WEBVTT - Step aside Only Fans it's Matty J's Only feet 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:05.280 Life Uncut podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:07.720 Australia and their connections to land. 0:00:07.520 --> 0:00:08.600 Sea and community. 0:00:08.960 --> 0:00:11.760 We pay our respect to their elders past and present 0:00:11.840 --> 0:00:14.960 and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait 0:00:14.960 --> 0:00:16.120 islander peoples today. 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:19.560 This episode is recorded on Gaddigal Land of the Aurora Nation. 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:43.279 Hi guys, Anna, welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:43.640 --> 0:00:49.240 My name's my name's Laura, and Matt is sitting across 0:00:49.240 --> 0:00:52.400 from me imitating me making faces and this is just 0:00:52.479 --> 0:00:53.440 going to be a shit show. 0:00:53.840 --> 0:00:55.880 I have said this before. I like to be referred 0:00:55.920 --> 0:00:56.720 to as Matty J. 0:00:57.360 --> 0:00:57.800 Matty J. 0:00:58.360 --> 0:00:58.640 Matt. 0:00:58.960 --> 0:01:02.000 Sorry, I feel like we're close enough that I can 0:01:02.120 --> 0:01:05.400 use your abbreviated name by now absolutely not Maddy Jay 0:01:05.520 --> 0:01:07.920 is joining us on the podcast, and here we have 0:01:08.280 --> 0:01:12.600 a man, a man, a completely unqualified man, but still 0:01:12.600 --> 0:01:15.120 a man to answer all of your questions from a 0:01:15.200 --> 0:01:16.240 male's perspective. 0:01:16.480 --> 0:01:19.160 What an intro here, I am. Thank you so much, Laura, 0:01:19.200 --> 0:01:20.360 it's very kind of you. 0:01:20.360 --> 0:01:23.160 You are wait I'll start again. The love of my 0:01:23.280 --> 0:01:27.640 life yep, the better half, my better half, specifically, the 0:01:27.720 --> 0:01:30.240 smelliest man in this house. There we go, Maddie J. 0:01:30.840 --> 0:01:33.000 You're not wrong. It's great to be here, Laura, thank 0:01:33.040 --> 0:01:36.320 you so much for having me. I love answering these questions. 0:01:36.560 --> 0:01:38.839 This is my favorite episode to fill in on life 0:01:38.840 --> 0:01:39.280 on cut. 0:01:39.480 --> 0:01:41.680 Did you get any specifically, because I know that you 0:01:41.720 --> 0:01:43.440 did a bit of a caller on your social media 0:01:43.480 --> 0:01:46.080 as well, were there any that really stood out? 0:01:47.240 --> 0:01:49.800 To be honest? I would say ninety percent of the 0:01:49.880 --> 0:01:53.520 questions that were submitted on Instagram were all about people 0:01:53.560 --> 0:01:55.680 wanting to know about the foot mold that we did, 0:01:56.160 --> 0:01:58.000 Like did we get foot cramps when we did the 0:01:58.000 --> 0:02:00.360 foot mold? What would we have done if the kids 0:02:00.360 --> 0:02:02.960 had worken up like whilst we're mid because we had 0:02:02.960 --> 0:02:05.279 to stay in that little five minutes old for five minutes. 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:06.640 It was Yeah, it was a risky It was a 0:02:06.720 --> 0:02:08.560 risky thing. If you don't know what we're talking about, 0:02:08.639 --> 0:02:12.680 you can jump onto Instagram. We created the possibly the 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:14.640 weirdest piece of content that's ever existed. 0:02:14.800 --> 0:02:17.280 Do you know who actually reached out was because I 0:02:17.320 --> 0:02:21.040 bought this off Amazon. It was about sixty bucks. It's 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:23.040 a hand mold that you know, you make a cast 0:02:23.040 --> 0:02:25.040 of your hands holding together. 0:02:24.919 --> 0:02:27.800 Like a beautiful keepsake a cast of your hands, Except 0:02:27.960 --> 0:02:30.600 Matt has been wanting to do this for weeks, Like 0:02:30.639 --> 0:02:33.560 he bought this mold casting kit of Amazon weeks and 0:02:33.560 --> 0:02:34.840 weeks ago and he. 0:02:35.280 --> 0:02:37.560 Schooling, You're like, oh no, I'm tired, I'm busy tonight. 0:02:37.680 --> 0:02:40.839 He made me link TOES with him, which anyone who 0:02:40.960 --> 0:02:42.400 kind of has a foot a version is going to 0:02:42.400 --> 0:02:44.720 hate this part that we linked Toes and we made 0:02:44.720 --> 0:02:46.560 a foot mold together and now it is sitting on 0:02:46.639 --> 0:02:48.919 our mantlepiece for all of our guests to be repulsive. 0:02:48.919 --> 0:02:51.720 It's beautiful. The company who actually make it's an Australian 0:02:51.760 --> 0:02:54.560 company who make that foot mold package thing. They read 0:02:54.639 --> 0:02:57.160 message and said, we've never seen anybody do this, but 0:02:57.200 --> 0:03:00.520 thank you so much. We think I listen, Yeah, it's 0:03:00.560 --> 0:03:01.480 really really kind of you. 0:03:01.639 --> 0:03:03.920 It's always good to get a very lukewarm bit of 0:03:03.919 --> 0:03:04.959 gratitude from someone. 0:03:05.120 --> 0:03:07.119 But I highly recommend it anyone out there who wants 0:03:07.160 --> 0:03:10.440 to kill some time, do something weird beautiful keepsake foot 0:03:10.440 --> 0:03:13.200 molds and you know what, you might think it's disgusting, 0:03:13.240 --> 0:03:16.120 but I actually had someone offer me in amount of 0:03:16.160 --> 0:03:17.440 money for photos of my feet. 0:03:17.760 --> 0:03:20.520 How much money were they offering should we start an 0:03:20.520 --> 0:03:21.000 only feet? 0:03:21.160 --> 0:03:23.400 Well, I wasn't actually considering it, but I was just 0:03:23.440 --> 0:03:25.440 intrigued to know, like, what's my market value? 0:03:25.560 --> 0:03:27.440 How far did you take it? Did you write back 0:03:27.480 --> 0:03:29.160 and say how much will you pay for photos of 0:03:29.200 --> 0:03:29.480 my feet? 0:03:29.560 --> 0:03:30.640 Yeah? I said what's your budget? 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:31.440 And what do they say? 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:33.000 And they say, well, how much do you want? 0:03:33.360 --> 0:03:34.920 And I was like, oh, I got your price. 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:36.760 It was hard because I didn't know what the you know, 0:03:36.760 --> 0:03:39.440 what the standard price is. They only wanted photos of 0:03:39.520 --> 0:03:42.400 my soul, not mouthul toes, which is a good thing, 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:44.200 because you know, my big toe is so big, it's 0:03:44.200 --> 0:03:46.240 like weirdly enlarged. I used to lie to people when 0:03:46.240 --> 0:03:48.280 I was a kid and say I broke both big toes, 0:03:48.280 --> 0:03:49.520 which is why they're so big. 0:03:50.200 --> 0:03:53.480 Matt has a particularly bulbous big toe, so big, it's 0:03:53.480 --> 0:03:58.360 not the only thing that's bulbous. Okay, Laura, please, So 0:03:58.400 --> 0:04:01.120 how much money can you make from selling foot picks? 0:04:01.160 --> 0:04:03.360 Did you actually get a did you get an amount? 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:04.440 Did you drill it down? 0:04:04.520 --> 0:04:06.760 Look, I'm glad you asked, so I responded, I said, 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:08.800 what's your budget? They said, how much do you want if. 0:04:08.640 --> 0:04:10.840 You're only showing part of the foot. Do they get 0:04:10.840 --> 0:04:12.960 a discount with like, no toes, just the soul? 0:04:13.280 --> 0:04:16.240 Well, I would give a full soul plus toes. I 0:04:16.279 --> 0:04:19.680 would give them the package. And I didn't write back, 0:04:19.720 --> 0:04:21.360 which was kind of good. A good tactic is to 0:04:21.360 --> 0:04:23.400 play hard to get, because then they came back and said, look, 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:24.760 I'll give you two fifty. 0:04:24.480 --> 0:04:25.680 For one photo of your foot. 0:04:25.760 --> 0:04:28.080 I think it was for one photo. Maybe, I'm not sure. 0:04:28.120 --> 0:04:30.440 If it's expected that you at least send three or 0:04:30.480 --> 0:04:33.239 four didn't confirm. But then I wrote back and said, 0:04:33.720 --> 0:04:34.960 not for me, thanks very much. 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:36.719 Are you telling me we could have made two hundred 0:04:36.720 --> 0:04:38.400 and fifty dollars all you had to do was send 0:04:38.400 --> 0:04:41.320 photos of your feet? Yeah, well I thought we were doing. 0:04:41.360 --> 0:04:42.880 After this episode, they're not. 0:04:42.839 --> 0:04:45.200 Even that good the fee. I would feel bad charging 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:47.640 two fifty. I was almost just going to send them 0:04:47.640 --> 0:04:49.360 off and just be like, hey, look, don't worry about 0:04:49.360 --> 0:04:51.400 the money, just enjoy this. This one's on me. 0:04:52.320 --> 0:04:54.400 Reel them in with a little like a little taste test, 0:04:54.640 --> 0:04:56.360 and then maybe you can up your price if they 0:04:56.360 --> 0:04:58.359 do like it and want more after that. It is 0:04:58.520 --> 0:05:01.679 very tempting not here to yuck anyone's young. I understand 0:05:01.720 --> 0:05:03.840 that I like feet. Yeah, I mean, I have nothing 0:05:03.839 --> 0:05:05.760 against feet. I'm not someone who has a foot version. 0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:08.039 But it is a bold ass just to slide into 0:05:08.040 --> 0:05:10.919 someone's DMS and say we don't have any connection, you 0:05:10.960 --> 0:05:12.960 don't know me, but I will give you two hundred 0:05:13.000 --> 0:05:14.520 and fifty dollars for a picture of your feet. 0:05:14.600 --> 0:05:16.159 That's good money. I'd like to think that that's a 0:05:16.160 --> 0:05:17.200 really premium price. 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:19.200 I like to think that this is a new savings 0:05:19.240 --> 0:05:20.560 plan for us in a way that we can make 0:05:20.560 --> 0:05:22.279 a little bit of income on the side. I will 0:05:22.360 --> 0:05:23.400 hold those feed out. 0:05:23.560 --> 0:05:25.680 Hey, social media starts to slow down a little bit. 0:05:25.720 --> 0:05:27.359 That's the root I'm going to take You are a 0:05:27.400 --> 0:05:30.520 content creator. Actually, speaking of content, what a segue that 0:05:30.680 --> 0:05:33.760 was you Recently, If anyone hasn't seen, there is an 0:05:33.800 --> 0:05:36.280 Instagram post that Matt created it is I mean, it's 0:05:36.279 --> 0:05:38.680 a little bit blasphemous. It didn't get the best feedback 0:05:38.960 --> 0:05:39.760 from some people. 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:41.799 You few Christians out there were a little bit angry, 0:05:41.800 --> 0:05:42.160 which I. 0:05:42.160 --> 0:05:44.839 Understand, totally understand. We dressed up as Adam and Eve 0:05:45.440 --> 0:05:48.640 and it was all around. How unfortunately women got the 0:05:48.640 --> 0:05:50.040 short straw, like we truly did. 0:05:50.080 --> 0:05:51.160 It's so unfair we. 0:05:51.160 --> 0:05:54.600 Get when we got periods, we got childbirth, we got menopause. 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:56.040 There is a lot of things. 0:05:55.839 --> 0:05:57.560 We can pay. I mean, we could go on and on, 0:05:57.680 --> 0:05:58.200 and that is. 0:05:58.160 --> 0:06:01.239 What the skid is about. Now. Matt, when he creates 0:06:01.279 --> 0:06:04.080 these skits, he always scripts them out, and you would 0:06:04.080 --> 0:06:05.760 think that a lot of them are kind of free flowing, 0:06:05.760 --> 0:06:07.839 but there's a lot of work and time and energy 0:06:07.920 --> 0:06:09.360 and comedy that goes into it. 0:06:09.440 --> 0:06:11.400 Thank you very much for acknowledging my hard work. 0:06:11.600 --> 0:06:13.720 And we have to keep it all under a one minute. 0:06:13.760 --> 0:06:16.960 So Matt had scripted out the conversation that went between 0:06:17.440 --> 0:06:20.800 God essentially and Adam and Eve. And one of the 0:06:20.800 --> 0:06:22.720 things that God said to Adam and Eve in this 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:24.440 skit was well, I. 0:06:24.400 --> 0:06:27.640 Wasn't sure this part. Now. I rode tested it on 0:06:27.720 --> 0:06:29.479 Laura because I wasn't sure if it was too crass. 0:06:29.480 --> 0:06:30.480 I was like, can I put this in there? 0:06:30.480 --> 0:06:32.839 I'm sure it was God speaking to Eve and he 0:06:32.960 --> 0:06:36.480 was like, and Adam won't be able to find your glitterus. 0:06:37.080 --> 0:06:39.200 This is what it was written down. It was typed up, 0:06:39.600 --> 0:06:42.039 but Matt was reading it out to me aloud, and 0:06:42.080 --> 0:06:45.400 I would love for you to kind of just let's 0:06:45.480 --> 0:06:49.360 role play this reenact exactly how you said it, I. 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:54.480 Said, and Adam won't be able to find your Cletoris? 0:06:55.440 --> 0:06:55.719 Sorry? 0:06:55.720 --> 0:06:57.000 My what Cletaoris? 0:06:57.440 --> 0:06:57.640 Sorry? 0:06:57.680 --> 0:07:00.360 Which I now. 0:06:59.880 --> 0:07:05.200 Know is the dinosaur that's in my vagina, My Cletorus. 0:07:05.520 --> 0:07:10.400 It's coming for us. Run scene from Jurassic Park, this 0:07:10.600 --> 0:07:12.760 giant clatorus jomping down the road. 0:07:13.840 --> 0:07:16.080 It was only last week that I discovered that my 0:07:16.200 --> 0:07:18.840 thirty five year old soon to be husband, not only 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:21.520 can most men not find the clitterists, but there are 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:24.200 some who don't know how to even pronounce the word. 0:07:25.760 --> 0:07:27.200 It's a hard word to say. 0:07:27.640 --> 0:07:28.200 Say it now. 0:07:28.760 --> 0:07:31.320 I just want to say clatorus in my head, that's 0:07:31.360 --> 0:07:34.960 how it's pronounced clitteris. Surely there's other men out there. 0:07:35.480 --> 0:07:38.040 You said it with such conviction that I found myself 0:07:38.120 --> 0:07:41.120 googling what is the correct way to say clitterous? I 0:07:41.160 --> 0:07:42.640 was like, have I been saying it wrong? 0:07:42.640 --> 0:07:45.560 With these years? Can I blame everybody else out there 0:07:45.560 --> 0:07:47.000 who has never once corrected me? 0:07:47.360 --> 0:07:49.160 How many times do you think that you've hooked up 0:07:49.160 --> 0:07:50.720 with girls in the past? And you were like, there's 0:07:50.720 --> 0:07:53.880 your cladoras, Omaha, there it has. 0:07:54.800 --> 0:07:56.600 My whole life, I've always been like, why are they 0:07:56.680 --> 0:07:58.280 calling this weird face? I thought I was doing a 0:07:58.320 --> 0:08:00.840 good job. Yeah, look that was so good. I admit it. 0:08:01.200 --> 0:08:03.480 I've learned. I've moved on. I'm learning. You're never too 0:08:03.520 --> 0:08:04.360 old to learn, Laura. 0:08:04.520 --> 0:08:07.120 Every day is a school day, That's what they say. 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:09.840 But general what else? I feel really validated by this. 0:08:10.240 --> 0:08:13.440 There is a study that spoke volumes to me. Not 0:08:13.480 --> 0:08:16.119 only did it speak volumes to me, but so many 0:08:16.160 --> 0:08:18.480 of you sent it to me. Now, I have said 0:08:18.600 --> 0:08:21.080 so many times on this podcast that one of the 0:08:21.120 --> 0:08:24.840 most arousing things for me that if you, Maddie Jay, 0:08:25.200 --> 0:08:27.360 want to get me into the sack, all you have 0:08:27.440 --> 0:08:29.960 to do is pick up some spray and wipe, wipe 0:08:30.000 --> 0:08:33.040 down a couple of benches, fold a few towels correctly, 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:37.360 fold them correctly in threes, and then maybe vacku and 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:39.880 that is it. That's all I need. And now there 0:08:39.920 --> 0:08:42.760 is concrete proof that I am not alone. There was 0:08:42.800 --> 0:08:45.040 a study by The Conversation and it was published in 0:08:45.080 --> 0:08:47.840 the Journal of Sex Research, and this is what it said. 0:08:47.920 --> 0:08:51.400 It found that women in equal relationships, that being equal 0:08:51.440 --> 0:08:55.400 in terms of housework and mental load, were more satisfied 0:08:55.440 --> 0:08:59.360 and had higher sexual desires than those in unequal relationships. 0:09:00.440 --> 0:09:02.400 Who is commissioning this type of research. 0:09:02.480 --> 0:09:04.840 It truly seems like a bit of a waste of money, right. 0:09:04.840 --> 0:09:07.160 Like it's just the obvious. It's like saying women. 0:09:07.559 --> 0:09:09.520 Women are the ones who are commissioning this type of 0:09:09.520 --> 0:09:12.440 research to try and encourage their men who haven't done 0:09:12.440 --> 0:09:14.960 any cleaning to do more cleaning. We will fuck you 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:16.000 if you clean the house. 0:09:16.480 --> 0:09:18.760 How obvious do you guys have to make it? Surely 0:09:18.760 --> 0:09:21.240 every guy up there knows. It's like, that's we're not 0:09:21.240 --> 0:09:23.040 getting the hints from our partners that we need to 0:09:23.080 --> 0:09:26.960 have scientists out there and be like, guys do the laundry. 0:09:27.040 --> 0:09:28.319 They're like, they will sleep with you. 0:09:28.640 --> 0:09:29.839 I mean, it makes sense, right. 0:09:29.960 --> 0:09:33.080 Men are still like, I just don't know what she wants, 0:09:33.240 --> 0:09:35.080 Like what do I have to do out there? The 0:09:35.160 --> 0:09:36.959 scientists are like, listen. 0:09:37.160 --> 0:09:40.200 This should not come as a surprise to anyone. I 0:09:40.200 --> 0:09:44.160 think nobody feels sexually aroused or their sexual desire when 0:09:44.200 --> 0:09:46.640 there's that resentment that's building when there's this idea, or 0:09:47.080 --> 0:09:50.120 you're living in a household where you're taking on the 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:52.880 majority workload, where you're taking on not only just the 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:56.480 physical domestic duties, but also the mental workload, and your 0:09:56.480 --> 0:09:59.400 partner comes home after a day of work, which in 0:09:59.480 --> 0:10:04.280 most sexual relationships majority of women are also working throughout 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:06.840 the day, and then they're also working throughout the night, 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:10.480 and then they're expected to have sex, and nobody is 0:10:10.480 --> 0:10:12.960 in the mood, and everyone has a headache, and most 0:10:13.040 --> 0:10:14.360 people are feeling quite tired. 0:10:14.600 --> 0:10:16.079 I'm fine with it. I don't mind. 0:10:16.200 --> 0:10:18.360 You don't mind cleaning, or you don't mind no ache. 0:10:18.800 --> 0:10:21.480 I don't mind a messy house, like I could cook dinner. 0:10:21.720 --> 0:10:24.000 I don't need to clean the dishes before I have sex, 0:10:24.720 --> 0:10:26.760 like it's fine. Like I don't mind having sex with 0:10:26.800 --> 0:10:28.360 dirty laundry on the floor in the bedroom. 0:10:28.520 --> 0:10:30.880 See, I find it completely unarousing. I don't want to 0:10:30.920 --> 0:10:32.480 have sex around filth. 0:10:32.840 --> 0:10:35.000 But we're in the bed, We're not around the dirty 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:38.000 laundry or the like the dirty floor as it's always 0:10:38.000 --> 0:10:39.960 been the case. It's after kids. I feel like kids 0:10:40.040 --> 0:10:43.400 is when that starts to turn for people. 0:10:43.240 --> 0:10:45.640 I think progressively, Like if I look back on my twenties, 0:10:45.679 --> 0:10:48.360 I think I was fine with a messy house in 0:10:48.400 --> 0:10:50.800 my twenties, especially my teens, could not occurred less that. 0:10:50.920 --> 0:10:54.120 As I've gotten progressively older, my standard for cleanliness has 0:10:54.200 --> 0:10:55.119 also increased. 0:10:55.640 --> 0:10:57.760 Just one second, Laura, I've got to put away a 0:10:57.800 --> 0:10:58.560 couple of things. 0:10:58.600 --> 0:11:02.240 Hang on a second, All right, let's get into the 0:11:02.320 --> 0:11:04.560 questions that you all asked. Now, there were so many 0:11:04.559 --> 0:11:06.319 that came in which were look. 0:11:06.120 --> 0:11:09.080 At all these towels that I've followed more shut out? 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:13.679 You like that I have one which I'm very interested 0:11:13.720 --> 0:11:17.000 in hearing your response to. As a man, is it 0:11:17.040 --> 0:11:20.959 true that some guys can't finish using a condom? I've 0:11:21.000 --> 0:11:24.600 started dating a guy, super respectful, he's kind, he's intelligent, 0:11:24.960 --> 0:11:27.800 he could even be my penguin. After a few dates, 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:29.800 we were naked and we were about to go all 0:11:29.840 --> 0:11:32.320 the way when he said that he didn't have a condom, 0:11:32.600 --> 0:11:35.960 so I said, I don't have unprotected sex. He was 0:11:36.000 --> 0:11:38.720 respectful and we left it, so he didn't have sex 0:11:38.760 --> 0:11:41.640 on this occasion. Good round two, which was only a 0:11:41.679 --> 0:11:44.520 week later, we went to have sex again and he 0:11:44.559 --> 0:11:47.600 didn't bring a condom, and this time I said, it's fine, 0:11:47.679 --> 0:11:51.200 I've brought them. But after a long session he said, sorry, 0:11:51.280 --> 0:11:53.720 I can't finish using one of these. So he took 0:11:53.760 --> 0:11:56.840 it off and he finished himself off with his hand. 0:11:57.080 --> 0:11:58.480 Okay, is this normal. 0:11:58.640 --> 0:12:02.480 I'm so confused. Are some guys unable to finish using 0:12:02.520 --> 0:12:04.920 a condom? 0:12:05.200 --> 0:12:07.240 I think? So? Do you know the issue here? Though? 0:12:07.480 --> 0:12:10.600 I reckon I would put money on the fact that 0:12:10.720 --> 0:12:12.320 he's just masturbating too much. 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:13.480 Tell me why you think that. 0:12:14.000 --> 0:12:16.400 Well, there's a huge difference even when we have sex. 0:12:17.200 --> 0:12:22.000 Sometimes I can last two minutes. Sometimes I can last. 0:12:21.280 --> 0:12:23.400 It's a blissful two minutes, let me tell you. 0:12:23.640 --> 0:12:26.199 But sometimes you know, we don't I don't know when 0:12:26.200 --> 0:12:27.760 we're going to have sex. Like for me, you know, 0:12:27.800 --> 0:12:30.720 it could be could be tonight, could be tomorrow, could 0:12:30.720 --> 0:12:32.920 be next week. I'm not sure. But sometimes you know, 0:12:33.040 --> 0:12:35.640 I will masturbate for my hand up. I'll say I 0:12:35.720 --> 0:12:40.480 do it. And it's always awkward when when let's say 0:12:40.480 --> 0:12:43.319 I've masturbated that day and then you're like, hey, I'm 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:46.880 in the mood, and I'm like, okay, well, obviously I'm 0:12:46.920 --> 0:12:49.200 going to last a bit longer here because I've just 0:12:49.480 --> 0:12:51.960 done the deed, whereas if it's been if it's been 0:12:52.240 --> 0:12:55.439 a week or well, maybe longer, I'll last like a minute. 0:12:55.480 --> 0:12:57.720 I'm they're raring to go, right, OK. 0:12:57.960 --> 0:13:00.840 So you think that he's masturbated on the day before 0:13:00.880 --> 0:13:02.800 he's gone on this day or before they've had sex, 0:13:02.840 --> 0:13:05.440 and if he hadn't, he was if there was more 0:13:05.480 --> 0:13:08.600 sexual tension, sexual build up, he would be able to come, 0:13:08.679 --> 0:13:10.720 regardless of whether he'd warn a condom or not. 0:13:10.920 --> 0:13:14.920 Obviously, it's slightly desensitized when you're wearing a condom, There's 0:13:14.920 --> 0:13:17.679 no question about it. But I think I don't care 0:13:17.720 --> 0:13:20.400 who the guy is. I don't care how much sex 0:13:20.440 --> 0:13:23.040 they've had in their life. If they don't masturbate for 0:13:23.120 --> 0:13:25.720 a week and have sex wearing a condom, I'll come 0:13:25.760 --> 0:13:26.440 in five minutes. 0:13:27.000 --> 0:13:29.560 That is a big and ballsy It's very big. 0:13:30.600 --> 0:13:33.839 I mean, I got confident, I went with it. I'm 0:13:33.880 --> 0:13:36.600 no scientist. But can the guys who did the research 0:13:36.600 --> 0:13:38.520 about doing chores finding it sexual, can they do some 0:13:38.559 --> 0:13:41.120 research about guys having sex without masturbating. 0:13:41.160 --> 0:13:43.439 Okay, but there has been Okay, there has been billions 0:13:43.440 --> 0:13:46.600 of dollars put into the production and manufacture of condoms. 0:13:46.640 --> 0:13:47.320 Oh, they're very good. 0:13:47.480 --> 0:13:52.880 They have made them as thin, as durable, as sensitized 0:13:53.040 --> 0:13:56.520 as humanly possible. It is almost like, I mean, it's 0:13:56.559 --> 0:13:58.200 not like you're not wearing anything at all. You can 0:13:58.240 --> 0:14:00.760 still tell your own condom. But it is very thin. 0:14:01.040 --> 0:14:04.680 It does not impede sensation that much for him to 0:14:04.800 --> 0:14:08.080 completely say that he cannot come wearing a condom. I 0:14:08.120 --> 0:14:10.120 do also think he's gotten that in his head, like 0:14:10.160 --> 0:14:12.920 he's like, mentally he doesn't want to wear one. He 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:14.920 knows that if he kind of implies that enough that 0:14:15.000 --> 0:14:16.880 eventually you're going to turn around and take your own 0:14:16.920 --> 0:14:20.200 contraception into your hands, or this will just be the 0:14:20.200 --> 0:14:23.400 case he will have to finish himself off. So I mean, 0:14:23.720 --> 0:14:25.520 I think, don't back down. I'm like, if you want 0:14:25.600 --> 0:14:28.080 him to wear a condom, even if you're confused, even 0:14:28.120 --> 0:14:30.000 if you're kind of like, why is why is he 0:14:30.080 --> 0:14:33.240 not getting there? Don't feel guilty, and don't change what 0:14:33.600 --> 0:14:36.120 you want and how you want your contraception to be, 0:14:36.120 --> 0:14:38.240 because like, ultimately that's the most important thing. 0:14:38.520 --> 0:14:41.000 And just tell him to stop masturbating every single day. 0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:43.120 You know, some guys masturbate like twice a day. 0:14:43.480 --> 0:14:45.360 What do you think is probably average? Like if you're 0:14:45.360 --> 0:14:47.520 going to say, amongst your friends and the conversations that 0:14:47.520 --> 0:14:49.600 you've had, I'm sure every time you catch up with 0:14:49.600 --> 0:14:51.720 your mates you ask them how frequently they're masturbate? But 0:14:52.240 --> 0:14:55.040 how often is normal for a guy to masturbate. 0:14:55.120 --> 0:14:58.080 I think when you're younger, you're doing it like every day. 0:14:58.120 --> 0:14:59.600 Multiple times a day, or just wants a day. 0:14:59.680 --> 0:15:01.440 I mean on a Sunday and it's you know, you 0:15:01.560 --> 0:15:04.080 bit hungover and you're by yourself. Maybe a couple of times, 0:15:04.200 --> 0:15:05.200 maybe four, five? 0:15:06.240 --> 0:15:08.320 How many times do you think is you're older, Like, 0:15:08.320 --> 0:15:12.000 what's a normal amount to masturbate if a guy is 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:16.400 still going to maintain a active and like enjoyable sex 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:18.640 life with their partner where it's not impeding on their 0:15:18.680 --> 0:15:20.040 ability to have good sex. 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:23.440 I don't know. Sometimes now I'm a very busy guy, Laura, 0:15:23.480 --> 0:15:25.760 because I've obviously got two girls, and you know, I'm 0:15:25.800 --> 0:15:28.520 doing so much work around the house. I've literally every 0:15:28.600 --> 0:15:30.880 night I've got a fold towers for an hour. Maybe 0:15:30.920 --> 0:15:34.120 I think maybe like once a week maybe for me, 0:15:34.160 --> 0:15:36.920 I try and save myself, or when we have sex, 0:15:39.440 --> 0:15:41.320 I try and give you everything of me. 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:45.200 You're such an angel. All this is a very exposing 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:48.200 podcast episode. We are very sorry. I did not expect 0:15:48.240 --> 0:15:51.760 it to go there. Okay, all right, I have another question, 0:15:51.800 --> 0:15:55.400 and this one's a little bit more serious. Help. I'm 0:15:55.440 --> 0:15:58.160 in a pickle and I'm not sure how to approach 0:15:58.160 --> 0:15:58.720 a situation. 0:15:58.800 --> 0:16:01.640 I'm imagining someone who's litually stuck in a giant pickle, 0:16:01.760 --> 0:16:05.240 being like, can someone please call the police. I've found 0:16:05.280 --> 0:16:08.440 myself submerged in a giant pickle. I don't know how 0:16:08.440 --> 0:16:10.880 I got here, sorry, continued. 0:16:10.560 --> 0:16:14.440 I'm looking for advice. I did something I shouldn't have 0:16:14.480 --> 0:16:17.040 while my boyfriend was a sleeping I went through his phone. 0:16:17.240 --> 0:16:21.320 I didn't have any intention of finding anything. However, lately, oh, 0:16:21.440 --> 0:16:23.920 come on, you did have intentions. If you do a 0:16:23.960 --> 0:16:25.600 little bit of a dig, you think that maybe there 0:16:25.680 --> 0:16:27.560 might be something there. But she said that lately their 0:16:27.600 --> 0:16:30.800 sex life hasn't been great, almost not too much masturbating. 0:16:30.840 --> 0:16:31.840 There's a common theme here. 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:35.200 Well, she said, the sex life hasn't been great, almost 0:16:35.240 --> 0:16:38.040 non existent for around three months, which has been really 0:16:38.040 --> 0:16:40.360 getting to me as I've opened up to him how 0:16:40.400 --> 0:16:44.120 I would like more affection. What I wasn't expecting was 0:16:44.160 --> 0:16:47.400 some photos I found in his recently deleted folder. So 0:16:47.480 --> 0:16:50.640 in his images, in his recently deleted images, there were 0:16:50.760 --> 0:16:54.400 multiple images of my friend's bag from when she stayed 0:16:54.400 --> 0:16:58.920 at my house, followed by individual images of her underwear followed. 0:16:58.920 --> 0:17:01.560 This was two fo and there were screenshots of his 0:17:01.680 --> 0:17:04.040 ex from twenty eighteen, So he'd gone back onto his 0:17:04.080 --> 0:17:07.840 ex's profile and screenshot photos on Instagram, and he'd also 0:17:08.000 --> 0:17:11.640 screenshot a photo from his snapchat of them together. How 0:17:11.640 --> 0:17:15.320 do I approach this situation because the photos don't imply cheating, 0:17:15.600 --> 0:17:17.800 but they are very fucking weird. 0:17:17.760 --> 0:17:22.600 Very strange, very strange. Why would he take a photo of. 0:17:22.359 --> 0:17:23.920 Your friend's underwear. 0:17:23.720 --> 0:17:27.200 Friends underwear and the bag as well? That's quite concerning. 0:17:27.359 --> 0:17:30.200 That's that behavior is a little bit creepy, if you 0:17:30.240 --> 0:17:30.600