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Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the

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Speaker 1: Merry people. They've been having conversations and telling stories on

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Speaker 1: This is Rise and Conquer, the podcast where we strive

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Speaker 1: healthy mindsets, laughter, connection, and a deep desire to evolve.

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Speaker 1: I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson. Join me as we explore parenthood, business, manifestation,

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Speaker 1: and so much more. It's positive, it's practical, and it's

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Speaker 1: Are you ready? Hello, my loves, and welcome back to

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Speaker 1: the Rise and Conquered Potty. I'm so excited to be

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Speaker 1: back in your ears in twenty twenty five. I know

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Speaker 1: we've been in twenty twenty five for a while, but

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Speaker 1: I just wanted to say happy New Year, and I

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Speaker 1: hope that you guys are feeling fresh. You're feeling inspired

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Speaker 1: lovely holiday. My parents stayed with us for about two weeks,

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Speaker 1: this episode, I want to talk about if you're feeling

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Speaker 1: if you want a very generic answer, you can chat

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Speaker 1: With the new year, most of us are looking for clarity.

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Speaker 1: And when you unmask why it's happening and why it

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Speaker 1: I wanted to give you, I guess, like shadow work

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Speaker 1: would be you know, I'd be like, oh, you know,

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Speaker 1: the girls at school are like teasing me about this

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Speaker 1: or whatnot, and she's like, oh, baby, come here, you're

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Speaker 1: the best, You're so you're so pretty. And so that

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Speaker 1: is me getting secondhand gain because it's not actually good

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Speaker 1: that you know, people are teasing me and I feel

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Speaker 1: like crap. But I get sympathy from my mom. I

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Speaker 1: get love from my mom. So do you see how

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Speaker 1: that is secondhand gain? And so my subconscious, who loves

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Speaker 1: being comfortable, who loves love, is like, this is perfect.

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Speaker 1: We get to stay here. So again, just really being honest,

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Speaker 1: really checking with ourselves. This is all self inquiry stuff, guys.

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Speaker 1: This is stuff I try to constantly do because everything

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Speaker 1: is a mindset game. Everything is you hacking your own brain.

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Speaker 1: So I wanted to bring these to light because again,

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Speaker 1: I feel like this has really got me thinking about

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Speaker 1: it a couple of things, and if you are feeling

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Speaker 1: stuck or uncertain, this might be something to think about.

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Speaker 1: I love you guys so much. I hope you're having

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Speaker 1: an amazing start to the year, and I will chat

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Speaker 1: to you soon. Bye, Lustrous Christi