Speaker 1: Life on Cut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose
Speaker 1: lands were never seated. We pay our respects to their
Speaker 1: elders past and present.
Speaker 2: Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was
Speaker 2: recorded on de rug Wallamata Land.
Speaker 1: Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life
Speaker 1: on Cut. I'm Laura. I'm Brittany. Do you know what
Speaker 1: I've come to realize? Oh? Really, please enlighten me? Realize
Speaker 1: that I don't know how. I don't know English, but
Speaker 1: I actually can't pronounce words. No.
Speaker 2: I have come to realize because of watching our YouTube
Speaker 2: channel that we have now, because our YouTube is look
Speaker 2: at your YouTube. We swear too much, especially me.
Speaker 1: You say you realize that because I told you that.
Speaker 1: I literally went through all the videos before they went
Speaker 1: live and I said, hey, disclaimer, you might want to
Speaker 1: check this because you are swearing like a trooper. And
Speaker 1: you're like, nah, it'll be fine. I was like, no,
Speaker 1: it'd be fucking fine. From memory as well, like fuck you, Brittany,
Speaker 1: it'll be fucking fine.
Speaker 2: There was one YouTube which I apologize if you were
Speaker 2: easily and now I like looking at the camera like
Speaker 2: talking talk to me, Okay, if you are easily offended
Speaker 2: by swearing. There is one YouTube video that it was
Speaker 2: producer Keisha and I, but we were talking about swearing.
Speaker 1: That's the whole premise of it.
Speaker 2: And you can't really talk about swearing without doing the
Speaker 2: swearing because it was.
Speaker 1: Kind of a crucial to the story.
Speaker 2: But it's a lot So if you go to that,
Speaker 2: if you watch that video first, you might be alarmed.
Speaker 2: So instead you should go to the World's Biggest porn
Speaker 2: star because that would be less alarming.
Speaker 1: Angela White also great. Didn't swear, actually didn't swear, didn't swear.
Speaker 2: Did talk about anal a lot though, so I think
Speaker 2: some people might find that more confronting than swearing.
Speaker 1: No, but she's you know, potato potato. She spoke about
Speaker 1: anal so casually, so diplomatically and intellectually, and like, I
Speaker 1: found it fascinating listening to a talk and the way
Speaker 1: she was speaking. She could about what she had for breakfast,
Speaker 1: you know, the way she delives it because she's so articulate,
Speaker 1: so the way she speaks doesn't sound like it's about anal.
Speaker 1: She's like That's how in that moment I realized that
Speaker 1: my fist did fit in my ass and I'm like
Speaker 1: totally like it was the delivery.
Speaker 2: I was like, yes, yes, screen her voice is smooth
Speaker 2: as butter. Also not surprising that that has been our
Speaker 2: most watch YouTube so far.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because it's all men. They're not subscribing to us.
Speaker 1: This is not we just.
Speaker 2: Got to watch Angele or why we did not gain
Speaker 2: a single additional listener. But we do have a lot
Speaker 2: of views on that one single video. And when I
Speaker 2: say a lot, I mean like just more than the
Speaker 2: others because it only launched on Tuesdays. If you haven't
Speaker 2: seen the YouTube station, like the station, wow my brain
Speaker 2: is you.
Speaker 1: Guys haven't gone to our YouTube station on Planet Laura.
Speaker 2: It's a channel on our YouTube channel. Yet it's new,
Speaker 2: it's fresh, it's fun.
Speaker 1: Go hey, guys, I am gonna speak my mind out loud.
Speaker 1: That's what we do on a podcast. I'm having a
Speaker 1: really hard battle, internal battle. We've been happy and sad.
Speaker 1: Oh in a very particular situation, this normally would make
Speaker 1: people really happy. So Ben, who lives over in Scotland,
Speaker 1: lives about forty five minutes to an hour away from
Speaker 1: my sister Sherry and her husband Jay, who were like
Speaker 1: the other two closest people to me in my life
Speaker 1: and they're hanging out all the time. And I know
Speaker 1: I've said this before. I'm like, it's so good that
Speaker 1: they're getting to know each other. But now it's like
Speaker 1: it's too much for my heart and I don't know
Speaker 1: what to do because I'm jealous in a way of
Speaker 1: like they're living the life I want. And I know
Speaker 1: I've said it before, but I just now got off
Speaker 1: the phone to Ben and I was like, Oh, that's
Speaker 1: so great. I'm like really happy for you guys, because
Speaker 1: he's like, oh, he just spent the last two days
Speaker 1: at their house and now they're coming to his house.
Speaker 1: He's like, oh, Jane Cherry are coming next week and
Speaker 1: we're going to the match and then we're going to
Speaker 1: go to Switzerland. He's like, I'm taking them back to
Speaker 1: my hometown and we're staying at my home and I'm
Speaker 1: going to show them about where I grew up and stuff.
Speaker 1: And I was like, I haven't been for us, and
Speaker 1: he's like, yeah, I know that's something that like I
Speaker 1: should probably be doing with you, but you know you're
Speaker 1: not here, and so I'm gonna take them and show
Speaker 1: them my childhood and I was like, like a knife
Speaker 1: in the heart. That's wonderful. I was like, Sherry can
Speaker 1: tell me all about your childhood, and I don't know
Speaker 1: what to do with that. No, I understand. I think
Speaker 1: that is completely warranted.
Speaker 2: I think it's the part when your sister the amount
Speaker 2: of like mileage and like airtime FaceTime that she's had
Speaker 2: with your partner exceeds the amount of FaceTime that you've
Speaker 2: had with your partner.
Speaker 1: No, her physical time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean like no, I don't mean FaceTime is
Speaker 2: in like on FaceTime. I mean face two face times,
Speaker 2: face to real face to FaceTime exceeds what you have
Speaker 2: spent with your actual partner.
Speaker 1: It probably is the moment where you go, this is
Speaker 1: an ideal. It's not. It's the hanging out. It's fine,
Speaker 1: but they're like embracing their childhood and like all getting
Speaker 1: to experience all that was unnecessary. He doesn't need to
Speaker 1: show you your sister that No Jay's going to And
Speaker 1: then they're like, all our friends are gonna have over
Speaker 1: for a barbecue and they'll meet people. And I was like,
Speaker 1: I don't know anyone in your life. I don't exist.
Speaker 2: You don't stop it. The Daily Mail says you exist
Speaker 2: in his life.
Speaker 1: That's all that matters. Yeah, that's true. I get the
Speaker 1: clear So, like, you know, it was a bad joke.
Speaker 1: So that was a joke. Don't care for me? Can
Speaker 1: we go back? No?
Speaker 2: But what I'm saying is is kind of like one
Speaker 2: of the reassuring things when you're doing long distance with
Speaker 2: someone who is famous in Scotland is what Ben is
Speaker 2: because of what he does when people google him, Like
Speaker 2: if ever a chick's on a night out and she's
Speaker 2: like Ben, all that comes up is like a very
Speaker 2: hot photo of the two of you together. Is it
Speaker 2: just disarming? No, because it would make anyone be like, oh,
Speaker 2: I don't have a chance.
Speaker 1: Like he's just too clearly, I wasn't worried about any
Speaker 1: other women, but thank you for putting in my hands
Speaker 1: just just about my sister.
Speaker 2: You have nothing to worry about. Also, your sister's married,
Speaker 2: so like she's not going to cut your grass.
Speaker 1: Everything's oh, she's not kind of my grass. Hey. You
Speaker 1: know what else I read? I wanted to bring this
Speaker 1: up today and it couldn't be more fitting. I read
Speaker 1: something yesterday that I didn't realize I was going to
Speaker 1: bring up today. I was just upset by it myself.
Speaker 1: What's god, this is going to make me sound old?
Speaker 1: What's the young generation called again? It's easy, Okay, ed
Speaker 1: or X said, aussy, we're millennials.
Speaker 2: Sorry to all the gen zs who are listening to
Speaker 2: this who don't apparently wear I make up anymore.
Speaker 1: That's what I want to talk to you about. Gen
Speaker 1: and use fucking drunk elephant skin care products. I've read
Speaker 1: yesterday the gen Z has canceled eyeshadow.
Speaker 3: Nah.
Speaker 2: I saw that Mma meter article as well. Its everywhere,
Speaker 2: but it was Muma Meir who started it was on
Speaker 2: their Instagram. I went into the deep spiral of oh
Speaker 2: my god, I'm my old. I wear I make up?
Speaker 2: You got to click on the article and actually read
Speaker 2: the content. Apparently they do. They just use it minimally
Speaker 2: and they use a rose blush.
Speaker 1: Can I just interject, it's not it's TikTok.
Speaker 3: It's trending on TikTok, which is the most millennial thing.
Speaker 1: Yeah. No, Mom and me just took it off and
Speaker 1: this has gone for ages. It's the thing that MoMA
Speaker 1: mes just reporting on from. Yeah, but I walked in
Speaker 1: today with some my shadow on. I still put some,
Speaker 1: but I put less on because I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I better put there. I walk in Keisha's I've never
Speaker 1: seen it with heavier eye show in my life.
Speaker 2: Look at it, which is hilarious because produce a Keisha.
Speaker 2: You are the one who always says like I sit
Speaker 2: on the cuss between gen Z and millennial. I like
Speaker 2: to lean into my gen Z. Not today, girlfriend, No
Speaker 2: that big ten eyes showered. Otherwise I got ready in
Speaker 2: the dark.
Speaker 1: Okay. We started really early this morning, and I actually
Speaker 1: did it. We started at seven. The sun comes up
Speaker 1: at five.
Speaker 3: When I was putting makeup on today, it was all like,
Speaker 3: not natural lighting I actually have.
Speaker 1: I did have the lights on, but they're very warm.
Speaker 3: So I realized I think it was I just went
Speaker 3: to the bathroom here at work, and I was like, well.
Speaker 1: I just thought you went no, it looks great, but
Speaker 1: pushing down GM wouldn't like it. But what I also
Speaker 1: thought was funny. I was really in this spiral because
Speaker 1: I love a bit of eyeshadow. I do the under
Speaker 1: eyes shadow as well instead of eyeliner, like you know,
Speaker 1: how you go around the whole eye. I kept on
Speaker 1: reading it and the trend that's in, which is so
Speaker 1: going to benefit you, Laura, is that the trend that
Speaker 1: he's in is looking tired and keep and keeping bags
Speaker 1: under your eyes come f with gen Z. No one
Speaker 1: does it better than Laura bad. That is my shit.
Speaker 1: You don't have to spreadula ready, you were born, You
Speaker 1: wake up every day and you could hit a catwalk.
Speaker 1: According to jen Z because they're like, what is in
Speaker 1: his no makeup? And that really tired, like Pete Davidson
Speaker 1: under I look and I feel like you rock that.
Speaker 1: Thanks Brett. That's a real compliment for me.
Speaker 2: I was saying to produce a Keisha today in the
Speaker 2: car on the ride here since having children, and I
Speaker 2: didn't say, this is like a storytop.
Speaker 1: You know. Keisha was saying that she had a really bad.
Speaker 2: Night sleep and Laura's like, fuck, you know, she said
Speaker 2: she know she was up for two hours trying to
Speaker 2: get to sleep and it resulted in a bad night sleep.
Speaker 2: And I was like, you know what, and I know
Speaker 2: that I hate being the person that is going to
Speaker 2: do what I'm about to do. I was like, because
Speaker 2: no one wants to compete on who had the worst sleep.
Speaker 2: I was like, but that you did is so normal,
Speaker 2: Like the version that you just gave me. Then, is
Speaker 2: so normal to me that that wouldn't even rate as
Speaker 2: a bad night sleep.
Speaker 1: That was brilliant.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't even complain about that because I'm so used.
Speaker 2: I feel hungover one hundred percent of the time.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'll see when myself out, it's probably because I
Speaker 1: drink every day. No, that's she guess. I drinks myself
Speaker 1: to sleep every night, and I feel hungover everything every day.
Speaker 1: No I do.
Speaker 2: I wake up feeling hungover every day, or just like
Speaker 2: a little bit exhausted from the second I wake up
Speaker 2: until the second I go to bed.
Speaker 1: And I am half joking. Anyone that is watching this
Speaker 1: on our YouTube station at the moment, you can see
Speaker 1: that Laura doesn't have a bag on her eye. You
Speaker 1: look amazing. Must be the profilo, the Felller, not feller
Speaker 1: that you had. I just joke that, you know you
Speaker 1: are always tired because you never sleep well because you
Speaker 1: have little kids. You don't have to clarify.
Speaker 2: I know I look like shit one hundred percent of
Speaker 2: the time, but I'm trying harder now because people can
Speaker 2: see me.
Speaker 1: I have just and I've always been like this. I
Speaker 1: think I've never been somebody that goes with the trends.
Speaker 1: I've never If I like something, I will do it.
Speaker 1: I don't care if someone tells me it's out. I'm
Speaker 1: going to continue to wear my eye shadow for as
Speaker 1: long as possible. That's where I want to get.
Speaker 2: I think that's a good idea. Because you're also not fourteen.
Speaker 2: So if the fourteens are telling you you don't need
Speaker 2: to till like twenty eight or something, Laura, well, it's
Speaker 2: still a decade younger than me. Anyway, moving her along,
Speaker 2: I wanted to tell you, guys, give you a little
Speaker 2: update in my personal life. Mattis home. It was very exciting.
Speaker 2: He's back from Vegas. He the poor thing. He got
Speaker 2: a bit upset with me last night because he walked
Speaker 2: in the door and I was so happy to see him,
Speaker 2: and then I took my mom. Actually that's my vibe
Speaker 2: this week, so I will say that I took my
Speaker 2: mom and my mother in law to the theater last
Speaker 2: night and left Matt. And when I got home, it
Speaker 2: was eleven o'clock and he was still awake, and I
Speaker 2: looked at him and I was like, I love you,
Speaker 2: and I'm so glad you're home, but you look like shit.
Speaker 2: And he was like, yeah, it's been a week of
Speaker 2: drinking and partying and working and he was getting any sleep,
Speaker 2: so he's really feeling the effects. But then he got
Speaker 2: really sad and he was like, that's a really mean
Speaker 2: thing to say. I was like, fair show your partner
Speaker 2: that they look like shit when they've just come home. Yes,
Speaker 2: you're from Vegas though, like of course he.
Speaker 1: Look have you seen the hangover due? The guy hasn't
Speaker 1: been at a wellness spa. He's been at Vegas exactly.
Speaker 1: It's a warrant. I would be shocked if you didn't
Speaker 1: say that. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I was like, I love you and I'm so happy
Speaker 2: to see you, and you're still a very sexy man.
Speaker 1: But you just look a little bit shitter than you left.
Speaker 1: That's all. That's all I'm saying. I'll validate that, all right,
Speaker 1: thank you.
Speaker 2: And the other life update is I was talking about
Speaker 2: on Tuesday the girls were getting a kitten, and yesterday
Speaker 2: we went out to the pond where we got the
Speaker 2: kitten from. It's from Sydney cats and dogs, which honestly,
Speaker 2: I mean, it's a bit of a drive from where
Speaker 2: I am, but there were so many animals and they
Speaker 2: do such incredible work. And we got there and I
Speaker 2: reckon there was like thirty to forty kittens and cats
Speaker 2: that all needed homes. Apparently this is kitten season. Didn't
Speaker 2: know that they were seasonal, but apparently there's like a
Speaker 2: time of year where all the cats are getting it
Speaker 2: on and then all the kittens are being born in
Speaker 2: bush shelters and stuff. And it was so overwhelming for
Speaker 2: Lola and Marley because we walked in there and there
Speaker 2: were so many kittens. And at the start, Marley was
Speaker 2: really into it. She was like this one, this one,
Speaker 2: and I.
Speaker 1: Was like, stop throwing the kittens. She just throws me
Speaker 1: to the cash. I'll take that one. Only eight lives
Speaker 1: left now.
Speaker 2: She was kind of just like carrying them around like
Speaker 2: they were toys. Anyway, I had to like really downscale
Speaker 2: her energy. But Lola was so reserved and she didn't
Speaker 2: want to pick them up. She wanted to touch them,
Speaker 2: but she was really timid and really kind of a
Speaker 2: bit frightened by them. And I think it's because their
Speaker 2: kittens are really playful and they got little nails and stuff.
Speaker 2: But she was really not as excited as I thought
Speaker 2: she was gonna be. She was more scared.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's an overwhelming environment.
Speaker 2: She's only three, totally, and also giving her the responsibility
Speaker 2: of choosing one when there's forty, Like the kids get
Speaker 2: overwhelmed in a toy shop, let alone getting animal that
Speaker 2: they know that they're gonna have to take care of
Speaker 2: and all that sort of stuff. So this went on
Speaker 2: for a while. We were there for like two hours,
Speaker 2: and then you know, halfway through, Marley had already gotten
Speaker 2: over it.
Speaker 1: She was like, whatever, picked the one you want? I
Speaker 1: don't care.
Speaker 2: And she was like overlooking at like the Christmas cards
Speaker 2: and stuff, and Lola was still like meticulously looking through
Speaker 2: all the kittens, and then she found this one and
Speaker 2: she picked it up and it was a tiny little
Speaker 2: run to the litter. She was carrying it around underneath
Speaker 2: her chin and it was just sitting in her hands,
Speaker 2: and she kept on going, I love you, I love
Speaker 2: I love you, and you know, I was too busy
Speaker 2: trying to like take care of Mali. And then after
Speaker 2: like literally forty minutes, I realized she'd been holding onto
Speaker 2: the same cat for forty minutes.
Speaker 1: Is that the one, you go? That's the one we got?
Speaker 2: And she was so sweet, like by the end of it.
Speaker 2: She was absolutely obsessed. So now we have a little kitten.
Speaker 2: Its name was or is Jupiter. It'll soon be named Raspberry.
Speaker 2: And we don't get to bring a home for a
Speaker 2: couple of weeks. It's too small, too small, cute. They
Speaker 2: did offer for us to take too home.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, why didn't you get it a friend? Yeah,
Speaker 1: well that okay.
Speaker 2: So they said you should take two home and have
Speaker 2: two until they're about fourteen fifteen weeks because what that does,
Speaker 2: it stops them. They learn a bite inhibition, it's called
Speaker 2: so they bite each other and then they learn, oh
Speaker 2: that's not nice. I don't want to bite someone. It
Speaker 2: doesn't feel good. And then they don't bite humans. And
Speaker 2: so I was trying to convince Matt, and Matt was like,
Speaker 2: if you come home with two cats, I will divorce you.
Speaker 1: He's like, I know, I look like shit, but you
Speaker 1: also can't anybody anyway, because now you got a cat
Speaker 1: that's gonna bite him.
Speaker 2: Thank you, Because I was like, well you're gonna not
Speaker 2: like the cats. The cat's gonna bite. So like, let's
Speaker 2: just get two and them they love each other, and
Speaker 2: he knows that if I bring to home, we'll keep too,
Speaker 2: of course you will is my plan to do it anyway.
Speaker 2: Jupiter and Pluto, do you know what you should do?
Speaker 2: Strawberry and Raspberry exploded, Get it on camera.
Speaker 1: Get it a second one, and just put it in
Speaker 1: the yard and don't say you've brought it home and say,
Speaker 1: oh my god, there's a cat is coming to a yard.
Speaker 1: It's probably close enough.
Speaker 3: It could be convincing that you've just got the one.
Speaker 1: If it's like Batman, you could call it Batman.
Speaker 2: Anyway, we get to bring a home in a couple
Speaker 2: weeks time. I'm so excited. That's so beautiful.
Speaker 1: That is really exciting. My ovary is also on fire.
Speaker 1: But I think that's my period, thank you, it's rebulation. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Anyway, let's get into our vibes and unsubscribes for the week.
Speaker 1: Okay, my vibe is something that is so practical, something
Speaker 1: that I have been using. It is. There are so
Speaker 1: many different brands and different names, but essentially it's called
Speaker 1: a tied pen now, lor you saw me pen? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you saw me use this last week? Actually I did,
Speaker 1: and it is brilliant protesia. You need a tied bucket.
Speaker 1: You do so if you're somebody like me that you
Speaker 1: end up on Laura, you too, but you end up
Speaker 1: with like coffee stains on your food or you spill something.
Speaker 1: You guys, remember I spilled coffee on me last week.
Speaker 1: A tide pen is it's a whitening pen for clothes
Speaker 1: or it's just not even whitening stain remover. It doesn't white.
Speaker 1: You can use it on color, well, you can have white,
Speaker 1: just white, but you can also just have a color
Speaker 1: that's a stain remover and it just looks like a
Speaker 1: white out pen the same size. You can get it
Speaker 1: from literally anywhere Spotlight, Woolworth Supermarkets, Amazon Online if you
Speaker 1: want to do an order. And it just so. I
Speaker 1: spilled coffee on myself and I learned this from our
Speaker 1: radio co host Mitch Chury. He took one around Europe
Speaker 1: with him. When he came over to me and I
Speaker 1: was like, and I needed it. One day, I spilled
Speaker 1: coffee all down me and I was like, on our
Speaker 1: way out, He's like, hang on, brit I have a
Speaker 1: tide pen.
Speaker 2: That's an elite human when you've gotten to the point
Speaker 2: of organization in your life where you walk around with
Speaker 2: a stain remover pan in your handbag.
Speaker 1: Yep, like that is an elite level of adulting. And
Speaker 1: so you just had a Yeah, you just dub it
Speaker 1: on for a second, it dries, it takes the stain out,
Speaker 1: put it back, the pen back in your bag. I
Speaker 1: was like, this is life changing for people like me.
Speaker 1: So that is my very practical vibe.
Speaker 2: For the way some people cure cancer. And Britney kill
Speaker 2: stains his years, say, just carry a pin, produce a kisha.
Speaker 1: What is your vibe? Okay, try and top that keisha.
Speaker 3: Well, I was going a video editor Johno, but a
Speaker 3: boy and I were talking about this and I was
Speaker 3: going to recommend Griffin's Marvel Golden Gaytime Biscuits.
Speaker 2: I love that some podcasts they do their like, hey,
Speaker 2: my recommendation for the week is this really obscure political
Speaker 2: podcast because I'm so smart, we're.
Speaker 1: Like tired pens and Gaytime businuess do we do all
Speaker 1: different kinds of things to do there.
Speaker 3: I have actually done political podcast before, so I feel
Speaker 3: like this is light and shade.
Speaker 1: Look, I'm just gonna really quickly recommend that.
Speaker 3: The reason I'm not this is not my main recommendation
Speaker 3: is because you said something to me just before we
Speaker 3: started recording, and I was like, actually, that's a better recommendation.
Speaker 1: But they're from Cole's and they're fucking delicious.
Speaker 3: But my actual recommendation for the week is a Face
Speaker 3: ten serum.
Speaker 1: Now, this particular one, I feel like I.
Speaker 3: Have tried ten different brands and I've wanted one that
Speaker 3: looks natural and doesn't.
Speaker 1: Look too umpa lumpa orange, as.
Speaker 3: It doesn't dry out your skin because the chemical that
Speaker 3: is in Fake ten can dry out your skin and
Speaker 3: I have somewhat sensitive skin. I found one that I
Speaker 3: really really like and is working for me. It's the
Speaker 3: Barley Body one. So it's twenty nine to ninety five
Speaker 3: and it's like the serum and I put it on
Speaker 3: my face and I use a brush to kind of
Speaker 3: make sure that I get it in all the nooks
Speaker 3: and crannies, you know, so that you get your ears
Speaker 3: and all that kind of thing. Anyway, I'm absolutely loving it.
Speaker 3: What I really like is that I feel as though
Speaker 3: it cuts down the amount of foundation that I wear,
Speaker 3: because you know, you just get that little bit of
Speaker 3: color back to your face and you don't feel like
Speaker 3: you need to put Yes, we can put it under
Speaker 3: your eye just a little bit of life anyway. For me,
Speaker 3: the color of this one is absolutely perfect. So I
Speaker 3: have an olive base to my skin. I'm not sure
Speaker 3: if it would work as well with pink based skins,
Speaker 3: but yeah, I really reckmend this one.
Speaker 1: I'm loving it.
Speaker 2: I don't like face Waters. I'm gonna put it out there, serum,
Speaker 2: so face Waters. I always think I look yellow like
Speaker 2: I like I've got jaundice.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it might just not be you for your skin,
Speaker 1: but you have an olive Italian skin anyway.
Speaker 3: You might be good with this one because I've found
Speaker 3: the same thing with previous ones. I found that the
Speaker 3: color just hasn't been right and it looks funny. This one,
Speaker 3: I find looks quite I mean, you.
Speaker 1: Tell me, I think it looks natural. Give it a crack.
Speaker 2: And my recommendation for this week is it's a bit
Speaker 2: Sydney based at the moment, but it's making its way
Speaker 2: around Australia. And if it was, if you're in Melbourne, Madigra, yeah,
Speaker 2: go to Mardi Gras. No. My recommendation is last night
Speaker 2: I went to the theater. I went and saw Anguliette
Speaker 2: at the theater. It's at the Lyric Theater in Sydney,
Speaker 2: Rob Mills. He's one of the leads. There's like probably
Speaker 2: three or four leads in the show. He unfortunately was
Speaker 2: sick last night and it was the understudy. But even
Speaker 2: the understudy was incredible. It's got Casey Donovan in it.
Speaker 2: The singing is amazing. And this recommendation comes from someone
Speaker 2: who is a self proclaimed not a theater person.
Speaker 1: I do not normally enjoy the theater. I would not
Speaker 1: normally go.
Speaker 2: But the only reason why I said yes to this
Speaker 2: is because my mum musical theater.
Speaker 1: Oh, she loves it so much. It's weird.
Speaker 2: I don't know how we share the same DNA, but
Speaker 2: she loves it. So I took her and I took
Speaker 2: Matt's mum, and funnily enough, as we were sitting in
Speaker 2: the chair, Matts mumb leans over to me and goes,
Speaker 2: I forgot to tell you I hate musicals. And I
Speaker 2: was like, perfect, this is the per that I bought.
Speaker 1: Us all very expensive tickets to go and see this.
Speaker 2: I'm so glad we can all share this together. But
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I don't like musical theater. And I thought
Speaker 1: it was incredible.
Speaker 2: And Ellie walked out of there and she was like
Speaker 2: that was really good, like genuinely surprised by how much
Speaker 2: she enjoyed it. And my mom was like, fucking she
Speaker 2: was gy writing on the floor. So everyone had a
Speaker 2: good Timeue, what type of a story is it? So
Speaker 2: the storyline to it, it's so Romeo and Juliet, but
Speaker 2: this is Juliette's story so basically, And the thing that's
Speaker 2: really cool is it kind of links in little bits
Speaker 2: of history. So William Shakespeare, no one would know this,
Speaker 2: but he had a wife who he didn't actually spend
Speaker 2: any time with. She had three sons, and he just
Speaker 2: focused all his time in writing plays. And the story
Speaker 2: is kind of based around William Shakespeare's wife wanting to
Speaker 2: rewrite Romeo and Juliet to be the story that was
Speaker 2: for her. She changes the ending, and the ending is
Speaker 2: all about it being like a feminist, empowering play written
Speaker 2: by a woman where Juliet finds her own agency. It's cool,
Speaker 2: it's very funny. It's a comedy, but it's done really well.
Speaker 2: That's my recommendation.
Speaker 1: Alrighty guys, let's crack on into the questions. Question number one.
Speaker 1: I went out for a date with a guy where
Speaker 1: we're just going to go for a drink. I drove there, though,
Speaker 1: so I was expecting to have two glasses of wine
Speaker 1: max Over possible two hours. He sat down said he
Speaker 1: would be getting a bottle of wine, not even asking
Speaker 1: about my preference. I told him I would prefer a
Speaker 1: glass that I was driving, and he said, Nope, that's
Speaker 1: definitely going to change. You are going to be drinking more,
Speaker 1: staying for the bottle, and eventually we will go back
Speaker 1: to yours. Instant icky, instant ick. I immediately felt uncomfortable and
Speaker 1: was very shut off from wanting to get to know
Speaker 1: this person, which I eventually voiced after I finished my
Speaker 1: one glass he was on his third. I very respectfully
Speaker 1: said that I would be heading off, and to be polite,
Speaker 1: I said, hey, let me know your bank details so
Speaker 1: I can transfer you for half of the bottle. This
Speaker 1: morning I woke up to his bank details and he
Speaker 1: told me the bottle was ninety dollars. This is probably
Speaker 1: one of the worst dates I have ever been on.
Speaker 1: Do I have to send him half of the money? Help?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: Just don't reply? Is that mean?
Speaker 2: I don't Honestly, if this was me, it's nice that
Speaker 2: you offered your glass of wine. Maybe it was a
Speaker 2: if it's a ninety dollars bottle of wine, let's say
Speaker 2: a glass of wine at a huge stretch. A huge
Speaker 2: stretch was twenty bucks, right, that's what probably what you owe.
Speaker 2: If you want to be super nice, send him twenty
Speaker 2: But otherwise.
Speaker 1: Just don't reply. Would you reply? I wouldn't. I actually
Speaker 1: don't know, which is why I wanted you to answer
Speaker 1: it first. All right, look, let me be harsher.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't bother replying because you're never going to see
Speaker 2: the guy again and you don't care.
Speaker 1: And also, he drank the fuck it. He drank a
Speaker 1: third of the bottle totally. He didn't ask you what
Speaker 1: you wanted. He ordered on your behalf. You asked and
Speaker 1: said you only wanted to have a glass. And then
Speaker 1: I mean, look, you shouldn't have said, oh, I'll transfer
Speaker 1: you for half of it. That's why he sent it
Speaker 1: to you.
Speaker 2: But at the end of the day, sometimes it's okay
Speaker 2: to be a little bit of an asshole, and in
Speaker 2: this instance, I think it's fine for you to go.
Speaker 1: Do you know what, I've changed my mind.
Speaker 2: I don't want to transfer you a forty five dollars
Speaker 2: for something I didn't drink. Nah, I'm not doing it,
Speaker 2: and I don't care. I would not if someone told
Speaker 2: me that, I wouldn't be like, oh, you should have
Speaker 2: really pounds found.
Speaker 1: Just what are your facials right there?
Speaker 4: I just want to repeat what you did. You heard
Speaker 4: it here first, guys from Laura burn put that one
Speaker 4: on your bumper sticker.
Speaker 1: You've actually disuaded me. But I always do this thing
Speaker 1: where I feel like, if I've said it, I would
Speaker 1: have just transferred the money, Like if I had said
Speaker 1: to him, hey, transfer me the money. I understand why
Speaker 1: she said it. That awkwardness at the end of the
Speaker 1: It's always that throw away thing where you're like, hey,
Speaker 1: let me know, I'll pay half, not ever expecting them
Speaker 1: to make you do it. But then I there's a
Speaker 1: part of me that's like, oh, I probably should just
Speaker 1: pay for it, because I did offer it and I
Speaker 1: told him, and I don't want to be a knob.
Speaker 1: But then you've sort of changed my mind now, Laura,
Speaker 1: because I'm like, you know what you are right? He
Speaker 1: was a dick, the assumption that you were just going
Speaker 1: to get wasted. You even told him you were driving,
Speaker 1: and then he's like, no, fuck that you're going to
Speaker 1: leave your car, we're gone.
Speaker 2: Back to get The assumption that he was going to
Speaker 2: get you drunk so that he could come back home
Speaker 2: to your house is pretty gross.
Speaker 1: I mean it's small than pretty gross. We can all
Speaker 1: agree on that.
Speaker 2: I just think sometimes, and this is very much a
Speaker 2: female trade, which we need to be better at. Sometimes
Speaker 2: we are so worried about offending people and we want
Speaker 2: to be nice, and we want to be you know,
Speaker 2: we want to be seen as being a nice person.
Speaker 2: So therefore we do when we say things that are
Speaker 2: beyond the scope of what we need to do and
Speaker 2: say I in this instance, you were like, oh let
Speaker 2: me know, and I'll transfer you for half a bottle.
Speaker 2: You went home, you thought about it. That is not
Speaker 2: fucking happening. And you don't need to be the nice
Speaker 2: person in this equation. And yes he will think you're
Speaker 2: a dickhead. Yes he will be the one who feels
Speaker 2: like he's hard done by and maybe you should have
Speaker 2: given him fifteen dollars or twenty dollars for a glass
Speaker 2: of wine. Right, Sure, he's not going to be financially
Speaker 2: destitute because you don't transfer him for your one glass
Speaker 2: of wine. But he should really think about his behavior
Speaker 2: in trying apply someone for alcohol and get back to
Speaker 2: their house to sleep with them. So I think that's
Speaker 2: way more problematic. And if it means that he loses
Speaker 2: out in fifteen dollars, but fucking him, I don't care.
Speaker 1: Well, sorry, Like now I've just gotten real passionate about it.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 1: I also I'm on your team now. I think at
Speaker 1: the end of the day, it was a first date.
Speaker 1: He bought you a glass of wine. That's what this is.
Speaker 1: He was a first date that didn't go well. You
Speaker 1: didn't bube him. He bought you a glass of wine.
Speaker 1: You want your separate ways. I don't think you even
Speaker 1: need to reply now, even though the part of me
Speaker 1: is like, oh you did offer it this look him. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: definitely put him on that website where where you say
Speaker 1: I went on a bad date with this guy. No,
Speaker 1: I'm joking. Don't do that. Just don't pay. You don't
Speaker 1: have to pay for forty five bucks. But also it's
Speaker 1: a real lesson for us as women to realize and
Speaker 1: definitely gets easier with age, but to realize that when
Speaker 1: you don't have to be in a situation if you
Speaker 1: don't want to just because you said you would at
Speaker 1: the beginning. Like I get that you agreed to go
Speaker 1: on that date, and I get that you were there
Speaker 1: and you've ordered a wine. But the second that something
Speaker 1: changes and you feel uncomfortable, you can fucking leave. Like
Speaker 1: you can be like, oh, you know what, we're on
Speaker 1: different pages, Like I wanted to come and get to
Speaker 1: know you. You've already said no, you're going to be
Speaker 1: drinking this whole bottle basically, so I can take you
Speaker 1: back and take advantage of you. You can get up
Speaker 1: and be like, hey, you know what, not for me,
Speaker 1: not for me? And I think that's a really important
Speaker 1: lesson to take home.
Speaker 2: And also the other part I think on top of
Speaker 2: that lesson, but like if you say that you're going
Speaker 2: to do something and I know that, there's that whole
Speaker 2: saying like your word is your what is it?
Speaker 1: Forgotten? It now? Okay? Gandhy you're a fire shoulday?
Speaker 2: You know what they say something about your word being
Speaker 2: like one of the most important things you know. Basically,
Speaker 2: what I'm trying to get at is that your word
Speaker 2: is very much kind of links into your credibility. Right,
Speaker 2: So if you're someone who says something and does something
Speaker 2: else that makes you a brit of a shitty person.
Speaker 1: Right, respectful if you follow through with you totally.
Speaker 2: But in this instance, one, he's someone whose opinion you're
Speaker 2: not going to care about in the future. And two
Speaker 2: it's okay to say something in a moment and then
Speaker 2: have time to reflect and decide.
Speaker 1: Actually, that's kind of unfair to me, and I don't
Speaker 1: want to do that anymore.
Speaker 2: And sometimes you will have to make and have a
Speaker 2: conversation where you say, hey, actually I changed my mind
Speaker 2: and this is how I feel, and explain yourself. This
Speaker 2: is not one of those instances, I don't think, and
Speaker 2: you are not a terrible person by not transferring him
Speaker 2: the money. If it was a different situation, I might
Speaker 2: feel differently, but this specific situation I would not reply
Speaker 2: and I would just get on with my life and say, LEVI.
Speaker 1: What a gross guy, though, got a gross So do
Speaker 1: you know what? That would have been hot? If you
Speaker 1: were into it and you had been seeing each other
Speaker 1: for a long time and like you were banging already.
Speaker 1: It would been hot if someone's like, finish up that bottox,
Speaker 1: I want to take care of a fuck you? Hot
Speaker 1: first date el ew ew okay, question number two. Johno's
Speaker 1: laughing in the corner. He's taking not all right.
Speaker 2: My boyfriend of fifteen months is sweet, kind, generous, and patient. I,
Speaker 2: on the other hand, am passionate and fiery.
Speaker 1: You sound toxic. I crave excitement and stimulation. Sounds like
Speaker 1: a cat.
Speaker 2: I crave excitement and stimulation, but find my relationship very
Speaker 2: comfortable and complacent. My boyfriend has a good job and studies,
Speaker 2: but is happy to live a fairly simple life and
Speaker 2: doesn't push himself too hard. Despite this, he always goes
Speaker 2: above and beyond to make me feel special and loved.
Speaker 2: It hurts so bad to admit, but I find myself
Speaker 2: feeling a bit bored and underwhelmed, almost as if I'm
Speaker 2: missing that spark I know from you guys better than
Speaker 2: to dream about the greener grass or go chasing butterflies
Speaker 2: and thrills. But I can't help but feel as there's
Speaker 2: a relationship out there that would make me happier. Am
Speaker 2: I being unappreciative?
Speaker 1: What should I do? Stay with this sweet boy?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 1: That's so emasculating. Who is comfortable and safe or fine?
Speaker 2: And someone who can match me intellectually and who I
Speaker 2: find and feel more chemistry with I.
Speaker 1: Feel like we get versions of this question all the time,
Speaker 1: like it's such a common issue in relationships. But that's
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, what dating is. We
Speaker 1: date to find someone that is our match. That's the
Speaker 1: whole point. You don't just fall into a relationship and
Speaker 1: you're like, oh fuck yeah, Like this is tetris from
Speaker 1: day one. Like, no one wins Tetris in dating world
Speaker 1: from the get go. It's impossible. I mean some people
Speaker 1: do well. Mine always laid a cross ways across the
Speaker 1: block and I never got them to line up. When
Speaker 1: I was dating. I could never nail tetris in the
Speaker 1: dating line.
Speaker 2: Note, but I also think your twenties, that's for your
Speaker 2: fuck up years, Like you're six hundred. Some people get
Speaker 2: lucky and they meet someone, they settle down, they married
Speaker 2: the high school sweetheart. Great for those people. Other people,
Speaker 2: like us, have bad relationship after bad relationship after bad
Speaker 2: relationship until you accumulate all those lessons and then you go,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have a good one now.
Speaker 1: I just feel like if you're asking a question fifteen
Speaker 1: months into a relationship and you go, are still young.
Speaker 1: If you're asking a question and like, should I stay.
Speaker 1: I feel like there's more out there, and I don't
Speaker 1: like he's great but not great enough. I feel like
Speaker 1: that's your answer. Unfortunately, chemistry is not everything, but neither
Speaker 1: is he ticks boxes on paper. That's not everything. Also,
Speaker 1: and you can be the most perfect person, and I've
Speaker 1: experienced it so many times. I've had someone say it
Speaker 1: to me before, someone say to me, you tick every
Speaker 1: box on paper. You're everything I want except except you.
Speaker 1: Not except you, just not. And it doesn't make sense
Speaker 1: because you should feel lucky to have these characteristics in
Speaker 1: a person and in a partner, somebody that loves you
Speaker 1: and looks after you. But that doesn't mean that they're
Speaker 1: your person. Just because someone looks after and loves you
Speaker 1: and looks after you. There's one hundred people in the
Speaker 1: world that will love you and look after you in
Speaker 1: a different capacity. Some of them you're gonna vibe with
Speaker 1: and have so much more fun with and be more
Speaker 1: on the same path with for the future than others.
Speaker 1: If you are feeling after fifteen months that like, he's great,
Speaker 1: but I'm constantly wondering what else is out there, then
Speaker 1: unfortunately for me, I would say I would be going
Speaker 1: to look what else is out there.
Speaker 2: This is such a hard question, and the reason why
Speaker 2: is because I think that there are multiple ways that
Speaker 2: we can give it. Like, I don't want to sit
Speaker 2: here and tell you that you shouldn't be in this relationship, because,
Speaker 2: like I said at the beginning, you could be the
Speaker 2: toxic one who needs to do some work, but you
Speaker 2: may not be you may genuinely be bored. And I
Speaker 2: guess firstly, what I want to say is you don't
Speaker 2: have to have a big reason or a big thing
Speaker 2: that goes wrong in a relationship to leave a relationship.
Speaker 2: Often it can be the hardest to leave relationships where
Speaker 2: everything on paper is perfect, where you know that that
Speaker 2: person is an incredible person, they have done nothing wrong,
Speaker 2: they would love you endlessly and support you endlessly, but
Speaker 2: you just don't feel enough of whatever it is, or
Speaker 2: you haven't had enough of the excitement of the drama
Speaker 2: of other relationships to be able to value the stability
Speaker 2: of the one you're in. Sometimes you've got to live
Speaker 2: a life before you can either appreciate what it is
Speaker 2: that this relationship might have been able to bring you.
Speaker 2: But also sometimes you just meet people and you have
Speaker 2: great relationships and something that you cannot describe. That tells
Speaker 2: you they are not the one, and sometimes you have
Speaker 2: to listen you know, well, I think you have to
Speaker 2: listen to that. But those are I would say, some
Speaker 2: of the hardest relationships to leave because everything in your
Speaker 2: body says, but they're such a good person, so I
Speaker 2: should stay and I should be more appreciative, and there's
Speaker 2: something wrong with me, and why can't I just love
Speaker 2: them more? So that I want to give validity to you,
Speaker 2: because if that's where you're at, that's an incredibly hard place.
Speaker 2: But know that you can break up with someone without
Speaker 2: having a valid, solid reason, because the way you feel
Speaker 2: is reason enough. But question number two and sort of
Speaker 2: other way of looking at this is depending on where
Speaker 2: you're at in your own personal self healing journey and
Speaker 2: everything else, you will always find a stable relationship boring
Speaker 2: at the fifteen month mark if they are healthy, stable, consistent,
Speaker 2: taking care of you, and don't.
Speaker 1: Bring you the drama. And I say these agree with that.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, I'm saying if you're not at a
Speaker 2: place a good place in your self healing. I say
Speaker 2: this from my personal experience because some people are attracted
Speaker 2: to the drama. They are attracted to the excitement the
Speaker 2: volatility in relationships, but they don't realize that that's what
Speaker 2: it is. And I think that that comes with like
Speaker 2: the life lesson of repeating patterns in your relationship. I
Speaker 2: used to prioritize chemistry, this intense, like oh my god,
Speaker 2: I can't live without this person chemistry, but often it
Speaker 2: would result in volatility because the relationship itself spun around
Speaker 2: in toxic cycles. But I would have found a relationship
Speaker 2: like the one I'm in now with Matt, which is healthy, consistent, stable, loving,
Speaker 2: like I just feel so safe and calm. I would
Speaker 2: have thought it was boring. I would have thought, God,
Speaker 2: that's such a sweet boy. I would have thought that
Speaker 2: in my twenties, and I've spoken about that before. I've
Speaker 2: said that had I met Matt earlier, he is too
Speaker 2: normal for me. And it was just lucky that I
Speaker 2: had been through all the shit that I'd been through
Speaker 2: that I finally got to my own place in myself
Speaker 2: journey with relationships that I could value boring. So I
Speaker 2: think before you completely discard the relationship, really sit with
Speaker 2: yourself and question where you're at in your own personal
Speaker 2: life and what you need and what you seem to
Speaker 2: be drawn to in relationships and in people. And also
Speaker 2: can you get that stimulation, that excitement from other areas?
Speaker 2: Like does your boyfriend give you one thing and the
Speaker 2: rest of it you can get from your friends, from
Speaker 2: your family, or from your own self. And if the
Speaker 2: answer to that is no, you don't get enough from
Speaker 2: him and you already get those things from your friends
Speaker 2: and your family and everyone else in your life, then
Speaker 2: he's not the right person for you.
Speaker 1: Well, there's two standout things here, right, And like, I
Speaker 1: agree with everything you say, but for this specific question,
Speaker 1: she feels underwhelmed. She wants somebody to match her intellectually,
Speaker 1: and she's wondering if there's quote somebody out there that
Speaker 1: will make me happier.
Speaker 2: I'm passionate and fiery, but passionate and fiery that is
Speaker 2: going to subside. Passionate and fiery. Fiery doesn't last in
Speaker 2: a relationship forever.
Speaker 1: But you know what does is being able to match
Speaker 1: someone intellectually. And I truly believe that I have ended
Speaker 1: relationships in the past where I've felt like I was
Speaker 1: the same wavelength with somebody because we couldn't talk about
Speaker 1: the same things, because we didn't have interest in the
Speaker 1: same things because we didn't understand the same things. And
Speaker 1: that is when all else fades in a relationship, When
Speaker 1: the physicality fades and the chemistry and the spark fades,
Speaker 1: you don't have much left but to be able to
Speaker 1: communicate with each other. And if you can't communicate, that's
Speaker 1: a big thing. If my partner had said to me,
Speaker 1: I'm constantly thinking if I would be happier with someone else,
Speaker 1: that's huge. Like if you really are constantly thinking about
Speaker 1: if somebody's better suited and what it's like to be
Speaker 1: with somebody else, you're not in that relationship anymore. One
Speaker 1: foot still in, but one foot's out, you know, one
Speaker 1: foot steal in the carpet, and one is just on
Speaker 1: that grass ready to run. I would be one hundred
Speaker 1: percent considering that that is not the relationship for you.
Speaker 1: And I don't want to tell you to pack up
Speaker 1: and leave. But for me, those big things that you
Speaker 1: have said are big. I totally agree.
Speaker 2: And you know, when I was in my twenties, the
Speaker 2: one very he was so good and I would have
Speaker 2: described him as a sweet boy. Oh my god, my
Speaker 2: ex he was such a lovely man. But I was
Speaker 2: bored shitless right, because I didn't need that at the time.
Speaker 2: I needed the fucking drama. But I remember sitting at
Speaker 2: my computer this one day and I was in this
Speaker 2: exact spot, and I was googling should I break up.
Speaker 1: With my boyfriend?
Speaker 2: We've all been in this spot, should I break up
Speaker 2: with my boyfriend? Because I couldn't. I was like, there's
Speaker 2: no reason to break up with him. He's amazing, and
Speaker 2: I just don't feel where I need to feel. And
Speaker 2: I remember reading this one thing and it said, if
Speaker 2: you're googling should I break up with my boyfriend, the
Speaker 2: answer is probably yes. Like you seeking that validation. That's
Speaker 2: a big red flag in a relationship. If you're constantly
Speaker 2: seeking validation.
Speaker 1: What I think this girl's doing. I think a lot
Speaker 1: of the time, and I genuinely mean this, A lot
Speaker 1: of the time we get questions in I think to myself,
Speaker 1: this person already knows, like, this person's already decided, but
Speaker 1: they want that extra validation from someone that's not biased.
Speaker 1: I guess not a friend or a family member that's
Speaker 1: going to say no, he's good for you. Stay. I
Speaker 1: often think that you guys running and deep down you
Speaker 1: probably know the answer and I don't know if you're
Speaker 1: hoping for the validation or if you're hoping to someone
Speaker 1: to tell you to stay. I don't know, but I
Speaker 1: think if you reread your own question in this in
Speaker 1: this instance, you will come to the same decision. You're like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I do think about being with people all the time.
Speaker 1: He is not a match for me on that level.
Speaker 1: He's sweet and beautiful, but a lot of people are.
Speaker 1: I don't want to say lee, but I'd be considering that. Yes,
Speaker 1: I always feel bad when I say that, but I'm like,
Speaker 1: because you just we just blew up someone's relationship. No,
Speaker 1: they brewed up themselves. We just confirmed it's okay. Question
Speaker 1: number three, someone I follow on Instagram posted on their
Speaker 1: story that they're looking to set up their husband's best
Speaker 1: friend on a date. I love that.
Speaker 2: I love that people on Instagram going, you know what,
Speaker 2: this is a good guy someone dating. I have a
Speaker 2: girlfriend who I want to try and do that with.
Speaker 2: In the Facebook group Chazzy do it, it's I want
Speaker 2: to find her a boyfriend. She was like, it's desperate times,
Speaker 2: desperate measures. I have an amazing friend and we need
Speaker 2: to find her a boyfriend.
Speaker 1: I could try and s or someone maybe, Okay, we'll
Speaker 1: talk about that. Fitness. Yeah he loves to run. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I got someone. He hates running, but he's into fitness. Okay, okay, cool,
Speaker 1: talk to me out to the break, find me cool, guys.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna post Jazzy on the find me a boyfriend? Maybe,
Speaker 1: asked Jazzy first. No, she asked me to Okay, put it. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm doing it. I'll got this to it tomorrow. Okay.
Speaker 1: So she listed all the qualities about him. He sounds wonderful.
Speaker 1: So let's fast track. I'm texting this guy. We go
Speaker 1: on a first date. All is amazing. We both have
Speaker 1: really busy schedules, though, which are opposites, so it means
Speaker 1: we only share a few messages a day because I'm
Speaker 1: a fitness instructor, so I work the mornings and nights
Speaker 1: when he's at home. Anyhow, after not speaking to him
Speaker 1: for a whole day, he has sort of ghosted me.
Speaker 1: At this point, I accidentally sent my location on my
Speaker 1: way to work. I sent him my live location at
Speaker 1: five am in the morning when he hasn't even replied
Speaker 1: to my last text. How does this happen? This is
Speaker 1: actually like an accidentally unfiltered. This is one of those
Speaker 1: moments where you're like, I don't even know if this
Speaker 1: is an asking cart. This is like what the fuck?
Speaker 1: He's not message me back, so I'm gonna send him
Speaker 1: my location come to me, daddy. You know this is
Speaker 1: when you happens when you're talking to a friend. You
Speaker 1: want to talk about the relationship, so you go to
Speaker 1: the messages to check what the last message was. It's like,
Speaker 1: it's like going me saying, look, this is the last
Speaker 1: thing I wrote. So she's gone in and she's realized
Speaker 1: that she sent him the live location. What does she
Speaker 1: do at this point? Does she message him to pretend
Speaker 1: she didn't do it, does she message him and pretend
Speaker 1: she did mean to do it, or does she never
Speaker 1: see this person again? Oh my god, just message and Sam,
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry to mean to send you that. It's
Speaker 1: also a bit late now it's probably been dated, yes,
Speaker 1: like a straight away right. I actually just think this.
Speaker 2: Isn't accidentally unfiltered. I think this guy's gone yeah, but
Speaker 2: like who, I don't know. I know, I take that
Speaker 2: back because I do remember how much you obsess over
Speaker 2: every little detail at the beginning of dating someone. Like
Speaker 2: you obsess over Oh my god, did they find that
Speaker 2: message funny?
Speaker 1: Was it not funny? Like? What do they think of this?
Speaker 1: What didn't they think of this?
Speaker 2: I know that you feel like an idiot because you're
Speaker 2: so in your head about it, but I think sometimes
Speaker 2: we just need to take these things less seriously. Like
Speaker 2: you accidentally did something. You didn't send him a photo
Speaker 2: of your you know who. Ha, So just send him
Speaker 2: a text and be like, oh, sorry about that. I
Speaker 2: really didn't mean to send that awkward.
Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't at this point because he ghosted you anyway. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like he ghosted you from your texting. You're sending me
Speaker 1: your location. If you wanted to turn up to where
Speaker 1: you were at five am, he could have, but he didn't.
Speaker 1: He was a sleeper, to be fair. He was like,
Speaker 1: I missed that one. Send again. I think that that
Speaker 1: ship may have sailed, and if it hasn't, you will
Speaker 1: hear from him again. He's a guy, he has a dick.
Speaker 1: He's not irrelevant, no, but is pretty irrelevant. No, it
Speaker 1: is what I want to say, A guy with a
Speaker 1: dick or a guy without a dick. Whatever. Guys when
Speaker 1: they want something and they're interested in somebody, They're going
Speaker 1: a message, even if he thinks that your live location
Speaker 1: was weird. Even if he's weird, if he's interested in somebody,
Speaker 1: he'll still text you. He'll just be like, hey, sorry,
Speaker 1: was that meant for me? Like he's going to make contact.
Speaker 2: The thing is is that if someone is really into you,
Speaker 2: thing that you do that someone who's not into you
Speaker 2: is going to think weird. They're not going to think
Speaker 2: it is weird. They're going to be excited that you've
Speaker 2: shown them interests. They're going to be excited that you message.
Speaker 2: It doesn't matter what if you send an accidental message,
Speaker 2: even if it's like a dot, a full stop, whatever,
Speaker 2: their phone lighting up and it being your name on
Speaker 2: their phone, if they're into you, is going to make
Speaker 2: them excited and happy, and they're going to say, hey,
Speaker 2: was that meant for me?
Speaker 1: They're going to write back. Right, if I was frothing
Speaker 1: a guy and he sent me his live location, I'd
Speaker 1: be there totally right.
Speaker 2: And so the fact that you've sent it and he
Speaker 2: hasn't responded just indicates that he Unfortunately, and I know
Speaker 2: that this is harsh and I hate it, but it's
Speaker 2: the truth. He's not as into you as what you're
Speaker 2: into him, and so it might be awkward. He might
Speaker 2: have been like, oh no, why does she send me
Speaker 2: that wido? But that is an indication that he's just
Speaker 2: not at the place that you were at, and so
Speaker 2: maybe don't give this relationship any more airtime. Don't try
Speaker 2: and text him again. He knows where to find you.
Speaker 2: And if he does really like you, but he knows
Speaker 2: where to find you, literally is is like, if he
Speaker 2: does really like you, let's just say that that saying
Speaker 2: is wrong, you know, And this is the bare minimum
Speaker 2: of effort that he puts in to try and maintain
Speaker 2: a relationship.
Speaker 1: It's not gonna work anyway. So I think that this
Speaker 1: is a blessing in disguise. I'm just thinking because you
Speaker 1: can send two kinds of locations. You can send one
Speaker 1: that's like I just send you where I am now,
Speaker 1: But you can also send one where they can follow
Speaker 1: you for like twenty four hours, like has she set
Speaker 1: the location? That's like you can see where I am
Speaker 1: for a whole day if you would come find me
Speaker 1: whereover I am. That's so actually so funny.
Speaker 2: I do wish and I'd say this is someone who
Speaker 2: can look at it from the outside, because I understand
Speaker 2: that it's so easy.
Speaker 1: When you're in a good relationship. Thanks for the verse,
Speaker 1: Fuck off, Flora, But when you know do you know
Speaker 1: what I mean totally?
Speaker 2: If it's so easy to give advice when you come
Speaker 2: from the comfort of like a nice, happy relationship. But
Speaker 2: I wish when I was dating I could have taken
Speaker 2: this part less seriously. I wish I could have enjoyed.
Speaker 2: I wish I didn't scrutinize over every text message. I
Speaker 2: wish I didn't get so worked up or like, oh
Speaker 2: my god, does he like me? Doesn't he like me?
Speaker 2: He hasn't messaged me for a day. I wish I
Speaker 2: could have just been more calm around those connections. But
Speaker 2: I remember always feeling that franticness as well. So my
Speaker 2: advice in this is like, don't make this a bigger
Speaker 2: deal than what it is. It was an accident. It's
Speaker 2: not going to change your life in any years time.
Speaker 2: You're never even going to think about it, so just
Speaker 2: ignore it and move on.
Speaker 1: I do want to also say, in relation to this
Speaker 1: is just a really generalized comment. How many people, my
Speaker 1: friends included, how many people say I don't get it
Speaker 1: though the date was amazing. We had fun, we talked,
Speaker 1: we had things in common. That doesn't necessarily translate to
Speaker 1: somebody wanting to pursue something with you, Like you can
Speaker 1: very easily go out and have an amazing date with
Speaker 1: someone knowing you don't want to take it further. I've
Speaker 1: done that a hundred times. I've found somebody funny, the
Speaker 1: date's gone well, we've had the banter, but I'm like,
Speaker 1: there's nothing else there. But the date was great. So
Speaker 1: many people say, but the date was great, Why has
Speaker 1: any messaged me? They're just not interested. It doesn't have
Speaker 1: to be a personal thing either. You can I just
Speaker 1: wanted to really be driven home that you can have
Speaker 1: a great date and have fun with someone and they're
Speaker 1: not you. Penguin. Yeah, absolutely, okay. Fourth and last question
Speaker 1: settle the debate between a girl and her partner. Is
Speaker 1: peen in the pool gross? He thinks that the ocean
Speaker 1: or the river is fine, but the pool is too far.
Speaker 1: I think that the pool is fine because it's usually
Speaker 1: treated for that stuff. Right, You're a pig ill. You're
Speaker 1: a pig ill.
Speaker 2: My daughter pete in the bath the other day and
Speaker 2: I had to empty the whole bath out and refill
Speaker 2: it because he's like, you're not going to bathe you
Speaker 2: in your urine.
Speaker 1: I'm shocked that there are people out there that think
Speaker 1: peen in a pool is okay, which is also alarming
Speaker 1: when so many of us have swum in public pools.
Speaker 1: You're literally just swimming in human piss and chlorine. Have
Speaker 1: you treated a piss? Anyone who's been to Bali? You
Speaker 1: know those big beach clubs, Ah a pool of piss.
Speaker 1: They are drunk partiers. It's a pool of piss. No,
Speaker 1: there is one in Hamilton Island, right, Okay? So last
Speaker 1: year Hatock Hamilton.
Speaker 2: No, it was incredible. It was one of my most
Speaker 2: favorite places that I have ever been to. But I
Speaker 2: to one of the resorts that had to swim around pool.
Speaker 2: It's like a donut shape and the bars in the middle,
Speaker 2: and I.
Speaker 1: Know the exact one. It was the consistency of soup.
Speaker 2: I got in it and it was so warm, and
Speaker 2: there were men who had been in there and they
Speaker 2: were all drunk, and it was about five o'clock in.
Speaker 1: The afternoon and they were like whoa blah blah. None
Speaker 1: of them got out and I was like, oh, you motherfucker'
Speaker 1: are pissing in this pool right now.
Speaker 2: My kids are swimming around like something like Larley goes
Speaker 2: under has a mouthful of water. I was like, not okay,
Speaker 2: it's not okay. You are not alone if you think
Speaker 2: it's okay to piss in the pool. Everyone's doing it,
Speaker 2: which means that that chlorine is working real hard.
Speaker 1: It's working overtime. It's the chlorine's not her question is
Speaker 1: it's okay because it's treated for that stuff? Right? No, yes,
Speaker 1: you put chlorine. Don't add to the proper It doesn't counteract.
Speaker 1: You don't do it doesn't bullshit. A weed does not
Speaker 1: come out. Do you reach through like this and the
Speaker 1: chlorine's like and deteriorates it as it shooks out. That's
Speaker 1: not science, that's not physiology, that's not biology. That's you
Speaker 1: ain't happening if you wean a pool that we is
Speaker 1: in the pool and other people are swimming in it,
Speaker 1: so stop it, stop it, stop it. It is dispersed,
Speaker 1: though it's very very odd, it's okay to swim in
Speaker 1: dispersed urine. Laura, can you say dispersed again, diluted urine
Speaker 1: disperstur because I was gonna say diluted, and my brain
Speaker 1: stopped up.
Speaker 2: Okay, I agree with your boyfriend, and I'm going to
Speaker 2: go back to how I originally answer this question.
Speaker 1: You're a pig. Yes, ocean and rivers are fine, except
Speaker 1: I always think they attract sharks, so I also try
Speaker 1: not to do that. You can absolutely pee in the ocean,
Speaker 1: and you can absolutely pean a river. I just have
Speaker 1: it in my head that if I wi in a river,
Speaker 1: a bullshark will find me. I'm pitch fright of it.
Speaker 1: I don't know what it is. It's one of those
Speaker 1: myth things I think when you're a kid and you
Speaker 1: hear the pain attract shark, I think it does attraction.
Speaker 1: I think it does. I don't think that.
Speaker 2: When you question that, you've got to remember you're also
Speaker 2: usually swimming at a beach with lots of other people
Speaker 2: who are also peeing in the ocean, so you hope
Speaker 2: a lot there's a lot of peace circulating around that area,
Speaker 2: so the sharks are coming whether you do it or not.
Speaker 1: You know, I agree with your partner.
Speaker 2: It's not very often that we get questions written in
Speaker 2: where I confidently and without doubt disagree with the person
Speaker 2: who has written.
Speaker 1: In the question, Okay, can I tell you how confident
Speaker 1: this listener is. She's also said I thought this would
Speaker 1: be a good poll. She's co confident that people are
Speaker 1: going to be on her side with the poor wing
Speaker 1: that she has asked us to pole it. Here's my
Speaker 1: question for you. This is a real question. I'm not
Speaker 1: going to do a poo in the either, Laura, no
Speaker 1: farts and a ja.
Speaker 4: No.
Speaker 1: My question is would you ever pee in the bath? No,
Speaker 1: the toilet is next to them. I'm not a child,
Speaker 1: don't look like child. I would not so fresh faced white,
Speaker 1: thank you.
Speaker 2: But you get in the bar, you get in the bath,
Speaker 2: and you need to wazy toilets, and then every person
Speaker 2: has to get out, and then we in the toilet.
Speaker 1: What do you mean every person? How many people are
Speaker 1: in your bar? I know how I have a bath alone.
Speaker 2: No, I just am asking the question because my kids
Speaker 2: always pee in the bath, and then I have to
Speaker 2: question myself as to whether I empty it.
Speaker 1: Ninety percent of the time I don't. I'll just say,
Speaker 1: if you're in a pin in there, you can wash it. Sorry,
Speaker 1: it's too much. Our bath feels so slow. And if
Speaker 1: they're one of them, if the three year old's going
Speaker 1: to pee in the bath, I'm like, that's unfortunate. K.
Speaker 1: I'll just put a bit more palm olive on you today.
Speaker 1: That is a I'm just gonna roll you around in
Speaker 1: the olive oil. Two good poles here. One, do you
Speaker 1: pee in the bath? Do you pee?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 1: Would you pean the pool for this girl? Like, let's
Speaker 1: settle it for her because she obviously is not gonna
Speaker 1: believe about what we have said, so let's poll it. Two.
Speaker 1: Are you a mum if your kid peas in the bath?
Speaker 1: Do you empty it and refill it? Or do you
Speaker 1: let them bathe in it? Because that's a really good
Speaker 1: question because I know you're ninety nine percent of the time,
Speaker 1: I just let them bathe in it.
Speaker 2: And it was only the other day when Lola stood
Speaker 2: up and confidently weed standing up in the bath. And
Speaker 2: then my my mother in law was like, we've got
Speaker 2: to empty and put new water it, and I was
Speaker 2: like why. She was like, she just weed in the
Speaker 2: bath and that's her problem.
Speaker 1: I would probably empty. Yeah. Okay, Anyway, that's it from
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