WEBVTT - ‘That’s Triggering!’ Is Therapy-Speak Changing Our Relationships? 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.320 Life on Cut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose 0:00:03.440 --> 0:00:06.120 lands were never seated. We pay our respects to their 0:00:06.160 --> 0:00:07.560 elders past and present. 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:11.280 Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was 0:00:11.320 --> 0:00:14.320 recorded on Cameragle Land Daddy Vibe. 0:00:14.320 --> 0:00:16.960 We just text all the time. Get sure my dad 0:00:17.000 --> 0:00:17.759 text it all the time. 0:00:18.079 --> 0:00:20.439 It texts when I dropped Elilah to him and I'm like, 0:00:20.600 --> 0:00:21.160 did she get there? 0:00:21.200 --> 0:00:25.439 Okay? Sometimes on his birthday, Oh that's cute. Do you 0:00:25.480 --> 0:00:26.760 remember when we first started the podcast. 0:00:26.760 --> 0:00:28.520 I would always be like, fuck, your dad's hot, and 0:00:28.520 --> 0:00:31.480 you were like, you need to stop. 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:34.319 He does one hundred pull ups the morning at four 0:00:34.360 --> 0:00:48.559 thirty Din tell He's hi, guys, and welcome back to 0:00:48.560 --> 0:00:51.800 another episode of Life on Cut. I'm Laura, I'm Brittany. 0:00:52.000 --> 0:00:55.160 I'm giving the rock today. Anna Why. I looked at 0:00:55.200 --> 0:00:56.560 myself in the mirror when I got ready and I 0:00:56.560 --> 0:00:58.400 didn't have time to change, and I was like, wow, 0:00:58.600 --> 0:01:01.080 I look like the rock in that really famous photo. 0:01:01.280 --> 0:01:03.480 This is exactly that photo. And I actually had a 0:01:03.600 --> 0:01:06.280 chain around my turtleneck that I've got on. I had 0:01:06.280 --> 0:01:07.880 a chain and I was like, I can't do it. 0:01:07.920 --> 0:01:11.440 Does the rock wear Gucci crocs. You realized that the 0:01:11.520 --> 0:01:13.560 rock is the richest man in Hollywood. Yeah, he does. 0:01:13.600 --> 0:01:16.039 That's the photo where it's black. It's the one that 0:01:16.080 --> 0:01:18.720 everyone goes as Halloween. It's because of the belt and 0:01:18.760 --> 0:01:20.959 the color jeans with a turtleneck. That's why I was like, 0:01:21.000 --> 0:01:22.080 it's giving right, and you're. 0:01:22.000 --> 0:01:25.440 Bulging del toy now that you've said this, if you 0:01:25.680 --> 0:01:28.440 just put a bum bag on, thank you complete look. 0:01:28.360 --> 0:01:30.800 One hundred percent. And I was like, I probably have 0:01:30.840 --> 0:01:32.600 time to quickly put a different top on, but I 0:01:32.640 --> 0:01:34.920 was like just going to lean in. But hot rock, 0:01:35.440 --> 0:01:37.840 hot rock, hot rock. I'll take it. Yeah, thanks like hot, 0:01:37.880 --> 0:01:40.480 But I mean that's very what is it? Eighties? What 0:01:40.600 --> 0:01:43.760 one say? Yes, the rock from the eighties nineties. You 0:01:43.840 --> 0:01:44.320 look great. 0:01:44.840 --> 0:01:48.600 You look great today if you have been saying, which 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:50.680 I wanted to know, because this is what always happens, 0:01:50.720 --> 0:01:53.440 whenever something funny happens in our lives, we're like. 0:01:53.520 --> 0:01:55.320 I'll tell you on the podcast. 0:01:55.840 --> 0:01:58.160 Oh so I've been wanting to know what it is 0:01:58.200 --> 0:01:59.960 that you've been keeping secret from me. 0:02:00.480 --> 0:02:03.200 It's not a secret, but I just had this. It 0:02:03.280 --> 0:02:06.320 was funny. I had this realization and had to chuckle 0:02:06.320 --> 0:02:07.920 to myself out loud, and I wanted to tell you 0:02:07.960 --> 0:02:10.000 guys straight away because it involves you a little bit. 0:02:10.480 --> 0:02:12.440 But then I was not enough save it for the pod. No, 0:02:12.560 --> 0:02:16.040 so Ben and I in the last little week sent 0:02:16.200 --> 0:02:19.480 out like save the date kind of wedding invites. Yeah, 0:02:19.680 --> 0:02:22.560 got it, thank you for that. So just to double down, 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:25.400 yeah you haven't responded, I did RSVP straight away. 0:02:25.680 --> 0:02:28.160 I was probably the first person to RSVP with Matt 0:02:28.360 --> 0:02:32.239 RSVP two to all events, all three. I RSVP to 0:02:32.280 --> 0:02:35.079 the Brittany and Ben spectacular. Okay, every single one. 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:38.840 Okay, it's a couple of days, DOMPI dramatic to the 0:02:38.960 --> 0:02:41.880 five day fucking affair. I met every single thing. It's 0:02:41.919 --> 0:02:44.160 one month, it's twenty eight events. You want me at 0:02:44.160 --> 0:02:46.320 the breakfast, the brunch, and the dinner. I am their girlfriend. 0:02:47.800 --> 0:02:52.560 I haven't even given you all of it yet. So half, 0:02:52.639 --> 0:02:55.720 for anyone that's new, half of our wedding is foreign 0:02:56.200 --> 0:02:58.560 and half is Australian. So Ben is Swiss, but he's 0:02:58.560 --> 0:03:00.359 also lived a lot of the time over in UK 0:03:00.520 --> 0:03:03.120 and in Germany and wherever else, so a lot of 0:03:03.160 --> 0:03:05.760 his people are coming from that kind of part of 0:03:05.800 --> 0:03:06.120 the world. 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:08.320 When you said half of the wedding is you made 0:03:08.320 --> 0:03:10.280 it sound like it's a traveling circus. 0:03:10.320 --> 0:03:12.040 We're going to do half of it in Australia that 0:03:12.080 --> 0:03:16.000 we're going to take it. It's a well tool we 0:03:16.320 --> 0:03:18.760 could be. It's going to be a wonderful wedding. But yeah, 0:03:18.800 --> 0:03:21.440 so half all of his side, none of them Australian 0:03:21.560 --> 0:03:24.680 on his side except me. So we send the invites 0:03:24.680 --> 0:03:27.280 out and Ben's like, Babe, I've been getting into like 0:03:27.320 --> 0:03:33.200 these random messages about the wedding, just like yesterday, one 0:03:33.200 --> 0:03:35.840 of my friends messaged me and went dress code question mark, 0:03:36.720 --> 0:03:39.040 and so Ben wrote back and was like, oh yeah, sorry, 0:03:39.040 --> 0:03:41.440 brite set the dress code and he was like okay. 0:03:41.600 --> 0:03:43.680 He's like, but what is it done? No, because we 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:46.640 put the dress code on there, done nothing. A day later, 0:03:46.760 --> 0:03:48.880 one of his other friends gets a message they made 0:03:48.920 --> 0:03:50.760 the missus wants to ask about the dress code question 0:03:51.000 --> 0:03:53.000 mark question mark. A couple of days go past, and 0:03:53.040 --> 0:03:54.680 I haven't heard about it yet. I don't hear about 0:03:54.680 --> 0:03:57.280 them individually. But after he got a couple he's like, 0:03:57.360 --> 0:04:00.960 it's so weird people keep asking me about the dress 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:02.240 code and I'm like, that is weird. I was like, 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:05.400 because our dress code is not like, it's pretty standard. 0:04:05.800 --> 0:04:08.760 This happens four or five times, and then one of 0:04:08.760 --> 0:04:11.520 his female friends messages, hey, I just wanted to follow 0:04:11.600 --> 0:04:13.640 up about the dress code and he's like, yes, what 0:04:13.840 --> 0:04:16.000 is the problem? They write the dress code. I think 0:04:16.040 --> 0:04:18.920 it's okay, and she was like, well, how strict is it? 0:04:20.000 --> 0:04:22.120 And he was like, well, pretty strict. I guess that's 0:04:22.120 --> 0:04:24.880 what she's decided she wants. And she's like, well, what 0:04:24.960 --> 0:04:28.160 if it doesn't go with my dress? And he's like, 0:04:28.920 --> 0:04:31.440 I'm sure, whatever's going to go. He's like he was like, oh, 0:04:31.560 --> 0:04:33.839 so confused. He's like, I'm sure it's going to be fine, 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:35.719 and she goes, well, I just think it's a bit extreme, 0:04:36.520 --> 0:04:38.480 and he was like, I don't understand what the problem is. 0:04:38.520 --> 0:04:40.599 He's like, I'm sorry, the dress code is not extreme, 0:04:40.720 --> 0:04:42.320 and I think that you'll figure it out. And this 0:04:42.360 --> 0:04:44.400 goes back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. 0:04:44.680 --> 0:04:47.200 I'm not involved at right. He sends me this conversation 0:04:47.360 --> 0:04:49.720 and then she goes, well, I don't understand how she's 0:04:49.760 --> 0:04:52.480 going to know if I if I wear it, and 0:04:52.520 --> 0:04:54.800 he's like, she's gonna know, she's going to see it, 0:04:54.800 --> 0:04:56.640 and she's like, well, that's a bit perverted. And he's like, 0:04:56.680 --> 0:04:59.520 I don't understand, and she's like, who in their right 0:04:59.600 --> 0:05:09.919 mind would make us wear and enforce no songs? And 0:05:09.960 --> 0:05:11.960 then Ben was like, Ben was like, they're going to 0:05:12.000 --> 0:05:15.279 be on your feet, she'll see them. And she went 0:05:15.320 --> 0:05:18.240 hang on feet and he was like, yeah, your feet 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:20.159 and she was like, but a thong is a g 0:05:20.279 --> 0:05:22.120 string and he was like, oh my god, there is 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:26.000 a language barrier here. So Ben calls me and he goes, Babe, 0:05:26.400 --> 0:05:28.160 half of the wedding things you've said they're not allowed 0:05:28.160 --> 0:05:32.520 to wear g strings, strict enforcement briefs or nothing, bridge 0:05:32.680 --> 0:05:35.320 joneses or nothing. And it makes so much sense why 0:05:35.320 --> 0:05:37.680 so many people were messaging and being like dress cone 0:05:37.720 --> 0:05:40.599 qush mark. Do you remember when it was our wedding? 0:05:40.640 --> 0:05:42.160 So like when Matt and I got married, we made 0:05:42.160 --> 0:05:44.640 one of those like I don't know, like the is 0:05:44.680 --> 0:05:46.080 a WEBSHD or a web whatever. 0:05:46.160 --> 0:05:47.800 It's like you go online and you fill it all 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:48.560 out online. 0:05:48.680 --> 0:05:51.120 Yeah, and you put all of the information for the 0:05:51.160 --> 0:05:53.640 wedding on like a little website, right that idea. Yeah, 0:05:53.680 --> 0:05:55.360 it's the same type of thing, and so that's where 0:05:55.360 --> 0:05:57.640 you put your your dress code and everything. 0:05:57.400 --> 0:06:00.800 Yeah, except Britta and I never got it y good things. 0:06:00.800 --> 0:06:04.440 So we made this website and I didn't realize that, 0:06:04.480 --> 0:06:06.920 like because I mean it was pre COVID, and like, 0:06:06.960 --> 0:06:09.680 we're pretty fucking unorganized. And I asked Matt to fill 0:06:09.680 --> 0:06:11.520 out half of it, and I feeled out half of it. 0:06:12.000 --> 0:06:14.159 Part of his thing to fill out was the dress code, 0:06:14.480 --> 0:06:16.880 and he had just like, because you have to populate 0:06:16.920 --> 0:06:18.880 before you can move on to the next page. So 0:06:18.920 --> 0:06:22.040 he populated some things without it being serious, just so 0:06:22.080 --> 0:06:23.719 that we could flick through to the next page to 0:06:23.720 --> 0:06:26.239 put all the important information in. And he had every 0:06:26.240 --> 0:06:29.000 intention to go back and fix those things. 0:06:28.680 --> 0:06:29.520 Like a placeholder. 0:06:29.640 --> 0:06:32.400 Yeah yeah, except he didn't go back and didn't fix 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:35.800 those things. And so we sent out wedding invitation with 0:06:35.920 --> 0:06:38.920 the dress code dress sexy, and that went out. 0:06:39.360 --> 0:06:44.160 Okay, mind dress sexy, that's okay. Ben's nana got no. 0:06:44.240 --> 0:06:55.000 G strings one of those mirrored aisles. Also, at what age, 0:06:55.080 --> 0:06:58.160 what age you record you stop wearing a G string? Like, 0:06:58.160 --> 0:07:00.560 because it would I can't imagine I mean, bless her, 0:07:00.760 --> 0:07:03.120 she's gone now, but I couldn't imagine Nana wearing a 0:07:03.160 --> 0:07:03.640 G string. 0:07:03.760 --> 0:07:06.479 I can't imagine mine Nana wearing a G string. When 0:07:06.520 --> 0:07:08.440 do you give up? When do you say not for 0:07:08.520 --> 0:07:11.480 me anymore? I want to be hugged forever. I don't 0:07:11.480 --> 0:07:13.000 think it's your ass, to be honest, I think it's 0:07:13.040 --> 0:07:16.000 your lips, like it's on the fallen outside. I think 0:07:16.000 --> 0:07:18.600 when it gets a bit like more relaxed down there, 0:07:18.640 --> 0:07:20.920 I want to say relaxed over looser, but like gravity, 0:07:20.960 --> 0:07:23.760 when it ages, gravity takes over. I imagine that would be 0:07:23.840 --> 0:07:25.040 super uncomfortable. 0:07:25.120 --> 0:07:26.760 You know when you said that, the only thing I 0:07:26.800 --> 0:07:28.960 thought straight away was, oh, someone's going to be angry 0:07:28.960 --> 0:07:30.760 at you because you said lips are not lady. 0:07:31.040 --> 0:07:33.640 Someone's going to be so mad that you didn't say vulva. Yeah, 0:07:33.640 --> 0:07:35.280 but then when we say labia, we get in trouble too. 0:07:35.360 --> 0:07:37.520 Stop talking abou Laura's leaby being cut off. Sorry if 0:07:37.560 --> 0:07:40.760 she wants to cut off. But I had to go 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:44.720 back onto the website, and then I updated the wedding invitation, 0:07:44.880 --> 0:07:46.800 so I kept it all the same. It still says 0:07:46.840 --> 0:07:48.760 like no thongs, but then I had to write in 0:07:48.800 --> 0:07:52.440 brackets for all your Europeans thongs means flip flops. You can, 0:07:52.520 --> 0:07:54.080 in fact still wear a G string. That's what I 0:07:54.120 --> 0:07:56.520 wrote that I sent that out, So now now that's 0:07:56.560 --> 0:07:58.640 gone to Ben's nan. So now Ben's nan, I have 0:07:58.680 --> 0:08:03.160 confirmed that if she wants to she can wear No. Actually, 0:08:03.240 --> 0:08:07.080 Ben Nantan has passedway, but he has other people she 0:08:07.440 --> 0:08:09.320 dressing peace. She can wear whatever you want. I know. 0:08:09.320 --> 0:08:11.120 I felt bad making the joke about his nan, and 0:08:11.120 --> 0:08:13.000 then I was like, she's not here anymore. But yeah, 0:08:13.000 --> 0:08:14.680 so it went out to a lot of people. It 0:08:14.720 --> 0:08:18.720 shouldn't have gone out to pleasant b How was your weekend? Okay, 0:08:18.920 --> 0:08:21.320 so my weekend. My weekend was great. 0:08:21.560 --> 0:08:24.200 It was very long because it was like, well, it 0:08:24.200 --> 0:08:25.720 wasn't really the long weekend. But we went down to 0:08:25.760 --> 0:08:28.880 Aladalla on Thursday and had four nights down south. And 0:08:28.920 --> 0:08:31.640 so if you guys are not following, or if you 0:08:31.680 --> 0:08:33.560 don't follow social media, you might not know this, but 0:08:33.640 --> 0:08:35.599 Matt and I we are renovating a house down in 0:08:35.640 --> 0:08:38.679 Ala Dollar. It's about three hours drive from Sydney. So 0:08:39.440 --> 0:08:42.640 we went down there on the weekend. And if you 0:08:42.800 --> 0:08:45.880 listened to last week's episode, it's kind of like beautiful 0:08:45.920 --> 0:08:49.800 synchronicity that happened. So last week on Tuesday, EP I 0:08:49.880 --> 0:08:51.959 was talking about how Matt and the kids and I 0:08:52.040 --> 0:08:54.760 had all been to this reptile park and how I 0:08:54.800 --> 0:08:56.400 am sick for the reptiles. 0:08:56.720 --> 0:09:02.000 Yeah, you do love a reptile. A great reptile park. 0:09:02.040 --> 0:09:04.920 I should go there one day, but never as a 0:09:05.000 --> 0:09:07.840 non parent did I get myself there. But on the 0:09:07.840 --> 0:09:10.440 weekend I went with Matt. I went with the kids, 0:09:10.600 --> 0:09:13.760 and it was like dreams come true. I had so 0:09:13.920 --> 0:09:18.360 much fun. I love reptiles. So the reptiles heard. They 0:09:18.480 --> 0:09:21.160 listened to Life Uncut, and they got the memo, the 0:09:21.200 --> 0:09:21.920 four one one. 0:09:22.000 --> 0:09:26.040 They know that I love the snakes and leave a review. Yeah, 0:09:26.240 --> 0:09:27.599 because otherwise I don't want to know about it. 0:09:28.920 --> 0:09:34.120 Posts here from the reptile parks. Okay, well you fucking. 0:09:33.840 --> 0:09:38.280 Know what happened. Don't pretend like your shop Brittany, what happened? 0:09:38.720 --> 0:09:39.600 Trying to move it along. 0:09:44.360 --> 0:09:47.120 So we go down to the house on Saturday and 0:09:47.160 --> 0:09:49.320 we were cleaning up the gardens and about halfway through 0:09:49.360 --> 0:09:51.440 the day, as we were walking down the side of 0:09:51.440 --> 0:09:55.599 the house, this massive python and I'm talking like almost. 0:09:55.200 --> 0:09:58.200 Two meters python is slithering up the fence line and 0:09:58.240 --> 0:10:01.599 Matt was still inside. It wasn't Matt's python. 0:10:01.840 --> 0:10:04.240 So it was slithering up like between the border between 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:06.920 our property and the neighbors, and the neighbors had come 0:10:06.920 --> 0:10:08.120 out to look at it as well, and they were 0:10:08.120 --> 0:10:10.120 all making jokes like, oh, whose house is it gonna 0:10:10.160 --> 0:10:10.640 go into? 0:10:11.080 --> 0:10:14.520 Not really like yours, motherfucker. Yeah, not a funny joke. 0:10:14.679 --> 0:10:17.040 Anyway, it went into the bushes, and because we'd cut 0:10:17.080 --> 0:10:19.679 down a couple of like dead trees, and so I 0:10:20.040 --> 0:10:23.079 for a minute thought maybe we had cut down its home, 0:10:23.120 --> 0:10:24.720 like we'd cut down where it had been living. And 0:10:24.760 --> 0:10:27.000 so it was feeling a bit displaced because it was 0:10:27.040 --> 0:10:27.640 quite cute. 0:10:28.080 --> 0:10:30.640 Nah, not cute. It was like twenty meters long. 0:10:30.720 --> 0:10:34.280 It wasn't cute. It could eat you. No, it's not 0:10:34.280 --> 0:10:37.360 a bowl constrictor. It was a diamond python hot. And 0:10:37.400 --> 0:10:39.480 so it was in the bushes and it was like 0:10:39.559 --> 0:10:41.960 hanging down and we were cleaning up. We were watching 0:10:42.000 --> 0:10:43.800 it for half the day, and I kept saying to Matt, 0:10:43.920 --> 0:10:45.520 do you think we should get a snake catcher out? 0:10:45.800 --> 0:10:47.160 Do you think we should get a snake ketch? And 0:10:47.200 --> 0:10:48.800 he's like, nah, it's fine, like it's in the bush, 0:10:48.920 --> 0:10:51.960 let it go. Anyway, we'd stopped paying attention to the 0:10:51.960 --> 0:10:53.800 snake for a while, and we were still cleaning up 0:10:53.800 --> 0:10:56.560 this back area and I look up and as I 0:10:56.640 --> 0:11:01.200 look up into the tree, the fucking snake has climbed up. 0:11:01.280 --> 0:11:04.080 And there's this one bit where the tree is like 0:11:04.240 --> 0:11:06.480 a little bit close to the roof of the house, 0:11:06.840 --> 0:11:10.520 and it is just long, skinny neck is reaching out 0:11:10.559 --> 0:11:12.760 from the tree and it's trying to get towards the 0:11:12.800 --> 0:11:14.079 hot tiles of the roof. 0:11:14.440 --> 0:11:16.000 And before we could stop it, I went and I 0:11:16.040 --> 0:11:17.520 got the broom, and I was trying to know, what 0:11:17.520 --> 0:11:18.200 were you going to do? 0:11:18.400 --> 0:11:20.400 Well, I was trying to broom it out of the roof, 0:11:20.480 --> 0:11:22.480 so I had the broom handle, and I was trying 0:11:22.520 --> 0:11:23.800 to gently because I don't want hurt it, because I 0:11:23.840 --> 0:11:25.720 love snakes. So I was like trying to like get 0:11:25.720 --> 0:11:28.720 it out of the roof anyway. I like, I knocked 0:11:28.720 --> 0:11:31.000 it once and then it didn't like that, and so 0:11:31.040 --> 0:11:33.600 then it just went a bit faster, and all of 0:11:33.640 --> 0:11:36.800 a sudden, this big ass, which it had just eaten 0:11:36.800 --> 0:11:39.400 because I had a big, fat belly, had crawled into 0:11:39.600 --> 0:11:42.120 the roof of our house. So at that point I 0:11:42.200 --> 0:11:44.200 was like, cool, Matt, I think we should probably call 0:11:44.320 --> 0:11:45.040 the snake catcher. 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:47.520 Now, I think we should probably burn down the house. 0:11:48.320 --> 0:11:49.400 We don't move. 0:11:50.440 --> 0:11:54.440 I'm thinking about the fact that you have a small cat. Yeah, yeah, 0:11:54.480 --> 0:11:56.760 it's not good for Raspberry. Hey, you haven't seen Raspberry 0:11:56.760 --> 0:12:00.920 a few days. Not thinking of the cat. Also no 0:12:00.960 --> 0:12:02.720 good if we have a newborn either, that's not funny. 0:12:03.320 --> 0:12:04.200 You'd better not do it. 0:12:05.240 --> 0:12:08.680 So I get this number for a local snake catcher, right, 0:12:08.760 --> 0:12:09.559 So I call. 0:12:09.440 --> 0:12:12.960 Him Marp and he hello, my darling, Hello me dear. 0:12:13.600 --> 0:12:16.520 I was like, so irish, I do know. Is this 0:12:16.559 --> 0:12:19.160 man real? You're watching Lord of the Roof. He's real? 0:12:19.880 --> 0:12:21.520 And I was like, look, we've got a snake in 0:12:21.520 --> 0:12:23.640 the roof. Can you come out and help me? And 0:12:23.679 --> 0:12:25.440 he was like what would you like me to do 0:12:25.520 --> 0:12:26.840 about it? And I was like, get it the fuck 0:12:26.840 --> 0:12:29.320 out of my roof fleets. He goes, okay, send me 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:31.480 a video. So I send him a video of the 0:12:31.520 --> 0:12:34.200 snake and he calls me right back and he goes, ah, 0:12:34.320 --> 0:12:35.480 a diamond python. 0:12:35.800 --> 0:12:39.480 It's beautiful. Now. Explain to me, darling, why do you 0:12:39.520 --> 0:12:41.079 want to get it out of the roof. 0:12:41.440 --> 0:12:43.400 And I was like, because I think it's living there, 0:12:43.480 --> 0:12:46.280 and he goes, yes, you are right, it has been. 0:12:46.520 --> 0:12:49.160 It's its home. I would even bet it's been there 0:12:49.200 --> 0:12:52.440 for many years. You probably have lots of snakes in 0:12:52.480 --> 0:12:55.600 your roof because they like to live together. And I 0:12:55.640 --> 0:12:57.480 was like, I think you need to understand that this 0:12:57.559 --> 0:13:00.840 is horrifying for me, and we are kind of vibing 0:13:00.880 --> 0:13:03.280 on a different frequency right now. I said, oh, look, 0:13:03.440 --> 0:13:05.480 I don't think it's gonna come out anytime soon because 0:13:05.480 --> 0:13:11.000 I think it's just eaten, and he can and goes, no, 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:14.880 my dear, I don't think it's eaten. I think it's pregnant. 0:13:15.000 --> 0:13:17.679 And is it splendid? 0:13:18.520 --> 0:13:21.640 I was like, you're far because have you seen a 0:13:21.679 --> 0:13:25.200 snake give birth? It doesn't have one fifteen to twenty eggs? 0:13:25.880 --> 0:13:28.000 And then some the size of that python, I reckon 0:13:28.040 --> 0:13:30.920 she's having fifty. Are you're gonna have fifty? From my 0:13:31.000 --> 0:13:32.520 python experience. 0:13:32.640 --> 0:13:35.040 Print me the button tamer that was from a different 0:13:35.080 --> 0:13:38.679 phase of life though, and it wasn't a python, I. 0:13:38.800 --> 0:13:43.640 Reckon, it's gonna have like fifty baby pythons. Imagine if 0:13:43.679 --> 0:13:46.120 you have fifty of those big giant things. 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:48.679 In your Yes, I know that is exactly how I felt, 0:13:48.840 --> 0:13:51.160 and so pretty much told me he couldn't help me 0:13:51.200 --> 0:13:54.520 because he couldn't access the python through the manhole of 0:13:54.559 --> 0:13:57.240 the roof, and so the python is just there. He's 0:13:57.360 --> 0:14:00.160 just living in the roof, chilling. To be clear, be 0:14:00.200 --> 0:14:02.320 in a python. I don't think they actually I know, 0:14:02.360 --> 0:14:04.400 we're like laughing. I don't think they actually do much. 0:14:04.440 --> 0:14:06.280 I think they're actually really good in terms of they 0:14:06.320 --> 0:14:06.880 eat the rat. 0:14:07.040 --> 0:14:09.040 This is what he said, Like, just think about it. 0:14:09.120 --> 0:14:14.480 You'll never have any vermin or mice. How wonderful. So yeah, 0:14:14.520 --> 0:14:16.520 it's not good for Raspberry. But we do have a 0:14:16.520 --> 0:14:19.200 massive python and it is living in the house. 0:14:19.120 --> 0:14:21.560 So I'm not I'm never coming. 0:14:22.680 --> 0:14:24.840 We did have like really cool plans for long weekends 0:14:24.840 --> 0:14:26.320 down there, but it's just not gonna happen. 0:14:26.360 --> 0:14:28.320 Now where does he get out of? Is there an 0:14:28.360 --> 0:14:29.800 obvious hole gutter? 0:14:30.480 --> 0:14:30.760 Well? 0:14:30.880 --> 0:14:33.320 No, at the moment, the house is in all states 0:14:33.320 --> 0:14:35.440 of deconstructed, so there's many holes. 0:14:35.520 --> 0:14:38.360 Do the people who were doing the construction, no, because 0:14:38.360 --> 0:14:39.880 they're about to get a real jump scare. 0:14:39.960 --> 0:14:40.880 Yeah, that was the problem. 0:14:40.920 --> 0:14:43.800 So we called our builder, who is an absolute legend, 0:14:43.920 --> 0:14:46.160 like this dude who's got four kids. He was like, 0:14:46.360 --> 0:14:48.240 his name's Tom, and we called him and I was like, hey, 0:14:48.240 --> 0:14:50.680 this is not not good times and he rocks up 0:14:50.680 --> 0:14:53.000 in his truck with his four children and his wife 0:14:53.040 --> 0:14:54.480 to look at it, to come and try and get 0:14:54.480 --> 0:14:55.880 out of the roof because he was worried about his 0:14:55.920 --> 0:14:59.400 workers and the reptile part. And they thought, this is 0:14:59.440 --> 0:15:03.200 actually it's a free reptor for free reptile party. 0:15:04.720 --> 0:15:06.920 Now you guys know, or you might not know, but 0:15:07.000 --> 0:15:10.760 you will. Now I am a sucker for love is blind. 0:15:10.920 --> 0:15:13.080 So love is blind. If you haven't seen it, it's 0:15:13.200 --> 0:15:17.000 like a very modern dating show where there's a bunch 0:15:17.000 --> 0:15:19.120 of men and a bunch of women and they go 0:15:19.160 --> 0:15:22.920 into these pods that are separated pods. It's just a room, right, 0:15:22.920 --> 0:15:25.760 but they go into these pods that's separated by these walls. 0:15:25.840 --> 0:15:28.160 The men are on one side, the women on the other. 0:15:28.760 --> 0:15:31.440 You go one woman per room, one man per room, 0:15:31.480 --> 0:15:33.640 and you talk to each other and you get to 0:15:33.640 --> 0:15:35.160 know each other and you write things down. You can 0:15:35.240 --> 0:15:37.720 send gifts through the room and stuff, but you never 0:15:38.280 --> 0:15:39.240 get to see each other. 0:15:39.760 --> 0:15:42.000 One might think that it's based on the premise that 0:15:42.160 --> 0:15:44.320 someone's personality is more important than. 0:15:44.280 --> 0:15:46.480 The way they look. It's exactly what it is. The 0:15:46.520 --> 0:15:49.520 whole idea is is love really blind? That's the question 0:15:49.560 --> 0:15:52.080 they pose the antidote to online dating. Maybe yes, so 0:15:52.120 --> 0:15:55.920 they it's like speed dating without seeing the other person. 0:15:56.000 --> 0:15:58.120 So all the people move between the pods. You get 0:15:58.120 --> 0:15:59.680 to speak to whoever you want, and then you form 0:15:59.680 --> 0:16:02.000 these Then you decide if there's like maybe one or 0:16:02.040 --> 0:16:05.080 two people that you want to pursue. Then at the 0:16:05.320 --> 0:16:09.320 end you have to have chosen your person blind blindly. 0:16:09.400 --> 0:16:12.160 Still then you get to meet. But the idea is 0:16:12.200 --> 0:16:15.040 you propose you're getting married. You are getting married without 0:16:15.120 --> 0:16:18.960 having seen each other. Then you go on a honeymoon 0:16:19.000 --> 0:16:21.880 that everyone goes, and that's where sometimes the drama starts 0:16:21.920 --> 0:16:25.640 to happen, because maybe one person might have had a 0:16:25.640 --> 0:16:28.960 connection with someone else but chose the other person, but 0:16:29.000 --> 0:16:30.960 then when they see them, they're more physically attracted to 0:16:31.000 --> 0:16:32.600 the other person. Then it's like do they leave, do 0:16:32.680 --> 0:16:36.200 they swap partners? Do they commit? It gets spicy. The 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:37.920 reason I wanted to talk about this is there's one 0:16:37.960 --> 0:16:41.600 particular scene that happened episode two at the very start 0:16:41.760 --> 0:16:45.880 between two people, Steven and Monica, that sort of stopped 0:16:45.920 --> 0:16:48.040 me in my tracks a little bit, and I had 0:16:48.080 --> 0:16:51.040 to rewind it and say, did I just hear that correctly? 0:16:51.400 --> 0:16:54.760 So this happened in episode two season seven straight. At 0:16:54.800 --> 0:16:57.760 the start of episode two, Steven and Monica they have 0:16:57.880 --> 0:17:01.840 a conversation that really got me thinking about therapy tool 0:17:02.080 --> 0:17:05.200 and people using therapy tool to manipulate situations. 0:17:05.480 --> 0:17:09.800 Here's what I believe. You like someone for their qualities, 0:17:10.280 --> 0:17:12.400 but you love someone for their flaws. 0:17:12.680 --> 0:17:16.560 I've always been drawn to flaws. 0:17:17.600 --> 0:17:19.320 I've in the same way. 0:17:19.400 --> 0:17:20.000 Yeah. 0:17:20.119 --> 0:17:23.720 Actually my most recent relationship, since you know, we're already 0:17:23.760 --> 0:17:26.439 getting into this, Yeah, I will divulge something that I 0:17:26.480 --> 0:17:29.720 am not very proud of at all, but I wear 0:17:29.760 --> 0:17:32.439 this brand and I think it's very important to be 0:17:32.560 --> 0:17:33.280 honest about it. 0:17:33.600 --> 0:17:34.119 Yeah. 0:17:35.119 --> 0:17:39.199 So we're we're going to talk about cheating. Yeah, I 0:17:39.480 --> 0:17:42.520 technically hold the title of being a cheater. I've been 0:17:42.560 --> 0:17:46.760 cheated on multiple times as well. I believed that this 0:17:46.840 --> 0:17:49.159 person that I was dating at the time, I believed 0:17:49.200 --> 0:17:53.399 I didn't deserve her. Everyone has a different concept of cheating. 0:17:53.760 --> 0:17:57.439 One person's could be you know, looking at someone you know. 0:17:57.520 --> 0:18:01.840 Someone else's could be an actual physical act. I basically 0:18:02.240 --> 0:18:05.359 slid into a girl's DMS like a dumb ass, and 0:18:05.520 --> 0:18:09.359 we were sting with intention. You're emotionally cheating at that 0:18:09.400 --> 0:18:12.639 point I got caught, which I knew I would. I 0:18:12.760 --> 0:18:15.720