WEBVTT - Society... SCREW YOUR TIMELINE! 0:00:21.320 --> 0:00:24.880 Hi, guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Unput. 0:00:25.440 --> 0:00:28.160 I look, it's been a little while since I've been 0:00:28.200 --> 0:00:31.520 on the podcast, and we've just recorded a really hot 0:00:31.560 --> 0:00:34.160 and stellar intro. I mean we both were like, yeah, 0:00:34.159 --> 0:00:36.760 that inture was great, and then I realized I've forgotten 0:00:36.800 --> 0:00:40.720 to put the USB into the fucking recorder machine. No, 0:00:40.840 --> 0:00:42.400 I just want to set the tone a little bit 0:00:42.440 --> 0:00:46.440 more than that. Laura, we have had a bloody long day. 0:00:46.560 --> 0:00:48.760 It is like nine o'clock at night and we're just 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:51.200 starting this record. We've been recording all day. We've done 0:00:51.200 --> 0:00:53.840 some back to back interviews as great as coming anyway, 0:00:54.120 --> 0:00:57.240 we are tired, af we get in there now, we're like, 0:00:57.320 --> 0:00:58.840 let's pick up the energy. Come on, let's bring it. 0:00:58.880 --> 0:01:01.080 Let's bring it, and we just probably the best intro 0:01:01.160 --> 0:01:04.640 we've ever done, Like I was ever and not exaggerating, guys, No, 0:01:04.840 --> 0:01:07.920 it was. We will never drop it. It was so good. 0:01:08.080 --> 0:01:10.240 And then we looked down and Laura's like, duper drip. 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:11.959 She just like, why is the thing fushy? And I 0:01:12.000 --> 0:01:14.399 was like, that's because, as the big exit says, you 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:20.559 haven't put the record card in anyway, We're gonna start again. Hi, guys, 0:01:20.600 --> 0:01:23.360 I'm welcome back to another episode of Life un Cut. 0:01:23.480 --> 0:01:25.840 It's so great to be here, to be healthy and 0:01:25.880 --> 0:01:27.920 to be in front of a microphone again, and for 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:31.200 me to not be mattie Ja that's also great. How 0:01:31.240 --> 0:01:32.800 do you feel about that? Do you just feel like 0:01:32.920 --> 0:01:35.360 a Matt cheated on you? B you had like hectic 0:01:35.480 --> 0:01:37.800 fomo and you're like, I can never be sick again. Well, look, 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:40.680 for anyone who doesn't know what we're talking about. Last episode, 0:01:40.800 --> 0:01:42.880 I have been the last week and a half, I 0:01:42.880 --> 0:01:46.200 have had the most killer flu from hell, and so 0:01:46.240 --> 0:01:49.600 Matt had to step in and be me basically on 0:01:49.640 --> 0:01:53.760 the last episode, which was very strange for multiple different reasons. 0:01:54.040 --> 0:01:57.520 One of them because before Britt and Matt actually started recording. 0:01:57.600 --> 0:02:00.840 So I'll explain this setup to you. So Prit comes 0:02:00.840 --> 0:02:03.920 over to our lounge room. I'm sitting on the lounge 0:02:03.960 --> 0:02:06.360 in like a little sick cocoon in the corner, and 0:02:06.400 --> 0:02:08.440 the two of them set up on our dining room 0:02:08.480 --> 0:02:11.680 table to record, and then they start making jokes about 0:02:11.680 --> 0:02:14.720 how it's like I'm watching them have sex, like I'm 0:02:14.720 --> 0:02:17.360 watching them make a podcast together, and I'm that weird 0:02:18.440 --> 0:02:20.560 in the relationships. I sort of like we were cheating 0:02:20.600 --> 0:02:22.520 a little bit. Who wants to watch their partner have 0:02:22.560 --> 0:02:24.400 sex with their friend? And I was like, guys, this 0:02:24.440 --> 0:02:26.840 has taken a very weird turn. I don't feel well. 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:29.480 I'm not okay with this conversation. Let's bring it back 0:02:29.480 --> 0:02:31.640 to the podcast just a little bit. It was like 0:02:31.680 --> 0:02:33.680 Bride's Maids, you know where she's shitting in the street. 0:02:33.760 --> 0:02:37.360 She's like, don't look at me. I was like, Laura, 0:02:37.480 --> 0:02:39.440 stop looking at me. I was like, you look at me. 0:02:39.639 --> 0:02:41.120 You know what a dog does a pooh and they 0:02:41.240 --> 0:02:43.200 lock eye contact with you. That's what I felt like 0:02:43.200 --> 0:02:44.720 you were doing because you were just like I cycle 0:02:44.800 --> 0:02:47.280 hawk at me the whole record. The thing that was 0:02:47.320 --> 0:02:49.400 so hard for me was that the whole time that 0:02:49.440 --> 0:02:51.560 they were talking, I just wanted to be a part 0:02:51.639 --> 0:02:54.600 of it. So every time they would say something or 0:02:54.639 --> 0:02:57.400 there would be some advice, I was like, oh, hey, guys, 0:02:57.720 --> 0:03:00.160 how amo you add this? I have saved us up 0:03:00.200 --> 0:03:03.359 and accidentally unfiltered story which I'm gonna share with you 0:03:03.760 --> 0:03:07.160 because basically on the last episode, Britt was talking about 0:03:07.160 --> 0:03:10.040 how her tampon box floated down the street and how 0:03:10.080 --> 0:03:12.760 it very precariously ended up right next to a very 0:03:12.800 --> 0:03:15.639 hot guy. Yeah, it was my pick up line. Didn't work. Failed, 0:03:15.680 --> 0:03:20.360 miserably embarrassing situation, you know, not ideal, but also very 0:03:20.400 --> 0:03:23.640 funny for everybody listening. That literally sparked in me and 0:03:23.720 --> 0:03:26.040 accidentally unfiltered. That happened to me so many years ago 0:03:26.120 --> 0:03:28.080 that I've suppressed in the deep dark corners of my 0:03:28.120 --> 0:03:30.799 heart and please let me tell my story. And we're like, no, 0:03:30.880 --> 0:03:33.560 this is not your turn, Laura. I like, go back 0:03:33.600 --> 0:03:36.560 to your couch, Laura, you're den okay. So I'm gonna 0:03:36.560 --> 0:03:39.360 tell you this story. So I was at a nightclub 0:03:39.400 --> 0:03:42.120 many many moons ago, and there was this guy there 0:03:42.240 --> 0:03:44.720 who I had had the biggest crush on, like a 0:03:44.760 --> 0:03:47.160 real schoolgirl crush literally because I'd had a crush on 0:03:47.240 --> 0:03:49.720 him since I was in school and like he was 0:03:49.720 --> 0:03:52.440 from Wollongong, we grew up together. I was I'm sorry 0:03:52.480 --> 0:03:54.160 you said that, Like that was supposed to be romantic. 0:03:54.200 --> 0:03:56.880 He was from wo Like, oh my god, he's from 0:03:56.920 --> 0:03:59.480 the go Why didn't you lock him down? It was 0:03:59.480 --> 0:04:02.680 the pity of my romance at the time. So I 0:04:02.760 --> 0:04:05.680 really had a massive crush on this guy. And I 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:08.800 was at you know, the local nightclub called the glasshouse, 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:13.160 and I was very drunk. Guys, just to set the scene. 0:04:13.200 --> 0:04:14.880 I was very very drunk, and he came up to 0:04:14.920 --> 0:04:16.640 me and I was like, Oh my god, this is it. 0:04:16.640 --> 0:04:19.200 It's gonna happen. Holy shit, this is my moment. This 0:04:19.279 --> 0:04:21.520 is my moment. So We're standing there and we're chatting, 0:04:22.600 --> 0:04:25.560 and I was like, this is going really well. Okay, 0:04:25.640 --> 0:04:27.240 I know him a bit drunk, but I think I'm 0:04:27.279 --> 0:04:30.600 holding it together. And then I reach into my handbag 0:04:30.680 --> 0:04:33.680 whilst I'm locking eyes with him and swaying side to 0:04:33.720 --> 0:04:38.040 side and pull out my chapstick, my lip gloss, and 0:04:38.120 --> 0:04:41.720 I stand there holding my lip gloss about ten centimeters 0:04:41.720 --> 0:04:43.400 from my lips whilst I try and take the top 0:04:43.440 --> 0:04:50.279 of it. So I'm standing there chatting, trying to like, 0:04:50.279 --> 0:04:51.880 what the fuck is the top not coming off? I 0:04:51.920 --> 0:04:56.560 am drunk, anyway, keep the eye contact. He then looks 0:04:56.600 --> 0:04:59.760 at me and goes, what are you trying to do 0:04:59.800 --> 0:05:07.880 with you? Tampon it? Me? I actually pitching you then 0:05:07.920 --> 0:05:10.440 trying to like seductively put it onto your lips like 0:05:10.480 --> 0:05:12.600 whilst locking eyes with him. That would have made my day. 0:05:12.800 --> 0:05:15.200 It was very very close. Needless to say, it just 0:05:15.240 --> 0:05:17.839 never worked out. With that guy. This story is better 0:05:17.960 --> 0:05:21.040 and better. Did you hook up with him? No? Maybe? 0:05:21.120 --> 0:05:24.600 God who knows, you don't remember? I was very memorable. 0:05:24.800 --> 0:05:27.120 But also, guys, I just want to say, like to 0:05:27.320 --> 0:05:29.720 the episode that Britain Matt did, it was a great episode. 0:05:29.760 --> 0:05:32.279 We've had so many people write in on the Facebook 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:35.800 group and on Instagram also, people felt the need to 0:05:35.839 --> 0:05:37.880 direct message me to tell me how great they thought 0:05:37.960 --> 0:05:41.680 that episode was, like ouch, and how much they loved 0:05:41.680 --> 0:05:43.680 having Matt on the pod. So we may have him 0:05:43.680 --> 0:05:46.520 on again in the future. However, I do just want 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:50.560 to point out one thing. So after you left last night, 0:05:50.680 --> 0:05:54.200 Britt and all of Matt's wise wisdom had been shared, 0:05:55.040 --> 0:05:59.080 something did happen recently? Like, obviously I've been sick. Matt 0:05:59.160 --> 0:06:01.559 has been running back and forth to the Chemist every day, 0:06:01.720 --> 0:06:03.719 and there's like lots of things that you can and 0:06:03.760 --> 0:06:06.240 can't take when you're pregnant, right, So there's been lots 0:06:06.279 --> 0:06:08.320 of Like I think one of the reasons why it's 0:06:08.360 --> 0:06:10.720 taking me so long to get over this sickness is because, 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:14.000 like I literally can't take anything from the Chemist that's 0:06:14.040 --> 0:06:16.040 got anything active in it that actually works. I have 0:06:16.040 --> 0:06:18.400 to just ride it out, just ride it out. Anyway, 0:06:18.480 --> 0:06:21.360 eventually they put me on any biotics. So I've been 0:06:21.360 --> 0:06:24.039 on anybodotics the last couple of days. And Matt makes 0:06:24.040 --> 0:06:26.680 his daily little venture into the pharmacist this one day 0:06:26.800 --> 0:06:30.040 and he's like, oh, you know, well, my fiance she's 0:06:30.080 --> 0:06:32.680 on antibiotics, Like, you know, what else should I take? 0:06:32.720 --> 0:06:35.520 What should she take? And the pharmacist says, oh, like, 0:06:35.640 --> 0:06:39.080 you should take some probiotic because, like, as all women know, 0:06:39.240 --> 0:06:41.760 if you are on any biotics, then there's probably a 0:06:41.839 --> 0:06:44.159 really great chance that you're gonna get an awesome thing 0:06:44.240 --> 0:06:47.520 called thrush. And like, every single time I'm on any biotics, 0:06:47.560 --> 0:06:49.240 like it always happens, so I just like get it. 0:06:49.520 --> 0:06:53.120 I was like, cool, great, yes, probiotics awesome. So anyway, 0:06:53.160 --> 0:06:56.000 Matt's been taking the probiotics every day, morning and night. 0:06:56.520 --> 0:06:58.440 I was like, that's so weird for him because he's 0:06:58.520 --> 0:07:01.400 not someone who takes any sort of vitamins or anything 0:07:01.440 --> 0:07:03.440 like that. And so I said to him last night, 0:07:03.480 --> 0:07:06.360 just after you'd left, Britt, babe, what is that made 0:07:06.440 --> 0:07:09.720 you want to take probiotics? And he was like, well, 0:07:09.720 --> 0:07:12.520 I don't want to get fucking sick, do I? But you, like, 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:15.280 what for your gut health all and I was like, 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:18.560 do you know what probiotics are for? And he was like, yeah, 0:07:18.680 --> 0:07:20.400 I don't want to get the flu. And I was like, 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:24.200 holy shit, you just gave thousands of women your wisdom 0:07:24.200 --> 0:07:26.600 and advice. And no. I was like, honey, read the 0:07:26.600 --> 0:07:28.080 back of the bottle and on the back it's like, 0:07:28.280 --> 0:07:32.360 can help alleviate symptoms of irritable boo gut problems thrush. 0:07:32.560 --> 0:07:34.800 And I was like, this was for me, this wasn't 0:07:34.800 --> 0:07:38.120 for you, Dumbling. So what's happened is obviously the chemist 0:07:38.120 --> 0:07:41.560 has gone, yes, take this in terms of take this physically, 0:07:41.560 --> 0:07:43.960 take this home to your wife because she's on anyway, 0:07:44.160 --> 0:07:45.840 He's been like, oh, I should definitely take that so 0:07:45.880 --> 0:07:48.160 I don't get the flu or man thrush, which is 0:07:48.160 --> 0:07:50.200 I don't think he's a thing. I was like, here 0:07:50.240 --> 0:07:52.440 are my pregnancy supplements, Matt, would you like to take some? 0:07:52.560 --> 0:07:55.480 Folly also, So this this is the man that gave 0:07:55.520 --> 0:07:58.200 you all that wise advice this week. Love that I 0:07:58.200 --> 0:08:01.280 felt like I needed to cut him back down. I 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:03.560 think you've just done that, just in case you all 0:08:03.600 --> 0:08:06.160 thought he was going to start making a very regular appearance. No, 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:08.520 you're stuck with me. I'm back. Just try and get 0:08:08.520 --> 0:08:11.160 a one up on me again. Man, dare you no? Actually, 0:08:11.240 --> 0:08:14.960 he messaged me today, Hey buddy, just checking in. Had 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:18.760 some great response from the podcast episode. I think we 0:08:18.880 --> 0:08:20.560 give the people what they want. I think we do 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:22.960 another episode. I'm thinking maybe we include a little bit 0:08:22.960 --> 0:08:24.720 more football and fishing. Though, what are your thoughts? And 0:08:24.720 --> 0:08:27.080 I was like, yeah, I was like, I'm not even 0:08:27.240 --> 0:08:29.640 blind you No. I also like that he's messaging you 0:08:29.720 --> 0:08:33.040 this and I don't even know about it, trying to 0:08:33.120 --> 0:08:35.320 muscle his way in on the podcast fully, He's like, 0:08:35.320 --> 0:08:39.080 do you need a new business partner? Anyway, Guys, we 0:08:39.120 --> 0:08:41.240 have such a great episode for you today. We're sorry 0:08:41.280 --> 0:08:43.040 that we did have to do the switcheroo on you 0:08:43.200 --> 0:08:46.360 and do ask guncut on Tuesday. But we are going 0:08:46.360 --> 0:08:50.280 to be talking about timelines and the social stigma that 0:08:50.400 --> 0:08:52.720 is attached to like you know, when do we get married, 0:08:52.760 --> 0:08:55.000 when do we have babies? Why is it that we 0:08:55.000 --> 0:08:57.679 feel so much pressure to achieve certain things by a 0:08:57.720 --> 0:09:00.520 certain point in our lives. And also we're gonna unpack 0:09:00.840 --> 0:09:02.440 like what is it if you're a little bit further 0:09:02.480 --> 0:09:04.440 down the track in your life, say in your thirties, 0:09:04.600 --> 0:09:06.640 and you decide that you want to have a big 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:08.880 career change, how do you go about that? Like, what 0:09:08.920 --> 0:09:11.480 are our thoughts and advice on it? Because both Brita 0:09:11.480 --> 0:09:14.040 and I have done that. Essentially, we just thought we'd 0:09:14.080 --> 0:09:17.160 have a conversation around why is it the timelines still 0:09:17.200 --> 0:09:19.960 seem like there's something that's so important. But before we 0:09:20.000 --> 0:09:23.880 do that, last week on the episode, guys, we did 0:09:23.880 --> 0:09:25.800 this segment at the start where we reached out to 0:09:25.840 --> 0:09:29.600 you and we wanted to know your best funniest, most 0:09:29.679 --> 0:09:34.000 awkward and cringe worthy and lollworthy loller coaster. Some may 0:09:34.040 --> 0:09:36.959 say first, some might not say that, some would prefer 0:09:36.960 --> 0:09:38.599 that you never say that. Again, I haven't dropped that 0:09:38.640 --> 0:09:41.520 in a while. It's been the biggest Lola Derby of 0:09:41.600 --> 0:09:44.640 a dating story how that you have. But we did 0:09:44.640 --> 0:09:47.400 speak about all these funny, awkward first date Bumble stories 0:09:47.480 --> 0:09:49.240 last week and there were some funny ones and Laura 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:51.160 and I had a field day reading them all. But 0:09:51.240 --> 0:09:52.920 this week we're doing something a little bit different. We 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:56.000 are so stoked we bring you today's episode in collaboration 0:09:56.080 --> 0:09:59.319 with our really good friends over at Bumble, and today 0:09:59.600 --> 0:10:02.640 we go when we're bringing you some really feel good 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:06.720 and happy online dating success stories, because whilst it is 0:10:06.840 --> 0:10:09.640 so amazing to laugh at everyone else's misfortune and everyone 0:10:09.679 --> 0:10:12.400 has these awkward first dates, it's really important to know 0:10:12.520 --> 0:10:15.120 that there is actually a lot of success that comes 0:10:15.120 --> 0:10:18.040 from online dating. I've had success from it, You've I mean, 0:10:18.040 --> 0:10:19.959 obviously I'm not married, I've had success in other ways. 0:10:20.920 --> 0:10:22.720 Maybe I just need tell you, like, how about we 0:10:22.800 --> 0:10:25.640 define what success is? Well, yes, but a lot of 0:10:25.679 --> 0:10:27.920 people have success. And the thing we want to really 0:10:27.960 --> 0:10:31.440 sort of stipulate in this conversation is what success means 0:10:31.440 --> 0:10:35.440 to different people, because success in love, success in dating 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:38.760 is different from many many people. So we ask you, guys, 0:10:38.880 --> 0:10:41.040 what are your bumble success stories? And we're going to 0:10:41.080 --> 0:10:42.880 read a few out. We did put a call out 0:10:42.920 --> 0:10:45.920 as well up on the Facebook page, and I was 0:10:46.000 --> 0:10:48.960 just absolutely amazed. We had one hundred and eighty six 0:10:49.040 --> 0:10:51.480 and like it's growing every day of people from the 0:10:51.480 --> 0:10:55.120 community writing about their different online dating success stories, and 0:10:55.200 --> 0:10:57.760 it was just amazing because I mean, often we tell 0:10:57.800 --> 0:11:00.680 on this podcast all of the accidentally unfilm stories. We 0:11:00.720 --> 0:11:03.520 tell all of the most embarrassing stuff, and often that 0:11:03.559 --> 0:11:06.880 doesn't always end the best way for the person in 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:11.600 the story. And ually for us, but it's really amazing 0:11:11.640 --> 0:11:14.000 to kind of sit back and sometimes go like wow, 0:11:14.080 --> 0:11:16.960 Like obviously for so many people it is a platform 0:11:16.960 --> 0:11:19.040 that works. And I think that sometimes online dating gets 0:11:19.080 --> 0:11:21.800 such a bad rap because we're so quick to share 0:11:21.840 --> 0:11:24.920 all of our disaster dating stories and not really share 0:11:25.000 --> 0:11:27.720 all of the beautiful, wonderful success stories that come out 0:11:27.760 --> 0:11:29.319 of it as well. We've picked out a couple that 0:11:29.360 --> 0:11:30.960 we thought would be really nice to share with you. 0:11:31.320 --> 0:11:34.880 I just alone on my Instagram call out had hundreds 0:11:34.920 --> 0:11:36.800 of people writing in and it was I had to 0:11:37.040 --> 0:11:39.160 genuinely had a smile on my face reading the whole thing. 0:11:39.480 --> 0:11:42.320 And I also I think now with twenty twenty and 0:11:42.400 --> 0:11:45.560 the way the world is, there has never been more 0:11:45.600 --> 0:11:47.600 of a time to be online dating because we don't 0:11:47.600 --> 0:11:49.600 go out like we used to. The pubs and clubs 0:11:49.600 --> 0:11:53.440 aren't open like we used to. So whilst bumble and 0:11:53.520 --> 0:11:56.200 online dating has always been around, it is now so 0:11:56.400 --> 0:11:58.679 more than ever because we had so many stories of 0:11:58.720 --> 0:12:01.640 people writing in saying we got to know each other 0:12:01.679 --> 0:12:04.800 for four months before we met because of COVID, which 0:12:04.880 --> 0:12:08.600 I think is so beautiful because there's no nothing physical 0:12:08.640 --> 0:12:10.080 where you're getting to know each other. It's not just 0:12:10.120 --> 0:12:12.360 like meat and have sex. It's it's actually getting to 0:12:12.360 --> 0:12:14.880 know someone on a deeper level and having these conversations 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:17.840 and anyway. I could go on about this forever, but 0:12:18.000 --> 0:12:20.160 let's get into the stories. I have a question for 0:12:20.200 --> 0:12:22.280 you before I read out this first one. If you 0:12:22.320 --> 0:12:24.920 went on a bumble date and the guy rocked up 0:12:24.960 --> 0:12:27.880 and he was significantly shorter than what he said he was, 0:12:28.000 --> 0:12:33.120 what would you do? Like significantly like a foot Okay, 0:12:33.160 --> 0:12:36.920 so one of my unofficial rules. It's not a rule, 0:12:36.960 --> 0:12:38.840 but it's like what I look for. I want someone 0:12:38.880 --> 0:12:45.920 to be minimum. I sounded like Boston Powers, Mmjuandamellian Dallas, 0:12:46.720 --> 0:12:50.360 minimum my height or taller. I don't want to date 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:52.920 someone smaller because I am quite tall and I wear heels. 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:55.920 But if they're my penguin's probably not going to be 0:12:55.920 --> 0:12:57.640 the end of the world. If I turned up and 0:12:57.800 --> 0:13:00.280 my date was shorter than me, did he live about it? 0:13:00.679 --> 0:13:03.920 What if he lied about it? I wouldn't leave. I'd 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:05.640 go on the date with him, but I would be 0:13:05.720 --> 0:13:08.440 unimpressed that he lied for sure, because honest, he's key. 0:13:09.000 --> 0:13:10.959 So what happened? Some of this has obviously happened to 0:13:11.000 --> 0:13:14.000 some poor girl. So okay, we met four years ago 0:13:14.240 --> 0:13:17.360 online dating, and he proposed in our second anniversary I'm 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:19.920 quite tall. So before we met I asked him how 0:13:20.000 --> 0:13:22.400 tall he was. He replied with the exact same height 0:13:22.480 --> 0:13:25.720 as me, to which I thought, great, this literally never happens. 0:13:26.160 --> 0:13:27.959 Waiting out the front of the restaurant, I see a 0:13:28.000 --> 0:13:30.600 guy walking towards me that is a good foot shorter 0:13:30.720 --> 0:13:33.920 than me. His first words to me were, I'm sorry, 0:13:33.960 --> 0:13:35.719 I'm not a giraffe, but I really wanted to meet you. 0:13:36.280 --> 0:13:38.120 We joke about it all the time, and before we 0:13:38.200 --> 0:13:40.280 say our vows at our wedding, we're going to get 0:13:40.280 --> 0:13:42.200 a groomsman to run over with a step for him 0:13:42.800 --> 0:13:47.040 on No, hi really means nothing, but it's a fun 0:13:47.120 --> 0:13:49.079 joke for the two of us. And then she wrote 0:13:49.280 --> 0:13:51.640 it turns out he was in year ten when I 0:13:51.760 --> 0:13:54.360 was in year seven at the same school, and he 0:13:54.480 --> 0:13:56.760 was my color house captain, which meant he gave all 0:13:56.840 --> 0:13:59.160 of our great carnival pep talks. I don't know, that's 0:13:59.200 --> 0:14:01.040 like some weird synchron city there at the end. I 0:14:01.120 --> 0:14:03.240 think I said that right. Basically, he was a couple 0:14:03.240 --> 0:14:07.000 of years older than her in school, as well, but 0:14:07.120 --> 0:14:09.079 he was still short in school. I'm gonna guess that 0:14:10.200 --> 0:14:12.400 I had this. I had this one that I'm just 0:14:12.440 --> 0:14:15.120 gonna summarize. She's like, I don't know if this counts 0:14:15.120 --> 0:14:17.680 as Bumble success or not. She's like, I guess it does. 0:14:18.080 --> 0:14:20.360 We matched on Bumble. He was everything that she wanted. 0:14:20.400 --> 0:14:22.720 He was an absolute babe and she was obsessed. But 0:14:22.840 --> 0:14:24.520 then she'd been on a really bad date. She had 0:14:24.640 --> 0:14:26.240 a really bad day, and she cracked his ships and 0:14:26.320 --> 0:14:28.600 she deleted Bumble. She was like, I'm done, I'm done 0:14:28.640 --> 0:14:30.600 with online dating, don't do it anymore. But then she 0:14:30.720 --> 0:14:33.560 remembered how hot the guy was that she'd matched, so 0:14:33.760 --> 0:14:36.920 she went back onto Bumble, but thinking her matches would 0:14:36.920 --> 0:14:38.800 be there, but they weren't. They were all gone because 0:14:38.800 --> 0:14:41.880 it like started again. But she remembered where he worked 0:14:41.880 --> 0:14:43.680 because he had a picture of him working just like 0:14:43.760 --> 0:14:46.280 he was a barista. So she went to his cafe 0:14:47.200 --> 0:14:49.760 and many organically and tried to like meet him on them, 0:14:49.760 --> 0:14:51.600 and then they started dating, and then down the track 0:14:51.680 --> 0:14:55.040 she's like, lol, I actually met you on Bumble, like 0:14:55.160 --> 0:14:57.360 so it went right back. So she sort of storked him. 0:14:58.640 --> 0:15:01.200 So did that classify his success. I'm going to say 0:15:01.240 --> 0:15:02.840 that that's a success story except for the fact that 0:15:03.000 --> 0:15:05.880 like that is like an aid grade stalker story as well, 0:15:05.920 --> 0:15:08.240 which is so great because I feel like if you 0:15:08.680 --> 0:15:10.440 said that out loud and actually told a guy that 0:15:10.520 --> 0:15:12.480 you've done that, you would be put straight into the 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:18.560 crazy basket. Okay, I've actually done this. Let me tell 0:15:18.600 --> 0:15:21.680 you hence why you live in the crazy basket, Brandy. Okay, 0:15:21.720 --> 0:15:24.600 you guys have probably often heard of me talk throughout 0:15:24.640 --> 0:15:27.040 the podcast. Throughout the last year. I've always spoken about 0:15:27.040 --> 0:15:29.440 this one guy where I always say he's like my 0:15:29.520 --> 0:15:32.360 best friend. I met him on Bumble probably six years ago. 0:15:32.600 --> 0:15:37.040 We spent like max five days together and that was it. 0:15:37.280 --> 0:15:39.400 He moved back to America. That was it. We've been 0:15:39.560 --> 0:15:43.560 like best friends ever since. It sounds really weird because 0:15:43.720 --> 0:15:45.920 we don't see each other. It just started to develop 0:15:46.040 --> 0:15:48.240 we will, like have this soul connection and just started 0:15:48.280 --> 0:15:50.800 to develop online. So we just stayed in contact. If 0:15:50.840 --> 0:15:53.040 you guys are thinking that this sounds strange, don't worry. 0:15:53.120 --> 0:15:55.080 Like every time Britt tries to explain it to Matt 0:15:55.080 --> 0:15:57.760 and I, we're also like, so, wait, you banged you 0:15:57.880 --> 0:16:00.360 got on super well, you still think he's the hottest 0:16:00.360 --> 0:16:02.920 guy ever. But yet then new friend zoned each other. 0:16:03.240 --> 0:16:05.760 Don't understand it, but cool. So, No, we didn't friendszone 0:16:05.760 --> 0:16:08.920 each other. If he was in my within myself, if 0:16:08.960 --> 0:16:10.440 he was here, we would have been dating. But he 0:16:10.600 --> 0:16:12.560 lived in America and he went back to America. But 0:16:12.800 --> 0:16:14.520 we were just still so obsessed with each other and 0:16:14.560 --> 0:16:16.400 we wanted to keep getting to know each other. And 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:20.560 then it's been literally five six seven years maybe and 0:16:20.760 --> 0:16:22.920 we have seen each other a total of he came back, 0:16:22.920 --> 0:16:24.440 when saw each other for two more days. That's it. 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:26.760 He's got a girlfriend, he's got a relation, he's in 0:16:26.760 --> 0:16:29.400 a relationship. He's really happy. He's the only person I 0:16:29.440 --> 0:16:31.240 told I was going on a bachelor Like. We trust 0:16:31.280 --> 0:16:35.040 each other. It's the weirdest relationship ever, but it's just 0:16:35.120 --> 0:16:39.000 a friendship. Anyway. I saw him on Bumble and I 0:16:39.280 --> 0:16:42.360 was like, who the hell is this guy? He was 0:16:42.440 --> 0:16:45.200 like he had the story that got me. He was 0:16:45.240 --> 0:16:46.720 like walking down a football field and he was like 0:16:46.840 --> 0:16:48.760 looking back and he had a dog. He had no 0:16:48.840 --> 0:16:50.440 shirt on and he had this really cute dog. And 0:16:50.480 --> 0:16:53.320 I was like signed, sealed, delivered, I'm yours. We didn't match. 0:16:53.680 --> 0:16:55.520 I like to think how I just wasn't in his radius. 0:16:55.600 --> 0:17:02.120 But same thing as changing Tatum. Again, we didn't match, 0:17:02.800 --> 0:17:07.040 but he had linked these he had linked, not linked, 0:17:07.080 --> 0:17:08.639 but he had pictures that you can see where a 0:17:08.720 --> 0:17:11.080 tag is, and I could find I did. I went stalking, 0:17:11.119 --> 0:17:12.920 all right. I stalked and found some photos on on 0:17:13.000 --> 0:17:16.399 Instagram or on his Facebook. It wasn't even Instagram, it 0:17:16.520 --> 0:17:19.159 was Facebook. You're getting crazy by the second. So I 0:17:19.240 --> 0:17:23.000 found him on Facebook and I DMed him and said, 0:17:23.640 --> 0:17:27.400 I said, hey, this is something I remember what I said. 0:17:27.400 --> 0:17:29.600 And I said, hey, this is not something I ever 0:17:29.680 --> 0:17:32.359 thought i'd say. But I saw you on Bumble. We 0:17:32.440 --> 0:17:40.080 didn't match, so I found you. My wow. Then he 0:17:40.240 --> 0:17:42.960 wrote back straight away and he's because you know what, 0:17:43.400 --> 0:17:45.800 I'm like, I'm so yolo. I'm like, what have I 0:17:45.880 --> 0:17:50.920 got to lose my dignity besides respect and dignity? He 0:17:51.000 --> 0:17:53.280 wrote back straight away and he's like, I definitely did 0:17:53.359 --> 0:17:55.719 not see you on Bumble or I would have swiped right. 0:17:55.800 --> 0:17:58.520 And we got chatting and then literally we hooked up 0:17:58.600 --> 0:18:01.320 for a week straight and it was incredible. And then 0:18:01.680 --> 0:18:03.879 six seven years later, we're still like the best of friends. 0:18:04.000 --> 0:18:06.040 So I think that is in its own. We're not married, No, 0:18:06.119 --> 0:18:08.320 we're not together. No, but it's a success story because 0:18:08.600 --> 0:18:10.440 I developed a great friendship from it, and to me 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:13.680 this is still defined as a type of bumble success story. 0:18:13.920 --> 0:18:16.440 But also I think that, like one, this reinforces that 0:18:16.560 --> 0:18:18.920 semi stalker behavior is fine. Can I can be a 0:18:18.920 --> 0:18:21.879 little bit cute, you're a bit crazy, Like that's kind 0:18:21.920 --> 0:18:24.399 of cute too, don't worry. Depends what level you're at, 0:18:24.520 --> 0:18:27.080 like mine was pretty low keys, is yours is next level? 0:18:27.119 --> 0:18:28.720 Mine's low key level. Like what if you like show 0:18:28.760 --> 0:18:31.159 up at his work and then about showing up in 0:18:31.200 --> 0:18:34.680 his house, That says, no, that's a stalker. But this girl, 0:18:34.840 --> 0:18:36.360 all she did was knew she knew where he worked, 0:18:36.359 --> 0:18:38.000 so she just went and made it happen naturally. I 0:18:38.040 --> 0:18:40.200 think that was cute. I have a very similar story. 0:18:40.280 --> 0:18:42.760 So one of my girlfriends actually, so she was online 0:18:42.840 --> 0:18:45.200 dating and she had matched with this guy who she 0:18:45.280 --> 0:18:47.080 really liked and she thought he was a total hottie. 0:18:47.600 --> 0:18:50.440 And then I don't know how she did it, but 0:18:50.600 --> 0:18:53.480 she accidentally unmatched him, like whether she had her phone 0:18:53.520 --> 0:18:56.000 unlocked and then she fumbled around and she unmatched him. 0:18:56.560 --> 0:18:59.119 But he didn't have his Instagram linked and they had 0:18:59.200 --> 0:19:01.720 only been chatting that day, so they hadn't really gotten 0:19:01.720 --> 0:19:04.360 to the point where they had exchanged anything more than 0:19:04.640 --> 0:19:08.600