WEBVTT - Ask Uncut - Talk dirty to me 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:05.280 Life Uncut podcast acknowledges the traditional custodians of country throughout 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:07.720 Australia and their connections to land. 0:00:07.520 --> 0:00:08.600 Sea and community. 0:00:08.960 --> 0:00:11.760 We pay our respect to their elders past and present 0:00:11.840 --> 0:00:14.960 and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait 0:00:14.960 --> 0:00:16.120 islander peoples today. 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:19.560 This episode is recorded on Gaddigal Land of the Aurora Nation. 0:00:39.040 --> 0:00:42.320 Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:42.360 --> 0:00:44.920 I'm Laura and I'm producer Keisha filling in for brit 0:00:45.080 --> 0:00:47.360 We just had a discussion because Keysh tried to introduce 0:00:47.360 --> 0:00:49.159 herself as just Keisha and I was like, no, you 0:00:49.240 --> 0:00:51.400 have to be producer Keisha in case people are thrown 0:00:51.400 --> 0:00:54.080 into turmoil and confused and don't know who this new 0:00:54.160 --> 0:00:55.320 voice is on the podcast. 0:00:55.640 --> 0:00:58.680 True, true, But I did in defense of myself, I 0:00:58.680 --> 0:01:01.320 was like, that's not my actual People have started calling 0:01:01.360 --> 0:01:03.280 me that in real life, like at the live show 0:01:03.760 --> 0:01:06.520 that happened produce a key shot and I was like, hell, 0:01:07.040 --> 0:01:09.240 like it's your Like your second name is Keysha and 0:01:09.280 --> 0:01:11.720 your first name is producer. Yeah, like it's my character. 0:01:11.920 --> 0:01:13.360 You know? Do you know what? I know that you 0:01:13.480 --> 0:01:16.480 think that maybe that's offensive, but like think of it offensive. 0:01:16.520 --> 0:01:17.440 I just think it's a little odd. 0:01:17.640 --> 0:01:19.840 Sure, you could think of it as though it's an accolade, 0:01:19.880 --> 0:01:21.959 like doctors go around and say I'm doctor so and so. 0:01:22.080 --> 0:01:23.840 Once you've got that at the front of your name, 0:01:23.920 --> 0:01:25.160 you use it into the day you die. 0:01:25.319 --> 0:01:27.360 You know. One time I was dating a doctor and 0:01:27.400 --> 0:01:29.840 I got us ticks all right to settle down. I 0:01:29.880 --> 0:01:33.000 got his plane tickets, like for a holiday, and I 0:01:33.080 --> 0:01:34.479 was really annoyed about the fact that. 0:01:34.480 --> 0:01:36.679 He had the better Like, is it a suffix? The 0:01:36.760 --> 0:01:37.560 thing a prefix? 0:01:37.600 --> 0:01:38.800 What's the thing that goes at the start? You know? 0:01:38.840 --> 0:01:41.400 Missed a missus? Doctor? The thing you tick? And I 0:01:41.480 --> 0:01:43.479 was like, you know, stuff him having the better one. 0:01:43.520 --> 0:01:46.200 I don't want to be miss one's doctor. Aren't you 0:01:46.200 --> 0:01:48.760 still miss? What is a miss? Are you missed when 0:01:48.760 --> 0:01:50.840 you're in a relationship but you're not married. Are you 0:01:50.840 --> 0:01:52.280 a miss then? I'm not sure? 0:01:52.400 --> 0:01:53.800 Or you are you a miss if you don't want 0:01:53.800 --> 0:01:55.200 people to know if you're a missus or a miss? 0:01:55.200 --> 0:01:56.120 Do you mean a live giggle? 0:01:56.240 --> 0:01:56.440 Yeah? 0:01:57.480 --> 0:02:01.120 Answer. A title used before the surname or full name 0:02:01.160 --> 0:02:04.720 of any woman, regardless of her marital status. So it's neutral, 0:02:04.880 --> 0:02:07.080 so you can pick so it's an alternative to missus 0:02:07.200 --> 0:02:08.239 or miss see. 0:02:08.280 --> 0:02:10.200 I say, if you don't want anyone to know if 0:02:10.240 --> 0:02:12.280 you are married or aren't married, you become a miss. 0:02:12.360 --> 0:02:14.680 Well, that day I was a captain, and then I 0:02:14.720 --> 0:02:17.400 found out that that is illegal, so I do not 0:02:17.480 --> 0:02:20.280 recommend doing it. But for that plane ride, I was 0:02:20.360 --> 0:02:23.520 Captain Kisha bed and you know what, I really I 0:02:23.560 --> 0:02:24.280 really liked it. 0:02:24.360 --> 0:02:27.240 So if you lie about your status, like if you 0:02:27.240 --> 0:02:29.720 call yourself a doctor and you're on a plane, that's illegal. 0:02:29.760 --> 0:02:31.640 Oh it would make sense because obviously if there's an 0:02:31.639 --> 0:02:34.600 emergency or somebody carts it in the picked captain because 0:02:34.639 --> 0:02:37.280 I was like the plane with the planes falling down 0:02:37.280 --> 0:02:40.080 and they're like, Captain, I would have told him it 0:02:40.120 --> 0:02:42.960 was for boats, Slane, don't worry, I'm Canada of a boat. 0:02:43.320 --> 0:02:46.080 But as it turns out, yeah, no, it's illegal. However, 0:02:46.440 --> 0:02:48.880 did enjoy the experience so well? 0:02:48.880 --> 0:02:51.000 When producer comes up as an option for you to 0:02:51.000 --> 0:02:53.120 select the next time you're on a flight, that is, 0:02:53.280 --> 0:02:54.640 you know, the box that you can stay in. 0:02:54.800 --> 0:02:56.200 I'm ready to get out of the miss box. 0:02:56.240 --> 0:02:58.480 Okay. The reason why Keysh is feeling on today's episode 0:02:58.520 --> 0:03:01.840 is because Britt is currently away at her sister Sherry's wedding. 0:03:02.080 --> 0:03:04.400 Sherry's having two weddings. The first one was on Tuesday, 0:03:04.440 --> 0:03:07.400 that was the Indian wedding, and then today is her 0:03:07.480 --> 0:03:09.680 not Indian wedding. I don't know how else you'd described that. 0:03:09.760 --> 0:03:11.639 Today is like, is the big wedding. 0:03:11.680 --> 0:03:13.400 I think they call it a white wedding, and that 0:03:13.520 --> 0:03:15.919 is not cultural. It's actually like you know that song, 0:03:15.919 --> 0:03:17.919 It's a nice day for a white wedding. 0:03:19.080 --> 0:03:19.880 I actually think. 0:03:19.760 --> 0:03:21.280 That's what it's called it. If it's not, I'm gonna 0:03:21.280 --> 0:03:22.040 cut this out. 0:03:21.960 --> 0:03:24.760 Because you wear a white dress, whereas on Tuesday she 0:03:24.800 --> 0:03:27.320 was wearing a sari and we saw the beautiful Sarry photos. 0:03:27.400 --> 0:03:29.560 I've never seen them look more beautiful. Like, I don't 0:03:29.560 --> 0:03:31.600 know enough about Indian weddings. I'm so intrigued to hear 0:03:31.639 --> 0:03:34.600 from britt when she gets back about the cultural practices 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:36.400 they do for the wedding, because I know it's really different. 0:03:36.400 --> 0:03:38.640 Obviously they look so different, like there's so much color 0:03:38.680 --> 0:03:40.280 and it just looks like so much fun. 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:42.480 What I would like to know is where is Jay though, 0:03:42.520 --> 0:03:44.920 because I've seen a lot of photos on social media, 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:47.160 I've seen photos of Brittain a sari. I've seen photos 0:03:47.160 --> 0:03:48.680 of Sherry and a Sari, but I haven't yet seen 0:03:48.720 --> 0:03:49.160 the husband. 0:03:49.280 --> 0:03:50.920 Britt's like, you know what, I'm not gonna get married 0:03:50.960 --> 0:03:53.120 anytime soon, so this is my wedding too. It's man 0:03:53.200 --> 0:03:57.320 in Cherry's wedding. But they looked so insanely stunning. 0:03:57.440 --> 0:03:59.320 Before we get into answering all your deep dark and 0:03:59.360 --> 0:04:02.280 you're burning queesquestions, there was something that we wanted to 0:04:02.320 --> 0:04:02.800 talk about. 0:04:02.840 --> 0:04:03.040 Now. 0:04:03.320 --> 0:04:05.360 You might remember a couple of weeks ago on an 0:04:05.360 --> 0:04:09.960 Ask Guncut episode, somebody had written in about dirty talk. 0:04:10.200 --> 0:04:13.160 Now their new partner had started using some dirty talk 0:04:13.200 --> 0:04:15.680 and they weren't sure if they should be or shouldn't 0:04:15.720 --> 0:04:19.080 be offended, and it went something like this, you are 0:04:19.640 --> 0:04:23.520 a chubby little wore. And let me tell you a 0:04:23.560 --> 0:04:26.240 lot of people who heard that episode were very offended. 0:04:26.800 --> 0:04:29.800 But the big question was this, was the person who 0:04:29.880 --> 0:04:32.680 wrote in offended because they were called chubby? Or were 0:04:32.680 --> 0:04:35.960 they offended because they were called ahow? And that's what 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:38.720 we wanted to seek out. So we put up some socials. 0:04:38.800 --> 0:04:41.640 We asked the question, what is it that you enjoy 0:04:41.720 --> 0:04:43.000 being called in the bedroom? 0:04:43.000 --> 0:04:43.080 Like? 0:04:43.080 --> 0:04:44.279 Where can that line be drawn? 0:04:44.720 --> 0:04:45.920 And some of The. 0:04:45.760 --> 0:04:48.280 Responses we got were truly fucking amazing. 0:04:48.839 --> 0:04:51.040 They were, and I really regretted not putting Jason Drulo 0:04:51.120 --> 0:04:53.080 talk Dirty to Me as the backing song of this 0:04:53.200 --> 0:04:54.000 Instagram story. 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:56.800 What a wasted opportunity. The just would have got things going. 0:04:57.400 --> 0:05:00.520 However, I did bring these responses to you the this morning, 0:05:01.680 --> 0:05:03.760 and I would like to read some out to you 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:06.000 and you can tell me where the line is. 0:05:06.160 --> 0:05:09.560 No, no, okay, this is what happened. Keisha prepped. She 0:05:09.680 --> 0:05:11.599 was like, here are all the responses from all of 0:05:11.600 --> 0:05:15.000 our amazing listeners. We asked, what dirty talk do you 0:05:15.120 --> 0:05:17.760 like hearing in the bedroom? And let me tell you. 0:05:17.760 --> 0:05:22.960 You provided and they are dirty little bitch you dirty 0:05:23.080 --> 0:05:25.520 little whores. And I know that you're gonna like me 0:05:25.600 --> 0:05:28.400 calling you that because you told me this is the thing. 0:05:28.839 --> 0:05:30.400 We read through some of them. The way that we 0:05:30.440 --> 0:05:32.400 would normally do these segments is that we would read 0:05:32.400 --> 0:05:34.440 out to you some of the craziest things. 0:05:34.960 --> 0:05:36.080 Some of them are so. 0:05:35.880 --> 0:05:39.200 Smushy that I'm worried that our more like PGG rated 0:05:39.240 --> 0:05:42.160 listeners would turn this episode off because they don't like 0:05:42.200 --> 0:05:42.920 the dirty talk. 0:05:43.080 --> 0:05:45.039 Yeah, but I reckon you'd be fun like I reckon 0:05:45.080 --> 0:05:47.040 the ones who wrote this it would be really good 0:05:47.080 --> 0:05:48.280 to go get a drink with. 0:05:48.400 --> 0:05:50.920 Okay, But also they're like, they're very normal vein. They're 0:05:50.920 --> 0:05:53.080 things like and I'm gonna just I'm going to brush 0:05:53.080 --> 0:05:55.320 through a couple of them very quickly, just to give 0:05:55.360 --> 0:05:57.800 you a taste of what some people are enjoying in 0:05:57.800 --> 0:05:58.920 the bedroom. 0:05:58.440 --> 0:06:00.480 Really enjoying your body language. Right now, I just feel 0:06:00.480 --> 0:06:02.400 like you're mildly uncomfortable, and I don't know if it's 0:06:02.440 --> 0:06:03.960 cause i'm in your employee. 0:06:04.360 --> 0:06:08.719 Come on my cock? Was that too much? Do we 0:06:08.760 --> 0:06:11.160 need a hr? Is that where we're at? Okay? Cool 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:15.000 wine and I'll take two steps back. Sorry, Do I 0:06:15.040 --> 0:06:16.520 need to say it more sexy? Will you come on 0:06:16.560 --> 0:06:17.000 my cock? 0:06:17.560 --> 0:06:19.360 Well? You had a nice ASMR voice. 0:06:19.400 --> 0:06:21.840 Thank you, thank you so much. Look, No, like I said, 0:06:21.839 --> 0:06:24.919 I don't want to read out the more like smuttier ones, 0:06:24.960 --> 0:06:27.400 the more dirty of the dirtier talk. And that's just 0:06:27.400 --> 0:06:29.479 because I understand that there'll be some people who don't 0:06:29.520 --> 0:06:31.400 want to hear that. But one thing that we did 0:06:31.480 --> 0:06:34.400 find really interesting that we wanted to unpack was that 0:06:34.440 --> 0:06:37.159 there was one type of dirty talk that kept on 0:06:37.240 --> 0:06:40.520 coming in and like it's not particularly dirty but it's 0:06:40.560 --> 0:06:43.200 a common theme that we received hundreds and hundreds of 0:06:43.240 --> 0:06:44.039 times from you all. 0:06:44.279 --> 0:06:47.520 Yeah, you're like being called good girls. As it turns out. 0:06:47.880 --> 0:06:49.800 Okay, see the one that I always think and like, 0:06:49.839 --> 0:06:51.599 it's just a bit of an expansion on good girl. 0:06:51.640 --> 0:06:53.960 It's good little girl. And I don't know why that 0:06:54.000 --> 0:07:00.839 one always got me off daddy issues. Yeah, and that's 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:03.360 exactly what it is. I don't like to talk about 0:07:03.440 --> 0:07:04.159 the podcast, but. 0:07:04.200 --> 0:07:06.640 Yet good Girl came in like hundreds and hundreds of times, 0:07:06.960 --> 0:07:09.440 and this thing came up in the responses that I 0:07:09.480 --> 0:07:10.400 was really intrigued by. 0:07:10.320 --> 0:07:12.040 Because I hadn't heard of it before. It's called a. 0:07:12.000 --> 0:07:15.880 Praise kink, now, a praise kink with someone who thrives 0:07:16.040 --> 0:07:18.000 to be praised during intimacy. 0:07:18.520 --> 0:07:21.000 Don't we all like compliments all the time. Anyway, though, 0:07:21.040 --> 0:07:23.960 like I'm not surprising, it goes a little. 0:07:23.760 --> 0:07:26.000 Bit further than that. So it kind of explained how 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:28.600 it was a little bit more of a sexual turn 0:07:28.640 --> 0:07:31.000 on rather than just like a oh that feels nice, 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:33.760 like your hair looks good. You know, it's not like that. 0:07:33.840 --> 0:07:36.200 Examples are things like and I want you to look 0:07:36.360 --> 0:07:40.640 me deeply. I say this slow even you look. 0:07:40.560 --> 0:07:47.400 So good, baby, you feel so good. This is really inappropriate. 0:07:48.040 --> 0:07:49.559 Good good, Yeah, good girl. 0:07:49.880 --> 0:07:53.000 You like that? Huh? You like that, don't you. However, 0:07:53.040 --> 0:07:55.640 I've got some questions for you to determine whether you 0:07:55.760 --> 0:07:57.720 have a praisekink or not, or whether you think you might. 0:07:58.240 --> 0:08:01.559 Do you have a sexual submissive, dominant or otherwise kink 0:08:01.600 --> 0:08:05.080 based response to receiving praise, which I think is a 0:08:05.120 --> 0:08:08.520 pretty long winded and like professional way to say, do 0:08:08.560 --> 0:08:12.120 you have sexual arousal when you're being told like praise? 0:08:12.320 --> 0:08:14.840 I feel like so many people would have this though, 0:08:14.920 --> 0:08:16.800 like you know the fact that they've done this research 0:08:16.800 --> 0:08:19.360 into like what questions you need to ask yourself For me, 0:08:19.440 --> 0:08:21.320 I think that this is probably the most common one, 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:23.240 like being told like you're a good little girl or 0:08:23.280 --> 0:08:25.560 you're a good girl. I don't know why we like 0:08:25.680 --> 0:08:27.920 enjoy the submissive part of that or we enjoy like 0:08:28.000 --> 0:08:30.280 having that positive affirmation, but there's something about that that 0:08:30.400 --> 0:08:34.400 is very fucking sexy. Yeah, and I agree, tell me 0:08:34.440 --> 0:08:35.200 what you really think. 0:08:35.400 --> 0:08:38.839 I'm thinking of sex with people that wasn't even loving sex, 0:08:38.880 --> 0:08:41.520 but when it's happened, like yeah, yeah, nipples. 0:08:41.240 --> 0:08:43.880 Are hard, like let's go, Okay, my other question, too, 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:46.280 is before you get down the list of the criteria 0:08:46.360 --> 0:08:47.960 to know whether you have a praise kink or not, 0:08:48.320 --> 0:08:51.280 what is your one dirty talk? Like, what's the big 0:08:51.320 --> 0:08:53.080 thing that if someone was gonna say it to you, 0:08:53.160 --> 0:08:55.160 it would mean O town a. 0:08:56.480 --> 0:08:59.160 I think, like, yeah, along the good girl lines would definitely. 0:08:59.360 --> 0:09:03.240 I think being implemented you look so hot or along 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:05.880 those lines that would definitely get me going. 0:09:06.559 --> 0:09:09.720 But I think, oh god, this is so good. 0:09:10.760 --> 0:09:13.600 I think I'm more into the question answer style of 0:09:13.720 --> 0:09:16.559 like do you like that? And then I get to 0:09:16.600 --> 0:09:17.960 tell them how much I like that. 0:09:19.320 --> 0:09:21.240 I feel like we're really taking this relationship to a 0:09:21.280 --> 0:09:21.680 new place. 0:09:21.720 --> 0:09:24.040 I'm really getting red patches on my chest. 0:09:24.160 --> 0:09:27.120 You should see it, Like as Keisha's speaking literally from 0:09:27.120 --> 0:09:30.439 her nipples up, She's just gone red popping. 0:09:30.120 --> 0:09:34.480 Through my top. I love this. 0:09:34.920 --> 0:09:37.400 I feel like it's a bonding experience. This is close. 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:38.720 There's a shame BRIT's not here. 0:09:39.120 --> 0:09:43.040 I have a one question to ask you. When you 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:47.160 think back on your hottest sex scenes, do the complimentary 0:09:47.200 --> 0:09:49.839 things your partner said to you stand out as one 0:09:49.840 --> 0:09:50.840 of your favorite parts. 0:09:51.920 --> 0:09:53.880 Do you know I feel for me as much as 0:09:53.920 --> 0:09:55.920 I like it and enjoy it it's dependent on the 0:09:55.960 --> 0:09:58.360 person that I'm with. Like, I quite enjoy a bit 0:09:58.400 --> 0:10:00.040 of I mean, I don't mind a praise, can I 0:10:00.040 --> 0:10:01.840 don't mind a bit of dirty talk. But I also 0:10:01.920 --> 0:10:03.880 think it has to be with someone who I've had 0:10:04.080 --> 0:10:06.440 a bit more of a long term relationship with, rather 0:10:06.480 --> 0:10:08.760 than it being a one night stand, or rather than 0:10:08.800 --> 0:10:11.040 it being something that's a fling. I feel like I 0:10:11.120 --> 0:10:13.679 need to be in safe territory in order to enjoy it. 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:16.280 So for me, it's not just something I enjoy across 0:10:16.280 --> 0:10:16.640 the board. 0:10:16.920 --> 0:10:18.959 And I think that makes complete sense, especially if you're 0:10:18.960 --> 0:10:24.600 talking about more like potentially smuttier, dirtier dirty talk. Right, 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:26.680 You're probably not gonna have that with a one night 0:10:26.760 --> 0:10:28.240 stand as much as you'd have with someone that like, 0:10:28.280 --> 0:10:30.520 you love and respect, and you know that they do 0:10:30.640 --> 0:10:32.880 respect you, So that's why it's more okay for them 0:10:32.880 --> 0:10:35.000 to call you certain things, whereas someone that you don't 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:35.880 know you might not feel. 0:10:35.720 --> 0:10:38.120 That way about. Well exactly because like if somebody who 0:10:38.320 --> 0:10:40.800 you know respects you calls you a whole, you're like, oh, 0:10:40.880 --> 0:10:42.480 they didn't mean that. But if it's someone who's a 0:10:42.480 --> 0:10:44.400 one night stand and they're like, you're a whole you're like, 0:10:44.520 --> 0:10:46.360 you might actually think that of me? And I don't 0:10:46.400 --> 0:10:48.200 know if I don't know what we're role playing right now, 0:10:48.280 --> 0:10:48.560 or if. 0:10:48.440 --> 0:10:53.120 This is real, to rethink my behavior, what would be like? 0:10:53.280 --> 0:10:55.440 What do you I mean? Oh, I'm personal? What do 0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:55.880 you like? 0:10:56.040 --> 0:10:59.000 Good little girl? That's it. I'm their eye a bit. Yeah, 0:10:59.080 --> 0:11:01.560 well no there's more, but like, no, we're not sharing that. 0:11:02.320 --> 0:11:04.400 Yeah no, no, no, that's enough. Anyway, let's get into 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:06.600 answering all your deep dark and you're burning questions. I 0:11:06.600 --> 0:11:06.920 will just. 0:11:06.960 --> 0:11:09.200 Quickly add that one more thing. Is that equal to 0:11:09.280 --> 0:11:11.680 the amount of good girl responses we got? I actually 0:11:11.760 --> 0:11:13.880 think that there were almost as many I don't like 0:11:13.960 --> 0:11:16.280 it responses. That was very interesting to me. There were 0:11:16.320 --> 0:11:18.040 people who were just like, I don't like dirty talk 0:11:18.200 --> 0:11:21.319 are all? I hate it when people do that, And 0:11:21.360 --> 0:11:23.199 so that's kind of the flip side of the coin. 0:11:23.240 --> 0:11:24.640 I guess, well, do you know why? Because I think 0:11:24.679 --> 0:11:27.160 unless you're someone who's really confident and comfortable with dor't 0:11:27.160 --> 0:11:29.640 it Like not everybody is comfortable with verbalizing, Like we 0:11:29.720 --> 0:11:32.400 love talking. We talk so much, it's no surprise that 0:11:32.440 --> 0:11:34.800 we would enjoy it. But for some people who were 0:11:34.840 --> 0:11:39.120 maybe slightly more introverted. Having to verbalize how they're feeling 0:11:39.320 --> 0:11:41.480 or what that sensation is or how much they like 0:11:41.559 --> 0:11:44.960 something just takes it into awkward or intimidating territory rather 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:47.440 than it being something that they find is expressive. So 0:11:47.559 --> 0:11:51.080 I can completely understand why there's people who when someone's like, yeah, 0:11:51.120 --> 0:11:55.440 you like that, they're like, yes, I suppose five styles 0:11:55.440 --> 0:11:57.640 and uber I wasn't ntil you asked me, you know, 0:11:57.960 --> 0:12:00.320 like it's like for some people, it's fucking awkward. Get it? 0:12:00.360 --> 0:12:02.040 And I get that there's both sides of the spectrum. 0:12:02.040 --> 0:12:03.400 Like we can sit here and be like, yes, dirty 0:12:03.440 --> 0:12:05.600 talk's amazing, and here are all the different ways that 0:12:05.640 --> 0:12:08.160 people enjoy it, but they're equally a people who do 0:12:08.200 --> 0:12:10.200 not enjoy it at all, and they just want to 0:12:10.240 --> 0:12:13.640 like show their enthusiasm through other means. Do you reckon 0:12:13.720 --> 0:12:14.640 you could give. 0:12:14.640 --> 0:12:18.240 Dirty talk like because we're talking mostly about receiving it here, 0:12:18.280 --> 0:12:20.559 which no, I'm completely comfortable. If I don't know if 0:12:20.559 --> 0:12:23.240 I'm that comfortable giving it, I. 0:12:23.160 --> 0:12:24.880 Don't know what I would say, like, I mean, apart 0:12:24.880 --> 0:12:27.160 from like you're so hard. That feels so good, I 0:12:27.160 --> 0:12:29.200 don't think that I am very much. 0:12:29.040 --> 0:12:31.000 A regular on that that feels really good. 0:12:30.880 --> 0:12:33.600 That you feel so good, you feel so hard. That's 0:12:33.679 --> 0:12:36.120 literally that's the end of it. Because I think think 0:12:36.160 --> 0:12:38.480 for me as well. Then I get awkward. I'm like, 0:12:38.520 --> 0:12:40.520 how can I be creative with this? I don't know. 0:12:40.559 --> 0:12:42.520 If you're a girl and you enjoy giving dirty talk, 0:12:42.559 --> 0:12:44.160 I'd love to know those responses as well. 0:12:44.240 --> 0:12:46.720 I think some people misunderstood the brief because we actually 0:12:46.720 --> 0:12:48.360 dig it. A couple of responses and a lot of 0:12:48.360 --> 0:12:50.679 you like calling people dirty, as it turns out, are 0:12:50.679 --> 0:12:51.640 you like calling Matt daddy? 0:12:51.800 --> 0:12:54.280 No? No, even if you. 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:56.760 Say it softly and slowly, no, because he actually is 0:12:56.800 --> 0:12:58.280 a daddy, So for me, that's weird. 0:12:58.480 --> 0:13:01.000 He's got two kids, he is a daddy. He's not 0:13:01.080 --> 0:13:03.439 my daddy, but he's their daddy, and I don't want 0:13:03.440 --> 0:13:05.679 to think of them when we're having sex. Also, they 0:13:05.679 --> 0:13:07.840 have destroyed my vagina enough that I don't want to 0:13:07.840 --> 0:13:10.439 be even thinking about them remotely whilst we're having sex. 0:13:11.200 --> 0:13:13.400 You and nobody's daddy. You're mine. 0:13:14.559 --> 0:13:21.959 All right, Let's seriously get into these questions. Question number one, Hi, Oh, actually, 0:13:22.000 --> 0:13:23.160 do you know what I'm just going to preface this. 0:13:23.320 --> 0:13:27.560 These questions are all fucking saucy today, ladies, I need help. 0:13:27.760 --> 0:13:31.000 I caught some pawn on my partner's phone. Accidental find. 0:13:31.040 --> 0:13:33.680 He was watching me use his phone, no spying needed. 0:13:34.160 --> 0:13:36.360 I'm very mad about it. The backstory is is that 0:13:36.400 --> 0:13:39.160 I've caught him watching porn before and wanking, and it 0:13:39.200 --> 0:13:42.280 doesn't sit well with me. He has disrespected my wishes 0:13:42.320 --> 0:13:44.760 and feelings as he has done it again. He thinks 0:13:44.760 --> 0:13:47.400 I'm being over the top and apologized, but how do 0:13:47.480 --> 0:13:50.320 I know that he won't do it again? Basically, she 0:13:50.360 --> 0:13:52.440 doesn't want him to watch porn and wake. I feel 0:13:52.440 --> 0:13:56.080 like we've taken two steps back in the relationship. Bound 0:13:56.160 --> 0:13:57.520 bump boum. 0:13:58.000 --> 0:14:00.000 I have something to say to her that I don't. 0:14:00.000 --> 0:14:02.840 I don't think she's gonna like. I don't think you 0:14:02.920 --> 0:14:05.720 can control someone like that. I think your behavior is 0:14:05.760 --> 0:14:08.000 really controlling. Oh unleash Keisha. 0:14:08.280 --> 0:14:10.480 Yeah, he's produced a Keisha giving you the four one one? 0:14:10.520 --> 0:14:11.800 Well, it's because of the four one one? 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:12.520 Is that what it's called? 0:14:12.679 --> 0:14:15.520 Or is that pot that's four twenty ah fuck for 0:14:15.640 --> 0:14:21.440 twenty blazer. It's been a while, Homer talk. The reason 0:14:21.440 --> 0:14:23.600 that I think it's a bit of a controlling behavior 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:26.960 is because I mean Obviously there are elements to this. 0:14:27.080 --> 0:14:29.120 If the person that you're with is watching porn so 0:14:29.200 --> 0:14:31.560 much to the length that you know they're not having 0:14:31.600 --> 0:14:34.040 sex with you, or that it's interfering with your sex life, 0:14:34.040 --> 0:14:36.080 then yes, I understand that's a problem and you're gonna 0:14:36.080 --> 0:14:37.720 need to talk about that, But if it's just like 0:14:37.760 --> 0:14:41.240 the occasional having a look at porn and masturbating, like 0:14:41.600 --> 0:14:44.960 he's entitled to do that, totally, I don't see a problem. 0:14:45.040 --> 0:14:46.760 I don't know. I think it's kinite strange when so 0:14:46.800 --> 0:14:49.760 many people get so hung up on porn because they 0:14:49.760 --> 0:14:52.320 think it's this like really debautuous thing where it's really 0:14:52.440 --> 0:14:54.400 wrong that they don't want their partners watching it. But 0:14:54.680 --> 0:14:57.119 it's just kind of like a level of self expression 0:14:57.120 --> 0:14:58.440 in sexuality, I guess. 0:14:58.560 --> 0:15:00.400 I mean, there's a few layers to It's o that 0:15:00.480 --> 0:15:02.360 you don't like it, you know, that's fine. I think 0:15:02.360 --> 0:15:05.160 it's okay for you personally not to like something right 0:15:05.200 --> 0:15:08.200 like porn. If you are against it, that is okay. 0:15:08.200 --> 0:15:10.200 And I don't think that we can say that everybody 0:15:10.200 --> 0:15:12.240 should love porn, because it's just not the case. Not 0:15:12.280 --> 0:15:15.600 everybody will. The part about this I think is a 0:15:15.600 --> 0:15:18.280 bit problematic is like if your partner is watching something 0:15:18.360 --> 0:15:21.200 that's like, you know, consensually made porn. It's not porn 0:15:21.200 --> 0:15:24.200 that's problematic. It's not porn that's like violent or in 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:27.000 any way confrontational. I guess, because, like you know, I 0:15:27.000 --> 0:15:28.920 think that there is some porn that can be quite 0:15:29.000 --> 0:15:31.240 confronting to watch, and then maybe that would make you 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:34.080 feel insecure because you're like, well, is that what he 0:15:34.120 --> 0:15:35.960 wants to do in real life? Like how does this 0:15:36.040 --> 0:15:38.280 play out? Where is the line between fantasy and fiction 0:15:38.360 --> 0:15:40.080 and all that sort of stuff. So I think that 0:15:40.080 --> 0:15:42.480 there is that part of it to consider and unpack 0:15:42.520 --> 0:15:45.880 for yourself. But I don't think that we can impose 0:15:46.040 --> 0:15:48.880 our beliefs and what we want for ourselves on our partners. 0:15:48.920 --> 0:15:50.840 Like if your partner wants to watch porn and he 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:54.040 wants to masturbate, you cannot say you can't do this. 0:15:54.320 --> 0:15:57.000 All you can do is say I don't feel comfortable 0:15:57.040 --> 0:15:59.000 with this, like I don't like it when you do that. 0:16:00.360 --> 0:16:02.880 I don't like it when you watch porn. And if 0:16:02.880 --> 0:16:05.240 they say, well, I'm going to do it anyway, then 0:16:05.280 --> 0:16:06.680 it's up to you whether you want to be in 0:16:06.680 --> 0:16:09.080 a relationship with someone who does that or doesn't do that, 0:16:09.160 --> 0:16:11.720 because ultimately, I would say that the vast majority of 0:16:11.760 --> 0:16:15.280 people do watch porn and do masturbate. And I also 0:16:15.280 --> 0:16:17.000 think you need to kind of like separate the two. 0:16:17.440 --> 0:16:19.800 Do you have a problem with your partner masturbating without 0:16:19.840 --> 0:16:22.240 you there? Like is that part of this? Because if 0:16:22.240 --> 0:16:23.760 that is a problem for you, then I think that 0:16:23.760 --> 0:16:25.720 that's a much bigger thing for you to unpack. Like, 0:16:25.960 --> 0:16:28.280 your partner has full agency over his own body. He's 0:16:28.280 --> 0:16:30.200 allowed to masturbate whenever the fuck he wants to. He 0:16:30.240 --> 0:16:33.080 doesn't need to ask for permission to pleasure himself. You 0:16:33.120 --> 0:16:35.600 don't need to be there every time he does it. It's 0:16:35.280 --> 0:16:37.040 not a reflection of you not doing a good job. 0:16:37.080 --> 0:16:39.480 It's not a reflection that he doesn't love you. Sometimes 0:16:39.520 --> 0:16:40.600 you just need a white case. 0:16:40.720 --> 0:16:42.880