1 00:00:00,280 --> 00:00:03,440 Speaker 1: This is a Will and Woody podcast mini but when 2 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:04,120 Speaker 1: you're in a rush. 3 00:00:04,200 --> 00:00:05,840 Speaker 2: But I actually want to talk a little bit about 4 00:00:05,880 --> 00:00:08,560 Speaker 2: something that happened on Maths. I think this was Sunday night. 5 00:00:08,600 --> 00:00:11,520 Speaker 2: That this happened on Monday night on Maths, and it's 6 00:00:11,560 --> 00:00:13,000 Speaker 2: in and round and this is this is really what 7 00:00:13,000 --> 00:00:15,000 Speaker 2: I want to talk about. Do we need to change 8 00:00:15,040 --> 00:00:17,560 Speaker 2: the way that we talk about people. 9 00:00:17,320 --> 00:00:20,480 Speaker 1: We've slept with. I'll let the audio do the talking 10 00:00:20,520 --> 00:00:21,120 Speaker 1: in this instance. 11 00:00:21,160 --> 00:00:24,000 Speaker 2: Have listen, Well, I thought, like, what week two, when 12 00:00:24,040 --> 00:00:26,400 Speaker 2: you're in my apartment in front of all of us. 13 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:28,200 Speaker 3: Girls saying that Jack pick up? 14 00:00:28,240 --> 00:00:31,680 Speaker 2: You're right because too quickly the same all those awful 15 00:00:31,720 --> 00:00:33,159 Speaker 2: things about your husband. 16 00:00:34,479 --> 00:00:40,240 Speaker 1: Is completely wrong. How about that Spirra thought for Jack? 17 00:00:40,400 --> 00:00:43,320 Speaker 1: I mean that is my heart absolutely bleeds for Jack. 18 00:00:43,320 --> 00:00:46,640 Speaker 2: Look when I prefer to heard that, I was like, 19 00:00:47,640 --> 00:00:51,159 Speaker 2: I just couldn't believe that. Well, first of all, that 20 00:00:51,240 --> 00:00:54,440 Speaker 2: she said it to her other mate. Yeah, so I 21 00:00:54,440 --> 00:00:57,880 Speaker 2: think it's Dom says it to Olivia in the first instance. 22 00:00:57,600 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 1: I lose the names, but yeah, she could find someone 23 00:00:59,800 --> 00:01:00,720 Speaker 1: if so. 24 00:01:00,720 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 2: In the first instance, Okay, do you tell a friend 25 00:01:03,160 --> 00:01:06,160 Speaker 2: of yours that a bloke arrives too quickly maybe. 26 00:01:06,720 --> 00:01:08,560 Speaker 3: I think maybe if it's done in the right tone, 27 00:01:08,959 --> 00:01:11,200 Speaker 3: as in, this is a problem. Have you experienced this 28 00:01:11,280 --> 00:01:13,319 Speaker 3: problem before? Because I want to work through it. I 29 00:01:13,319 --> 00:01:16,640 Speaker 3: think confide in a friend about that stuff. Yeah, okay, yeah, 30 00:01:16,680 --> 00:01:18,920 Speaker 3: you're right. I think if there's a problem, solving thing 31 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:19,520 Speaker 3: about it. 32 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:21,560 Speaker 2: But I think, like you know, at the heart of 33 00:01:21,600 --> 00:01:24,800 Speaker 2: all mental health issues, particularly with dudes, is shame. 34 00:01:25,400 --> 00:01:27,840 Speaker 1: And if there's any sense of the fact that there 35 00:01:27,880 --> 00:01:28,319 Speaker 1: are other. 36 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:33,280 Speaker 2: People talking about them in that way, the problem is compounded. 37 00:01:34,200 --> 00:01:37,880 Speaker 3: And like if Jack found out, even if Jack found 38 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:40,240 Speaker 3: out that she was confined in just one friend, yes, 39 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:42,479 Speaker 3: that would be enough to destroy it, get in. 40 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:44,200 Speaker 2: His mind and going yeah, and so she's ruining an 41 00:01:44,200 --> 00:01:47,040 Speaker 2: experience for herself. And the funny thing is when we 42 00:01:47,080 --> 00:01:49,920 Speaker 2: talk about blokes arriving too quickly, like all things men 43 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 2: are scared of. I haven't met a single guy who 44 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:56,680 Speaker 2: doesn't make a joke about itact is the first joke 45 00:01:56,760 --> 00:01:58,880 Speaker 2: that men will go to if anything happens too quickly 46 00:01:58,920 --> 00:02:01,520 Speaker 2: at all, men clamber over each other to make it, 47 00:02:01,560 --> 00:02:04,120 Speaker 2: to make a prem joke. It's just like, oh my god, 48 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:06,080 Speaker 2: how can I make this normal? You and I were 49 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:08,880 Speaker 2: just hosting Ninja Warrior, and for a lot of pretty 50 00:02:08,919 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 2: much nearly all of them. I don't know whoever's in 51 00:02:11,240 --> 00:02:13,000 Speaker 2: the editing suite of Ninjaworrior, they'll have to cut out 52 00:02:13,040 --> 00:02:15,080 Speaker 2: all these gags. But all the blokes that fell off 53 00:02:15,120 --> 00:02:17,280 Speaker 2: the course quickly or finished with a quick time would 54 00:02:17,280 --> 00:02:21,480 Speaker 2: pretty much without fail turn to you and I and go, oh, 55 00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:22,480 Speaker 2: I've done things faster. 56 00:02:22,680 --> 00:02:23,400 Speaker 1: Just ask my wife. 57 00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:26,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, it was like clockwork, and it was hilarious the 58 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:28,200 Speaker 3: first time, but forty forty five times in you were 59 00:02:28,200 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 3: going Jesus Christ. 60 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:29,680 Speaker 1: Guys. Yea. 61 00:02:30,480 --> 00:02:32,520 Speaker 2: So they're obviously joking about it because it is so 62 00:02:33,040 --> 00:02:35,960 Speaker 2: confronting for them and they need to well, just in general, 63 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:38,200 Speaker 2: it's just this thing that we needed, we need to air, 64 00:02:38,320 --> 00:02:40,000 Speaker 2: to try and relax into. 65 00:02:39,919 --> 00:02:42,720 Speaker 1: A little bit. But the point is, and I only 66 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:43,240 Speaker 1: ever hear it. 67 00:02:43,160 --> 00:02:46,040 Speaker 2: From guys who are like blind drunk a lot of 68 00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:48,280 Speaker 2: the time that they've got an issue or they're worried 69 00:02:48,280 --> 00:02:51,760 Speaker 2: about it in some way, is that it is actually 70 00:02:51,880 --> 00:02:54,520 Speaker 2: very confronting. Like if you took away the number one 71 00:02:55,320 --> 00:02:58,440 Speaker 2: reason that somebody is genetically put on the planet for, 72 00:02:59,120 --> 00:03:02,400 Speaker 2: that's terrifying for a lot of guys. You take away 73 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:04,560 Speaker 2: that number one thing, and then to know that people 74 00:03:04,560 --> 00:03:06,240 Speaker 2: are talking about it behind your back. 75 00:03:06,880 --> 00:03:08,919 Speaker 1: As I said, I just think it's the wrong way 76 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:11,160 Speaker 1: to go about it. And I think the thing that annoyed. 77 00:03:10,800 --> 00:03:13,119 Speaker 2: Me about the audio that we just heard there, which 78 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:15,960 Speaker 2: is you know, Olivia revealing to everybody that you know 79 00:03:16,360 --> 00:03:18,840 Speaker 2: that's what Dom thought about Jack that he was too 80 00:03:18,919 --> 00:03:22,720 Speaker 2: quick in the bedroom, is that if her goal in 81 00:03:22,800 --> 00:03:26,400 Speaker 2: sleeping with him was to get her rocks off, then 82 00:03:27,000 --> 00:03:29,560 Speaker 2: why didn't she talk to him about it? 83 00:03:30,040 --> 00:03:30,600 Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean? 84 00:03:30,639 --> 00:03:32,160 Speaker 3: Because the other things you can do, By the way, 85 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:33,720 Speaker 3: I don't mean to go down to the nuts and. 86 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:36,560 Speaker 1: It's two blokes handcuffed and leather handcuffs. 87 00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:38,600 Speaker 2: Maybe we should maybe we shouldn't get into the nuts 88 00:03:38,600 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 2: and boss there. 89 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:43,680 Speaker 3: Are and I don't want to show you know too 90 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:48,000 Speaker 3: much knowledge here, but gels you can get there. I'm 91 00:03:48,040 --> 00:03:49,160 Speaker 3: just saying there's a lot of things you can do 92 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:51,200 Speaker 3: to work through it with your partner. It's just such 93 00:03:51,200 --> 00:03:53,320 Speaker 3: a shame that I think what, as you said earlier, 94 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:55,800 Speaker 3: the difficulty they'll have getting past it now is that 95 00:03:55,880 --> 00:03:57,480 Speaker 3: you told a whole bunch of people that. 96 00:03:57,760 --> 00:04:00,400 Speaker 2: One hundred percent, one hundred percent you spend less time 97 00:04:00,480 --> 00:04:03,560 Speaker 2: ragging on him and more time talking to him about 98 00:04:04,240 --> 00:04:07,640 Speaker 2: about how he can actually achieve that goal with you. 99 00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:09,760 Speaker 2: And I think the other thing is if if that's 100 00:04:09,760 --> 00:04:14,320 Speaker 2: all sex is for you getting to that point, I 101 00:04:14,400 --> 00:04:16,320 Speaker 2: feel like it took me a long time, or at 102 00:04:16,440 --> 00:04:18,839 Speaker 2: least being with someone long enough for them to like 103 00:04:19,120 --> 00:04:21,599 Speaker 2: a woman, to actually say to me, Hey, I don't 104 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:22,360 Speaker 2: always want that. 105 00:04:22,600 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 3: It's not about the destination, it's about the journey. 106 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:27,560 Speaker 2: Well often it's yeah, and I just can't be bothered. 107 00:04:28,800 --> 00:04:33,520 Speaker 2: It's just not going to happen. It's not going to 108 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:35,840 Speaker 2: happen this afternoon or the evening or this evening or 109 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:38,440 Speaker 2: whatever it is. But I needed to hear that, yeah, Yeah, 110 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:40,200 Speaker 2: And I think a lot of guys do need to 111 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:40,560 Speaker 2: hear that. 112 00:04:40,880 --> 00:04:42,440 Speaker 1: And I just wanted to raise that on the show 113 00:04:42,480 --> 00:04:43,440 Speaker 1: today because that. 114 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:46,200 Speaker 2: Audio was just just hit me right between the eyes 115 00:04:46,200 --> 00:04:49,000 Speaker 2: and just reminded me of the amount of young blokes 116 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:51,880 Speaker 2: or even older folks who are running around feeling awful 117 00:04:51,880 --> 00:04:55,400 Speaker 2: about themselves and not achieving in the bedroom because they're 118 00:04:55,400 --> 00:04:57,560 Speaker 2: not getting the right advice when the people they're sleeping with. 119 00:04:57,760 --> 00:04:59,360 Speaker 3: Or women think they need to fake it as well 120 00:05:00,200 --> 00:05:03,840 Speaker 3: side because they're going you're gonna feel terrible fake it, 121 00:05:03,880 --> 00:05:05,840 Speaker 3: and then that's a terrible lie that you're starting between 122 00:05:05,880 --> 00:05:08,440 Speaker 3: two people, which breaks down intimacy between the two of Yeah. 123 00:05:08,240 --> 00:05:11,120 Speaker 1: Exactly right. Personally, I wouldn't know what a faking person 124 00:05:11,160 --> 00:05:11,880 Speaker 1: looks like. Woods. 125 00:05:11,880 --> 00:05:16,960 Speaker 2: But let me tell you, my friend, if you guys 126 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:18,599 Speaker 2: were interested in what we were just talking about then, 127 00:05:18,640 --> 00:05:22,560 Speaker 2: which is blokes arriving too quickly and how damaging that 128 00:05:22,720 --> 00:05:25,040 Speaker 2: is to sort of be gossiping about other people in 129 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:28,360 Speaker 2: the bedroom behind their backs. Obviously off that wild audio 130 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:31,640 Speaker 2: from Maths the other night when Olivia said to Dom, 131 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:33,719 Speaker 2: I actually don't even know if you can play it again. 132 00:05:33,720 --> 00:05:34,640 Speaker 1: It was so confronting. 133 00:05:35,040 --> 00:05:37,360 Speaker 2: Anyway, head along to Honey dot nine, dot com dot you. 134 00:05:37,360 --> 00:05:39,520 Speaker 2: I've written an article all about what we were just 135 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:41,440 Speaker 2: talking about. Then if you're interested in that, or if 136 00:05:41,440 --> 00:05:43,160 Speaker 2: you go onto William Woody on the Socials, there'll be 137 00:05:43,160 --> 00:05:44,640 Speaker 2: a link up in our stories if you want to 138 00:05:44,640 --> 00:05:46,000 Speaker 2: click through to the article yourself. 139 00:05:46,120 --> 00:05:48,960 Speaker 3: Him more of the boys on the Full Show podcast. 140 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:50,279 Speaker 1: You know you want to