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Speaker 1: Podcasting.

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Speaker 2: Now, why do people and I'm obviously angling this is

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Speaker 2: at a particular gender, but you know, we don't need

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Speaker 2: to put genders on this, Woods, Why do people need

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Speaker 2: to feel sexy to have sex? The reason I bring

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Speaker 2: this up is I went to go and engage in

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Speaker 2: a little bit of parallel parking the other night and

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Speaker 2: my girlfriend said to me.

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Speaker 3: Sorry, can I ask quick question?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, when you say you went to go and instigate

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Speaker 4: parallel parking, what do you do?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Great question, but that's a different type for a different day.

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Speaker 2: That real quickly, Now, what did you do.

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Speaker 5: That wouldn't happen wouldn't happen on the radio?

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Speaker 2: That's private, Woods, that's private stuff, mate, this kind of show.

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Speaker 4: You threw my girlfriend on the radio show half an

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Speaker 4: hour ago. She was very funny, she was amazing.

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Speaker 5: Flow and steady kisser. For anyone that missed it, I

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Speaker 5: was happy with that.

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Speaker 3: I was happy with that.

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Speaker 2: Now can I get back to my question? But why

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Speaker 2: do people need to feel sexy to have sex?

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Speaker 5: Because? I mean, why do you think it's important?

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Speaker 4: Wood, Let's start I think initiating the first move into

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Speaker 4: sexy time. That's actually why I was asking you about it. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: it's one of the most vulnerable positions you can be.

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Speaker 4: And you are going, I'm.

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Speaker 5: You know, I'm keen.

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Speaker 3: I'm keen, and I'm my oil.

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Speaker 4: Myself yep, And I think if you don't, if you

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Speaker 4: don't feel sexy, no way are you going.

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Speaker 3: To do that.

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Speaker 2: So that's for the initiator. Yeah, yeah, whereas I was

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Speaker 2: the one initiating. I was the one keen to knock

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Speaker 2: boots and I said to her, hey, you know, you know,

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Speaker 2: I didn't say to her, we're getting back into this

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Speaker 2: the schematics of how it happened, which we don't want

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Speaker 2: to do. But I was, you know, we're at the

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Speaker 2: thin edge of the wedge. It's all happening. And she

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Speaker 2: says to me, I don't I don't feel sexy. Now

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Speaker 2: it was about her not wanting to be nude, because again,

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Speaker 2: just just cool with that.

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Speaker 5: I think we actually were nerd anyway like that was.

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Speaker 4: That was in your house, ned where again you got

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Speaker 4: me on the schematics.

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Speaker 5: I'm avoiding this.

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Speaker 3: You were just walking around news.

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Speaker 5: No, we're in bed. If you must know, I.

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Speaker 3: Thought you were those oversight box assured Scrooge mcdua jamonds that.

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Speaker 5: Don't you come at me, mister woolen breaths. I know

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Speaker 5: you've got woolen breaths.

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Speaker 3: Yea fair enough.

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Speaker 2: Something had broke back mountain over there now no so

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Speaker 2: room bed and she says to me, I don't feel

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Speaker 2: sexy now again. I know I'm angling this at a

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Speaker 2: particular gender. I haven't heard a guy say that before,

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Speaker 2: but I'm happy to hear a guy call up. But

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Speaker 2: in a lot of ways, it's the perfect defense to

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Speaker 2: engaging in any sort of intimacy to say I don't

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Speaker 2: feel sexy.

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Speaker 5: Because there's it's it's almost like an.

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Speaker 2: Itch that I can't scratch, you know when when your

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Speaker 2: partner says you, no, no, no, I don't feel sexy in myself.

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Speaker 2: Like you can try every you can try every trick

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Speaker 2: in the playbook there to try and make them feel

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Speaker 2: sexy about themselves.

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Speaker 3: But you can compliment them and like, no, you look amazing,

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Speaker 3: like oh my goodness, but you're not.

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Speaker 2: But you're not ticking that box for them. It's almost

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Speaker 2: it's almost like they've got this bucket of water. This

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Speaker 2: bucket is just empty that there's nothing, there's nothing filling

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Speaker 2: their cup as to how they feel about themselves and

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Speaker 2: the more you try to go, oh, no, I think

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Speaker 2: you're sexy, and like, you know, you know, I've got

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Speaker 2: all the moves.

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Speaker 3: You know that sounded good? Man, Oh you're sexy. That's

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Speaker 3: good stuff.

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Speaker 2: Doing that.

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Speaker 3: No, arousal is a really finicky thing. You can't force arousal.

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Speaker 4: And I'm hope I'm not assuming too much here, but

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Speaker 4: I think her saying she doesn't feel sexy means that

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Speaker 4: it's going to be impossible for her to raise her

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Speaker 4: around even that she's not feeling sexy in her own body.

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Speaker 4: That's a huge assumption that I'm making there because I'm

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Speaker 4: not your partner, But I would love to hear from

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Speaker 4: other people who have experienced exactly what.

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Speaker 2: You're pretty common phenomenon, surely like this Obviously obviously my

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Speaker 2: current partner Sam is not the only time I've heard it, Like,

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Speaker 2: I've heard it lots of times.

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Speaker 5: Maybe it's just the ultimate defense.

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Speaker 4: So they also say they've got headaches all the time, Well,

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Speaker 4: I say their times.

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Speaker 2: Do people need to inverted commas feel sexy in order

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Speaker 2: to have sex in order to bake the potato? That's

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Speaker 2: the question we're asking, because you know I've encountered that, well,

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Speaker 2: you know, we don't need a defense. But I encountered

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Speaker 2: that comment recently, and you know, we certainly didn't go

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Speaker 2: the whole nine yards as a result of that, And

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Speaker 2: I think it's something that I'm I'm looking to understand now. Obviously,

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Speaker 2: this question do you need to feel sexy to have

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Speaker 2: sex is tilted at a particular gender. But you know,

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Speaker 2: we don't need to We don't need a stereotype here.

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Speaker 3: No, you never know, a few blogs coming up, no doubt.

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Speaker 3: Well we've got Julia here there.

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Speaker 5: Female.

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Speaker 4: First, do you do you experience that that feeling of

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Speaker 4: of of not feeling sexy?

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Speaker 6: Hey, guys, I have experienced it before. But the comparison

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Speaker 6: that I was thinking about is when you have a

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Speaker 6: full meal of KFC, for example, the last thing you

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Speaker 6: feel like doing is going for a run.

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Speaker 7: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: The only way I can try to explain it.

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Speaker 4: To the opposite, So sorry, But after after the KFC, Julia,

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Speaker 4: after the KFC, is it the physical exertion that you're

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Speaker 4: worried about or is it just the feeling you're going

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Speaker 4: to have on the run? Does that the question make sense?

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Speaker 6: It's like the feeling that you have you don't feel

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Speaker 6: you're optimal sexiest. So you guess you know you full

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Speaker 6: grease you pore?

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Speaker 5: Okay, no, no, Julia, thank you. Honestly you're welcome. That

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Speaker 5: is that is, that is wonderful.

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Speaker 3: What did you eat for dinner?

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Speaker 5: When I don't think it has anything to do with food?

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Speaker 5: Taken the medical analogy?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, let's.

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Speaker 5: Every woman in Australia is they just rolled their eyes.

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Speaker 5: She's come to the party. Who's living in perfect analogy?

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Speaker 7: And classic bloke You've just taken it far too literally,

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Speaker 7: Polly on thirty one and sixty five, Polly, we're talking

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Speaker 7: about feeling sexy in order to go for the midnight

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Speaker 7: jockey ride?

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Speaker 5: What what are your what are your thoughts on that?

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Speaker 1: Yes, if my thoughts are look, you know, I'm a

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Speaker 1: mom of faur I'm in the best shape of my life.

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Speaker 1: I've been married for ten years, divorced and remarried, and

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Speaker 1: what I can tell you is that feeling sexy is

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Speaker 1: more than just how you feel in yourself, but it's

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Speaker 1: also linked with like how much effort you're putting into

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Speaker 1: the relationship. If you're feeling valued, appreciate it, you know,

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Speaker 1: if you're still making an effort to keep the romance alive.

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Speaker 1: You know the things that you had when you started

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Speaker 1: the relationship. Are you guys just comfortable and those things

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Speaker 1: are fallen by the wayside, Like a good, healthy, sex

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Speaker 1: filled relationship takes work, and it's the kind of work

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Speaker 1: that you want to do.

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Speaker 3: So that's a good point. That's a really good point.

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Speaker 4: Pot So, Will, what was the what was the effort

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Speaker 4: you made before hoping to have a midnight jockey ride?

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Speaker 5: But what was the minimal it?

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Speaker 2: Polly back again, So, Polly, what was that made I said,

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Speaker 2: let's go?

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Speaker 1: Did you just pop into bed and say let's go?

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Speaker 3: Did you? Will?

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Speaker 5: I don't even know if I got into bed. I

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Speaker 5: think I was just standing next to the bed with

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Speaker 5: my hands and.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's not really how I pro We'll go back

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Speaker 2: to you.

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Speaker 5: I'm learning all the perspective you've got to offer.

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Speaker 2: I said beforehand that I feel like I'm a woman saying.

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Speaker 5: To me, I'm not feeling sexy.

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Speaker 2: I feel like that's an itch that I can't scratch,

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Speaker 2: you know, like at the moment at that time, like

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Speaker 2: it's you're and I think you're suggesting the same thing

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Speaker 2: that it's something that that that needs to grow and

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Speaker 2: sort of marinate like brew, like like.

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Speaker 1: A combination of things. You know, Like I I, even

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Speaker 1: though I'm in the best shape of my life, I

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Speaker 1: still having about the way that I look proud of.

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Speaker 1: So I know that my body isn't going to be

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Speaker 1: what it used to be. So I have those insecurities.

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Speaker 1: But if you know my husband puts in the effort

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Speaker 1: to you know, help out with the kids or the chores,

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Speaker 1: or he organizes a date night or soon away and

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Speaker 1: give me his attention, you know my ability to feel

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Speaker 1: more in the mood is easier because he's invested his

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Speaker 1: time into me.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, huge gets lighted this morning, the vacuuming.

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Speaker 7: Dam.

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Speaker 5: When you have to wrap this up, I don't have

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Speaker 5: to get home. That watcher gets unpacked.

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Speaker 3: Stats see what you're hearing.

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