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Speaker 1: But I am back with another geez hotline. So today
Speaker 1: we are answering some saucy qs. We have the question
Speaker 1: of how to make a decision when you're at a crossroads,
Speaker 1: should you tell your friend if you find out their
Speaker 1: boyfriend cheated on them? And also we hear about a
Speaker 1: very wild divorce toory situation as always a tear and
Speaker 1: I provide our unqualified but very enthusiastic opinion on these questions.
Speaker 1: You guys know Fridays, it's a bit of fun. But
Speaker 1: before we get into the episode, I did want to
Speaker 1: give you my weekly recommendation. I'm watching this new TV
Speaker 1: show at the moment called The Split. It's on Apple TV.
Speaker 1: I did have to pay for it, but I've got
Speaker 1: a feeling you can get it somewhere else, so maybe
Speaker 1: do a bit of research.
Speaker 3: But it's just basically about.
Speaker 1: A family of family lawyers, so that all women. As
Speaker 1: you guys know, I used to work in family law.
Speaker 1: So I don't know, I'm just like so attracted to
Speaker 1: this TV show. I think the reason why I like
Speaker 1: it is because all the characters are just real people.
Speaker 3: They're just I don't know, they're just real.
Speaker 1: People and very entertaining a lot of drama, but it
Speaker 1: just it feels very real. Yeah, I don't know, I
Speaker 1: love it. It took a little bit to get into it,
Speaker 1: but I'm really into it now. And I just I
Speaker 1: love anything with like a lot of drama. There's cheating
Speaker 1: and just a lot happening, and I I just love
Speaker 1: drama that's not in my life. So that is a
Speaker 1: new show that we have been watching. I'm also reading
Speaker 1: a new book. I'm not fully sold on it yet,
Speaker 1: so I'm just gonna keep a pin in that and
Speaker 1: I'll probably tell you next week in my recommendations.
Speaker 3: But guys, I hope you enjoy this.
Speaker 1: Potty and I will chat to you in our next episode.
Speaker 3: Let's get into it.
Speaker 4: My friend is getting a divorce. Nothing bad happened and
Speaker 4: they haven't been married too long. It just seems they
Speaker 4: got married very quickly. So she's planned this entire divorce
Speaker 4: party weekend where she expects us to pay more than
Speaker 4: we did for her hands to go away for the
Speaker 4: weekend and party to celebrate the halfway mark of her divorce.
Speaker 4: It wouldn't even be completed yet. She's also doing things
Speaker 4: like printing shirts with his face and the rude finger.
Speaker 4: He has done nothing bad to her and they have
Speaker 4: a chiled together, which she somewhat manipulated him into having
Speaker 4: by lying about being on birth control. And since they've separated,
Speaker 4: she has been going on Tinder and sleeping around, et cetera,
Speaker 4: which I guess is fine, but he hasn't done any
Speaker 4: of that. So I'm not sure what to do about
Speaker 4: this party. I don't think it should happen, and I
Speaker 4: really don't want to go. I tried to broach the
Speaker 4: inappropriateness of it with her over text, but she ignored
Speaker 4: it and started talking about.
Speaker 2: The next thing. What do I do what? That's why
Speaker 2: I didn't want you to read.
Speaker 3: That's fucking crazy.
Speaker 2: I love this question so much. It's just a mess.
Speaker 2: Oh my god. So first of all, I think your
Speaker 2: friend's going through a lot.
Speaker 3: I think, yeah, to you know, to.
Speaker 1: Get divorced and just to have a child, and it's
Speaker 1: like a lot is happening there, and there's just like
Speaker 1: two sides to the story.
Speaker 2: So I'm going to just say my first kind.
Speaker 1: Of react, yeah, is I think it's inappropriate how she's acting,
Speaker 1: especially if nothing you know, quote unquote bad has gone
Speaker 1: on and she's like printing his face on t shirt.
Speaker 1: It's just a bit disrespectful when it's like that's the
Speaker 1: father of your child and you know there could be
Speaker 1: mutual friends and that sort of side of it and
Speaker 1: almost I don't know, I just get like immature vibes. Yeah, absolutely,
Speaker 1: like just super immature. This is like something a thirteen
Speaker 1: year old old. Yeah, it's like how boy friend, how
Speaker 1: old are you? But then, like I what I think
Speaker 1: is she's probably hurting. She's like really hurting in some way,
Speaker 1: because otherwise, why would you act out.
Speaker 2: Like this and lends you like just a bit crazy? Yeah,
Speaker 2: which she could be, That's what I thought.
Speaker 1: I'm like, she's like a little bit Yeah, that's like
Speaker 1: I think you just need to go. Hey, look, I
Speaker 1: just don't really feel comfortable, you know, paying all this money.
Speaker 1: I would just be in front when they're and just
Speaker 1: be like, you know, I've got stuff and stuff going on.
Speaker 1: This money needs to go elsewhere. Also, it just makes
Speaker 1: me feel a bit uncomfortable, like how hard you're going
Speaker 1: with this? You know, like it just it feels uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: You could just say I feel very uncomfortable and I
Speaker 1: want to support you through this, but I think maybe
Speaker 1: you're going about it yeah the wrong way. And I'm
Speaker 1: here for you if you need a chat and that
Speaker 1: sort of thing. But it's like I will not come
Speaker 1: to this party. Yeah, it just feels a bit much mean,
Speaker 1: it's like I just don't I'd even put in the
Speaker 1: way of like I just don't really need this right now,
Speaker 1: sort of I'm here to support you, but I just
Speaker 1: I don't think this is fueling a healthy thing for you.
Speaker 2: Would you go?
Speaker 1: Look, it depends if it was like my very best friend,
Speaker 1: I'd probably still go. If it was just like a girlfriend,
Speaker 1: I'd be like, oh, look, sweety. But in saying that,
Speaker 1: if it was my very very best friend, I'd also
Speaker 1: be like, you're being fucking crazy, Like.
Speaker 2: You'd have the argument prior to the ape, and I'd be.
Speaker 1: Like, we're not having a doors And then first of all,
Speaker 1: I'd be like, let's wait till it's fully over.
Speaker 2: Why are we doing this halfway?
Speaker 1: Because don't get me wrong, I would be happy to
Speaker 1: have a divorce party with a girlfriend if she has
Speaker 1: been through a lot and it's finished and it's like.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but even if like there hasn't been bad things
Speaker 4: happen and there's still a divorce involved, that is something
Speaker 4: that not celebrate, but like go out for drinks with
Speaker 4: the girls, have a nice night, have a girl's night.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I honestly think a divorce party is fine. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't have any issues with that, but I think it's, yeah,
Speaker 1: the way she's going about it, and it just seems.
Speaker 2: It seems to be a little bit toxic. Yeah, to
Speaker 2: get that toxic vibes. Yeah, very toxic. But I feel
Speaker 2: a bit.
Speaker 1: Judgy saying this because even though this friend is like
Speaker 1: he was fine, you know, blah blah blah, it's like,
Speaker 1: do we really know what happened in the relationship.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but like it says he that she lied to
Speaker 4: him about being on birth control and that's why they
Speaker 4: had a kid.
Speaker 1: Ye.
Speaker 2: Crazy vibes.
Speaker 1: But also yeah, look, and then also I just want
Speaker 1: to make a comment this person being like she's on
Speaker 1: Tinder and sleeping around, good honor.
Speaker 2: I have no she's with that.
Speaker 1: It's like she's single, she's allowed to do that. I
Speaker 1: don't know, I'm getting kind of vibes of this person
Speaker 1: being like a bit judgy about that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, since they've been separated, she's been going on tender
Speaker 4: and sleeping around, which is fine, But he hasn't done
Speaker 4: any of that. So I'm not sure what to do about.
Speaker 2: How does this person know he hasn't done that? Point?
Speaker 2: Do you mean I don't know this question's weird.
Speaker 1: I completely get this question how she's feeling, and it's
Speaker 1: all just feeling like.
Speaker 4: Probably just like she wants to protect her friend. Yeah,
Speaker 4: because there's probably a lot of mutual people involved, if
Speaker 4: they've been married and had a child.
Speaker 1: I think you need to have a serious conversation with her,
Speaker 1: face to face and sit her down and just say
Speaker 1: this is feeling like a bit toxic. Like, I understand
Speaker 1: you've got a lot of feelings about this, and I'm
Speaker 1: so happy to celebrate with you once the divorce is
Speaker 1: over if that makes you feel better, but also I
Speaker 1: feel like this is kind of.
Speaker 2: The wrong way of celebrating.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think, well, just at the moment, the divorce
Speaker 1: isn't even final. You know, you're going to the extent
Speaker 1: of doing T shirts and just you know, it's a
Speaker 1: lot like, let's have a serious conversation because you're obviously
Speaker 1: going through a lot right now.
Speaker 2: I love that. Okay, here's a work one. Okay, a
Speaker 2: job one.
Speaker 4: I'm at a bit of a crossroads with work. I
Speaker 4: love my job, my team and the work we do,
Speaker 4: but I've applied for another job that's at a dream
Speaker 4: organization because I thought why not and have moved to
Speaker 4: the next round of interviews. In this same week, I
Speaker 4: found out from my current work that this same organization
Speaker 4: has hired me and my team to do a dream
Speaker 4: project for them. I'm feeling quite stuck between the two places.
Speaker 4: On the one hand, I love my job, but on
Speaker 4: the other I potentially have this amazing opportunity. I just
Speaker 4: wanted to ask, what is your process when making a
Speaker 4: hard decision and working through crossroads in life?
Speaker 2: Oh? My god? Yeah? Like, I'm like, is that complict
Speaker 2: of interest? Well, I'm almost a bit confused here.
Speaker 1: So she's saying where she currently works is doing a
Speaker 1: job for that dream place she applied for.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's what I got. So she randomly applied for
Speaker 4: this dream organization. She's now made it to the next
Speaker 4: round of interviews, and in that same week she's found
Speaker 4: out from the current organized job.
Speaker 2: I get it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but why they hired her team to do something?
Speaker 1: But why can't she do that project while she's still
Speaker 1: going through I think she could? Ah?
Speaker 4: Is she saying she's saying, do I just stay I
Speaker 4: don't want this job anymore? Or like okay, I It
Speaker 4: sounds like she's pretty confident she'll get the job.
Speaker 2: Yep, so she needs to make a decision. Let's just
Speaker 2: go off that. Okay. When I'm making a decision, a tiya,
Speaker 2: you know, I asked my journal.
Speaker 1: I have this like joke guys that in the project,
Speaker 1: when I need an answer for something, I literally like
Speaker 1: right in my journal the question and I like meditate
Speaker 1: on it until the answer comes. But that's that's a
Speaker 1: very personal process. But when I'm making a decision, I
Speaker 1: honestly go what was the very first gut instinct? So like,
Speaker 1: don't go and poll everyone, don't go and ask a
Speaker 1: million people. I almost am just like what was the
Speaker 1: very gut instinct of how I felt? And I think
Speaker 1: like a good thing also is instead of measuring, like
Speaker 1: almost like measuring if you didn't take this new opportunity,
Speaker 1: what would you lose? Because the thing is you can
Speaker 1: always stay where you are, But if you don't take
Speaker 1: this new opportunity or this different opportunity, would the factor
Speaker 1: of what if.
Speaker 2: Eat your live? Yeah?
Speaker 4: And I think with stuff like this, I look at
Speaker 4: it as there's a reason you saw that ad wait,
Speaker 4: did you maybe see it on Instagram?
Speaker 2: Or were you on seek? Why were you on seek?
Speaker 2: If you love your job, that much. Yeah, why did
Speaker 2: you even apply?
Speaker 4: Like, yeah, what pulled you to apply for this job?
Speaker 4: If you love your job? Why did you go to
Speaker 4: the interview if you love your job so much? Because
Speaker 4: it's like, if you truly knew you were in the
Speaker 4: right place, you never even would have been in the
Speaker 4: position to look at that ad. And if you looked
Speaker 4: at it, you would have sort of scoffed at it
Speaker 4: and been like, I don't need that.
Speaker 2: I'm in the right place.
Speaker 1: One hundred percent. I feel like she's already made the decision, Yeah,
Speaker 1: don't you absolutely Otherwise, why would you even go for
Speaker 1: the interview?
Speaker 2: Yeah? And why would you put effort into the resume?
Speaker 2: And also it's kind.
Speaker 1: Of the vibes of how I was saying the other
Speaker 1: day at TEO of like, my previous life was fine.
Speaker 1: There was nothing bad about it. It was fine. But
Speaker 1: now you know me seven years ago it was fine.
Speaker 1: But now me actually making those hard decisions and making
Speaker 1: taking risks and whatnot, I'm like, holy shit, life is
Speaker 1: like better than I could have imagined exactly. And I
Speaker 1: think think she.
Speaker 2: Kind of has that niggling feeling.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I think as well, is you might just
Speaker 4: have some I call them graduation goggles.
Speaker 2: Or like rose colored glasses on.
Speaker 4: Where when you know something's coming to an end, you
Speaker 4: just all the bad floats out of your mind. Yeah,
Speaker 4: and you just think it's the best place to be time. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I will never go back to UNI.
Speaker 4: Literally, right, Like, when you graduate UNI or you graduate
Speaker 4: high school, you like, I've had the best time.
Speaker 2: I never want to be so bad. Yeah, and then
Speaker 2: you leave and you're like, god, that was terrible. Yeah,
Speaker 2: thank god, I'm out of that place exactly.
Speaker 3: Love.
Speaker 4: So I think there might just be some of that
Speaker 4: going on too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think it's okay, Like you can mourn
Speaker 1: what you currently have and you can still like it
Speaker 1: and still want more for yourself.
Speaker 4: Absolutely, And I wouldn't stay at this current job just
Speaker 4: because you've now got a project to do for the
Speaker 4: dream organization when you literally could just that could be
Speaker 4: every single day for you, not just a period of time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, amazing, quit your job, do it. Girl.
Speaker 4: I can't tell you how, but I found out through
Speaker 4: a trusted source that my friend's boyfriend cheated on her.
Speaker 2: What do I do? Oh my god, you fucking tell her? Okay.
Speaker 2: My first initial reaction is mine's like, what did you?
Speaker 2: And people say what a doll?
Speaker 1: Do?
Speaker 2: Men are trash? This is my thoughts on this.
Speaker 4: Tell us how close of a friend because my my
Speaker 4: opinion when it comes to stuff like this is interesting
Speaker 4: because no one ever wants to be the person to
Speaker 4: tell them, but everyone would want someone to tell them.
Speaker 2: And how does that work?
Speaker 4: Yeah, because like if I found out and I didn't
Speaker 4: see it first, point a doubt? Yeah, because did that
Speaker 4: actually happen? Is this person being over dramatic? Is it misinterpreted? Yeah,
Speaker 4: but you've also said trusted source, So I assume that
Speaker 4: you know that it's happened, But then it's the message.
Speaker 4: Is always a person that gets yeah.
Speaker 2: Sure.
Speaker 1: So my opinion is similar in regards to if it
Speaker 1: is a close friend, someone you value, I think you
Speaker 1: have to tell them because if they were ever to
Speaker 1: find out that you knew and they didn't, that would
Speaker 1: be a deal breaker for me as a friend. Oh absolutely,
Speaker 1: that would be a complete deal breaker. I'd be like,
Speaker 1: I don't care if you weren't. For sure, you should
Speaker 1: have told me.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I would expect that from my closest friends, and I
Speaker 4: would one hundred percent do that for all of my
Speaker 4: closest friends.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it is kind of hard because if it's
Speaker 1: just kind of like a friend of a friend, I
Speaker 1: actually have a confession, Oh my god, I've actually been
Speaker 1: in a situation where I know someone I am not
Speaker 1: close friends. But it's like, if I saw them out,
Speaker 1: I would say hi and have a chat with them,
Speaker 1: and I know about their life and I do know
Speaker 1: for a fact that you know their partner did cheat
Speaker 1: on them.
Speaker 2: That's so hard.
Speaker 1: But for me, I did not feel like it was
Speaker 1: my place and also all my business, do you know
Speaker 1: what I mean?
Speaker 2: Like it felt to me like it was a.
Speaker 1: Bit almost like immature to be inserting myself in someone
Speaker 1: else's business when I really do not have any ties
Speaker 1: with them, Like this is a person. If I never
Speaker 1: saw them for the rest of my life, it wouldn't matter.
Speaker 1: I'm not close with them like someone from high school
Speaker 1: kind of thing. Yeah, like more of like friend of
Speaker 1: a friend vibe. But oh okay, yeah yeah, And so
Speaker 1: that's the decision I made. But if it was a
Speaker 1: close girlfriend or even like a kind of close girlfriend,
Speaker 1: if it was a kind of close girlfriend, I would
Speaker 1: almost go to their close friend if I was friends
Speaker 1: with them and be like, hey, this is the situation,
Speaker 1: What do you think and I guarantee you that.
Speaker 2: Person's then going to go to that person? Are you
Speaker 2: then just creating gossip? Yeah, that's what I was just
Speaker 2: gonna say, Like, I think it needs to go directly
Speaker 2: to that.
Speaker 4: I would go directly to them, and I would say,
Speaker 4: Like for all my close friends, I would go to them,
Speaker 4: whether I was one hundred percent sure or not, I'd
Speaker 4: be like, oh, this is what i've heard, let's work
Speaker 4: through it.
Speaker 2: One hundred and ten percent.
Speaker 4: But if it's someone I'm kind of close with that
Speaker 4: I've had a personal relationship with at any point in time,
Speaker 4: I would never I don't think i'd go to their
Speaker 4: best friend and say it, because if I was going
Speaker 4: to go to their best friend and say it, I
Speaker 4: might as well go to them and say it, because
Speaker 4: you know their best friend's going to be like a
Speaker 4: tear told me that this person told her this.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I get what you mean, true, And I.
Speaker 4: Would just go one if and with people like that
Speaker 4: might sound a bit rude to me to say, but
Speaker 4: if they decide to cut me out, because I'm the
Speaker 4: messenger who Can'm fine with it because at least I've
Speaker 4: helped them.
Speaker 1: So if it was someone that's like not a close friend,
Speaker 1: but it's just like a friend.
Speaker 4: Would you do it if it's a friend of a friend, Yeah,
Speaker 4: definitely not Ye, not my business.
Speaker 2: That's how I felt.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because if it's someone i've met through someone at
Speaker 4: their birthday party, Yeah, thing I use the vibe.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just feel like it's too far. Yeah, not
Speaker 2: my business. Yeah. But then it's also like it's ekey,
Speaker 2: it's eky, because I would feel I would be so
Speaker 2: upset if someone did that to me. Yeah, like if
Speaker 2: I'd be like someone.
Speaker 4: You spoke to my face exactly, I didn't tell me. Yeah,
Speaker 4: maybe I wouldn't go out of my way to tell them.
Speaker 4: Oh no, See, this is what I mean.
Speaker 1: It's hard because it's like how do we even initiate
Speaker 1: that conversation?
Speaker 2: And I'd hate to do it like over the gram
Speaker 2: or something.
Speaker 4: I'd just message them and be like, hey, I've just
Speaker 4: heard something from.
Speaker 1: Actually I'm going to take my answer back, and I'm
Speaker 1: going to say if I was a hundred percent certain,
Speaker 1: like I saw it myself with my own eyes, one
Speaker 1: hundred percent, I would go to that person.
Speaker 2: Yeah, no matter what if you saw it. But if
Speaker 2: I just heard it on the grapevine. I wouldn't you.
Speaker 4: Just disregard it as a roomy I just like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 4: then i'd tell my best friend.
Speaker 1: In that. This is actually another question here, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: actually do you ever like if someone comes to you
Speaker 1: and goes, I have a secret, do not tell anyone?
Speaker 2: And this person's just whatever? Do you just like a
Speaker 2: random person? No? No, no, so like not your best friend.
Speaker 1: Well, just anyone comes to you they have a secret
Speaker 1: or whatnot. So let's just say it to me. Let's
Speaker 1: say I come to you and I have this like secret,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, do not tell anyone? Do you then
Speaker 1: go and tell either like who are you close to
Speaker 1: in your family? Your mom's do or like are you
Speaker 1: really close with your best friend? Very Do you then
Speaker 1: go and tell your mom or best friend knowing it
Speaker 1: will never get back to me and they will never
Speaker 1: say anything.
Speaker 4: It depends who it is and what it is. Usually,
Speaker 4: well just says the example me, Yeah, well.
Speaker 2: Probably not because it'd be to do with work.
Speaker 1: No, it's just something in my life, and it's like
Speaker 1: what your Mom'm gonna do?
Speaker 4: I feel like if I feel the need to get
Speaker 4: it off my chest, yes, I'd tell my mom. Yeah,
Speaker 4: my mom's are pretty my mom's a vault. Yeah, Sollen, Yeah,
Speaker 4: I'm kind of the same. If like, there's certain people
Speaker 4: who I know if I told a secret, they would
Speaker 4: never tell anyone, and so I feel safe confiding in them,
Speaker 4: and I'm that person.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I just got to tell you, and you
Speaker 2: know what.
Speaker 4: Would my best friends, I'll tell them a secret of mine.
Speaker 4: I'm like, don't tell anyone, and then their mom's message.
Speaker 2: Me about it.
Speaker 1: Love, You're like, you sneaky bitch.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, it's hilarious.
Speaker 4: But that's fine because I'm like, my mum knows all
Speaker 4: your secrets.
Speaker 2: Oh, that's really cute. You guys are sweet? All right?
Speaker 2: That was random? In conclusion, is what's your thoughts on
Speaker 2: the cheating?
Speaker 4: To be honest, I'm at the point now where I'm like,
Speaker 4: if I saw it myself, I one hundred percent would
Speaker 4: tell no matter how close or far they are. If
Speaker 4: I knew them and I saw them, I'd tell them. Yea,
Speaker 4: if I've heard it through the grapevine. Close friends absolutely
Speaker 4: would tell. If I considered that i'd tell their best friend,
Speaker 4: I'd tell them straight. But if it's someone who I
Speaker 4: don't know that well, I'd actually probably tell the person
Speaker 4: who told me. I'd give them a bit of it
Speaker 4: telling off and tell them to go tell the person
Speaker 4: themselves and be like, if you saw this, it is
Speaker 4: your responsibility to go tell this person. I'm happy to
Speaker 4: support you through this process, but stop spreading it around
Speaker 4: and go give it to the one person who deserves
Speaker 4: this information, because no one else needs to know love.
Speaker 2: Couldn't couldn't have said it better myself. Yeah done.
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