WEBVTT - What To Do When You're Feeling Stuck 🍯 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:02.640 I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the 0:00:02.720 --> 0:00:06.279 land on which this episode is being recorded, the Combomb 0:00:06.320 --> 0:00:11.080 Merry people. They've been having conversations and telling stories on 0:00:11.119 --> 0:00:14.280 this land for thousands of years, and we show our 0:00:14.320 --> 0:00:19.240 gratitude and respect for their contribution to our environment and culture. 0:00:25.560 --> 0:00:31.480 This is Rise and Conquer, the podcast where we strive 0:00:31.680 --> 0:00:37.480 to become the highest version of ourselves through curious conversations, 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:43.080 healthy mindsets, laughter, connection, and a deep desire to evolve. 0:00:44.200 --> 0:00:50.800 I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson. Join me as we explore parenthood, business, manifestation, 0:00:51.080 --> 0:00:54.800 and so much more. It's positive, it's practical, and it's 0:00:54.800 --> 0:00:58.320 about putting you in the driver's seat of your own life. 0:00:58.680 --> 0:01:06.560 Are you ready? Hello, my loves, and welcome back to 0:01:06.560 --> 0:01:09.920 the Rise and Conquered Potty. I'm so excited to be 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:13.760 back in your ears in twenty twenty five. I know 0:01:13.800 --> 0:01:16.480 we've been in twenty twenty five for a while, but 0:01:17.160 --> 0:01:20.520 I just wanted to say happy New Year, and I 0:01:20.560 --> 0:01:25.320 hope that you guys are feeling fresh. You're feeling inspired 0:01:25.560 --> 0:01:29.680 and motivated and all the things. I had such a 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:33.960 lovely holiday. My parents stayed with us for about two weeks, 0:01:34.120 --> 0:01:37.280 which was beautiful because obviously just a lot of family 0:01:37.360 --> 0:01:40.760 time and my parents just they treat me like a 0:01:40.840 --> 0:01:43.000 child in the way of they just look after me. 0:01:43.240 --> 0:01:47.800 They cook and clean, and you know, they're just very doting. 0:01:48.040 --> 0:01:52.040 So I love when they stay with us. So in 0:01:52.120 --> 0:01:57.160 this episode, I want to talk about if you're feeling 0:01:57.320 --> 0:02:03.120 stuck or confused and you're like, I'm just not certain, 0:02:03.520 --> 0:02:07.880 I just don't know, I'm not sure. Obviously, you know, 0:02:08.040 --> 0:02:13.519 if you want a very generic answer, you can chat 0:02:13.600 --> 0:02:19.480 GPT and you will get very generic stuff like, you know, reflect, 0:02:20.000 --> 0:02:24.959 reconnect to your why, journal through it, break it down, 0:02:25.120 --> 0:02:29.440 declutter your environment, experiment and tests, and let go of 0:02:29.520 --> 0:02:33.280 perfection and look, that is amazing And I feel like 0:02:33.800 --> 0:02:36.680 those things, you know, can really really help if you're 0:02:36.840 --> 0:02:41.480 not feeling clarity. But I wanted to bring in another 0:02:41.600 --> 0:02:46.960 conversation which just might be something that you haven't thought about. 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:51.519 With the new year, most of us are looking for clarity. 0:02:51.680 --> 0:02:55.880 We are looking to feel certain, we are looking for Okay, 0:02:55.880 --> 0:02:58.519 this is what I'm about, this is what I'm going 0:02:58.600 --> 0:03:01.720 to do, and I understand it and I have a 0:03:01.800 --> 0:03:05.680 plan and I feel really really good. So when we're 0:03:05.720 --> 0:03:08.600 not feeling like that, and we do feel this confusion, 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:14.040 this uncertainty, not having clarity. I do believe it can 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:20.760 be limiting beliefs and blocks that we are giving ourselves. 0:03:21.480 --> 0:03:26.040 And when you unmask why it's happening and why it 0:03:26.120 --> 0:03:30.600 might be happening and really kind of dig deeper, you 0:03:30.639 --> 0:03:33.760 can then find the clarity. Or if it's not finding 0:03:33.840 --> 0:03:38.040 the clarity, it's just like realizing that you're probably overthinking it. 0:03:38.400 --> 0:03:40.960 And I know, like clarity is one of the biggest 0:03:41.000 --> 0:03:46.000 blocks and limiting beliefs that keep us small and keep 0:03:46.120 --> 0:03:48.360 us stuck. So that's what we're going to do in 0:03:48.360 --> 0:03:51.320 today's episode. We're going to unmask how you can move 0:03:51.400 --> 0:03:58.680 through uncertainty and step into your next level with clarity. 0:03:58.720 --> 0:04:02.520 I wanted to give you, I guess, like shadow work 0:04:02.600 --> 0:04:07.880 perspectives of lack of clarity. Again, like you said, like 0:04:07.920 --> 0:04:11.880 if you want a very generic answer, I'm sure there's 0:04:11.880 --> 0:04:15.640 a lot of like podcasts and youtubes and stuff about 0:04:15.640 --> 0:04:17.880 it where it's just like generic answers of like clean 0:04:17.880 --> 0:04:20.840 your environment, do a least blah blah blah. But I 0:04:20.960 --> 0:04:26.920 wanted to really get you to think about could this 0:04:27.200 --> 0:04:33.880 lack of clarity be you not wanting to move forward 0:04:34.520 --> 0:04:42.840 because subconsciously you know how uncomfortable it is, how this 0:04:43.040 --> 0:04:48.920 next action might be actually the thing that quantum leaps you, 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:55.120 and that might scare you because often we can use 0:04:55.400 --> 0:05:00.880 lack of clarity as a reason to why we haven't moved. 0:05:01.000 --> 0:05:03.000 So if you know, your friend or your mom or 0:05:03.000 --> 0:05:05.920 your sister's like, well, if you don't like your job, 0:05:06.200 --> 0:05:08.479 why don't you quit, And it's like, oh, well, I'm 0:05:08.520 --> 0:05:10.640 just I'm not sure what I want to do. This 0:05:10.800 --> 0:05:14.640 might be consciously or unconsciously, and so it can stop 0:05:14.920 --> 0:05:20.520 us from moving, and you can become obsessed with trying 0:05:20.560 --> 0:05:24.479 to find the next level, trying to be clear on 0:05:24.520 --> 0:05:26.839 the next step, trying to be clear on what you 0:05:26.920 --> 0:05:30.920 have to do next, rather than taking action. Do you 0:05:31.000 --> 0:05:32.839 see what I mean? Like you're saying you're stuck, but 0:05:32.920 --> 0:05:37.039 that's what's keeping you stuck. So if you do know 0:05:37.240 --> 0:05:39.719 that you want different and you want to move different, 0:05:39.720 --> 0:05:42.280 and you want something different, and you're talking to your 0:05:42.279 --> 0:05:44.919 friends about it and your you know, your mom and 0:05:44.920 --> 0:05:48.559 your sister and what not, but you're like, I really 0:05:48.560 --> 0:05:50.960 hate my job. I know it's just not for me anymore. 0:05:50.960 --> 0:05:53.280 I don't want to do something different, but I'm just 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:55.200 not certain on what I want to do, so I'm 0:05:55.240 --> 0:05:57.760 going to stay in it. Do you see how like 0:05:58.080 --> 0:06:03.440 the uncertainty is keeping you in that cycle? So again, 0:06:03.960 --> 0:06:08.840 we are creatures of comfort. We love to be comfortable, 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:13.120 and I get it. It's like when we are comfortable, 0:06:14.080 --> 0:06:18.040 we are certain. Even if it means you're certain of 0:06:18.200 --> 0:06:20.839 the outcome you don't want, that is still going to 0:06:20.880 --> 0:06:24.320 be more comfortable than when you're not certain of the 0:06:24.320 --> 0:06:26.720 outcome you don't want, but that might be the thing 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:30.120 you want, if that makes sense. So then rather than 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:36.080 taking action, we will just continuously say I'm uncertain, I'm unclear, 0:06:36.279 --> 0:06:39.160 and it feels good because we have identified that we 0:06:39.200 --> 0:06:42.679 don't want to stay where we're at, But it gets 0:06:42.760 --> 0:06:47.080 to keep us where we're at. And I really think, 0:06:47.320 --> 0:06:51.000 you know, if it's not consciously, it's this subconscious thing 0:06:51.279 --> 0:06:54.599 that you're doing. And it also protects your ego because 0:06:55.160 --> 0:06:58.360 our ego again is a beautiful thing where it does 0:06:58.480 --> 0:07:02.159 keep us safe and comfortable. So your ego will give 0:07:02.200 --> 0:07:06.160 you things like, oh, well we can't move towards certain Well, 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:09.880 you're just not clear about this, whereas really it's about 0:07:10.360 --> 0:07:14.440 taking the action and moving through it and getting clear 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:23.400 as you go. So this can show up in a 0:07:23.440 --> 0:07:27.640 few ways. So you might think about what you want 0:07:27.800 --> 0:07:32.120 and then it just immediately scares you, and a limiting 0:07:32.200 --> 0:07:36.800 belief pops up of why you shouldn't do that thing, 0:07:37.560 --> 0:07:40.880 and you squash the dream, and then you lean into well, 0:07:40.920 --> 0:07:44.160 I'm just not sure what's next for me. An example 0:07:44.320 --> 0:07:46.720 of this is maybe you're like I said you maybe 0:07:46.720 --> 0:07:48.960 you're stuck in that job you hate, but you say 0:07:49.040 --> 0:07:52.360 I'm not sure what I want next, but you do 0:07:52.600 --> 0:07:55.200 know what you want next, Like, you might not be 0:07:55.360 --> 0:07:59.520 very specific on like I want to be blah blah blah, 0:07:59.760 --> 0:08:02.840 but I'm sure you know how you want to feel 0:08:03.000 --> 0:08:06.160 when you wake up, how you want to feel with 0:08:06.520 --> 0:08:08.720 the people around you. So maybe it's like you don't 0:08:08.760 --> 0:08:11.120 like the job you're in, but you know you want 0:08:11.120 --> 0:08:15.080 to be in a job where your boss respects you, 0:08:15.080 --> 0:08:20.200 your other colleagues inspire and motivate you. You have flexibility 0:08:20.280 --> 0:08:24.320 for your side hustle, you can pick your work hours, 0:08:24.400 --> 0:08:26.720 you know, blah blah blah. Even if you're like, I 0:08:26.760 --> 0:08:31.000 don't know the exact thing, you will know the feeling. 0:08:31.560 --> 0:08:37.080 You will know your values and like the surrounding specifics. 0:08:37.320 --> 0:08:41.719 I guarantee you. But this is when the confusion comes in, 0:08:42.000 --> 0:08:46.160 because it's easier to stay still. And that's the thing is, like, 0:08:46.200 --> 0:08:48.120 you know, maybe you want to jump to like a 0:08:48.200 --> 0:08:51.560 whole new industry, and that really scares you, and that 0:08:51.640 --> 0:08:56.600 really scares your ego. I've had instances with clients with 0:08:56.760 --> 0:09:01.839 you know, my alumni where they are saying, I'm confused, 0:09:02.040 --> 0:09:05.320 I'm like blah blah blah, and they actually believe it, 0:09:05.360 --> 0:09:08.240 like they're not lying to me. And then like once 0:09:08.320 --> 0:09:11.680 we understand what their ego is trying to do, once 0:09:11.679 --> 0:09:15.520 we understand how subconsciously they're scared, they don't want to move, 0:09:15.559 --> 0:09:20.000 they don't want to be uncomfortable, no joke, they get clarity, 0:09:20.320 --> 0:09:25.040 but it's like their ego will literally make them feel confused. 0:09:25.600 --> 0:09:29.439 Like I'm definitely not saying you're lying about the confusion 0:09:29.960 --> 0:09:34.280 or the lack of clarity. I'm saying, can you dig deeper? 0:09:34.640 --> 0:09:39.280 And is there a level of you are actually extremely 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:43.240 clear on what you want, but you're scared or there's 0:09:43.280 --> 0:09:46.400 a limiting belief or it's easier to sit in the 0:09:47.240 --> 0:09:50.559 blah blah blah, but I'm not sure blah blah blah. 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:54.440 But I'm just feeling confused. I actually caught myself out 0:09:54.480 --> 0:09:57.280 with this this morning. I was on a walk with 0:09:57.320 --> 0:10:02.720 my partnerships manager, so she helps me any relationships, so 0:10:02.840 --> 0:10:05.960 you know, like my partnership with LSKD. I don't really 0:10:06.120 --> 0:10:08.240 do a lot of ads or anything these days. But 0:10:09.000 --> 0:10:11.760 she's a long time girlfriend too, So we went on 0:10:11.760 --> 0:10:14.880 a walk together and I was saying the words I 0:10:14.960 --> 0:10:17.520 just feel really confused about like the content I want 0:10:17.520 --> 0:10:20.520 to create and like who I want to be on Instagram, 0:10:22.200 --> 0:10:25.600 And she kind of turned around and she's like, Georgia, 0:10:25.800 --> 0:10:29.199 what are you talking about. You know exactly who you are, 0:10:29.679 --> 0:10:33.000 you know exactly what content you enjoy, what you want 0:10:33.000 --> 0:10:36.120 to watch on Instagram, who you want to be on Instagram. 0:10:36.720 --> 0:10:41.280 You're just not being maybe completely honest with yourself about 0:10:41.320 --> 0:10:43.760 like how you want to go about it, or like 0:10:44.400 --> 0:10:48.280 you're limiting beliefs or blocks or you know, like maybe 0:10:48.320 --> 0:10:51.200 you're scared what people will think, call blah blah blah blah. 0:10:51.240 --> 0:10:56.240 And I was like, you know what, You're actually completely right. 0:10:56.440 --> 0:10:59.680 I do know, And this is like a question you 0:10:59.720 --> 0:11:04.680 can So it's like if anything was possible, if whatever 0:11:05.120 --> 0:11:08.400 outcome you want was possible, if it didn't cost money, 0:11:08.480 --> 0:11:11.200 if it didn't hurt anyone, if no one could say 0:11:11.360 --> 0:11:16.240 anything to you, what would you do that will bring 0:11:16.280 --> 0:11:19.240 clarity because most of the time it's like we do 0:11:19.320 --> 0:11:23.000 have clarity, we're just worried what other people think. We're 0:11:23.040 --> 0:11:27.760 worried that it's too uncomfortable. We're worried that we won't succeed, 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:31.800 We're worried that it's going to be too hard, it's 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:35.600 going to be too much, et cetera, et cetera. So 0:11:35.760 --> 0:11:39.480 I want you guys to just be very conscious of 0:11:39.559 --> 0:11:44.120 where you're saying I'm stuck, where you're saying, you know, 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:48.360 I don't have clarity, where you're saying I'm confused. I'm 0:11:48.400 --> 0:11:52.440 not sure. It's fine if you feel like that big 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:57.079 dig deeper, because I guarantee you that's not actually the problem. 0:11:57.480 --> 0:12:02.480 The problem is like in my scenario, I was caring 0:12:02.679 --> 0:12:06.600 about like showing up in a certain way, and I 0:12:06.640 --> 0:12:09.200 said to her, oh my god, like and I had 0:12:09.280 --> 0:12:13.680 the aha moment of I think now that I am 0:12:14.200 --> 0:12:18.200 a bigger, you know, Instagram account, if not all my 0:12:18.360 --> 0:12:23.439 content is doing extremely well, I feel like a failure 0:12:23.480 --> 0:12:25.760 because that's not it. But it's like I have such 0:12:25.800 --> 0:12:28.480 a high expectation of my content. So when it's like 0:12:29.040 --> 0:12:31.720 not doing all extremely well, I'm like, what's the point, 0:12:32.520 --> 0:12:36.800 which is so dramatic of me? And so then I 0:12:36.840 --> 0:12:38.719 get in this like, well I don't even know what 0:12:38.840 --> 0:12:41.280 anyone wants for me or blah blah blah, and it's 0:12:41.360 --> 0:12:45.160 so far from what I know and who I am. 0:12:45.840 --> 0:12:51.040 But again, it's all encompassed around limiting beliefs and my 0:12:51.280 --> 0:12:55.199 ego trying to keep me in this place where I'm 0:12:55.200 --> 0:13:00.000 not getting criticism. What I've realized, sometimes I won't try 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:03.719 very hard because like if things don't go well or 0:13:03.800 --> 0:13:05.959 I don't get the result I want, I'm like, well 0:13:06.040 --> 0:13:09.080 that makes sense because I wasn't really trying. I'm sure 0:13:09.120 --> 0:13:11.080 a lot of you use that that. It's like one 0:13:11.120 --> 0:13:14.320 of my huge things that I do. I will deliberately 0:13:14.760 --> 0:13:17.800 not put effort into something, but still like kind of 0:13:17.920 --> 0:13:20.800 do it. And so when it flops or fails, I'm like, oh, 0:13:20.800 --> 0:13:26.959 well that makes sense, And it's such a big shadow 0:13:27.040 --> 0:13:30.360 of mine because I get to hide behind it, I 0:13:30.400 --> 0:13:34.079 get to not move, I get to be okay being subpar, 0:13:34.520 --> 0:13:37.320 and you know, all those sorts of things. So that 0:13:37.360 --> 0:13:39.400 went often a bit of a tangent of all my 0:13:39.679 --> 0:13:42.000 own shit. But I just wanted to give you an example. 0:13:47.400 --> 0:13:49.560 I think the first thing is just being really really 0:13:49.600 --> 0:13:54.199 honest about like what could you be benefiting from not 0:13:54.280 --> 0:13:58.960 having clarity? Doesn't mean you're more comfortable? Does it mean 0:13:59.000 --> 0:14:02.120 you get too plain about things? Like you know what 0:14:02.160 --> 0:14:05.120 I said about the scenario with your mum or your sister. 0:14:05.320 --> 0:14:07.880 It's like, do you get to constantly have that conversation 0:14:07.960 --> 0:14:10.760 of like, oh, but I'm not sure what I'm going 0:14:10.800 --> 0:14:13.920 to do. I don't I'm not sure what's next. I'm confused, 0:14:14.360 --> 0:14:17.520 Like we actually get hormones, we get dope. Mean when 0:14:17.679 --> 0:14:19.480 we get too winch and complain, that's why a lot 0:14:19.480 --> 0:14:21.400 of us do it. So it's like, is that you 0:14:21.440 --> 0:14:25.800 get to stay in this like damsel distress story? So 0:14:25.880 --> 0:14:27.800 I think like the first thing is just being very 0:14:27.920 --> 0:14:31.760 honest of like what are you benefiting from not moving forward? 0:14:32.280 --> 0:14:36.920 Like me, I'm benefiting from not trying as hard as 0:14:36.960 --> 0:14:39.760 I know I could in certain aspects because if it 0:14:39.840 --> 0:14:42.840 flops or fails, I don't have to be disappointed. So 0:14:42.960 --> 0:14:46.960 that's how I benefit from that, And for my ego, 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:53.440 that feels better because it's more comfortable. The next thing 0:14:53.560 --> 0:14:55.800 that you could really think about to overcome. This is 0:14:55.880 --> 0:15:00.320 when something pops up because guys, like your brain is 0:15:00.520 --> 0:15:05.960 so intelligent that it is giving you solutions all the time. 0:15:06.040 --> 0:15:09.120 Like it's just it's how we are wired. If you 0:15:09.640 --> 0:15:12.120 are squashing it or saying no, I'm confused, no, I 0:15:12.120 --> 0:15:17.080 don't have clarity. I guarantee you it's because limiting beliefs 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:19.360 are there and you really need to look at them 0:15:19.760 --> 0:15:22.760 and change them into a core belief. So, like I 0:15:22.840 --> 0:15:25.600 was saying with you know the content of like, well, 0:15:25.800 --> 0:15:28.400 if I post the content I want, I'm going to 0:15:28.440 --> 0:15:32.080 be criticized. That is a limiting belief. I don't actually 0:15:32.160 --> 0:15:35.400 even really have evidence for that. So what limiting beliefs 0:15:35.440 --> 0:15:37.960 are coming up? And how can you change that to 0:15:38.000 --> 0:15:40.840 a core belief in the work that I do. Limiting 0:15:40.880 --> 0:15:46.320 beliefs are beliefs that limit you clearly, and we all 0:15:46.360 --> 0:15:49.400 have them. Limiting beliefs can feel like truths, but they're 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:52.760 not truths, but they do usually have evidence. So we 0:15:53.040 --> 0:15:57.000 often have limiting beliefs because there's like something that happened 0:15:57.120 --> 0:16:01.200 in a previous scenario that made us believe that. It's like, 0:16:01.320 --> 0:16:04.400 for example, this is a very like blanket one. But 0:16:04.440 --> 0:16:09.200 it's like if your dad wasn't around when you grew up, 0:16:09.360 --> 0:16:11.640 you might have a belief that it's like men don't 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:15.200 show up, and it's because you have evidence that was 0:16:15.240 --> 0:16:19.320 your experience. So to you that feels like, no, that's truth, 0:16:19.440 --> 0:16:22.760 like that's how it is, but it's not actually truth 0:16:22.840 --> 0:16:24.600 because we know there's a lot of men who do 0:16:24.680 --> 0:16:28.840 show up who are amazing dads. But that is your experience. 0:16:28.920 --> 0:16:32.760 But that would cause you to have limiting beliefs around 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:36.680 then maybe future partners or bosses or you know what not. 0:16:37.040 --> 0:16:41.000 Basically think of it. Limiting beliefs give us biases and 0:16:41.040 --> 0:16:43.480 it's like, well I can't do this because of that, 0:16:43.920 --> 0:16:46.600 So just be conscious of your limiting beliefs. Again, I 0:16:46.640 --> 0:16:49.520 probably explained to that very quickly, and I do whole 0:16:49.600 --> 0:16:52.840 courses on this. It is very deep work. So just 0:16:53.040 --> 0:16:55.440 notice the limiting belief and when I say change it 0:16:55.440 --> 0:17:00.000 to a core belief, it's just flipping what that app is. 0:17:00.160 --> 0:17:02.960 So for example that I'm going to be criticized if 0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:06.200 I create content and the core belief, you know, it 0:17:06.240 --> 0:17:10.520 could be an opposite belief of the more authentic I 0:17:10.600 --> 0:17:14.320 am on social media and the more authentic content I 0:17:14.440 --> 0:17:17.760 put out the more popular I become, and that's the 0:17:17.760 --> 0:17:20.840 core belief. It's the opposite. And so that's what I 0:17:20.840 --> 0:17:22.680 really want you to do, is like notice the limiting 0:17:22.680 --> 0:17:26.800 beliefs around your lack of clarity and then start changing them. 0:17:27.200 --> 0:17:30.639 And see because even saying that core belief, I had 0:17:31.119 --> 0:17:33.879 a reaction my body where I'm like, oh, yeah, like 0:17:33.960 --> 0:17:36.000 I even know that I actually have evidence of that 0:17:36.040 --> 0:17:39.080 core belief. So what you need to do with the 0:17:39.119 --> 0:17:40.760 core belief so it is like you do need to 0:17:40.840 --> 0:17:43.199 believe it. So it's like you constantly journal on it, 0:17:43.280 --> 0:17:45.280 you write it down, and you get it to the 0:17:45.320 --> 0:17:47.760 point where your ego can grab it and be like, Okay, 0:17:47.800 --> 0:17:50.200 that is a new core belief that does feel safe, 0:17:50.640 --> 0:17:54.119 and that's when you'll notice the clarity you know, coming 0:17:54.160 --> 0:17:58.280 through and the confusion lifting. So guys, that's again I 0:17:58.320 --> 0:18:01.320 just feel like that's something a lot of people don't 0:18:01.400 --> 0:18:03.879 think about when they think they're stuck or they don't 0:18:03.880 --> 0:18:07.399 have clarity. I wanted to talk about, you know, some 0:18:07.600 --> 0:18:10.480 other things that might you know, be the shadow effect 0:18:10.680 --> 0:18:14.680 of confusion and not having clarity. They're the two things 0:18:14.680 --> 0:18:20.160 of like perfectionism and thinking that you need to know everything. 0:18:20.960 --> 0:18:24.600 I honestly believe us as humans we have this thing 0:18:24.680 --> 0:18:28.359 where we're like, but just tell me it's gonna work out, 0:18:28.520 --> 0:18:30.960 and then I'll do the thing. Like I said before, 0:18:31.000 --> 0:18:32.919 it's like, well, just tell me if I put in 0:18:32.960 --> 0:18:36.200 a lot of effort, it's gonna succeed, and then I'll 0:18:36.200 --> 0:18:40.600 put in a lot of effort. But it's not how 0:18:40.640 --> 0:18:45.280 it works. You need to release the need to know everything. 0:18:45.359 --> 0:18:50.320 And this is coming from someone who was previously absolute 0:18:50.440 --> 0:18:55.000 control freak in everything I did and also huge perfectionists. 0:18:55.640 --> 0:18:58.480 So like, releasing the need to know everything is so 0:18:58.520 --> 0:19:02.160 important because I guarantee you you're like, I hate my job, 0:19:02.240 --> 0:19:03.879 I hate what I'm doing, but I'm not clear on 0:19:03.960 --> 0:19:06.800 what i want. Like I said, I'm sure you know 0:19:07.000 --> 0:19:08.840 what time you want to wake up, how you want 0:19:08.880 --> 0:19:11.600 to feel around the people that you want to work with, 0:19:11.760 --> 0:19:13.880 how you want to feel with clients, how you want 0:19:13.920 --> 0:19:17.359 to feel during your day, Like you would know those, 0:19:17.760 --> 0:19:21.960 but there would be things that you don't know, like 0:19:22.480 --> 0:19:25.679 maybe the exact job. Maybe you know if you'll be 0:19:25.720 --> 0:19:28.600 good at it, like those sorts of things that would 0:19:28.720 --> 0:19:31.160 keep you in the well. I'm not going to take 0:19:31.200 --> 0:19:34.880 action because I don't know, a bit left field here, 0:19:34.960 --> 0:19:40.920 but like with manifestation, like surrendering with manifestation, your manifestation 0:19:41.520 --> 0:19:45.199 and being the you know this or something better, I'm 0:19:45.240 --> 0:19:47.520 going to let the universe guide me. I'm going to 0:19:47.600 --> 0:19:51.560 surrender is like the biggest block that most people have 0:19:51.640 --> 0:19:57.240 with manifestations because it's like ordering, you know, an Amazon parcel, 0:19:57.880 --> 0:20:00.720 and then once you order it, like instantly going to 0:20:00.760 --> 0:20:03.399 the door and like looking for the postman even though 0:20:03.880 --> 0:20:07.480 you know you ordered it, you clicked it, You've ordered 0:20:07.480 --> 0:20:11.240 a thousand items before, and you know it's going to come, 0:20:11.320 --> 0:20:14.159 but it's like you're constantly checking the door, you're checking 0:20:14.200 --> 0:20:16.760 the order, You're like checking, oh, where's the postman now? 0:20:16.800 --> 0:20:21.520 Like you can imagine your experience during that time compared 0:20:21.520 --> 0:20:23.960 to if you just shop and then you wait for 0:20:24.000 --> 0:20:25.720 it to rock up and then you go do something 0:20:25.760 --> 0:20:27.320 else and then it rocks up and you're like, oh, 0:20:27.359 --> 0:20:31.199 it's here, amazing. And I think most of us do 0:20:31.359 --> 0:20:35.480 get stuck in this confusion or lack of clarity because 0:20:36.000 --> 0:20:40.080 we don't know, so we choose to stay frozen. That 0:20:40.119 --> 0:20:45.639 feels better to us. And again it's like in the unknown, 0:20:46.119 --> 0:20:50.560 could you thrive in the unknown? Could you actually figure 0:20:50.600 --> 0:20:53.359 out something that It's like, oh my god, I never 0:20:53.600 --> 0:20:56.040 thought in a million years my life could look like 0:20:56.040 --> 0:20:58.439 this or this could happen, or I could meet this 0:20:58.480 --> 0:21:02.040 person or et cetera, et cetera, and it could turn 0:21:02.080 --> 0:21:04.520 out like better than you could have imagined because you 0:21:04.640 --> 0:21:08.520 have released this need to know everything and have everything 0:21:08.600 --> 0:21:13.800 figured out and let go of like the perfectionism of like, well, 0:21:13.840 --> 0:21:22.119 I need the perfect answer now again. Going back to 0:21:22.160 --> 0:21:27.119 my story with my partnerships manager this morning, I need 0:21:28.840 --> 0:21:30.919 again I'm laughing, but it's like I need like a 0:21:30.960 --> 0:21:34.520 posting schedule, I need like blah blah blah. And she's like, Georgia, 0:21:34.560 --> 0:21:38.199 that's literally the opposite. She's like, maybe if you were 0:21:38.240 --> 0:21:41.359 a first time creator and you needed some sort of guidance, 0:21:41.400 --> 0:21:43.639 but she's like, you've literally been doing this for eight years. 0:21:43.840 --> 0:21:46.920 You know what content you like filming, you know what 0:21:47.160 --> 0:21:50.040 you know your audience responds to. You know, like you 0:21:50.119 --> 0:21:53.439 don't like, you don't need that. That again, is like 0:21:53.760 --> 0:21:56.199 a crutch. That's like a thing. It's like, well, I 0:21:56.280 --> 0:21:59.960 need this in order to get there, or I need 0:22:00.200 --> 0:22:04.640 this in order to have that. It's like a distraction. Yeah, 0:22:04.760 --> 0:22:08.680 let me figure this thing out here first, which actually 0:22:08.800 --> 0:22:12.960 doesn't matter. It keeps us small, it keeps us stuck, 0:22:13.400 --> 0:22:18.040 it keeps us unclear. And also, if we're talking about 0:22:18.040 --> 0:22:21.679 in the grand scheme of things, I have done so 0:22:21.840 --> 0:22:26.040 many things in my life which hasn't been the thing. 0:22:26.440 --> 0:22:30.160 Like when I finished my law degree, sorry I finished 0:22:30.240 --> 0:22:36.560 up in my like corporate law job. I didn't get 0:22:36.600 --> 0:22:38.720 stuck and like, oh, I'm not sure, I don't know 0:22:38.760 --> 0:22:41.600 what's going to happen. I really was like, well, let's 0:22:41.600 --> 0:22:44.240 just see what happens. And I tried a whole bunch 0:22:44.240 --> 0:22:47.040 of things. I created like a food eat book. I 0:22:47.080 --> 0:22:48.919 went on like a couple of like I went on 0:22:48.960 --> 0:22:52.119 a gym shark influencer trip, you know. I did a 0:22:52.160 --> 0:22:55.680 whole bunch of things, started doing YouTube differently. I did 0:22:55.680 --> 0:22:58.400 a whole bunch of things that I wasn't like, this 0:22:58.480 --> 0:23:00.399 has to be the thing, this has to be the 0:23:00.560 --> 0:23:03.880 end goal. But it was like trying things. And then 0:23:03.920 --> 0:23:07.639 what eventuated is my life now, which is naked harvest 0:23:07.720 --> 0:23:11.040 and rise and conquer and really feeling like so secure 0:23:11.720 --> 0:23:14.080 and certain in who I am and what I do. 0:23:14.640 --> 0:23:18.080 But I had to like move, I had to figure 0:23:18.080 --> 0:23:20.560 some things out. I had to like get to know myself, 0:23:20.600 --> 0:23:24.040 I had to discover things. So I think there is 0:23:24.080 --> 0:23:28.120 such a power in not having it all figured out 0:23:28.520 --> 0:23:33.119 and not having the exact three step formula and not 0:23:33.520 --> 0:23:37.760 letting the confusion and clarity get to that's even like 0:23:38.440 --> 0:23:44.320 I have a girlfriend and she always has these incredible plans. 0:23:44.640 --> 0:23:47.440 She has like a service based business, and she always 0:23:47.480 --> 0:23:51.320 has these incredible plans to like make extra money or 0:23:51.400 --> 0:23:54.159 like kind of scale them, so she's not using her 0:23:54.200 --> 0:23:57.240 time for money, and you know, whether it's like courses 0:23:57.320 --> 0:23:59.199 or like you know, certain things she could do in 0:23:59.240 --> 0:24:03.720 her business. But again, it's always like she has this 0:24:03.840 --> 0:24:05.920 idea and then it's like, oh, but I'm not sure 0:24:05.920 --> 0:24:09.680 if it's gonna work out, and then like she never actions. 0:24:09.720 --> 0:24:13.200 And it was interesting because we were talking about something 0:24:13.280 --> 0:24:15.600 and I was like, wait, haven't you been talking about 0:24:15.840 --> 0:24:19.240 that since like COVID And she's like, oh, yeah, I know, 0:24:19.440 --> 0:24:21.840 but it's like she's only just taking the action. 0:24:21.720 --> 0:24:27.120 Now, and I'm like, godfriend, like I've probably failed three 0:24:27.160 --> 0:24:31.199 businesses in that time, Like just start just it doesn't 0:24:31.280 --> 0:24:32.960 actually have to because. 0:24:32.720 --> 0:24:35.119 That's the thing is it might be a total flop. 0:24:35.400 --> 0:24:37.720 I heard this really great quote and it was like, 0:24:38.280 --> 0:24:41.919 if you knew you were three failures from like the 0:24:42.000 --> 0:24:45.600 million dollar business or like the dream life or the Dreamman, 0:24:45.840 --> 0:24:49.120 like three dates or blah blah blah, how fast would 0:24:49.119 --> 0:24:52.920 you fail? How fast would you take action? You absolutely would, 0:24:52.960 --> 0:24:56.080 and you wouldn't give two fucks. So it's like, why 0:24:56.280 --> 0:25:01.280 are we not just taking action? And I feel like 0:25:01.359 --> 0:25:06.720 the whole I'm confused, I'm uncertain. It is this place 0:25:07.240 --> 0:25:11.040 where we get to lean into it and we get 0:25:11.080 --> 0:25:15.479 to stay stuck and stay frozen and complain about like, 0:25:15.560 --> 0:25:17.960 oh well I'm not certain, so I'm not going to move. 0:25:18.440 --> 0:25:20.680 And again it just it keeps us small, it keeps 0:25:20.760 --> 0:25:23.920