WEBVTT - MINI: Britt & Ben had a Pregnancy Test Dilemma in Dubai?

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<v Speaker 1>If you're just joining us.

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<v Speaker 2>We were just talking about Jamila Jamil not wanting kids,

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<v Speaker 2>and we're talking about my swinging pendulum of if I

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<v Speaker 2>want kids or not, because I'm constantly going between the two.

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<v Speaker 1>Depends on the day of the week I wake up

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<v Speaker 1>and how I'm feeling.

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<v Speaker 3>It also depends on your ovulation.

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<v Speaker 4>I reckon, I reckon when you're ovulating, not you specifically,

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<v Speaker 4>but women in general. Whenever I'm ovulating, I'm like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>third baby, and then after it, I'm like.

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<v Speaker 3>No, well that's a terrible idea.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, you fluctuate more than me every day, but every

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<v Speaker 4>week you've already got two kids. Put it on record here,

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<v Speaker 4>I do want a third So when that happens, guys,

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<v Speaker 4>don't be shocked.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh it feels weird talking about my sex life to

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<v Speaker 1>you guys, But.

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<v Speaker 3>Why you do it all the time anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, But no, what I'm about to say, because I

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<v Speaker 2>haven't really said this, actually, I don't really be really

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<v Speaker 2>insteted on the podcast. Whilst I'm confused about wanting children,

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<v Speaker 2>my fertility, if you haven't followed along, my fertility is

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<v Speaker 2>really bad.

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<v Speaker 3>So I have.

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<v Speaker 2>Embryos and I have eggs on eyes and it looks

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<v Speaker 2>like I'm going to have to do IVF if that works.

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<v Speaker 2>So I say that because Ben and I have been trying,

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<v Speaker 2>and I've never really said that out loud, and it's

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<v Speaker 2>hard to say I've been trying when I also in

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<v Speaker 2>the same sentence say I don't know if I want

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<v Speaker 2>it to work, like it's a very because I do

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<v Speaker 2>know I want it to work. And the reason I

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<v Speaker 2>know this is sounding convoluted, so because I know that

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<v Speaker 2>really like one day that I know that I want

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<v Speaker 2>the child, and because I know it's going to be

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<v Speaker 2>so hard, of course, I wanted to do it naturally

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<v Speaker 2>and not go through IVF. I'm thirty eight this year,

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<v Speaker 2>so we're sort of like, look, the chances of it

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<v Speaker 2>happen naturally are so slim that we'll just try our luck.

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<v Speaker 1>And we have not been lucky obviously since yeap.

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<v Speaker 2>So we've been doing this for a very long time,

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<v Speaker 2>like every time we're together, basically, So that being.

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<v Speaker 1>Said, we were just this is just a stranger situation.

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<v Speaker 2>So Ben and I were just going to Dubuy for

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<v Speaker 2>Christmas for the break the holiday season and coming up

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<v Speaker 2>to years. I had obviously like ovulated before and I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, do you know what, I want to have

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<v Speaker 2>a drink on years, I'll do a pregnancy test.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll check before I I'm being very sensible.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So I did a pregnancy test and it came

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<v Speaker 2>back negative.

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<v Speaker 1>Did another one to be sure negative.

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<v Speaker 2>You feel a level of disappointment, but at the moment

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<v Speaker 2>they're always negative, so it's fun.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just like another negative one.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'd put it in the bin in the bathroom,

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<v Speaker 2>like the toilet bin, along with the urine cup.

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<v Speaker 1>When about my day we left.

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<v Speaker 2>The hotel, we went to the beach whatever, and we

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<v Speaker 2>came back and the pregnancy test had been taken out

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<v Speaker 2>of the bin and the urine cup was taking out

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<v Speaker 2>the bin and it was just put like up on

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<v Speaker 2>the console the urine cup as well. Yeah, like the

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<v Speaker 2>whole test was. And I was like, Ben, that's the question.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you take the pregnancy test out of the bin?

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<v Speaker 1>And he was like what? And I was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>is that that's weird. You're trying to keep it for

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<v Speaker 1>like a momentum. He was like, why would I do that?

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<v Speaker 1>And I said, well, I'm sure I.

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<v Speaker 4>Put it in the binch You're like, cause I'm going

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<v Speaker 4>home soon and I just want to have a little

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<v Speaker 4>keepsake of me.

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<v Speaker 2>I get that urine, but I was like, I gas

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<v Speaker 2>liped myself and I was like, yeah, maybe I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>put it in the bear. So I put it back

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<v Speaker 2>in the bin. We went out again, and I came

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<v Speaker 2>back and it was back out of the bin.

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<v Speaker 5>This happened like three times that they were coming into

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<v Speaker 5>the room and taking the pregnancy test and the urine

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<v Speaker 5>cup out of the bin.

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<v Speaker 1>And just putting it on display.

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<v Speaker 5>And I was like, guys, are you doubling down that

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<v Speaker 5>it's negative?

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I don't understand.

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe they were like, this isn't the plastic spin that's

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<v Speaker 4>the recycling bin over there, No, this is not the

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<v Speaker 4>human wastepin.

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<v Speaker 5>Why would you do?

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm genuinely confused. I'm like, what is happening?

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<v Speaker 3>Why is that? Why the cleaner sorting the bin?

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't even know that that was a thing. I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know they went through.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it is a thing, but it is they're

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<v Speaker 3>supposed to do that.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, three times the pregnancy test was laid out. Explain

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<v Speaker 5>that to me.

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<v Speaker 4>Is it a case that you're like, because you're not

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<v Speaker 4>married yet, is it.

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<v Speaker 1>Like you shouldn't be unicating.

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<v Speaker 4>We just having babies at a wedlock and Dubai. I

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<v Speaker 4>don't know, is it like, is it a culture?

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe let's not bring any more attention to it. Go

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<v Speaker 1>on to prison.

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<v Speaker 3>Probably not because you're not in debuying anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>But what if I want to go back.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sure you find a flag on my cot. I'm

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<v Speaker 3>sure they've done nothing. It doesn't say on your passport

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<v Speaker 3>like had sex out of wedlock. I don't think that

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<v Speaker 3>that's gonna be on your passport.

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<v Speaker 4>Did you get to the bottom of it, Did you

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<v Speaker 4>have any resolution to this, or like you just to

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<v Speaker 4>a public being.

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<v Speaker 5>I was like, I had to put it in my bag.

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<v Speaker 2>I had to put it in my handbag and I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, I guess I'll go take it somewhere into

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<v Speaker 2>the street.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, I don't know, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not happened to me before, and I couldn't understand it.

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<v Speaker 4>I watched a really funny TikTok the other day and

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<v Speaker 4>it was like, you know, when you're an adult, it's

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<v Speaker 4>when your friends stopped doing pregnancy test with you and

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<v Speaker 4>they start doing it with their significant partners.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like that's the benchmark.

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<v Speaker 1>That's pretty true.

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<v Speaker 4>Everyone just looked at me like they never did a

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<v Speaker 4>pregnancy test with their friend.

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<v Speaker 2>My friend, how many have you done?

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<v Speaker 5>A few?

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<v Speaker 3>Luckily I just have two kids. Surprising even to me. Wow,

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<v Speaker 3>there you go.