WEBVTT - MINI: Update on Ben's Bucks Party

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<v Speaker 1>I actually can't believe that this is something that we're

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<v Speaker 1>even doing. But I am getting married, which is weird.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to have a Hen's party.

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<v Speaker 2>You say that every time, but you've been getting married

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<v Speaker 2>for like six months now if it can't.

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<v Speaker 1>Just hit you. Yeah, because I'm thirty seven. When I

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<v Speaker 1>get married, I never thought I was going to get married.

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<v Speaker 1>You get to the point where you're like, that's not

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<v Speaker 1>going to happen for me. I'm moving on. I gave

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<v Speaker 1>up on love.

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<v Speaker 2>But what thirty seven, You're not a hundred brew I know.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying the time has come where we're like having

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<v Speaker 1>ow bus parties and bachelorette parties and stuff. And so

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<v Speaker 1>my fiancee Ben had his Bucks party over in Italy

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<v Speaker 1>on the weekend. Now, if you don't know, he's not bougie.

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<v Speaker 1>He didn't fly to Italy for his Bucks, but Ben

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<v Speaker 1>lives in Italy, so a few of his friends flew

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<v Speaker 1>from around Europe. They had this amazing weekend planned and

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<v Speaker 1>I just thought I was going to be like the

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<v Speaker 1>best girlfriend, sorry fiance where I was like, babe, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what, I'm giving you a free pass, free rein

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<v Speaker 1>not to cheat. But I was like, do whatever you want,

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<v Speaker 1>have as much fun as you want. If you want

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<v Speaker 1>to go to a strip club. You can go to

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<v Speaker 1>a strip club. If you want to party all night,

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<v Speaker 1>party all night. Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>But when you say free pass, how far does the

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<v Speaker 2>free pass go? Because if you're saying you can go

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<v Speaker 2>to a strip club, can he have a.

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<v Speaker 1>Lap dance no touching? Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so you know lap dance, So it's not really

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<v Speaker 2>a free pass, very restricted path.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I meant more of a free pass is in

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<v Speaker 1>like you don't have to contact me for two days

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<v Speaker 1>until the weekend's over, Like I don't want you to

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<v Speaker 1>feel like as long as I know you're okay and safe,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I just want him to have fun with his friends.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was trying to be like really cool and

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<v Speaker 1>laid back and stuff, and I genuinely was there's nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>There's not one percent of me that worries about him anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was like free pass talked to in a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of days, He's like, oh yeah, boys. All I

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<v Speaker 1>heard was I could hear him going all I heard

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<v Speaker 1>is free pass, Like it's on, And I was like, love,

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<v Speaker 1>you have the best time. Within four minutes, he was

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<v Speaker 1>started to send me photos, updates, updates, four minutes four

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<v Speaker 1>minutes previously, and they're photos of his like the best

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<v Speaker 1>pinny of me I've ever had. It was a picture

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<v Speaker 1>of his sandwich and I was like, I was like, bath,

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<v Speaker 1>go out. I was like, what are you doing?

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<v Speaker 2>Like, actually, I've upped it. Please go and get a

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<v Speaker 2>lap dance something.

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<v Speaker 1>So progressively he slashed. The boy continued to call me

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<v Speaker 1>throughout the night and like update me. They wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>talk to me. He sent me messages and it got

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<v Speaker 1>to the point where I didn't think I was gonna

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<v Speaker 1>say this. I was like, babe, don't call me back.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, go to a strip club or something.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, go and let loose. He's like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I just thought you'd want to keep posted. We're having

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<v Speaker 1>lots of fun. I was like, I know, baby, like

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<v Speaker 1>please go and live your best life. And it just

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<v Speaker 1>made me think back to when I met Ben. Originally

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<v Speaker 1>it was supposed to be a one night stand and

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<v Speaker 1>the reason I chose Ben was I saw him as

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<v Speaker 1>like this tall, beautiful athlete that was foreign, that wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>going to be in Australia for long. And I was like, oh, bingo,

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<v Speaker 1>this guy's going to be an absolute player.

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<v Speaker 2>This man, he's very sweet.

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<v Speaker 1>He could not be any further from a player that

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<v Speaker 1>even with me, I felt like I needed to go

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<v Speaker 1>over there and walk him into a club and be like,

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<v Speaker 1>have fun. It's almost like I needed to push him

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<v Speaker 1>into it. He was just so concerned.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like there's going to be people listening to

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<v Speaker 2>this who were deeply divided, because there will be some

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<v Speaker 2>people like, yeah, my partner's so trustworthy, and there's other

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<v Speaker 2>people who have had their partners go to Bucks parties

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<v Speaker 2>and have had very different outcomes or very different feelings

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<v Speaker 2>around it. The thing I don't get is like I

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<v Speaker 2>don't understand why a strip club or strippers have to

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<v Speaker 2>be synonymous with Bucks or Hens parties. Like I actually

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<v Speaker 2>don't even know if my husband got a stripper.

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<v Speaker 1>He probably did.

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<v Speaker 2>They had the party at our house, so we as

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<v Speaker 2>the girls, we went away and we went to an airbnb.

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<v Speaker 2>But Matt he had all of the boys come to

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<v Speaker 2>our house and like, surprisingly, there was no remnants of

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<v Speaker 2>the destruction of what had happened. The only thing that

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<v Speaker 2>had gone wrong is like someone had sat on our

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<v Speaker 2>bin and the bin was broken. So I was like

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<v Speaker 2>that's wow.

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<v Speaker 1>That was it got crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe someone got a lip dance on the bin. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, but like, I don't understand why. That's kind

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<v Speaker 2>of like the thing that we need to give people

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<v Speaker 2>a caveat for when we have a Bucks or Hen's party.

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<v Speaker 1>Totally and when I say, babe, go to a strip club,

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<v Speaker 1>go fine. I didn't actually want him to go to

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<v Speaker 1>a strip club. It was a test he passed. It

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<v Speaker 1>was a test.

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, you guys wanted him to do it so

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<v Speaker 2>that you can do it.

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<v Speaker 1>I understand, I've seen it.

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<v Speaker 2>We've talked about on the podcast before.

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<v Speaker 1>That's right now the day that will be on another

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<v Speaker 1>show whatever. Maddie