WEBVTT - A Guy I’m Casually Seeing Thinks I’m His Legit Girlfriend 😬

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Frooms, Flex and Firms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch Up podcast. You are back with Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms and FLEXI I have a story for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Tell me.

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<v Speaker 1>It is from a source that I know. Oh the

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<v Speaker 1>identity I will not reveal from the archives, but just

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<v Speaker 1>know this is someone who is real and in life.

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<v Speaker 1>She says. I've been hanging out with the guy for

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<v Speaker 1>the past two months. We've done little dinner dates and

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<v Speaker 1>hung out at both of our places for what I

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<v Speaker 1>thought was a super casual relationship. He works in finance

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<v Speaker 1>in brackets. It's giving a rich king. See you think that.

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<v Speaker 1>But one recession, yea one.

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<v Speaker 2>Count change. We're split into the scent.

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<v Speaker 1>And he would occasionally buy me little presents, which I loved.

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<v Speaker 1>I always spoke about how I love my independence and

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<v Speaker 1>don't want anything serious. Last week he messaged me really

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<v Speaker 1>upset as I matched with his best friend on a

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<v Speaker 1>dating app boy and he thought we were being ex No.

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<v Speaker 1>Not only that, but he had told his family about

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<v Speaker 1>me and they were planning on meeting me when they

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<v Speaker 1>visited from interstate. What this person's a sicko, He messaged me, saying,

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<v Speaker 1>the one riding in all of them Yeah. He messaged

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<v Speaker 1>me saying that he can't see me anymore because it's

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<v Speaker 1>just too painful. But two days later he's changed his mind.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course, I said, yes, this was seeing him because

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<v Speaker 1>the sex is great. But I can't help but think

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<v Speaker 1>I should end things. Is it bad if I just

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<v Speaker 1>stay with him for the sex and the free gifts?

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<v Speaker 2>They need to twenty four need to get on this,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, at least Hulu, at least HBO. Because that

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<v Speaker 2>went up and down, up and down, up and down.

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<v Speaker 1>I was feeling it a little points.

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<v Speaker 2>Chicks man, chicks are crazy. I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't get them initial thoughts.

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<v Speaker 2>When I was younger, I really navigated dating in the

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<v Speaker 2>way that I was like, if you have an issue

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<v Speaker 2>with it, it's your problem. Wow, So you have to

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<v Speaker 2>self regulate. If you want something more serious and I don't,

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<v Speaker 2>and you choose to maintain a casual relationship with me,

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<v Speaker 2>you know you want something more serious, it's your problem. Like,

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<v Speaker 2>believe it. If you hurt your own feelings, you hurt

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<v Speaker 2>your own feelings. Now I've grown up in mature it

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<v Speaker 2>I have. I do think there's some mutual responsibility to

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<v Speaker 2>not unnecessarily traumatize people. And in this case, I'd say,

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<v Speaker 2>get your last couple, your couple bits in for sure,

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<v Speaker 2>your last couple, you know the in, and then be like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what, Actually, based on the last couple of

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<v Speaker 2>I can acknowledge that you want something more than I

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<v Speaker 2>can offer. And I don't think it's really really fair.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that you think that this could be chill.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just gonna nip it in the bud bud. But

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<v Speaker 2>who knows and end it?

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<v Speaker 1>For me, I feel like if I'm seeing someone and

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<v Speaker 1>I know that they like me more than I like them,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a great flag.

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, it's.

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<v Speaker 1>A red flag. No. I just feel like I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like I have to end it. I don't like the

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<v Speaker 1>idea of stringing people long because I feel like my

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<v Speaker 1>attraction wanes if I think that it's too one sided.

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<v Speaker 2>So when you say you know someone likes you more

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<v Speaker 2>than you like them, you're assuming it's by a landslide.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, oh okay, like my interest is waning, but I

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<v Speaker 1>could continue for the intimacy. Right However, I'm just thinking

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<v Speaker 1>this is really not I mean, it's not worth hurting

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<v Speaker 1>someone's feelings.

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<v Speaker 2>That's tricky because I've had some situations where I've assumed

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<v Speaker 2>someone's way more intimate than I am into them, but

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<v Speaker 2>they are just maybe a bit more like adept at

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<v Speaker 2>showing like affectionate intimacy. So I was like, I'm good.

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<v Speaker 2>You must be so keen because like you text regularly

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<v Speaker 2>and you plan dates regularly, and they're like, I just

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<v Speaker 2>treat you like a normal person, like relaxle, And I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>sorry that was me. I was bringing my backage and

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<v Speaker 2>I apologize. Is that at the door next time? Sorry? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it's tricky. Do you want?

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<v Speaker 1>That's it? Do what you want?

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<v Speaker 2>And yeah, time to go to it feels good and

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<v Speaker 2>update us because we do love a little bit of

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<v Speaker 2>chaos with our love, don't we.

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