WEBVTT - ASK UNCUT - To sit or stand that is the question! 0:00:19.480 --> 0:00:22.560 Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:22.600 --> 0:00:26.000 I'm Laura and I'm Brittany, and today is our Ask 0:00:26.079 --> 0:00:29.200 Uncut episode. This is where we answer all of your deep, 0:00:29.480 --> 0:00:33.040 dark and burning questions and we do our absolute best 0:00:33.040 --> 0:00:35.159 to give you the life advice that you come here for. 0:00:35.520 --> 0:00:38.400 We absolutely love this episode. Well, I mean, I'm speaking 0:00:38.479 --> 0:00:41.479 on behalf of Laura. I definitely absolutely love this episode. 0:00:41.479 --> 0:00:43.080 It makes me feel a little bit better. It makes 0:00:43.080 --> 0:00:45.080 me feel at a little bit good in the world 0:00:45.120 --> 0:00:46.960 for helping you guys sort out your problems. And we 0:00:47.000 --> 0:00:49.640 actually did pick a We actually did pick a few 0:00:49.760 --> 0:00:52.360 good questions today, and we've got some that we haven't 0:00:52.400 --> 0:00:55.320 really entered, some territory we haven't really entered before. But 0:00:55.360 --> 0:00:57.640 we'll get to that in a minute. Laura, I don't 0:00:57.640 --> 0:00:59.800 even know why I ask you. Have you been doing 0:00:59.800 --> 0:01:04.240 it fun? What have you been up to? How is lockdown? Wait? Wait, wait, 0:01:04.240 --> 0:01:06.040 before we get at that, you're just saying like it 0:01:06.120 --> 0:01:08.800 makes me feel better. My first thought is, like, I 0:01:08.840 --> 0:01:10.920 love hearing about all your problems because it makes me 0:01:10.959 --> 0:01:13.000 feel better about my life. It does. That's how I 0:01:13.080 --> 0:01:15.679 just interpreted what you said. It does one hundred percent 0:01:15.840 --> 0:01:17.840 like you're all fucked. I think that's why so many 0:01:17.880 --> 0:01:20.480 people love to listen to because it makes everyone realize 0:01:20.480 --> 0:01:23.480 that everyone, no matter who they are, no matter what 0:01:23.520 --> 0:01:26.039 it looks like on the outside, everyone is going through 0:01:26.080 --> 0:01:28.480 some shit. No matter how good life someone's life looks, 0:01:28.680 --> 0:01:30.800 how bad someone's life looks, you never know what's going 0:01:30.800 --> 0:01:32.280 on in their life. And I think when you hear 0:01:32.360 --> 0:01:34.840 other people's problems and it just makes people realize they're 0:01:34.880 --> 0:01:37.759 not the only ones going through this stuff that makes 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:41.000 everyone what makes me feel that little bit better? Well, 0:01:41.040 --> 0:01:42.520 I want to talk to you about one thing that 0:01:42.600 --> 0:01:44.680 has happened in my life, which, to be honest, there 0:01:44.720 --> 0:01:46.800 is not a lot. There's really not a lot. But 0:01:47.440 --> 0:01:49.600 this is something that's happened in everyone's life in Australia 0:01:49.600 --> 0:01:52.680 at the moment. Have you seen and maybe you haven't 0:01:52.680 --> 0:01:54.320 seen it because you're not here, but have you seen 0:01:54.360 --> 0:01:57.560 the Quantus ad that is currently on TV. I have 0:01:57.960 --> 0:02:01.600 seen the Quantus ad and maybe I don't know if 0:02:01.600 --> 0:02:04.040 I want to admit it, but maybe I had a 0:02:04.080 --> 0:02:07.040 little cry to myself as well. I am not emotionally 0:02:07.080 --> 0:02:09.680 stable enough to watch an ad like that right now. 0:02:09.800 --> 0:02:12.040 They need a trigger warning before that ad comes on TV. 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:14.880 I think that collectively, if you haven't seen ad, go 0:02:14.960 --> 0:02:17.800 look it up. It's Quantuses new campaign AD. I mean 0:02:17.840 --> 0:02:19.960 it's thirty seconds, Like how motive can it possibly be? 0:02:20.000 --> 0:02:22.880 But it basically follows one couple, one family, and a 0:02:22.960 --> 0:02:26.919 guy on their journey on like and traveling after this 0:02:27.000 --> 0:02:29.760 whole situation that we're currently living in. Once COVID is 0:02:29.800 --> 0:02:32.280 lifted and people can fly again, one of them goes 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:34.640 to Disneyland. One of them is going to their wedding, 0:02:34.880 --> 0:02:37.400 and then the other one, the dad is going home 0:02:37.480 --> 0:02:39.320 what you assume is to see his little girl. And 0:02:40.040 --> 0:02:42.600 the thing is it's so crazy about this is that 0:02:43.040 --> 0:02:45.320 it isn't just a Quantus AD. It isn't just an 0:02:45.360 --> 0:02:48.160 ad for travel. It's a pro vaccination AD. And I 0:02:48.360 --> 0:02:53.200 just think it's so interesting how massive corporations, big businesses 0:02:53.280 --> 0:02:55.560 can no longer sit on the sidelines. People are not 0:02:55.919 --> 0:02:58.720 removing themselves or getting you know, this idea about not 0:02:58.760 --> 0:03:02.040 wanting to get involved in the politics around vaccinations. People 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:05.000 are like, this is so big, this affects every single 0:03:05.000 --> 0:03:07.960 one of us. That even Quantus is like, we are 0:03:07.960 --> 0:03:10.239 going for a pro vax AD because it does affect 0:03:10.280 --> 0:03:12.320 every single one of us, And I mean, look, I 0:03:12.360 --> 0:03:14.320 don't love to be talking about what I'm doing a 0:03:14.320 --> 0:03:17.040 lot over here, because I really feel for you guys, 0:03:17.080 --> 0:03:19.040 and I feel so grateful to be here, but like, 0:03:19.080 --> 0:03:20.320 I don't want to be talking about it in the 0:03:20.360 --> 0:03:22.360 sense of, look what I'm doing. But what I do 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:25.560 want to say is having a vaccination really does matter 0:03:25.600 --> 0:03:28.320 to travel. I get asked to prove my vaccination so 0:03:28.480 --> 0:03:30.920 many places over here. I've been asked as I'm entering 0:03:30.960 --> 0:03:33.920 countries to prove my vaccination that is already happening. And 0:03:34.040 --> 0:03:35.960 I did read a few things in the media, a 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:39.160 few influencers that were putting sort of some misinformation out 0:03:39.160 --> 0:03:41.720 there saying they're obviously anti vaxxers, and they're like, you 0:03:41.720 --> 0:03:44.000 don't need it. I've traveled, I haven't been asked to 0:03:44.000 --> 0:03:45.600 show it once. And I just read that and it 0:03:45.640 --> 0:03:48.160 made me a little bit angry because that's not true. 0:03:48.240 --> 0:03:50.360 I have definitely been asked to show it. And there 0:03:50.400 --> 0:03:52.360 are a lot of places are in the world right now. 0:03:52.480 --> 0:03:54.920 I haven't been there personally through Europe yet, but I 0:03:54.960 --> 0:03:56.960 know a lot of places in Europe, France and Italy. 0:03:57.000 --> 0:03:58.920 I know New York has started to do it. You 0:03:59.000 --> 0:04:01.280 can't go to a restaurant anymore, you can't go to gyms, 0:04:01.280 --> 0:04:05.000 you can't do anything without a vaccination, or you have 0:04:05.080 --> 0:04:07.920 to get a COVID test that day, like the day 0:04:08.000 --> 0:04:09.320 of that you want to go to dinner, you have 0:04:09.360 --> 0:04:11.480 to go and have a test. So I think everyone 0:04:11.560 --> 0:04:14.360 in the world is just realizing that whether we like 0:04:14.440 --> 0:04:16.280 it or not, or whether you guys like it or not, 0:04:16.360 --> 0:04:19.480 that's the way forward. And that's exactly why Quants has 0:04:19.480 --> 0:04:21.560 got on this ad. But the thing about the ad 0:04:21.720 --> 0:04:25.320 was they didn't mention the word vaccination once, but it 0:04:25.360 --> 0:04:27.880 got the message across in the best way possible. I 0:04:27.880 --> 0:04:31.479 have never seen an ad so good in my entire life. 0:04:31.520 --> 0:04:34.679 How can you in thirty seconds have the most powerful 0:04:34.680 --> 0:04:37.520 message and make everybody falling tears at the same time. Well, 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:39.760 it just makes you think about the government rollout ad 0:04:39.760 --> 0:04:41.200 that was done you know a couple of months ago, 0:04:41.200 --> 0:04:42.960 which was the woman in bed and she was so 0:04:43.160 --> 0:04:45.080 frightened and she was like hooked up to the VENTI 0:04:45.160 --> 0:04:47.920 later and it was the scare tactic campaign that was 0:04:47.920 --> 0:04:50.080 trying to get people to go and get vaccinated. And 0:04:50.080 --> 0:04:52.160 now look, I mean we have been Britain, I have 0:04:52.240 --> 0:04:55.039 been pretty Switzerland on this podcast. We've not spoken about 0:04:55.160 --> 0:04:58.400 vaccination much at all, and I guess it's because, you know, 0:04:58.480 --> 0:04:59.960 you guys come to us and you come to the 0:05:00.160 --> 0:05:03.400 podcast to get some really uplifting and like funny content. 0:05:03.520 --> 0:05:05.440 We tackle other things that are happening in the world. 0:05:05.880 --> 0:05:08.640 This stuff is being rammed down your throats on social 0:05:08.720 --> 0:05:11.640 media and in the media every single day. You don't 0:05:11.640 --> 0:05:13.440 need to come to Life Uncut to have that same 0:05:13.440 --> 0:05:16.240 message reiterated to you. But the thing I found really 0:05:16.279 --> 0:05:19.560 interesting about this whole thing is that Quantus has just 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:22.599 done the best pro vax campaign ever. Like you just said, 0:05:22.640 --> 0:05:26.320 brit they have completely trumped what the government did with 0:05:26.400 --> 0:05:29.200 their advertising and it's because instead of trying to scare 0:05:29.240 --> 0:05:32.800 people into doing something, they've used emotion. And the reality 0:05:32.960 --> 0:05:35.480 is is that COVID, for the most of us, has 0:05:35.560 --> 0:05:39.120 been this invisible esque disease. And I say invisible esque 0:05:39.400 --> 0:05:42.760 because like most of us haven't been directly affected by 0:05:43.120 --> 0:05:46.200 majority of us in Australia haven't had somebody who's died, 0:05:46.440 --> 0:05:48.599 but every single one of us does know what it 0:05:48.600 --> 0:05:50.920 feels like to not be able to travel. Every single 0:05:50.920 --> 0:05:52.400 one of us knows what it feels like to not 0:05:52.400 --> 0:05:54.960 be able to see our family members, to feel isolated, 0:05:55.000 --> 0:05:57.560 to feel cut off. And I just think this ad 0:05:57.600 --> 0:06:00.360 has done such an amazing job of really highlighting what 0:06:00.400 --> 0:06:02.239 it is that we're missing out on in life. Instead 0:06:02.240 --> 0:06:05.400 of it being about scaring people around the disease or 0:06:05.440 --> 0:06:08.400 the illness, it's telling people, you know what, this is 0:06:08.400 --> 0:06:10.440 what we can have if you all just go and 0:06:10.440 --> 0:06:12.880 get bloody vaccinated. But at the end of the day, 0:06:12.920 --> 0:06:15.119 the other part of this as well is, of course 0:06:15.200 --> 0:06:18.440 Quantus has a hidden agenda. Quantus wants us to start 0:06:18.480 --> 0:06:20.680 flying again because they are a company. They are a 0:06:20.720 --> 0:06:25.159 corporation that without unlimited and free travel, they have been 0:06:25.320 --> 0:06:28.200 hugely affected by what is currently happening in the world. 0:06:28.480 --> 0:06:31.760 I actually read that they were giving and I think, like, 0:06:31.839 --> 0:06:34.760 if there's ever a way to give incentive now, look, guys, 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:35.919 so I don't want you to quote me on this, 0:06:36.080 --> 0:06:38.440 but I read that they're giving away something to do with, 0:06:38.480 --> 0:06:40.479 like a year's worth of travel or a year's worth 0:06:40.480 --> 0:06:43.599 of heavily discounted travel to someone that goes into like 0:06:43.640 --> 0:06:46.080 a pool once you've vaccinated. So once you get vaccinated, 0:06:46.120 --> 0:06:48.920 you go into this lucky dip draw and they'll give 0:06:48.960 --> 0:06:50.560 you a year's worth of travel, and I think, what 0:06:51.279 --> 0:06:53.080 better way? And this isn't a quantus ad, this is 0:06:53.080 --> 0:06:55.360 just something I read somewhere. Guys, what better way to 0:06:55.960 --> 0:06:58.279 give incentive? Because that's what everyone in the world wants. 0:06:58.279 --> 0:07:02.200 And like you said, Laura, Australia is we are so lucky. 0:07:02.240 --> 0:07:05.279 We're a very, very lucky country. And exactly what you'd 0:07:05.279 --> 0:07:08.159 just said, not many people know people in Australia that 0:07:08.160 --> 0:07:12.160 have had COVID or have died from COVID. Here it's everywhere. 0:07:12.280 --> 0:07:15.800 COVID is literally everywhere, and I know so many people 0:07:15.800 --> 0:07:18.280 here personally, people that I've been really close to, people 0:07:18.280 --> 0:07:20.920 I'm close to his family members. It just seems that 0:07:21.040 --> 0:07:22.680 there's not I don't feel like there would be a 0:07:22.720 --> 0:07:26.240 person in the States that doesn't know someone that has had. 0:07:26.240 --> 0:07:28.880 It is worlds away from what Australia is like. And 0:07:28.920 --> 0:07:31.240 like Laura said, we don't want this podcast. We don't 0:07:31.240 --> 0:07:32.960 want to come here and ram things down your throat. 0:07:33.040 --> 0:07:34.560 We don't want to talk. We try not to talk 0:07:34.560 --> 0:07:36.440 about it as much as possible. We try to pretend 0:07:36.480 --> 0:07:38.560 it's not happening, but the fact is it is. But 0:07:38.680 --> 0:07:40.560 any of you guys that know me, and you've been 0:07:40.560 --> 0:07:42.280 listening for a long time. You know that I've worked 0:07:42.280 --> 0:07:44.440 in the medical industry for like the best part of 0:07:44.480 --> 0:07:47.960 thirteen years. You know, I'm very pro vaccination. I was 0:07:47.960 --> 0:07:49.440 one of the first people to get it because I 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:52.960 was frontline. I had no problems with it, and I 0:07:53.200 --> 0:07:55.880 just think it is the way forward, and it's about 0:07:55.880 --> 0:07:58.040 protecting you and you have not just you as your 0:07:58.040 --> 0:08:00.920 family members and all your loved ones and anyway, that's 0:08:00.960 --> 0:08:02.720 all I'm going to say about it. I am one 0:08:02.840 --> 0:08:05.560 hundred percent all for the quantus AD and I'm all 0:08:05.600 --> 0:08:09.080 for vaccination and getting life back on track. Well, I 0:08:09.080 --> 0:08:10.720 guess the last thing I wanted to add on this, 0:08:10.840 --> 0:08:13.600 and I think it's like the biggest take home message 0:08:13.600 --> 0:08:15.760 about this whole thing is like we have been super 0:08:15.760 --> 0:08:18.040 Switzerland in that we haven't spoken about it. We're not 0:08:18.240 --> 0:08:20.960 Switzerland in our beliefs, but with Switzerland on this podcast. 0:08:21.000 --> 0:08:22.920 And I think a big reason for that is because 0:08:23.120 --> 0:08:25.280 we think you guys are all adults. We're not here 0:08:25.320 --> 0:08:27.640 to preach to you, and that's never been our jam either, 0:08:27.760 --> 0:08:29.920 Like we're not going to force our ideas down your throats. 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:33.120 And we also truly believe like a lot of us 0:08:33.160 --> 0:08:36.040 have very collective ideas around this sort of stuff anyway, 0:08:36.360 --> 0:08:38.880 But the real take home message from this quantus ad 0:08:38.960 --> 0:08:42.120 is that nobody can really stay impartial to it anymore. 0:08:42.200 --> 0:08:44.080 Like we can't really keep it out of the conversation 0:08:44.160 --> 0:08:46.200 because it does take up so much of our lives 0:08:46.200 --> 0:08:49.320 and it affects every single person. And when corporations and 0:08:49.360 --> 0:08:52.120 companies are jumping on board and putting out tvc ads 0:08:52.120 --> 0:08:54.640 which costs so much money to do that are pro 0:08:54.760 --> 0:08:57.480 vaccination to try and get the bare rolling so that 0:08:57.559 --> 0:09:00.240 life can get back to normal, it just reinforces how 0:09:00.240 --> 0:09:02.679 you really cannot be Switzerland on the whole concept. You 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:05.880 can't be Switzerland on the conversation. But anyway, like we said, 0:09:06.040 --> 0:09:08.280 let's get into ask on cart. Now is the time 0:09:09.160 --> 0:09:10.920 I'm going to kick it off with one. I think 0:09:10.960 --> 0:09:13.160 it's time that we bring a ask on cart that is 0:09:13.240 --> 0:09:16.120 non relationship because as much as relationships are probably one 0:09:16.120 --> 0:09:17.719 of the biggest hurdles that we have to deal with, 0:09:18.040 --> 0:09:20.000 there's lots of other shit that goes down in life. No, 0:09:20.160 --> 0:09:22.920 bring it. I'm ready. One of my best friends has 0:09:23.000 --> 0:09:25.600 damaged my rental and she tried to ignore it, so 0:09:25.679 --> 0:09:27.880 a few of us were getting ready in the upstairs bedroom. 0:09:27.920 --> 0:09:30.080 There isn't any furniture up there, just a huge mirror. 0:09:30.160 --> 0:09:31.920 That's why we were up there, as there was about 0:09:31.960 --> 0:09:33.600 four of us in total, and I didn't catch on, 0:09:33.920 --> 0:09:36.360 but she was one hundred percent using her mermaid wand 0:09:36.720 --> 0:09:39.360 and was putting it down on the carpet. I didn't 0:09:39.360 --> 0:09:41.000 think anything of it because I have a lot of 0:09:41.040 --> 0:09:43.040 trust in her, and I knew it wouldn't be done 0:09:43.040 --> 0:09:45.319 for long. She was the only one doing her hair 0:09:45.400 --> 0:09:47.679 up there. However, when we were all about to leave, 0:09:47.720 --> 0:09:49.520 I ran upstairs to grab something and I saw the 0:09:49.559 --> 0:09:52.360 burnmarks on the carpet. They were very obvious, and I 0:09:52.360 --> 0:09:54.400 find it really hard to imagine that she wouldn't have 0:09:54.440 --> 0:09:56.640 seen them. I know I'm going to need to replace 0:09:56.679 --> 0:09:59.000 the carpet, but I'm so mad that she didn't pull 0:09:59.040 --> 0:10:01.400 me aside and tell me. We're close enough friends she 0:10:01.440 --> 0:10:03.520 could have done that. Do I confront her about it? 0:10:03.800 --> 0:10:08.400 Should she be chipping in for carpet replacement? Hell? This 0:10:08.559 --> 0:10:12.480 makes me laugh only because if and did I hear 0:10:12.520 --> 0:10:12.720 this right? 0:10:12.800 --> 0:10:13.000 Laura? 0:10:13.080 --> 0:10:14.880 Did you say she was definitely the only one in 0:10:14.920 --> 0:10:17.840 the room doing a hair one hundred percent okay. I mean, like, 0:10:17.920 --> 0:10:20.920 if you're it, girl, you're it. Like, there's no shifting 0:10:20.960 --> 0:10:22.920 blame in here. There's no saying that the dog did it, 0:10:22.920 --> 0:10:24.960 because the dog doesn't live there. You're in a room 0:10:25.000 --> 0:10:28.280 doing your hair. There is now a burnmark on the carpet. 0:10:28.559 --> 0:10:32.360 She's obviously I don't think that she has not seen it. 0:10:32.400 --> 0:10:34.320 I think she's probably panicked and she doesn't know what 0:10:34.320 --> 0:10:37.000 to do about it. She feels really bad. You one 0:10:37.080 --> 0:10:40.840 hundred percent totally can approach her about it and ask 0:10:40.840 --> 0:10:42.080 her about it. I don't think you have to go 0:10:42.160 --> 0:10:45.840 in and be being aggressive or accusatory or anything like that, 0:10:45.880 --> 0:10:47.400 but I think you need to be like, hey, I 0:10:48.520 --> 0:10:51.520 just went into the spare room yesterday and I saw 0:10:51.760 --> 0:10:53.760 that where you were doing your hair, there's like actually 0:10:53.800 --> 0:10:56.560 a huge burnmark from where you put your tongs down. 0:10:57.000 --> 0:10:59.000 Did you know that? Just play dumb and see what 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:01.959 she says, and she's probably to say, oh my god, no, 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:04.440 I didn't see it. Like she's even if she saw it, 0:11:04.480 --> 0:11:08.480 she's obviously uncomfortable by the situation, which is fine. I 0:11:08.520 --> 0:11:10.480 would just say that and then and then have a discussion. 0:11:10.559 --> 0:11:12.640 And I think you're totally within your rights. To say, look, 0:11:12.760 --> 0:11:15.120 I'm gonna have to replace that now. Obviously, are you 0:11:15.160 --> 0:11:17.760 happy to chip in? I don't know if you can. Oh, 0:11:17.760 --> 0:11:19.319 this is a tricky bit. You can one hundred percent 0:11:19.360 --> 0:11:21.320 ask her, but I don't know how much you ask for. 0:11:21.400 --> 0:11:23.040 And Lauren, what do you think do you think that 0:11:23.080 --> 0:11:25.400 this girl has to pay for the whole carpet or 0:11:25.400 --> 0:11:27.000 do you think there's a bit of ownership in terms 0:11:27.000 --> 0:11:28.680 of like you need to go fifty to fifty because 0:11:28.679 --> 0:11:31.360 it's also your house. Oh I okay, Look I have 0:11:31.360 --> 0:11:33.280 a few other feelings about this. What do you do 0:11:33.320 --> 0:11:35.400 if she says it was me, like, there's the whole 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:37.520 other thing she might instead of like being like, oh, 0:11:37.559 --> 0:11:39.520 I was embarrassed. I didn't want to tell you. There's 0:11:39.559 --> 0:11:41.839 a good chance that she might gaslight the shit out 0:11:41.880 --> 0:11:45.199 of you and say was me. Yeah. I think if 0:11:45.200 --> 0:11:47.400 she says it's not you, you need to just put 0:11:47.400 --> 0:11:48.560 it to her and say, look, I was in that 0:11:48.640 --> 0:11:50.400 room that day. It wasn't there. The only person that 0:11:50.440 --> 0:11:52.480 went in was you, and then it was there like 0:11:52.920 --> 0:11:56.079 it's science hashtag science' that's my answer to everything. When 0:11:56.120 --> 0:11:58.199 stuff goes wrong, you need to address it with some 0:11:58.240 --> 0:12:00.640 sort of immediacy. I think it's the big lesson in 0:12:00.679 --> 0:12:02.679 this because it's really hard to go back a week later, 0:12:02.760 --> 0:12:04.880 two weeks later, three weeks later, and say, a few 0:12:04.920 --> 0:12:07.840 weeks ago you burnt the carpet, and she's gonna say 0:12:08.200 --> 0:12:11.560 it wasn't me. Maybe you've had somebody else over. It's COVID. 0:12:11.600 --> 0:12:13.480 You've definitely not had anyone else over. But do you 0:12:13.559 --> 0:12:15.240 know what I mean? Like if you had addressed it 0:12:15.280 --> 0:12:17.960 at the time and just been like, oh, dude, there's 0:12:18.000 --> 0:12:19.960 marks on the carpet from where you put your mermaid 0:12:20.000 --> 0:12:22.400 wand I think this would have been resolved very quickly. 0:12:22.440 --> 0:12:25.600 But sometimes we're so scared of confrontation and sometimes we 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:27.920 don't really know how to go about things. And I 0:12:28.080 --> 0:12:30.960 also blame maybe this is a big call, but I 0:12:31.040 --> 0:12:34.640 blame text messaging. I think we are so scared sometimes 0:12:34.640 --> 0:12:37.319 of having conversations in real life, of just saying, oh, 0:12:37.400 --> 0:12:39.040 you know, this has happened, because we think it's going 0:12:39.120 --> 0:12:42.800 to be huge confrontation, and we are so reliant to 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:46.440 having those sorts of conversations via text message that we 0:12:46.600 --> 0:12:50.040 have robbed ourselves of the ability to have conversations that 0:12:50.080 --> 0:12:53.440 shouldn't be aggressive. That shouldn't be confrontational in just a 0:12:53.480 --> 0:12:55.920 really matter of fact way. I think that you kind 0:12:55.920 --> 0:12:57.960 of did yourself a little bit of a disservice by 0:12:58.000 --> 0:13:01.000 not pulling it up at the time when it happen. Okay, 0:13:01.080 --> 0:13:04.240 now for what you do now, I think you have 0:13:04.280 --> 0:13:05.600 to give her a call, And I think it's a 0:13:05.600 --> 0:13:08.120 phone call conversation. Like I said, it's not a text message. 0:13:08.200 --> 0:13:11.000 Give her a call and say to her, I saw 0:13:11.080 --> 0:13:12.960 this happen on the night, like I want you to 0:13:13.000 --> 0:13:15.120 know that, Like, this isn't something that I'm just calling 0:13:15.120 --> 0:13:17.199 you about now. I didn't want to ruin the night. 0:13:17.280 --> 0:13:19.079 I wanted us to still have a really great time. 0:13:19.440 --> 0:13:21.520 But on the night I saw that there was damage 0:13:21.559 --> 0:13:23.120 to the carpet. I just I'm going to send you 0:13:23.160 --> 0:13:24.880 some photos so that you know how bad it is. 0:13:25.240 --> 0:13:27.840 And unfortunately the real estate agent has asked me to 0:13:27.920 --> 0:13:29.760 replace it, or you could say, do you know what, 0:13:29.800 --> 0:13:32.559 I'm gonna wait until our my bond is over and 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:35.120 everything else, my rental agreement's over, and I'm gonna see 0:13:35.120 --> 0:13:36.800 if they charge me for it, and if they charge 0:13:36.840 --> 0:13:38.480 me for it, I'll let you know how much it is. 0:13:39.200 --> 0:13:41.120 Of course, you can't force her to pay it, but 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:43.360 you can ask her. I think if your friend damages 0:13:43.400 --> 0:13:45.920 your house because there was super neglectful and left a 0:13:45.960 --> 0:13:49.000 fucking hot iron on the ground, you can ask them 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:50.400 for a bit of money for it. You shouldn't have 0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:53.240 to front the cost for that. Girl. First question, where 0:13:53.240 --> 0:13:55.000 the hell are you going? Where are you doing your 0:13:55.000 --> 0:13:57.320 hair for? Is that for supermarket? Or like, what are 0:13:57.360 --> 0:13:59.480 you doing? Why do you have a life? Because Australia 0:13:59.559 --> 0:14:01.280 is in Lockdow for the best part of a year, 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:02.840 so I want to know where you're going. Is there 0:14:02.880 --> 0:14:05.760 a secret underground party? No? Exactly what Laura said, that's 0:14:05.800 --> 0:14:09.320 that's all absolutely correct. Text messages are fucking cooked. Sometimes 0:14:09.360 --> 0:14:11.160 they get you can you just can take them the 0:14:11.160 --> 0:14:13.640 wrong way way too easily. The only thing I don't 0:14:13.800 --> 0:14:16.040 know if I agree with Laura and I love when 0:14:16.040 --> 0:14:18.600 we disagree is I don't know if I agree with 0:14:18.720 --> 0:14:21.280 waiting until I don't know if I agree with saying, hey, look, 0:14:21.320 --> 0:14:23.400 let's wait till the Lisa's up in twelve months, and 0:14:23.560 --> 0:14:24.920 if they take it, I'll let you know, because in 0:14:24.960 --> 0:14:27.240 twelve months you're not going to want to go back 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:28.880 and be like, hey, you remember twelve months ago, Well 0:14:28.880 --> 0:14:30.960 you own me three hundred dollars. She's going to be like, girl, 0:14:31.040 --> 0:14:33.280 get over it. I think you just need to say now, 0:14:33.320 --> 0:14:36.000 like I'll get a quote, just give me that half 0:14:36.040 --> 0:14:38.320 of the money. If I don't have to pay you, 0:14:38.720 --> 0:14:40.120 I'll give it back. And I think you do it 0:14:40.240 --> 0:14:42.440 reverse way, so if the landlord doesn't make me take it, 0:14:42.480 --> 0:14:44.280 I'll give you the two hundred dollars back. But that 0:14:44.360 --> 0:14:46.040 way it's going to be so awkward for you to 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:48.120 ask down the track when the bond is up. So 0:14:48.240 --> 0:14:49.760 that's what I would do. But you need to front 0:14:49.800 --> 0:14:52.160 it straight away. And if this does happen to anyone 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:54.520 else's kind of a thing, take a photo of it 0:14:54.560 --> 0:14:57.200 straight away, purely because then it's timestamp so if you 0:14:57.240 --> 0:14:58.680 can see it, it's going to be on your phone. 0:14:58.720 --> 0:15:00.320 It has the date and it has the time. And 0:15:00.360 --> 0:15:04.640 I think whenever you need evidence in these situations, I 0:15:04.680 --> 0:15:06.600 agree with you. Now I take it back, yes, one 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:09.280 hundred percent, do what brit said. Don't do what I said. 0:15:09.520 --> 0:15:11.440 But I also want to say, from someone who has 0:15:11.600 --> 0:15:15.320 actually damaged carpet in a rental property so they don't 0:15:15.480 --> 0:15:17.840 replace the whole room. If anyone's ever worried about this, 0:15:17.880 --> 0:15:19.320 I'm just going to give you a hot tip. They 0:15:19.320 --> 0:15:21.640 don't replace the carpet in the entire room if it's 0:15:21.680 --> 0:15:23.320 just a little section. What they do is they cut 0:15:23.320 --> 0:15:25.800 out a section and then inlay the carpet into that section. 0:15:25.880 --> 0:15:28.640 So it's actually way cheaper, especially if your landlord has 0:15:28.720 --> 0:15:31.520 carpet like from when they built the house or bought 0:15:31.560 --> 0:15:33.960 the house, like hidden somewhere. Lots of people do. It 0:15:34.040 --> 0:15:35.760 could be not as big a problem as what you 0:15:35.800 --> 0:15:38.080 think it is. And I think we always go into 0:15:38.120 --> 0:15:40.640 these situations thinking it's going to be worst case scenario, 0:15:40.680 --> 0:15:43.880 and it very very rarely is worst case scenario. This 0:15:44.000 --> 0:15:46.080 just reminds me of something, and I can't believe. I 0:15:46.080 --> 0:15:47.840 can't believe I forgot it, and I can't believe I'm 0:15:48.160 --> 0:15:51.520 I actually did it. I mean same but different about 0:15:51.520 --> 0:15:54.120 speeling something on the carpet. I was at my friend's wedding. 0:15:57.040 --> 0:15:59.080 This is like the worst thing you could ever do 0:15:59.640 --> 0:16:03.960 in existence. I was at my friend's wedding. I went up. 0:16:04.000 --> 0:16:05.800 I'd had a few drinks, but I wasn't drunk. I 0:16:05.840 --> 0:16:09.160 went up to say congratulations, sit with her, say hello 0:16:09.200 --> 0:16:10.640 for a little while. And I was sitting at her 0:16:10.800 --> 0:16:13.720 table at the long table, you know, like where they 0:16:13.760 --> 0:16:15.160 do the speeches and where they sit at the front, 0:16:15.240 --> 0:16:18.880 and I, for some fucking reason, I decided to drink 0:16:18.920 --> 0:16:21.280 red wine. I tried to decided to take my red 0:16:21.320 --> 0:16:24.720 wine up there. I spilt, Oh my god, my red 0:16:24.760 --> 0:16:28.320 wine on her wedding dress. I'm not kidding. At the wedding, 0:16:28.400 --> 0:16:29.960 at the reception, it wasn't even at the end of 0:16:30.000 --> 0:16:32.200 the night. It was we had hours to go. And 0:16:32.280 --> 0:16:35.000 I have never wanted to sink into the ground more 0:16:35.000 --> 0:16:36.840 in my life. And there was nothing I couldn't pretend 0:16:36.880 --> 0:16:38.680 that wasn't me. I couldn't do anything, and I was 0:16:38.840 --> 0:16:41.200 I was aside myself. I was in tears, and I 0:16:41.240 --> 0:16:43.480 was like, I have ruined your life. I was like, 0:16:43.600 --> 0:16:46.000 what can I do? I'm so sorry? She was blessed 0:16:46.000 --> 0:16:48.080 her soul. It was all down her dress. To be fair, 0:16:48.120 --> 0:16:51.000 it was like the bottom like probably three feet of 0:16:51.040 --> 0:16:54.160 the dress. So it wasn't crisis. I like that You're 0:16:54.200 --> 0:16:56.720 still trying to You're still trying to justify it to yourself. 0:16:56.760 --> 0:16:58.640 You're like, to be fair, it wasn't that bad. No, 0:16:58.760 --> 0:17:01.800 it's like so cooked. The chefs ran and got like 0:17:01.880 --> 0:17:04.919 a leader of soda water and they just drenched it 0:17:05.000 --> 0:17:08.240 in soda water. So she has this drenched dress half 0:17:08.240 --> 0:17:10.840 the red wine and they scrubbed it and it. Guys, 0:17:10.960 --> 0:17:14.000 take this as a tot tip. Most of the red 0:17:14.040 --> 0:17:16.000 wine came out of the dress because we got it immediately. 0:17:16.040 --> 0:17:18.679