WEBVTT - Ask uncut - Put a Single Ring On It 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.800 Lifeun Cut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose lands 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:06.560 were never seated. We pay our respects to their elders 0:00:06.559 --> 0:00:07.600 past and present. 0:00:07.600 --> 0:00:11.399 Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:24.239 recorded on de rug Wallamuta Land. Hi guys, and welcome 0:00:24.280 --> 0:00:26.239 back to another episode of Life on Cut. 0:00:26.280 --> 0:00:29.360 I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and this is ask Gun Cut 0:00:29.360 --> 0:00:32.440 where we answer you. Do you dark? And you're burning questions? 0:00:32.600 --> 0:00:35.680 What's going on this Thursday? I woke up in a 0:00:35.720 --> 0:00:37.880 real flurry this morning. 0:00:38.800 --> 0:00:40.360 Mcflurry. You work up with a mcfluurry. 0:00:40.560 --> 0:00:42.360 What does that mean? Waking up with desserts in your bed? 0:00:42.479 --> 0:00:44.479 Yeah? Do you know what this is? I'm going to 0:00:44.520 --> 0:00:46.920 come straight out of the bat here with the best 0:00:46.960 --> 0:00:49.480 straight out of the gate, the bat, the gate, whatever 0:00:49.479 --> 0:00:52.159 you want to come out of. I'm going to go 0:00:52.200 --> 0:00:54.240 straight out of the gate. You know what the best 0:00:54.320 --> 0:00:55.120 mcflurry is? 0:00:55.520 --> 0:00:56.560 Wow, that took a detail. 0:00:56.680 --> 0:01:02.440 Yeah, in existence, the best mcflow is everything with caramel sauce. 0:01:02.520 --> 0:01:04.640 Like if you order that, you'll never be the same again. 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:06.479 Okay, so that's not the mcflurry. 0:01:06.480 --> 0:01:08.560 Then you're just saying that the best topping is caramel 0:01:08.560 --> 0:01:12.759 sauce topping. No, you order, this is your order. I'll 0:01:12.760 --> 0:01:15.280 walk you through it if you guys need Hey, how 0:01:15.319 --> 0:01:17.880 are you I'm just gonna get a mcfluury please with 0:01:18.080 --> 0:01:21.280 everything and caramel sauce. That's what you order. You order 0:01:21.400 --> 0:01:23.640 every topping in one and then you put the caramel 0:01:23.640 --> 0:01:24.240 sauce on the top. 0:01:24.360 --> 0:01:26.000 What was the thing that compelled you when you walked 0:01:26.000 --> 0:01:28.640 into McDonald's to place that order? It's probably break You 0:01:28.720 --> 0:01:31.160 were like, I want every single thing. Chuck ash Brown 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:32.080 in there as well. Please? 0:01:32.160 --> 0:01:34.280 Do you know what I remember the first time we 0:01:34.319 --> 0:01:36.520 are taking such a detoy. This is so funny. I 0:01:36.560 --> 0:01:41.240 remember the first time I ordered that. I was seventeen, no, 0:01:41.360 --> 0:01:43.400 and I had just got my peas. Now, you know, 0:01:43.440 --> 0:01:45.440 when you just get your license, all you want to 0:01:45.440 --> 0:01:46.959 do is drive your friends around and you go through 0:01:47.040 --> 0:01:49.560 McDonald's drive through. I feel like it's a rite of passage, right, 0:01:49.600 --> 0:01:52.600 McDonald's drive through when you get your license is a 0:01:52.680 --> 0:01:55.000 rite of passage. Now, I remember going through the drive through. 0:01:55.080 --> 0:01:58.120 My mum had this car called a Nissen Exa and 0:01:58.200 --> 0:02:01.320 it was like it was a convertible, like not a 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:03.400 fancy one, but it was not the roof came off 0:02:03.400 --> 0:02:05.360 and it was bright regularly because it was old. 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:06.920 And it fell off one day. Ye not because it 0:02:06.920 --> 0:02:07.400 was supposed to. 0:02:07.520 --> 0:02:08.640 It was just one of those ones that like you 0:02:08.639 --> 0:02:10.480 pressed the button and it flaps back and whatever that 0:02:10.680 --> 0:02:13.280 is fans Actually not it wasn't you actually physically pulled 0:02:13.280 --> 0:02:13.480 it off. 0:02:13.520 --> 0:02:13.640 Yea. 0:02:13.680 --> 0:02:15.799 Though the pop tops is a pop top and then 0:02:16.040 --> 0:02:17.480 have the range. I had to pull up aside road 0:02:17.480 --> 0:02:19.680 and put the pop top back off, and it was 0:02:19.760 --> 0:02:22.440 bright red. Anyway, I just got my license and I 0:02:22.480 --> 0:02:25.679 remember going through Maca's drive through and ordered my mcflurry 0:02:25.680 --> 0:02:27.760 thinking I was so cool. My friend was in there 0:02:27.800 --> 0:02:30.600 like we were just killing it. And then I couldn't leave. 0:02:30.720 --> 0:02:33.600 I stalled like five times if at the McDonald's drive 0:02:33.600 --> 0:02:35.000 through window. You know when you just keep stalling, the 0:02:35.080 --> 0:02:37.200 ladies in hysterics, and I've never been more mortified in 0:02:37.200 --> 0:02:39.240 my life. Finally turned the car back on and did 0:02:39.240 --> 0:02:42.400 a burnout out of McDonald's and that was my experience 0:02:42.480 --> 0:02:43.120 for my first month. 0:02:43.280 --> 0:02:45.200 This has turned into a core memory for you. You've 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:48.240 held you so long and I've never heard that story before. 0:02:48.280 --> 0:02:50.880 I'm traumatized. But anyway, that was Anyway. 0:02:50.560 --> 0:02:52.120 Thank you for sharing your mcflourish. 0:02:52.160 --> 0:02:55.120 Okay, so you would, so you woke up in a mcflurry. 0:02:57.280 --> 0:02:58.400 We are long gone past that. 0:02:58.600 --> 0:03:01.200 I woke up this morning to a guy coming, or 0:03:01.200 --> 0:03:03.360 as actually two men, two men coming. 0:03:03.400 --> 0:03:04.600 That wast Matt. 0:03:04.600 --> 0:03:05.560 You won't come to Matt coming. 0:03:05.960 --> 0:03:08.880 No, two guys who rocked at my house to fix 0:03:08.919 --> 0:03:11.240 our air conditioning, which is being broken all through summer. 0:03:11.520 --> 0:03:13.919 So glad that they arrived now that it's fucking autumn. 0:03:14.000 --> 0:03:16.120 Might I just add, you know when they say that 0:03:16.160 --> 0:03:18.480 they give you a window, They're like, I'll arrive between 0:03:18.919 --> 0:03:21.280 six am and four in the afternoon. 0:03:21.320 --> 0:03:23.320 It's never going to be the six am one. It's 0:03:23.320 --> 0:03:25.160 never going to be right on the dot. You never 0:03:25.200 --> 0:03:27.280 first cab off the rain. So I hear the doorbell go, 0:03:27.639 --> 0:03:31.840 and I'm nude, and I was like what anyway, I 0:03:31.840 --> 0:03:34.359 shucked a towel on, thinking it was just someone dropping off. 0:03:34.360 --> 0:03:36.800 I don't know, I don't know what I I just. 0:03:36.800 --> 0:03:39.240 Thought maybe it was a postman or I don't know, 0:03:39.360 --> 0:03:42.080 but I threw a towel on. Matt had to like 0:03:42.120 --> 0:03:44.400 pick Marley up and put her back in her bedroom. Anyway, 0:03:44.440 --> 0:03:46.160 open the door and then there's these two men there 0:03:46.200 --> 0:03:48.640 coming to do the two men coming, and they were 0:03:48.640 --> 0:03:50.800 coming to do the air con and I was like fuck. 0:03:50.880 --> 0:03:53.320 Anyways, then I spent my morning trying to get ready 0:03:53.320 --> 0:03:56.400 and get dressed and shower myself and be here around 0:03:56.400 --> 0:03:57.680 two foreign men in my room. 0:03:57.840 --> 0:03:59.400 Not foreign, but that was strange. 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:03.800 They were You're often greet people naked. I don't know 0:04:03.960 --> 0:04:05.440 just about a towel on. I don't feel like that 0:04:05.440 --> 0:04:06.840 that's that exposed. 0:04:06.920 --> 0:04:07.200 Is it? 0:04:07.520 --> 0:04:09.080 If you're nude but you put a towel on? Is 0:04:09.120 --> 0:04:11.440 that like very confronting for the person at the door. No, 0:04:11.480 --> 0:04:15.080 But for some reason, it is more like you can 0:04:15.120 --> 0:04:16.719 go to the beach and be in a tiny little 0:04:16.720 --> 0:04:19.320 bikini and it's not like you're showing too much, but 0:04:19.360 --> 0:04:22.080 all of a sudden, if you answered in a towel, 0:04:22.480 --> 0:04:25.320 it hits different because someone knows you you've been masturbating, 0:04:25.400 --> 0:04:28.599 or you've been in the shower or doing something news me. No, no, 0:04:28.640 --> 0:04:31.440 I'm not saying you. But the towel at home hits 0:04:31.480 --> 0:04:33.480 different to like a bikini at the beach. 0:04:33.600 --> 0:04:35.440 Well, I think it's context. What if you answer the 0:04:35.440 --> 0:04:38.040 door in a bikini at your house? Also kind of 0:04:38.120 --> 0:04:39.480 weird for six am in the morning. 0:04:39.600 --> 0:04:41.560 Still fine, the towel hits different. 0:04:42.120 --> 0:04:44.479 Anyway, did you get just come in? 0:04:44.960 --> 0:04:45.039 No? 0:04:45.160 --> 0:04:46.440 And then he was like, can I you know when 0:04:46.440 --> 0:04:48.800 you I just hadn't prepped, Like nothing was cleaned, not 0:04:48.920 --> 0:04:52.760 on me, but like the house was out, The house 0:04:52.880 --> 0:04:55.400 was a mess, the bathroom was like everything about our 0:04:55.400 --> 0:04:57.719 house looks like we are, you know, disgusting. 0:04:57.800 --> 0:04:59.520 We had random people in our house and it was disgusting. 0:04:59.560 --> 0:05:02.400 Anyway, we're here now, and we've taken a really long 0:05:02.440 --> 0:05:03.960 time to get to the point, which is that we're 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:07.040 going to answer your questions. You were not there yet talking. Sorry, 0:05:07.160 --> 0:05:12.280 we're having a yarn, Misschew. I came in this morning 0:05:12.279 --> 0:05:16.320 and Laura goes, oh, you look pretty and I was like, thanks, 0:05:16.839 --> 0:05:19.080 could I wearing a very like Buffonti top no over. 0:05:19.160 --> 0:05:21.200 Then she goes, oh, I know what's happening. And what 0:05:21.279 --> 0:05:23.360 She's like, the peacocking has begun. 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:25.200 Yeah, I said, what do you mean? 0:05:25.240 --> 0:05:26.760 She's like, well, do you go on to see Ben 0:05:26.880 --> 0:05:29.400 next week? The peacocking has begun, and there is something 0:05:29.440 --> 0:05:31.880 to be said for that, like the pruning and the preening, 0:05:31.960 --> 0:05:34.960 and they're getting ready is starting, the nails are starting, 0:05:35.000 --> 0:05:36.040 the lashes are starting. 0:05:36.480 --> 0:05:37.160 Well, we all know. 0:05:37.120 --> 0:05:39.920 After last week's episode, the waxing has probably started as well. 0:05:40.600 --> 0:05:41.320 A wick whacker? 0:05:41.320 --> 0:05:44.200 What is yes? I actually just might have one on 0:05:44.240 --> 0:05:44.640 each point. 0:05:46.960 --> 0:05:48.400 A lot of you won't know this, but like Britt 0:05:48.440 --> 0:05:51.640 is going over to see ben next week and they're 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:53.200 gonna have what like two weeks together. 0:05:53.600 --> 0:05:56.000 Yeah, we won a two week holiday radio break. We're 0:05:56.000 --> 0:05:59.000 still bringing you the podcast, but we're we've got radio breaks, 0:05:59.000 --> 0:06:00.000 so we're like, what are we going to do? I'm 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:05.240 going to duck over to see Benjamin? Which is his name? Benjamin? Benjamin? Yeah, 0:06:05.240 --> 0:06:06.080 you don't pronounce the jay? 0:06:06.400 --> 0:06:07.039 Okay, thanks? 0:06:08.560 --> 0:06:10.000 How do you feel you in a scale of one 0:06:10.040 --> 0:06:13.240 too excited? Like do you feel nervous to see him? 0:06:13.279 --> 0:06:14.800 Are you just excited to see I know you guys 0:06:14.839 --> 0:06:17.040 FaceTime every day, but like me now a couple of months. 0:06:16.839 --> 0:06:19.839 I'm not nervous at all, but I cannot wait to 0:06:19.880 --> 0:06:20.400 have sex. 0:06:20.760 --> 0:06:23.159 Okay, Like, don't wait for his dad to listen to 0:06:23.200 --> 0:06:25.440 this episode, Hi, dad in law. 0:06:26.560 --> 0:06:28.320 I mean I think that's standard where adults we've been 0:06:28.360 --> 0:06:30.080 apart for a couple of months, we're in love. I 0:06:30.080 --> 0:06:33.120 think that's normal. But no, I'm excited for sure. It's 0:06:33.200 --> 0:06:35.599 just that it's the weather's not great there, which is fine. 0:06:35.839 --> 0:06:38.159 I'm not going for the weather. I'm going for love. 0:06:38.560 --> 0:06:40.560 Doesn't annoy you though that every time you take a holiday, 0:06:40.640 --> 0:06:43.120 yeah you have to go somewhere that's cold and wet. Correct. Yes, yeah, 0:06:43.120 --> 0:06:46.680 it sucks, It really sucks. It actually really does suck. 0:06:47.000 --> 0:06:51.200 And I guess the difference is he so you guys know, 0:06:51.320 --> 0:06:54.000 I'm going. It's my holiday, so I get two weeks, 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:56.279 but he doesn't. He's not on holiday. He still works 0:06:56.320 --> 0:06:59.120 every day. I think he only gets one day off 0:06:59.160 --> 0:07:02.160 the entire time there. So it's just part of the 0:07:02.240 --> 0:07:04.599 long distance commitment. I guess I'll see him in the mornings, 0:07:04.600 --> 0:07:06.200 I see him the afternoon and night, but he still 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:08.440 goes and does his job. And I'll still be recording 0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:10.120 the podcast from there, so it's gonna be fine. I'll 0:07:10.120 --> 0:07:13.400 there some little check ins from Scotland. Anyhow, accents are 0:07:13.400 --> 0:07:14.720 not my thing. I want to talk to you about 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:19.040 something else, something more, something more serious. Okay. I don't 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:21.160 know if you've seen this going around. There's a company 0:07:21.200 --> 0:07:26.000 called Pair and they have released this new silicone ring. 0:07:26.320 --> 0:07:27.960 Now this is when I read this, I was like, 0:07:28.200 --> 0:07:29.960 is this a penis ring? Is this a cock ring? Like, 0:07:30.000 --> 0:07:32.080 what is this silicon ring? Why does it need to 0:07:32.120 --> 0:07:34.840 be silicone? I don't think it has to be. That's 0:07:34.880 --> 0:07:38.120 just what it is. Long story short, they've released a 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:42.200 ring for singles to wear single people to sort of 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:45.960 put out to the world that they're open to being 0:07:46.000 --> 0:07:48.320 approached when they're out, that they're single, that they're open 0:07:48.360 --> 0:07:51.640 to date. Now, the premise is, when we're in love 0:07:51.640 --> 0:07:54.240 and we're taken and we're married, we wear a ring, 0:07:54.440 --> 0:07:56.440 we wear a wedding ring, and when you're out. I 0:07:56.480 --> 0:07:58.120 don't know if you ever did this, Laura, I know 0:07:58.200 --> 0:08:01.120 producer Keisha did I know? I do when I was single, 0:08:01.560 --> 0:08:03.680 you do glance down to check if there's a ring. 0:08:03.760 --> 0:08:06.600 I feel like it's even if it's subconscious, because if 0:08:06.600 --> 0:08:08.320 someone's got a wedding ring on, you're not even on 0:08:08.360 --> 0:08:11.280 your radar. So the idea is, okay, if we can 0:08:11.320 --> 0:08:13.400 do that when we're married and saying we're taken, why 0:08:13.400 --> 0:08:16.119 can't we do it and say we're open to dating. 0:08:16.160 --> 0:08:18.200 So there's this this blue silicon ring that people are 0:08:18.200 --> 0:08:21.400 supposed to wear on their middle finger. It's like forty bucks, 0:08:21.440 --> 0:08:23.840 which is so much for a silicon ring, but it's 0:08:23.840 --> 0:08:25.320 so that you wear it out and it's signaling to 0:08:25.360 --> 0:08:28.360 everybody that, like, hey, I am open to being approached 0:08:28.840 --> 0:08:32.120 if you like, Now, what do you think about this idea? 0:08:32.400 --> 0:08:34.640 I don't hate the idea, like I mean, I don't 0:08:34.679 --> 0:08:38.160 hate the idea that there is a physical marker, which 0:08:38.240 --> 0:08:40.040 kind of is like, I'm open to being approached, Like 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:42.640 I'm open to the idea of dating, right, especially for 0:08:42.679 --> 0:08:45.840 someone who might be introverted and might not like be 0:08:46.040 --> 0:08:51.199 very good at starting conversations or Yeah, but I also think, what's. 0:08:50.960 --> 0:08:53.520 The likelihood, like how popular is this thing? Because what's 0:08:53.559 --> 0:08:56.160 the likelihood that someone's actually gonna have it? Not only 0:08:56.200 --> 0:08:57.960 that someone's gonna have it, but that someone's even gonna 0:08:58.000 --> 0:08:59.600 have any fucking idea what this thing is? 0:09:00.679 --> 0:09:02.440 Well, this is I mean because people like us are 0:09:02.440 --> 0:09:05.720 talking about it, Okay, right, it's actually brilliant marketing from 0:09:05.720 --> 0:09:08.280 the team fighting the good fight it is. It's brilliant marketing. 0:09:08.360 --> 0:09:11.240 And I mean it's like anything. It's like when Tinder started. 0:09:11.280 --> 0:09:13.840 Remember back in the day when the first online real 0:09:13.960 --> 0:09:17.199 online dating app started and a no one knew about it, 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:19.600 but everyone was like, ill, I don't want to go 0:09:19.600 --> 0:09:21.840 online dating, and it wasn't a really popular thing, and 0:09:21.840 --> 0:09:23.440 it wasn't the done thing, and it was almost a 0:09:23.480 --> 0:09:25.760 thing that you did in secret at the start. But 0:09:25.800 --> 0:09:28.240 then you people talk about it, it becomes popular and it 0:09:28.280 --> 0:09:30.079 takes off. I reckon that's what might happen with the 0:09:30.120 --> 0:09:31.000 Silicon ring. Well. 0:09:31.000 --> 0:09:33.120 I think when you talk about like online dating, I 0:09:33.120 --> 0:09:35.400 think online dating has been through several phases of it. 0:09:35.440 --> 0:09:38.000 I think originally online dating was like your e harmony 0:09:38.520 --> 0:09:40.720 and it was sort of fish yeah, and it was 0:09:40.840 --> 0:09:44.440 for older people, like people who maybe had been divorced 0:09:44.480 --> 0:09:46.560 and were looking for companionship. It kind of had a 0:09:46.559 --> 0:09:48.360 really different feeling around it. 0:09:48.520 --> 0:09:51.760 I felt like it was very serious. Yeah, like you 0:09:51.800 --> 0:09:54.080 were on plenty of fish. You were wanting to settle 0:09:54.080 --> 0:09:56.800 down a husband. You were wanting that deep and meaningful chat. 0:09:56.840 --> 0:09:59.079 You're not wanting like the friends with benefit. 0:09:59.280 --> 0:09:59.760 Absolutely. 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:02.920 And then I think as Tinder came into the scene, 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:05.520 it changed the age demographic, like it really brought it down. 0:10:05.520 --> 0:10:08.280 But I remember originally when Tinder came out, the feeling 0:10:08.280 --> 0:10:10.439 around it was like, oh my god, as if you 0:10:10.440 --> 0:10:12.720 would use a dating site. And then it was only 0:10:12.760 --> 0:10:15.600 as it grew in popularity and kind of it got 0:10:15.600 --> 0:10:18.040 to a point where almost everyone was on there. If 0:10:18.040 --> 0:10:20.480 you're online dating, it's so commonplace now that there's absolutely 0:10:20.520 --> 0:10:22.400 no judgment with it. But I think it's the same 0:10:22.440 --> 0:10:24.520 thing for this, right, Like no one wants to be 0:10:24.559 --> 0:10:26.360 the first to do something. No one wants to be 0:10:26.400 --> 0:10:29.120 the first to wear a ring on their middle finger 0:10:29.160 --> 0:10:29.439 and be. 0:10:29.440 --> 0:10:32.360 Like I am single, because it sounds a bit. 0:10:32.280 --> 0:10:34.680 Lame, and it also makes you seem like a tattoo 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:37.720 on your head, being like available, open, Yeah. 0:10:37.400 --> 0:10:39.360 Like it almost makes that that's become like such a 0:10:39.400 --> 0:10:41.640 core part of your identity. And it also means that 0:10:41.720 --> 0:10:45.720 like you're aggressively looking for someone by constantly wearing something 0:10:45.760 --> 0:10:48.200 that says to everybody around you, I am single. 0:10:48.440 --> 0:10:50.280 I remember just like taking them back a step. But 0:10:50.320 --> 0:10:53.040 I remember when I went on online dating for the 0:10:53.040 --> 0:10:55.959 same I felt the same thing. I was, you're almost 0:10:56.000 --> 0:10:58.400 embarrassed to tell people about it. And then I remember 0:10:58.440 --> 0:11:00.920 matching with someone and I was like loose dating them, 0:11:01.080 --> 0:11:03.000 and I remember having a conversation about how we're going 0:11:03.080 --> 0:11:05.400 to tell people we met. What story are we going 0:11:05.440 --> 0:11:07.560 to come up with, because there's no way you can say, 0:11:07.600 --> 0:11:10.560 like when we met on Tinder. Even my sister Sherry 0:11:10.600 --> 0:11:13.840 and her now husband Jay, who met on Tinder. They've 0:11:13.840 --> 0:11:16.920 been together. I guess it's six this years now, So 0:11:16.960 --> 0:11:19.040 they met about six years ago, which you know, Tinder's 0:11:19.080 --> 0:11:21.240 been out way longer than that. But even when they 0:11:21.480 --> 0:11:23.679 met for a few years they were like, we've got 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:26.240 to come up with story. How embarrassing, And it's still 0:11:26.320 --> 0:11:28.480 sort of until the last few years. Now they don't care. 0:11:28.520 --> 0:11:30.840 It's funny, but it took quite a long time for 0:11:30.920 --> 0:11:32.959 it to be acceptable. And I don't know if that's 0:11:33.000 --> 0:11:36.280 just online dating or if it takes us as a 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:39.640 person a lot to accept that we don't have our 0:11:39.720 --> 0:11:44.520 meat cue because online dating isn't the story that you want, 0:11:44.600 --> 0:11:46.560 like you want. Even when I met Ben, which we 0:11:46.559 --> 0:11:49.280 met online, we started to joke, he said, I said 0:11:49.320 --> 0:11:50.560 the same thing. He's like, can we come up with 0:11:50.720 --> 0:11:52.880 a better story? How nice would it have been if 0:11:52.880 --> 0:11:54.439 we were walking past each other on the promenade and 0:11:54.520 --> 0:11:56.200 running to each other with a dog and started talking. 0:11:56.480 --> 0:11:58.200 But we're like, at the end of the day, it 0:11:58.280 --> 0:12:00.719 is what it is. Ninety percent of people that's made 0:12:00.760 --> 0:12:03.840 up statistic. A lot of people meet online and it's okay. 0:12:03.880 --> 0:12:05.880 It just takes that romantic story away. 0:12:06.040 --> 0:12:06.800 Well, I mean when you. 0:12:06.720 --> 0:12:09.040 Talk about a meat cute, it's because we've been sold 0:12:09.120 --> 0:12:13.199 for so long that relationships in the start of relationships 0:12:13.240 --> 0:12:17.040 are supposed to be this really like romantic idealic, magical time. 0:12:17.400 --> 0:12:19.559 And I guess when you bring in the tech of it, 0:12:19.720 --> 0:12:22.680 do you eat tinder or bumble? It takes that romance 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:24.520 and that romantic idea out of it, which I do 0:12:24.640 --> 0:12:28.080 also think for this new ring, do I think it's 0:12:28.120 --> 0:12:28.720 going to take off? 0:12:28.800 --> 0:12:29.000 No? 0:12:29.120 --> 0:12:31.480 Really, realistically, I will eat my own shit if it does. 0:12:31.960 --> 0:12:34.520 But Keisha last because she's like the amount of times 0:12:34.559 --> 0:12:37.320 you've had to eat shit on this podcast. No, But 0:12:37.360 --> 0:12:38.920 I just think, like, will it take off? 0:12:39.000 --> 0:12:39.120 No? 0:12:39.400 --> 0:12:42.160 But also I mean I would never have thought that 0:12:42.200 --> 0:12:44.480 online dating is as prolific as what it is now, 0:12:44.520 --> 0:12:46.360 you know, I never thought that it would become so 0:12:46.480 --> 0:12:49.000 commonplace that majority of people who are single would have 0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:51.440 it on their phones. I think that there is a 0:12:51.480 --> 0:12:54.559 big difference between wearing a wedding ring when you're married 0:12:54.760 --> 0:12:57.520 and wearing a ring on your middle finger to be single, 0:12:57.559 --> 0:12:59.280 because I think for me, like I wear a wedding 0:12:59.360 --> 0:13:01.400 ring for myself, I'm not wearing a wedding ring to 0:13:01.440 --> 0:13:01.880 be like. 0:13:02.080 --> 0:13:04.440 Hey, boys don't come near me I've got a wedding 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:07.520 ring on because you need to beat those I'm trying 0:13:07.559 --> 0:13:09.640 to beg them off me. Like, that's not I don't 0:13:09.640 --> 0:13:11.800 think that that's why most people wear a wedding ring. 0:13:11.840 --> 0:13:13.559 I think the majority of people wear a wedding ring 0:13:13.600 --> 0:13:16.120 because it's a reminder of that commitment for themselves. It's 0:13:16.160 --> 0:13:18.400 also like for me, you know, I think jewelry and 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:20.080 this is coming from the jury designer and me, I 0:13:20.080 --> 0:13:22.360 think jewry is really important tonymaine dot com. 0:13:25.360 --> 0:13:26.600 There's no sale this week. 0:13:26.920 --> 0:13:27.000 No. 0:13:27.240 --> 0:13:30.640 I think it's really special because jewelry is this one item, 0:13:30.720 --> 0:13:32.560 Like you don't really have it with clothing. You don't 0:13:32.559 --> 0:13:35.920 have it with hair products or other accessories or handbags, 0:13:35.920 --> 0:13:37.800 but jewelry transports you to a time. 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:40.720 It's something that can have so much meaning. Imdude in it. 0:13:40.800 --> 0:13:43.080 Like it could be from your grandmother, it could be 0:13:43.160 --> 0:13:46.480 something that's a family air loom. Like jewelry is very 0:13:46.520 --> 0:13:49.120 sentimental because it carries stories with it. And so that's 0:13:49.160 --> 0:13:52.160 why I think wedding rings are so important. Do I 0:13:52.280 --> 0:13:55.240 think that having a single ring has the same importance 0:13:55.360 --> 0:13:57.320 norm I think it's like it's almost the opposite. It's 0:13:57.320 --> 0:14:00.360 like a very much a branding of like I am single, Yeah, 0:14:00.400 --> 0:14:01.120 which is fine. 0:14:01.240 --> 0:14:03.839 I think that's fine. The problem I think it could 0:14:03.880 --> 0:14:07.439 have is that will it open you up to being 0:14:07.440 --> 0:14:09.960 approached by anyone? Because that's not what it means when 0:14:09.960 --> 0:14:12.440 you're wearing this ring. It doesn't mean I'm open for 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:15.400 every single Joe blow in this place to take anyone. 0:14:15.559 --> 0:14:17.440 It also takes away because you know how sometimes if 0:14:17.440 --> 0:14:19.800 someone approaches you and you're not interested, you say sorry, 0:14:19.840 --> 0:14:22.800 I'm seeing someone. You can't do that anymore because they're like, 0:14:22.800 --> 0:14:24.480 well that you're lying because you've got the blue ring on. 0:14:24.640 --> 0:14:26.880 Like so, I don't know if I was single, I 0:14:26.880 --> 0:14:29.400 don't think I would wear it, And I also would 0:14:29.440 --> 0:14:32.440 hope like, are we as a generation I'm getting really 0:14:32.480 --> 0:14:35.520 deep now as a generation, at the point where we 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:39.080 can't just go and have a conversation with someone in 0:14:39.120 --> 0:14:41.320 real life if we're interested. Are we at a point 0:14:41.640 --> 0:14:45.160 where we're so scared of being rejected that we won't 0:14:45.280 --> 0:14:47.760 try to have that conversation? Like I would still appreciate 0:14:47.800 --> 0:14:49.440 someone coming up to me and saying, hey, saw you 0:14:49.480 --> 0:14:51.360 across there, Like can I get your drink? Even if 0:14:51.520 --> 0:14:52.720 and I'm like, oh my god, thank you so much. 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:54.920 I'm actually seeing someone and they're like cool, no worries. 0:14:55.160 --> 0:14:57.520 Why are these days gone? Why can't we do that? 0:14:57.560 --> 0:15:00.240 Why are we still? I think we're all try in 0:15:00.360 --> 0:15:02.840 this idea of like being on our phones, being on media, 0:15:02.920 --> 0:15:05.160 having to need a ring just have a conversation. 0:15:05.680 --> 0:15:07.560 I mean it's easy to say that, but I think 0:15:07.760 --> 0:15:10.239 there's a big spectrum of different types of people and personalities. 0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:13.000 There's been people who have always struggled with just walking 0:15:13.040 --> 0:15:15.120 up to someone in the bar. Yes, we know that, 0:15:15.160 --> 0:15:16.960 like people are more adverse to it now because of 0:15:17.000 --> 0:15:19.560 online dating, but there have been a lot of people 0:15:19.600 --> 0:15:22.480 and I would say most people struggle with just going 0:15:22.520 --> 0:15:23.920 up and striking a conversation. 0:15:24.040 --> 0:15:26.120 I don't have that confidence and I talk for a living. 0:15:26.240 --> 0:15:28.640 Would a blue ring give you that confidence? So if 0:15:28.680 --> 0:15:31.600 you were the person that struggles to have a conversation anyway, 0:15:32.200 --> 0:15:33.760 if someone has a ring on, is that going to 0:15:33.840 --> 0:15:36.960 make all of a sudden your idea of public speaking 0:15:37.360 --> 0:15:38.080 fear go away? 0:15:38.360 --> 0:15:38.760 Not at all? 0:15:38.840 --> 0:15:43.240 Benefitent It may make me seem more approachable in terms 0:15:43.280 --> 0:15:45.440 of like, it may break that barrier down and may 0:15:45.440 --> 0:15:47.720 make it easier for someone else to approach me. That 0:15:47.840 --> 0:15:49.880 might be why someone's wearing it. They might wear it 0:15:49.920 --> 0:15:52.000 not because it's going to be them doing the initiating, 0:15:52.240 --> 0:15:54.800 but it's a signifier that they're open to other people 0:15:54.840 --> 0:15:57.360 initiating and they think that that might, you know, make 0:15:57.440 --> 0:15:58.560 that more accessible. 0:15:58.880 --> 0:15:59.960 Keisha's had an idea. 0:16:00.200 --> 0:16:03.080 I actually just remember when I was at schoolies this 0:16:03.200 --> 0:16:05.320 gone back in the Gold Coast. I remember when we 0:16:05.440 --> 0:16:08.040 used to go into the clubs and they would give 0:16:08.080 --> 0:16:10.120 you an option of picking a red sticker or a 0:16:10.120 --> 0:16:12.760 green sticker, and it was to indicate whether you were 0:16:12.800 --> 0:16:14.320 single or in a relationship. 0:16:14.440 --> 0:16:15.800 It sounds like the matrix. 0:16:17.040 --> 0:16:21.800 At school in the Gold Coast in twenty eleven. 0:16:21.880 --> 0:16:25.080 I think I graduated and yeah, used to go in 0:16:25.160 --> 0:16:27.440