WEBVTT - This is why you need to stop being so judgemental… 0:00:00.520 --> 0:00:03.640 I'd like to acknowledge the traditional owners on which this 0:00:03.720 --> 0:00:08.160 episode is being recorded, the combo marry people. We pay 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:12.360 our respects to elders past, present and emerging, and extend 0:00:12.480 --> 0:00:16.520 that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples. 0:00:16.560 --> 0:00:24.279 Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, and this is the 0:00:24.400 --> 0:00:32.080 Rise and Conquer Podcast. This is the podcast where which 0:00:32.120 --> 0:00:36.560 have mindset, self development and becoming your higher self mix 0:00:36.640 --> 0:00:39.440 soon with a lot of laughs, plus behind the scenes 0:00:39.479 --> 0:00:43.040 of my life running two businesses and being among Think 0:00:43.080 --> 0:00:45.599 of us as the perfect combo of brunch with your 0:00:45.640 --> 0:00:49.239 besties mixed with self development. No matter where you are 0:00:49.320 --> 0:00:52.040 in your journey, We're here to help you be curious, 0:00:52.280 --> 0:00:57.880 pull yourself out, and embrace radical self awareness. If you're 0:00:57.920 --> 0:01:00.280 ready to get into the driver's seat of your own 0:01:00.360 --> 0:01:03.600 life and stop letting life cast you by, then you're 0:01:03.640 --> 0:01:11.880 in the right place. Hi everybody, and welcome back to 0:01:11.920 --> 0:01:15.360 the Rise and Conquer Podcast. A tear welcome back to 0:01:15.400 --> 0:01:15.720 the show. 0:01:15.840 --> 0:01:19.720 Thanks, thanks for having me, thanks for letting me stay. 0:01:20.440 --> 0:01:22.480 I feel like I should intro you because it's so 0:01:22.520 --> 0:01:26.200 weird I'm sitting across here from me. Guys, Today we 0:01:26.319 --> 0:01:29.679 have a fun episode for you. So a few weeks 0:01:29.680 --> 0:01:32.080 ago on the Potty, we had a listener right in 0:01:33.080 --> 0:01:36.720 and she was so beautiful and vulnerable about what was 0:01:36.760 --> 0:01:42.840 triggering her via me, and we unpacked her triggers and 0:01:42.880 --> 0:01:45.680 we spoke about it and it was the coolest thing. 0:01:46.240 --> 0:01:49.920 She actually messaged back and she was like, oh my god, 0:01:50.160 --> 0:01:53.000 I listened to the episode and I loved what you 0:01:53.040 --> 0:01:56.480 guys said, and then she unpacked it even more herself 0:01:57.080 --> 0:01:59.040 and it was such a beautiful full circle moment. 0:01:59.120 --> 0:02:01.480 Wasn't it amazing? And I loved it. 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:06.240 Our community is incredible, and it's like, what a beautiful 0:02:06.280 --> 0:02:09.799 thing that we can have an open conversation about something 0:02:09.880 --> 0:02:12.600 that is like triggering us and bothering us, and we 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:15.600 can do it in such a like non judgmental and 0:02:15.919 --> 0:02:19.839 self awareness. I just want to be more conscious sort 0:02:19.880 --> 0:02:22.600 of way. And yeah, so anyway, then we kind of 0:02:22.639 --> 0:02:24.640 just go off on a riff about. 0:02:24.360 --> 0:02:25.480 It the whole episode. 0:02:26.200 --> 0:02:28.240 This is one of those kind of like rogue pep 0:02:28.280 --> 0:02:31.320 talk episodes. I know a lot of you love them, 0:02:31.440 --> 0:02:35.240 but it is quite rogue, is kind I think I 0:02:35.320 --> 0:02:39.040 try and bring it back in the end. I even 0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:41.120 said to a Tia, I was like, can you just 0:02:41.200 --> 0:02:43.400 really listen and make sure this makes sense? Because I 0:02:43.560 --> 0:02:46.200 was just in the moment and I was having I 0:02:46.240 --> 0:02:46.520 was like. 0:02:46.480 --> 0:02:49.359 Oh, I think it is a bit like all over 0:02:49.360 --> 0:02:51.520 the place, but in the best way possible, like you're 0:02:51.560 --> 0:02:52.680 gonna get a lot out of it. 0:02:53.040 --> 0:02:56.320 You can tell there was no notes even though there 0:02:56.480 --> 0:03:00.919 was no just ta had no that I just didn't 0:03:03.560 --> 0:03:09.600 but also the best episode, So yes, enjoy that. But guys, 0:03:09.880 --> 0:03:13.680 an exciting announcement you may have already seen on socials. 0:03:13.760 --> 0:03:16.800 If not, go check it out because it's like Cutos branding. Ever, 0:03:17.760 --> 0:03:21.440 we just launched a brand new course. It is a 0:03:21.480 --> 0:03:28.560 live course and it is called Rebirth Rebirth, So guys, 0:03:28.639 --> 0:03:32.799 this is a course that is all about doing motherhood 0:03:33.160 --> 0:03:37.000 on your own terms. Obviously she is quite niched, but 0:03:37.160 --> 0:03:42.200 this has come from my own experience of entering motherhood 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:46.120 and everyone telling me, oh, you enter motherhood and you 0:03:46.320 --> 0:03:49.720 just figure out what to do, and you know, you 0:03:50.120 --> 0:03:53.840 figure it out. And I have been very open and 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:58.960 honest about my experience and really struggling with the start 0:03:59.520 --> 0:04:03.840 of mother hood and it really taking me a long 0:04:04.000 --> 0:04:07.320 time to figure out this whole thing. And it wasn't 0:04:07.560 --> 0:04:12.240 until I really got to the identity piece, really doing 0:04:12.280 --> 0:04:16.159 the self development work on this new identity, on this 0:04:16.320 --> 0:04:19.520 new season of me being a mother, and then me 0:04:19.880 --> 0:04:23.560 finally feeling like almost the way to describe it is 0:04:23.640 --> 0:04:29.320 like an excel like, oh my gosh, I'm here. I 0:04:29.400 --> 0:04:33.599 finally feel confident in who I am on my purpose. 0:04:33.880 --> 0:04:39.279 I finally have like suureness of I'm here for a reason. 0:04:39.680 --> 0:04:43.440 I know you know how to navigate this new season. 0:04:44.120 --> 0:04:47.040 And the reason why I created into a course is 0:04:47.080 --> 0:04:53.360 because I felt really disconnected and really lost for almost, 0:04:53.480 --> 0:04:56.359 you know, twelve months there, and I thought if I 0:04:56.480 --> 0:05:00.000 kind of had this you know, system or blueprint, blueprint 0:05:00.279 --> 0:05:03.600 or process, whatever you want to call it, sooner, I 0:05:03.680 --> 0:05:06.680 just I felt like I could have been I don't 0:05:06.680 --> 0:05:08.679 want to say better for my family, because I don't 0:05:09.120 --> 0:05:11.520 you know, we don't like to shame our previous self. 0:05:11.600 --> 0:05:13.400 But I just felt like I could have come back 0:05:13.440 --> 0:05:16.679 to myself and not come back to myself, come come 0:05:16.800 --> 0:05:21.160 into my new self a lot sooner. But it felt 0:05:21.200 --> 0:05:23.599 all over the place. And that's why I felt really 0:05:23.680 --> 0:05:27.240 called to do this course because it's really about giving 0:05:27.320 --> 0:05:32.080 you guys, if giving you guys a process of if 0:05:32.080 --> 0:05:34.560 you're a new mother, or if you're about to be 0:05:34.600 --> 0:05:37.240 a new mum, or maybe you're not even new mom, 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:40.279 but you literally are down the track and you still 0:05:40.320 --> 0:05:43.600 feel like I don't know who I am without my children, 0:05:43.839 --> 0:05:47.440 or I still feel lost, I still feel disconnected, I 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:51.280 don't feel strong in my relationships, and you're really looking 0:05:51.360 --> 0:05:54.560 for that like identity piece of I want to feel 0:05:54.560 --> 0:05:58.120 solid and I want to feel really good within myself. 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:01.279 This is what we're doing. In the course. It is 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:05.400 one hundred percent live, which just means that it starts 0:06:05.560 --> 0:06:08.520 in May. All the details are on the website and 0:06:08.839 --> 0:06:12.640 the calls will be live with me literally with me 0:06:13.320 --> 0:06:16.160 doing them live to you. Obviously they're saved and recorded 0:06:16.240 --> 0:06:19.600 and you can watch them after. But I really want 0:06:19.640 --> 0:06:23.600 this to be a potent group of like minded moms 0:06:23.800 --> 0:06:26.520 or mums to be where we're all in the same 0:06:26.640 --> 0:06:31.600 spot of like, yeah, this new season is a struggle 0:06:31.839 --> 0:06:36.840 and it's different and it's feeling a certain way, but 0:06:37.000 --> 0:06:40.840 also I'm so open to it being the best thing 0:06:40.880 --> 0:06:45.279 that has ever happened to me and really, like, really, 0:06:45.400 --> 0:06:49.080 even if that is like, oh I not feeling that yet, 0:06:49.360 --> 0:06:53.679 we've all been there, but wanting that piece of things 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:55.840 don't feel that great at the moment or things just 0:06:55.880 --> 0:06:58.640 feel off, and I'm really I'm wanting to see this 0:06:58.839 --> 0:07:01.960 as the most expense of time in the most beautiful journey, 0:07:02.400 --> 0:07:06.479 and you're really seeking that self development piece that is 0:07:06.520 --> 0:07:09.320 so niched to being a new mum, or to being 0:07:09.360 --> 0:07:11.960 a mum or a soon to be mum. This is 0:07:12.000 --> 0:07:14.600 the course for you. I've literally never seen any course 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:16.960 like this, and that's why I brought out because I 0:07:17.000 --> 0:07:19.600 was like, oh my god, if I had this within 0:07:19.640 --> 0:07:22.240 the first three to six months, like this would have 0:07:22.280 --> 0:07:25.840 been fucking great for my t wealth and just my 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:29.800 family and my team. Ha. Tea is nodding her head. 0:07:30.400 --> 0:07:33.040 So I'm really excited. Obviously, I'm going to tell you 0:07:33.040 --> 0:07:36.280 guys so much more about it. I don't go into this, 0:07:36.440 --> 0:07:39.440 I don't go into it in this episode, but we 0:07:39.480 --> 0:07:42.360 will chat about it a bit more. It's just, yeah, 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:45.560 it's so bloody exciting. All the details on the website. 0:07:45.640 --> 0:07:48.360 It is a live course, so we start in May. 0:07:48.440 --> 0:07:51.200 There will be a live course sorry every week starting 0:07:51.240 --> 0:07:54.440 from the twenty fourth. All the content will be saved. 0:07:54.440 --> 0:07:57.560 You have the content forever. But also it's like, I'm 0:07:57.600 --> 0:08:02.920 really looking here for a community who is ready to 0:08:02.960 --> 0:08:06.920 be with other like minded mums and also who are 0:08:07.120 --> 0:08:12.080 open minded and ready to hear something different and ready 0:08:12.080 --> 0:08:15.560 for that, like unlocking that next level self of them 0:08:15.600 --> 0:08:20.040 in the mum archetype, because that's really specifically what I'm 0:08:20.040 --> 0:08:23.080 speaking to, and it's going to be really fucking potent, 0:08:23.240 --> 0:08:26.720 and it's also might be really fucking triggering. So you've 0:08:26.720 --> 0:08:29.640 got to be open and ready for it. But trust me, 0:08:30.000 --> 0:08:33.559 if you are ready for it and you do apply this, 0:08:33.559 --> 0:08:36.400 this will be life changing because you were about to 0:08:36.400 --> 0:08:40.199 see yourself in a whole new light, in a whole 0:08:40.240 --> 0:08:42.880 It's going to give you a whole blueprint of how 0:08:42.920 --> 0:08:46.960 to navigate this new season and really just feel fucking 0:08:47.000 --> 0:08:50.800 solid of who you are, because I guarantee you if 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:53.120 you're listening and you don't, you're like, oh my god, 0:08:53.160 --> 0:08:55.360 I just I can't even remember feeling like that, and 0:08:55.760 --> 0:08:57.800 I resonate with that so much, which is why I 0:08:57.840 --> 0:09:00.840 created this course. Anything else to add to that a tear, 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:03.640 We'll pop the link to the website and yes, we'll 0:09:03.640 --> 0:09:06.960 do all that, and feel free to jump into the 0:09:07.040 --> 0:09:09.920 R and C DMS if you have any questions and 0:09:10.040 --> 0:09:12.480 the team can chat to you there. Don't pop into 0:09:12.480 --> 0:09:16.120 my dms just because they little bit full. They are 0:09:16.480 --> 0:09:19.400 chocker blockers and you're going to get your answer question 0:09:19.559 --> 0:09:22.319 answered in R and C dms. But in saying that, 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:25.280 do you have a weekly recommendation? A tear I have 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:26.400 to tell us. 0:09:26.640 --> 0:09:31.840 So my first recommendation is a TV show called Jury Duty. 0:09:32.040 --> 0:09:36.880 It's on Amazon Prime and it's actually a reality TV show, 0:09:37.000 --> 0:09:39.800 but it is like one of the most wholesome reality 0:09:39.840 --> 0:09:43.160 TV shows I think I've ever watched. The concept is 0:09:43.720 --> 0:09:47.240 they have all these actors and it was also created 0:09:47.280 --> 0:09:49.400 by two of the writers of The US Office, So 0:09:49.440 --> 0:09:51.600 if you enjoy that show, you'll probably love this one. 0:09:51.640 --> 0:09:55.160 But they have all these actors and one normal person 0:09:55.720 --> 0:09:59.800 and basically they've told him that they're documenting a trial 0:09:59.840 --> 0:10:02.200 and what it's like to be on judy duty, except 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:04.959 they're filming a reality TV show and all these people 0:10:04.960 --> 0:10:08.280 are doing the most outrageous things to try and obviously 0:10:08.280 --> 0:10:11.040 trip him up. But he is just the most beautiful 0:10:11.120 --> 0:10:16.080 human being ever. Really, yeah, And it's just so funny 0:10:16.080 --> 0:10:19.240 watching all these people be completely ridiculous and him just 0:10:19.280 --> 0:10:22.200 having the best reaction ever. Like there was this one 0:10:22.240 --> 0:10:25.880 guy that his whole character is sort of he does 0:10:25.920 --> 0:10:29.920 weird inventions, and instead of laughing at him, this guy 0:10:30.000 --> 0:10:32.320 shows him the movie A Bugs Life, because there's a 0:10:32.320 --> 0:10:34.400 bug in there that just keeps trying to innovate and 0:10:34.440 --> 0:10:36.400 all the other bugs don't like it. And he's like, 0:10:36.480 --> 0:10:38.640 I really thought that the movie would speak to him 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:41.880 and help him understand that not everyone's always going to 0:10:42.000 --> 0:10:44.400 understand what he's doing, but he should just keep going. 0:10:45.080 --> 0:10:46.160 It's just the best show ever. 0:10:47.280 --> 0:10:48.280 It's just amazing. 0:10:48.960 --> 0:10:51.280 I'm not selling it well, but you have the most 0:10:51.440 --> 0:10:53.920 random recommendations, but I love it. Thank you. 0:10:54.040 --> 0:10:58.680 And my second recommendation is just look at everything from 0:10:58.720 --> 0:10:59.800 Sophia Rich's wedding. 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:03.120 I'm completely upset, you're so obsessed. 0:11:06.280 --> 0:11:09.360 Watch the Vogue videos, watch her tiktoks, look at all 0:11:09.360 --> 0:11:09.960 the photos. 0:11:10.000 --> 0:11:14.000 It just looks amazing. That's it. I follow a few 0:11:14.080 --> 0:11:18.440 influencers who went to that wedding, like the founders of 0:11:18.520 --> 0:11:22.160 Summer Fridays. Yes, I follow them too, And yeah, it 0:11:22.240 --> 0:11:24.880 did look like a beautiful just like wholesome day. But 0:11:24.920 --> 0:11:27.600 also like everyone who went is just like so elate. 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:30.880 Yeah can I cry out? I'm like, imagine having all 0:11:30.880 --> 0:11:36.240 those as your friends, Like what literally so good? 0:11:36.400 --> 0:11:37.559 What's your recommendation. 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:41.600 I don't, as you know, I'm consuming. I'm not consuming 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:44.640 a lot at the moment. So my recommendation is just 0:11:44.679 --> 0:11:46.959 more something that I've linked into and I kind of 0:11:47.000 --> 0:11:49.400 spoke about this Friday, and I just want to reaffirm 0:11:49.440 --> 0:11:52.679 it because I followed that and I felt so much better. 0:11:52.760 --> 0:11:56.640 And it's just when you know, when something happens and 0:11:57.040 --> 0:12:00.760 you want to have a reaction, ask yourself if that 0:12:00.960 --> 0:12:05.160 reaction is going to feed into the story and the 0:12:05.200 --> 0:12:08.559 reality that you want, or if it's going to feed 0:12:08.600 --> 0:12:11.600 into the story and the reality that you don't want. 0:12:11.800 --> 0:12:14.680 So my example was this week, I am going on 0:12:14.720 --> 0:12:17.760 holidays with Tim to celebrate our anniversary. And last week 0:12:17.800 --> 0:12:20.520 I was feeling a bit stressed. So my usual reaction 0:12:20.800 --> 0:12:23.320 in stressed is like, well, I'm just going to work 0:12:23.440 --> 0:12:27.040 more hours and I'm going to feel more like, oh, well, 0:12:27.080 --> 0:12:29.559 I'll just do it. I'll just get it done. But 0:12:29.600 --> 0:12:33.160 then that feeds into the reality of I'm unsupported and 0:12:33.559 --> 0:12:36.400 I'm the one who has to do everything. So I 0:12:36.440 --> 0:12:38.760 was like, no, we're not doing that. That's not the 0:12:38.800 --> 0:12:41.240 reality I want. The really reality I want is like 0:12:41.920 --> 0:12:44.960 I'm supported, I care go on holidays. It's not a 0:12:44.960 --> 0:12:48.560 big deal and like, that's the vibe. So I just 0:12:48.720 --> 0:12:51.240 reacted it in a different way. And I remember there 0:12:51.280 --> 0:12:53.600 was a specific time I didn't go on my laptop, 0:12:53.720 --> 0:12:57.959 I didn't overwork, and I actually, you know, communicated to 0:12:58.400 --> 0:13:02.280 key people of I am feeling overwhelmed. Let's sit down, 0:13:02.480 --> 0:13:05.480 I need to lean on you, I need support. And 0:13:05.559 --> 0:13:08.040 you might think that is so simple, but I've actually 0:13:08.120 --> 0:13:11.280 never done that. I always just go and figure it 0:13:11.320 --> 0:13:14.440 out myself. Yeah, And that has then fed into the 0:13:14.480 --> 0:13:18.160 reality of me being in these situations. So I was like, no, 0:13:18.240 --> 0:13:20.720 we're not doing that. So that was really cool for 0:13:20.840 --> 0:13:24.040 me to be able to get that awareness and almost 0:13:24.200 --> 0:13:27.920 break that cycle and do like, no, I'm going to 0:13:27.920 --> 0:13:29.559 take a different action here. 0:13:30.040 --> 0:13:33.360 And before you took the action too, not after yes, 0:13:34.200 --> 0:13:35.120 And so I love that. 0:13:35.120 --> 0:13:36.760 That was just a really cool thing for me to 0:13:36.800 --> 0:13:40.120 be like, oh, wow, I'm having more awareness and I'm 0:13:40.160 --> 0:13:44.520 breaking habits that don't serve me. Yeah, And so that's 0:13:44.520 --> 0:13:47.000 what I want you guys to think of, Like, is 0:13:47.080 --> 0:13:50.960 what you're feeding into And it's always a reaction because 0:13:51.000 --> 0:13:54.400 it's like otherwise your plant and it's perfect, So it's 0:13:54.440 --> 0:13:57.480 like a reaction of like, then how you react, what 0:13:57.679 --> 0:14:02.600 reality is that feeding into have a thing? That's my recommendation. 0:14:03.440 --> 0:14:05.360 But let's get into this KO episode. 0:14:05.360 --> 0:14:18.600 I love it so Georgie. I know our listeners would 0:14:18.600 --> 0:14:21.560 have heard this a few weeks ago. Now on the podcast, 0:14:21.600 --> 0:14:24.760 we read out a DM from a listener who was 0:14:24.920 --> 0:14:28.640 triggered by something you did, and then we unpacked the 0:14:28.720 --> 0:14:31.840 DM and gave her, or maybe reflected to her, some 0:14:31.880 --> 0:14:35.640 of the limiting beliefs and triggers. She listened to that 0:14:35.720 --> 0:14:39.120 episode and sent us such a lovely response, so I 0:14:39.280 --> 0:14:40.720 thought I would read it out to you. 0:14:40.920 --> 0:14:47.320 Oh my god, yes I haven't. She was amazing. I 0:14:47.400 --> 0:14:48.800 love her. 0:14:49.480 --> 0:14:52.360 If you guys haven't listened to that initial episode, go 0:14:52.440 --> 0:14:54.360 give that a listen. Now, we'll link it in the 0:14:54.360 --> 0:14:56.720 show notes, just so that you have the context of 0:14:56.800 --> 0:14:58.360 what her initial questions. 0:14:58.520 --> 0:15:00.960 Well, I guess just quickly, because if you're just gonna 0:15:00.960 --> 0:15:04.320 listen to this, the context was me going to Morgan 0:15:04.360 --> 0:15:07.080 Wollen in Melbourne, and she kind of comes from a 0:15:07.120 --> 0:15:10.760 country background, and obviously country is very trendy at the moment, 0:15:11.200 --> 0:15:13.720 so it triggered her. Me flying all the way to 0:15:13.760 --> 0:15:17.640 Melbourne for a country music show wearing country boots, like 0:15:17.720 --> 0:15:21.240 buying boots specifically for the show. She felt thought it 0:15:21.320 --> 0:15:24.760 was like disingenuous, and then also how I have talked 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:27.560 about on here about my steps being conscious with my 0:15:27.600 --> 0:15:30.560 Tessa and my putting solar in my house. And then 0:15:30.600 --> 0:15:32.360 she was like, but you're flying all the way to 0:15:32.400 --> 0:15:35.440 Melbourne to blah blah blah. Anyway, so we fully unpacked 0:15:35.480 --> 0:15:38.160 it in a very kind of like neutral way. So 0:15:38.280 --> 0:15:40.760 go listen to that if you want to hear our response. 0:15:40.800 --> 0:15:43.200 But then this is her response back, Yes, Oh I 0:15:43.240 --> 0:15:44.720 gotta can't wait. Tell me so good. 0:15:45.240 --> 0:15:48.960 So firstly I just went to say thank you for 0:15:49.040 --> 0:15:51.920 being so kind about addressing my question. I was so 0:15:52.040 --> 0:15:54.040 nervous about this being on the potty because I was 0:15:54.080 --> 0:15:56.840 so vulnerable sending this in to you guys. However, you 0:15:56.920 --> 0:16:00.800 did not disappoint. Can confirm I listened to this and though, oh, yeah, 0:16:00.960 --> 0:16:04.480 that's totally it. After listening to the episode, I looked 0:16:04.520 --> 0:16:07.440 back at my life and recognize that I have always 0:16:07.520 --> 0:16:12.359 struggled with holding duality within myself, always questioning my identity 0:16:12.440 --> 0:16:16.840 and if I'm more country, vintage, a biker babe, Jim Gurley, etc. 0:16:17.640 --> 0:16:20.000 For some reason, I think it can only be one. 0:16:20.480 --> 0:16:23.000 I also hold other people to this same standard that 0:16:23.040 --> 0:16:26.560 they aren't allowed to hold duality. I even catch myself 0:16:26.600 --> 0:16:30.200 looking at potential partners and the category their identity is in, 0:16:30.400 --> 0:16:33.480 because then I'll know what category to out my own 0:16:33.520 --> 0:16:37.960 identity in. This comes from growing up in a narcissistic 0:16:38.040 --> 0:16:41.240 household and being hyper aware of other people's moods. That way, 0:16:41.280 --> 0:16:43.800 I know who to be in order to keep myself safe. 0:16:44.240 --> 0:16:47.520 I absolutely try and put myself in a box. You're 0:16:47.600 --> 0:16:50.400 so right. I am totally lost with what my concept 0:16:50.400 --> 0:16:52.880 of self is right now. The direction I thought I 0:16:52.880 --> 0:16:55.080 wanted in my life to go down and the career 0:16:55.120 --> 0:16:58.480 I'm currently pursuing, I am now questioning. I'm so strict 0:16:58.480 --> 0:17:00.840 on my identity and who I am. I'm so serious 0:17:00.880 --> 0:17:03.760 about it all, and I'm only twenty two. Oge. I 0:17:03.880 --> 0:17:05.880 need to relax and get out of my own head. 0:17:06.320 --> 0:17:09.200 I am definitely very attached to my identity. I think 0:17:09.280 --> 0:17:11.800 because I don't actually know who the heck I am 0:17:11.920 --> 0:17:14.960 at the moment, or what my identity is because I 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:17.359 keep trying to put myself in a box. I was 0:17:17.480 --> 0:17:20.040 low key, one hundred percent that kid in school who 0:17:20.119 --> 0:17:22.960 was like, you can't like that, because that's my thing. 0:17:23.520 --> 0:17:25.639 I know where my childhood this has come from, and 0:17:25.720 --> 0:17:29.320 it was a safety mechanism for me at the time. Also, 0:17:29.440 --> 0:17:32.520 after listening to this episode, I've realized another trigger that 0:17:32.600 --> 0:17:35.520 I have on the same theme is that people have 0:17:35.600 --> 0:17:38.880 started getting into romance reading and Colin Hoover being trending. 0:17:39.359 --> 0:17:41.960 I've been reading romance for years, so now it's trending. 0:17:42.080 --> 0:17:44.560 I'm like, well, you're not even reading good romance books, 0:17:44.560 --> 0:17:46.560 and I know what those are because I've been reading 0:17:46.640 --> 0:17:49.600 romance for the past six years. My culture is not 0:17:49.680 --> 0:17:52.680 my identity, is my new affirmation. I need to let 0:17:52.680 --> 0:17:56.160 myself grow, change and evolve. I can't wait to unpack 0:17:56.280 --> 0:17:58.639 where these core beliefs are that no longer serve me. 0:17:58.720 --> 0:18:01.560 Thank you Gales so much for some much needed clarity. 0:18:01.680 --> 0:18:02.720 Keep up the fab work. 0:18:02.920 --> 0:18:04.800 Oh my god, her response. 0:18:04.600 --> 0:18:05.320 She's amazing. 0:18:05.520 --> 0:18:08.840 She's such a self away human. And see, this is 0:18:08.880 --> 0:18:12.439 what this podcast is about, like I, and this is 0:18:12.480 --> 0:18:15.160 the thing is we are going to go through life 0:18:15.200 --> 0:18:17.400 and we are going to judge people. We are going 0:18:17.440 --> 0:18:19.760 to judge ourselves. We're going to have all these big 0:18:19.800 --> 0:18:24.080 feelings and emotions and it's not about making ourselves wrong 0:18:24.640 --> 0:18:26.880 for having them and this is what I've been saying 0:18:26.920 --> 0:18:29.919 for a while now. It's about, oh, what is this 0:18:30.200 --> 0:18:34.880 actually telling me about myself? And how can I change 0:18:35.200 --> 0:18:38.879 or evolve in this area? And that's why I think 0:18:39.119 --> 0:18:42.840 just this whole conversation of you know, having with this 0:18:42.880 --> 0:18:46.960 listener and then responding back is it's honestly one of 0:18:46.960 --> 0:18:49.480 my favorite things ever. And it's like, let's have more 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:52.439 conversations like this, Honestly, guys. If you're triggered by something, 0:18:53.040 --> 0:18:55.560 let's unpack it on the podcast. And there's a couple 0:18:55.560 --> 0:18:57.399 of points that I just wrote down while you were 0:18:57.440 --> 0:19:01.199 saying that a tea, and I think like, let's in 0:19:01.240 --> 0:19:05.879 this episode really unpack and really chat about this whole 0:19:05.960 --> 0:19:11.439 concept of the standard that you judge others is really 0:19:11.480 --> 0:19:15.439 just the standard that you judge yourself. So if you 0:19:15.880 --> 0:19:22.360 can't deal with someone else stepping outside the quote unquote box, truly, 0:19:22.440 --> 0:19:27.040 this is just a reflection of your internal prison of 0:19:27.080 --> 0:19:31.200 you judging yourself, so then you will never like step 0:19:31.240 --> 0:19:34.040 outside that box. You would never dare because of the 0:19:34.160 --> 0:19:39.000 judgments you hold within yourself. Interesting, did that make sense? Okay? 0:19:39.160 --> 0:19:39.639 It definitely. 0:19:40.080 --> 0:19:40.919 You looked shocked. 0:19:41.480 --> 0:19:44.600 I was just like processing, It's so true and that's like, 0:19:44.800 --> 0:19:48.119 imagine how much you're missing out on correct And that's like, 0:19:48.480 --> 0:19:51.600 let's let's chat about in this episode, it's here basically 0:19:51.640 --> 0:19:54.960 of like when you realize and I'm gonna be a 0:19:55.000 --> 0:20:00.240 bit crazy here there's actually no like right or wrong. 0:20:01.440 --> 0:20:07.520 There's actually no rules. There's laws, yes, and we want 0:20:07.520 --> 0:20:10.399 to abide by the laws, but when it comes to 0:20:10.480 --> 0:20:12.920 ourselves or the identity with what we want to do, 0:20:13.680 --> 0:20:17.360 with what we could do, there are actually no rules. 0:20:17.840 --> 0:20:21.919 There is only the rules that have been conditioned and 0:20:22.000 --> 0:20:27.800 taught to us that we put on ourselves. I love that, 0:20:28.320 --> 0:20:31.040 and I think the biggest thing that I want you 0:20:31.080 --> 0:20:34.720 guys to think about in this episode is like really 0:20:34.840 --> 0:20:40.359 start having a think of where like question get back 0:20:40.359 --> 0:20:42.760 into that as long as you can be curious in 0:20:42.840 --> 0:20:47.600 question of like where in my life have I put 0:20:47.640 --> 0:20:53.920 a condition on myself that is not actually mine. It's 0:20:54.000 --> 0:20:56.240 it's you know, your parents, it's the way you were 0:20:56.240 --> 0:20:56.760 brought up. 0:20:56.880 --> 0:21:00.879 It's society, it's it's a patriarchy, Jackie. 0:21:01.119 --> 0:21:03.320 It's something you've seen on social media. And see this 0:21:03.400 --> 0:21:06.239 is even interesting because if if you even look at 0:21:06.280 --> 0:21:09.600 what's happening on social media right now, it's you know, 0:21:09.800 --> 0:21:14.440 it's the Jim Girl era. It's we literally in this 0:21:14.520 --> 0:21:18.440 thing where it's like I'm in my just laughing because 0:21:18.480 --> 0:21:21.480 it's like just such a cool reflection of like people's 0:21:21.520 --> 0:21:25.680 minds and stuff. And I think it's really interesting how 0:21:25.880 --> 0:21:29.639 we go through these things where we put ourselves in 0:21:29.720 --> 0:21:32.000 a box and we even say the words of like 0:21:32.040 --> 0:21:37.120 this is my whole personality right now. Yeah, and it's like, well, yes, 0:21:37.240 --> 0:21:40.520 that's what happened. And that's why the listener who was 0:21:40.520 --> 0:21:42.840 triggered by me going to country music because she's like, 0:21:42.960 --> 0:21:45.399 but I'm a country girl. You can't be a country 0:21:45.400 --> 0:21:47.119 girl because I'm a country girl and that was like 0:21:47.240 --> 0:21:51.800 her box. Yeah, and because I didn't fit the what 0:21:51.880 --> 0:21:54.159 she thought is a real country girl. It's like I 0:21:54.160 --> 0:21:59.240 couldn't be one. Like it's kind of bunny. I'm just 0:21:59.280 --> 0:22:02.600 like thinking about as we're saying this, when you put 0:22:02.640 --> 0:22:06.760 yourself into the box and you really try to identify, 0:22:07.040 --> 0:22:10.640 and we love identifying because when you identify, you feel 0:22:10.680 --> 0:22:14.439 a belonging. Yeah, you feel like, oh, I'm clear, I 0:22:14.480 --> 0:22:17.400 have structure, I know who I am, and i'm stable. 0:22:17.600 --> 0:22:17.959 Yeah. 0:22:18.080 --> 0:22:21.399 It feels really good. But then, like you know the 0:22:21.480 --> 0:22:25.119 quote unquote shadow side of that is you have just 0:22:25.200 --> 0:22:27.359 limited yourself to that box. 0:22:27.560 --> 0:22:31.200 Yeah, and to the the steps that come with that box. Like, 0:22:31.240 --> 0:22:33.480 if you're a country girl, then maybe your goal is to, 0:22:33.640 --> 0:22:36.080 I don't know, ride lots of horses. This is probably 0:22:36.080 --> 0:22:39.480 like the worst thing ever. I apologize, but yeah, again, 0:22:39.600 --> 0:22:42.560 what if you're being intuitively pulled to go travel, but 0:22:42.640 --> 0:22:44.879