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Speaker 1: Oft, here's our cutting room floor.

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Speaker 2: Have you heard the term glossing.

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Speaker 3: When you're talking about lipstick, glossing, glossy magazines, glossing over facts.

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Speaker 4: Well, glossing over how unhappy you are at work. That's

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Speaker 4: what glossing means, pretending to be fine at work when

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Speaker 4: you actually aren't. It refers to the excessive optimism to

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Speaker 4: dismiss difficulties at work, which we often do. We often say, no,

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Speaker 4: everything's fine, everything's fine, when in fact, by glossing, you

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Speaker 4: could be doing yourself damage.

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Speaker 2: So this is an interesting study. This is a quote.

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Speaker 4: Using this coping mechanism can lead to mistrust, isolation, increased stress,

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Speaker 4: and resentment. So this poll found that sixty seven percent

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Speaker 4: of workers feeled that they work in a toxic environment.

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Speaker 4: Seventy eight percent of workers don't think their employer is

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Speaker 4: doing enough to address their mental wellness at work, but

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Speaker 4: they don't want to reference it.

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Speaker 2: They don't want to talk about it.

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Speaker 4: Most people will say I'm fine and not want you

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Speaker 4: to stir the pot because it takes a certain person

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Speaker 4: to call out your office culture for systematic change.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well it doesn't work well for whistle blowers, does it.

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Speaker 2: No, it doesn't.

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Speaker 4: And maybe that's exactly what part of this is that

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Speaker 4: people are saying.

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Speaker 2: Just stay positive. It could be worse. Everything's all right.

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Speaker 4: But this avoidance means that your mental health doesn't shift. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: and it means no one's aware that you're struggling. It

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Speaker 4: also means that things that might need to be changed

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Speaker 4: within your office just aren't. Yeah, so they're saying, look

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Speaker 4: out for that. Look out. These are some of the

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Speaker 4: phrases that people This is how you might recognize that

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Speaker 4: someone's glossing. They say to tone down the positive language,

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Speaker 4: like look out for the over positive language in somebody.

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Speaker 2: Well I'm at everything's fine, everything's fine. They go and

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Speaker 2: cry in their car.

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Speaker 5: I'm very positive here.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but if you would also you all out what

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Speaker 4: you see I do, and make sure you speak up

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Speaker 4: on a one on one basis. Don't just hide your dissatisfaction,

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Speaker 4: don't dismiss feedback, get rid of the people pleasing. Oh,

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Speaker 4: that's a big problem I have is people pleasing. So

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Speaker 4: when when normal people I don't care whether I please you.

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Speaker 3: I haven't been pleased by you for some time. When's

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Speaker 3: this happening? When when am I going to see these

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Speaker 3: people pleasing.

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Speaker 4: Remember we've had these other workplace kind of phrases, so

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Speaker 4: glossing is this interesting one.

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Speaker 2: Do you remember the quiet quitting that phrase came about.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that was during that was after COVID. People are

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Speaker 3: just not show up to work.

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Speaker 2: They shar up to work, but not do anything.

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Speaker 3: They do the mo and I mean not.

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Speaker 5: Shar up to work. They'd sharp to work, but they

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Speaker 5: just wouldn't do it.

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Speaker 2: That's right. They'd mentally not show up. They wouldn't bring

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Speaker 2: their best self.

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Speaker 4: The practice of doing no more work than one is

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Speaker 4: contractually obliged to. Now we have quick quit talk.

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Speaker 2: If you heard of quick took, what's quit talk?

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Speaker 4: This is live people people live quitting their jobs.

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Speaker 3: On the ABC, they said to be doing that a

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Speaker 3: lot lately.

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Speaker 2: Well that's the thing.

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Speaker 3: In a fully someone could see it in.

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Speaker 2: ABC has a lot of support.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I know that you're greeding the will for the ABC,

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Speaker 3: but I feel that I can't go back.

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Speaker 5: I can't get the job there.

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Speaker 2: You know. Oh, people, please somewhere else.

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Speaker 5: Because I'm too good to work at the ABC.

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Speaker 2: That's the Come on, Brendan, I'm about to do a

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Speaker 2: whole lot of stuff.

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Speaker 3: I'm your great on the ABC whittok is.

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Speaker 4: Live quitting your job in a bid to bring greater

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Speaker 4: transparency to the goings on in the workplace. And have

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Speaker 4: you heard of proximity bias? No, she's nice proximity as

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Speaker 4: people return to the office, restrictions were lifted, et cetera.

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Speaker 4: But they're the negative impact of proximity bias on those

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Speaker 4: who continue to work from home.

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Speaker 2: So how we feel I'm reading into that.

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Speaker 4: I think it's how you feel about those that aren't

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Speaker 4: back at the office and are working from home.

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Speaker 5: How do you feel.

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Speaker 4: There was a story this morning about a couple of

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Speaker 4: girls on the beach at bond and saying, well, if

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Speaker 4: I'm getting the work done, who cares where I am?

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Speaker 2: That would drive me crazy?

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Speaker 3: Can take, isn't it? Because when someone says, you go,

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Speaker 3: where's old mate today? And they say, oh, he's working

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Speaker 3: from home. You go here, right, that gay in between

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Speaker 3: mowing his lawns.

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Speaker 4: And doing everything, all the stuff that the rest of

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Speaker 4: us have to do on the weekend. Yeah, well, if

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Speaker 4: the work gets done.

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Speaker 5: But if the work gets done, doesn't.

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Speaker 4: Matter if you're sitting on a beach or sitting in

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Speaker 4: a cafe all day and patting your dog all day?

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Speaker 2: Does it matter? How can it not? Though? Roll up

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Speaker 2: people that don't get a chance to do that. How

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Speaker 2: can it not? We're human being.

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Speaker 3: I remember when I worked down the Snow many years ago.

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Speaker 3: I was the DJ down.

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Speaker 2: At the Snow were you BJ the DJ.

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Speaker 5: No and part of that roll.

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Speaker 3: Everyone got very jealous because at the time it was

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Speaker 3: nineteen eighty seven. I would get three hundred dollars a

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Speaker 3: week in the hand and also my food and board

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Speaker 3: was covered.

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Speaker 2: With Wow, that's amazing.

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Speaker 5: And all I had to do.

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Speaker 3: Was just be in the nightclub from six to I

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Speaker 3: think three in the morning, which it was a long day,

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Speaker 3: but I have to do a little kid's disco as well.

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Speaker 3: But the other people, other executives, because I w also

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Speaker 3: what they call a blue coat, we all got to

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Speaker 3: wear these blue coats. Because I was the head of

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Speaker 3: my department. I was the only DJ there.

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Speaker 2: You're also the lowest of your department.

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Speaker 3: And so all the other people, like the matre d

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Speaker 3: got the ships, and so did the head chef because

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Speaker 3: of what Because I was the head of my I

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Speaker 3: was part of this this big blue coat team. And

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Speaker 3: they didn't like it at all. So they went to

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Speaker 3: the boss, who quite liked me, because what's not to like?

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Speaker 3: I unlike you people pleased to everyone. He said, I

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Speaker 3: leave the kiddle lad and said he's got to be

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Speaker 3: doing other works because they just see me parting on

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Speaker 3: all night with dancing girls and then go skiing all

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Speaker 3: day and just repeat, paid.

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Speaker 5: A lot of money to do it. So they made me.

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Speaker 3: They said, well, okay, he's got to he's got a vacuum,

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Speaker 3: you know, the nightclub.

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Speaker 5: And so that was the thing and I went. At first,

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Speaker 5: I was out.

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Speaker 2: It's like Lord of the Fly.

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Speaker 3: I got so good at vacuuming, and I got this

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Speaker 3: good wet and dry vacuum, so it was just and

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Speaker 3: then i'd get the kids from the kids disco vacum

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Speaker 3: the floor because.

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Speaker 5: The wet and drive vacuum was amazing. It just suck

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Speaker 5: up any one day.

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Speaker 3: So the kids are there, I put a record on

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Speaker 3: the thing and they just run around like nuts. And

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Speaker 3: then one of those kids saw me vacuuming the bar

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Speaker 3: area and could iver go.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it was like Tom Sawy's fence.

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Speaker 3: All these kids were having to go with the vacuum.

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Speaker 5: So I just sat there back and.

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Speaker 2: Watched the kids doing the loving yourself.

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Speaker 5: I remember the Matrox.

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Speaker 3: He just came down and he looked in and he

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Speaker 3: just went muttered something out of his breath under his breath,

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Speaker 3: and just walked down.

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Speaker 2: Good time.

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Speaker 5: That's what happens when you're a people pleaser. You should

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Speaker 5: take a leaf.

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Speaker 1: For the day tomorrow.

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Speaker 5: More cuddl