WEBVTT - Three Doting Dads feat. Aaron Finch 0:00:15.360 --> 0:00:17.720 Welcome back to Three Doting Dads. 0:00:17.840 --> 0:00:20.520 I am Mattie Jay, I'm Ash and I'm Aaron Finch. 0:00:20.840 --> 0:00:23.240 This is a podcast that's all about parenting. 0:00:22.880 --> 0:00:24.960 The good, the bad, and the relatable. 0:00:25.400 --> 0:00:28.520 And normally we always say that there's absolutely no advice 0:00:28.640 --> 0:00:29.680 to be given whatsoever. 0:00:30.360 --> 0:00:32.240 However, today it might be different. 0:00:32.800 --> 0:00:34.560 We do have our second guest. 0:00:34.760 --> 0:00:38.599 We have our second guest ever on Three Doting Dads, 0:00:38.640 --> 0:00:41.800 and we want to welcome Extra Strain one Day International 0:00:41.920 --> 0:00:45.920 n T twenty Captain Aaron Finch. Thanks for having us. 0:00:45.960 --> 0:00:51.639 I've never filmed a porno before, but neither let's get 0:00:51.640 --> 0:00:51.960 into it. 0:00:52.000 --> 0:00:55.320 Then, coming in just before, I was like, I don't 0:00:55.320 --> 0:00:57.800 know because for those who are listening, and we will 0:00:57.840 --> 0:01:00.720 have some socials up on Two Doting Dads. We're in 0:01:00.760 --> 0:01:04.520 a service department right now in Sydney's beautiful. It's a 0:01:04.560 --> 0:01:05.960 lovely apartment. 0:01:05.600 --> 0:01:07.600 And stains than I thought there would be. 0:01:08.160 --> 0:01:10.520 But we came up to reception and I've got like 0:01:10.560 --> 0:01:13.119 a bag of these ring lights. They're kind of sticking 0:01:13.120 --> 0:01:15.759 out of my Duffel bag and I didn't know if 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:18.800 I should like say to the receptionist like this is 0:01:19.480 --> 0:01:20.440 I'm not here for long? 0:01:22.800 --> 0:01:27.319 Just the one hour. This isn't for only fans, I swear. 0:01:28.120 --> 0:01:29.840 I was like, maybe I won't say anything, and then 0:01:29.880 --> 0:01:31.640 I tried to go straight from the car park up 0:01:31.959 --> 0:01:35.840 We've got So I should preface this chat and say 0:01:35.840 --> 0:01:38.360 that Ash and I we don't know what we're doing. 0:01:38.720 --> 0:01:42.000 You've pretty much stepped into assessed nut playing with two door. 0:01:42.200 --> 0:01:46.520 It's a great perfect that's exactly how we podcast is 0:01:46.640 --> 0:01:50.760 exactly how parent which somehow work. But we nearly didn't 0:01:50.760 --> 0:01:55.080 make it because I put into the wrong like into 0:01:55.080 --> 0:01:58.400 the GPS, the wrong hotel can happen, and we stead 0:01:58.400 --> 0:02:00.360 a going to North Sydney. We went to North Rye 0:02:00.920 --> 0:02:03.080 and I got out first and I was like, just here, 0:02:03.240 --> 0:02:05.840 check in under Matthew Johnson. And then I was like 0:02:05.880 --> 0:02:08.600 they need you, they need your ID. And then he 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:10.679 goes comes back to me, he said, I don't think 0:02:10.720 --> 0:02:12.840 we're in the right players. Have I booked the wrong thing? 0:02:12.840 --> 0:02:15.079 Have you brought us to the wrong players? And I 0:02:15.160 --> 0:02:16.600 screwed the perch. But we made it. 0:02:16.800 --> 0:02:19.200 The fact that we're sitting here, we're here and we've 0:02:19.200 --> 0:02:19.839 got to win. 0:02:21.360 --> 0:02:23.680 It's a miracle. It is, it's an absolute miracle. 0:02:23.680 --> 0:02:26.120 But Vinci, I want to start let's go back to 0:02:26.160 --> 0:02:29.359 when you were a youngster. Right, I feel like I'm 0:02:29.360 --> 0:02:30.880 going to say that I think you were someone who 0:02:30.960 --> 0:02:32.640 was very well behaved and disciplined. 0:02:33.360 --> 0:02:34.400 Would that be correct? 0:02:34.720 --> 0:02:34.960 Well? 0:02:35.000 --> 0:02:38.240 I was the third of four children, so I was 0:02:38.320 --> 0:02:40.280 left to my own devices. Really, I was parented by 0:02:40.320 --> 0:02:43.679 my brothers. 0:02:44.280 --> 0:02:44.680 It is. 0:02:44.760 --> 0:02:49.120 One was very responsible, very intellectual, not into sport. My 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:55.200 other brother not as intellectual. Let's go a little bit early. 0:02:55.480 --> 0:02:56.320 We won't say name. 0:02:56.400 --> 0:02:59.480 Lets school attle bit early and yeah, we I just 0:02:59.480 --> 0:03:01.200 played sport. That was all I wanted to do. I 0:03:01.240 --> 0:03:04.160 hated school. I did have great parents. Sorry, I do 0:03:04.240 --> 0:03:08.840 have they're still growing up. My parents were fantastic. They 0:03:08.960 --> 0:03:11.520 gave us everything that we needed. There wasn't a huge 0:03:11.520 --> 0:03:15.080 amount of affection in our family, but I think growing 0:03:15.120 --> 0:03:17.000 up in the country, when you're when you're out playing 0:03:17.040 --> 0:03:18.560 sport and everything, what else do you need? 0:03:18.639 --> 0:03:21.280 Yeah, they're likes al right. He's just getting on with it, 0:03:21.360 --> 0:03:24.920 you know, just hitting hundreds left fronts where you know, 0:03:25.000 --> 0:03:27.920 this podcast is very much about, you know, how we 0:03:28.080 --> 0:03:30.120 dad and the silly shit that we do and we 0:03:30.160 --> 0:03:33.200 talk about. Do you see a lot of with Essie 0:03:33.240 --> 0:03:35.240 as you referred to her, who she's coming up to 0:03:35.440 --> 0:03:37.360 should be two in September. YEP, is that correct? So 0:03:37.400 --> 0:03:39.640 you're only a couple of months off my youngest Macy. 0:03:39.760 --> 0:03:42.400 So there's a lot of similarities at that time. And 0:03:42.600 --> 0:03:44.520 I always look at Macy and some of the silly 0:03:44.520 --> 0:03:47.160 things she does. She's like, I always describe her as 0:03:47.560 --> 0:03:50.360 a drunk person looking for their car, because every time 0:03:50.400 --> 0:03:52.840 she's walking around she kind of looks like you're in 0:03:52.880 --> 0:03:54.720 a car park looking to where she parked a car. 0:03:54.840 --> 0:03:58.080 I remember, yeah, I can't remember. And there's so many 0:03:58.080 --> 0:03:59.960 things I see her do. Not the drunk bit, man, 0:04:00.520 --> 0:04:02.960 but there's so many things that I see her. I'm like, fuck, 0:04:03.160 --> 0:04:05.400 that reminds me so much of me and my childhood. 0:04:05.440 --> 0:04:08.240 Is there so much that you see inness as you do? 0:04:08.280 --> 0:04:11.400 You think she's a lot more like her mum, which 0:04:11.440 --> 0:04:16.400 is a good thing. Every dad says that, like when you. 0:04:16.360 --> 0:04:18.520 Find out that you're pregnant, you go through the excited 0:04:18.560 --> 0:04:21.120 stage and then you think for a minute, you're like, oh, no, 0:04:21.800 --> 0:04:23.719 are thinking to be She turns out like me, We're 0:04:23.720 --> 0:04:27.320 in real trouble. She's quite an emotional little girl. She's beautiful, 0:04:27.320 --> 0:04:29.680 she's very intelligent, and she knows what she wants. She's 0:04:30.000 --> 0:04:32.480 just starting to get into the tantrum stage where. 0:04:32.400 --> 0:04:33.280 They're not too bad. 0:04:33.320 --> 0:04:35.719 But if you offer something that she doesn't want that's 0:04:35.760 --> 0:04:37.599 not good enough, you should already. 0:04:37.320 --> 0:04:40.320 Know it should be helepathic. I love how like at 0:04:40.360 --> 0:04:43.120 that age and Matt's sort of over the little hurdle 0:04:43.160 --> 0:04:45.839 now where Lola is over to and into the terrible 0:04:45.839 --> 0:04:48.000 twos and you're just about to hit it too. But 0:04:48.200 --> 0:04:50.719 they're at the age where s he is, and like 0:04:50.800 --> 0:04:54.440 Macy is, they're really like over exaggerate, like a no, 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:57.960 They're like, if you've give them something that I want. 0:04:58.120 --> 0:05:01.520 Mace's like that we don't have the headshat yet. We 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:05.920 get that. No, ye, no, yeah, yeah, it feels like 0:05:06.120 --> 0:05:09.560 es there's in the room right now, really good. Do 0:05:09.560 --> 0:05:12.600 you want to watch the Wiggles? No? Are you sure? Wiggles? 0:05:14.520 --> 0:05:16.599 That means yes, we're right. And then you put it 0:05:16.640 --> 0:05:19.000 on and it'll come on to a song, be like, no, 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:21.920 skip to the next one, No, I want Rebella, And 0:05:22.080 --> 0:05:23.960 then you go back to the start and it's, oh, 0:05:24.080 --> 0:05:25.680 this is the best song I've ever heard in my life, 0:05:25.680 --> 0:05:27.840 and everything's restored in the world together. 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:32.039 Even that tiny level of communication is just so welcome 0:05:32.120 --> 0:05:34.720 when you've come from like two years of just like 0:05:34.800 --> 0:05:36.919 what do you want? When they're unhappy, you're kind of 0:05:36.960 --> 0:05:39.719 going through this list of like is it food? Do 0:05:39.760 --> 0:05:42.080 you want like a toy? Is there something behind me 0:05:42.120 --> 0:05:43.839 that I can't see? So when you can get any 0:05:43.880 --> 0:05:46.799 direction verbally from the kids, it's amazing. 0:05:47.160 --> 0:05:49.760 Yeah, especially when they like point and it's like there 0:05:49.920 --> 0:05:51.640 could be a number of objects in that area and 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:54.080 they're like, you're sitting there, you're picking up different things, 0:05:54.120 --> 0:05:58.440 and you're like this, no, picking up there, No, and 0:05:58.480 --> 0:06:01.040 then you pick up the right thing. You're like, yeah, 0:06:01.040 --> 0:06:02.920 that's right. But that caused the tantrum. 0:06:02.920 --> 0:06:05.320 The fact that you didn't know what it was so funny, 0:06:05.880 --> 0:06:09.760 and I'm very relaxed, I would say in my parenting style. 0:06:09.839 --> 0:06:12.000 My wife's probably the opposite. She spent a lot more 0:06:12.040 --> 0:06:14.680 time with her. I've traveled quite a bit alone while 0:06:15.120 --> 0:06:18.360 she's in the last two years, so she knows what 0:06:18.400 --> 0:06:20.840 she wants a lot quicker than what I do. But 0:06:21.120 --> 0:06:23.920 I've got a great ability to tune out any screams 0:06:24.000 --> 0:06:24.400 or crying. 0:06:24.440 --> 0:06:26.880 Oh, that's amazing, such an advantage. 0:06:27.000 --> 0:06:29.719 I think not to stereotype he but I think it's 0:06:29.839 --> 0:06:34.280 just a dad think, yeah, I can. I sleep through absolutely, 0:06:34.839 --> 0:06:36.919 And I say to Laura, my wife, I'm like, just 0:06:37.000 --> 0:06:39.840 wake wake me up, because it doesn't pin drops and 0:06:39.920 --> 0:06:42.840 Laura's up, Whereas there could be a tank smashing through 0:06:42.880 --> 0:06:44.080 the front door and I'd still be. 0:06:44.400 --> 0:06:47.160 See I'm the opposite. I'm like, I'll wake up like 0:06:47.320 --> 0:06:52.080 it's like a like Radar from mash coming April is 0:06:52.080 --> 0:06:53.760 the same. But like you know how you always make 0:06:53.760 --> 0:06:54.880 fun of me because I got to bet at like 0:06:54.960 --> 0:06:58.559 seven thirty. That's why. Because I'm not like you, he'll 0:06:58.920 --> 0:06:59.600 freight train you. 0:06:59.640 --> 0:07:02.720 Wait, oh mate, I'll sleep with the best of them. Sorry, 0:07:02.760 --> 0:07:04.480 I sleep like the best of them. 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:08.840 Sorry. But I always find that I wake up on 0:07:08.880 --> 0:07:11.760 the kid's floor without knowing how I got there, because 0:07:11.760 --> 0:07:15.160 I would just be like already and just it's just 0:07:15.240 --> 0:07:17.800 become this thing funny. I wake up in the spare 0:07:17.840 --> 0:07:21.920 bed after a few years. Well yeah, we don't have 0:07:21.920 --> 0:07:23.680 a spare bed, just the floor and the kids. 0:07:24.520 --> 0:07:24.840 Finci. 0:07:24.920 --> 0:07:27.680 One question that we get a lot from people who 0:07:27.720 --> 0:07:31.239 are not yet with kids but thinking about having kids 0:07:31.320 --> 0:07:34.280 is when did you know that you were ready to 0:07:34.400 --> 0:07:35.720 start a family. 0:07:35.720 --> 0:07:37.040 For you and your wife? 0:07:37.440 --> 0:07:39.880 How did that conversation come about and was it something 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:41.800 that you were leading or was it from amy. 0:07:42.760 --> 0:07:43.600 Very good question. 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:47.320 I don't think we were ready, even though no one 0:07:47.400 --> 0:07:47.960 is that. 0:07:47.800 --> 0:07:48.920 No one, no one is ready. 0:07:49.360 --> 0:07:52.040 And we also weren't convinced that we're going to have 0:07:52.160 --> 0:07:55.880 children like we were quite selfishly I think at times. Well, no, 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:58.040 it lost pretty good at the moment. Anything you want 0:07:58.080 --> 0:07:58.160 to do. 0:07:58.360 --> 0:07:59.800 You look back and like, you know what, it was 0:08:00.000 --> 0:08:00.400 really good. 0:08:01.440 --> 0:08:03.320 That's the best thing every and I would never change it. 0:08:03.720 --> 0:08:05.760 But we were like, if it happens, it happened. If 0:08:05.760 --> 0:08:08.600 it doesn't, we're both okay with that life. I guess, 0:08:08.680 --> 0:08:13.600 being able to just drop anything and go somewhere and yeah, 0:08:13.880 --> 0:08:15.560 but you take it for granted, don't you. And then 0:08:15.840 --> 0:08:18.840 but it wasn't until I found out New Year's Day. 0:08:18.760 --> 0:08:20.760 So that would have been that's pretty cool. Thousand. 0:08:20.920 --> 0:08:24.880 Well you'd think so, right, you're getting home, so we're 0:08:24.880 --> 0:08:26.640 in the we're playing Big Bash at the time, and 0:08:26.680 --> 0:08:29.640 we're in the Bubby Yeah. Yeah, and we're in Queensland 0:08:29.680 --> 0:08:31.400 on the Gold Coast and you could only go to 0:08:31.480 --> 0:08:32.000 this area. 0:08:32.040 --> 0:08:34.920 In that area, you couldn't go anywhere else. So was 0:08:35.240 --> 0:08:37.719 your wife in the she was with us. Yeah, that's 0:08:37.720 --> 0:08:39.360 pretty sure. Yeah, so that was cool. 0:08:39.400 --> 0:08:43.280 And a couple of days in we were bickering quite 0:08:43.320 --> 0:08:45.679 a bit and she was like, this is ship. I'm 0:08:45.720 --> 0:08:47.960 going home, not knowing that she's pregnant at the time. 0:08:48.160 --> 0:08:50.360 And I think it was New Year's Day or Newyear's Eve. 0:08:50.440 --> 0:08:52.160 I think Newyear's Day. I got a phone call and 0:08:52.160 --> 0:08:55.200 she goes, oh, I have you checked your messages? Put 0:08:55.200 --> 0:08:57.320 the phone on loud and have a look. And then 0:08:57.360 --> 0:09:00.920 we're like, right, well that explains a lot. But your 0:09:00.960 --> 0:09:03.000 emotions are up and down, not knowing what was happening. 0:09:03.200 --> 0:09:04.760 But it was so cool up until then. 0:09:04.840 --> 0:09:06.920 Were you trying or were you kind of. 0:09:06.920 --> 0:09:08.880 Just if it happens, if it happens to happen. No, 0:09:08.960 --> 0:09:13.600 we weren't actively trying. We were practicing, weren't practicing, weren't practicing, 0:09:13.600 --> 0:09:16.360 but we weren't careful anything like that. So that's the 0:09:16.400 --> 0:09:18.320 greatest thing ever when you find out the first time. 0:09:18.360 --> 0:09:21.680 And then obviously it's so nerve wracking the steps that 0:09:21.720 --> 0:09:24.880 you take, like with all the tests and skins and stuff, 0:09:24.880 --> 0:09:28.439 and you're just praying and yeah, and I was away 0:09:28.520 --> 0:09:31.360 for a few of them, so you're doing them almost secondhand. 0:09:31.480 --> 0:09:34.959 Like passing on Amy's passing on information that they've told her. 0:09:35.040 --> 0:09:38.199 And yeah, it's quite tough at times, isn't it. That 0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:41.920 everything's going well, and then you're like, right, scan shit 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:44.000 yourself a little bit when you go okay, Well, there's 0:09:44.000 --> 0:09:46.280 these big scans and these big tests that they do 0:09:46.600 --> 0:09:49.920 and there's that time between you know, you find out 0:09:50.080 --> 0:09:53.240 and when a little bit safer through the journey. And 0:09:53.280 --> 0:09:55.720 there were so many there is so many times we 0:09:55.760 --> 0:09:58.080 were like shit. And I suppose it leads us into 0:09:58.240 --> 0:10:01.600 the dynamic with you because both of us we don't 0:10:01.640 --> 0:10:03.439 travel the world to play or work. 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:05.920 Yeah, I think cricket would be a sport where you guys, 0:10:06.360 --> 0:10:09.559 of all athletes would travel the most. Yeah, I reckon, 0:10:10.600 --> 0:10:12.560 how many months are you guys away at Bullpark? 0:10:12.679 --> 0:10:16.199 Maybe ten months? Wow, it's crazy. And that's what we're 0:10:16.200 --> 0:10:18.400 talking about on the way here, because I mean, you're 0:10:18.400 --> 0:10:21.079 about to do a stint in July with San Francisco 0:10:21.160 --> 0:10:24.480 in then Major League cricket yep. And he was like, what, Like, 0:10:24.840 --> 0:10:28.240 it's so crazy how much you guys actually travel. And 0:10:28.960 --> 0:10:31.440 I know that I had to be there for all 0:10:31.480 --> 0:10:33.280 these tests, had to be there for all of the 0:10:33.400 --> 0:10:35.480 lead up the build up, the nine months build up, 0:10:35.480 --> 0:10:37.760 and then of course like when it's going to happen, 0:10:37.840 --> 0:10:40.160 and for you guys, like you're away for ten months 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:42.800 and you know, okay, well the judate is hereabout and 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:45.760 if they come early or come late, either you're going 0:10:45.760 --> 0:10:47.480 to miss some of your career or you're going to 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:50.319 miss the birth of your child. Yeah, it's quite difficult. 0:10:50.760 --> 0:10:53.880 And during COVID especially was even more challenging because in 0:10:53.920 --> 0:10:58.120 the past, guys, we're booked in for a caesar or 0:10:58.120 --> 0:11:00.760 were induced on this day, so I can leave the 0:11:00.760 --> 0:11:03.880 tour up here, come home and then rejoin if everything 0:11:03.880 --> 0:11:06.959 goes well. But then with two weeks quarantine, you're like, no, no, 0:11:07.160 --> 0:11:09.600 everything has to be planned out. So I was really 0:11:09.679 --> 0:11:12.760 lucky in being able to be home for it. But 0:11:12.800 --> 0:11:15.240 then a month later I was in. Maybe three weeks 0:11:15.320 --> 0:11:18.520 later we had the World Cup in Abu Dhabi and Dubai. 0:11:18.880 --> 0:11:22.960 So thenngratulations on the win. But you pack your bags 0:11:22.960 --> 0:11:25.040 and you're off again. Yeah, yeah, exactly right, and then 0:11:25.200 --> 0:11:27.040 Amy's at home like a new baby. 0:11:27.080 --> 0:11:30.199 I don't know what. So after that point that everything 0:11:30.320 --> 0:11:32.319 is okay, You've got to pack your bags and going 0:11:32.320 --> 0:11:34.599 with a World Cup for us, thank you. What is 0:11:34.640 --> 0:11:37.199 it like for her, like, what's the support network there? 0:11:37.480 --> 0:11:40.200 Well, her mum lived really close, so that was handy. 0:11:40.240 --> 0:11:42.360 So she would always be over at our place or 0:11:42.400 --> 0:11:44.160 staying over when I was away, and even when I 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:46.960 was there because I'm not an overly emotional person at all, 0:11:47.240 --> 0:11:49.600 but within the first four days, I'd had two meltdowns. 0:11:49.720 --> 0:11:51.840 Wow, so one in the hospital a couple of menty 0:11:51.920 --> 0:11:54.960 bees from I was unbelievable. 0:11:55.200 --> 0:11:58.200 What happened in the hospital first night, get back up 0:11:58.240 --> 0:12:01.840 to the birthing room and they just there's your baby, 0:12:02.400 --> 0:12:05.120 good life, good luck. And then then I said I 0:12:05.120 --> 0:12:07.800 will be back in ten minutes, and Esta's screaming and 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:09.920 we're like, no one's coming for like an hour. So 0:12:10.200 --> 0:12:12.480 because there was a there was an emergency there, but 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:13.960 we're like, geez, we don't know what to do. So 0:12:14.000 --> 0:12:16.720 that was like a little bit of an eye opener. 0:12:16.800 --> 0:12:18.240 And then the first night that we got home, she 0:12:18.280 --> 0:12:21.960 just wouldn't stop crying and will bottle feeding. So the 0:12:21.960 --> 0:12:26.160 formula to calculate how much you need to feed was 0:12:26.200 --> 0:12:28.480 like an older nurse gave it to us, and that 0:12:28.559 --> 0:12:30.360 was off a scale from nineteen eighty six. 0:12:31.520 --> 0:12:36.520 She was just hungry, just like Malmourish. 0:12:36.559 --> 0:12:41.000 I certainly wasn't. I was eighty six. Yeah, that was difficult, 0:12:41.040 --> 0:12:43.400 no doubt to pack up and go. But Amy her 0:12:43.440 --> 0:12:46.840 mum has been amazing for us. And then when we 0:12:46.920 --> 0:12:49.720 decided to move down to Geelong, so we're in Essenon. 0:12:50.080 --> 0:12:51.880 We moved down to Geelong, which is an hour away 0:12:52.240 --> 0:12:53.880 and m'm been a bit further away and my parents 0:12:53.960 --> 0:12:57.199 been another hour on. That had its challenges as well, 0:12:57.240 --> 0:12:58.400 just we're traveling a bit. 0:12:58.520 --> 0:13:01.040 Do you have to manage those conversation then, you know, 0:13:01.040 --> 0:13:02.760 because I guess you know what your schedule is going 0:13:02.800 --> 0:13:04.120 to look like. So do you have to say, hey, 0:13:04.160 --> 0:13:06.800 I'm going to be gone for this block and this block? Yeah, 0:13:06.800 --> 0:13:09.680 this block, because you don't want to surprise your partner 0:13:09.720 --> 0:13:11.720 with like, oh did I not mention that I've got 0:13:11.720 --> 0:13:12.640 the World Cup coming up? 0:13:13.280 --> 0:13:13.960 Yeah? You do. 0:13:14.080 --> 0:13:16.000 But there's always things that do come up. And that's 0:13:16.000 --> 0:13:19.319 when it's like a difficult conversation because when you're away 0:13:19.360 --> 0:13:23.400 for so much, I feel really bad about leaving again, 0:13:23.720 --> 0:13:27.120 especially if it's on short notice, because that's quite unfair 0:13:27.160 --> 0:13:29.880 at times because it's all for me. You can justify 0:13:29.880 --> 0:13:31.679 it however you want. At times and you say, well, 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:34.360 I'm doing this to set our family up and stuff 0:13:34.440 --> 0:13:37.400 like that, but then reality is she's with a baby. 0:13:37.960 --> 0:13:39.920 By herself for five weeks. 0:13:39.960 --> 0:13:42.120 I was just in India commentating for five and a 0:13:42.120 --> 0:13:44.760 half weeks, and that was the most difficult that it's 0:13:44.800 --> 0:13:48.240 been because Esther's on face time and then she realizes. 0:13:47.720 --> 0:13:48.960 That she's recognizing you. 0:13:49.120 --> 0:13:51.760 Yeah, you're not coming home, so then she doesn't want 0:13:51.800 --> 0:13:54.280 to talk to you on FaceTime and she's emotional, she's 0:13:54.320 --> 0:13:57.400 getting teeth and she's sick, and yeah, it's difficult, and 0:13:57.559 --> 0:14:00.280 my wife is amazing, But when you're away, you sort 0:14:00.320 --> 0:14:01.480 of take it for granted a bit too. 0:14:01.880 --> 0:14:05.120 Yeah, yeah, for sure, I can't imagine that You're saying 0:14:05.200 --> 0:14:07.640 to Amy, like, all right, babe, so I'm just about 0:14:07.640 --> 0:14:09.800 to go to India, and then after India, I'm after 0:14:09.840 --> 0:14:10.559 a stage and do. 0:14:10.640 --> 0:14:12.560 Like they're coming to the States, which would be cool. 0:14:12.760 --> 0:14:14.560 That yeah, funny story. 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:17.439 Right when I was playing in the IPL, they came 0:14:17.480 --> 0:14:20.440 to India, they had to do three days quarantine to 0:14:20.440 --> 0:14:23.000 get into the IPL bubble and then we'll confined to 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:25.400 the hotel. So it was all, it was all pretty good. 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:27.720 It still was I think seven months so she's just 0:14:27.760 --> 0:14:30.400 crawling around and people in India love kids, so everyone 0:14:30.400 --> 0:14:32.440 wants to hold her and stuff. Anyway, on the flight 0:14:32.480 --> 0:14:35.240 back they got to Singapore, I said, hell was a 0:14:35.280 --> 0:14:37.960 flight she has Yeah, flight was okay, Yes, to slept, 0:14:38.160 --> 0:14:41.320 But then she sent me a photo as they landed, 0:14:41.360 --> 0:14:44.600 and she had a tight turnaround as she landed. Little 0:14:44.600 --> 0:14:47.560 did we know at the time she had salmonella. Esther 0:14:47.680 --> 0:14:51.600 had salmonella and they both got COVID. It was almost 0:14:51.640 --> 0:14:59.320 like as a plane touchdown, Esther has shit everywhere all up. 0:15:00.040 --> 0:15:01.680 But then she's still got to get the carrier on 0:15:02.360 --> 0:15:04.960 to carry Amy so she can take the bags and 0:15:05.000 --> 0:15:07.480 then try and rush to the lounge have a shower. 0:15:08.800 --> 0:15:12.680 She's like, I don't know what to do baby. 0:15:12.640 --> 0:15:17.560 Yes, yeah, so there are the times when you're like, 0:15:17.760 --> 0:15:18.680 welcome to parenthood. 0:15:19.480 --> 0:15:23.080 The imagine poor Amy walking through the airport, Singapore airport 0:15:23.280 --> 0:15:26.160 with a baby covered in ship strapped to her chest, 0:15:26.200 --> 0:15:27.640 trying to find the nearest shower. 0:15:28.200 --> 0:15:29.920 Yeah, where is that in the baby manual? 0:15:30.400 --> 0:15:32.880 It's not that's not that's and but we didn't know 0:15:32.920 --> 0:15:34.600 that she was sick really at the time. 0:15:34.680 --> 0:15:38.120 And then just hits them, doesn't that Yeah. 0:15:37.400 --> 0:15:39.280 That stuff doesn't bother me one bit to be like 0:15:39.400 --> 0:15:40.720 nappies and ship and stuff. 0:15:40.840 --> 0:15:43.240 Yeah, so like that was like something I wanted to 0:15:43.280 --> 0:15:46.800 ask you too, because for you, like you get home, 0:15:47.360 --> 0:15:49.560 so you've been a long stint, you get home, does 0:15:49.600 --> 0:15:54.000 Amy just go his years and hand her over up? Now, mate, 0:15:54.920 --> 0:15:56.600 the next ten shits are on you. 0:15:56.640 --> 0:16:00.160 No, not really, No, it's it's more I don't want 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:03.200 to do anything while I'm at home because I think 0:16:03.240 --> 0:16:07.080 that's then really unfair on Amy as well, because she's 0:16:07.160 --> 0:16:09.240 done it all by herself for a while. So then 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:11.520 I come home and I'm like, well, I haven't seen 0:16:11.520 --> 0:16:12.640 the boys for all. I'm just going to go to 0:16:12.640 --> 0:16:16.080 the pub or he's going to go play golf. Sounds like, Matt, 0:16:16.320 --> 0:16:18.760 I don't even bother with that stuff anymore. If esther's 0:16:18.760 --> 0:16:21.280 at daycare or something, there are days to either be 0:16:21.560 --> 0:16:24.600 just together or yeah, be able to do something. So's 0:16:24.880 --> 0:16:27.800 it has its challenges, but it's also great when you 0:16:27.880 --> 0:16:31.560 hear baby shitting himself and where to. 0:16:31.440 --> 0:16:32.720 Be seen smell. 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:36.200 How do you find having a baby's impacted you as 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:36.720 an athlete? 0:16:36.720 --> 0:16:37.280 Because I know. 0:16:37.920 --> 0:16:40.080 You're not an athlete, Matt. You do a run here 0:16:40.120 --> 0:16:41.920 and there, you're not an athlete sign. 0:16:43.520 --> 0:16:43.720 You know. 0:16:43.960 --> 0:16:46.240 I think about when I'm working and if you have 0:16:46.280 --> 0:16:48.560 a bad night's sleep and you crap the next day, 0:16:49.320 --> 0:16:52.120 then I think for an elite athlete, having a child 0:16:52.200 --> 0:16:54.520 could be such a handicap. Like it's almost like, if 0:16:54.560 --> 0:16:56.160 you've got a kid, you should start with like six 0:16:56.280 --> 0:16:56.840 runs on the board. 0:16:56.880 --> 0:16:58.560 I you've got two kids, start with twelve runs on 0:16:58.600 --> 0:17:00.320 the board. Did you find it? 0:17:00.600 --> 0:17:03.880 Davey warned to how many kids? That guy he's got 0:17:03.880 --> 0:17:06.240 three girls. Though, if you've got three girls, you should 0:17:06.359 --> 0:17:10.119 start on fifty. I give him my leg out. I 0:17:10.119 --> 0:17:11.560 don't think Vierat would really like it. 0:17:12.280 --> 0:17:14.880 Did you find that it had any impact on how 0:17:14.920 --> 0:17:15.840 you were as an athlete? 0:17:16.840 --> 0:17:17.040 No? 0:17:17.400 --> 0:17:19.840 I was lucky and unlucky. I guess. I had surgery 0:17:19.840 --> 0:17:22.679 on my knee just before Esther was born, so then 0:17:22.720 --> 0:17:25.000 I was doing rehab and stuff like that. But we're 0:17:25.000 --> 0:17:27.360 living in Melbourne, so I didn't have to travel far 0:17:28.240 --> 0:17:31.159 to do that. And then since we've moved to Geelong, 0:17:31.200 --> 0:17:34.440 which was against Amy's wishes a little bit. 0:17:34.480 --> 0:17:36.000 I was actually in I. 0:17:35.960 --> 0:17:40.000 Was in Pakistan and got a call and she said, 0:17:40.080 --> 0:17:40.760 I found. 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:44.880 A place in Geelong. Right, it's a really nice place. 0:17:44.680 --> 0:17:47.439 And yeah, and we bought it while I was on 0:17:47.480 --> 0:17:49.879 a flight from Karachi to Dubai. 0:17:50.080 --> 0:17:50.639 Crazy. 0:17:50.880 --> 0:17:54.040 But when you move away from your family, especially her mum, 0:17:54.080 --> 0:17:55.720 who she's very close with her mum, so that was 0:17:55.800 --> 0:17:59.720 difficult because then you lose your immediate support network and. 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:00.679 You've got a rebuild that. 0:18:00.800 --> 0:18:03.919 And when I'm away so much, it's difficult on her 0:18:03.960 --> 0:18:06.879 note doubt, And I've always not drifted, but you just 0:18:07.040 --> 0:18:09.000 someone tells you where to be, someone books your flight, 0:18:09.119 --> 0:18:12.439