WEBVTT - Ask Uncut - Millennials eye shadow is out! 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.400 Life on Cut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose 0:00:03.480 --> 0:00:06.160 lands were never seated. We pay our respects to their 0:00:06.160 --> 0:00:07.600 elders past and present. 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:11.399 Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:13.360 recorded on de rug Wallamata Land. 0:00:23.160 --> 0:00:25.279 Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life 0:00:25.280 --> 0:00:27.520 on Cut. I'm Laura. I'm Brittany. Do you know what 0:00:27.560 --> 0:00:32.320 I've come to realize? Oh? Really, please enlighten me? Realize 0:00:32.520 --> 0:00:34.280 that I don't know how. I don't know English, but 0:00:34.400 --> 0:00:36.280 I actually can't pronounce words. No. 0:00:36.440 --> 0:00:39.920 I have come to realize because of watching our YouTube 0:00:40.000 --> 0:00:42.720 channel that we have now, because our YouTube is look 0:00:42.760 --> 0:00:45.839 at your YouTube. We swear too much, especially me. 0:00:46.159 --> 0:00:48.680 You say you realize that because I told you that. 0:00:48.920 --> 0:00:51.239 I literally went through all the videos before they went 0:00:51.280 --> 0:00:54.560 live and I said, hey, disclaimer, you might want to 0:00:54.640 --> 0:00:57.320 check this because you are swearing like a trooper. And 0:00:57.360 --> 0:00:58.920 you're like, nah, it'll be fine. I was like, no, 0:00:58.960 --> 0:01:01.840 it'd be fucking fine. From memory as well, like fuck you, Brittany, 0:01:01.880 --> 0:01:03.480 it'll be fucking fine. 0:01:03.840 --> 0:01:06.520 There was one YouTube which I apologize if you were 0:01:06.560 --> 0:01:08.240 easily and now I like looking at the camera like 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:12.240 talking talk to me, Okay, if you are easily offended 0:01:12.240 --> 0:01:15.880 by swearing. There is one YouTube video that it was 0:01:16.000 --> 0:01:18.840 producer Keisha and I, but we were talking about swearing. 0:01:19.360 --> 0:01:20.360 That's the whole premise of it. 0:01:20.400 --> 0:01:22.240 And you can't really talk about swearing without doing the 0:01:22.280 --> 0:01:23.280 swearing because it was. 0:01:23.319 --> 0:01:24.759 Kind of a crucial to the story. 0:01:24.800 --> 0:01:26.200 But it's a lot So if you go to that, 0:01:26.480 --> 0:01:29.600 if you watch that video first, you might be alarmed. 0:01:29.880 --> 0:01:32.479 So instead you should go to the World's Biggest porn 0:01:32.480 --> 0:01:33.720 star because that would be less alarming. 0:01:33.880 --> 0:01:37.160 Angela White also great. Didn't swear, actually didn't swear, didn't swear. 0:01:37.280 --> 0:01:39.000 Did talk about anal a lot though, so I think 0:01:39.160 --> 0:01:41.480 some people might find that more confronting than swearing. 0:01:41.600 --> 0:01:43.959 No, but she's you know, potato potato. She spoke about 0:01:44.000 --> 0:01:49.720 anal so casually, so diplomatically and intellectually, and like, I 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:52.000 found it fascinating listening to a talk and the way 0:01:52.000 --> 0:01:55.200 she was speaking. She could about what she had for breakfast, 0:01:55.320 --> 0:01:57.480 you know, the way she delives it because she's so articulate, 0:01:57.840 --> 0:02:00.680 so the way she speaks doesn't sound like it's about anal. 0:02:00.720 --> 0:02:03.200 She's like That's how in that moment I realized that 0:02:03.320 --> 0:02:05.640 my fist did fit in my ass and I'm like 0:02:05.760 --> 0:02:08.359 totally like it was the delivery. 0:02:08.440 --> 0:02:11.840 I was like, yes, yes, screen her voice is smooth 0:02:11.840 --> 0:02:14.680 as butter. Also not surprising that that has been our 0:02:14.720 --> 0:02:15.880 most watch YouTube so far. 0:02:16.120 --> 0:02:18.160 Yeah, because it's all men. They're not subscribing to us. 0:02:18.200 --> 0:02:19.920 This is not we just. 0:02:19.880 --> 0:02:22.520 Got to watch Angele or why we did not gain 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:25.360 a single additional listener. But we do have a lot 0:02:25.400 --> 0:02:27.600 of views on that one single video. And when I 0:02:27.639 --> 0:02:30.000 say a lot, I mean like just more than the 0:02:30.040 --> 0:02:32.639 others because it only launched on Tuesdays. If you haven't 0:02:32.680 --> 0:02:36.400 seen the YouTube station, like the station, wow my brain 0:02:36.480 --> 0:02:37.359 is you. 0:02:37.320 --> 0:02:41.240 Guys haven't gone to our YouTube station on Planet Laura. 0:02:41.400 --> 0:02:44.200 It's a channel on our YouTube channel. Yet it's new, 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:46.200 it's fresh, it's fun. 0:02:46.480 --> 0:02:51.040 Go hey, guys, I am gonna speak my mind out loud. 0:02:51.080 --> 0:02:53.520 That's what we do on a podcast. I'm having a 0:02:53.560 --> 0:02:59.160 really hard battle, internal battle. We've been happy and sad. 0:02:59.440 --> 0:03:04.120 Oh in a very particular situation, this normally would make 0:03:04.120 --> 0:03:06.960 people really happy. So Ben, who lives over in Scotland, 0:03:07.520 --> 0:03:09.960 lives about forty five minutes to an hour away from 0:03:10.200 --> 0:03:13.160 my sister Sherry and her husband Jay, who were like 0:03:13.200 --> 0:03:15.160 the other two closest people to me in my life 0:03:15.600 --> 0:03:17.760 and they're hanging out all the time. And I know 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:19.520 I've said this before. I'm like, it's so good that 0:03:19.520 --> 0:03:21.400 they're getting to know each other. But now it's like 0:03:21.919 --> 0:03:24.320 it's too much for my heart and I don't know 0:03:24.320 --> 0:03:28.120 what to do because I'm jealous in a way of 0:03:28.200 --> 0:03:30.080 like they're living the life I want. And I know 0:03:30.120 --> 0:03:32.080 I've said it before, but I just now got off 0:03:32.080 --> 0:03:33.920 the phone to Ben and I was like, Oh, that's 0:03:34.080 --> 0:03:37.920 so great. I'm like really happy for you guys, because 0:03:37.920 --> 0:03:40.200 he's like, oh, he just spent the last two days 0:03:40.200 --> 0:03:42.680 at their house and now they're coming to his house. 0:03:42.720 --> 0:03:45.920 He's like, oh, Jane Cherry are coming next week and 0:03:45.960 --> 0:03:48.040 we're going to the match and then we're going to 0:03:48.040 --> 0:03:50.480 go to Switzerland. He's like, I'm taking them back to 0:03:50.560 --> 0:03:52.360 my hometown and we're staying at my home and I'm 0:03:52.360 --> 0:03:54.080 going to show them about where I grew up and stuff. 0:03:54.080 --> 0:03:58.360 And I was like, I haven't been for us, and 0:03:58.360 --> 0:04:00.040 he's like, yeah, I know that's something that like I 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:01.920 should probably be doing with you, but you know you're 0:04:01.920 --> 0:04:03.839 not here, and so I'm gonna take them and show 0:04:03.880 --> 0:04:06.840 them my childhood and I was like, like a knife 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:09.760 in the heart. That's wonderful. I was like, Sherry can 0:04:09.800 --> 0:04:12.640 tell me all about your childhood, and I don't know 0:04:12.680 --> 0:04:14.680 what to do with that. No, I understand. I think 0:04:14.720 --> 0:04:15.960 that is completely warranted. 0:04:15.960 --> 0:04:19.279 I think it's the part when your sister the amount 0:04:19.320 --> 0:04:22.160 of like mileage and like airtime FaceTime that she's had 0:04:22.200 --> 0:04:24.960 with your partner exceeds the amount of FaceTime that you've 0:04:25.000 --> 0:04:25.719 had with your partner. 0:04:25.800 --> 0:04:26.760 No, her physical time. 0:04:26.880 --> 0:04:29.200 Yeah, I mean like no, I don't mean FaceTime is 0:04:29.200 --> 0:04:31.440 in like on FaceTime. I mean face two face times, 0:04:31.600 --> 0:04:34.400 face to real face to FaceTime exceeds what you have 0:04:34.440 --> 0:04:35.599 spent with your actual partner. 0:04:35.640 --> 0:04:38.159 It probably is the moment where you go, this is 0:04:38.200 --> 0:04:40.520 an ideal. It's not. It's the hanging out. It's fine, 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:43.559 but they're like embracing their childhood and like all getting 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:46.000 to experience all that was unnecessary. He doesn't need to 0:04:46.040 --> 0:04:48.680 show you your sister that No Jay's going to And 0:04:48.720 --> 0:04:50.520 then they're like, all our friends are gonna have over 0:04:50.520 --> 0:04:52.279 for a barbecue and they'll meet people. And I was like, 0:04:53.279 --> 0:04:55.880 I don't know anyone in your life. I don't exist. 0:04:56.560 --> 0:04:59.320 You don't stop it. The Daily Mail says you exist 0:04:59.400 --> 0:04:59.839 in his life. 0:04:59.839 --> 0:05:02.160 That's all that matters. Yeah, that's true. I get the 0:05:02.160 --> 0:05:05.599 clear So, like, you know, it was a bad joke. 0:05:05.720 --> 0:05:10.520 So that was a joke. Don't care for me? Can 0:05:10.560 --> 0:05:12.960 we go back? No? 0:05:13.080 --> 0:05:15.560 But what I'm saying is is kind of like one 0:05:15.560 --> 0:05:17.920 of the reassuring things when you're doing long distance with 0:05:17.920 --> 0:05:21.200 someone who is famous in Scotland is what Ben is 0:05:21.240 --> 0:05:24.320 because of what he does when people google him, Like 0:05:24.360 --> 0:05:25.760 if ever a chick's on a night out and she's 0:05:25.839 --> 0:05:27.840 like Ben, all that comes up is like a very 0:05:27.839 --> 0:05:29.520 hot photo of the two of you together. Is it 0:05:29.600 --> 0:05:33.400 just disarming? No, because it would make anyone be like, oh, 0:05:33.480 --> 0:05:34.280 I don't have a chance. 0:05:34.320 --> 0:05:36.560 Like he's just too clearly, I wasn't worried about any 0:05:36.600 --> 0:05:38.440 other women, but thank you for putting in my hands 0:05:38.440 --> 0:05:39.400 just just about my sister. 0:05:41.560 --> 0:05:43.960 You have nothing to worry about. Also, your sister's married, 0:05:43.960 --> 0:05:45.400 so like she's not going to cut your grass. 0:05:45.800 --> 0:05:47.880 Everything's oh, she's not kind of my grass. Hey. You 0:05:47.880 --> 0:05:49.360 know what else I read? I wanted to bring this 0:05:49.440 --> 0:05:51.240 up today and it couldn't be more fitting. I read 0:05:51.240 --> 0:05:53.120 something yesterday that I didn't realize I was going to 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:55.479 bring up today. I was just upset by it myself. 0:05:55.920 --> 0:05:57.680 What's god, this is going to make me sound old? 0:05:57.720 --> 0:06:02.000 What's the young generation called again? It's easy, Okay, ed 0:06:02.120 --> 0:06:05.520 or X said, aussy, we're millennials. 0:06:05.960 --> 0:06:07.800 Sorry to all the gen zs who are listening to 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:09.920 this who don't apparently wear I make up anymore. 0:06:10.160 --> 0:06:12.040 That's what I want to talk to you about. Gen 0:06:12.400 --> 0:06:15.640 and use fucking drunk elephant skin care products. I've read 0:06:15.880 --> 0:06:19.520 yesterday the gen Z has canceled eyeshadow. 0:06:19.800 --> 0:06:20.040 Nah. 0:06:20.080 --> 0:06:22.680 I saw that Mma meter article as well. Its everywhere, 0:06:23.480 --> 0:06:25.039 but it was Muma Meir who started it was on 0:06:25.080 --> 0:06:28.000 their Instagram. I went into the deep spiral of oh 0:06:28.040 --> 0:06:29.640 my god, I'm my old. I wear I make up? 0:06:29.800 --> 0:06:31.560 You got to click on the article and actually read 0:06:31.600 --> 0:06:33.799 the content. Apparently they do. They just use it minimally 0:06:33.839 --> 0:06:34.960 and they use a rose blush. 0:06:35.160 --> 0:06:38.840 Can I just interject, it's not it's TikTok. 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:41.760 It's trending on TikTok, which is the most millennial thing. 0:06:42.120 --> 0:06:43.800 Yeah. No, Mom and me just took it off and 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:46.120 this has gone for ages. It's the thing that MoMA 0:06:46.120 --> 0:06:49.359 mes just reporting on from. Yeah, but I walked in 0:06:49.360 --> 0:06:51.240 today with some my shadow on. I still put some, 0:06:51.279 --> 0:06:52.800 but I put less on because I was like, oh, 0:06:52.800 --> 0:06:55.840 I better put there. I walk in Keisha's I've never 0:06:55.839 --> 0:06:57.479 seen it with heavier eye show in my life. 0:06:57.680 --> 0:06:59.960 Look at it, which is hilarious because produce a Keisha. 0:07:00.120 --> 0:07:01.960 You are the one who always says like I sit 0:07:02.040 --> 0:07:04.159 on the cuss between gen Z and millennial. I like 0:07:04.200 --> 0:07:06.560 to lean into my gen Z. Not today, girlfriend, No 0:07:06.640 --> 0:07:10.160 that big ten eyes showered. Otherwise I got ready in 0:07:10.160 --> 0:07:10.520 the dark. 0:07:10.600 --> 0:07:12.920 Okay. We started really early this morning, and I actually 0:07:13.120 --> 0:07:15.240 did it. We started at seven. The sun comes up 0:07:15.240 --> 0:07:15.720 at five. 0:07:16.680 --> 0:07:18.440 When I was putting makeup on today, it was all like, 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:21.120 not natural lighting I actually have. 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:22.960 I did have the lights on, but they're very warm. 0:07:23.040 --> 0:07:24.680 So I realized I think it was I just went 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:26.520 to the bathroom here at work, and I was like, well. 0:07:26.640 --> 0:07:28.840 I just thought you went no, it looks great, but 0:07:29.200 --> 0:07:31.920 pushing down GM wouldn't like it. But what I also 0:07:31.960 --> 0:07:34.040 thought was funny. I was really in this spiral because 0:07:34.080 --> 0:07:35.840 I love a bit of eyeshadow. I do the under 0:07:35.960 --> 0:07:37.960 eyes shadow as well instead of eyeliner, like you know, 0:07:37.960 --> 0:07:39.840 how you go around the whole eye. I kept on 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:42.000 reading it and the trend that's in, which is so 0:07:42.960 --> 0:07:45.240 going to benefit you, Laura, is that the trend that 0:07:45.280 --> 0:07:48.640 he's in is looking tired and keep and keeping bags 0:07:48.720 --> 0:07:51.640 under your eyes come f with gen Z. No one 0:07:51.680 --> 0:07:54.440 does it better than Laura bad. That is my shit. 0:07:54.560 --> 0:08:00.000 You don't have to spreadula ready, you were born, You 0:08:00.120 --> 0:08:01.920 wake up every day and you could hit a catwalk. 0:08:02.040 --> 0:08:04.000 According to jen Z because they're like, what is in 0:08:04.040 --> 0:08:07.480 his no makeup? And that really tired, like Pete Davidson 0:08:07.600 --> 0:08:09.480 under I look and I feel like you rock that. 0:08:09.680 --> 0:08:11.400 Thanks Brett. That's a real compliment for me. 0:08:11.520 --> 0:08:13.680 I was saying to produce a Keisha today in the 0:08:13.680 --> 0:08:16.360 car on the ride here since having children, and I 0:08:16.400 --> 0:08:17.920 didn't say, this is like a storytop. 0:08:18.200 --> 0:08:20.120 You know. Keisha was saying that she had a really bad. 0:08:20.080 --> 0:08:23.200 Night sleep and Laura's like, fuck, you know, she said 0:08:23.240 --> 0:08:24.880 she know she was up for two hours trying to 0:08:24.880 --> 0:08:27.520 get to sleep and it resulted in a bad night sleep. 0:08:27.560 --> 0:08:28.760 And I was like, you know what, and I know 0:08:28.840 --> 0:08:31.280 that I hate being the person that is going to 0:08:31.360 --> 0:08:33.040 do what I'm about to do. I was like, because 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:35.640 no one wants to compete on who had the worst sleep. 0:08:35.920 --> 0:08:38.840 I was like, but that you did is so normal, 0:08:38.960 --> 0:08:40.920 Like the version that you just gave me. Then, is 0:08:40.960 --> 0:08:43.800 so normal to me that that wouldn't even rate as 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:44.640 a bad night sleep. 0:08:44.720 --> 0:08:45.360 That was brilliant. 0:08:45.600 --> 0:08:48.520 I wouldn't even complain about that because I'm so used. 0:08:48.760 --> 0:08:51.640 I feel hungover one hundred percent of the time. 0:08:52.120 --> 0:08:55.160 Okay, I'll see when myself out, it's probably because I 0:08:55.240 --> 0:08:59.240 drink every day. No, that's she guess. I drinks myself 0:08:59.240 --> 0:09:02.480 to sleep every night, and I feel hungover everything every day. 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:03.360 No I do. 0:09:03.440 --> 0:09:05.880 I wake up feeling hungover every day, or just like 0:09:06.000 --> 0:09:08.600 a little bit exhausted from the second I wake up 0:09:08.679 --> 0:09:09.920 until the second I go to bed. 0:09:10.120 --> 0:09:12.760 And I am half joking. Anyone that is watching this 0:09:12.800 --> 0:09:15.280 on our YouTube station at the moment, you can see 0:09:15.280 --> 0:09:16.840 that Laura doesn't have a bag on her eye. You 0:09:16.880 --> 0:09:19.560 look amazing. Must be the profilo, the Felller, not feller 0:09:19.640 --> 0:09:22.360 that you had. I just joke that, you know you 0:09:22.400 --> 0:09:24.640 are always tired because you never sleep well because you 0:09:24.640 --> 0:09:26.280 have little kids. You don't have to clarify. 0:09:26.360 --> 0:09:28.000 I know I look like shit one hundred percent of 0:09:28.040 --> 0:09:29.640 the time, but I'm trying harder now because people can 0:09:29.640 --> 0:09:29.920 see me. 0:09:30.200 --> 0:09:32.480 I have just and I've always been like this. I 0:09:32.520 --> 0:09:36.079 think I've never been somebody that goes with the trends. 0:09:36.160 --> 0:09:38.280 I've never If I like something, I will do it. 0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:40.440 I don't care if someone tells me it's out. I'm 0:09:40.440 --> 0:09:42.640 going to continue to wear my eye shadow for as 0:09:42.679 --> 0:09:45.080 long as possible. That's where I want to get. 0:09:45.160 --> 0:09:48.000 I think that's a good idea. Because you're also not fourteen. 0:09:48.120 --> 0:09:50.480 So if the fourteens are telling you you don't need 0:09:50.520 --> 0:09:53.240 to till like twenty eight or something, Laura, well, it's 0:09:53.240 --> 0:09:55.840 still a decade younger than me. Anyway, moving her along, 0:09:55.920 --> 0:09:57.440 I wanted to tell you, guys, give you a little 0:09:57.480 --> 0:10:01.160 update in my personal life. Mattis home. It was very exciting. 0:10:01.240 --> 0:10:04.400 He's back from Vegas. He the poor thing. He got 0:10:04.400 --> 0:10:06.080 a bit upset with me last night because he walked 0:10:06.080 --> 0:10:08.800 in the door and I was so happy to see him, 0:10:08.840 --> 0:10:11.080 and then I took my mom. Actually that's my vibe 0:10:11.160 --> 0:10:12.840 this week, so I will say that I took my 0:10:12.920 --> 0:10:14.760 mom and my mother in law to the theater last 0:10:14.840 --> 0:10:16.360 night and left Matt. And when I got home, it 0:10:16.400 --> 0:10:19.200 was eleven o'clock and he was still awake, and I 0:10:19.240 --> 0:10:21.760 looked at him and I was like, I love you, 0:10:21.840 --> 0:10:24.000 and I'm so glad you're home, but you look like shit. 0:10:24.679 --> 0:10:26.800 And he was like, yeah, it's been a week of 0:10:26.920 --> 0:10:30.600 drinking and partying and working and he was getting any sleep, 0:10:30.960 --> 0:10:32.839 so he's really feeling the effects. But then he got 0:10:32.880 --> 0:10:34.600 really sad and he was like, that's a really mean 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:38.720 thing to say. I was like, fair show your partner 0:10:38.720 --> 0:10:40.600 that they look like shit when they've just come home. Yes, 0:10:40.640 --> 0:10:46.040 you're from Vegas though, like of course he. 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:46.800 Look have you seen the hangover due? The guy hasn't 0:10:46.840 --> 0:10:49.640 been at a wellness spa. He's been at Vegas exactly. 0:10:50.080 --> 0:10:52.520 It's a warrant. I would be shocked if you didn't 0:10:52.559 --> 0:10:53.280 say that. Yeah. 0:10:53.320 --> 0:10:55.120 I was like, I love you and I'm so happy 0:10:55.160 --> 0:10:57.520 to see you, and you're still a very sexy man. 0:10:57.880 --> 0:10:59.800 But you just look a little bit shitter than you left. 0:11:00.280 --> 0:11:02.760 That's all. That's all I'm saying. I'll validate that, all right, 0:11:02.800 --> 0:11:03.120 thank you. 0:11:03.160 --> 0:11:05.400 And the other life update is I was talking about 0:11:05.440 --> 0:11:08.880 on Tuesday the girls were getting a kitten, and yesterday 0:11:08.920 --> 0:11:10.640 we went out to the pond where we got the 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:13.920 kitten from. It's from Sydney cats and dogs, which honestly, 0:11:14.360 --> 0:11:15.720 I mean, it's a bit of a drive from where 0:11:15.720 --> 0:11:18.040 I am, but there were so many animals and they 0:11:18.040 --> 0:11:20.760 do such incredible work. And we got there and I 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:25.280 reckon there was like thirty to forty kittens and cats 0:11:25.320 --> 0:11:29.319 that all needed homes. Apparently this is kitten season. Didn't 0:11:29.360 --> 0:11:31.440 know that they were seasonal, but apparently there's like a 0:11:31.480 --> 0:11:33.520 time of year where all the cats are getting it 0:11:33.559 --> 0:11:35.040 on and then all the kittens are being born in 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:38.880 bush shelters and stuff. And it was so overwhelming for 0:11:38.960 --> 0:11:40.720 Lola and Marley because we walked in there and there 0:11:40.760 --> 0:11:43.679 were so many kittens. And at the start, Marley was 0:11:43.720 --> 0:11:46.000 really into it. She was like this one, this one, 0:11:46.200 --> 0:11:46.400 and I. 0:11:46.400 --> 0:11:49.400 Was like, stop throwing the kittens. She just throws me 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:51.840 to the cash. I'll take that one. Only eight lives 0:11:51.880 --> 0:11:52.320 left now. 0:11:52.679 --> 0:11:54.720 She was kind of just like carrying them around like 0:11:54.800 --> 0:11:58.319 they were toys. Anyway, I had to like really downscale 0:11:58.320 --> 0:12:01.640 her energy. But Lola was so reserved and she didn't 0:12:01.640 --> 0:12:03.719 want to pick them up. She wanted to touch them, 0:12:03.720 --> 0:12:06.120 but she was really timid and really kind of a 0:12:06.120 --> 0:12:08.360 bit frightened by them. And I think it's because their 0:12:08.440 --> 0:12:11.000 kittens are really playful and they got little nails and stuff. 0:12:11.000 --> 0:12:15.040 But she was really not as excited as I thought 0:12:15.040 --> 0:12:16.560 she was gonna be. She was more scared. 0:12:16.679 --> 0:12:18.360 Yeah, it's an overwhelming environment. 0:12:18.440 --> 0:12:21.679 She's only three, totally, and also giving her the responsibility 0:12:21.679 --> 0:12:23.920 of choosing one when there's forty, Like the kids get 0:12:23.920 --> 0:12:26.040 overwhelmed in a toy shop, let alone getting animal that 0:12:26.080 --> 0:12:27.600 they know that they're gonna have to take care of 0:12:27.640 --> 0:12:29.720 and all that sort of stuff. So this went on 0:12:29.760 --> 0:12:31.400 for a while. We were there for like two hours, 0:12:31.480 --> 0:12:33.840 and then you know, halfway through, Marley had already gotten 0:12:33.840 --> 0:12:34.120 over it. 0:12:34.120 --> 0:12:36.400 She was like, whatever, picked the one you want? I 0:12:36.400 --> 0:12:36.840 don't care. 0:12:36.880 --> 0:12:38.800 And she was like overlooking at like the Christmas cards 0:12:38.800 --> 0:12:42.120 and stuff, and Lola was still like meticulously looking through 0:12:42.120 --> 0:12:44.679 all the kittens, and then she found this one and 0:12:44.720 --> 0:12:46.200 she picked it up and it was a tiny little 0:12:46.240 --> 0:12:48.760 run to the litter. She was carrying it around underneath 0:12:48.760 --> 0:12:50.559 her chin and it was just sitting in her hands, 0:12:50.559 --> 0:12:53.640 and she kept on going, I love you, I love 0:12:54.679 --> 0:12:57.040 I love you, and you know, I was too busy 0:12:57.040 --> 0:12:59.280 trying to like take care of Mali. And then after 0:12:59.360 --> 0:13:01.640 like literally forty minutes, I realized she'd been holding onto 0:13:01.640 --> 0:13:03.040 the same cat for forty minutes. 0:13:03.160 --> 0:13:04.920 Is that the one, you go? That's the one we got? 0:13:05.600 --> 0:13:08.280 And she was so sweet, like by the end of it. 0:13:08.280 --> 0:13:10.720 She was absolutely obsessed. So now we have a little kitten. 0:13:10.840 --> 0:13:14.280 Its name was or is Jupiter. It'll soon be named Raspberry. 0:13:15.080 --> 0:13:16.240 And we don't get to bring a home for a 0:13:16.280 --> 0:13:19.959 couple of weeks. It's too small, too small, cute. They 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:21.760 did offer for us to take too home. 0:13:21.840 --> 0:13:23.760 I was gonna say, why didn't you get it a friend? Yeah, 0:13:23.760 --> 0:13:24.319 well that okay. 0:13:24.360 --> 0:13:26.400 So they said you should take two home and have 0:13:26.480 --> 0:13:29.520 two until they're about fourteen fifteen weeks because what that does, 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:32.080 it stops them. They learn a bite inhibition, it's called 0:13:32.160 --> 0:13:34.240 so they bite each other and then they learn, oh 0:13:34.240 --> 0:13:35.880 that's not nice. I don't want to bite someone. It 0:13:35.880 --> 0:13:38.640 doesn't feel good. And then they don't bite humans. And 0:13:38.679 --> 0:13:41.520 so I was trying to convince Matt, and Matt was like, 0:13:41.640 --> 0:13:44.320 if you come home with two cats, I will divorce you. 0:13:44.440 --> 0:13:46.640 He's like, I know, I look like shit, but you 0:13:46.679 --> 0:13:52.800 also can't anybody anyway, because now you got a cat 0:13:52.800 --> 0:13:53.680 that's gonna bite him. 0:13:53.840 --> 0:13:55.800 Thank you, Because I was like, well you're gonna not 0:13:56.000 --> 0:13:58.000 like the cats. The cat's gonna bite. So like, let's 0:13:58.080 --> 0:13:59.800 just get two and them they love each other, and 0:13:59.840 --> 0:14:02.720 he knows that if I bring to home, we'll keep too, 0:14:03.280 --> 0:14:06.440 of course you will is my plan to do it anyway. 0:14:06.480 --> 0:14:08.680 Jupiter and Pluto, do you know what you should do? 0:14:09.040 --> 0:14:14.319 Strawberry and Raspberry exploded, Get it on camera. 0:14:14.240 --> 0:14:15.800 Get it a second one, and just put it in 0:14:15.840 --> 0:14:17.640 the yard and don't say you've brought it home and say, 0:14:17.640 --> 0:14:20.000 oh my god, there's a cat is coming to a yard. 0:14:20.000 --> 0:14:22.640 It's probably close enough. 0:14:23.080 --> 0:14:27.120 It could be convincing that you've just got the one. 0:14:25.920 --> 0:14:30.840 If it's like Batman, you could call it Batman. 0:14:31.080 --> 0:14:32.720 Anyway, we get to bring a home in a couple 0:14:32.760 --> 0:14:35.680 weeks time. I'm so excited. That's so beautiful. 0:14:35.840 --> 0:14:38.520 That is really exciting. My ovary is also on fire. 0:14:38.600 --> 0:14:42.200 But I think that's my period, thank you, it's rebulation. Yeah. 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:46.120 Anyway, let's get into our vibes and unsubscribes for the week. 0:14:46.560 --> 0:14:50.120 Okay, my vibe is something that is so practical, something 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:52.680 that I have been using. It is. There are so 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:55.480 many different brands and different names, but essentially it's called 0:14:55.480 --> 0:14:58.640 a tied pen now, lor you saw me pen? Yeah, 0:14:58.680 --> 0:15:01.120 you saw me use this last week? Actually I did, 0:15:01.160 --> 0:15:03.760 and it is brilliant protesia. You need a tied bucket. 0:15:04.120 --> 0:15:07.800 You do so if you're somebody like me that you 0:15:08.000 --> 0:15:09.560 end up on Laura, you too, but you end up 0:15:09.560 --> 0:15:12.120 with like coffee stains on your food or you spill something. 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:14.160 You guys, remember I spilled coffee on me last week. 0:15:14.440 --> 0:15:18.040 A tide pen is it's a whitening pen for clothes 0:15:18.160 --> 0:15:20.680 or it's just not even whitening stain remover. It doesn't white. 0:15:20.680 --> 0:15:22.720 You can use it on color, well, you can have white, 0:15:23.080 --> 0:15:25.080 just white, but you can also just have a color 0:15:25.120 --> 0:15:27.320 that's a stain remover and it just looks like a 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:29.600 white out pen the same size. You can get it 0:15:29.600 --> 0:15:34.960 from literally anywhere Spotlight, Woolworth Supermarkets, Amazon Online if you 0:15:34.960 --> 0:15:37.160 want to do an order. And it just so. I 0:15:37.200 --> 0:15:39.920 spilled coffee on myself and I learned this from our 0:15:40.000 --> 0:15:43.120 radio co host Mitch Chury. He took one around Europe 0:15:43.120 --> 0:15:44.360 with him. When he came over to me and I 0:15:44.400 --> 0:15:45.840 was like, and I needed it. One day, I spilled 0:15:45.880 --> 0:15:47.800 coffee all down me and I was like, on our 0:15:47.840 --> 0:15:50.400 way out, He's like, hang on, brit I have a 0:15:50.440 --> 0:15:50.960 tide pen. 0:15:51.120 --> 0:15:53.120 That's an elite human when you've gotten to the point 0:15:53.120 --> 0:15:55.200 of organization in your life where you walk around with 0:15:55.240 --> 0:15:57.280 a stain remover pan in your handbag. 0:15:57.360 --> 0:16:00.120 Yep, like that is an elite level of adulting. And 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:03.280 so you just had a Yeah, you just dub it 0:16:03.320 --> 0:16:06.120 on for a second, it dries, it takes the stain out, 0:16:06.160 --> 0:16:08.040 put it back, the pen back in your bag. I 0:16:08.160 --> 0:16:10.760 was like, this is life changing for people like me. 0:16:11.200 --> 0:16:14.920 So that is my very practical vibe. 0:16:14.600 --> 0:16:16.760 For the way some people cure cancer. And Britney kill 0:16:16.800 --> 0:16:20.760 stains his years, say, just carry a pin, produce a kisha. 0:16:20.880 --> 0:16:24.200 What is your vibe? Okay, try and top that keisha. 0:16:24.400 --> 0:16:26.800 Well, I was going a video editor Johno, but a 0:16:26.880 --> 0:16:29.000 boy and I were talking about this and I was 0:16:29.040 --> 0:16:33.000 going to recommend Griffin's Marvel Golden Gaytime Biscuits. 0:16:33.920 --> 0:16:36.320 I love that some podcasts they do their like, hey, 0:16:36.320 --> 0:16:39.120 my recommendation for the week is this really obscure political 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:40.880 podcast because I'm so smart, we're. 0:16:40.760 --> 0:16:44.040 Like tired pens and Gaytime businuess do we do all 0:16:44.040 --> 0:16:45.240 different kinds of things to do there. 0:16:45.320 --> 0:16:48.000 I have actually done political podcast before, so I feel 0:16:48.000 --> 0:16:49.080 like this is light and shade. 0:16:49.320 --> 0:16:51.520 Look, I'm just gonna really quickly recommend that. 0:16:51.760 --> 0:16:54.000 The reason I'm not this is not my main recommendation 0:16:54.080 --> 0:16:55.800 is because you said something to me just before we 0:16:55.840 --> 0:16:58.280 started recording, and I was like, actually, that's a better recommendation. 0:16:58.600 --> 0:17:00.880 But they're from Cole's and they're fucking delicious. 0:17:01.200 --> 0:17:04.240 But my actual recommendation for the week is a Face 0:17:04.359 --> 0:17:05.440 ten serum. 0:17:05.640 --> 0:17:07.680 Now, this particular one, I feel like I. 0:17:07.600 --> 0:17:11.080 Have tried ten different brands and I've wanted one that 0:17:11.160 --> 0:17:13.240 looks natural and doesn't. 0:17:12.880 --> 0:17:15.960 Look too umpa lumpa orange, as. 0:17:15.800 --> 0:17:17.720 It doesn't dry out your skin because the chemical that 0:17:17.840 --> 0:17:19.639 is in Fake ten can dry out your skin and 0:17:19.640 --> 0:17:22.080 I have somewhat sensitive skin. I found one that I 0:17:22.119 --> 0:17:23.879 really really like and is working for me. It's the 0:17:23.920 --> 0:17:26.600 Barley Body one. So it's twenty nine to ninety five 0:17:26.720 --> 0:17:29.240 and it's like the serum and I put it on 0:17:29.240 --> 0:17:31.040 my face and I use a brush to kind of 0:17:31.080 --> 0:17:32.760 make sure that I get it in all the nooks 0:17:32.760 --> 0:17:34.800 and crannies, you know, so that you get your ears 0:17:34.800 --> 0:17:37.199 and all that kind of thing. Anyway, I'm absolutely loving it. 0:17:37.240 --> 0:17:38.840 What I really like is that I feel as though 0:17:38.840 --> 0:17:41.040 it cuts down the amount of foundation that I wear, 0:17:41.080 --> 0:17:43.679 because you know, you just get that little bit of 0:17:43.720 --> 0:17:45.840 color back to your face and you don't feel like 0:17:45.840 --> 0:17:48.080 you need to put Yes, we can put it under 0:17:48.080 --> 0:17:51.879 your eye just a little bit of life anyway. For me, 0:17:51.960 --> 0:17:54.159 the color of this one is absolutely perfect. So I 0:17:54.240 --> 0:17:56.800 have an olive base to my skin. I'm not sure 0:17:56.840 --> 0:17:59.080 if it would work as well with pink based skins, 0:17:59.119 --> 0:18:00.480 but yeah, I really reckmend this one. 0:18:00.520 --> 0:18:01.040 I'm loving it. 0:18:01.160 --> 0:18:05.440 I don't like face Waters. I'm gonna put it out there, serum, 0:18:05.560 --> 0:18:09.600 so face Waters. I always think I look yellow like 0:18:08.920 --> 0:18:10.600 I like I've got jaundice. 0:18:10.640 --> 0:18:12.320 Yeah, it might just not be you for your skin, 0:18:12.400 --> 0:18:14.720 but you have an olive Italian skin anyway. 0:18:14.480 --> 0:18:16.200 You might be good with this one because I've found 0:18:16.200 --> 0:18:18.040 the same thing with previous ones. I found that the 0:18:18.080 --> 0:18:20.880 color just hasn't been right and it looks funny. This one, 0:18:20.880 --> 0:18:22.960 I find looks quite I mean, you. 0:18:22.880 --> 0:18:26.119 Tell me, I think it looks natural. Give it a crack. 0:18:26.480 --> 0:18:29.440 And my recommendation for this week is it's a bit 0:18:29.480 --> 0:18:31.120 Sydney based at the moment, but it's making its way 0:18:31.119 --> 0:18:34.240 around Australia. And if it was, if you're in Melbourne, Madigra, yeah, 0:18:34.440 --> 0:18:37.159 go to Mardi Gras. No. My recommendation is last night 0:18:37.200 --> 0:18:39.000 I went to the theater. I went and saw Anguliette 0:18:39.040 --> 0:18:41.040 at the theater. It's at the Lyric Theater in Sydney, 0:18:41.440 --> 0:18:43.560 Rob Mills. He's one of the leads. There's like probably 0:18:43.600 --> 0:18:46.879 three or four leads in the show. He unfortunately was 0:18:46.920 --> 0:18:48.760 sick last night and it was the understudy. But even 0:18:48.760 --> 0:18:51.800 the understudy was incredible. It's got Casey Donovan in it. 0:18:51.920 --> 0:18:55.359 The singing is amazing. And this recommendation comes from someone 0:18:55.640 --> 0:18:58.919 who is a self proclaimed not a theater person. 0:18:59.080 --> 0:19:01.639 I do not normally enjoy the theater. I would not 0:19:01.760 --> 0:19:02.320 normally go. 0:19:02.480 --> 0:19:04.240 But the only reason why I said yes to this 0:19:04.280 --> 0:19:06.400 is because my mum musical theater. 0:19:06.760 --> 0:19:08.960 Oh, she loves it so much. It's weird. 0:19:09.040 --> 0:19:10.879 I don't know how we share the same DNA, but 0:19:10.920 --> 0:19:12.880 she loves it. So I took her and I took 0:19:12.880 --> 0:19:15.280 Matt's mum, and funnily enough, as we were sitting in 0:19:15.280 --> 0:19:16.880 the chair, Matts mumb leans over to me and goes, 0:19:16.880 --> 0:19:18.480 I forgot to tell you I hate musicals. And I 0:19:18.520 --> 0:19:21.480 was like, perfect, this is the per that I bought. 0:19:21.359 --> 0:19:23.200 Us all very expensive tickets to go and see this. 0:19:23.280 --> 0:19:25.960 I'm so glad we can all share this together. But 0:19:26.960 --> 0:19:27.320 I don't. 0:19:27.359 --> 0:19:29.680 Yeah, and I don't like musical theater. And I thought 0:19:29.680 --> 0:19:30.600 it was incredible. 0:19:30.880 --> 0:19:32.399 And Ellie walked out of there and she was like 0:19:32.480 --> 0:19:35.480 that was really good, like genuinely surprised by how much 0:19:35.480 --> 0:19:37.320 she enjoyed it. And my mom was like, fucking she 0:19:37.440 --> 0:19:39.480 was gy writing on the floor. So everyone had a 0:19:39.480 --> 0:19:41.520 good Timeue, what type of a story is it? So 0:19:41.800 --> 0:19:44.399 the storyline to it, it's so Romeo and Juliet, but 0:19:44.440 --> 0:19:47.040 this is Juliette's story so basically, And the thing that's 0:19:47.040 --> 0:19:48.800 really cool is it kind of links in little bits 0:19:48.840 --> 0:19:52.040 of history. So William Shakespeare, no one would know this, 0:19:52.160 --> 0:19:54.720 but he had a wife who he didn't actually spend 0:19:54.760 --> 0:19:57.439 any time with. She had three sons, and he just 0:19:57.480 --> 0:19:59.960 focused all his time in writing plays. And the story 0:20:00.080 --> 0:20:02.960 is kind of based around William Shakespeare's wife wanting to 0:20:03.000 --> 0:20:05.920 rewrite Romeo and Juliet to be the story that was 0:20:05.960 --> 0:20:08.439 for her. She changes the ending, and the ending is 0:20:08.440 --> 0:20:12.199 all about it being like a feminist, empowering play written 0:20:12.200 --> 0:20:14.920 by a woman where Juliet finds her own agency. It's cool, 0:20:14.960 --> 0:20:17.720 it's very funny. It's a comedy, but it's done really well. 0:20:17.720 --> 0:20:18.600 That's my recommendation. 0:20:18.840 --> 0:20:24.320 Alrighty guys, let's crack on into the questions. Question number one. 0:20:24.600 --> 0:20:26.520 I went out for a date with a guy where 0:20:26.520 --> 0:20:29.240 we're just going to go for a drink. I drove there, though, 0:20:29.320 --> 0:20:31.600 so I was expecting to have two glasses of wine 0:20:31.640 --> 0:20:35.399 max Over possible two hours. He sat down said he 0:20:35.440 --> 0:20:38.360 would be getting a bottle of wine, not even asking 0:20:38.400 --> 0:20:41.199 about my preference. I told him I would prefer a 0:20:41.280 --> 0:20:44.119 glass that I was driving, and he said, Nope, that's 0:20:44.119 --> 0:20:47.040 definitely going to change. You are going to be drinking more, 0:20:47.160 --> 0:20:50.160 staying for the bottle, and eventually we will go back 0:20:50.200 --> 0:20:57.639 to yours. Instant icky, instant ick. I immediately felt uncomfortable and 0:20:57.760 --> 0:20:59.520 was very shut off from wanting to get to know 0:20:59.560 --> 0:21:03.439 this person, which I eventually voiced after I finished my 0:21:03.520 --> 0:21:06.880 one glass he was on his third. I very respectfully 0:21:06.920 --> 0:21:09.520 said that I would be heading off, and to be polite, 0:21:09.560 --> 0:21:11.800 I said, hey, let me know your bank details so 0:21:11.880 --> 0:21:14.760 I can transfer you for half of the bottle. This 0:21:14.920 --> 0:21:17.600 morning I woke up to his bank details and he 0:21:17.640 --> 0:21:20.760 told me the bottle was ninety dollars. This is probably 0:21:20.840 --> 0:21:22.959 one of the worst dates I have ever been on. 0:21:23.640 --> 0:21:26.760 Do I have to send him half of the money? Help? 0:21:27.240 --> 0:21:27.400 No? 0:21:28.520 --> 0:21:30.560 Just don't reply? Is that mean? 0:21:30.680 --> 0:21:33.359 I don't Honestly, if this was me, it's nice that 0:21:33.400 --> 0:21:36.119 you offered your glass of wine. Maybe it was a 0:21:36.440 --> 0:21:38.520 if it's a ninety dollars bottle of wine, let's say 0:21:38.520 --> 0:21:41.800 a glass of wine at a huge stretch. A huge 0:21:41.840 --> 0:21:46.280 stretch was twenty bucks, right, that's what probably what you owe. 0:21:46.280 --> 0:21:47.960 If you want to be super nice, send him twenty 0:21:48.040 --> 0:21:49.200 But otherwise. 0:21:48.800 --> 0:21:52.680 Just don't reply. Would you reply? I wouldn't. I actually 0:21:52.720 --> 0:21:54.440 don't know, which is why I wanted you to answer 0:21:54.440 --> 0:21:56.480 it first. All right, look, let me be harsher. 0:21:57.200 --> 0:21:59.480 I wouldn't bother replying because you're never going to see 0:21:59.520 --> 0:22:01.120 the guy again and you don't care. 0:22:01.320 --> 0:22:03.240 And also, he drank the fuck it. He drank a 0:22:03.240 --> 0:22:05.520 third of the bottle totally. He didn't ask you what 0:22:05.560 --> 0:22:08.639 you wanted. He ordered on your behalf. You asked and 0:22:08.640 --> 0:22:10.800 said you only wanted to have a glass. And then 0:22:10.960 --> 0:22:12.760 I mean, look, you shouldn't have said, oh, I'll transfer 0:22:12.840 --> 0:22:14.199 you for half of it. That's why he sent it 0:22:14.240 --> 0:22:14.439 to you. 0:22:14.640 --> 0:22:18.000 But at the end of the day, sometimes it's okay 0:22:18.440 --> 0:22:20.439 to be a little bit of an asshole, and in 0:22:20.480 --> 0:22:22.479 this instance, I think it's fine for you to go. 0:22:22.640 --> 0:22:24.400 Do you know what, I've changed my mind. 0:22:24.520 --> 0:22:26.800 I don't want to transfer you a forty five dollars 0:22:26.800 --> 0:22:29.600 for something I didn't drink. Nah, I'm not doing it, 0:22:29.720 --> 0:22:31.520 and I don't care. I would not if someone told 0:22:31.520 --> 0:22:32.800 me that, I wouldn't be like, oh, you should have 0:22:32.800 --> 0:22:33.480 really pounds found. 0:22:34.400 --> 0:22:38.920 Just what are your facials right there? 0:22:39.280 --> 0:22:45.760 I just want to repeat what you did. You heard 0:22:45.760 --> 0:22:49.160 it here first, guys from Laura burn put that one 0:22:49.160 --> 0:22:50.040 on your bumper sticker. 0:22:50.480 --> 0:22:52.679 You've actually disuaded me. But I always do this thing 0:22:52.720 --> 0:22:54.440 where I feel like, if I've said it, I would 0:22:54.480 --> 0:22:56.200 have just transferred the money, Like if I had said 0:22:56.200 --> 0:22:58.479 to him, hey, transfer me the money. I understand why 0:22:58.520 --> 0:22:59.879 she said it. That awkwardness at the end of the 0:23:00.240 --> 0:23:02.040 It's always that throw away thing where you're like, hey, 0:23:02.119 --> 0:23:04.760 let me know, I'll pay half, not ever expecting them 0:23:04.760 --> 0:23:07.159 to make you do it. But then I there's a 0:23:07.160 --> 0:23:08.960 part of me that's like, oh, I probably should just 0:23:09.040 --> 0:23:11.119 pay for it, because I did offer it and I 0:23:11.119 --> 0:23:12.480 told him, and I don't want to be a knob. 0:23:12.760 --> 0:23:14.800 But then you've sort of changed my mind now, Laura, 0:23:14.800 --> 0:23:16.960 because I'm like, you know what you are right? He 0:23:17.119 --> 0:23:19.360 was a dick, the assumption that you were just going 0:23:19.359 --> 0:23:21.639 to get wasted. You even told him you were driving, 0:23:21.680 --> 0:23:23.080 and then he's like, no, fuck that you're going to 0:23:23.160 --> 0:23:24.240 leave your car, we're gone. 0:23:24.080 --> 0:23:26.480 Back to get The assumption that he was going to 0:23:26.560 --> 0:23:28.560 get you drunk so that he could come back home 0:23:28.600 --> 0:23:30.600 to your house is pretty gross. 0:23:30.720 --> 0:23:32.400 I mean it's small than pretty gross. We can all 0:23:32.440 --> 0:23:33.000 agree on that. 0:23:33.400 --> 0:23:36.119 I just think sometimes, and this is very much a 0:23:36.119 --> 0:23:38.960 female trade, which we need to be better at. Sometimes 0:23:39.000 --> 0:23:41.200 we are so worried about offending people and we want 0:23:41.240 --> 0:23:42.959 to be nice, and we want to be you know, 0:23:43.160 --> 0:23:45.200 we want to be seen as being a nice person. 0:23:45.520 --> 0:23:48.119 So therefore we do when we say things that are 0:23:48.160 --> 0:23:50.000 beyond the scope of what we need to do and 0:23:50.040 --> 0:23:52.000 say I in this instance, you were like, oh let 0:23:52.040 --> 0:23:53.679 me know, and I'll transfer you for half a bottle. 0:23:54.040 --> 0:23:56.639 You went home, you thought about it. That is not 0:23:56.680 --> 0:23:58.680 fucking happening. And you don't need to be the nice 0:23:58.680 --> 0:24:00.960 person in this equation. And yes he will think you're 0:24:00.960 --> 0:24:03.120 a dickhead. Yes he will be the one who feels 0:24:03.160 --> 0:24:05.679 like he's hard done by and maybe you should have 0:24:05.720 --> 0:24:07.840 given him fifteen dollars or twenty dollars for a glass 0:24:07.840 --> 0:24:10.720 of wine. Right, Sure, he's not going to be financially 0:24:10.720 --> 0:24:13.399 destitute because you don't transfer him for your one glass 0:24:13.400 --> 0:24:16.040 of wine. But he should really think about his behavior 0:24:16.160 --> 0:24:18.520 in trying apply someone for alcohol and get back to 0:24:18.560 --> 0:24:20.920 their house to sleep with them. So I think that's 0:24:20.920 --> 0:24:23.159 way more problematic. And if it means that he loses 0:24:23.160 --> 0:24:25.120 out in fifteen dollars, but fucking him, I don't care. 0:24:25.359 --> 0:24:27.520 Well, sorry, Like now I've just gotten real passionate about it. 0:24:27.760 --> 0:24:27.800 No. 0:24:28.359 --> 0:24:30.399 I also I'm on your team now. I think at 0:24:30.440 --> 0:24:31.760 the end of the day, it was a first date. 0:24:32.080 --> 0:24:34.040 He bought you a glass of wine. That's what this is. 0:24:34.320 --> 0:24:36.399 He was a first date that didn't go well. You 0:24:36.440 --> 0:24:38.439 didn't bube him. He bought you a glass of wine. 0:24:38.520 --> 0:24:40.400 You want your separate ways. I don't think you even 0:24:40.400 --> 0:24:42.800 need to reply now, even though the part of me 0:24:42.920 --> 0:24:45.920 is like, oh you did offer it this look him. Yeah, yeah, 0:24:45.960 --> 0:24:48.720 definitely put him on that website where where you say 0:24:49.080 --> 0:24:50.880 I went on a bad date with this guy. No, 0:24:51.320 --> 0:24:53.320 I'm joking. Don't do that. Just don't pay. You don't 0:24:53.320 --> 0:24:55.120 have to pay for forty five bucks. But also it's 0:24:55.160 --> 0:24:59.520 a real lesson for us as women to realize and 0:24:59.640 --> 0:25:02.360 definitely gets easier with age, but to realize that when 0:25:02.400 --> 0:25:04.359 you don't have to be in a situation if you 0:25:04.400 --> 0:25:06.399 don't want to just because you said you would at 0:25:06.400 --> 0:25:08.719 the beginning. Like I get that you agreed to go 0:25:08.760 --> 0:25:10.360 on that date, and I get that you were there 0:25:10.400 --> 0:25:13.119 and you've ordered a wine. But the second that something 0:25:13.200 --> 0:25:16.479 changes and you feel uncomfortable, you can fucking leave. Like 0:25:16.520 --> 0:25:18.320 you can be like, oh, you know what, we're on 0:25:18.359 --> 0:25:20.199 different pages, Like I wanted to come and get to 0:25:20.240 --> 0:25:22.399 know you. You've already said no, you're going to be 0:25:22.440 --> 0:25:24.639 drinking this whole bottle basically, so I can take you 0:25:24.680 --> 0:25:26.679 back and take advantage of you. You can get up 0:25:26.680 --> 0:25:28.399 and be like, hey, you know what, not for me, 0:25:28.560 --> 0:25:30.560 not for me? And I think that's a really important 0:25:30.640 --> 0:25:31.400 lesson to take home. 0:25:31.440 --> 0:25:33.520 And also the other part I think on top of 0:25:33.560 --> 0:25:36.600 that lesson, but like if you say that you're going 0:25:36.680 --> 0:25:38.400 to do something and I know that, there's that whole 0:25:38.440 --> 0:25:40.080 saying like your word is your what is it? 0:25:40.160 --> 0:25:43.800 Forgotten? It now? Okay? Gandhy you're a fire shoulday? 0:25:44.520 --> 0:25:48.480 You know what they say something about your word being 0:25:48.720 --> 0:25:51.800 like one of the most important things you know. Basically, 0:25:51.840 --> 0:25:53.720 what I'm trying to get at is that your word 0:25:54.119 --> 0:25:56.520 is very much kind of links into your credibility. Right, 0:25:56.560 --> 0:25:58.360 So if you're someone who says something and does something 0:25:58.440 --> 0:26:00.639 else that makes you a brit of a shitty person. 0:26:00.320 --> 0:26:02.679 Right, respectful if you follow through with you totally. 0:26:02.760 --> 0:26:05.280 But in this instance, one, he's someone whose opinion you're 0:26:05.320 --> 0:26:07.360 not going to care about in the future. And two 0:26:07.680 --> 0:26:11.800 it's okay to say something in a moment and then 0:26:12.240 --> 0:26:14.440 have time to reflect and decide. 0:26:14.680 --> 0:26:17.040 Actually, that's kind of unfair to me, and I don't 0:26:17.040 --> 0:26:18.040 want to do that anymore. 0:26:18.440 --> 0:26:20.800 And sometimes you will have to make and have a 0:26:20.880 --> 0:26:23.080 conversation where you say, hey, actually I changed my mind 0:26:23.119 --> 0:26:25.159 and this is how I feel, and explain yourself. This 0:26:25.480 --> 0:26:28.240 is not one of those instances, I don't think, and 0:26:28.320 --> 0:26:30.880 you are not a terrible person by not transferring him 0:26:31.080 --> 0:26:33.159 the money. If it was a different situation, I might 0:26:33.200 --> 0:26:36.560 feel differently, but this specific situation I would not reply 0:26:36.880 --> 0:26:40.119 and I would just get on with my life and say, LEVI. 0:26:40.200 --> 0:26:42.960 What a gross guy, though, got a gross So do 0:26:43.040 --> 0:26:45.119 you know what? That would have been hot? If you 0:26:45.240 --> 0:26:47.479 were into it and you had been seeing each other 0:26:47.560 --> 0:26:49.680 for a long time and like you were banging already. 0:26:49.720 --> 0:26:51.639 It would been hot if someone's like, finish up that bottox, 0:26:51.680 --> 0:26:53.320 I want to take care of a fuck you? Hot 0:26:53.800 --> 0:26:58.560 first date el ew ew okay, question number two. Johno's 0:26:58.600 --> 0:27:02.080 laughing in the corner. He's taking not all right. 0:27:02.160 --> 0:27:06.399 My boyfriend of fifteen months is sweet, kind, generous, and patient. I, 0:27:06.640 --> 0:27:08.960 on the other hand, am passionate and fiery. 0:27:09.720 --> 0:27:13.040 You sound toxic. I crave excitement and stimulation. Sounds like 0:27:13.119 --> 0:27:13.520 a cat. 0:27:14.880 --> 0:27:18.680 I crave excitement and stimulation, but find my relationship very 0:27:18.720 --> 0:27:22.400 comfortable and complacent. My boyfriend has a good job and studies, 0:27:22.680 --> 0:27:24.639 but is happy to live a fairly simple life and 0:27:24.680 --> 0:27:28.240 doesn't push himself too hard. Despite this, he always goes 0:27:28.320 --> 0:27:30.840 above and beyond to make me feel special and loved. 0:27:31.240 --> 0:27:34.119 It hurts so bad to admit, but I find myself 0:27:34.200 --> 0:27:37.600 feeling a bit bored and underwhelmed, almost as if I'm 0:27:37.600 --> 0:27:40.600 missing that spark I know from you guys better than 0:27:40.720 --> 0:27:43.399 to dream about the greener grass or go chasing butterflies 0:27:43.440 --> 0:27:46.000 and thrills. But I can't help but feel as there's 0:27:46.040 --> 0:27:48.920 a relationship out there that would make me happier. Am 0:27:48.920 --> 0:27:50.120 I being unappreciative? 0:27:50.560 --> 0:27:53.359 What should I do? Stay with this sweet boy? 0:27:54.160 --> 0:27:54.400 Oh? 0:27:55.280 --> 0:27:59.920 That's so emasculating. Who is comfortable and safe or fine? 0:28:00.000 --> 0:28:02.399 And someone who can match me intellectually and who I 0:28:02.600 --> 0:28:05.199 find and feel more chemistry with I. 0:28:05.440 --> 0:28:08.680 Feel like we get versions of this question all the time, 0:28:08.920 --> 0:28:12.920 like it's such a common issue in relationships. But that's 0:28:13.000 --> 0:28:14.520 at the end of the day, what dating is. We 0:28:14.720 --> 0:28:17.200 date to find someone that is our match. That's the 0:28:17.280 --> 0:28:20.040 whole point. You don't just fall into a relationship and 0:28:20.119 --> 0:28:22.600 you're like, oh fuck yeah, Like this is tetris from 0:28:22.920 --> 0:28:26.440 day one. Like, no one wins Tetris in dating world 0:28:26.680 --> 0:28:29.120 from the get go. It's impossible. I mean some people 0:28:29.280 --> 0:28:31.639 do well. Mine always laid a cross ways across the 0:28:31.680 --> 0:28:33.280 block and I never got them to line up. When 0:28:33.280 --> 0:28:35.159 I was dating. I could never nail tetris in the 0:28:35.240 --> 0:28:35.600 dating line. 0:28:35.640 --> 0:28:37.280 Note, but I also think your twenties, that's for your 0:28:37.320 --> 0:28:39.920 fuck up years, Like you're six hundred. Some people get 0:28:40.000 --> 0:28:42.240 lucky and they meet someone, they settle down, they married 0:28:42.240 --> 0:28:44.840 the high school sweetheart. Great for those people. Other people, 0:28:45.280 --> 0:28:48.400 like us, have bad relationship after bad relationship after bad 0:28:48.440 --> 0:28:51.560 relationship until you accumulate all those lessons and then you go, 0:28:51.720 --> 0:28:53.040 I'm gonna have a good one now. 0:28:53.640 --> 0:28:58.600 I just feel like if you're asking a question fifteen 0:28:58.640 --> 0:29:00.680 months into a relationship and you go, are still young. 0:29:00.800 --> 0:29:03.040 If you're asking a question and like, should I stay. 0:29:03.200 --> 0:29:05.040 I feel like there's more out there, and I don't 0:29:05.280 --> 0:29:07.440 like he's great but not great enough. I feel like 0:29:07.520 --> 0:29:12.240 that's your answer. Unfortunately, chemistry is not everything, but neither 0:29:12.520 --> 0:29:15.600 is he ticks boxes on paper. That's not everything. Also, 0:29:16.000 --> 0:29:18.400 and you can be the most perfect person, and I've 0:29:18.480 --> 0:29:21.200 experienced it so many times. I've had someone say it 0:29:21.240 --> 0:29:23.400 to me before, someone say to me, you tick every 0:29:23.440 --> 0:29:26.920 box on paper. You're everything I want except except you. 0:29:27.080 --> 0:29:31.200 Not except you, just not. And it doesn't make sense 0:29:31.680 --> 0:29:34.560 because you should feel lucky to have these characteristics in 0:29:34.600 --> 0:29:36.440 a person and in a partner, somebody that loves you 0:29:36.480 --> 0:29:38.800 and looks after you. But that doesn't mean that they're 0:29:38.840 --> 0:29:41.200 your person. Just because someone looks after and loves you 0:29:41.280 --> 0:29:43.000 and looks after you. There's one hundred people in the 0:29:43.000 --> 0:29:44.480 world that will love you and look after you in 0:29:44.520 --> 0:29:47.120 a different capacity. Some of them you're gonna vibe with 0:29:47.440 --> 0:29:49.320 and have so much more fun with and be more 0:29:49.360 --> 0:29:51.520 on the same path with for the future than others. 0:29:52.480 --> 0:29:55.680 If you are feeling after fifteen months that like, he's great, 0:29:56.040 --> 0:29:58.240 but I'm constantly wondering what else is out there, then 0:29:58.600 --> 0:30:01.400 unfortunately for me, I would say I would be going 0:30:01.480 --> 0:30:02.560 to look what else is out there. 0:30:03.040 --> 0:30:05.600 This is such a hard question, and the reason why 0:30:05.760 --> 0:30:07.800 is because I think that there are multiple ways that 0:30:07.840 --> 0:30:09.320 we can give it. Like, I don't want to sit 0:30:09.400 --> 0:30:12.080 here and tell you that you shouldn't be in this relationship, because, 0:30:12.160 --> 0:30:13.920 like I said at the beginning, you could be the 0:30:14.000 --> 0:30:16.240 toxic one who needs to do some work, but you 0:30:16.320 --> 0:30:19.000 may not be you may genuinely be bored. And I 0:30:19.040 --> 0:30:22.200 guess firstly, what I want to say is you don't 0:30:22.280 --> 0:30:24.239 have to have a big reason or a big thing 0:30:24.320 --> 0:30:26.760 that goes wrong in a relationship to leave a relationship. 0:30:27.320 --> 0:30:30.880 Often it can be the hardest to leave relationships where 0:30:31.000 --> 0:30:33.520 everything on paper is perfect, where you know that that 0:30:33.680 --> 0:30:37.160 person is an incredible person, they have done nothing wrong, 0:30:37.320 --> 0:30:40.040 they would love you endlessly and support you endlessly, but 0:30:40.200 --> 0:30:43.200 you just don't feel enough of whatever it is, or 0:30:43.280 --> 0:30:45.960 you haven't had enough of the excitement of the drama 0:30:46.040 --> 0:30:48.680 of other relationships to be able to value the stability 0:30:48.720 --> 0:30:50.840 of the one you're in. Sometimes you've got to live 0:30:50.880 --> 0:30:53.040 a life before you can either appreciate what it is 0:30:53.120 --> 0:30:54.880 that this relationship might have been able to bring you. 0:30:55.320 --> 0:30:58.480 But also sometimes you just meet people and you have 0:30:58.720 --> 0:31:03.400 great relationships and something that you cannot describe. That tells 0:31:03.440 --> 0:31:06.000 you they are not the one, and sometimes you have 0:31:06.080 --> 0:31:07.680 to listen you know, well, I think you have to 0:31:07.720 --> 0:31:10.000 listen to that. But those are I would say, some 0:31:10.080 --> 0:31:12.320 of the hardest relationships to leave because everything in your 0:31:12.320 --> 0:31:14.320 body says, but they're such a good person, so I 0:31:14.400 --> 0:31:17.120 should stay and I should be more appreciative, and there's 0:31:17.120 --> 0:31:19.000 something wrong with me, and why can't I just love 0:31:19.080 --> 0:31:21.920 them more? So that I want to give validity to you, 0:31:21.960 --> 0:31:24.400 because if that's where you're at, that's an incredibly hard place. 0:31:24.440 --> 0:31:26.800 But know that you can break up with someone without 0:31:26.880 --> 0:31:29.640 having a valid, solid reason, because the way you feel 0:31:29.680 --> 0:31:31.960 is reason enough. But question number two and sort of 0:31:32.120 --> 0:31:35.000 other way of looking at this is depending on where 0:31:35.040 --> 0:31:39.280 you're at in your own personal self healing journey and 0:31:39.320 --> 0:31:44.240 everything else, you will always find a stable relationship boring 0:31:44.400 --> 0:31:49.080 at the fifteen month mark if they are healthy, stable, consistent, 0:31:49.760 --> 0:31:51.200 taking care of you, and don't. 0:31:51.000 --> 0:31:53.480 Bring you the drama. And I say these agree with that. 0:31:53.600 --> 0:31:55.480 No, no, no, I'm saying if you're not at a 0:31:55.520 --> 0:31:57.560 place a good place in your self healing. I say 0:31:57.600 --> 0:32:00.640 this from my personal experience because some people are attracted 0:32:00.720 --> 0:32:04.080 to the drama. They are attracted to the excitement the 0:32:04.240 --> 0:32:07.200 volatility in relationships, but they don't realize that that's what 0:32:07.320 --> 0:32:09.000 it is. And I think that that comes with like 0:32:09.080 --> 0:32:12.240 the life lesson of repeating patterns in your relationship. I 0:32:12.520 --> 0:32:15.640 used to prioritize chemistry, this intense, like oh my god, 0:32:15.680 --> 0:32:18.760 I can't live without this person chemistry, but often it 0:32:18.800 --> 0:32:22.880 would result in volatility because the relationship itself spun around 0:32:22.960 --> 0:32:26.040 in toxic cycles. But I would have found a relationship 0:32:26.120 --> 0:32:29.720 like the one I'm in now with Matt, which is healthy, consistent, stable, loving, 0:32:30.240 --> 0:32:34.120 like I just feel so safe and calm. I would 0:32:34.160 --> 0:32:36.080 have thought it was boring. I would have thought, God, 0:32:36.200 --> 0:32:39.080 that's such a sweet boy. I would have thought that 0:32:39.200 --> 0:32:41.440 in my twenties, and I've spoken about that before. I've 0:32:41.520 --> 0:32:44.960 said that had I met Matt earlier, he is too 0:32:45.120 --> 0:32:47.440 normal for me. And it was just lucky that I 0:32:47.520 --> 0:32:49.200 had been through all the shit that I'd been through 0:32:49.280 --> 0:32:51.360 that I finally got to my own place in myself 0:32:51.440 --> 0:32:55.040 journey with relationships that I could value boring. So I 0:32:55.120 --> 0:33:00.640 think before you completely discard the relationship, really sit with 0:33:00.720 --> 0:33:03.680 yourself and question where you're at in your own personal 0:33:03.960 --> 0:33:06.760 life and what you need and what you seem to 0:33:06.840 --> 0:33:10.080 be drawn to in relationships and in people. And also 0:33:10.320 --> 0:33:13.560 can you get that stimulation, that excitement from other areas? 0:33:13.640 --> 0:33:15.840 Like does your boyfriend give you one thing and the 0:33:16.040 --> 0:33:18.600 rest of it you can get from your friends, from 0:33:18.720 --> 0:33:21.960 your family, or from your own self. And if the 0:33:22.160 --> 0:33:25.040 answer to that is no, you don't get enough from 0:33:25.080 --> 0:33:27.000 him and you already get those things from your friends 0:33:27.000 --> 0:33:29.040 and your family and everyone else in your life, then 0:33:29.080 --> 0:33:30.120 he's not the right person for you. 0:33:30.320 --> 0:33:32.480 Well, there's two standout things here, right, And like, I 0:33:32.560 --> 0:33:35.040 agree with everything you say, but for this specific question, 0:33:35.760 --> 0:33:40.400 she feels underwhelmed. She wants somebody to match her intellectually, 0:33:41.000 --> 0:33:44.160 and she's wondering if there's quote somebody out there that 0:33:44.200 --> 0:33:45.120 will make me happier. 0:33:45.360 --> 0:33:48.000 I'm passionate and fiery, but passionate and fiery that is 0:33:48.080 --> 0:33:51.720 going to subside. Passionate and fiery. Fiery doesn't last in 0:33:51.760 --> 0:33:52.680 a relationship forever. 0:33:52.840 --> 0:33:54.880 But you know what does is being able to match 0:33:54.920 --> 0:33:58.040 someone intellectually. And I truly believe that I have ended 0:33:58.080 --> 0:33:59.800 relationships in the past where I've felt like I was 0:34:00.160 --> 0:34:03.280 the same wavelength with somebody because we couldn't talk about 0:34:03.280 --> 0:34:05.240 the same things, because we didn't have interest in the 0:34:05.280 --> 0:34:08.200 same things because we didn't understand the same things. And 0:34:08.440 --> 0:34:11.040 that is when all else fades in a relationship, When 0:34:11.080 --> 0:34:14.240 the physicality fades and the chemistry and the spark fades, 0:34:15.000 --> 0:34:16.880 you don't have much left but to be able to 0:34:16.920 --> 0:34:19.279 communicate with each other. And if you can't communicate, that's 0:34:19.280 --> 0:34:21.920 a big thing. If my partner had said to me, 0:34:22.760 --> 0:34:25.680 I'm constantly thinking if I would be happier with someone else, 0:34:26.560 --> 0:34:29.800 that's huge. Like if you really are constantly thinking about 0:34:30.000 --> 0:34:32.000 if somebody's better suited and what it's like to be 0:34:32.120 --> 0:34:35.239 with somebody else, you're not in that relationship anymore. One 0:34:35.280 --> 0:34:37.600 foot still in, but one foot's out, you know, one 0:34:37.640 --> 0:34:39.279 foot steal in the carpet, and one is just on 0:34:39.360 --> 0:34:42.760 that grass ready to run. I would be one hundred 0:34:42.760 --> 0:34:45.520 percent considering that that is not the relationship for you. 0:34:45.600 --> 0:34:46.839 And I don't want to tell you to pack up 0:34:46.840 --> 0:34:49.160 and leave. But for me, those big things that you 0:34:49.280 --> 0:34:51.640 have said are big. I totally agree. 0:34:51.719 --> 0:34:53.400 And you know, when I was in my twenties, the 0:34:53.440 --> 0:34:56.840 one very he was so good and I would have 0:34:56.920 --> 0:34:58.759 described him as a sweet boy. Oh my god, my 0:34:58.960 --> 0:35:01.600 ex he was such a lovely man. But I was 0:35:01.719 --> 0:35:04.359 bored shitless right, because I didn't need that at the time. 0:35:04.440 --> 0:35:08.080 I needed the fucking drama. But I remember sitting at 0:35:08.120 --> 0:35:09.719 my computer this one day and I was in this 0:35:09.920 --> 0:35:12.960 exact spot, and I was googling should I break up. 0:35:12.920 --> 0:35:13.600 With my boyfriend? 0:35:13.800 --> 0:35:15.840 We've all been in this spot, should I break up 0:35:15.840 --> 0:35:17.759 with my boyfriend? Because I couldn't. I was like, there's 0:35:17.880 --> 0:35:20.440 no reason to break up with him. He's amazing, and 0:35:20.600 --> 0:35:23.160 I just don't feel where I need to feel. And 0:35:23.239 --> 0:35:26.120 I remember reading this one thing and it said, if 0:35:26.200 --> 0:35:29.000 you're googling should I break up with my boyfriend, the 0:35:29.080 --> 0:35:33.560 answer is probably yes. Like you seeking that validation. That's 0:35:33.600 --> 0:35:36.239 a big red flag in a relationship. If you're constantly 0:35:36.400 --> 0:35:37.920 seeking validation. 0:35:37.600 --> 0:35:39.400 What I think this girl's doing. I think a lot 0:35:39.440 --> 0:35:41.400 of the time, and I genuinely mean this, A lot 0:35:41.440 --> 0:35:44.680 of the time we get questions in I think to myself, 0:35:45.440 --> 0:35:48.400 this person already knows, like, this person's already decided, but 0:35:48.520 --> 0:35:51.360 they want that extra validation from someone that's not biased. 0:35:51.400 --> 0:35:53.279 I guess not a friend or a family member that's 0:35:53.320 --> 0:35:55.680 going to say no, he's good for you. Stay. I 0:35:55.880 --> 0:35:57.920 often think that you guys running and deep down you 0:35:58.000 --> 0:36:00.480 probably know the answer and I don't know if you're 0:36:00.480 --> 0:36:02.560 hoping for the validation or if you're hoping to someone 0:36:02.719 --> 0:36:05.520 to tell you to stay. I don't know, but I 0:36:05.640 --> 0:36:08.440 think if you reread your own question in this in 0:36:08.560 --> 0:36:11.399 this instance, you will come to the same decision. You're like, Okay, 0:36:11.480 --> 0:36:12.960 I do think about being with people all the time. 0:36:13.080 --> 0:36:14.520 He is not a match for me on that level. 0:36:14.560 --> 0:36:16.400 He's sweet and beautiful, but a lot of people are. 0:36:17.320 --> 0:36:19.719 I don't want to say lee, but I'd be considering that. Yes, 0:36:21.040 --> 0:36:23.000 I always feel bad when I say that, but I'm like, 0:36:24.000 --> 0:36:26.200 because you just we just blew up someone's relationship. No, 0:36:26.360 --> 0:36:31.920 they brewed up themselves. We just confirmed it's okay. Question 0:36:32.000 --> 0:36:35.560 number three, someone I follow on Instagram posted on their 0:36:35.600 --> 0:36:38.439 story that they're looking to set up their husband's best 0:36:38.560 --> 0:36:40.360 friend on a date. I love that. 0:36:40.800 --> 0:36:42.520 I love that people on Instagram going, you know what, 0:36:42.680 --> 0:36:44.719 this is a good guy someone dating. I have a 0:36:44.760 --> 0:36:46.200 girlfriend who I want to try and do that with. 0:36:46.239 --> 0:36:49.560 In the Facebook group Chazzy do it, it's I want 0:36:49.600 --> 0:36:52.040 to find her a boyfriend. She was like, it's desperate times, 0:36:52.120 --> 0:36:54.839 desperate measures. I have an amazing friend and we need 0:36:54.880 --> 0:36:55.720 to find her a boyfriend. 0:36:56.080 --> 0:36:59.080 I could try and s or someone maybe, Okay, we'll 0:36:59.080 --> 0:37:02.080 talk about that. Fitness. Yeah he loves to run. Yeah, 0:37:02.080 --> 0:37:05.680 I got someone. He hates running, but he's into fitness. Okay, okay, cool, 0:37:05.760 --> 0:37:07.319 talk to me out to the break, find me cool, guys. 0:37:07.320 --> 0:37:11.160 I'm gonna post Jazzy on the find me a boyfriend? Maybe, 0:37:11.200 --> 0:37:14.239 asked Jazzy first. No, she asked me to Okay, put it. Okay, 0:37:14.280 --> 0:37:15.920 I'm doing it. I'll got this to it tomorrow. Okay. 0:37:16.000 --> 0:37:18.480 So she listed all the qualities about him. He sounds wonderful. 0:37:18.520 --> 0:37:20.680 So let's fast track. I'm texting this guy. We go 0:37:20.800 --> 0:37:25.160 on a first date. All is amazing. We both have 0:37:25.280 --> 0:37:28.239 really busy schedules, though, which are opposites, so it means 0:37:28.320 --> 0:37:30.440 we only share a few messages a day because I'm 0:37:30.480 --> 0:37:32.959 a fitness instructor, so I work the mornings and nights 0:37:33.040 --> 0:37:36.839 when he's at home. Anyhow, after not speaking to him 0:37:37.040 --> 0:37:39.719 for a whole day, he has sort of ghosted me. 0:37:39.800 --> 0:37:44.000 At this point, I accidentally sent my location on my 0:37:44.160 --> 0:37:48.799 way to work. I sent him my live location at 0:37:48.880 --> 0:37:51.160 five am in the morning when he hasn't even replied 0:37:51.200 --> 0:37:53.880 to my last text. How does this happen? This is 0:37:54.000 --> 0:37:56.200 actually like an accidentally unfiltered. This is one of those 0:37:56.239 --> 0:37:57.600 moments where you're like, I don't even know if this 0:37:57.640 --> 0:37:59.319 is an asking cart. This is like what the fuck? 0:37:59.560 --> 0:38:01.359 He's not message me back, so I'm gonna send him 0:38:01.400 --> 0:38:03.600 my location come to me, daddy. You know this is 0:38:03.640 --> 0:38:05.719 when you happens when you're talking to a friend. You 0:38:05.800 --> 0:38:07.920 want to talk about the relationship, so you go to 0:38:08.040 --> 0:38:10.480 the messages to check what the last message was. It's like, 0:38:10.600 --> 0:38:12.359 it's like going me saying, look, this is the last 0:38:12.400 --> 0:38:15.239 thing I wrote. So she's gone in and she's realized 0:38:15.640 --> 0:38:18.880 that she sent him the live location. What does she 0:38:19.040 --> 0:38:22.680 do at this point? Does she message him to pretend 0:38:22.719 --> 0:38:25.240 she didn't do it, does she message him and pretend 0:38:25.280 --> 0:38:27.200 she did mean to do it, or does she never 0:38:27.239 --> 0:38:30.799 see this person again? Oh my god, just message and Sam, 0:38:30.800 --> 0:38:33.399 I'm so sorry to mean to send you that. It's 0:38:33.440 --> 0:38:35.319 also a bit late now it's probably been dated, yes, 0:38:36.239 --> 0:38:39.799 like a straight away right. I actually just think this. 0:38:39.880 --> 0:38:42.920 Isn't accidentally unfiltered. I think this guy's gone yeah, but 0:38:43.239 --> 0:38:45.759 like who, I don't know. I know, I take that 0:38:45.880 --> 0:38:49.200 back because I do remember how much you obsess over 0:38:49.280 --> 0:38:51.480 every little detail at the beginning of dating someone. Like 0:38:51.560 --> 0:38:53.600 you obsess over Oh my god, did they find that 0:38:53.640 --> 0:38:54.320 message funny? 0:38:54.480 --> 0:38:55.960 Was it not funny? Like? What do they think of this? 0:38:56.080 --> 0:38:56.920 What didn't they think of this? 0:38:57.440 --> 0:38:59.719 I know that you feel like an idiot because you're 0:38:59.800 --> 0:39:02.120 so in your head about it, but I think sometimes 0:39:02.160 --> 0:39:03.920 we just need to take these things less seriously. Like 0:39:04.000 --> 0:39:06.520 you accidentally did something. You didn't send him a photo 0:39:06.560 --> 0:39:08.759 of your you know who. Ha, So just send him 0:39:08.760 --> 0:39:10.200 a text and be like, oh, sorry about that. I 0:39:10.280 --> 0:39:11.840 really didn't mean to send that awkward. 0:39:12.280 --> 0:39:16.719 I probably wouldn't at this point because he ghosted you anyway. Yeah, 0:39:16.800 --> 0:39:19.360 like he ghosted you from your texting. You're sending me 0:39:19.400 --> 0:39:21.040 your location. If you wanted to turn up to where 0:39:21.080 --> 0:39:23.000 you were at five am, he could have, but he didn't. 0:39:23.160 --> 0:39:25.239 He was a sleeper, to be fair. He was like, 0:39:25.280 --> 0:39:28.600 I missed that one. Send again. I think that that 0:39:28.760 --> 0:39:32.040 ship may have sailed, and if it hasn't, you will 0:39:32.120 --> 0:39:34.520 hear from him again. He's a guy, he has a dick. 0:39:35.280 --> 0:39:38.560 He's not irrelevant, no, but is pretty irrelevant. No, it 0:39:38.719 --> 0:39:40.360 is what I want to say, A guy with a 0:39:40.440 --> 0:39:43.680 dick or a guy without a dick. Whatever. Guys when 0:39:43.760 --> 0:39:46.359 they want something and they're interested in somebody, They're going 0:39:46.440 --> 0:39:48.680 a message, even if he thinks that your live location 0:39:48.920 --> 0:39:51.960 was weird. Even if he's weird, if he's interested in somebody, 0:39:52.000 --> 0:39:54.439 he'll still text you. He'll just be like, hey, sorry, 0:39:54.520 --> 0:39:56.760 was that meant for me? Like he's going to make contact. 0:39:56.880 --> 0:39:59.239 The thing is is that if someone is really into you, 0:40:00.000 --> 0:40:01.680 thing that you do that someone who's not into you 0:40:01.800 --> 0:40:03.200 is going to think weird. They're not going to think 0:40:03.239 --> 0:40:04.799 it is weird. They're going to be excited that you've 0:40:04.800 --> 0:40:06.880 shown them interests. They're going to be excited that you message. 0:40:06.880 --> 0:40:09.480 It doesn't matter what if you send an accidental message, 0:40:09.520 --> 0:40:11.840 even if it's like a dot, a full stop, whatever, 0:40:12.360 --> 0:40:14.719 their phone lighting up and it being your name on 0:40:14.840 --> 0:40:16.920 their phone, if they're into you, is going to make 0:40:16.960 --> 0:40:20.000 them excited and happy, and they're going to say, hey, 0:40:20.120 --> 0:40:20.680 was that meant for me? 0:40:20.760 --> 0:40:22.800 They're going to write back. Right, if I was frothing 0:40:22.880 --> 0:40:24.640 a guy and he sent me his live location, I'd 0:40:24.719 --> 0:40:26.000 be there totally right. 0:40:26.200 --> 0:40:28.480 And so the fact that you've sent it and he 0:40:28.640 --> 0:40:32.640 hasn't responded just indicates that he Unfortunately, and I know 0:40:32.760 --> 0:40:34.359 that this is harsh and I hate it, but it's 0:40:34.480 --> 0:40:36.319 the truth. He's not as into you as what you're 0:40:36.360 --> 0:40:39.680 into him, and so it might be awkward. He might 0:40:39.760 --> 0:40:41.360 have been like, oh no, why does she send me 0:40:41.440 --> 0:40:44.360 that wido? But that is an indication that he's just 0:40:44.440 --> 0:40:46.120 not at the place that you were at, and so 0:40:46.560 --> 0:40:49.680 maybe don't give this relationship any more airtime. Don't try 0:40:49.719 --> 0:40:51.920 and text him again. He knows where to find you. 0:40:52.400 --> 0:40:54.799 And if he does really like you, but he knows 0:40:54.840 --> 0:40:59.880 where to find you, literally is is like, if he 0:41:00.560 --> 0:41:03.040 does really like you, let's just say that that saying 0:41:03.160 --> 0:41:05.640 is wrong, you know, And this is the bare minimum 0:41:05.640 --> 0:41:07.600 of effort that he puts in to try and maintain 0:41:07.640 --> 0:41:08.239 a relationship. 0:41:08.280 --> 0:41:10.880 It's not gonna work anyway. So I think that this 0:41:11.040 --> 0:41:13.520 is a blessing in disguise. I'm just thinking because you 0:41:13.560 --> 0:41:16.319 can send two kinds of locations. You can send one 0:41:16.400 --> 0:41:18.040 that's like I just send you where I am now, 0:41:18.120 --> 0:41:19.839 But you can also send one where they can follow 0:41:19.880 --> 0:41:21.919 you for like twenty four hours, like has she set 0:41:21.960 --> 0:41:23.920 the location? That's like you can see where I am 0:41:24.000 --> 0:41:25.759 for a whole day if you would come find me 0:41:26.239 --> 0:41:29.520 whereover I am. That's so actually so funny. 0:41:29.880 --> 0:41:32.520 I do wish and I'd say this is someone who 0:41:32.560 --> 0:41:34.400 can look at it from the outside, because I understand 0:41:34.440 --> 0:41:35.200 that it's so easy. 0:41:35.040 --> 0:41:37.279 When you're in a good relationship. Thanks for the verse, 0:41:37.320 --> 0:41:39.800 Fuck off, Flora, But when you know do you know 0:41:39.840 --> 0:41:40.680 what I mean totally? 0:41:40.680 --> 0:41:42.920 If it's so easy to give advice when you come 0:41:42.960 --> 0:41:46.000 from the comfort of like a nice, happy relationship. But 0:41:46.120 --> 0:41:48.239 I wish when I was dating I could have taken 0:41:48.360 --> 0:41:51.800 this part less seriously. I wish I could have enjoyed. 0:41:51.800 --> 0:41:54.000 I wish I didn't scrutinize over every text message. I 0:41:54.000 --> 0:41:56.480 wish I didn't get so worked up or like, oh 0:41:56.560 --> 0:41:58.160 my god, does he like me? Doesn't he like me? 0:41:58.200 --> 0:42:00.480 He hasn't messaged me for a day. I wish I 0:42:00.520 --> 0:42:04.800 could have just been more calm around those connections. But 0:42:04.920 --> 0:42:08.920 I remember always feeling that franticness as well. So my 0:42:09.040 --> 0:42:11.319 advice in this is like, don't make this a bigger 0:42:11.360 --> 0:42:13.960 deal than what it is. It was an accident. It's 0:42:14.000 --> 0:42:15.799 not going to change your life in any years time. 0:42:15.840 --> 0:42:17.719 You're never even going to think about it, so just 0:42:17.800 --> 0:42:18.680 ignore it and move on. 0:42:18.880 --> 0:42:20.920 I do want to also say, in relation to this 0:42:21.080 --> 0:42:25.920 is just a really generalized comment. How many people, my 0:42:26.040 --> 0:42:28.480 friends included, how many people say I don't get it 0:42:28.560 --> 0:42:31.600 though the date was amazing. We had fun, we talked, 0:42:31.680 --> 0:42:35.640 we had things in common. That doesn't necessarily translate to 0:42:35.719 --> 0:42:38.319 somebody wanting to pursue something with you, Like you can 0:42:38.480 --> 0:42:40.440 very easily go out and have an amazing date with 0:42:40.560 --> 0:42:42.920 someone knowing you don't want to take it further. I've 0:42:42.920 --> 0:42:45.719 done that a hundred times. I've found somebody funny, the 0:42:45.800 --> 0:42:48.120 date's gone well, we've had the banter, but I'm like, 0:42:48.680 --> 0:42:51.480 there's nothing else there. But the date was great. So 0:42:51.680 --> 0:42:53.839 many people say, but the date was great, Why has 0:42:53.840 --> 0:42:56.759 any messaged me? They're just not interested. It doesn't have 0:42:56.840 --> 0:42:58.680 to be a personal thing either. You can I just 0:42:58.760 --> 0:43:00.440 wanted to really be driven home that you can have 0:43:00.520 --> 0:43:02.640 a great date and have fun with someone and they're 0:43:02.680 --> 0:43:06.200 not you. Penguin. Yeah, absolutely, okay. Fourth and last question 0:43:06.800 --> 0:43:10.080 settle the debate between a girl and her partner. Is 0:43:10.200 --> 0:43:13.160 peen in the pool gross? He thinks that the ocean 0:43:13.280 --> 0:43:15.399 or the river is fine, but the pool is too far. 0:43:15.960 --> 0:43:17.919 I think that the pool is fine because it's usually 0:43:18.000 --> 0:43:22.480 treated for that stuff. Right, You're a pig ill. You're 0:43:22.480 --> 0:43:23.359 a pig ill. 0:43:24.200 --> 0:43:25.680 My daughter pete in the bath the other day and 0:43:25.680 --> 0:43:27.360 I had to empty the whole bath out and refill 0:43:27.360 --> 0:43:29.040 it because he's like, you're not going to bathe you 0:43:29.120 --> 0:43:29.920 in your urine. 0:43:30.920 --> 0:43:33.279 I'm shocked that there are people out there that think 0:43:33.320 --> 0:43:35.920 peen in a pool is okay, which is also alarming 0:43:35.960 --> 0:43:38.040 when so many of us have swum in public pools. 0:43:38.120 --> 0:43:41.600 You're literally just swimming in human piss and chlorine. Have 0:43:41.719 --> 0:43:43.719 you treated a piss? Anyone who's been to Bali? You 0:43:43.760 --> 0:43:46.520 know those big beach clubs, Ah a pool of piss. 0:43:46.640 --> 0:43:49.239 They are drunk partiers. It's a pool of piss. No, 0:43:49.360 --> 0:43:52.000 there is one in Hamilton Island, right, Okay? So last 0:43:52.080 --> 0:43:54.400 year Hatock Hamilton. 0:43:54.560 --> 0:43:57.439 No, it was incredible. It was one of my most 0:43:57.560 --> 0:43:59.759 favorite places that I have ever been to. But I 0:44:00.160 --> 0:44:02.439 to one of the resorts that had to swim around pool. 0:44:02.520 --> 0:44:04.720 It's like a donut shape and the bars in the middle, 0:44:05.120 --> 0:44:05.319 and I. 0:44:05.360 --> 0:44:10.320 Know the exact one. It was the consistency of soup. 0:44:10.520 --> 0:44:12.719 I got in it and it was so warm, and 0:44:12.840 --> 0:44:14.279 there were men who had been in there and they 0:44:14.320 --> 0:44:16.520 were all drunk, and it was about five o'clock in. 0:44:16.520 --> 0:44:19.399 The afternoon and they were like whoa blah blah. None 0:44:19.440 --> 0:44:21.520 of them got out and I was like, oh, you motherfucker' 0:44:21.520 --> 0:44:22.719 are pissing in this pool right now. 0:44:22.800 --> 0:44:25.359 My kids are swimming around like something like Larley goes 0:44:25.400 --> 0:44:28.160 under has a mouthful of water. I was like, not okay, 0:44:28.520 --> 0:44:31.600 it's not okay. You are not alone if you think 0:44:31.600 --> 0:44:33.400 it's okay to piss in the pool. Everyone's doing it, 0:44:33.440 --> 0:44:36.200 which means that that chlorine is working real hard. 0:44:36.280 --> 0:44:39.440 It's working overtime. It's the chlorine's not her question is 0:44:40.440 --> 0:44:44.399 it's okay because it's treated for that stuff? Right? No, yes, 0:44:44.719 --> 0:44:47.719 you put chlorine. Don't add to the proper It doesn't counteract. 0:44:47.800 --> 0:44:51.160 You don't do it doesn't bullshit. A weed does not 0:44:51.280 --> 0:44:52.840 come out. Do you reach through like this and the 0:44:52.880 --> 0:44:56.439 chlorine's like and deteriorates it as it shooks out. That's 0:44:56.600 --> 0:45:00.080 not science, that's not physiology, that's not biology. That's you 0:45:00.160 --> 0:45:02.920 ain't happening if you wean a pool that we is 0:45:03.040 --> 0:45:05.080 in the pool and other people are swimming in it, 0:45:05.200 --> 0:45:09.239 so stop it, stop it, stop it. It is dispersed, 0:45:09.320 --> 0:45:12.480 though it's very very odd, it's okay to swim in 0:45:12.680 --> 0:45:18.800 dispersed urine. Laura, can you say dispersed again, diluted urine 0:45:19.400 --> 0:45:22.640 disperstur because I was gonna say diluted, and my brain 0:45:22.680 --> 0:45:23.200 stopped up. 0:45:23.200 --> 0:45:27.200 Okay, I agree with your boyfriend, and I'm going to 0:45:27.239 --> 0:45:29.200 go back to how I originally answer this question. 0:45:29.280 --> 0:45:34.040 You're a pig. Yes, ocean and rivers are fine, except 0:45:34.920 --> 0:45:37.759 I always think they attract sharks, so I also try 0:45:37.880 --> 0:45:39.760 not to do that. You can absolutely pee in the ocean, 0:45:39.960 --> 0:45:42.120 and you can absolutely pean a river. I just have 0:45:42.239 --> 0:45:45.239 it in my head that if I wi in a river, 0:45:45.680 --> 0:45:47.680 a bullshark will find me. I'm pitch fright of it. 0:45:47.760 --> 0:45:49.160 I don't know what it is. It's one of those 0:45:49.239 --> 0:45:51.800 myth things I think when you're a kid and you 0:45:51.920 --> 0:45:54.240 hear the pain attract shark, I think it does attraction. 0:45:54.440 --> 0:45:55.960 I think it does. I don't think that. 0:45:56.080 --> 0:45:58.520 When you question that, you've got to remember you're also 0:45:58.640 --> 0:46:00.520 usually swimming at a beach with lots of other people 0:46:00.520 --> 0:46:02.200 who are also peeing in the ocean, so you hope 0:46:02.360 --> 0:46:04.959 a lot there's a lot of peace circulating around that area, 0:46:05.080 --> 0:46:06.640 so the sharks are coming whether you do it or not. 0:46:06.880 --> 0:46:08.600 You know, I agree with your partner. 0:46:08.800 --> 0:46:10.920 It's not very often that we get questions written in 0:46:11.000 --> 0:46:15.439 where I confidently and without doubt disagree with the person 0:46:15.440 --> 0:46:16.279 who has written. 0:46:16.040 --> 0:46:18.000 In the question, Okay, can I tell you how confident 0:46:18.239 --> 0:46:21.200 this listener is. She's also said I thought this would 0:46:21.200 --> 0:46:23.640 be a good poll. She's co confident that people are 0:46:23.640 --> 0:46:25.239 going to be on her side with the poor wing 0:46:25.440 --> 0:46:27.480 that she has asked us to pole it. Here's my 0:46:27.600 --> 0:46:30.000 question for you. This is a real question. I'm not 0:46:30.040 --> 0:46:32.239 going to do a poo in the either, Laura, no 0:46:32.400 --> 0:46:32.960 farts and a ja. 0:46:33.320 --> 0:46:33.360 No. 0:46:33.480 --> 0:46:37.840 My question is would you ever pee in the bath? No, 0:46:39.000 --> 0:46:41.279 the toilet is next to them. I'm not a child, 0:46:41.400 --> 0:46:44.759 don't look like child. I would not so fresh faced white, 0:46:44.800 --> 0:46:45.080 thank you. 0:46:45.880 --> 0:46:47.799 But you get in the bar, you get in the bath, 0:46:47.880 --> 0:46:50.719 and you need to wazy toilets, and then every person 0:46:50.760 --> 0:46:52.320 has to get out, and then we in the toilet. 0:46:52.480 --> 0:46:54.080 What do you mean every person? How many people are 0:46:54.080 --> 0:46:59.240 in your bar? I know how I have a bath alone. 0:47:01.000 --> 0:47:03.279 No, I just am asking the question because my kids 0:47:03.280 --> 0:47:04.600 always pee in the bath, and then I have to 0:47:04.680 --> 0:47:06.239 question myself as to whether I empty it. 0:47:06.600 --> 0:47:08.279 Ninety percent of the time I don't. I'll just say, 0:47:08.280 --> 0:47:10.400 if you're in a pin in there, you can wash it. Sorry, 0:47:10.800 --> 0:47:14.560 it's too much. Our bath feels so slow. And if 0:47:14.600 --> 0:47:16.080 they're one of them, if the three year old's going 0:47:16.160 --> 0:47:18.000 to pee in the bath, I'm like, that's unfortunate. K. 0:47:18.239 --> 0:47:19.879 I'll just put a bit more palm olive on you today. 0:47:20.040 --> 0:47:23.440 That is a I'm just gonna roll you around in 0:47:23.480 --> 0:47:25.800 the olive oil. Two good poles here. One, do you 0:47:25.840 --> 0:47:26.879 pee in the bath? Do you pee? 0:47:27.040 --> 0:47:27.080 No? 0:47:27.280 --> 0:47:29.080 Would you pean the pool for this girl? Like, let's 0:47:29.120 --> 0:47:30.759 settle it for her because she obviously is not gonna 0:47:30.760 --> 0:47:33.160 believe about what we have said, so let's poll it. Two. 0:47:33.320 --> 0:47:36.359 Are you a mum if your kid peas in the bath? 0:47:36.600 --> 0:47:38.000 Do you empty it and refill it? Or do you 0:47:38.080 --> 0:47:39.480 let them bathe in it? Because that's a really good 0:47:39.560 --> 0:47:41.960 question because I know you're ninety nine percent of the time, 0:47:42.040 --> 0:47:43.120 I just let them bathe in it. 0:47:43.440 --> 0:47:46.160 And it was only the other day when Lola stood 0:47:46.280 --> 0:47:48.840 up and confidently weed standing up in the bath. And 0:47:48.920 --> 0:47:50.839 then my my mother in law was like, we've got 0:47:50.880 --> 0:47:52.440 to empty and put new water it, and I was 0:47:52.480 --> 0:47:54.120 like why. She was like, she just weed in the 0:47:54.160 --> 0:47:55.640 bath and that's her problem. 0:47:55.760 --> 0:47:58.399 I would probably empty. Yeah. Okay, Anyway, that's it from 0:47:58.520 --> 0:48:00.880 us today. If you have questions, keep please sending them 0:48:00.920 --> 0:48:03.239 in to Instagram. Life un Cut Podcast and just put 0:48:03.320 --> 0:48:05.759 usk on cut at the top. You're embarrassing stories, you're 0:48:05.760 --> 0:48:08.239 accenting unfiltered anything you want us to know that is 0:48:08.280 --> 0:48:09.120 happening in your life. 0:48:09.239 --> 0:48:11.600 Also, go and subscribe to the YouTube channel and watch 0:48:11.640 --> 0:48:12.440 a couple of videos. 0:48:12.480 --> 0:48:15.440 You can see us in the flesh looking like the millennials. 0:48:15.520 --> 0:48:17.800 We are with all of our imax shadows. 0:48:17.600 --> 0:48:20.640 Really a dark liner, skinny leg jeans. 0:48:20.800 --> 0:48:23.320 We're really here for it, none of us. 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