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Speaker 1: This is the pick up. Hi guys, welcome back but
Speaker 1: here again after a nice little break. It's the pick
Speaker 1: up with Brett Hockley and Laura Burr. Are you welcome
Speaker 1: me back or the listeners or who are you welcoming?
Speaker 3: Really?
Speaker 1: Welcome back to your show.
Speaker 3: We did have a little week Vaca, how is yours?
Speaker 3: It was nice not to see each other just for
Speaker 3: one week, wasn't it.
Speaker 1: No? I missed you. You ssh you are lying through
Speaker 1: your teeth. You love to get away from me for
Speaker 1: a week. I know I do miss the team when
Speaker 1: I have a week off, but it was very nice.
Speaker 1: The only thing is is it's like when you're on
Speaker 1: holidays and the kids are off too. There's so much
Speaker 1: planning that goes into it. It's two o'clock every day.
Speaker 1: My kids were like, I'm bored. This day sucks. We
Speaker 1: do nothing. We'd already been bowling, We'd already done clay art.
Speaker 1: Like there was one morning there, it was a Tuesday.
Speaker 1: I had done clay art and done puzzles all by
Speaker 1: nine am. We picked too early.
Speaker 3: So you don't want to hear me say now that
Speaker 3: there was one day that it was ten am and
Speaker 3: I was still just rolling around in bed.
Speaker 1: I don't know what that is anymore. I have never
Speaker 1: There hasn't been a day I don't know what clayart is.
Speaker 3: And puzzles my dating life was the only puzzle I
Speaker 3: ever experienced.
Speaker 1: In the last ten years. Oh well, look, you know, okay,
Speaker 1: I am having a baby in the next I have
Speaker 1: a baby. I think I'm nine weeks off now nine
Speaker 1: weeks and this baby number three will be out in
Speaker 1: the world. Why are you looking at producer Grace to
Speaker 1: confirm how far away your baby? She is more organized
Speaker 1: than I am, and I'm in a diary. I'm hoping
Speaker 1: one of you guys know my due date.
Speaker 4: No.
Speaker 1: Look, they do say. Baby brain is a thing. And
Speaker 1: it turns out that I have had a few mistakes
Speaker 1: during the holidays. One of them involves my husband we're
Speaker 1: gonna talk about it next pick up on kiss. Something
Speaker 1: happened to me on holidays which really got me into
Speaker 1: the got me into the bad books with my husband.
Speaker 1: Tell you weast your pants again. That's a daily occurrence. Now, Okay,
Speaker 1: somebody messaged me on Instagram and said, Laura, you've been
Speaker 1: talking about wetting your pants. Context people. I'm three, I'm
Speaker 1: having my third baby, and I'm in like well into
Speaker 1: third trimester, and so it's just now a regular thing.
Speaker 1: And I got a message from a very concerned listener
Speaker 1: who said, I think you might have a prolapse. Maybe
Speaker 1: I think I need to stop talking.
Speaker 3: Do you know there's a seat you can I've done
Speaker 3: it before once. I forget what it's called. But you
Speaker 3: sit on it for pelvic floor and it puts these
Speaker 3: vibration tightening things into you and it helps to tighten it.
Speaker 1: It's a seat that you sit on. I've sat on it.
Speaker 1: I would like it to be known. I don't want
Speaker 1: to sit on the same one.
Speaker 3: No, it's a proper thing at a physio And okay, okay,
Speaker 3: I don't wet myself.
Speaker 1: I've just dug myself behole. You really have.
Speaker 2: Cride it for a friend.
Speaker 3: She is the physio, and she's like, Hey, I got
Speaker 3: this new equipment.
Speaker 2: Do you want to try it?
Speaker 1: And it tightens? Can we get back on track? I'm
Speaker 1: doing my key, I'm doing my Keegel's exercises at the
Speaker 1: traffic lights, and I'm sure everyone is thrilled to know.
Speaker 1: If I'm stopped at a red light, you better bet
Speaker 1: I'm doing Keegel's exercises.
Speaker 4: Well.
Speaker 3: Producer Grace is on the case. She's googling the seat.
Speaker 1: Okay, So this happened to me on the holidays though.
Speaker 1: I went into Kmar and I was with my husband
Speaker 1: and my kids. We were running around and we were
Speaker 1: down the coast, so we were like a couple of
Speaker 1: hours away from where we usually live. So I'm walking
Speaker 1: around Kmart and Matt's next to me and I see
Speaker 1: this guy who I have not seen him in Oh
Speaker 1: my goodness, Like, what twenty years? I hooked up with
Speaker 1: him in the No. No, he used to date a
Speaker 1: friend of mine. But it was just this weird moment
Speaker 1: because it's been twenty years since I've seen him. We
Speaker 1: used to play water polo together and he was there
Speaker 1: with his two kids and he looked like this guy
Speaker 1: I knew from twenty years ago, except twenty years older.
Speaker 1: You know, we all just look a lot different to
Speaker 1: back then and right, and I saw him and I
Speaker 1: was like, well, Liam, is that you? And then he
Speaker 1: looked at me like he had no idea who I was.
Speaker 1: So then I listened to the pick up, so then
Speaker 1: I had to explain who I was. I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: it's Laura. We used to play water polo together, and
Speaker 1: this is my husband Ben. Wait you introduced your husband
Speaker 1: as my husband. Now, just for reference everyone, my husband's
Speaker 1: name is Matt and my husband's name is Ben. And
Speaker 1: I didn't even realize I had said it. I just
Speaker 1: steamrolled kept talking to this Liam guy started trying to
Speaker 1: kid up a conversation about water polo and Matt just
Speaker 1: stood there. And then Liam goes to shake his hand,
Speaker 1: and Matt turns around and goes, ah, sorry, mate, my
Speaker 1: name's actually Matt. This is a bit awkward, and then
Speaker 1: he goes, I think that's her other husband. And honestly,
Speaker 1: I don't know why I did it.
Speaker 3: I think, are you fantasizing about my husband even through
Speaker 3: this with me?
Speaker 2: Is there an intervention here?
Speaker 1: To be fair, my ex boyfriend's name is Ben, and
Speaker 1: I it was just the most Freudian slip ever. I
Speaker 1: don't know why it came out. And then you know,
Speaker 1: when you I know you've made a mistake. So Liam
Speaker 1: thinks you're cooked. He's like, you don't even know who
Speaker 1: your husband is. Well, then when you know you've made
Speaker 1: a mistake, and you get a bit embarrassed because I
Speaker 1: was Laura a wife. Why were you embarrassed? I couldn't
Speaker 1: imagine why, or just like nothing that was coming out
Speaker 1: of my mouth would have made any sense. He's like, oh, Laura, Wow,
Speaker 1: she went downhill rapidly up to water polo when we
Speaker 1: were ninety.
Speaker 3: Okay, so you've had this moment because I imagine if I
Speaker 3: was Matt and that happened, I would.
Speaker 1: Want to talk about that.
Speaker 3: When we left, did he ask you, like where that
Speaker 3: came from, or like did he feel be put.
Speaker 1: Off by it? I apologized and we walked out, and
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, that's so embarrassing. I'm
Speaker 1: very sorry that that happened. I was thinking and I
Speaker 1: don't even think this is true. I think I just
Speaker 1: made it up. I was like, I was thinking that
Speaker 1: I need to message your Ben to say congratulation, which
Speaker 1: wasn't even true. I hadn't thought that. I don't know
Speaker 1: why I said your husband's name, that I introduced my
Speaker 1: husband as your husband. There's no good way out of it,
Speaker 1: because he knows you only know two bends and ex
Speaker 1: or my husband like this. There's two past. You could
Speaker 1: take Robert Frost the poem. I just I'm sure Liam's
Speaker 1: not listening since he had no idea who I was.
Speaker 1: I'm not concerned about Liam. I'm concerned about Matt. Lilliam's gone.
Speaker 1: Liam's lost in spotlight wherever he is.
Speaker 3: This is about your husband, and I think it's funny
Speaker 3: that you're still concerned about Liam.
Speaker 1: I was so embarrassed. Matt got over it. He knows
Speaker 1: I've done worse. I did a lot of embarrassing things
Speaker 1: during this holiday break.
Speaker 3: I did think it was weird. Ben asked me last night.
Speaker 3: He's like, why has Matt blocked me on Instagram?
Speaker 1: Nah? Yeah, it was one time at Britt. I'll tell
Speaker 1: you about it another day. Laura.
Speaker 3: There is a really big Hollywood couple that okay, mind
Speaker 3: you I say big.
Speaker 1: We did just have to do some googling about I
Speaker 1: knew who they were, which doesn't. That's like actually outrageous
Speaker 1: because I don't know who anyone is weird because sometimes
Speaker 1: you're like, who's Beyonce?
Speaker 3: But you do know who Jerry O'Connell and Rebecca Remain are.
Speaker 3: So Jerry and Rebecca have been married for nearly twenty years.
Speaker 1: They're both Hollywood superstars.
Speaker 3: But they're doing the rounds online at the moment for
Speaker 3: something that they just discussed on Andy Cohen. They were
Speaker 3: talking about their finances and the way they share finance
Speaker 3: Answers have a listened to what they said.
Speaker 1: I mean, Rebecca, is I mean do you have a
Speaker 1: joint bank account, because I mean we all are zero money,
Speaker 1: completely separate. I bet you do. I mean there's like
Speaker 1: a community pass. Do you both contribute to the kids
Speaker 1: community quarterly? And it's a set fixed amount. We actually
Speaker 1: throttle how much money we put into that account. Sometimes,
Speaker 1: what do you mean depending on who's working more?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 1: You so you say the one who's not working gets
Speaker 1: a little bit of a brig.
Speaker 3: So interestingly, they go on to say further, in eighteen
Speaker 3: years that they've been together, they don't know what each
Speaker 3: other earns, like they have no concept of what they've
Speaker 3: got where they've got in the bank or anything, and
Speaker 3: then like three times a year they both just put
Speaker 3: a chunk of money into this communal pot.
Speaker 1: But they don't even know what they're putting in. This
Speaker 1: sounds like a rich person problem. They can only do
Speaker 1: this because they're so well if you don't know who
Speaker 1: they are. So Rebecca was mistiqun x men. She's been
Speaker 1: in lots of things. And Jerry O'Connell, the reason why
Speaker 1: I remember him is because he was in that TV
Speaker 1: show Sliders million years ago. He's been a scary movie,
Speaker 1: He's been in lots of things.
Speaker 2: He was at my crush when I was a teenager.
Speaker 1: Well, look, I mean, I don't know what he's been
Speaker 1: in recently. I think he's done a couple of talk
Speaker 1: shows and stuff. But for me, I think if you're
Speaker 1: married and you have kids, and I know that everyone's
Speaker 1: different when it comes to money, and there's no right
Speaker 1: way or wrong way of going about it. But I
Speaker 1: would say that most people just kind of put all
Speaker 1: their money together instead of keeping Actually maybe that is
Speaker 1: Maybe that's a that's a big assumption.
Speaker 3: I mean, I think there are right and wrong ways.
Speaker 3: There's definitely wrong ways. If you have no access to
Speaker 3: your money, Like there's definitely financial control, but that's not
Speaker 3: what we're talking about.
Speaker 1: I would find it unusual.
Speaker 3: And I've got one friend that I can think of
Speaker 3: that I remember thinking it was really weird. So I mean,
Speaker 3: maybe this is something that we put out to the
Speaker 3: public and we do a poll one day, But I
Speaker 3: would find it unusual if people had no idea about
Speaker 3: what their long term partner, husband, wife, father, mother of
Speaker 3: their kids earns. Like for me, even if your finances
Speaker 3: aren't necessarily shared, the unusual part of his conversation is
Speaker 3: not having any idea of like not even a ballpark.
Speaker 1: Yeah, your partner is bringing in I think that is weird.
Speaker 1: I think that's what I'll backtrack on. So I don't
Speaker 1: think that everyone just puts all their money into the
Speaker 1: same account. But I would say a lot of people
Speaker 1: have visibility or at least an understanding of what their
Speaker 1: partner earns. So the way Matt and I do it,
Speaker 1: we have our own accounts as well, Like so he's
Speaker 1: got his own account, I've got my own account. We
Speaker 1: have our offset account, but literally everything goes into that offset,
Speaker 1: like everything that we earn apart from I mean if
Speaker 1: Matt really wanted to keep a bit extra, I wouldn't know,
Speaker 1: and same might be and the same for me, Like
Speaker 1: I could keep a bit extra, but realistically, everything we
Speaker 1: earn goes in together because we're all working towards the
Speaker 1: same goals. So why would we keep money siphoned off? Yeah?
Speaker 3: And so my husband Ben and I we are very
Speaker 3: transparent with our money and our incomes and who has what.
Speaker 2: We have a communal account like a joint account.
Speaker 1: Did I say?
Speaker 3: We put money in, but it's not always the same amount.
Speaker 3: We don't like, we just put what we have, you know.
Speaker 3: It's like sometimes one person's putting more in, sometimes the
Speaker 3: other person. But we always and I till the day
Speaker 3: I die, And.
Speaker 2: I truly believe everyone should do this.
Speaker 3: I have my own account that is just for me,
Speaker 3: and he has his own account that's just for him.
Speaker 3: I guess it comes with a level of trust in
Speaker 3: your relationships. But I will never hand over my finances
Speaker 3: completely to anyone else ever. But I do think it's
Speaker 3: important that you are contributing equally and you know what
Speaker 3: the other person is.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree. Well, I mean, look, I really have
Speaker 1: backtracked to what I said at the stuff. Yeah, you
Speaker 1: like only only because the more I thought about it more,
Speaker 1: I was like, Oh, there's absolutely going to be people
Speaker 1: in cars who are in long term relationships and they've
Speaker 1: managed to keep their finances totally separate. Because everyone's at
Speaker 1: different stages of life, right Like, maybe you've been married
Speaker 1: divorced before you've met a new partner, you've gotten together
Speaker 1: and you've got your own lives set up, and so
Speaker 1: you don't need to put all your funds in the
Speaker 1: same pot. But I think sometimes, well maybe it's a
Speaker 1: healthy way of approaching it when you've got kids. I
Speaker 1: think it's just easier to kind of go, Okay, well
Speaker 1: we're both in this together, and having a bit of
Speaker 1: as much financial transparency as possible as the way to go.
Speaker 1: I think that Jerry and Rebecca's set up is pretty unused.
Speaker 3: Rule well, interestingly, there is another Hollywood couple that have
Speaker 3: spoken about this in.
Speaker 1: The past, Selma Hayak and her husband.
Speaker 3: I'm going to butcher his name, Francois Henry Pinall Pinol. Anyway,
Speaker 3: I'd be devoted in that sense they keep everything separate.
Speaker 3: But he's a billionaire, so I guess that's why he's
Speaker 3: like a literal billionaire.
Speaker 1: So I guess that's why he's probably been like, you know,
Speaker 1: like you can have your money, britt How old do
Speaker 1: you think old is? If you how old are you really? Actually?
Speaker 1: How old? I'd start with that because the Daily Mail
Speaker 1: keeps reporting on it wrong and no one's really sure
Speaker 1: how old it is, Brittany Hockley.
Speaker 3: My birthday next week, the investigation twenty eight.
Speaker 1: And I will die on that hill. How old? That
Speaker 1: is an open ended question. The reason why I love
Speaker 1: this so much. We had a discussion about the four
Speaker 1: britt you have like softly lied about your age for
Speaker 1: so long that the Daily Mail doesn't even know how
Speaker 1: old you are.
Speaker 3: Now I made a couple of jokes here and there,
Speaker 3: and now I have forgotten, in fact how old I am,
Speaker 3: so I can't confirm nor deny.
Speaker 1: Well. The reason why we're talking about this is because
Speaker 1: there's quite a few tiktoks and social reels that are
Speaker 1: going viral at the moment where gen zs are being
Speaker 1: asked how old is old? Like, what is the definitive
Speaker 1: age where you clock over from being just like young, youthful,
Speaker 1: vibrant old? What is that age? So for anyone who
Speaker 1: doesn't know. If you're a gen Zetter, it means that
Speaker 1: you're born between nineteen ninety seven to twenty twelve, so
Speaker 1: anywhere from thirteen years old. If you were born in
Speaker 1: twenty twelve, you're thirteen. If you were born in nineteen
Speaker 1: ninety seven, your twenty eight y is old age.
Speaker 3: That was mine? Y, Sorry I was, I was in
Speaker 3: nineteen ninety seven.
Speaker 1: If you want to add a decade onto that, then
Speaker 1: we'll get closer to our ages. But also okay, so
Speaker 1: twenty two percent of gen zed surveyed believe that thirty
Speaker 1: five is old. Twenty two percent, So that's shocking.
Speaker 3: If hypothetically I was that age, I would be offended.
Speaker 1: Thirty five percent think that forty is old. Around fifty
Speaker 1: believe that fifty the age of fifty is old. That's
Speaker 1: when it's kind of clocks over. And three percent thought
Speaker 1: that twenty seven years old were old. That's got to
Speaker 1: be the thirteen year olds, like, that's a thirteen year
Speaker 1: old answering that question. It has to be.
Speaker 3: But don't you remember, like I remember being in school,
Speaker 3: so maybe eleven, twelve, thirteen, you thought that your teachers
Speaker 3: were so old, but in fact they were probably fresh
Speaker 3: out of Uni, were probably like twenty four years old,
Speaker 3: and I remember thinking that they were like done and dusted.
Speaker 1: I know. Marley was talking about her school teacher recently,
Speaker 1: and her school teacher is like, she's she's green, she's
Speaker 1: fresh out of Uni. She's so beautiful, vibrant, jewish skin.
Speaker 1: She's like twenty six at a guess. I don't know
Speaker 1: how old she actually is, but she's much younger than me.
Speaker 1: And Marley was like, gosh, my teacher is old because
Speaker 1: she's a grown up. And I was like, how old
Speaker 1: do you think I am? And she was like, you're
Speaker 1: really old. And I was like, what about Nana? And
Speaker 1: She's like she's gonna die soon. I'm like, this is
Speaker 1: really awful, Nawa. The thing is is that age. Firstly,
Speaker 1: you're only as old as you feel. And secondly, everyone's
Speaker 1: caveat for what is like old, old or not old
Speaker 1: increases as they get old. So like now that I
Speaker 1: am pushing into my forties, I turned forty next year. Yeah,
Speaker 1: forty's not old, no way, no, nah, forty And then
Speaker 1: I had this moment dawned on me in the shower
Speaker 1: and I was like, I've done half my life and
Speaker 1: then another forty years, I'll be eighty. It was just
Speaker 1: one of those musings in the shower where you're like,
Speaker 1: you can't do it. Forty more years and I will
Speaker 1: be eighty.
Speaker 3: That makes me upset. If you live this life again,
Speaker 3: then you're eighty. Yeah, yeah, year old. I had a
Speaker 3: moment on the weekend actually, where my friend came over.
Speaker 3: It was Saturday, and it was the afternoon, and she
Speaker 3: came to drop some stuff off, pick some stuff up,
Speaker 3: and she was heading out to a like a wedding
Speaker 3: reception party kind of thing. She had a big party on.
Speaker 3: And she's like, what are you doing tonight? Saturday night?
Speaker 1: She's like, you're heading out? I said, oh no. I
Speaker 1: was like I've got heaps too. She's like, what are
Speaker 1: you up to?
Speaker 3: And I said, oh, I've got to RePOP my plants
Speaker 3: and propagate like a new tree. And she just looked
Speaker 3: at me and I said, don't say it. I was like,
Speaker 3: I'm old and I She's like, yoh, you've just lost it.
Speaker 3: Saturday night and I couldn't go out because I had
Speaker 3: to repot the plant.
Speaker 1: Because you had to propagate, because I had to propagated.
Speaker 1: But it's really nice it's the un sexiest thing ever.
Speaker 1: I was like, hands deep in manure proper. Wow. Okay,
Speaker 1: all right, well anyway, I'm sure some other people are
Speaker 1: doing different kinds of propagation on a Saturday night. No,
Speaker 1: but look there's also I mean, in this conversation, there
Speaker 1: was also a gym that's been discussed online as well.
Speaker 1: So imagine signing up to a women's only gym. Right,
Speaker 1: You've paid a subscription fee, You're locked and loaded, You've
Speaker 1: got your time that you like to go, and then
Speaker 1: you receive a message from management which says that the
Speaker 1: gym's time schedules are going to change, and that between
Speaker 1: the hours of four pm to seven pm it was
Speaker 1: only going to be accessible for women who were aged
Speaker 1: between twelve to twenty four, and they were doing that
Speaker 1: to make it more accessible to the younger generation for
Speaker 1: four to.
Speaker 3: Seven so prime time, you're giving the gym to kids
Speaker 3: that don't need it.
Speaker 1: Us oldies need the gym. I didn't even realize that
Speaker 1: twelve year olds were going to the gym. I was
Speaker 1: going to do gym at twelve. Is that a thing?
Speaker 1: Is there a reason for it? I can't think of
Speaker 1: one reason why. Most natural athletes.
Speaker 3: We were at the gym at twelve, but seriously, from
Speaker 3: four pm I'm to seven pm, that is your peak time.
Speaker 3: That is when people are clocking off from work and
Speaker 3: going to the gym. I would cancel my membership if
Speaker 3: my gym told me that I couldn't go in those
Speaker 3: peak hours because I was older than twenty four.
Speaker 1: This is insane. This update has been made in response
Speaker 1: to feedback and to bed cater to our younger female
Speaker 1: members who require a dedicated, comfortable space during peak after
Speaker 1: school and early evening hours.
Speaker 4: Come to a forty year old that was working out,
Speaker 4: I could understand if it was like a co ed
Speaker 4: gym space and like, there's been some things going down,
Speaker 4: but like the four year old women are comfortable with
Speaker 4: the old women.
Speaker 1: We're not predators, al right. Oh they've seen the way
Speaker 1: we wear our socks. We just got we've just got
Speaker 1: bad OSTEO. Okay, we're not going to do anything wrong anyway.
Speaker 1: That's got to be a joke. Is it is actually real? No,
Speaker 1: it's real. Unfortunately, it's real. Look we're going out of business. Guys,
Speaker 1: wagh in on this. If you're in your cars, don't
Speaker 1: get on our social straight away, wait till your part
Speaker 1: and you pulled over. But I would love to know
Speaker 1: what is the age that to you defines old. My
Speaker 1: thing is that I never expected to be going into
Speaker 1: to my forties with a newborn baby. But here we are. Anyway,
Speaker 1: that's him for a while.
Speaker 3: Give me plans for those of us that are nearly
Speaker 3: forty and haven't started yet.
Speaker 1: Ali, guys, we're gonna say goodbye.