WEBVTT - Ask Uncut - A Posh Wank Or Is He Cheating?

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<v Speaker 1>Life on Cut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose

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<v Speaker 1>lands were never seated. We pay our respects to their

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<v Speaker 1>elders past and present.

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<v Speaker 2>Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land.

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<v Speaker 3>This episode was recorded on Cameragle Land.

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<v Speaker 4>Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life

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<v Speaker 4>on Cut.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm Brittany and I'm Keisha, and producer Keish is feeling

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<v Speaker 5>for Laura today.

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<v Speaker 3>We know Laura's been going through a lot of personal

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<v Speaker 3>stuff the last couple of months, so she is having

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<v Speaker 3>a few days with herself and her family. But we

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<v Speaker 3>love having you, Keish, So welcome to therapy Thursday.

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<v Speaker 5>Ask Uncut, where we unpack your deep, dark, dirty, and burning.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't even know what the tag you think new questions, Yeah, dilemmas.

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<v Speaker 5>We should we get a literation deep dark, dirty dilemmas.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean we're five years deep and we haven't done that,

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<v Speaker 1>but we can update it us.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you. I would appreciate.

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<v Speaker 3>Hey, Okay, you just did something that rocks to me,

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<v Speaker 3>shocked me to my core.

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<v Speaker 1>You sat down and we're about to record. You were

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<v Speaker 1>chewing chewing gum and I was like, keeh, you can't

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<v Speaker 1>chew chewing gum on the record. No one wants to

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<v Speaker 1>hear that for an hour, and you were like, no worries.

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<v Speaker 3>And swallowed it. I'm like, what kind of a sociopowse

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<v Speaker 3>swallows chewing gum.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not my choice. You made a choice to do.

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<v Speaker 5>No, you actually made the choice you had. You had

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<v Speaker 5>a choice to spit it out or swallow it. It's fair, yes,

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<v Speaker 5>the whole if you swallow it stays in your guart

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<v Speaker 5>for seven years.

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<v Speaker 2>Not true.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know who started the rumor. I don't know

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<v Speaker 5>why it took off so much.

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<v Speaker 3>It's one of those myths that hes around as like

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<v Speaker 3>at school.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I can't imagine it being good for you.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm not recommending, but prior to the recording, I had

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<v Speaker 5>done a couple of things that just took up a

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<v Speaker 5>bit of extra time, and I was like.

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<v Speaker 2>We just need to we need to get started. We

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<v Speaker 2>got lots to do today.

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<v Speaker 3>What things did you do that took up time? Keisha,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to talk about it.

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<v Speaker 1>You had to go find an empty toilet block so

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<v Speaker 1>you could do a poop because you tried to do

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<v Speaker 1>one poop, you got poop anxiety. Poop anxiety because someone

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<v Speaker 1>was in a cubicle next year, so she had to

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<v Speaker 1>go out of the building to like another level. She

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<v Speaker 1>had to take a swine card go up three levels

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<v Speaker 1>till she found it him to cubicle so she could

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<v Speaker 1>take a dump.

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<v Speaker 3>Just do it.

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<v Speaker 5>The amount of poop talk on the podcast makes me uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 3>It's crazy how much poop anxiety you and Laura get.

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<v Speaker 2>We get it very differently, though.

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<v Speaker 5>She would have had no problem with the fact that

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<v Speaker 5>someone else is in the cubicle next to us, but

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<v Speaker 5>they're like, over my dead body. Would I comfortably sit

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<v Speaker 5>next to someone who I don't know who it is?

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know if I'd be more comfortable with an

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<v Speaker 5>anonymous person or with a friend. What if it was me,

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I couldn't.

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<v Speaker 5>I'd feel more comfortable with you than most other people.

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<v Speaker 1>But Laura's made me leave the bathroom before. She's like

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<v Speaker 1>quick is brah, And then I'm like washing my hands,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, okay, you know, I just it's a step in

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<v Speaker 2>the right direction.

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<v Speaker 5>Because I used to be the type of person when

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<v Speaker 5>I would first start dating a boy, I could hold

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<v Speaker 5>it for three days.

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<v Speaker 2>Woo.

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<v Speaker 1>That is equally on par with swallowing you chewing gum

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<v Speaker 1>for how unhealthy that is for you.

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<v Speaker 2>He just wasn't comfortable, Like it just wasn't comfortable.

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<v Speaker 5>They would have to not be in the house, and

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<v Speaker 5>even then I'd be like, that was still no.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know one time you've just made me remember this.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't even gonna say this. I remember when I

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<v Speaker 1>first started dating my ex. It's like I've Baltimore, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I can't use his name, Jordan, he must not be named. No,

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<v Speaker 1>he's great whatever when we first started dating.

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<v Speaker 2>No, he's great. Everything's fine, I have we have really

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<v Speaker 2>good marriages. It's great.

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<v Speaker 3>X send in love.

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<v Speaker 1>I was living right across from the beach, but I

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<v Speaker 1>lived in a tiny, like one bedroom apartment with a

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<v Speaker 1>tiny kitchen. Keisha lived there for a while, so she knows.

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<v Speaker 1>It had one bathroom, one bedroom.

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<v Speaker 2>And the bathroom was right next to the bedroom, same.

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<v Speaker 3>Thin acoustics thing.

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<v Speaker 1>And the house was so small that if you did

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<v Speaker 1>do something that may have smells, it would have stung

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<v Speaker 1>the house out.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember, I was like he was just living at

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<v Speaker 1>my house, like we were inseparable.

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<v Speaker 3>Great, but I was like, oh my god, I need

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<v Speaker 3>to go so bad. What am I going to do?

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<v Speaker 1>So I pretend I was like, I'm gonna go pick

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<v Speaker 1>up something to eat from the shops, and he was.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, oh come.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, dah, you just chill, I'll go anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>I literally ran across the road to a public toilet.

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<v Speaker 5>I went to find a public toilet rather than at

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<v Speaker 5>the start and use my own bathroom.

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<v Speaker 3>That is how much anxiety I had at the start.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's the most relatable thing I've ever heard

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<v Speaker 2>in my life.

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<v Speaker 5>It takes a long time to be comfortable. I'll never

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<v Speaker 5>be comfortable with door open situation, like never ever, That's

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<v Speaker 5>not for me. But I feel like it's a step

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<v Speaker 5>in the right direction that I'm now. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 5>don't know if it's that I'm able to go at work.

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<v Speaker 5>So anyway, Yeah, I chose to go to the well.

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<v Speaker 3>Back to the chewing gum. It is a myth that

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<v Speaker 3>it stands in your stomach for seven years, but it's

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<v Speaker 3>not a myth that it's actually really bad for you.

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<v Speaker 3>So it doesn't ever break down. It will not break down.

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<v Speaker 2>It stays in there like corn straight through.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, it doesn't go straight through, but it does move

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<v Speaker 1>very slowly through and then it does just get excreted.

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<v Speaker 3>But in children, I don't know why I'm going so

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<v Speaker 3>indepth into this, but in children it has been known

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<v Speaker 3>to like block their bowl passage and it can be

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<v Speaker 3>like really severe.

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<v Speaker 5>So I think the myth starts so that kids don't

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<v Speaker 5>do it. Anyway, Probably good, let's move on.

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<v Speaker 3>That's people come here for the education.

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<v Speaker 2>Far too much about our lives.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I wanted to tell you something really serious that

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<v Speaker 3>happened to me last night. And this is not a joke.

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<v Speaker 1>But I could have died last night. And I'm not exaggerating,

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<v Speaker 1>And this is like a warning to people.

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<v Speaker 2>This isn't a haha.

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<v Speaker 3>This is not a haha.

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<v Speaker 5>I literally feel like a message. Ben I said, I

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<v Speaker 5>think I could have died last night. Like that's how

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<v Speaker 5>close I think I was.

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<v Speaker 3>So my house is really cold. I've talked to you

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<v Speaker 3>guys about that before. Like I don't have heating in

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<v Speaker 3>the house, and I'm always wearing jumpers. It's not insulated. Well,

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<v Speaker 3>it's freezing, so I do have heaters.

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<v Speaker 5>I have a heater in my room because I've freeze

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<v Speaker 5>to death at night, and I have a heater in

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<v Speaker 5>the lound room. Anyway, I always put the heater on

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<v Speaker 5>for a couple of hours in my room before to

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<v Speaker 5>heat it up.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I turn it off. And so last night

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<v Speaker 1>I woke up because I was cold, so I put

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<v Speaker 1>the heater on. It's right next to my bed. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't even have to get out of bed. I lean

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<v Speaker 1>over and just put it on at the wall at

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<v Speaker 1>the soccer. So I put it on, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll leave it on for an hour or so and

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<v Speaker 1>then I'll turn it off, just sort re heats.

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<v Speaker 2>What type of heater is it.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just a little portable heater like it's actually one

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<v Speaker 3>Ben bought me. Then this not I'm not blaming.

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<v Speaker 2>Ben, but Ben, you could have killed me.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not blaming Ben. But if I'm blaming anyone, it's Ben.

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<v Speaker 5>But its air, like an electric one, not gas. No, yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>you just plug it in electric. It heats so well.

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<v Speaker 5>And I've had it for months and months.

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<v Speaker 3>It's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>So I lean over put it on and then go

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<v Speaker 1>back to bed. And then I am woken at about

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<v Speaker 1>two in the morning. My smell woke me up, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm lucky I'm a semi light sleeper. The smell woke

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<v Speaker 1>me up and I opened my eyes and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>something is wrong. My whole room was smoke and I

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<v Speaker 1>looked down next to the bed flames like I'll.

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<v Speaker 3>Show you the photo.

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<v Speaker 5>I was like, I'm about to dinifire, like it was

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<v Speaker 5>about I reckon if.

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<v Speaker 3>I was, So, this is the wall socket like it was.

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<v Speaker 3>It's burnt. The wall socket is burnt right next to

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<v Speaker 3>my bed.

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<v Speaker 5>It's like it's almost as a candle out. Yeah, all

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<v Speaker 5>the care and all dust goes over the lid. It

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<v Speaker 5>looks like that on the socket.

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<v Speaker 1>It's all black smoke. The plug is completely melted. So

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<v Speaker 1>flames were coming out. Flames were out right next to

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<v Speaker 1>my head.

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<v Speaker 2>The room was full of.

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<v Speaker 3>Smoke, and I was like, oh my god, I just

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<v Speaker 3>I don't even it was black and like the light

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<v Speaker 3>went on and I just ripped the plug out of.

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<v Speaker 1>The wall, picked it up, threw it into the bathroom.

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<v Speaker 1>Because my room is all carpet and bedding and stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, the pouse is going to burn down.

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<v Speaker 1>Threw it into the bathroom tiles, and then my bath

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<v Speaker 1>mat was there. So I got the bath mat and

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<v Speaker 1>just soaked it. This is in seconds in a black

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even know how I was operated and dropped.

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<v Speaker 5>To the bath mat on top of smother, just to

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<v Speaker 5>smother what was the flames that were there, just to

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<v Speaker 5>put it out. And I was like my heart was beating,

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<v Speaker 5>and I thought if I didn't wake up because of

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<v Speaker 5>the smell, my room would have been on fire, like

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<v Speaker 5>seconds away from disaster.

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<v Speaker 2>That is a terrifying situation.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And I could not believe my whole house from

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<v Speaker 1>that tiny little socket smells of It's like a fire

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<v Speaker 1>has been in there. Like I cannot get the less.

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<v Speaker 1>I could not get the smell out. So I've turned

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<v Speaker 1>all like the power off. I'm gonna get the electrician

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<v Speaker 1>and to come and check the sockets.

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<v Speaker 3>But I don't even know what my warning is here,

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<v Speaker 3>Like I don't even know there's not a warning, but

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<v Speaker 3>I guess it actually, I guess it is.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess it's like don't leave those kind of heaters

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<v Speaker 1>on through the night, yeah, because that could happen.

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<v Speaker 2>But I mean, like.

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<v Speaker 5>You're in situations where it's like, what's the alternative? Your

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<v Speaker 5>house is fucking freezing? You want to be warm enough

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<v Speaker 5>to actually like be comfortable. It's the housing standards in

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<v Speaker 5>Australia are actually cooked, Like it's actually not reasonable.

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<v Speaker 3>And not cooked like hot. Yeah, like your heart is

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<v Speaker 3>on fire.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you know what? Though?

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<v Speaker 5>The only thing I'm very grateful for in that situation

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<v Speaker 5>that I have sleeping issues, and I know it's that

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<v Speaker 5>it wasn't the heater out in the land room near Delilah. Oh.

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<v Speaker 3>I thought the same thing. I would never leave that on.

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<v Speaker 1>But the other thing, I took a sleeping tablet last

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<v Speaker 1>night because I do have trouble sleeping, so I had

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<v Speaker 1>taken a sleeping tablet.

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<v Speaker 3>Imagine if that's how potent the fire smell was. So

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<v Speaker 3>I'm so so lucky.

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<v Speaker 1>But you hear, unfortunately, you hear fires that electrical fires

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<v Speaker 1>in a home, you know, over Christmas time, you always

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<v Speaker 1>hear it's Christmas lights or it's it's the extra things

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<v Speaker 1>that are plugged in.

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<v Speaker 3>So just be careful. That's my how are you? Did

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<v Speaker 3>you nearly die last night?

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't. I had a wonderful sleep. I got one

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<v Speaker 2>hundred percent on my sleep score. You said that no

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<v Speaker 2>one really cares about that. I disagree. I had a

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<v Speaker 2>great sleep, And I'm really sorry that.

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<v Speaker 5>That story has absolutely rocked me because that is fucking terrifying.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that I'm putting fire out at nine you

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<v Speaker 1>have one hundred percent sleeps.

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<v Speaker 2>I got kudos from my Whoop app. It's wonderful. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>feeling great.

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<v Speaker 5>But something did happen to me yesterday afternoon, and I

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<v Speaker 5>thought back to the episode that you and Laura recorded

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<v Speaker 5>of as gun Cut last week that we got a

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<v Speaker 5>lot of feedback about. So it was the question where

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<v Speaker 5>there were a couple they had a click and collect

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<v Speaker 5>the director boot order for their groceries, right and they

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<v Speaker 5>went to the store and I think because of the

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<v Speaker 5>Microsoft outage, like things hadn't been processed properly.

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<v Speaker 2>So they collected their groceries.

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<v Speaker 5>They got home and they got this notification saying that

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<v Speaker 5>they would get a re fund for their order because

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<v Speaker 5>it wasn't able to be processed.

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<v Speaker 3>But they already got their order.

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<v Speaker 2>They'd already got it, and.

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<v Speaker 5>So they were having this debate between them where her

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<v Speaker 5>partner was saying, we should tell them, and we should

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<v Speaker 5>you know, own up to the fact that we did

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<v Speaker 5>get them and we should pay for them.

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<v Speaker 2>She was saying, I think we should just take the.

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<v Speaker 3>Win because they're struggling farmers. They've been in drought.

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<v Speaker 2>I almost don't even know if those factors matter.

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<v Speaker 3>Time, it does matter. I think those factors mean a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>I was kind of seeing and.

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<v Speaker 5>I was like, I wouldn't even batter a single eyelash

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<v Speaker 5>to this, which was the feedback that we got from

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<v Speaker 5>most people being like, grocery stores are not the little

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<v Speaker 5>dog in this scenario. If it was a small business,

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<v Speaker 5>probably would have felt differently. So overwhelming feedback was that

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<v Speaker 5>most people were like me. So last night, I'm at

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<v Speaker 5>the grocery store down the road from my house.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, here we go, TI. She's gonna blame master of

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<v Speaker 3>a tight ass.

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<v Speaker 2>You know the reduced items.

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<v Speaker 5>Always go through those because I'm like, if it's something

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<v Speaker 5>that I actually need, yeah, I'll get the reduced one.

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<v Speaker 2>Going to use it tonight, no worries. There was a

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<v Speaker 2>packet of chicken.

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<v Speaker 5>Breast and it was reduced because you had to use

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<v Speaker 5>it by tomorrow, and.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, that's not a problem. I'm cooking this tonight.

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<v Speaker 5>So I had a reduce sticker on it and I

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<v Speaker 5>got to the counter and I went through self serve

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<v Speaker 5>and I scanned it and it came up as zero

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<v Speaker 5>dollars and four cents, and I was like, winning, But

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<v Speaker 5>that's that's not stealing for you, because that's you scanned

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<v Speaker 5>the barcode, that's the price of it.

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<v Speaker 3>That's the price.

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<v Speaker 5>Absolutely, the actual price on the sticker was eight dollars

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<v Speaker 5>and eighty cents or something like that, right, So you

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<v Speaker 5>put it in my way for it, put it in

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<v Speaker 5>my little bag in the self serve checkout where it

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<v Speaker 5>weighs it, and.

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<v Speaker 2>It comes up with their like, oh you haven't bagged

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<v Speaker 2>the item, blah blah blah. And I was like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>kip bagging, skip.

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<v Speaker 1>Click a board, get out, because the anxiety that the

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<v Speaker 1>checkout person is going to come and actually go through

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<v Speaker 1>and compare what you've scared.

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<v Speaker 2>It's exactly what happened.

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<v Speaker 5>And I was like, I don't know, I don't know why,

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<v Speaker 5>Like you know, I'm playing by the rules, scanning your way.

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<v Speaker 5>And he looked at it, and he looked in the

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<v Speaker 5>bag and I was like, that's the chicken.

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<v Speaker 2>And he looked and then he saw the price. Anyway.

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<v Speaker 5>I was like, mate, just let me play on. It's

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<v Speaker 5>scanned as chicken. It's not my fault. It's been put

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<v Speaker 5>in as the wrong price. I didn't say this, I

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<v Speaker 5>was thinking it in my head. I was just trying

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<v Speaker 5>to get away with eight dollars. Anyway, this ended up

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<v Speaker 5>in a three minute debacle, three staff members trying to

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<v Speaker 5>avoid the price, and I was like, it wasn't even

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<v Speaker 5>worth the reduction in the chicken.

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<v Speaker 3>It wasn't worth the four set.

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<v Speaker 2>No, they made me pay the full price.

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<v Speaker 5>They entered it as like a miscellaneous sale, and I

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<v Speaker 5>was like, you're not a person of the people.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, well, I think this is on you.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know, because you should have when you put

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<v Speaker 5>it in the basket to be weighed, you have to

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<v Speaker 5>hold it up a bit so it doesn't know the

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<v Speaker 5>actual word because obviously it thought it was like an

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<v Speaker 5>apple or something.

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<v Speaker 2>No, it came up as chicken breast. It came up

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<v Speaker 2>as like it.

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<v Speaker 5>I think that when they entered it into the system

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<v Speaker 5>as the reduced price, they'd put it in wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>And I don't know how to system worked out that.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know how it happened, but it ended up

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<v Speaker 5>wasting me time and money.

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<v Speaker 3>Well not wasting money, because you paid what it was

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<v Speaker 3>supposed to be. Do you know. I was genuinely.

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<v Speaker 1>Surprised from the feedback that we got on that ask

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<v Speaker 1>gun cut that you guys were far too virtuous. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I say that because I genuinely thought more people would.

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<v Speaker 3>And I said this off camera, like when we were

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<v Speaker 3>discussing it.

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<v Speaker 1>I said, oh, I think the majority of people would

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<v Speaker 1>take this back and do the right thing, or at

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<v Speaker 1>least feel extremely guilty, like.

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<v Speaker 3>It's take it, but at least have that.

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<v Speaker 1>Little smidja guilt like you throw the guilt in on

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<v Speaker 1>the side.

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<v Speaker 3>But they weren't you mother buckers.

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<v Speaker 2>You were like steal that, steal your groceries. You wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>stealing it was their stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>You own that, But I was, I mean, all for it.

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<v Speaker 3>You all gave your valid reasons.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm not here to judge anyone except to say that

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<v Speaker 5>I was semi shook us to the core.

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<v Speaker 2>I wasn't shocked at all.

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<v Speaker 5>I would not feel gill and I want my chicken

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<v Speaker 5>for four cents ago.

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<v Speaker 1>The overarching feedback was if it was a small business,

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<v Speaker 1>that people would take it back, but they could not

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<v Speaker 1>care less about the big conglomerate switch.

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<v Speaker 2>Fair.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, let's get into the vibes your dirty little thieves.

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<v Speaker 3>This week. I'm gonna vibe. And I decided to like

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<v Speaker 3>really lean into it.

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<v Speaker 1>I have done my hair with the curls. The curls

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<v Speaker 1>that you've all been talking about. No one's been talking

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<v Speaker 1>about it. The curls that I have been rocking the

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<v Speaker 1>last week or two. And I do get a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of d MS about it. So you saw, if you're

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<v Speaker 1>following me on Instagram, I tried out these heatless curls

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<v Speaker 1>in my hair that you sleep in, and I sort

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<v Speaker 1>of was knocking them. I was like, this is ridiculous,

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<v Speaker 1>this is not going to work, Like, how do people

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<v Speaker 1>sleep in this?

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<v Speaker 3>Anyway? I'm obsessed.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it worth not having my night sleep? Yes?

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<v Speaker 3>Is it worth almost signing a fire in my room?

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<v Speaker 3>Because I did have the.

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<v Speaker 2>Curls that's what saved you. Maybe you should be thanking.

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<v Speaker 3>The heatless curl No, if anything, it's material. If a

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<v Speaker 3>flame got onto that heatless curl in my head, my

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<v Speaker 3>hair would be I mean, I'd have more worries and cares.

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<v Speaker 2>Flammable anyway it is?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I have burnt my hair before on a candle,

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<v Speaker 1>so I can confirm that it's flammable. So you can

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<v Speaker 1>get these heatless material curls anywhere, right, Like, there's so

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<v Speaker 1>many brands. I originally found it by just googling them online.

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<v Speaker 1>Found one on Amazon or something.

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<v Speaker 2>But I've got one from Mermaid Hair. You can get

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<v Speaker 2>them from literally like any Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>But the difference with mine is it has four I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna call them like doodles almost because they's like tentacle tentacles,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you, bit nicer.

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<v Speaker 3>So you put like a comb.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like got a little tiny comb that you put

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<v Speaker 1>in the front of your head at your hairline, and

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<v Speaker 1>you split your hair and you literally just semi dry

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<v Speaker 1>your hair almost dry, wrap them around, put them up.

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<v Speaker 1>I put them in a bunch on my head and

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<v Speaker 1>so I can sleep better. Take them out in the morning,

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<v Speaker 1>and your curls are incredible. My particular one is called

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<v Speaker 1>Bouncy Blowband. That's where I got it from. They've got

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<v Speaker 1>loads of hair stuff on there.

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<v Speaker 3>But that's it. Four tentacles. You can do. Two tentacles

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<v Speaker 3>My vibes for the week.

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<v Speaker 5>And I'm saying clarial because I'm gonna quickly put one

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<v Speaker 5>in here because Laura's not here. So the first one

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<v Speaker 5>is an episode of Modern Wisdom.

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<v Speaker 3>It is the.

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<v Speaker 2>Podcast by Chris Williamson who is to Australia soon.

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<v Speaker 3>I love how many times you have planted seeds like

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<v Speaker 3>your Vibes are someone that you want to speak to.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, guys, it's in the works.

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<v Speaker 5>He's coming to Australia and we are in the process

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<v Speaker 5>of securing an interview with him.

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<v Speaker 2>He's one of the biggest podcasts in the world. He's

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<v Speaker 2>originally from Love Island.

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<v Speaker 5>But he has his podcast Modern Wisdom. It is one

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<v Speaker 5>of the world leading podcasts. He has a particular episode

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<v Speaker 5>really recent. It came out like a day and a

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<v Speaker 5>half ago. It is with Andrew Wilkinson and it's called

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<v Speaker 5>how to Stop Feeling like your success is Never enough.

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<v Speaker 5>It is all about happiness, shifting of goals, kind of

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<v Speaker 5>reaching that goal and realizing that once you get there,

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<v Speaker 5>you kind of just want more, and you want more

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<v Speaker 5>and more and more, and you're never going to feel

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<v Speaker 5>as though you get satisfaction from what your original goal was.

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<v Speaker 3>The goalpost keeps moving.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, it's pretty far in the like self help. If

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<v Speaker 5>you're into that type of stuff, you will like it.

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<v Speaker 5>If you're not into it, you'll probably find it a

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<v Speaker 5>bit of a drag because it's a long episode.

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<v Speaker 2>It goes for like two hours or something like that.

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<v Speaker 1>But I also don't per personally as a podcast and

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<v Speaker 1>someone that consumes a lot of podcasts the time. Like

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<v Speaker 1>the length of a podcast doesn't bother me. Like when

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<v Speaker 1>I see.

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<v Speaker 5>A podcast that could go for two plus hours, it

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<v Speaker 5>doesn't turn me off because I don't need to listen

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<v Speaker 5>to it only one. Like I'll happily start it, go

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<v Speaker 5>for half an hour, walk, and then pick it up

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<v Speaker 5>the next day. Yeah, but I know a lot of

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<v Speaker 5>people don't it almost. I think it depends on your

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<v Speaker 5>listening habits. I think it depends if you're the type

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<v Speaker 5>of person who listens while you commute, or whether you

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<v Speaker 5>do the dog walk, or for me, I mean, I'm

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<v Speaker 5>such a consumer of content through audio mediums, so I

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<v Speaker 5>love to have it on almost at all times. I'll

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<v Speaker 5>have it while I'm showering, while I'm getting ready for anything,

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<v Speaker 5>while I'm driving, while I'm walking, like whatever it is,

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<v Speaker 5>I like to have something playing. My other vibe for

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<v Speaker 5>the week is potentially the most exorbitant vibe I have

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<v Speaker 5>ever had in my life.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to tell you you do not need this.

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<v Speaker 5>It is a want so a couple of weeks ago

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<v Speaker 5>and leading up until I got this because we wear headphones,

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<v Speaker 5>Like I wear headphones so much, because after we record

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<v Speaker 5>the podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>I then go and edit, and I edit a lot.

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<v Speaker 5>And I want to make this really clear, we wear

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<v Speaker 5>road headphones when we record. I'm not speaking about these ones.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm speaking about another pair that I had. I was

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<v Speaker 5>getting really bad headaches because the pressure of where the

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<v Speaker 5>headband sits on my head too much. I don't know, Like,

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<v Speaker 5>no matter how much I adjusted it, it was just

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<v Speaker 5>giving me really, really, really bad headaches. I tried on

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<v Speaker 5>my friend Soave's headphones at one point, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 5>what is this luxury? How if I never felt this before?

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<v Speaker 5>She was like, Oh, they're the Apple AirPod Max headphones.

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<v Speaker 5>And I was like, well, I gotta get me some

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<v Speaker 5>of these.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh god, how much they retail.

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<v Speaker 2>For eight hundred and ninety nine dollars.

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<v Speaker 3>That's an expensive headphone.

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<v Speaker 5>So to be clear, these are not earbud AirPods. They're

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<v Speaker 5>the ones that go over your head the headband type right,

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<v Speaker 5>and they see over your ears.

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<v Speaker 2>They are the most comfortable things I've ever had in

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<v Speaker 2>my life.

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<v Speaker 5>I am now wearing them by choice, like I've switched

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<v Speaker 5>out my AirPods, the ones that like I put into

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<v Speaker 5>my ears, and I have just been wearing them.

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<v Speaker 2>The sound quality is obviously very very good.

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<v Speaker 5>That's not why I purchased them. I purchased them because

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<v Speaker 5>of the comfort. So I feel like for me, I

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<v Speaker 5>can justify it because persontly tax right off.

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<v Speaker 4>Second, I was about to say it's a tax deduction,

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<v Speaker 4>but also there'd be a lot of people out there

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<v Speaker 4>that would not be wearing headphones for the length of

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<v Speaker 4>time that you are, So I think it's more to

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<v Speaker 4>those people that are like excessive headphone uses.

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<v Speaker 5>But I do think that people wear them more now,

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<v Speaker 5>like people who work from home a lot. If they've

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<v Speaker 5>got meetings and that kind of thing, they have to

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<v Speaker 5>wear headphones. It's, you know, to block out the sound

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<v Speaker 5>that's around them and whatever. But yeah, if you are

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<v Speaker 5>in the market for a really good, really comfortable pair

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<v Speaker 5>of headphones, I highly recommend to the Apple AirPod Max.

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<v Speaker 5>I did get them on a fifteen percent off sale,

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<v Speaker 5>so you can get them on sale every now and then.

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<v Speaker 5>Right now, they're on sale on Amazon for seven hundred

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<v Speaker 5>and eight dollars.

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<v Speaker 3>Buggin.

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<v Speaker 2>Firstly, I don't want anyone to be like, this.

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<v Speaker 5>Is the most unrelatable thing you've just spoken about, trying

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<v Speaker 5>to get chicken for four cents.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, this is why, because it's all about balance. This

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<v Speaker 3>is why you can't eat this week.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, let's get into the questions.

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<v Speaker 1>A few years ago, when I was around seven months pregnant,

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<v Speaker 1>I noticed a condom missing from the pack. The only

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<v Speaker 1>reason I noticed this was because we don't use condoms

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<v Speaker 1>and had only been using them while we were going

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<v Speaker 1>through fertility treatment, and we were advised to use them

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<v Speaker 1>prior to egg collection an embryo transfer.

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<v Speaker 3>So that is a thing like when you are doing

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<v Speaker 3>your egg transfers and stuff, you.

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<v Speaker 2>Have to wear condoms.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to be really really careful because you don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to be implanted with an embryo like you don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to conceive at the same time. Basically, I confronted

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<v Speaker 1>my husband about it, and he said he just likes

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<v Speaker 1>to wear them when he relieves himself because he likes

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<v Speaker 1>the feeling of it. Fast forward to now and we

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<v Speaker 1>have been trying for a second baby for almost nine months.

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<v Speaker 1>We have embryos frozen, so I've decided to go through

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<v Speaker 1>fertility treatment again. We have been advised to use condoms

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<v Speaker 1>to avoid multiple pregnancies, et cetera. My husband hasn't used

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<v Speaker 1>any of ours since then or told me that he's

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<v Speaker 1>bought more. For the past few months, he's been working

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<v Speaker 1>away a few nights a week and staying at a

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<v Speaker 1>friend's house while he's way. Now this friend is married

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<v Speaker 1>with kids. The other day, our two year old was

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<v Speaker 1>going through his bag, which he does a lot. He

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<v Speaker 1>opened a zipper up and pulled out two condoms from

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<v Speaker 1>his bag, saying, daddy biscuits.

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<v Speaker 3>So many things are running through my head.

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<v Speaker 1>A few hours passed and a comment was made and

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<v Speaker 1>we ended up talking about it. He told me again

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<v Speaker 1>that he liked the feeling of ejaculating in a condom

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<v Speaker 1>and that I had nothing to worry about. My sex

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<v Speaker 1>drive has been very low the last few months because

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<v Speaker 1>we're trying for a baby and sex now feels like

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<v Speaker 1>a chore. He doesn't want to push me or put

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<v Speaker 1>any pressure, so he says he finds the need to

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<v Speaker 1>relieve himself, which I do understand. I explained to him

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<v Speaker 1>why it seems suss. He understood where I was coming

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<v Speaker 1>from and said he never even saw it that way.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if this is a red flag and

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<v Speaker 1>he's lying to me, or is this legitimately a thing

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<v Speaker 1>that people come in condoms where they masturbate and I

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<v Speaker 1>should be trusting him. We're about to have another embryo transfer,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm just all over the place with my emotions

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<v Speaker 1>and how I feel about this. I don't have actual

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<v Speaker 1>proof he done anything wrong or cheated. I don't have

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<v Speaker 1>any other reasons not to trust him. My mind is

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<v Speaker 1>just jumping to conclusions because of the missing condoms.

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<v Speaker 3>What the fuck? Okay the show she said, what the fuck?

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<v Speaker 5>Not me. My initial thoughts on this were very, very

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<v Speaker 5>very different to when I spoke to my boyfriend about

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<v Speaker 5>this last night, because I was like, hmm, male opinion.

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<v Speaker 2>My initial opinion was I would also be suspicious as anything.

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<v Speaker 2>This sounds really clear that perhaps something odd is going on.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, my brain would have jumped straight to like

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<v Speaker 3>he's doing the dirty.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, there's kind of a few factors, more condoms

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<v Speaker 5>than what you expected to be missing, different packets, staying.

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<v Speaker 2>Away for work, like having him in your bag.

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<v Speaker 5>I would have been like, oh, the writing kind of

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<v Speaker 5>sounds like it's on the wall. My boyfriend had a

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<v Speaker 5>very very different opinion, and he was like, yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 5>called a poshwink, and I.

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<v Speaker 2>Was like, it's called a what is that?

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<v Speaker 5>The technical name Okay, so I've googled, Sorry, I've urban

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<v Speaker 5>diction read it.

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<v Speaker 3>Is that a verb?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>It says to wang using a condom. It then says

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<v Speaker 5>number two or if you're really posh, you get your

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<v Speaker 5>butler to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Kind of gross.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think they have a butler.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, So poshwank is apparently a thing, And I mean,

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<v Speaker 5>I don't want to yuck anyone's yum.

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<v Speaker 2>But we hear all the time that guy's like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>it doesn't feel good when I've got a condom one.

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<v Speaker 5>And for whatever knows reason, Yeah, but apparently it is

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<v Speaker 5>a thing, So it is possible that your husband actually

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<v Speaker 5>does like the feeling of it. Also, if he is

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<v Speaker 5>doing it while he's staying in way, like at someone

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<v Speaker 5>else's house.

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<v Speaker 3>Well don't be doing it at your friend's house.

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<v Speaker 5>I kind of feel like this is a respectful version

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<v Speaker 5>of it because the cleanup's easy.

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<v Speaker 3>It is hands down. If you were to masturbate at

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<v Speaker 3>a friend's house.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, it's respectful, but it is not respectful to masturbate

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<v Speaker 5>at a friend's house. You reckon no, especially if you're

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<v Speaker 5>only going there to stay for one night. It's like

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<v Speaker 5>you've got a sick fetish that you're saving it up

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<v Speaker 5>for the friend's house. If you are going to stay

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<v Speaker 5>a friend's house for one night a month or whatever

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<v Speaker 5>it is, why are you banking your wank friends out?

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<v Speaker 5>Like maybe because he feels more comfortable just doing it

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<v Speaker 5>when you know he's partners.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, I don't know, I don't know if I understand,

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<v Speaker 1>I do understand. I want to say, like, I get

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<v Speaker 1>that some people masturbate into a condom for cleanliness, totally

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<v Speaker 1>get that. And if that's your thing, that's fine. And

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<v Speaker 1>it does sound like he's not doing anything else that's

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<v Speaker 1>giving you a red flag. There's no other reason for

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<v Speaker 1>you to think that. My only question is and I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to say this to put like thoughts into

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<v Speaker 1>somebody's head, but the thing that I think here is

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<v Speaker 1>if he's saying he masturbates into a condom because he

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<v Speaker 1>loves the feeling of it, why doesn't he like to

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<v Speaker 1>wear them when you're having sex?

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<v Speaker 3>Because if he likes the feeling so much.

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<v Speaker 2>We don't know if sex and masturbation are the same, though.

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<v Speaker 5>And I don't know either. That's why I'm posing the question.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm not a man, I don't have a penis and

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<v Speaker 5>I've never jacked off myself like that, so.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, do you know?

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<v Speaker 1>I would almost be asking, And maybe I'll do a

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<v Speaker 1>round of male friends. I'll ask a bunch of my

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<v Speaker 1>male friends and we'll report back next week.

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<v Speaker 3>But maybe you should ask. If you have some male

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<v Speaker 3>friends that are close to you that you trust and

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<v Speaker 3>you respect their opinion, et cetera, maybe ask them say,

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<v Speaker 3>is this something that maybe you don't do it, but

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<v Speaker 3>maybe other men do it because a lot of men,

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<v Speaker 3>even if they don't do something, they know the trends

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<v Speaker 3>that other men are doing. They know if something is.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I get what you mean.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, it's kind of one of those things though,

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<v Speaker 5>if it's like if it's not normal and putting that

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<v Speaker 5>in quotation marks, does it matter like he might like it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's kind of one of those things.

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<v Speaker 5>And it's like, well, I think, firstly, I want to

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<v Speaker 5>validate you in the sense that I don't think you're crazy,

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<v Speaker 5>and I also don't think it's your hormones that are

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<v Speaker 5>making you think that this is suspicious behavior. Like I

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<v Speaker 5>think anyone in this situation would be a little bit

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<v Speaker 5>raising their eyebrows going this seems odd.

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<v Speaker 2>You know this seems unusual.

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<v Speaker 5>I think it's gonna have to be one of those

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<v Speaker 5>things that you accept his answer for what he said,

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<v Speaker 5>and you accept that maybe that's how he does like

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<v Speaker 5>to pleasure himself, and that's fine if it is. You know,

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<v Speaker 5>he's not doing anything wrong, as you've said, and maybe

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<v Speaker 5>just look for other signs. I don't I don't want

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<v Speaker 5>to say, like, look for the other signs. I think

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<v Speaker 5>in this situation you kind of just have to accept

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<v Speaker 5>that this could very likely be the truth, and until

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<v Speaker 5>you are given other reasons to suspect otherwise, you just

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<v Speaker 5>have to accept that that's the case. Well, the only

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<v Speaker 5>other thing is she does make a point. I'm just

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<v Speaker 5>really reading the question, and to be clear, I just

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<v Speaker 5>made a mistake. He does he stays a few nights

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<v Speaker 5>a week, not a few nights a month, so it's

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<v Speaker 5>pretty frequently. She does say that if he likes using

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<v Speaker 5>condoms to masturbate, more condoms haven't disappeared from the pack

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<v Speaker 5>we already had, so it's not like he is actually

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<v Speaker 5>using them for that.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just the sporadic few.

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<v Speaker 1>So she's like, more haven't been used, and also he

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<v Speaker 1>hasn't said he's bought Moore so that's more of a

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<v Speaker 1>red flag if it's just a few for me. But

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<v Speaker 1>there's nothing that you can do in this situation at

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<v Speaker 1>the end of the day, Like this is your husband

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<v Speaker 1>and you have to either trust what he's saying or

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<v Speaker 1>not trust what he's saying, and the conversation has to happen.

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<v Speaker 1>But if he's giving you no other reason, I think

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<v Speaker 1>you have to take it at face value and take

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<v Speaker 1>his word for it. But for sure your ears are

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<v Speaker 1>going to be pricked now, like you are going to

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<v Speaker 1>be taking a lot of notice about other things that

0:27:05.119 --> 0:27:07.480
<v Speaker 1>are happening, things he's saying, And I think that's okay,

0:27:08.240 --> 0:27:09.520
<v Speaker 1>But at the end of the day, if you can't

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<v Speaker 1>trust your partner, you need to have those conversations about why,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you need to decide moving forward if you're

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<v Speaker 1>going to believe them or not, because there's nothing else

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<v Speaker 1>to do. You can't stay in a relationship where you're

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<v Speaker 1>questioning every move that they make and if they're being

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<v Speaker 1>faithful to you. And it sucks, but at the end

0:27:24.400 --> 0:27:25.760
<v Speaker 1>of the day, that's what you've got to do. You've

0:27:25.800 --> 0:27:28.480
<v Speaker 1>either got to roll with it and trust him or not.

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<v Speaker 1>But then what do you do if you.

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<v Speaker 5>Don't you know, And they're in the position where she's

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<v Speaker 5>about to have a second embryo transferred.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but you're definitely not Also what Keisha said, like

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<v Speaker 1>you're definitely not overreacting or anything like that.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, these are all very valid.

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<v Speaker 5>I would do exactly the same thing if I saw

0:27:41.880 --> 0:27:43.360
<v Speaker 5>Ben had condoms in his.

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<v Speaker 3>Bag knowing we don't use them.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, and he stayed away a couple of nights and

0:27:46.800 --> 0:27:48.280
<v Speaker 5>he was going away a few nights a week or

0:27:48.320 --> 0:27:49.320
<v Speaker 5>something like that, I'd be.

0:27:49.240 --> 0:27:53.439
<v Speaker 1>Like, and he smelt like women's perfume.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, Like that's the one thing that I want to

0:27:56.640 --> 0:27:59.560
<v Speaker 5>be careful saying, Like if it were me, I think

0:27:59.600 --> 0:28:01.280
<v Speaker 5>it would kind of made me put a bit of

0:28:01.280 --> 0:28:03.720
<v Speaker 5>a magnifying glass on some of the other behaviors. But

0:28:03.800 --> 0:28:06.600
<v Speaker 5>that's such a negative place to be in your relationship.

0:28:06.680 --> 0:28:09.560
<v Speaker 5>Like it's when you've planted that seed of suspicion.

0:28:10.280 --> 0:28:12.359
<v Speaker 2>I feel as though you look for things.

0:28:12.080 --> 0:28:14.240
<v Speaker 5>That otherwise you wouldn't and it can be such a

0:28:14.280 --> 0:28:16.920
<v Speaker 5>poison in your relationship. So you're in a really, really

0:28:16.920 --> 0:28:21.120
<v Speaker 5>tricky position. But I think play on for now and

0:28:21.400 --> 0:28:25.080
<v Speaker 5>maybe just keep your wits about you for other behaviors

0:28:25.119 --> 0:28:27.439
<v Speaker 5>that don't quite add up, and maybe you'll ask questions

0:28:27.480 --> 0:28:30.560
<v Speaker 5>about those a little sooner than what you otherwise would have. Yeah,

0:28:30.600 --> 0:28:33.480
<v Speaker 5>alrighty question number two. I've got a friend who seems

0:28:33.520 --> 0:28:36.440
<v Speaker 5>to chase chaos in relationships. She is clearly the reason

0:28:36.480 --> 0:28:39.600
<v Speaker 5>her last wonderful relationship didn't work out, and since then

0:28:39.680 --> 0:28:42.920
<v Speaker 5>she has dated multiple toxic guys back to back. She

0:28:43.040 --> 0:28:46.120
<v Speaker 5>says she loves the red flags as if it's funny,

0:28:46.200 --> 0:28:48.960
<v Speaker 5>until it's not so much funny anymore. She also never

0:28:48.960 --> 0:28:51.600
<v Speaker 5>takes accountability for her bad behavior. I wish I didn't

0:28:51.600 --> 0:28:54.320
<v Speaker 5>get invested and didn't care what she did with relationships,

0:28:54.360 --> 0:28:57.040
<v Speaker 5>but it's put me off of our friendship. She's never

0:28:57.040 --> 0:28:59.680
<v Speaker 5>done anything bad to me, but I find myself with

0:28:59.720 --> 0:29:01.600
<v Speaker 5>the E and not really wanting to hang out with

0:29:01.640 --> 0:29:03.920
<v Speaker 5>her because I can't possibly listen to one more of

0:29:03.960 --> 0:29:08.400
<v Speaker 5>these chaotic and red flag guys stories. Am I being

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<v Speaker 5>a bad friend?

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<v Speaker 1>We've never had an ick in a friendship before? Come

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<v Speaker 1>into lifeln gerd. I've actually don't think I've ever had

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<v Speaker 1>an ick in a friendship, have you?

0:29:18.280 --> 0:29:18.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

0:29:19.040 --> 0:29:23.240
<v Speaker 1>I've had friendships deteriorate, but for different reasons, not because

0:29:24.040 --> 0:29:26.640
<v Speaker 1>like the ick for me, I relate to a relationship

0:29:26.640 --> 0:29:28.600
<v Speaker 1>where you're like, don't kiss me, don't touch me. The

0:29:28.600 --> 0:29:30.160
<v Speaker 1>thought of your tongue in my mouth or in any

0:29:30.160 --> 0:29:33.440
<v Speaker 1>crevice is disgusting. But for a friendship, I've never had

0:29:33.440 --> 0:29:35.040
<v Speaker 1>that revulsion.

0:29:34.600 --> 0:29:36.320
<v Speaker 2>Before, you know, Yeah, for.

0:29:36.280 --> 0:29:38.720
<v Speaker 5>Me, I don't think it's revulsion. I think it's actually

0:29:39.040 --> 0:29:42.360
<v Speaker 5>get to the limit of your exhaustion. And I've been

0:29:42.400 --> 0:29:44.120
<v Speaker 5>in a similar.

0:29:43.680 --> 0:29:45.440
<v Speaker 2>Situation to this before.

0:29:45.920 --> 0:29:48.680
<v Speaker 5>The reason that I got to that point was because

0:29:49.040 --> 0:29:54.120
<v Speaker 5>these chaotic stories, they can be very fun, but they

0:29:54.280 --> 0:29:57.960
<v Speaker 5>can become almost like you feel as though in the relationship,

0:29:58.000 --> 0:29:59.760
<v Speaker 5>the person is coming to you and they're telling you

0:29:59.760 --> 0:30:03.600
<v Speaker 5>the stories, and they're so large.

0:30:03.320 --> 0:30:06.920
<v Speaker 2>And full of emotion and like it's so hectic that

0:30:06.960 --> 0:30:08.960
<v Speaker 2>you're like whoa, Like that's a lot.

0:30:09.440 --> 0:30:12.560
<v Speaker 5>And when that happens time after time after time, you

0:30:12.600 --> 0:30:14.320
<v Speaker 5>can be put in this position where you're like, I'm

0:30:14.360 --> 0:30:16.960
<v Speaker 5>not your therapist, Like I'm not your therapist and I'm

0:30:17.000 --> 0:30:19.920
<v Speaker 5>not here to kind of unpack the ins and outs

0:30:19.920 --> 0:30:20.280
<v Speaker 5>of this.

0:30:20.360 --> 0:30:22.440
<v Speaker 2>Over and over and over and over.

0:30:22.600 --> 0:30:24.680
<v Speaker 5>And it kind of depends on whether they're telling you

0:30:24.840 --> 0:30:27.720
<v Speaker 5>these stories because they think they're funny or because they

0:30:27.760 --> 0:30:29.760
<v Speaker 5>want your advice and they kind of want to vent

0:30:29.840 --> 0:30:32.120
<v Speaker 5>to you because I do think that there's a limit

0:30:32.200 --> 0:30:34.480
<v Speaker 5>to how much you can kind of tolerate just as

0:30:34.480 --> 0:30:36.120
<v Speaker 5>a bystander in the situation.

0:30:36.560 --> 0:30:38.480
<v Speaker 2>Does that make sense, Yeah, I think what it.

0:30:38.440 --> 0:30:42.120
<v Speaker 5>Is for me is it's really frustrating when you hear

0:30:42.160 --> 0:30:44.400
<v Speaker 5>a friend that might always be the victim in something

0:30:44.440 --> 0:30:46.800
<v Speaker 5>when you know they're not actually the victim. That's what

0:30:46.880 --> 0:30:48.720
<v Speaker 5>this screams to me, Like, she's like, you know, it

0:30:48.760 --> 0:30:49.440
<v Speaker 5>never works out.

0:30:49.480 --> 0:30:51.200
<v Speaker 3>It's me, I'm the common denominator.

0:30:51.280 --> 0:30:53.880
<v Speaker 1>But you have given them the same advice over and

0:30:53.880 --> 0:30:55.560
<v Speaker 1>over again, and you've watched them do the same thing

0:30:55.840 --> 0:30:56.680
<v Speaker 1>over and over again.

0:30:56.960 --> 0:30:58.000
<v Speaker 3>That's when it's frustrating.

0:30:58.000 --> 0:30:59.280
<v Speaker 1>That's when it's like, I don't know what to fucking

0:30:59.320 --> 0:31:01.600
<v Speaker 1>tell you anymore, Like you want this, That's when it

0:31:01.640 --> 0:31:02.480
<v Speaker 1>gets really hard.

0:31:03.160 --> 0:31:04.760
<v Speaker 3>And maybe she does want it.

0:31:04.800 --> 0:31:07.640
<v Speaker 1>Maybe she is thriving off that and that's something that

0:31:07.680 --> 0:31:12.200
<v Speaker 1>she needs to unpack. Maybe she's actually commitment avoidant. And

0:31:12.240 --> 0:31:14.120
<v Speaker 1>a lot of people We've spoken about this so many times,

0:31:14.120 --> 0:31:16.000
<v Speaker 1>but a lot of people feel like they need that

0:31:16.680 --> 0:31:19.200
<v Speaker 1>in a relationship to feel alive or to feel like

0:31:19.200 --> 0:31:22.760
<v Speaker 1>that the relationships worth fighting for, you know, it's just love.

0:31:22.880 --> 0:31:25.600
<v Speaker 1>This chaos and this roller coaster is because we have

0:31:25.600 --> 0:31:27.360
<v Speaker 1>so much chemistry and we love each other so much,

0:31:27.360 --> 0:31:29.000
<v Speaker 1>and like it's bullshit.

0:31:29.080 --> 0:31:31.200
<v Speaker 5>We all know that that's bullshit. We've unpacked that enough

0:31:31.240 --> 0:31:34.480
<v Speaker 5>to know that interestingly. And I really want to sit

0:31:34.520 --> 0:31:37.200
<v Speaker 5>in this point for a bit, and I'm speaking before

0:31:37.200 --> 0:31:38.560
<v Speaker 5>anyone kind of comes to me and is like, how

0:31:38.600 --> 0:31:40.720
<v Speaker 5>do you say this? I'm speaking from the perspective of

0:31:40.800 --> 0:31:44.120
<v Speaker 5>someone who has experienced this and has.

0:31:44.000 --> 0:31:46.440
<v Speaker 2>A variety of psychiatric conditions.

0:31:48.520 --> 0:31:52.800
<v Speaker 5>I found crazy, Kisha, well literally though It's been really

0:31:52.800 --> 0:31:55.880
<v Speaker 5>interesting for me since being diagnosed a medicaid for ADHD,

0:31:56.200 --> 0:31:59.640
<v Speaker 5>looking back on some of my past relationship and dating experiences,

0:32:00.160 --> 0:32:03.960
<v Speaker 5>I had absolutely no awareness how much I chased a

0:32:04.040 --> 0:32:08.400
<v Speaker 5>dopamine hit in relationships. It made me so impulsive, it

0:32:08.440 --> 0:32:10.520
<v Speaker 5>made me do things just to feel something.

0:32:10.560 --> 0:32:12.200
<v Speaker 2>But I didn't know at the time that that's what

0:32:12.240 --> 0:32:14.760
<v Speaker 2>it was. I thought that that's just how I was.

0:32:14.720 --> 0:32:17.800
<v Speaker 5>And I experienced the highs in relationships and what came.

0:32:17.640 --> 0:32:19.680
<v Speaker 2>With that was the very, very down lows.

0:32:20.400 --> 0:32:22.760
<v Speaker 5>So I think it can be a very different conversation

0:32:22.840 --> 0:32:25.760
<v Speaker 5>when you're talking about someone who is not neurochemically balanced.

0:32:25.800 --> 0:32:27.960
<v Speaker 2>You know, that's the current theories I've.

0:32:27.800 --> 0:32:30.240
<v Speaker 5>Experienced friends do this as well, and I relate to

0:32:30.320 --> 0:32:33.560
<v Speaker 5>that chaos chasing because it makes you feel so much

0:32:33.600 --> 0:32:37.040
<v Speaker 5>dopamine at the time, and it sounds a little bit

0:32:37.080 --> 0:32:40.200
<v Speaker 5>like maybe your friend is someone who does experience a

0:32:40.280 --> 0:32:42.840
<v Speaker 5>similar thing, and maybe, like me, they didn't have as

0:32:42.880 --> 0:32:44.720
<v Speaker 5>much awareness of the fact that that's what they were

0:32:44.760 --> 0:32:49.040
<v Speaker 5>doing and that's why she's chasing these same guys over

0:32:49.120 --> 0:32:51.479
<v Speaker 5>and over and over again. But you're in the position

0:32:51.520 --> 0:32:54.240
<v Speaker 5>where you're like, this is exhausting and I don't want

0:32:54.280 --> 0:32:56.320
<v Speaker 5>to hear about this anymore. And I don't think you're

0:32:56.320 --> 0:32:59.520
<v Speaker 5>a bad person for doing that. I wouldn't have felt

0:32:59.520 --> 0:33:01.840
<v Speaker 5>as though someone was a bad person for feeling that

0:33:01.880 --> 0:33:05.080
<v Speaker 5>way about my stories, even though at the time I

0:33:05.080 --> 0:33:08.400
<v Speaker 5>would have been like, oh, that's pretty offensive and hurtful

0:33:08.440 --> 0:33:10.440
<v Speaker 5>to me. Now looking back on it, I'm like, oh,

0:33:10.480 --> 0:33:13.000
<v Speaker 5>I completely understand why they would have been put in

0:33:13.000 --> 0:33:16.200
<v Speaker 5>that position. Yeah, it's one thing if like, it's one

0:33:16.240 --> 0:33:19.200
<v Speaker 5>thing if you are really trying in your dating life,

0:33:19.360 --> 0:33:20.920
<v Speaker 5>or even if it's not even dating, like even if

0:33:20.920 --> 0:33:21.520
<v Speaker 5>you're just doing.

0:33:21.320 --> 0:33:22.000
<v Speaker 3>Hookups or whatever.

0:33:22.000 --> 0:33:24.200
<v Speaker 1>It is if you are really trying and you are

0:33:24.240 --> 0:33:27.320
<v Speaker 1>just unlucky and keep meeting dickheads that are treating you

0:33:27.360 --> 0:33:30.920
<v Speaker 1>badly and it is chaos, then that's different. But when

0:33:31.440 --> 0:33:34.240
<v Speaker 1>your friend is constantly like coming to you, laughing, telling

0:33:34.240 --> 0:33:36.160
<v Speaker 1>you the same shit you've given them, the same advice,

0:33:36.240 --> 0:33:38.480
<v Speaker 1>this has been going on for years, then I think

0:33:38.520 --> 0:33:40.440
<v Speaker 1>you are completely in your right and it does not

0:33:40.480 --> 0:33:42.640
<v Speaker 1>make you a bad friend to step away a little bit,

0:33:42.760 --> 0:33:44.480
<v Speaker 1>because at the end of the day, you can only

0:33:44.560 --> 0:33:46.760
<v Speaker 1>do so much and be so much, and you are

0:33:46.800 --> 0:33:49.080
<v Speaker 1>not going to be a good friend if you are

0:33:49.560 --> 0:33:52.840
<v Speaker 1>sitting there looking at your friend, listening to her talk

0:33:52.920 --> 0:33:55.320
<v Speaker 1>to you, being like I could think of nothing fucking

0:33:55.320 --> 0:33:57.080
<v Speaker 1>worse than sitting here right now. Like if your internal

0:33:57.120 --> 0:33:59.600
<v Speaker 1>monologue is like I want to be somewhere else, then

0:33:59.640 --> 0:34:01.560
<v Speaker 1>you probably we should be somewhere else. But I don't

0:34:01.560 --> 0:34:03.760
<v Speaker 1>think that makes you a bad friend at all. I

0:34:03.760 --> 0:34:06.680
<v Speaker 1>think it's really important to note too that friendships, and

0:34:06.760 --> 0:34:09.120
<v Speaker 1>I've gone through this so with so many friends over

0:34:09.160 --> 0:34:11.879
<v Speaker 1>the years and decades, friendships come and go.

0:34:12.080 --> 0:34:14.759
<v Speaker 3>Sometimes they are situational, you know. Sometimes they are for

0:34:14.800 --> 0:34:17.640
<v Speaker 3>a period. What's that super crazy.

0:34:17.440 --> 0:34:18.800
<v Speaker 2>Season or a lifetime?

0:34:18.920 --> 0:34:20.919
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that super crunsyr quote that Laura would have posted

0:34:20.920 --> 0:34:24.520
<v Speaker 1>a hundred times in her life in every relationship. Yeah,

0:34:24.560 --> 0:34:26.360
<v Speaker 1>friends are like a season for a reason or a

0:34:26.400 --> 0:34:28.680
<v Speaker 1>lifetime whatever, you know. And I've had all of them,

0:34:28.680 --> 0:34:30.239
<v Speaker 1>and I think everyone has had all of them. And

0:34:30.280 --> 0:34:31.840
<v Speaker 1>I think everyone listening to this right.

0:34:31.719 --> 0:34:34.920
<v Speaker 3>Now knows exactly or has had a friend in this

0:34:35.000 --> 0:34:38.080
<v Speaker 3>situation before. I do think you talked to her before

0:34:38.120 --> 0:34:40.080
<v Speaker 3>you just abort mission that. I think you can say

0:34:40.320 --> 0:34:45.360
<v Speaker 3>you're the problem, it's not me.

0:34:45.640 --> 0:34:48.319
<v Speaker 5>If you actually can say that, like if she knows

0:34:48.320 --> 0:34:50.279
<v Speaker 5>that too, and she's talking about it, you have to say,

0:34:50.320 --> 0:34:52.759
<v Speaker 5>like this is this is going to keep happening to

0:34:52.800 --> 0:34:55.120
<v Speaker 5>you as long as you're aware, this will keep happening

0:34:55.160 --> 0:34:57.200
<v Speaker 5>over and over if you keep doing the same behavior

0:34:57.280 --> 0:34:59.520
<v Speaker 5>over and over and then it doesn't have to be

0:34:59.560 --> 0:35:00.480
<v Speaker 5>a big friend breakup.

0:35:00.520 --> 0:35:02.239
<v Speaker 3>But you can easily just pull back and not be

0:35:02.280 --> 0:35:03.600
<v Speaker 3>as available.

0:35:03.440 --> 0:35:06.480
<v Speaker 1>Like that's fine, Like, hey, we're adults now, everyone has

0:35:06.520 --> 0:35:08.960
<v Speaker 1>busy lives. He can say, hey, not available this week anymore.

0:35:08.960 --> 0:35:11.520
<v Speaker 1>Maybe catch you So maybe you catch ups a bit

0:35:11.520 --> 0:35:12.279
<v Speaker 1>more sporadic.

0:35:12.800 --> 0:35:14.600
<v Speaker 3>But at the end of the day, fuck no, it

0:35:14.800 --> 0:35:15.920
<v Speaker 3>doesn't make you a bad friend.

0:35:16.239 --> 0:35:18.080
<v Speaker 5>I think the only caveat that I want you to

0:35:18.080 --> 0:35:20.480
<v Speaker 5>be a little bit aware of is whether you're projecting

0:35:20.520 --> 0:35:24.200
<v Speaker 5>your own desires for relationship standards onto the other person.

0:35:24.880 --> 0:35:27.240
<v Speaker 5>And what I mean by that is, does this person

0:35:27.320 --> 0:35:30.640
<v Speaker 5>want a long term relationship but they're acting super chaotic,

0:35:30.719 --> 0:35:35.040
<v Speaker 5>they're accepting really toxic behavior. They're also doing really toxic behavior,

0:35:35.520 --> 0:35:37.840
<v Speaker 5>and they're wanting this fairy tale outcome.

0:35:38.440 --> 0:35:39.399
<v Speaker 2>That's incongruent.

0:35:40.080 --> 0:35:42.839
<v Speaker 5>But if they want to just be having fun and

0:35:42.960 --> 0:35:45.239
<v Speaker 5>dating and like, they don't want anything serious and they

0:35:45.239 --> 0:35:48.920
<v Speaker 5>don't want anything long term, then you kind of expecting

0:35:48.960 --> 0:35:50.840
<v Speaker 5>that that's what they want for their own life and

0:35:50.920 --> 0:35:54.799
<v Speaker 5>judging that choice and their behaviors towards it probably isn't

0:35:54.800 --> 0:35:55.839
<v Speaker 5>the right thing either.

0:35:56.080 --> 0:35:58.359
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but she does say she loves like the girl

0:35:58.440 --> 0:36:01.600
<v Speaker 1>says she loves red flags. Yeah, like she's in her

0:36:01.640 --> 0:36:05.080
<v Speaker 1>red flag era. Go queen, We've all had our red

0:36:05.120 --> 0:36:06.160
<v Speaker 1>flag era, but you.

0:36:06.160 --> 0:36:08.000
<v Speaker 2>Might be weren't aware that that's what it was.

0:36:08.480 --> 0:36:09.160
<v Speaker 3>But it's hard.

0:36:09.280 --> 0:36:11.200
<v Speaker 5>It's hard when you're in your red flag era and

0:36:11.239 --> 0:36:13.440
<v Speaker 5>everyone around you's in the green flag era, Like when

0:36:13.440 --> 0:36:17.000
<v Speaker 5>you've come through the cyclone of the red flag era

0:36:17.040 --> 0:36:17.880
<v Speaker 5>and you're out the other end.

0:36:17.880 --> 0:36:19.440
<v Speaker 3>It's hard to be in different places.

0:36:20.040 --> 0:36:22.840
<v Speaker 1>So let her do a thing, if that's what she's frothing,

0:36:22.920 --> 0:36:25.120
<v Speaker 1>then like, that's on her as long as as long

0:36:25.160 --> 0:36:26.560
<v Speaker 1>as she's happy in it.

0:36:26.800 --> 0:36:28.320
<v Speaker 2>But seems weird.

0:36:28.120 --> 0:36:30.040
<v Speaker 3>To be happy in the red flag era.

0:36:30.200 --> 0:36:32.080
<v Speaker 5>Some people get highs from it, like sometimes you get

0:36:32.080 --> 0:36:33.759
<v Speaker 5>the thrill from it, and I think that you kind

0:36:33.800 --> 0:36:35.640
<v Speaker 5>of hit the nail on the head. It depends on

0:36:35.680 --> 0:36:38.200
<v Speaker 5>whether she is making herself the victim in these situations

0:36:38.239 --> 0:36:40.200
<v Speaker 5>and whether she's making out that all this behavior is

0:36:40.200 --> 0:36:43.480
<v Speaker 5>happening to her she's so unlucky. Yes, she's not really

0:36:43.520 --> 0:36:46.040
<v Speaker 5>taking any accountability. To me, it screams of the type

0:36:46.040 --> 0:36:48.520
<v Speaker 5>of person who's like, I just didn't feel the spark

0:36:48.840 --> 0:36:53.719
<v Speaker 5>for anyone who is not super toxic. So it really

0:36:53.760 --> 0:36:55.319
<v Speaker 5>does depend on a couple of things. But I don't

0:36:55.360 --> 0:36:56.880
<v Speaker 5>think you're a bad friend for feeling this way. It

0:36:56.920 --> 0:36:58.800
<v Speaker 5>just sounds as though your values are different at the moment.

0:36:59.080 --> 0:37:00.719
<v Speaker 5>So take a little bit of a st back, don't

0:37:00.719 --> 0:37:02.360
<v Speaker 5>cut the friendship off completely, you know.

0:37:02.920 --> 0:37:04.400
<v Speaker 2>But yeah, like you said.

0:37:04.280 --> 0:37:07.480
<v Speaker 1>Sporadic, Yeah, sporadic, catchup at a movie where you can't

0:37:07.480 --> 0:37:13.359
<v Speaker 1>talk jokes, okay. Question number three, My family is going

0:37:13.400 --> 0:37:16.000
<v Speaker 1>on a big holiday for an entire week. I'm talking

0:37:16.040 --> 0:37:19.200
<v Speaker 1>about my sisters, their husbands and their kids, my parents

0:37:19.280 --> 0:37:23.560
<v Speaker 1>and me. Everyone's in like relationships and families. But I'm single.

0:37:25.280 --> 0:37:26.360
<v Speaker 1>I love you doing the math, thank you.

0:37:26.520 --> 0:37:28.440
<v Speaker 2>I'm counting them, like, how many people are we talking?

0:37:28.560 --> 0:37:30.880
<v Speaker 1>One of my sisters has been the arranger of the

0:37:31.040 --> 0:37:33.360
<v Speaker 1>entire trip. It was her idea, so she has booked

0:37:33.400 --> 0:37:36.360
<v Speaker 1>and budgeted everything and explained how much everything is costing

0:37:36.400 --> 0:37:38.799
<v Speaker 1>and how it's going to be split. Now it's coming

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<v Speaker 1>to the crushing time of paying everything and getting close

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<v Speaker 1>to us all going. But I'm starting to feel as

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<v Speaker 1>if things haven't been fairly budgeted.

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<v Speaker 3>What's your perspective.

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<v Speaker 1>We are three sisters helping to pay towards our parents' holiday. However,

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<v Speaker 1>two of us have partners also contributing this.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, bear with me.

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<v Speaker 1>Two of us have partners also contributing to the third

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<v Speaker 1>expected on each of our behalfs. Then there is me,

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<v Speaker 1>who has to support the whole third on my own.

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<v Speaker 3>There's a lot of mass here.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to do the math.

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<v Speaker 5>So there's sister one with a partner, so that's two people,

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<v Speaker 5>Sister two with a partner. That's four single sister who's

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<v Speaker 5>written the question in so that's five plus the parents

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<v Speaker 5>so seven people. Yeah, but the costs are split between

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<v Speaker 5>the three sisters.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>And in those three sisters, two are in a couple, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and one is alone.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I understand.

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<v Speaker 5>So her question is is this just the way the

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<v Speaker 5>cookie crumbles or should this actually be split by five

0:38:35.840 --> 0:38:42.080
<v Speaker 5>to include my sister's husbands? I I mean, oh, this

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<v Speaker 5>is just down to the family dynamic, because technically speaking, yes,

0:38:46.440 --> 0:38:50.120
<v Speaker 5>the husbands are part of the family, But is it

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<v Speaker 5>their responsibility to be paying when the sisters have said

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<v Speaker 5>let's cover our parents. I am leaning on Yes, I'm

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<v Speaker 5>actually lee and I think that this happens not just

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<v Speaker 5>with holidays. I think it happens with Christmas and birthday presence.

0:39:03.840 --> 0:39:06.799
<v Speaker 5>When you're the single one and the other people, like

0:39:06.800 --> 0:39:09.920
<v Speaker 5>your siblings are in couples, it's always like, hey, do

0:39:09.920 --> 0:39:11.600
<v Speaker 5>you want to get Mum and dadd a present? Or

0:39:11.640 --> 0:39:13.680
<v Speaker 5>do you want to get you know, Auntie blah blah

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<v Speaker 5>blah a present?

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<v Speaker 2>And it's split evenly between you and your sibling.

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<v Speaker 5>But your siblings in a partnership, and then you've got

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<v Speaker 5>to get them both birthday presents and Christmas presents, but

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<v Speaker 5>you only get one in return because it's a joint gifference,

0:39:25.040 --> 0:39:26.320
<v Speaker 5>like this is feeling very.

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<v Speaker 3>Personal from Keisha's behalf.

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<v Speaker 5>And sister in the way are very very generous, But

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<v Speaker 5>I think that this happened. This kind of like splitting

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<v Speaker 5>of money, happens within more dynamics than what just a

0:39:38.800 --> 0:39:42.920
<v Speaker 5>holiday would and I can firstly understand why you are

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<v Speaker 5>a bit miffed about this.

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<v Speaker 2>How weever, is.

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<v Speaker 5>It split evenly between the five of you to account

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<v Speaker 5>for the more cost towards your parents?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know if it's one of those situations where

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<v Speaker 5>it's like an even five because they're your parents and

0:39:59.400 --> 0:40:01.520
<v Speaker 5>your sister's parents, but they're not their parents.

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<v Speaker 3>Well that's why I mean. It depends on the family dynamic,

0:40:03.960 --> 0:40:06.080
<v Speaker 3>and it also depends on how.

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<v Speaker 1>Each individual couple does their finances, because whilst I think

0:40:10.280 --> 0:40:12.200
<v Speaker 1>the most healthy thing in a relationship is to be

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<v Speaker 1>sharing your finances, especially if you're married with kids, like

0:40:15.000 --> 0:40:17.680
<v Speaker 1>what's mine is yours, what's yours is mine? Not everyone

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<v Speaker 1>does that, but in this case, they're married with kids,

0:40:20.840 --> 0:40:23.239
<v Speaker 1>So these couples are locked and loaded. They're not newly dating,

0:40:23.280 --> 0:40:25.040
<v Speaker 1>because if they were newly dating, I'd be like fuck no,

0:40:25.360 --> 0:40:27.480
<v Speaker 1>like that's not on him, he's just coming to the family,

0:40:28.120 --> 0:40:32.040
<v Speaker 1>but they're settled, they got kids. I would probably expect

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<v Speaker 1>them to pay slightly more. Yes, that would be my answer,

0:40:35.800 --> 0:40:37.719
<v Speaker 1>and like that has happened before. I'm just trying to

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<v Speaker 1>think of myself with like Sharry and Jay, my sister

0:40:40.160 --> 0:40:43.120
<v Speaker 1>and her husband. When we've been going on just a

0:40:43.120 --> 0:40:45.040
<v Speaker 1>trip for the three of us, which we did loads.

0:40:45.640 --> 0:40:50.600
<v Speaker 1>We paid evenly thirds, like as individuals, not as their

0:40:50.640 --> 0:40:54.879
<v Speaker 1>couple and myself. So but that's just what suited us

0:40:54.920 --> 0:40:56.799
<v Speaker 1>and the way we were traveling. But I think if

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<v Speaker 1>this is a really big thing for you and upsetting you,

0:41:00.120 --> 0:41:02.319
<v Speaker 1>and maybe you're not financially in the position to do

0:41:02.360 --> 0:41:04.480
<v Speaker 1>that and to match what they are, you should have

0:41:04.560 --> 0:41:05.680
<v Speaker 1>that conversation with them.

0:41:06.040 --> 0:41:08.200
<v Speaker 3>But I just think it's probably one of those conversations

0:41:08.200 --> 0:41:10.759
<v Speaker 3>moving forward that you need to have before you lock

0:41:10.840 --> 0:41:12.680
<v Speaker 3>it in and pay for it, so that you say, hey,

0:41:12.760 --> 0:41:16.040
<v Speaker 3>I think that you know, you guys might need to

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<v Speaker 3>put a little bit more in for this reason. Are

0:41:18.239 --> 0:41:20.399
<v Speaker 3>you guys happy with that? I don't know if it's

0:41:20.560 --> 0:41:21.399
<v Speaker 3>the conversation you.

0:41:21.360 --> 0:41:23.759
<v Speaker 1>Have after the fact, after you've made the plans and

0:41:23.800 --> 0:41:26.319
<v Speaker 1>everyone's paid, and it's you know, she's paid and it's

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<v Speaker 1>time to pay up.

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<v Speaker 5>I think it's a bit too late to have that conversation.

0:41:30.600 --> 0:41:31.440
<v Speaker 5>You could have it.

0:41:31.640 --> 0:41:34.200
<v Speaker 1>You could pay it now and have the conversation to say, hey,

0:41:34.239 --> 0:41:36.560
<v Speaker 1>moving forward, I think would you guys be happy if

0:41:36.560 --> 0:41:38.719
<v Speaker 1>we were splitting it a bit more evenly between.

0:41:38.440 --> 0:41:38.840
<v Speaker 2>All of us.

0:41:39.239 --> 0:41:41.920
<v Speaker 5>I think it also depends on your relationship with your sisters,

0:41:42.400 --> 0:41:43.120
<v Speaker 5>because I've just.

0:41:43.040 --> 0:41:45.120
<v Speaker 2>Been doing the math in my head. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>Love that not my strongest point, but I think what

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<v Speaker 5>would be deemed fair is you work out the cost

0:41:53.320 --> 0:41:57.160
<v Speaker 5>of the trip in seven portions, because that's each person,

0:41:58.560 --> 0:42:02.920
<v Speaker 5>and then you split the cost of your parents between

0:42:02.920 --> 0:42:05.759
<v Speaker 5>the three of you. So you split those two portions

0:42:05.800 --> 0:42:09.400
<v Speaker 5>by the three of you, and therefore the partners are

0:42:09.400 --> 0:42:12.960
<v Speaker 5>paying for their share in the holiday, but you guys,

0:42:13.080 --> 0:42:15.920
<v Speaker 5>as the siblings, are covering the costs of the parents.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, if that could work ish.

0:42:17.360 --> 0:42:19.680
<v Speaker 5>I like that. It is a lot of math, and

0:42:19.719 --> 0:42:22.480
<v Speaker 5>I don't know whether it's like achievable or if it's realistic,

0:42:23.000 --> 0:42:26.520
<v Speaker 5>but I do think that in these situations, it's also

0:42:26.640 --> 0:42:29.120
<v Speaker 5>kind of up to your sisters to acknowledge the fact

0:42:29.120 --> 0:42:32.160
<v Speaker 5>that that's not fair to you to be split like

0:42:32.200 --> 0:42:34.640
<v Speaker 5>to be putting in so much more, and you know

0:42:34.800 --> 0:42:36.000
<v Speaker 5>you're gonna get the ship room.

0:42:36.080 --> 0:42:37.960
<v Speaker 1>I was about to say, you're on the fucking trundle.

0:42:38.080 --> 0:42:40.240
<v Speaker 1>You are on the trundle. You don't have a bathroom,

0:42:40.320 --> 0:42:41.400
<v Speaker 1>You've got the portal.

0:42:42.400 --> 0:42:44.759
<v Speaker 2>You just know that that's a situation that's going to

0:42:44.800 --> 0:42:45.320
<v Speaker 2>play out.

0:42:45.400 --> 0:42:45.520
<v Speaker 3>Well.

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<v Speaker 5>It's sort of like the equivalent of if you went

0:42:48.360 --> 0:42:52.160
<v Speaker 5>to dinner with them and you all paid evenly even.

0:42:52.000 --> 0:42:53.000
<v Speaker 3>Though they ate double.

0:42:53.360 --> 0:42:54.319
<v Speaker 2>That happens all the time.

0:42:54.400 --> 0:42:57.359
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's what I mean. But even then, but even then,

0:42:57.560 --> 0:42:59.359
<v Speaker 3>most of the time, when you're at dinner, you'd be like, well,

0:42:59.360 --> 0:43:03.319
<v Speaker 3>you guys ate, so you pay doubles, do you like?

0:43:03.560 --> 0:43:05.680
<v Speaker 2>I just think when it comes to splitting money, it

0:43:05.719 --> 0:43:06.560
<v Speaker 2>can be such an.

0:43:06.440 --> 0:43:09.800
<v Speaker 5>Awkward situation, and especially if you're not like super tight

0:43:09.840 --> 0:43:11.640
<v Speaker 5>with your sisters and you don't want to look like

0:43:11.680 --> 0:43:12.680
<v Speaker 5>you're the stingy one.

0:43:13.120 --> 0:43:14.440
<v Speaker 2>Especially if this was like your.

0:43:14.320 --> 0:43:16.280
<v Speaker 5>Idea to go on the holiday and you know, shout

0:43:16.320 --> 0:43:18.479
<v Speaker 5>your parents and kind of have the mixed Like you said,

0:43:18.480 --> 0:43:19.680
<v Speaker 5>I think it's going to be a hard thing to

0:43:19.719 --> 0:43:20.760
<v Speaker 5>bring up after the fact.

0:43:20.880 --> 0:43:23.000
<v Speaker 3>It wasn't it was the other sister's idea. It was

0:43:23.040 --> 0:43:26.000
<v Speaker 3>a sister who planned and budgeted. It was her idea, which.

0:43:25.760 --> 0:43:27.360
<v Speaker 2>She's quite the genius.

0:43:27.160 --> 0:43:28.720
<v Speaker 3>She's the rich one.

0:43:29.360 --> 0:43:30.920
<v Speaker 2>She's getting the discave holiday.

0:43:31.000 --> 0:43:33.200
<v Speaker 3>She knows what's up. She's gone exactly where she wants

0:43:33.200 --> 0:43:33.760
<v Speaker 3>to for cheaper.

0:43:33.960 --> 0:43:34.240
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:43:34.320 --> 0:43:35.960
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I don't think it's fair that you split this

0:43:36.000 --> 0:43:39.719
<v Speaker 5>by three when there's seven people going and unless you

0:43:39.760 --> 0:43:42.160
<v Speaker 5>can bring a friend, can you bring a friend and

0:43:42.200 --> 0:43:45.400
<v Speaker 5>then like you're the friends, Nah, you can't. A friend's

0:43:45.400 --> 0:43:47.400
<v Speaker 5>not gone on a family holiday with kids and your

0:43:47.440 --> 0:43:48.960
<v Speaker 5>sister's husbands and your parents.

0:43:49.480 --> 0:43:50.280
<v Speaker 3>They're not twelve.

0:43:51.680 --> 0:43:54.400
<v Speaker 2>Maybe you want someone there to share the experiences with you.

0:43:54.600 --> 0:43:57.160
<v Speaker 3>I'm sure she does want someone there. Keisha thin Ice.

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