.440 for something like nine or ten years. 0:02:29.480 --> 0:02:31.680 Well, Bri, you became friends with him because you, I 0:02:31.680 --> 0:02:33.639 mean recently, if anyone doesn't know, Britt was in the 0:02:33.720 --> 0:02:34.960 Celebrity Jungle, I'm a celebrity. 0:02:35.000 --> 0:02:35.520 Get me out of here. 0:02:35.560 --> 0:02:38.359 Frankie Munis, he was the big international name that came 0:02:38.440 --> 0:02:40.400 to Australia and he was part of the Jungle crew. 0:02:40.800 --> 0:02:43.959 But I think there's so much stigma around being a 0:02:44.040 --> 0:02:46.000 quote unquote child style, Like I think we see so 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:48.400 many people who go off the rails as they grow up. 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:51.280 And kind of yeah, and really go from having this 0:02:51.440 --> 0:02:54.799 like incredible rise to fame to almost having this very 0:02:54.840 --> 0:02:57.840 public sort of derailment of that. And Frankie Munis like, 0:02:57.840 --> 0:03:00.480 despite the fact that he was the biggest child style 0:03:00.520 --> 0:03:02.880 almost of all time, he seems to have kept it 0:03:02.960 --> 0:03:05.440 totally together as an adult. It's really like, it's fascinating 0:03:05.440 --> 0:03:06.840 that he's done so well for himself. 0:03:06.880 --> 0:03:09.440 He shared so much with us that was so fascinating, 0:03:09.480 --> 0:03:12.000 all about like the sacrifices his family had to make, 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:14.880 some ins and outs and Hollywood secrets. 0:03:15.000 --> 0:03:17.799 But one of the things that really. 0:03:17.520 --> 0:03:19.520 Hit home with me and I thought, wow, it must 0:03:19.520 --> 0:03:22.079 be such a hard world is a story about someone 0:03:22.240 --> 0:03:24.480 very close to him stealing from him. 0:03:24.480 --> 0:03:27.919 Have a listen you as a child actor, I think 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:30.840 eighty percent of the money goes to a trust. It 0:03:30.840 --> 0:03:33.480 goes into a trust that cannot be touched by anyone 0:03:33.600 --> 0:03:37.120 until you're eighteen. And that's because so many child actors 0:03:37.120 --> 0:03:40.200 work their whole lives. The parents get the money and 0:03:40.720 --> 0:03:43.280 they turn eighteen and they've spent it's all gone, there's 0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:46.080 none left, So the money goes to a trust. That 0:03:46.320 --> 0:03:50.560 the issue is for most people, most actors, most come 0:03:50.600 --> 0:03:54.720 from nothing, right. My mom didn't have money. My family 0:03:54.720 --> 0:03:56.680 didn't have any money, so she didn't know how to 0:03:56.720 --> 0:03:59.760 manage it. And you know, you're not talking like where 0:04:00.160 --> 0:04:02.240 it slowly builds like it went from kind of like, oh, 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:03.280 I got some little checks. 0:04:03.280 --> 0:04:03.880 Oh yay. 0:04:04.160 --> 0:04:06.000 I remember I drew like a little you know, like 0:04:06.040 --> 0:04:08.360 a fundraiser thing where you put like the dollar amounts 0:04:08.360 --> 0:04:10.320 and like you try to fill it up. And at 0:04:10.320 --> 0:04:12.480 the top of it, I had this dirt bike and 0:04:12.520 --> 0:04:13.920 I was like, I'm going to save all this money. 0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:16.120 I'm gonna buy this dirt bike when I can. And 0:04:16.520 --> 0:04:18.359 but it goes from like that where you're getting like 0:04:18.400 --> 0:04:21.440 little checks to like, all of a sudden, there's a 0:04:21.480 --> 0:04:23.920 lot of money coming in. So my mom didn't know 0:04:23.920 --> 0:04:25.640 how to manage it. Nobody knew how to manage it. 0:04:25.960 --> 0:04:29.040 And everyone gives you advice, whether it's good or bad. 0:04:29.320 --> 0:04:32.240 Everybody says, oh, you need hire this person, you need this, 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:34.479 you need a lawyer, you need a business manager, you 0:04:34.560 --> 0:04:36.840 need this, you need a publicist, And all of a 0:04:36.880 --> 0:04:40.480 sudden you realize you've got like ten people working for you, 0:04:40.720 --> 0:04:42.680 but really just taking your money, you know what I mean. 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:45.640 So my mom hired a business manager when I was 0:04:45.839 --> 0:04:48.200 first starting out in Malcolm. I'll say this, he was 0:04:48.240 --> 0:04:51.760 the only person that I truly trusted in that business, 0:04:52.279 --> 0:04:55.480 truly trusted. And I will just say this and I 0:04:55.520 --> 0:04:58.359 won't get too far into it. The last person I 0:04:58.360 --> 0:05:03.760 should have trusted took insane amounts of my money stolen gone. 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:06.200 And you hear that story. It happens a lot. It 0:05:06.240 --> 0:05:08.880 happens to so many people, and no matter how much 0:05:08.880 --> 0:05:12.559 you're warned of it, it still happens to more people 0:05:12.600 --> 0:05:13.360 than it doesn't. 0:05:13.080 --> 0:05:14.080 In the entertainment business. 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:17.159 That's something that we talked about Frankie in the Jungle 0:05:17.360 --> 0:05:20.279 and I found it interesting. And just to expand on 0:05:20.320 --> 0:05:22.800 it a little bit, you said that because you were 0:05:22.800 --> 0:05:25.120 so young when you came into money and he trusted him, 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:27.719 he looked after your finances for a very long time, 0:05:27.800 --> 0:05:31.159 like twenty ten, fifteen, twenty years, and you never looked 0:05:31.160 --> 0:05:34.880 and tenny years, Yeah, you never were looking at your 0:05:34.920 --> 0:05:37.719 account or your finances because you didn't need to. You 0:05:37.800 --> 0:05:40.080 hired a professional to do it, and it wasn't until 0:05:40.160 --> 0:05:42.960 you were an adult that you found out he'd been 0:05:43.000 --> 0:05:43.600 stealing from you. 0:05:43.720 --> 0:05:45.280 Right, Yeah, So that's. 0:05:45.279 --> 0:05:47.640 You know, if you think about it, even if I 0:05:47.760 --> 0:05:50.880 was shown the stuff. Right, you get a profit and 0:05:50.920 --> 0:05:52.680 loss and a balance. She'd said to you when you're 0:05:52.920 --> 0:05:55.880 thirteen years old, You're like, I don't know what it means. 0:05:56.120 --> 0:05:58.160 You know what it means. I have no idea. As 0:05:58.160 --> 0:06:00.160 I was getting older and they would send it. I 0:06:00.200 --> 0:06:04.000 was actually my ex worked in finance, so she eventually 0:06:04.000 --> 0:06:05.640 was like, do you ever look at that? Do you 0:06:05.680 --> 0:06:08.400 ever look at your what you're spending money on or 0:06:08.560 --> 0:06:10.480 what came in and what went out? I was like no. 0:06:11.080 --> 0:06:12.040 She like, do you mind if I. 0:06:12.040 --> 0:06:12.680 Look at it? 0:06:12.720 --> 0:06:14.800 And I was like sure. So she looked at it 0:06:14.839 --> 0:06:17.560 and she goes, I've been with you for two years. 0:06:17.839 --> 0:06:22.440 I know what money you've spent this year, this month, whatever. 0:06:22.839 --> 0:06:25.719 But she goes, it's saying that you're spending two hundred 0:06:25.760 --> 0:06:29.800 thousand dollars a month on research or whatever it might be. Right, 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:33.240 Like what, No, there's no way, Like, I'm the most 0:06:33.240 --> 0:06:35.840 frugal person alive, Like, I don't spend money on anything. 0:06:36.520 --> 0:06:39.480 So she made me question him and question what some 0:06:39.520 --> 0:06:41.560 of the expenses were, what some of the things were, 0:06:42.080 --> 0:06:46.120 and uh, yeah, I definitely wish I was. I questioned 0:06:46.160 --> 0:06:46.880 it a lot sooner. 0:06:47.920 --> 0:06:52.479 I just imagine when you're a kid. You need people 0:06:52.480 --> 0:06:54.240 in your life that you can trust. Right, you don't 0:06:54.279 --> 0:06:55.960 know how to run your life. You need to have 0:06:56.000 --> 0:06:58.440 full support of adults. Imagine that person that you have 0:06:58.480 --> 0:07:01.280 looked at as like almost you know, Frankie said, he 0:07:01.320 --> 0:07:02.080 was like almost like a dad. 0:07:02.080 --> 0:07:03.680 Did he just taken advantage of. 0:07:03.720 --> 0:07:06.040 And he's been stealing from him millions and millions of 0:07:06.080 --> 0:07:07.320 dollars their entire up time. 0:07:07.560 --> 0:07:09.560 I just also think like it must be so hard 0:07:09.760 --> 0:07:12.400 because these chance stars they have they don't even realize 0:07:12.400 --> 0:07:14.480 that they have such power. They're making so much money, 0:07:14.480 --> 0:07:16.720 but usually there's other people who are in charge of 0:07:16.760 --> 0:07:19.800 that money, and often you hear these horrible stories about 0:07:19.800 --> 0:07:23.200 how all the money has been like squandered or used 0:07:23.240 --> 0:07:23.920 in different ways. 0:07:23.960 --> 0:07:25.520 By the time the child's an adult, they don't have. 0:07:25.520 --> 0:07:28.080 Anything crazy full chats on the Life on Cup. 0:07:28.360 --> 0:07:30.240 Yeah, once you're finished listening to this show today, head 0:07:30.280 --> 0:07:32.160 on over to lifeun Cup podcasts wherever you listen to 0:07:32.200 --> 0:07:35.160 your podcasts, because the interview is truly amazing. 0:07:35.200 --> 0:07:36.280 Go and have a listened to the full thing. 0:07:36.360 --> 0:07:38.520 Hey, next on the show, what would you do if 0:07:38.560 --> 0:07:41.320 your partner sat you down and said, babe, give me 0:07:41.360 --> 0:07:44.280 your phone there's someone that you follow, a friend in 0:07:44.320 --> 0:07:46.000 your life that I want you to block. 0:07:46.280 --> 0:07:48.000 I want you to remove from you in a block. 0:07:47.880 --> 0:07:50.920 Mamage, Well check your phone. 0:07:49.880 --> 0:07:52.800 Ah No, it's a big it's a it's a serious issue. 0:07:52.840 --> 0:07:54.800 I mean I faced in my relationship and there's there's 0:07:54.800 --> 0:07:56.160 a story surrounding this, and I want to get you 0:07:56.200 --> 0:07:57.840 up to speed with on the way the pickup. 0:07:59.080 --> 0:08:01.720 All right, we love talk about relationships here, I mean, Britt, 0:08:01.800 --> 0:08:03.480 you and I we have a relationships podcast. 0:08:03.560 --> 0:08:05.960 Laugh on cut we talk about relationships four day long. 0:08:06.040 --> 0:08:07.320 I now have a relationship. 0:08:07.680 --> 0:08:10.880 He's an expert while we've all got one, which means 0:08:10.880 --> 0:08:12.640 if you talk on them, right, we're experts. 0:08:12.720 --> 0:08:14.560 Now you know we've been in them, so surely that's 0:08:14.680 --> 0:08:16.600 that's all it takes. Right, Okay, Well there's this guy. 0:08:16.800 --> 0:08:20.000 He was a trade Now he's a relationship actually kind 0:08:20.000 --> 0:08:23.320 of a controversial relationship expert, one might say. But he's 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:26.560 a mass like four hundred and seventy thousand followers on TikTok. 0:08:26.600 --> 0:08:30.320 His name is Jake Maddock. Now he has some I 0:08:30.360 --> 0:08:32.360 think some of his advice is quite good. 0:08:32.120 --> 0:08:33.960 And some of it that's a bit on the nose. 0:08:34.200 --> 0:08:37.480 But he's come out recently and has a theory around 0:08:37.640 --> 0:08:41.000 blocking people on Instagram at your partner's request. 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:42.320 Now, i'd love to know. 0:08:42.559 --> 0:08:44.959 Firstly, give us a call if you if your partner 0:08:45.000 --> 0:08:48.120 has ever asked you to block someone on Instagram or 0:08:48.160 --> 0:08:49.280 on TikTok, and how did you. 0:08:49.240 --> 0:08:51.040 Respond to that, Like, what did you do? I'd love 0:08:51.080 --> 0:08:51.320 to hear. 0:08:51.600 --> 0:08:53.760 I've had exits asked me to block people on Instagram, 0:08:53.760 --> 0:08:55.280 and I've asked them to block people on Instagram. 0:08:55.320 --> 0:08:58.560 Okay, well, I want to hear about your your experience, Mitch. Okay, 0:08:58.559 --> 0:09:00.520 have a listen to this. This is Jake's. 0:09:00.800 --> 0:09:02.640 When she gets a text from a guy you don't like, 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:04.680 say block that guy for me, just like that, and 0:09:04.720 --> 0:09:07.000 she'll go, oh, okay, no worries, easy, and she'll block 0:09:07.080 --> 0:09:09.080 him and then that's it, super easy. Your ideal planet 0:09:09.080 --> 0:09:11.360 will do it straight away. So even the first few 0:09:11.400 --> 0:09:13.600 weeks of dating my wife, she got a text from 0:09:13.600 --> 0:09:15.920 a friend, I said, block that guy for me. Yeah, 0:09:15.960 --> 0:09:19.560 no worries, done, go awesome, done, one sentence, no argument, awesome. 0:09:19.600 --> 0:09:21.480 That's the way it should be. You should happily block 0:09:21.520 --> 0:09:22.360 someone for your partner. 0:09:23.160 --> 0:09:26.240 I gotta have it, Jake, your loser, tell us what 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:26.960 you really think, Britt. 0:09:27.200 --> 0:09:28.319 What if I'm stupid? 0:09:28.559 --> 0:09:30.640 What if you were texting a guy I text you 0:09:30.679 --> 0:09:32.840 on Instagram and Ben said block him. 0:09:32.920 --> 0:09:36.760 If my friend messaged me and I had been dating 0:09:36.760 --> 0:09:39.560 my partner for three weeks, my friend and my partner 0:09:39.600 --> 0:09:42.280 said block him, I would say, get stuff. You do 0:09:42.400 --> 0:09:44.880 not control me to the point that you say who 0:09:44.920 --> 0:09:46.720 I can and can't be friends with. And the fact 0:09:46.720 --> 0:09:48.760 that Jake is like the ideal partner will do what 0:09:48.800 --> 0:09:51.120 you say and conform and be controlled whatever. 0:09:51.200 --> 0:09:52.079 Jake, You're a loser. 0:09:52.160 --> 0:09:54.680 I still think it does Ben to block someone for you. 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:58.240 I'm not a friend, he literally said her friend. He said, 0:09:58.280 --> 0:10:00.640 I started dating a girl. Her friend miss I said 0:10:00.640 --> 0:10:01.040 block him. 0:10:01.080 --> 0:10:01.600 Don't like him? 0:10:01.600 --> 0:10:02.559 So she said, I care. 0:10:02.840 --> 0:10:05.040 But someone that they've been with and you know about, 0:10:05.120 --> 0:10:06.840 or someone that you don't like that they're not friends with. 0:10:06.920 --> 0:10:07.520 I think you would. 0:10:07.559 --> 0:10:10.000 I would have you asked your you said before you've 0:10:10.040 --> 0:10:11.200 asked an X to block someone? 0:10:11.320 --> 0:10:12.960 Yeah, ex, I asked my ex to block somewhere and 0:10:12.960 --> 0:10:14.680 they did, and then they asked me and I did, 0:10:14.679 --> 0:10:17.280 but I wouldn't. Now it definitely comes from insecurity. I 0:10:17.440 --> 0:10:17.960 say that happen. 0:10:18.000 --> 0:10:19.480 I was going to say that I've asked her In 0:10:19.520 --> 0:10:20.000 the past. 0:10:20.120 --> 0:10:25.000 My ex boyfriend like he received messages from girls surprise, surprise, 0:10:25.040 --> 0:10:27.960 because he was cheating on me. But I remember being like, 0:10:28.120 --> 0:10:30.959 block them and kind of trying to make I know 0:10:31.280 --> 0:10:33.040 they weren't the problem. But I guess a part of 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:35.439 me wanted the girls to be the problem, not him 0:10:35.480 --> 0:10:37.520 to be the problem. But really, of course it was 0:10:37.559 --> 0:10:39.480 him because he was giving Ahold all the signals that 0:10:39.520 --> 0:10:41.280 he was interested in them. That's why they were messaging 0:10:41.320 --> 0:10:42.079 him in the first place. 0:10:42.480 --> 0:10:43.880 My situation, I only. 0:10:43.679 --> 0:10:46.080 Ever asked someone to block someone once. 0:10:46.679 --> 0:10:49.440 My ex I asked him to block a girl only 0:10:49.520 --> 0:10:51.640 because and I saw all the messages. It was like 0:10:51.880 --> 0:10:54.880 proper harassment. She wasn't over the fact that they broke up, 0:10:54.880 --> 0:10:58.160 and she was constantly messaging messaging, messaging, messaging. 0:10:58.120 --> 0:10:59.920 Like and crazy kind of stuff. 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:01.679 And I was like, and it wasn't a big I 0:11:01.720 --> 0:11:03.480 wasn't insecure, I wasn't in insecurity. 0:11:03.520 --> 0:11:05.760 I was like, just blocker, Like, you don't need you 0:11:05.800 --> 0:11:06.280 don't need that. 0:11:06.320 --> 0:11:08.160 Yeah, you don't have to be nice when people are 0:11:08.160 --> 0:11:11.080 being like incessantly intruding on your space online. But I 0:11:11.080 --> 0:11:13.319 do think I think it's an interesting one because I 0:11:14.440 --> 0:11:16.640 disagree with what he said, and I do agree with you, 0:11:16.679 --> 0:11:18.880 Britt in saying that you know you can't control your 0:11:18.880 --> 0:11:20.760 partners and tell them who they can and can't follow 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:22.920 on Instagram and all that sort of stuff. But I 0:11:22.960 --> 0:11:26.480 do think sometimes it can be very telling if your 0:11:26.720 --> 0:11:31.000 partner is having, like you know, chatty conversations with other 0:11:31.040 --> 0:11:34.360 people online and feels really strongly about blocking someone who 0:11:34.360 --> 0:11:36.600 they shouldn't have any relationship with or care about. 0:11:36.760 --> 0:11:38.520 I would actually, what's his name, Josh Jake? 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:42.400 Who ja ja mad Jake? I would flip this on 0:11:42.480 --> 0:11:45.440 its head. He says, the ideal partner will do as 0:11:45.480 --> 0:11:48.240 you say and block them. I would say, Josh Jake, 0:11:48.320 --> 0:11:50.480 whatever your name is, I would say, the ideal partner 0:11:50.559 --> 0:11:52.080 wouldn't ask you to block. 0:11:51.880 --> 0:11:55.200 A friend about that secure enough in their relationship one 0:11:55.280 --> 0:11:55.920 hundred percent. 0:11:56.160 --> 0:11:57.240 I agree, grow. 0:11:57.080 --> 0:11:57.679 Up, Jason. 0:11:57.800 --> 0:12:01.319 I'd be interested though, just to hear if it has 0:12:01.360 --> 0:12:04.280 happened to you. Give us a call like calls up 0:12:04.320 --> 0:12:06.280 with the pickup. I'd love to know, because you know, 0:12:06.320 --> 0:12:08.480 I can be swayed. If there's a genuine reason in 0:12:08.520 --> 0:12:10.440 your life why you've had to block someone, let us know. 0:12:10.440 --> 0:12:11.960 We'll take your calls. Next you have the pickup. 0:12:13.640 --> 0:12:17.760 We were talking about a controversial relationship expert who has 0:12:17.800 --> 0:12:20.120 been dishing out some advice. His name is Jake Maddock, 0:12:20.200 --> 0:12:23.200 and he's quite prolific on TikTok, and he is of 0:12:23.280 --> 0:12:27.160 the opinion that if your partner asks you, without any 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:31.360 explanation or context to block someone on Instagram or on TikTok, 0:12:31.640 --> 0:12:32.480 that you should do it. 0:12:32.480 --> 0:12:35.360 That that is what defines a good partner. I call bs. 0:12:35.480 --> 0:12:36.520 Yeah, this is what he had to say. 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:38.640 When she gets a text from a guy you don't like, 0:12:38.720 --> 0:12:40.640 say block that guy for me, just like that, and 0:12:40.679 --> 0:12:43.199 she'll go, oh, okay, no worries, easy, and she'll block him. 0:12:43.200 --> 0:12:45.200 And then that's it, super easy. Your ideal planet will 0:12:45.200 --> 0:12:47.680 do it straight away. So even the first few weeks 0:12:47.679 --> 0:12:50.040 of dating my wife, she got a text from a friend, 0:12:50.160 --> 0:12:51.440 I said, block that guy for me. 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:52.240 Yeah, no worries. 0:12:52.320 --> 0:12:55.760 Done, awesome, done, one sentence, no argument, awesome. That's the 0:12:55.760 --> 0:12:57.840 way it should be. You should happily block someone for 0:12:57.880 --> 0:12:58.320 your partner. 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:02.520 Okay, no argument, I do, pinteer, she should do what 0:13:02.559 --> 0:13:02.920 you say. 0:13:03.040 --> 0:13:05.880 I'm sorry, ick Okay, there's some people who you should 0:13:05.880 --> 0:13:08.840 block without any argument. But like if it's your friend 0:13:08.920 --> 0:13:10.839 who sent you a text message. I don't think you 0:13:10.840 --> 0:13:13.040 should just be blocking anyone because some guy you've been 0:13:13.080 --> 0:13:15.160 dating for three weeks demands that you do. 0:13:15.400 --> 0:13:19.040 So that's a massive red flag early relationship, right, No, 0:13:19.120 --> 0:13:22.679 it's control. It Actually to me, I agree with you, Britt. 0:13:22.679 --> 0:13:25.360 That screams like massive red flag about someone who is 0:13:25.360 --> 0:13:26.520 controlling in a relationship. 0:13:26.520 --> 0:13:26.920 Definitely. 0:13:26.920 --> 0:13:28.680 But but I would never dream of doing that in 0:13:28.720 --> 0:13:30.800 a relationship now. But as a younger, I would have 0:13:30.800 --> 0:13:33.240 gone off, my insecurities would have been strife. But now 0:13:33.240 --> 0:13:34.839 as an adult, well, I. 0:13:34.800 --> 0:13:37.760 Think it's based off two things insecurity and control. They're 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:41.040 the only two reasons you are demanding your partner block someone. 0:13:41.120 --> 0:13:43.240 You are insecure and you feel like something's going on, 0:13:43.440 --> 0:13:46.760 or you want to control that person has in ls, especially. 0:13:46.320 --> 0:13:48.960 Without context, like it's different if you're like, hey, that 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:51.160 makes me feel uncomfortable. Can you block them? And they go, oh, 0:13:51.280 --> 0:13:52.800 that this is my friend. We've been friends for years. 0:13:52.840 --> 0:13:54.520 Let's go out for dinner. I want you to meet them, 0:13:54.800 --> 0:13:57.480 you know, and allows this whole idea of like no argument, 0:13:57.600 --> 0:14:00.920 no protest, No, he actually said that, go boom. 0:14:00.960 --> 0:14:06.040 One sentence. One sentence didn't explain it one sentence, no argument. 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:08.360 That's what your ideal partner should do. Mic drop like 0:14:08.360 --> 0:14:10.600 I'm gonna mic drop it on your face. Jack, I'm 0:14:10.600 --> 0:14:14.240 how mad you are because it screams control to me. 0:14:14.360 --> 0:14:15.040 That's what it is. 0:14:15.280 --> 0:14:18.439 And the idea that he's like, your ideal partner should 0:14:18.480 --> 0:14:20.720 do what you say. I don't need to explain myself. 0:14:20.720 --> 0:14:22.200 That's what he says. I don't need to explain it. 0:14:22.400 --> 0:14:24.880 She should put up an argument like for me, I'm sorry, 0:14:25.080 --> 0:14:26.960 I can't believe she married him, to be honest, right. 0:14:26.920 --> 0:14:28.880 Well, we did put out a call to get to 0:14:28.920 --> 0:14:30.720 hear if you've ever been in a situation where your 0:14:30.760 --> 0:14:33.200 partner has expected you to block someone, or maybe on 0:14:33.200 --> 0:14:36.520 the flip side, maybe you're the person who expects that 0:14:36.600 --> 0:14:38.560 your partner does the blocking on social media. 0:14:38.760 --> 0:14:41.280 Yeah, it's interesting little social experiment, George. Have you been 0:14:41.280 --> 0:14:41.920 in this situation? 0:14:42.080 --> 0:14:44.720 Hi, I was the one asked to do the blocking. 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:48.920 So it was years ago, was my early twenties. I 0:14:49.000 --> 0:14:53.120 was young and naive, and my toxic boyfriend came out 0:14:53.120 --> 0:14:55.240 of nowhere and said, Hey, this girl that you've never 0:14:55.280 --> 0:14:57.440 even heard of, could you just do me your favor 0:14:57.480 --> 0:15:00.840 and block her? And I won't like, oh then, but 0:15:01.040 --> 0:15:02.480 I knew I had to go up feeling. 0:15:03.320 --> 0:15:04.280 I mean, it's pretty obvious. 0:15:04.360 --> 0:15:07.360 Yeah, your ex is an idiot, Like I mean, he 0:15:07.400 --> 0:15:08.880 probably could have gotten away with it if he just 0:15:08.960 --> 0:15:11.000 stayed silent, but being like, hey, can you block this 0:15:11.080 --> 0:15:14.480 complete random person you've never heard of, never seen before, 0:15:14.520 --> 0:15:16.040 all that's going to do is ring alarm bells. 0:15:16.040 --> 0:15:17.600 So I mean we're reading between the lines. 0:15:17.680 --> 0:15:21.200 He cheated on you, right, he definitely was. 0:15:21.000 --> 0:15:24.040 It wasn't he, Gina, last one has happened to you? 0:15:24.160 --> 0:15:24.360 Yes? 0:15:24.360 --> 0:15:27.920 Hello, Hi, how are you going? It happened to me. 0:15:28.120 --> 0:15:28.520 Hello. 0:15:29.560 --> 0:15:34.680 I had my now husband his ex girlfriend popped up 0:15:35.480 --> 0:15:39.040 on our Instagram on his Instagram started liking photos and 0:15:39.040 --> 0:15:42.400 commenting when I was about six months pregnant at the time, 0:15:42.640 --> 0:15:47.320 and she treated him really poorly. But basically what happened 0:15:47.520 --> 0:15:51.520 was she started messaging him and then ended up setting 0:15:51.600 --> 0:15:53.680 him the equivalent of like a five page sort of 0:15:53.800 --> 0:15:58.560