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I'll big and what I want. 0:00:35.939 --> 0:00:37.019 It don't matter where. 0:00:37.699 --> 0:00:40.139 This is the pick up, Hi, guys. 0:00:40.419 --> 0:00:42.299 It's the pick up with Bread Hockey and Laura Ben. 0:00:42.379 --> 0:00:43.379 And it's so exciting. 0:00:43.459 --> 0:00:43.739 Today. 0:00:43.979 --> 0:00:47.859 Oh my god, today is a very very big day. 0:00:47.979 --> 0:00:49.779 You may not have heard the news, and I will 0:00:50.139 --> 0:00:51.459 excuse you if you haven't. 0:00:53.819 --> 0:00:55.299 I got married yesterday. 0:00:58.419 --> 0:01:00.899 I am no longer a single woman. Actually I was 0:01:00.979 --> 0:01:01.899 a single woman before that. 0:01:01.979 --> 0:01:04.219 Anyway, I was, in fact engaged and off the market. 0:01:04.379 --> 0:01:06.899 We know, we know you're engaged. I got married. 0:01:07.179 --> 0:01:10.379 I actually can't believe if I'm saying, Liz, I'm married, 0:01:10.779 --> 0:01:12.859 Briz Segrest, Britt. 0:01:12.619 --> 0:01:14.699 Got married yesterday. Hey, are you going with secrets? Is 0:01:14.779 --> 0:01:17.219 that what we're changing to? It's the pickout with Britt 0:01:17.298 --> 0:01:20.298 Secrets and Laura Burn. No, that's weird. Yeah, it felt. 0:01:21.619 --> 0:01:22.539 Do you know what I'm gonna do? 0:01:22.859 --> 0:01:25.739 I think I'm going to be missus secret like in 0:01:25.859 --> 0:01:28.019 the private world, and like if we have kids and 0:01:28.059 --> 0:01:30.499 stuff like that, but publicly I think Britt Hockley. 0:01:30.658 --> 0:01:33.099 It's also like once you're established, once you've like got 0:01:33.179 --> 0:01:34.658 a I mean not to be like you've got. 0:01:34.578 --> 0:01:37.459 A name for yourself. I feel like thirty seven thirty eight, 0:01:37.499 --> 0:01:39.779 you're like attached to your name. Yeah. I was too 0:01:39.818 --> 0:01:40.938 attached to my name to change. 0:01:40.979 --> 0:01:42.779 I couldn't be bothered. I also hate paperwork, so I 0:01:42.859 --> 0:01:43.298 kept burn. 0:01:43.499 --> 0:01:46.059 But it's weird. I got married on a Wednesday. It's 0:01:46.059 --> 0:01:49.619 the cheapest day of the week. Cost it's it's a 0:01:49.659 --> 0:01:50.219 budget of time. 0:01:50.499 --> 0:01:53.139 No, it actually only had to do with what was available. 0:01:53.339 --> 0:01:55.219 To be honest, Wednesday was the only day that was 0:01:55.219 --> 0:01:57.379 available for the venue that we wanted, so we locked 0:01:57.419 --> 0:01:58.139 that bad boy in. 0:01:58.339 --> 0:02:00.579 We managed to sneak away and get it done. 0:02:00.659 --> 0:02:03.538 So we actually are like we're here in your ears now, 0:02:03.659 --> 0:02:06.059 but we're not actually going to be here. I know. 0:02:06.219 --> 0:02:08.418 This is like the first real trick of radio, isn't it. 0:02:08.579 --> 0:02:11.579 We are currently in Bali. We are celebrating BRIT's wedding 0:02:11.899 --> 0:02:14.138 and we're going to be back next week. So Monday's show, 0:02:14.379 --> 0:02:16.099 make sure you're listening because we're going to be unpacking 0:02:16.219 --> 0:02:19.258 every single detail all the best bits from the wedding. 0:02:19.379 --> 0:02:22.019 Yes, unfortunately I do get a two day honeymoon, but then. 0:02:21.978 --> 0:02:23.698 We will be back on Monday. We will be back. 0:02:25.179 --> 0:02:28.298 Now it is Thursday, which means it is time for 0:02:28.418 --> 0:02:30.619 what we do every Thursday, and that is ask Guncut, 0:02:30.939 --> 0:02:33.138 where you guys give us a call and you tell 0:02:33.219 --> 0:02:35.179 us you're deep as dark as problems, and even though 0:02:35.179 --> 0:02:38.698 we have absolutely no qualifications or skills, necessarily we do 0:02:38.819 --> 0:02:40.859 our best to answer them and give the life advice 0:02:41.299 --> 0:02:42.259 to save you a bit of money. 0:02:42.339 --> 0:02:44.939 We actually have qualifications. You say that every week or. 0:02:44.939 --> 0:02:47.379 We do this on our podcast, Life Uncut podcast, and 0:02:47.459 --> 0:02:49.458 that's been going pretty good for us specific so we 0:02:49.499 --> 0:02:49.978 thought we'd. 0:02:49.819 --> 0:02:52.139 Bring across an. We got Alisha on the phone. 0:02:52.179 --> 0:02:56.339 Hi Alisha, Hi guys, Alisha, what is going on in 0:02:56.418 --> 0:02:56.819 your house? 0:02:57.859 --> 0:03:02.739 My partner doesn't really like having my dog in our bed. 0:03:03.538 --> 0:03:05.258 How long have you been with your partner for and 0:03:05.379 --> 0:03:06.859 is this a new problem or is it a problem 0:03:06.899 --> 0:03:07.859 that's always existed. 0:03:08.579 --> 0:03:11.059 Well, we're reaching like a three year mark. It's been 0:03:11.059 --> 0:03:13.858 two and a half years. This is actually a new thing. 0:03:14.138 --> 0:03:17.258 We only moved in maybe like a year ago, so, 0:03:18.859 --> 0:03:21.779 but it's just happened and I'm kind of freaking out 0:03:21.779 --> 0:03:24.779 about it because like, whoa where did this come from? 0:03:25.538 --> 0:03:26.339 So like they've cheated? 0:03:26.579 --> 0:03:29.698 Hang on, where does this come from? So a few questions? 0:03:29.779 --> 0:03:31.099 Hang on, we need to set the scene. Are we 0:03:31.179 --> 0:03:32.898 talking Chihuahua or great Dane? 0:03:34.019 --> 0:03:35.059 No, it's brutles. 0:03:35.099 --> 0:03:36.099 So he's a little big. 0:03:36.659 --> 0:03:38.059 Oh, goodles are big, okay? 0:03:38.179 --> 0:03:40.059 And I don't even know what a goodle is. It's 0:03:40.059 --> 0:03:40.899 a groodle. They're big. 0:03:41.059 --> 0:03:42.979 They're very big Golden Retriever poodles. 0:03:43.299 --> 0:03:46.499 Sorry, sorry, I just did a quick google. There's three sizes, miniature, 0:03:46.539 --> 0:03:47.659 medium and standard. 0:03:48.019 --> 0:03:51.099 Miniature is fifteen kilos, twenty two kilos or thirty kilos. 0:03:51.259 --> 0:03:52.539 Fifteen kilo has been the smallest. 0:03:52.579 --> 0:03:55.178 That's still big. It is a standard okay, right, so 0:03:55.299 --> 0:03:56.139 twenty two kilos. 0:03:56.219 --> 0:03:57.179 So important question? 0:03:58.379 --> 0:04:01.219 Was the groodle a part of your life before you 0:04:01.299 --> 0:04:04.379 met your partner or did you bring it in to 0:04:04.499 --> 0:04:05.819 your life together as a couple. 0:04:06.499 --> 0:04:09.499 Well, here's my dog, so i've him for five years 0:04:09.979 --> 0:04:11.499 and he's just kind of getting on a bed. 0:04:11.699 --> 0:04:17.299 I mean, the gle, the grudle has slept in your 0:04:17.379 --> 0:04:19.739 bed for five years, and now your partner's decided that 0:04:19.859 --> 0:04:20.859 it's just too much. 0:04:20.979 --> 0:04:22.379 And the dog needs to go and sleep in a 0:04:22.419 --> 0:04:24.659 dog bed. I understand that to be do you know. 0:04:24.819 --> 0:04:26.899 I had a very similar situation, so I have My 0:04:27.019 --> 0:04:29.619 dog is much bigger than this. He's forty kilos and 0:04:29.739 --> 0:04:30.899 he used to sleep in bed. 0:04:30.819 --> 0:04:31.899 With me every single night. 0:04:31.939 --> 0:04:33.899 And then I met my husband, and then also my 0:04:33.979 --> 0:04:37.379 husband would start sleeping in bed with us. And at 0:04:37.499 --> 0:04:39.739 one point we've been together for about eight months, Matt 0:04:39.939 --> 0:04:41.779 woke up in the middle of the night and he said, 0:04:41.819 --> 0:04:44.419 I've had enough. He's like, I can't do this anymore. 0:04:44.459 --> 0:04:45.739 And this is the first time we'd ever had a 0:04:45.779 --> 0:04:47.739 conversation about it. He was like, it's me or the dog. 0:04:48.099 --> 0:04:50.579 The dog has to sleep in a dog bed. I 0:04:50.619 --> 0:04:52.859 can't sleep with a dog in the bed anymore. And 0:04:53.339 --> 0:04:57.419 unfortunately for Buster, the ultimatum did stick and Matt got 0:04:57.459 --> 0:04:59.099 to stay in the bed even though I threatened to 0:04:59.099 --> 0:04:59.899 put him in the dog bed. 0:05:00.539 --> 0:05:02.459 And Buster's now in a dog bed next to Can 0:05:02.499 --> 0:05:04.019 you not get a dogbed next to the bed? 0:05:04.059 --> 0:05:06.379 I feel like that's a good solution, so that the 0:05:06.459 --> 0:05:08.219 grudle's still in the room, but it's. 0:05:08.099 --> 0:05:09.819 Not in or you know, in your room. 0:05:11.779 --> 0:05:14.579 Yeah, I guess, so I guess it just feels funny 0:05:14.659 --> 0:05:17.019 because he moved into like my house. 0:05:18.339 --> 0:05:18.659 Yeah, but. 0:05:20.179 --> 0:05:23.219 Unless the bed is like one of those extra king beds, 0:05:23.259 --> 0:05:26.579 that's really really big. I understand because sleep is very 0:05:26.619 --> 0:05:28.539 important if you're getting broken sleep because you have a 0:05:28.619 --> 0:05:33.059 giant grudle licking you, moving around making noise. Grudles don't molt. 0:05:33.139 --> 0:05:34.739 But if there was another dog that like molten and 0:05:34.819 --> 0:05:37.219 hair was all through it, like for me, that's pretty gross. 0:05:37.379 --> 0:05:39.618 I think you need to move the groodle to the ground. 0:05:39.699 --> 0:05:41.539 It can still be close to you. You can keep 0:05:41.579 --> 0:05:43.539 your eye on it, but you can maintain your relationship. 0:05:43.579 --> 0:05:45.259 Where does the groodle go when you guys are being 0:05:45.259 --> 0:05:46.059 intimate with each. 0:05:45.939 --> 0:05:46.859 Other, just looks at them. 0:05:50.659 --> 0:05:53.619 He can go where he likes, you know, wherever he sits, 0:05:53.659 --> 0:05:54.139 he sits. 0:05:54.579 --> 0:05:56.739 Okay, look, the grudle needs to go on a dog bed. 0:05:57.019 --> 0:05:57.459 I don't think. 0:05:57.579 --> 0:05:59.499 Yeah, I don't think it's worth it, the divorce or 0:05:59.539 --> 0:06:01.219 the split. I think, moves it to the bed. 0:06:02.059 --> 0:06:02.459 I get it. 0:06:02.579 --> 0:06:04.579 I get why this is hard, but I reckon for 0:06:04.619 --> 0:06:06.619 the sake of your relationship, it's time to pop. 0:06:07.019 --> 0:06:07.179 You know. 0:06:07.619 --> 0:06:09.459 The pooch in the dog bed right next to the bed, 0:06:09.579 --> 0:06:11.979 he's very close, he's not going to feel too like 0:06:12.099 --> 0:06:13.139 he's been shafted. 0:06:13.219 --> 0:06:17.899 I think that that's your best solution. Okay, thanks for 0:06:18.019 --> 0:06:19.859 calling if you want. 0:06:20.059 --> 0:06:22.339 If you want some advice like that and also feel defeated, 0:06:22.699 --> 0:06:24.019 give us a call at the pickup. 0:06:24.299 --> 0:06:25.299 That was a great call. 0:06:27.019 --> 0:06:28.299 I don't even know how I'm going to say this 0:06:28.419 --> 0:06:30.699 out loud, it is so mortifying, but I do want 0:06:30.699 --> 0:06:32.819 to put a call out to you guys, what did 0:06:32.899 --> 0:06:34.339 you find your kid eating? 0:06:34.859 --> 0:06:36.859 Because there is a woman in the UK that. 0:06:37.139 --> 0:06:40.059 Ducked upstairs for a couple of seconds just to put 0:06:40.099 --> 0:06:43.779 some washing away, and when she came downstairs, she saw 0:06:43.899 --> 0:06:45.779 her two year old making quite the mess in the 0:06:45.859 --> 0:06:47.899 lounge room. And she looked at his shirt and he 0:06:47.939 --> 0:06:50.939 had something all over his shirt. Then she looked at 0:06:50.979 --> 0:06:52.579 the table and she saw something all over the table. 0:06:52.699 --> 0:06:55.579 And you're not going to believe what he was eating. 0:06:56.259 --> 0:06:57.859 Oh my god, when. 0:06:57.779 --> 0:07:03.339 Your son eat? She died as ushers my song Huzzy. 0:07:03.139 --> 0:07:06.339 And my Dad's lush years Briet. I saw this and 0:07:06.579 --> 0:07:09.379 I think I even I can't remember. I feel like 0:07:09.379 --> 0:07:11.059 I sent it to every single group chat that I'm 0:07:11.099 --> 0:07:11.779 in your. 0:07:11.739 --> 0:07:13.579 Son when your son is your dad? 0:07:13.659 --> 0:07:14.739 That was her radiocaption. 0:07:14.939 --> 0:07:18.339 I mean obviously, like from the audio, you can't visualize this. 0:07:18.459 --> 0:07:20.899 The ash is everywhere, It's all over the house. If 0:07:20.939 --> 0:07:24.179 anyone who's ever scattered an ash of a loved one 0:07:24.459 --> 0:07:27.379 knows just how like it is a very specific thing, 0:07:27.459 --> 0:07:31.099 like it's a white, ashy substance, and it just kind 0:07:31.139 --> 0:07:34.339 of plumes everywhere. It is all over her house, all 0:07:34.379 --> 0:07:36.579 over her chair, and all down her todd lune not 0:07:37.099 --> 0:07:37.699 straight now. 0:07:37.859 --> 0:07:40.099 The worst part is it's all over his face, It's 0:07:40.139 --> 0:07:42.139 all over his cheeks. He's literally been eating it. 0:07:42.179 --> 0:07:44.339 Anyway. The comments is Dad, I'll live on forever in 0:07:44.379 --> 0:07:44.899 that toddler. 0:07:45.019 --> 0:07:48.179 Everyone's like, I'm pretty sure this isn't how reincarnation works. 0:07:48.219 --> 0:07:49.459 Well, at least he's going to be part of your 0:07:49.499 --> 0:07:51.979 son forever, which he's not. He's going to be pooed out. 0:07:52.139 --> 0:07:53.499 Your son will pooh out your dad. 0:07:53.939 --> 0:07:55.659 The fact that she has had a laugh about this 0:07:56.059 --> 0:07:58.619 is I think is brilliant because this could go two ways, 0:07:58.659 --> 0:08:00.339 like your dad has been consumed. 0:08:00.819 --> 0:08:04.699 Also, I'm impressed that the todder was able to open it. 0:08:04.739 --> 0:08:07.019 If anyone who's ever had an urn, usually the hardest 0:08:07.019 --> 0:08:08.099 part is trying to crack the lid. 0:08:08.179 --> 0:08:08.979 Open the earth. 0:08:09.099 --> 0:08:11.099 Well, this looks more like this could be on the 0:08:11.179 --> 0:08:12.899 mom It does look tea pottish. 0:08:13.699 --> 0:08:15.379 You just take the lid off a little bit, so 0:08:15.859 --> 0:08:17.739 that to me looks like they've already cracked the urn 0:08:17.819 --> 0:08:19.899 before and they've separated it, so they just put part 0:08:19.939 --> 0:08:21.699 of it in that teapot. That needs to have a 0:08:21.739 --> 0:08:23.939 stad's legs. Yeah, that needs to be a lockable lid. 0:08:24.219 --> 0:08:25.859 I mean, I saw this when we were talking about 0:08:25.859 --> 0:08:28.059 in the car and my daughter was in the back seat. 0:08:27.899 --> 0:08:28.779 Marley, she's five. 0:08:29.339 --> 0:08:33.579 Last year, we spread my grandfather's ashes like her papa. 0:08:33.859 --> 0:08:35.859 He was a really, really big part of my life. 0:08:36.419 --> 0:08:39.019 But spreading ashes never really goes to plan, is what 0:08:39.099 --> 0:08:41.499 I've realized, especially if it's a slightly windy day. 0:08:42.099 --> 0:08:43.899 We like tipped him off a mountain. 0:08:43.979 --> 0:08:46.819 And the wind picked up, and I sorry, even though 0:08:46.899 --> 0:08:48.099 he said that we tipped him off. 0:08:48.179 --> 0:08:50.699 She just scattered him off, scattered him. We scattered Papa 0:08:50.779 --> 0:08:51.299 off a mountain. 0:08:51.339 --> 0:08:53.578 He would laugh about this, But the wind came and 0:08:53.699 --> 0:08:55.859 at the same time the bag flipped back over and 0:08:55.939 --> 0:08:59.299 it went in my mouth, down my shirt, into my pants. 0:08:59.819 --> 0:09:01.939 But as we were talking about this in the car, Marley, 0:09:02.019 --> 0:09:04.139 it was like it clicked for her and she was like, wait, 0:09:04.979 --> 0:09:08.059 that was actually Papa, and I was like, yeah, she grows. 0:09:08.139 --> 0:09:08.739 She thought it was. 0:09:09.339 --> 0:09:11.539 She goes, but how did he become dirt? And I 0:09:11.659 --> 0:09:13.299 was like, oh, we're not going into that right now. 0:09:13.579 --> 0:09:17.179 That is a conversation. Why did you eat him? 0:09:17.979 --> 0:09:21.099 Why we've had Sophie call up Sophie high what did 0:09:21.139 --> 0:09:25.059 you find your kid eating? Well, it was a friend's 0:09:25.339 --> 0:09:28.779 toddler and they came out a staying at a cabin 0:09:29.099 --> 0:09:31.739 and they just arrived and their toddler crawled out with 0:09:31.899 --> 0:09:33.179 the toilet brush in their mouth. 0:09:33.259 --> 0:09:34.739 O my god. 0:09:34.899 --> 0:09:37.059 For some reason, there's something worse about like a toilet 0:09:37.059 --> 0:09:38.659 brush from home, like your own poop. 0:09:39.299 --> 0:09:42.459 It's far worse when it's from a rental. 0:09:42.939 --> 0:09:44.339 Maybe they thought it was a chop top. 0:09:44.579 --> 0:09:46.619 You know, he can't be the level. 0:09:47.939 --> 0:09:49.059 It was not a chop top. 0:09:49.619 --> 0:09:52.539 If anything was a crumble, I can't, I can't, all right, 0:09:53.219 --> 0:09:54.819 So that is actually. 0:09:54.619 --> 0:09:57.419 Discussing kids aren't disgusting brit though. 0:09:57.459 --> 0:09:59.779 That's the thing, Phoebe, What did your kid put in 0:09:59.859 --> 0:10:00.299 their mouth? 0:10:01.099 --> 0:10:01.659 My kids? 0:10:01.819 --> 0:10:04.659 He was disappearing us to the side, and all of 0:10:04.699 --> 0:10:06.899 a sudden I saw this little thing in his hand. 0:10:07.059 --> 0:10:10.299 With its eyes shut. He licked a lizard, a dead lizard. 0:10:10.659 --> 0:10:13.458 Oh, I don't know. 0:10:13.499 --> 0:10:14.499 I think that's that bad. 0:10:14.619 --> 0:10:17.139 My mom when my mum was a kid, she got 0:10:17.299 --> 0:10:19.779 known for licking the bottom of snails and she would 0:10:19.819 --> 0:10:21.819 bail her at like my uncle and Arnie up and 0:10:22.059 --> 0:10:23.659 make them lick the bottom of snails too. 0:10:23.819 --> 0:10:25.539 But to be fair, at least it was dead. 0:10:25.619 --> 0:10:26.139 I will say. 0:10:26.179 --> 0:10:27.179 We had some people on the. 0:10:27.179 --> 0:10:29.139 Text line just writing in saying that they found the 0:10:29.259 --> 0:10:31.579 kid with like live animals like snails and. 0:10:31.579 --> 0:10:32.339 Stuff that were still. 0:10:32.459 --> 0:10:36.059 Yeah, it's yeah, it's because they Is it like that? 0:10:36.179 --> 0:10:38.098 Were you talking about like a tiny little gecko? Is 0:10:38.139 --> 0:10:39.099 this like a big blue toe? 0:10:39.179 --> 0:10:40.419 It was a little skung. 0:10:42.979 --> 0:10:44.699 And it looks so peaceful, And I'm like, oh, I 0:10:44.979 --> 0:10:45.539 get it out. 0:10:45.459 --> 0:10:45.979 Of your mouth. 0:10:46.019 --> 0:10:47.739 Do you think it was alive before he licked it? 0:10:48.899 --> 0:10:52.659 No? I was definitely it was well dead. Oh thank you. 0:10:52.979 --> 0:10:55.218 Isn't it disgusting? Kids are rain But you only know 0:10:55.339 --> 0:10:55.699 half of it. 0:10:55.939 --> 0:10:57.939 I'm sure my kids have done way worse, but I 0:10:58.059 --> 0:10:59.939 just don't I don't even commit it to memory anymore. 0:11:00.499 --> 0:11:02.379 Don't care a lot of text lines about the kids 0:11:02.419 --> 0:11:05.379 eating poop. Yeah, I mean, like they've all accidentally at 0:11:05.419 --> 0:11:06.539 some point that's a choice. 0:11:06.579 --> 0:11:06.979 It just no. 0:11:07.379 --> 0:11:08.659 I don't think a two year old two us. 0:11:08.819 --> 0:11:10.619 I think they just don't have very good motor skills 0:11:10.659 --> 0:11:12.299 and hands go flying and things go fine. 0:11:13.899 --> 0:11:16.259 Well, we have the man himself in the studio with 0:11:16.379 --> 0:11:18.179 us today. Sam, You've been a friend of us for 0:11:18.259 --> 0:11:20.939 so long. We've done many interviews with you. You even 0:11:21.059 --> 0:11:23.419 came on our Life on Cut podcast tour with us 0:11:23.499 --> 0:11:24.459 to every single show. 0:11:24.539 --> 0:11:26.899 We couldn't love you more. Welcome to the pickup. 0:11:27.019 --> 0:11:29.219 Ah, my girls, so good to be back together. 0:11:29.459 --> 0:11:32.059 Yes, you have some big, exciting things happening in your 0:11:32.099 --> 0:11:32.819 life at the moment. 0:11:32.939 --> 0:11:35.779 You've moved. You also have new head. But more importantly 0:11:35.859 --> 0:11:37.779 than that, you have a new single that is out now. 0:11:37.859 --> 0:11:40.619 Yes, it's called love Life, which the lyrics of this 0:11:41.419 --> 0:11:42.218 very sentimental. 0:11:42.859 --> 0:11:44.899 Why like, what was the reasoning behind it? 0:11:45.859 --> 0:11:49.899 It's been a crazy year and I am trying to 0:11:49.939 --> 0:11:51.578 focus on the joy in my life because I have 0:11:51.619 --> 0:11:53.619 a tendency to get quite negative when I talk about 0:11:53.659 --> 0:11:56.739 my career because a lot of just bs has happened. 0:11:56.979 --> 0:12:01.059 But being independent, moving to a new country, finding myself there, 0:12:01.419 --> 0:12:04.779 and really trying to hold on to the joy in 0:12:04.859 --> 0:12:08.139 my life instead of focusing on everything that has gone wrong. 0:12:08.259 --> 0:12:11.979 Has a real struggle for me, and so I just 0:12:12.059 --> 0:12:15.259 thought of love life because I want to love life 0:12:15.299 --> 0:12:16.779 and I want to find a way to be able 0:12:16.819 --> 0:12:19.179 to do that. And also I just thought, like I 0:12:19.259 --> 0:12:21.379 thought about my love life, it's about how a love life. 0:12:21.419 --> 0:12:22.819 And when I thought of that, I patted myself on 0:12:22.859 --> 0:12:24.978 the back and I said, you claver Basted. 0:12:26.659 --> 0:12:28.579 Were having some big changes. 0:12:28.619 --> 0:12:29.578 As you just mentioned though. 0:12:30.539 --> 0:12:33.179 You've moved to London and you've gone independence. So it's 0:12:33.219 --> 0:12:35.259 a really big thing for an artist to go independent. 0:12:35.459 --> 0:12:37.539 How has that transition being what's it look like? 0:12:38.259 --> 0:12:41.499 It was really scary at first, I think going from 0:12:41.539 --> 0:12:44.539 any kind of major label system with a full team 0:12:44.739 --> 0:12:48.019 with full budget. But I'm across everything now which I 0:12:48.219 --> 0:12:50.899 wasn't in the past, and that's what has kind of 0:12:50.899 --> 0:12:51.499 screwed me over. 0:12:52.059 --> 0:12:55.499 But that is what it is, and focusing on the future. 0:12:55.779 --> 0:12:58.739 Being able to be independent, to have total creative control 0:12:59.419 --> 0:13:02.098 is scarier than anything because every decision comes back on 0:13:02.219 --> 0:13:04.659 me and my team is amazing, But at the end 0:13:04.659 --> 0:13:06.619 of the day, the captain of the ship is the 0:13:06.819 --> 0:13:08.098 you know, the one that says in the boat to 0:13:08.099 --> 0:13:10.139 go down and that's. 0:13:09.939 --> 0:13:11.579 The analogy, right, guys, that's the same. 0:13:11.819 --> 0:13:12.338 Yeah, it is. 0:13:12.619 --> 0:13:13.979 The cuptain goes down with the ship. 0:13:14.059 --> 0:13:16.259 It does go down, ye yeah, yeah great? 0:13:16.379 --> 0:13:17.059 Is this what I mean? 0:13:17.139 --> 0:13:19.059 It's a positive or negative? Now I'm not quite. 0:13:18.899 --> 0:13:21.819 Sure, you know, as in, like, I have so much 0:13:22.019 --> 0:13:23.819 pride in the boat. 0:13:25.179 --> 0:13:27.139 That you're saying that I'm on you know what, I'm 0:13:27.179 --> 0:13:29.499 building this boat by myself and if it sinks, well 0:13:29.539 --> 0:13:32.458 with the villages exactly, if that's really what it is. 0:13:32.619 --> 0:13:34.979 If it sinks, I will be sinking it. 0:13:35.219 --> 0:13:36.299 Oh yes. 0:13:37.699 --> 0:13:39.779 Being on the label and having the pressure of like, 0:13:39.939 --> 0:13:42.379 you need to get five thousand pre saves on a song, 0:13:42.499 --> 0:13:44.219 and then once you get to five thousand, they're like, okay, 0:13:44.259 --> 0:13:46.259 let's push for twenty thousand, and then you get to 0:13:46.339 --> 0:13:48.458 twenty thousand, you push for fifty thousand, and if you 0:13:48.499 --> 0:13:51.139 don't get to fifty thousand, then the labels like, oh, 0:13:51.379 --> 0:13:53.019 maybe this isn't going to work, and you're like, well, 0:13:53.059 --> 0:13:55.019 I hit all these other goals. So it was always 0:13:55.099 --> 0:13:58.059 goalpost being pushed and pushed and pushed, and now I'm 0:13:58.099 --> 0:14:00.819 celebrating the little winds and I'm just excited to get 0:14:00.939 --> 0:14:04.699 music out. And this year I'm putting out so much music, 0:14:05.179 --> 0:14:07.059 there's going to be consistent releases. 0:14:07.299 --> 0:14:09.939 Some of the songs and the lyrics that you write, like, obviously, 0:14:09.979 --> 0:14:11.659 they're very personal, and even when you talk about them, 0:14:11.699 --> 0:14:14.379 it's kind of like it's a personal discovery or like 0:14:14.419 --> 0:14:16.979 a little bit of a diary entry. How does your 0:14:17.059 --> 0:14:20.459 wife feel, who's also a musician, when she hears some 0:14:20.539 --> 0:14:22.499 of the vulnerable parts of songs, like it does it 0:14:22.579 --> 0:14:23.419 bring you guys together? 0:14:23.579 --> 0:14:24.459 Do you talk about it? 0:14:24.579 --> 0:14:24.619 Like? 0:14:24.739 --> 0:14:26.379 How does that conversation fold out? 0:14:27.059 --> 0:14:31.179 Yeah? I mean, Aaron has been with me this whole journey, 0:14:31.259 --> 0:14:33.939 so she knows everything, and she's seen everything go down, 0:14:34.579 --> 0:14:36.139 and there's been a lot of stuff that the public 0:14:36.219 --> 0:14:40.219 doesn't know that's happened behind the scenes, which was devastating. 0:14:40.379 --> 0:14:43.499 I mean, to be totally transparent. 0:14:43.899 --> 0:14:46.219 The reason we left LA was because I discovered that 0:14:46.539 --> 0:14:49.819 I had no money and I was trying to figure 0:14:49.819 --> 0:14:51.739 out where that money had gone, and I realized that 0:14:51.819 --> 0:14:55.099 there was some bad faith actors messing about, and so 0:14:56.139 --> 0:14:59.819 we went through having to sell everything, pack up our 0:14:59.859 --> 0:15:02.939 little car and drive to Virginia and we were in 0:15:03.259 --> 0:15:05.139 her mum's place for a year and a half, living 0:15:05.179 --> 0:15:08.019 in Yeah, my mother in law's basement. 0:15:07.939 --> 0:15:11.939 And so crazy when you look at from suspectively your 0:15:12.059 --> 0:15:15.499 success and what's happening online and what you've created, who 0:15:15.539 --> 0:15:19.579 you've collabbed with, you downloads, your streams, like it seems unfathomable. 0:15:19.739 --> 0:15:22.019 I mean, even even I Love You, Please Don't Hate 0:15:22.059 --> 0:15:24.619 Me on Spotify alone has had nearly a billion streams. 0:15:24.939 --> 0:15:26.899 But you know, Sam, it doesn't sound like that is 0:15:26.939 --> 0:15:29.299 that uncommon, Like it seems like it's something that's sort 0:15:29.299 --> 0:15:30.699 of you have to be really careful about. 0:15:31.099 --> 0:15:31.899 You absolutely do. 0:15:32.259 --> 0:15:35.619 And I think I put too much faith in the 0:15:35.819 --> 0:15:37.379 people who I was supposed to. 0:15:37.539 --> 0:15:38.019 And that's the thing. 0:15:38.059 --> 0:15:40.619 As artists, as creatives, like we are as good as 0:15:40.659 --> 0:15:42.939 the people we the village we have around us. And 0:15:44.699 --> 0:15:47.219 it sucks that it's not a unique story and that 0:15:47.299 --> 0:15:49.619 it's happened to so many and you never think it's 0:15:49.619 --> 0:15:51.219 going to happen to you until it does, until you 0:15:51.259 --> 0:15:52.739 wake up and your credit card gets to claim you 0:15:52.739 --> 0:15:56.379 can't pay rent and move across country and live with 0:15:56.419 --> 0:15:58.019 your mother in law in Virginia for a year and 0:15:58.059 --> 0:15:58.299 a half. 0:15:59.259 --> 0:15:59.579 Highlight. 0:16:00.459 --> 0:16:02.219 Yeah, yes we did it. We made it. 0:16:03.259 --> 0:16:04.619 Oh, I'm so sorry this happened. 0:16:04.699 --> 0:16:07.619 It's okay, honestly character building, and I have an amazing 0:16:07.659 --> 0:16:11.379 team now and I've rebuilt and moved to London, and 0:16:11.979 --> 0:16:13.619