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Speaker 1: Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, and this is the

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Speaker 1: Rise and Conquer Podcast. This is the podcast where which

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Speaker 1: of my life running two businesses and being among Think

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Speaker 1: of us as the perfect combo of brunch with your

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Speaker 1: in your journey, We're here to help you be curious,

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Speaker 1: in the right place. Hi everybody, and welcome back to

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Speaker 2: Thanks, thanks for having me, thanks for letting me stay.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I should intro you because it's so

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Speaker 1: It just looks amazing. That's it. I follow a few

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Speaker 2: Thank you Gales so much for some much needed clarity.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, her response.

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Speaker 1: But I'm going to give you a big butt here

435
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Speaker 1: in order to then feel because there is like as humans,

436
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Speaker 1: we need to feel belonging. We need to feel that

437
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Speaker 1: structure and clarity. We need to know who we are.

438
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Speaker 1: We need to know what we stand for, we need

439
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Speaker 1: to know our morals, We need to know, you know

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Speaker 1: almost like let's call it the code, the code we

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Speaker 1: live by. Yeah, but what's going to happen is if

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Speaker 1: you don't figure out how to do that quote unquote

443
00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:14,960
Speaker 1: code to your true, authentic self, you're always going to

444
00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:19,840
Speaker 1: feel disconnected, yes, or you're going to feel you know, connected,

445
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Speaker 1: But then you're going to be like that girl who's

446
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Speaker 1: like anyone who is different to her, it's like triggers her. Yeah,

447
00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:28,399
Speaker 1: and that's like, that's truly means you're not actually that

448
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Speaker 1: connected sort of thing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So it's about like realizing there's no actual rules, there's

451
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Speaker 1: no actual what you think in your mind is what

452
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Speaker 1: you have to be, but you still do need to

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Speaker 1: hold an identity and have some sort of code. The

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Speaker 1: big thing is figuring it out for yourself, because as

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Speaker 1: long as you apply conditioning from other people, you're not

456
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Speaker 1: going to feel happy because it's not yours, it's someone else's.

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Speaker 2: And do you think it's also almost allowing yourself to

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Speaker 2: do that box list for lack of a better explanation,

459
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Speaker 2: in that your hobby might be, I don't know, something

460
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Speaker 2: like golf, but you work in a creative industry. So

461
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Speaker 2: even though that doesn't necessarily fit in the same quote

462
00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:21,879
Speaker 2: unquote box that society gives you. It's fine, and like

463
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Speaker 2: allowing yourself to have the freedom to try all these

464
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Speaker 2: little different things when people will probably because everyone puts

465
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Speaker 2: themself in a box going, oh, that's so weird, you

466
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Speaker 2: can't do that you work here, or like for moms,

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Speaker 2: for example, that's probably a really easy one is oh,

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Speaker 2: you're a mom, so why are you working full time?

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Speaker 2: Or oh your a mom, so why are you're going

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Speaker 2: out with your friends on the weekend. You should be

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Speaker 2: with your baby, and such like moving past that judgment

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Speaker 2: so that you can actually find your true authentic self.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, do you mean like almost trying things on?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well I think also the first part is just

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Speaker 1: being aware of like I said, if you judge other

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Speaker 1: people for just doing things that are different to you,

478
00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:11,879
Speaker 1: like that's the first issue, because you cannot hold duality

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Speaker 1: that people are different and they're leading different lives and

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00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:20,680
Speaker 1: they can do two contradicting things but still be right. Yeah,

481
00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:22,800
Speaker 1: because like I said, and this is getting so deep,

482
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Speaker 1: I feel like this is gonna be way too deep

483
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Speaker 1: for this episode. But really, your external world is just

484
00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:30,520
Speaker 1: a reflection of your internal world.

485
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Speaker 2: World.

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Speaker 1: So if you are judging someone for expressing their true

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Speaker 1: authentic self or expressing a decision that feels truly authentic

488
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Speaker 1: to them, there is no way that you could fully

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Speaker 1: express your true authentic self because you're judging them and

490
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Speaker 1: everything's just a mirror.

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 1: So that's what I mean, Like, I think that's the

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Speaker 1: first thing of being like, oh fuck, I actually pretty judge. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And I think that's okay, and we have to be judging.

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00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:01,760
Speaker 1: That's how we establish ourselves in the world. But just

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Speaker 1: watch where you can't hold duality and you think things

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Speaker 1: have to be a certain way, and you can't hold

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Speaker 1: people being multifacet because that's going to show you the

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Speaker 1: level in which you're currently at with I guess your

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Speaker 1: internal prison.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, wow, did I just get really fucking fly.

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Speaker 1: A tears? Like this is a quick twenty minute episode,

503
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Speaker 1: Like we have three minutes left, How we're gonna wrap

504
00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:39,480
Speaker 1: it up? How are we gonna get you? No?

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Speaker 2: I totally get what you mean. And I think something

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Speaker 2: that I realized recently is like I do I genuinely know,

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00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:48,880
Speaker 2: is when people have different priorities to you and it

508
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Speaker 2: triggers you because you don't allow yourself to do that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh my god, that is literally something I'm working

510
00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 1: through right now. So it's so funny. I'm working through

511
00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:01,920
Speaker 1: my coach. How Cooper and him trigger me with like

512
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Speaker 1: how fucking chill they are interesting, how chill they are,

513
00:29:08,120 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 1: and also how abundant they are.

514
00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:15,000
Speaker 2: Wow, triggers the fuck out of me, and I'm like.

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Speaker 1: It's like, why God, I hold this? How cool is that? Because,

516
00:29:24,000 --> 00:29:26,040
Speaker 1: like I said, if you can go through life just

517
00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:30,280
Speaker 1: being like that really fucked. It's like, literally Tim bought

518
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Speaker 1: a car without asking me, his new fucking Mercedes. Anyway,

519
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:36,720
Speaker 1: that's a whole other story I'll tell you on the body.

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00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:39,080
Speaker 1: And it triggered the fuck at me, Like, first of all,

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Speaker 1: it was like he shouldn't have done it, but also

522
00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:45,760
Speaker 1: that was how green amount before we had to consult

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Speaker 1: each other on expecting Babe, big green amount was a

524
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Speaker 1: thousand bucks.

525
00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:55,040
Speaker 2: Being like, yeah, God, for a thousand bucks, I.

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Speaker 1: Can see the bank account. It's a whole other story

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00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:00,960
Speaker 1: we don't have time for, and I will unpack it.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure we should get him on the podcast and

529
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Speaker 1: ask him. But it was more this thing of him

530
00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:10,920
Speaker 1: like owning he wants something, he buys it. Yeah, and

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Speaker 1: he doesn't worry about it. Me, I'm like, should I

532
00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:15,480
Speaker 1: buy this? For months? I'm like, blah blah blah, I've

533
00:30:15,480 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 1: got to save delayed gratification blah blah blah. Like and

534
00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:22,480
Speaker 1: it triggered the fuck out at me because it mirrored

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00:30:22,640 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 1: to me the parts of myself that I don't give

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00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 1: permission to just do the thing. See how cool the now?

537
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:38,479
Speaker 1: And that's literally one of your rules. I know, I

538
00:30:38,520 --> 00:30:42,680
Speaker 1: know it to you, I know this is what this is,

539
00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:45,320
Speaker 1: what's traveling about the whole thing. But it's interesting because

540
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Speaker 1: I had the conversation with him of like boundaries, we

541
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Speaker 1: don't just go and buy past timathy. But then what

542
00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:54,600
Speaker 1: the part was really making me angry was this beautiful

543
00:30:54,600 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 1: mirror of like where I you know, because I was like,

544
00:30:57,360 --> 00:31:00,280
Speaker 1: you're so impulsive blah blah blah. But if you think

545
00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:04,960
Speaker 1: about it, the highest frequency of impulsiveness is proactiveness.

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00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:06,560
Speaker 2: And it's intuition toness.

547
00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:08,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, knowing exactly what you wanted, just having it. Yeah,

548
00:31:09,000 --> 00:31:11,520
Speaker 1: Whereas like I don't have that. I question myself. I

549
00:31:11,600 --> 00:31:15,520
Speaker 1: poll people, especially with expensive things. I have to like

550
00:31:15,560 --> 00:31:18,200
Speaker 1: fucking sit in that shit for like months. Yeah, I

551
00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:22,040
Speaker 1: thought about my Tesla for so long and had multiple conversations.

552
00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:25,160
Speaker 1: He's just like, damn, I like it. I like it

553
00:31:25,240 --> 00:31:29,720
Speaker 1: for Gazza, And so that's what I'm saying is like

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00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:33,200
Speaker 1: that was really off topic, but anyway, but it made it.

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00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 1: It made sense. I want you to think of just question,

556
00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:39,000
Speaker 1: have a think. We're going to put a thread in

557
00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 1: the Facebook group. Where are you, from your conditioning doing

558
00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:49,240
Speaker 1: things in a certain way because you think you have to,

559
00:31:50,040 --> 00:31:52,120
Speaker 1: because you think it's the way you are, because you

560
00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:55,680
Speaker 1: think it's your human design, whatever it is that is

561
00:31:55,800 --> 00:32:01,040
Speaker 1: actually not serving you or holding you back. So this episode, guys,

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Speaker 1: I really want you to think of, like, where are

563
00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:06,200
Speaker 1: you selling yourself short? Where are you just living your

564
00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:09,480
Speaker 1: life because you think you have to or doing things

565
00:32:09,520 --> 00:32:11,600
Speaker 1: a way that you think you have to, but it's like, oh,

566
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Speaker 1: I actually just fucking want to do life a bit different.

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Speaker 2: Have a look at which boxes are triggering you or

568
00:32:17,880 --> 00:32:21,760
Speaker 2: what people do that triggers you, and maybe even try

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Speaker 2: and consume less content around that thing. Like if you're

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00:32:24,560 --> 00:32:28,040
Speaker 2: getting triggered about mums doing things differently, maybe just stop

571
00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 2: consuming motherhood content for a little bit. Have a look

572
00:32:31,400 --> 00:32:37,200
Speaker 2: internally unless it's expanding, have a look internally at what

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00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:41,400
Speaker 2: you sort of want your motherhood identity to look like

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Speaker 2: and then work it out.

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm going to challenge you on that idea. Yeah,

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00:32:45,920 --> 00:32:49,120
Speaker 1: that is good advice, but it's like a big thing.

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00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:54,440
Speaker 1: So anytime someone triggers you for doing something, yeah, you

578
00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 1: just think I'm just fucking angry. They're an idiot. Yeah,

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00:32:57,600 --> 00:33:04,480
Speaker 1: I want you to think about when you're not expressing that. So,

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00:33:04,600 --> 00:33:06,880
Speaker 1: for example, let's just go what you just said, Yeah,

581
00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:11,280
Speaker 1: mum doing something differently. So where are you not doing

582
00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:15,160
Speaker 1: things differently? Oh? Because otherwise why would you be triggered?

583
00:33:15,320 --> 00:33:17,920
Speaker 2: Yeah? So true, you just wouldn't care. Yeah.

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00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:22,200
Speaker 1: So that's like Tim's example of like he was spending

585
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Speaker 1: money and doing life a certain way and it's different

586
00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:28,320
Speaker 1: to how I would do it. Yeah, so it triggered me.

587
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:30,800
Speaker 1: But when I really looked at it, like I was

588
00:33:30,880 --> 00:33:33,800
Speaker 1: quite jealous the way he was doing it. I wished

589
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Speaker 1: I could do it, But I made him wrong.

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Speaker 2: I had that with my sister book in a year.

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00:33:41,520 --> 00:33:47,760
Speaker 1: You're so irresponsible, like fucking yeah, but actually yeah. So

592
00:33:47,880 --> 00:33:50,160
Speaker 1: for example, even going back right to the side of

593
00:33:50,200 --> 00:33:53,480
Speaker 1: this episode of the Beautiful R and C listener getting

594
00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:56,520
Speaker 1: triggered of me flying to a music festival. Even you

595
00:33:56,520 --> 00:33:59,680
Speaker 1: could pick out points of like that's spontaneous, Yeah, that's

596
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Speaker 1: out of the box. And then she even told us

597
00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:06,200
Speaker 1: I literally live inside a boxy and of course that

598
00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:09,360
Speaker 1: triggered her. Yeah, because I was stepping outside of the box.

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Speaker 2: So truly consume all the content, let yourself get triggered.

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Speaker 1: Well, I think it's about because can you go through

601
00:34:17,480 --> 00:34:20,040
Speaker 1: life just you know, you can't go through laughing like

602
00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:21,440
Speaker 1: oh well I'm just not going to talk to that

603
00:34:21,480 --> 00:34:24,680
Speaker 1: person or I'm just gonna you know, you can do

604
00:34:24,719 --> 00:34:28,360
Speaker 1: it on social media of course, but it's like your people.

605
00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:31,239
Speaker 1: Life is always going to reflect what you need to

606
00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:35,520
Speaker 1: grow and learn and evolve. So it's like instead of

607
00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:37,680
Speaker 1: just fucking being angry all the time or triggered or

608
00:34:37,719 --> 00:34:40,560
Speaker 1: thinking you're right all the time, where can you actually

609
00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:44,239
Speaker 1: be like, oh, where can I learn something here? What

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Speaker 1: could this actually be showing me?

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00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:49,399
Speaker 2: So true?

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Speaker 1: All right, guys, I hope you enjoyed this episode. Come

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Speaker 1: join us in the Facebook group. And yeah, thanks for listening.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to another episode of

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Speaker 1: the Rise and Conquer podcast. If you enjoyed it and

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