WEBVTT - What's all the fuss about Only Fans 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:21.560 Oh will you try that on silent Hi, guys, and 0:00:21.680 --> 0:00:25.000 welcome back to another episode of Life Unput. I'm Britt 0:00:25.120 --> 0:00:28.600 and I'm Laura, and we are so pumped to be here. 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:31.200 We have a killer episode for you this week. 0:00:31.320 --> 0:00:34.240 This week we're going to be talking about Only Fans. 0:00:34.560 --> 0:00:35.760 I don't know if you guys have heard of it 0:00:35.880 --> 0:00:38.360 or not. Some of you may have. It's actually not 0:00:38.400 --> 0:00:42.320 that new, but it's very popular now, subscription based website 0:00:42.479 --> 0:00:45.280 that has been getting a lot of conversation in the media, 0:00:45.440 --> 0:00:46.680 so we thought we would touch on this. 0:00:46.760 --> 0:00:50.120 I actually kept calling it fans only, fans for fans only. 0:00:50.159 --> 0:00:54.279 That's what I thought. It was great. Britty's really well researched. Oh. 0:00:54.320 --> 0:00:56.200 I googled it to try and get information. I was 0:00:56.240 --> 0:00:58.640 googling fans. I couldn't remember it. I kept going fans only, 0:00:58.680 --> 0:01:01.040 and they're like, no, only fans. But before we get 0:01:01.040 --> 0:01:04.360 into that, let's do the usual roundup. What's been happening? 0:01:04.959 --> 0:01:08.240 Oh God? I think I start mine with oh God? 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:12.360 Every week, every single week, you do, Oh God, Honestly, 0:01:12.440 --> 0:01:13.679 now you mention it, you really do. 0:01:13.959 --> 0:01:16.479 This week, though, Matt has decided to take it upon 0:01:16.560 --> 0:01:19.440 himself to do a little DIY project. This is the 0:01:19.440 --> 0:01:24.200 project that I have been trying to positively massage into 0:01:24.280 --> 0:01:27.080 him since COVID started, since the whole lockdown started. I 0:01:27.120 --> 0:01:30.920 was like, hey, babe, shame his mustache. Oh my god, 0:01:30.920 --> 0:01:33.800 that is set in. That is luscious, thick, and I 0:01:33.800 --> 0:01:36.880 don't think it's going anywhere fast. I was like, can 0:01:36.920 --> 0:01:41.040 you just maybe fix up our outdoor area, Like, let's 0:01:41.040 --> 0:01:44.040 get some pots, let's buy a cute outdoor setting, let's 0:01:44.040 --> 0:01:46.360 make it all delicious, and we can sit out there 0:01:46.360 --> 0:01:48.440 and we can enjoy it. So this week he's decided 0:01:48.480 --> 0:01:49.480 that he's actually. 0:01:49.120 --> 0:01:49.600 Going to do it. 0:01:50.040 --> 0:01:52.680 This week it started to rain. This week, winter set in. 0:01:52.920 --> 0:01:55.080 We don't need an outdoor setting anymore. 0:01:54.680 --> 0:01:57.360 But we're getting one. And then it's curious timing. I 0:01:57.440 --> 0:01:59.880 must admit to go all out on your outdoor area. 0:02:00.080 --> 0:02:01.840 Not only did we not have an outdoor area, it 0:02:01.920 --> 0:02:04.480 was like just you've seen it, brit It was just 0:02:04.520 --> 0:02:05.440 like a total jung dog. 0:02:05.640 --> 0:02:07.400 It was a jungle. I thought you were about to say 0:02:07.400 --> 0:02:09.120 it was a junkyard and I was gonna say, yes, 0:02:09.440 --> 0:02:11.320 yes it was. I was like I had to swing 0:02:11.400 --> 0:02:14.200 through vines to get into the house. It was an obstacle. 0:02:14.280 --> 0:02:17.200 Course anyway, So then Matt decided to take a whipper 0:02:17.240 --> 0:02:20.359 snipper to it yesterday, and now it kind of just 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:23.079 looks like it's been trodden through by about seventeen cows. 0:02:23.120 --> 0:02:26.919 I must admit, when I came over tonight, I felt 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:27.840 like it was very naked. 0:02:27.919 --> 0:02:29.960 I think he stripped it back a little bit too far. 0:02:30.600 --> 0:02:33.400 When you've cut the grass down to pure dirt and 0:02:33.480 --> 0:02:35.720 actually ripped it straight out of the ground, I think 0:02:35.840 --> 0:02:37.440 you may have got a little bit o tt but 0:02:37.600 --> 0:02:39.720 you wanted not. My favorite part of the backyard Rhino 0:02:39.919 --> 0:02:42.640 is tell me my favorite part is that it's probably 0:02:42.680 --> 0:02:45.239 been like ten days now since you got your outdoor setting, 0:02:45.600 --> 0:02:49.799 it's still sucking plastic all over it. Like the mom, 0:02:50.000 --> 0:02:51.840 the mom from the Nanny, You know how she has 0:02:51.880 --> 0:02:54.400 that plastic coated lounge so that she has sex on 0:02:54.400 --> 0:02:55.720 it and she just like wipe it off. 0:02:56.160 --> 0:02:58.280 I can guarantee ours has nothing to do with sex 0:02:58.320 --> 0:03:01.480 and has a lot to do with weather protection. You're welcome, 0:03:02.080 --> 0:03:04.080 may show you knock before you come around next week. 0:03:04.160 --> 0:03:06.200 I never knock anyway. No, it looks great. 0:03:06.280 --> 0:03:08.000 Let's let's give him a pad on the back. He 0:03:08.080 --> 0:03:11.960 needs positive reinforcement. I did today say, don't put a 0:03:11.960 --> 0:03:14.200 photo of it up on Instagram yet, because I don't 0:03:14.280 --> 0:03:15.560 actually think it looks any good. 0:03:15.840 --> 0:03:19.120 And he did it anyway, and a whole lot of 0:03:19.120 --> 0:03:21.639 people message to say it looked better before. 0:03:22.080 --> 0:03:26.480 Oh really they didn't. Yeah, I know the ego. He'll 0:03:26.520 --> 0:03:27.680 be okay, he'll be okay. 0:03:28.120 --> 0:03:30.360 Well, that's an exciting week. I have done nothing of 0:03:30.400 --> 0:03:32.760 the sort. I came here with a question. All right, 0:03:33.200 --> 0:03:35.680 somebody wrote in, well, not a question. I want to 0:03:35.720 --> 0:03:37.360 propose a small discussion. 0:03:37.560 --> 0:03:39.320 Are you going rogue on this podcast? Are you trying 0:03:39.320 --> 0:03:40.880 to do? Ask guncut right now? 0:03:40.960 --> 0:03:43.480 Look? Okay? Somebody wrote in a question, and it really 0:03:43.520 --> 0:03:46.920 just provoked this train of thought, and I wanted your 0:03:46.920 --> 0:03:49.200 opinion on it because I just didn't really know and 0:03:49.240 --> 0:03:51.400 it's something that has happened to me and it was 0:03:51.520 --> 0:03:53.680 a really funny situation. And I don't I don't know 0:03:53.880 --> 0:03:55.600 what the answer is. So I want to ask you 0:03:55.720 --> 0:03:58.640 what is the etiquette for just say you hooked up 0:03:58.640 --> 0:04:00.840 with someone the night before in a one night stand. 0:04:00.880 --> 0:04:03.360 It's early days, It's like within a week, it's very new. 0:04:03.520 --> 0:04:06.520 First second or third time you've seen that person, you've 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:08.920 hooked up the night before, then you run into them 0:04:09.080 --> 0:04:12.120 on the street by chance. So what is the etiquette 0:04:12.160 --> 0:04:15.600 for You've obviously been with this person very very recently, 0:04:15.600 --> 0:04:17.719 and you've been intimate with them, You've had sex with them, 0:04:17.800 --> 0:04:19.719 you might have just hooked up with them, whatever. What 0:04:19.760 --> 0:04:22.000 you're saying, it's like you've had their dick inside. Do 0:04:22.040 --> 0:04:27.760 you say hello? But not? Okay, let me rephrase. You 0:04:27.880 --> 0:04:29.560 might not have actually had sex with them, but you 0:04:29.600 --> 0:04:31.440 were obviously like whether it was just a date and 0:04:31.480 --> 0:04:33.760 you were making out, whatever the level, Maybe you had sex, 0:04:33.880 --> 0:04:37.680 maybe you got to second base. The fact is you're 0:04:37.720 --> 0:04:41.400 with them physically the night before, the next day you 0:04:41.480 --> 0:04:44.800 run into them in public. What's the etiquette? How do 0:04:44.839 --> 0:04:47.000 you greet each other? How do you speak to each other? How? 0:04:47.520 --> 0:04:50.520 There are so many questions in this How did you 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:51.520 leave the night before? 0:04:51.560 --> 0:04:53.560 Did you like do a ghost and run? Because if 0:04:53.560 --> 0:04:54.200 you did a ghost and. 0:04:54.200 --> 0:04:55.600 Run, then you just got to put your head down 0:04:55.640 --> 0:04:59.080 and wore real quick out of that situation. But if you, like, 0:04:59.400 --> 0:05:01.359 you know, got up the next morning, had a kiss 0:05:01.400 --> 0:05:03.680 and then kind of went your separate ways and then 0:05:03.839 --> 0:05:06.520 just totally by accident, ran into each other, it's normal. 0:05:06.560 --> 0:05:09.480 You're just like, hey, funny seeing you here. Yeah, so 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:11.960 you don't go and kiss them and make out and stuff. No, 0:05:12.320 --> 0:05:13.640 that's very presumptuous. 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:15.600 That's very I don't think you can take it from 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:18.920 a one night stand onto a PDA. Would you kiss 0:05:18.960 --> 0:05:23.120 them on the lips? Absolutely not really No, that's like 0:05:23.160 --> 0:05:23.919 boyfriend level. 0:05:24.160 --> 0:05:26.240 It just got me thinking this actually happened to me 0:05:26.360 --> 0:05:30.160 in BONDI obviously it wasn't recently, guys, but I had 0:05:30.200 --> 0:05:33.560 been seeing this guy for only a week probably, Like 0:05:34.240 --> 0:05:36.080 I think I told you about it, Like I remember. 0:05:36.800 --> 0:05:38.440 It's just like, okay, do you like her? I said, 0:05:38.440 --> 0:05:39.640 I think I told you about it, But I'm like, 0:05:39.680 --> 0:05:42.400 we spoke about it all the time, but I think 0:05:42.480 --> 0:05:46.080 I remember you mentioning this seventeen hundred times. I think 0:05:46.160 --> 0:05:50.960 I remember now. My point is the first time I 0:05:51.000 --> 0:05:54.120 had spent the night there, it was very very early days. 0:05:54.160 --> 0:05:55.800 And then I just ran into him on the street 0:05:55.880 --> 0:06:00.240 the next day and I was like, oh hi, it was. 0:06:00.279 --> 0:06:04.080 I was with my sister. There were packed bond eye 0:06:04.880 --> 0:06:07.280 and I went just to like give him a kiss 0:06:07.279 --> 0:06:09.279 on the cheek and a cuddle because I thought, like, 0:06:09.320 --> 0:06:10.840 I mean like a hug, you know, like hey, like, 0:06:11.000 --> 0:06:12.839 how are you like, obviously I saw you last night 0:06:13.320 --> 0:06:14.919 and he just went straating for the kids on the 0:06:14.960 --> 0:06:17.200 lips in front of my sister, in front of everyone, 0:06:17.279 --> 0:06:19.760 like it was a very public event, and I Sherry 0:06:19.839 --> 0:06:21.200 was like, it's the best thing I've ever seen. You 0:06:21.200 --> 0:06:25.000 were so awkward because I was like whoa, Like, what's happening? 0:06:25.440 --> 0:06:27.359 And then I running to him three times on the promenade. 0:06:27.400 --> 0:06:29.880 He did it every time. It's a very ballsy move 0:06:29.920 --> 0:06:31.600 from a guy. I walked away and I was like, 0:06:31.760 --> 0:06:33.560 do I have an instant boyfriend? I don't know. 0:06:33.960 --> 0:06:36.640 Well, okay, because I know the ending to this story. 0:06:36.720 --> 0:06:38.360 That's why I feel like I can jump in on 0:06:38.440 --> 0:06:40.640 this that I don't have an instant plain you didn't 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:42.960 have an in and he certainly wasn't a pack and 0:06:43.040 --> 0:06:46.280 Meg's boyfriend, that's for sure. He And the reason why 0:06:46.320 --> 0:06:48.839 I have an issue with this is because for him 0:06:48.880 --> 0:06:52.359 to kiss you publicly really sets like a very I 0:06:52.360 --> 0:06:54.400 think it makes a real statement. It's like I want 0:06:54.440 --> 0:06:56.640 to date you, I want to be your boyfriend. I 0:06:56.680 --> 0:06:59.680 think it's like a very public display of ownership of 0:06:59.680 --> 0:07:00.560 that really relationship. 0:07:00.760 --> 0:07:02.599 And then the fact that just a couple of days 0:07:02.640 --> 0:07:03.280 later he was like. 0:07:03.279 --> 0:07:06.360 Oh, actually I'm not really into this, Like don't kiss 0:07:06.360 --> 0:07:08.320 me in public. Then if you're not into it, just 0:07:08.360 --> 0:07:09.880 say hi and go on with your day. 0:07:10.000 --> 0:07:12.560 Be normal. You don't have to publicly claim me in 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:15.400 front of my friends. Yeah, which I felt that's exactly 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:17.520 what it was, and so I thought I was interesting. 0:07:17.560 --> 0:07:18.960 I was like, is this a normal thing? Because I've 0:07:19.000 --> 0:07:21.200 never run into somebody. I had never had that situation. 0:07:22.080 --> 0:07:24.040 But guys, for the people that rode in, for the 0:07:24.040 --> 0:07:26.600 girl that wrote in, I don't think that it's normal. 0:07:26.680 --> 0:07:29.400 And for the people wondering what the etiquette is for 0:07:29.480 --> 0:07:31.960 that next day, I reckon you're better off to high 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:35.400 five of them than to go in and like make 0:07:35.480 --> 0:07:36.960 out with them on the stream in front of everyone. 0:07:37.360 --> 0:07:39.920 Like your farm. Found that to be an interesting question 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:42.600 that I wasn't the only one that was perplexed by this. 0:07:43.120 --> 0:07:45.960 Other people, other listeners have been in this situation. Do 0:07:45.960 --> 0:07:46.880 you know what I was thinking? 0:07:46.920 --> 0:07:48.880 This is totally off topic, but this is just like 0:07:49.000 --> 0:07:50.640 kind of wear my head's out of the moment, which 0:07:50.680 --> 0:07:55.200 is scatty constantly. So I know that we've been talking 0:07:55.240 --> 0:07:57.520 so much about like being in isolation and how much 0:07:57.560 --> 0:07:59.559 we kind of want things to go back to normal 0:07:59.600 --> 0:08:01.760 and so that we can have stuff to do and 0:08:01.840 --> 0:08:05.480 actually have more stimulation and you know what, guys will 0:08:05.480 --> 0:08:07.600 be bringing you some really wild content when we can 0:08:07.680 --> 0:08:10.480 leave the house. But now that it's coming closer to 0:08:10.560 --> 0:08:12.880 that really being a possibility, and the fact that like 0:08:12.920 --> 0:08:16.160 this weekend, everyone was out, everyone was doing stuff and 0:08:16.360 --> 0:08:19.480 like you could go to restaurants and there's it's lifted, 0:08:19.560 --> 0:08:21.640 like we're out of it now, there's a little part 0:08:21.680 --> 0:08:24.000 of me that's like, oh, I'm not ready yet. 0:08:24.080 --> 0:08:26.640 Oh I'm not ready. I'm not ready. Oh no, I 0:08:26.640 --> 0:08:28.320 don't want it to ever end. I don't want to 0:08:28.320 --> 0:08:29.600 have to go to work and not be able to 0:08:29.600 --> 0:08:31.880 just fart whenever I want to, Like I'm not ready. 0:08:32.120 --> 0:08:34.320 I love that that is what you're basing your whole 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:35.600 isolation experience on. 0:08:35.920 --> 0:08:37.720 Well, I went to work today and I was like, 0:08:38.040 --> 0:08:41.160 I need to be really conscious of my bodily functions. 0:08:41.200 --> 0:08:42.600 I've not had to do that in a long time. 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:44.839 I'm just not ready for ISO to finish, just because 0:08:44.840 --> 0:08:47.280 I know how crazy my life will be. I know 0:08:47.360 --> 0:08:49.320 it's going to go back to what it was tenfold, 0:08:49.600 --> 0:08:52.040 and that was with me hanging on by a thread. 0:08:52.920 --> 0:08:55.920 But I am excited for people to go back to normal. 0:08:55.960 --> 0:08:58.400 In terms of businesses, I've seen some businesses around Bondi 0:08:58.480 --> 0:09:00.920 Clothes and it's really really sad. So I do hope 0:09:00.920 --> 0:09:03.800 the economy can start to get back on track and 0:09:03.840 --> 0:09:06.440 a lot of the small businesses that everybody knows someone 0:09:06.480 --> 0:09:09.240 in small business, so I'm really really hoping that they 0:09:09.280 --> 0:09:11.360 can be on the ment. But don't you think that 0:09:11.400 --> 0:09:14.520 there's also been some businesses that have completely and I 0:09:14.559 --> 0:09:16.000 know this is such a buzzword at the moment, but 0:09:16.040 --> 0:09:20.239 they've completely pivoted and they have reinvented themselves and reinvented 0:09:20.280 --> 0:09:22.840 their offering. And I think that with in. 0:09:22.760 --> 0:09:27.280 Times of crisis, it really sometimes highlights true entrepreneurship and 0:09:27.320 --> 0:09:32.439 really highlights people who have tenacity and business savviness also not. 0:09:32.400 --> 0:09:33.600 A word, but I'm going to go with it. 0:09:33.720 --> 0:09:36.760 I think it is, well, there you go business savviness 0:09:36.800 --> 0:09:40.559 and are able to be like adaptable and kind of 0:09:40.600 --> 0:09:44.440 reinvent themselves and become chameleons in crisis. I think it's 0:09:44.480 --> 0:09:47.720 been a really interesting time to watch what some businesses 0:09:47.760 --> 0:09:50.120 have done. I mean going back to like, you know, 0:09:50.200 --> 0:09:52.720 this feeling of like not wanting this whole isolation to 0:09:52.760 --> 0:09:54.160 be over yet, Like I know that it's a really 0:09:54.320 --> 0:09:56.120 unfair thing to say, and of course they do want 0:09:56.120 --> 0:09:58.200 the world to go back to normal as quickly as possible. 0:09:58.480 --> 0:10:01.360 But I just remember having this anxiety when it all 0:10:01.480 --> 0:10:03.960 started and being like, oh, I don't know how we're 0:10:03.960 --> 0:10:06.120 going to adapt to staying at home all the time. 0:10:06.360 --> 0:10:08.200 And now that it's lifting, I'm like, it's like a 0:10:08.240 --> 0:10:11.360 reverse anxiety. Yeah, I feel the anxiety that like I 0:10:11.360 --> 0:10:13.000 don't want things to go back to normal yet, Like 0:10:13.000 --> 0:10:14.600 I'm just not ready for this shift. 0:10:14.679 --> 0:10:17.560 Because we as humans, we adapt to our situation, and 0:10:17.800 --> 0:10:19.959 I think people don't realize how quickly you get comfortable 0:10:20.000 --> 0:10:22.959 with the situation and something becomes your new normal. I 0:10:22.960 --> 0:10:25.240 guess it's like becoming a mum. The first little while, 0:10:25.280 --> 0:10:26.840 I was like this is crazy, I can't do it. 0:10:26.840 --> 0:10:28.560 Then all of a sudden, you don't remember what you 0:10:28.640 --> 0:10:31.160 did before that, and you're still like, this is crazy. 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:33.600 I don't know what I'm doing constantly, And I woke 0:10:33.679 --> 0:10:35.600 up this morning and I was like, I am never 0:10:35.679 --> 0:10:36.840 not going to be tired again. 0:10:37.080 --> 0:10:38.080 That's what beer Farm is. 0:10:38.120 --> 0:10:40.240 No Ever, I'm going to be tired for the rest 0:10:40.240 --> 0:10:42.559 of from the day Molly was born and to the 0:10:42.640 --> 0:10:43.000 day I. 0:10:43.040 --> 0:10:46.120 Die, this is my life. Now. Did you just only 0:10:46.160 --> 0:10:47.680 realize that now? Yeah? 0:10:47.800 --> 0:10:49.560 I woke up with a sore back and I was like, 0:10:49.679 --> 0:10:51.680 I'm never going to wake up from asleep and feel 0:10:51.720 --> 0:10:52.760 refreshed ever again. 0:10:52.880 --> 0:10:56.400 But it's crazy that we have become accustomed to this 0:10:56.520 --> 0:10:59.320 new way of life. And I hope if there's one 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:02.240 thing we all take for this, it's to start washing 0:11:02.240 --> 0:11:05.200 your hands more and just be I think I can't 0:11:05.240 --> 0:11:08.120 believe how many people is so unhygienic. So hopefully this 0:11:08.200 --> 0:11:11.760 is like a learned trait now and subconsciously people are 0:11:11.760 --> 0:11:13.760 thinking about their hygiene words. I don't think it crossed 0:11:13.760 --> 0:11:14.920 a lot of people's minds before. 0:11:15.200 --> 0:11:17.520 I am only laughing because from all the deep things 0:11:17.520 --> 0:11:19.600 that you could possibly say, I just didn't think it 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:21.400 was going to be like and wash your hands. 0:11:21.480 --> 0:11:23.360 It's true. Do you know that I've read? 0:11:23.480 --> 0:11:25.240 I can't remember where, so I'm just gonna throw some 0:11:25.240 --> 0:11:30.760 starts at totally unsubstantiated. But men are far more inclined 0:11:30.760 --> 0:11:32.720 to not wash their hands than women because they go 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:36.480 to the toilet hold their penis. Do we bust on 0:11:36.520 --> 0:11:38.920 out of there? Do you know the dirtiest part of 0:11:39.000 --> 0:11:41.400 a bathroom is a man's penis. 0:11:41.400 --> 0:11:45.760 Is the man's genital No, the dirty is part of 0:11:45.760 --> 0:11:49.440 a bathroom is actually the door handle. Yeah, that's gross, 0:11:49.440 --> 0:11:51.840 isn't it. People like touch toilet see. I mean obviously 0:11:51.840 --> 0:11:54.360 it's all gross, but the door handle. Because everyone's touched 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:56.400 everything in white butt, I don't think about it, but 0:11:56.440 --> 0:11:58.240 then they put their hand on the door. 0:11:58.360 --> 0:12:00.560 So when I was doing some research for today's episode, 0:12:00.600 --> 0:12:04.079 I came across a quote that was on Twitter. Also 0:12:04.120 --> 0:12:06.640 can't substantiate where this quote came from because I put 0:12:06.640 --> 0:12:08.120 it in my notes because I was like, Dan, that 0:12:08.280 --> 0:12:10.679 is good, but also didn't write down who I got 0:12:10.720 --> 0:12:13.240 it from. So I'm just gonna plagiarize someone right now. 0:12:13.480 --> 0:12:15.400 Know that this came from Twitter, It's not from me. 0:12:15.720 --> 0:12:17.960 But this is a quote has nothing to do with 0:12:17.960 --> 0:12:21.760 today's episode, but I was like, I love this, and 0:12:21.800 --> 0:12:25.280 in one you're reliving your breakup days all over again. 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:26.239 In like three. 0:12:26.000 --> 0:12:29.080 Sentences, this person has just totally summarized everything that I 0:12:29.080 --> 0:12:31.200 think we try and communicate on this podcast, and that 0:12:31.400 --> 0:12:33.959 is if you constantly have problems with your boyfriend or 0:12:34.000 --> 0:12:36.360 your girlfriend. I hope you know that that shit is 0:12:36.400 --> 0:12:39.520 not normal. I feel like people always try to romanticize 0:12:39.559 --> 0:12:42.920 toxicity and can confuse it for passion. It's not and 0:12:42.920 --> 0:12:45.240 that's a miserable way for someone to love you. 0:12:45.280 --> 0:12:46.839 Wow, mic Drop. 0:12:46.800 --> 0:12:49.360 That just resonated with every single bone in my body, 0:12:49.360 --> 0:12:52.160 and I was like, if you are in a toxic relationship, 0:12:52.240 --> 0:12:55.439 or you're in a relationship where you're constantly doing the 0:12:55.520 --> 0:12:58.320 up down, up down, updown dance and not the sexy 0:12:58.400 --> 0:13:00.239 updown dance, just the miser. 0:13:00.960 --> 0:13:02.959 I think a lot of people confuse when you and 0:13:03.040 --> 0:13:06.719 I often say on this podcast that relationships shouldn't be 0:13:06.800 --> 0:13:09.160 hard and you shouldn't have to work that hard for them, 0:13:09.200 --> 0:13:11.640 and they shouldn't be that toxic. Don't get us wrong. 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:14.280 Relationships can be hard work, and you do have to 0:13:14.320 --> 0:13:16.040 fight for them, and you do have to reassess them 0:13:16.040 --> 0:13:18.720 every few years. We're not saying that it should be 0:13:18.720 --> 0:13:20.839 walking the park for the rest of your life. What 0:13:20.880 --> 0:13:24.040 we're saying is at a grander level, it's saying that 0:13:24.880 --> 0:13:27.520 if you every single day, every second day, are in 0:13:27.600 --> 0:13:31.160 tears and crying and you're anxious and there's abuse, and 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:35.960 whether that's emotional, mentally, physically, that's when we're saying it 0:13:35.960 --> 0:13:38.760 shouldn't be that hard, not that you need to sit 0:13:38.840 --> 0:13:41.160 down and have a chat three times a year and 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:44.160 really fight for your relationship. We're not saying that because 0:13:44.200 --> 0:13:46.360 I think a lot of people are confusing what we 0:13:46.400 --> 0:13:47.800 mean when we say you have to work for it. 0:13:47.920 --> 0:13:51.160 Oh yeah, I mean every relationship has their ups and downs, 0:13:51.200 --> 0:13:54.320 but you shouldn't have to get up every single day 0:13:54.360 --> 0:13:57.040 of that relationship and feel like it's hard work. That's 0:13:57.080 --> 0:13:59.160 not a joy, That's not what relationships are about. And 0:13:59.240 --> 0:14:03.360 so from the beginning, yeah, fuck no. And so when 0:14:03.360 --> 0:14:05.679 I read this, I was like, this just so perfectly 0:14:05.800 --> 0:14:08.240 encapsulates a couple of the episodes that we've talked about 0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:11.400 where we've talked about toxic relationships, and I just really 0:14:11.520 --> 0:14:13.680 really loved it. So I wanted to put it here 0:14:14.080 --> 0:14:16.640 into this episode. I'm going to put it on the Instagram, 0:14:16.679 --> 0:14:19.800 so you guys on your instagrams. I'm going to post 0:14:19.840 --> 0:14:22.200 it on the Instagram. So if you ever at a 0:14:22.200 --> 0:14:24.320 point in your life where you're like, you know, this 0:14:24.400 --> 0:14:27.240 guy makes me cry all the time, read this and 0:14:27.320 --> 0:14:29.480 know that this is not what you should be putting 0:14:29.520 --> 0:14:31.440 up with, and you are worth so much more than that. 0:14:31.600 --> 0:14:34.040 Yeah, a lot thanks for bringing that. You're still Kim, 0:14:34.080 --> 0:14:37.320 You're welcome. All right, Power to the people, all right, 0:14:40.240 --> 0:14:44.440 Celesti Barber her actually updown on Celes Barber. That case 0:14:44.560 --> 0:14:46.640 will be decided this week on where her money is 0:14:46.680 --> 0:14:48.520 finally going to go. The fifty one million is in 0:14:48.600 --> 0:14:51.000 court and it will be decided over the next few days. 0:14:51.480 --> 0:14:54.040 That is actually a little bit miserable that it's taken 0:14:54.200 --> 0:14:57.680 so long. Disgraceful that much money that was meant to 0:14:57.720 --> 0:15:00.600 be a relief in the bushfires has been tied up 0:15:00.640 --> 0:15:01.520 for so long. 0:15:01.680 --> 0:15:04.240 Yeah, that makes me angry. It makes me angry that 0:15:04.280 --> 0:15:07.160 they're literally saying things like we're just like, this is 0:15:07.160 --> 0:15:09.680 what it is. We're just trying to decide whether one 0:15:09.880 --> 0:15:12.600 little newstalth Wales company can get all the money or 0:15:12.640 --> 0:15:15.280 whether we could possibly find a way to give it 0:15:15.320 --> 0:15:19.440 to families of our heroes that lost their lives fighting 0:15:19.560 --> 0:15:23.840 animal shelters, that are trying to rehabilitate our wildlife workers, 0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:27.920 people that have sacrificed everything, people that need help rehabilitating 0:15:27.960 --> 0:15:30.840 their homes, their lands, their cattle, things like that. Oh, 0:15:30.880 --> 0:15:33.040 I can't even talk about it. My infuriates. 0:15:33.080 --> 0:15:35.560 I understand that there are policies and legislations on go 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:40.320 fundme pages that you know, keep people responsible and accountable 0:15:40.360 --> 0:15:42.040 for where and how they spend the money that we're 0:15:42.040 --> 0:15:44.920 donating to. So that is really important. But I think 0:15:45.000 --> 0:15:48.800 the part of this that's quite worrisome is that Celeste 0:15:48.800 --> 0:15:51.400 Barber was so vocal on social media the whole time 0:15:51.560 --> 0:15:54.360 that don't worry, keep donating, I'm going to make sure 0:15:54.400 --> 0:15:57.520 this money goes to these different charities, and ursions were 0:15:57.520 --> 0:15:59.840 always there. Yeah, her intentions were so good, but she 0:16:00.240 --> 0:16:03.520 was encouraging people to continue to donate. Had people known 0:16:03.560 --> 0:16:05.760 that that money was only going to then be disseminated 0:16:05.800 --> 0:16:09.080 to one charity, people would have stopped donating. So absolutely, 0:16:09.240 --> 0:16:11.800 so I think that, well, legislation can be broken. Yeah, 0:16:11.800 --> 0:16:13.800 I think that even though the legislation is there, the 0:16:13.880 --> 0:16:16.840 fact that she used her social media very publicly to 0:16:17.440 --> 0:16:21.000 x amount of million followers that she has and verbalize 0:16:21.040 --> 0:16:23.560 that that legislation would be broken. I think that then 0:16:23.600 --> 0:16:26.600 that outweighs in this. In this case. Absolutely, I think 0:16:26.640 --> 0:16:28.480 would be insane for them to give that money to 0:16:28.560 --> 0:16:29.160 one charity. 0:16:29.640 --> 0:16:32.760 It will be complete uproar if the judge comes back 0:16:32.800 --> 0:16:35.800 and says no, that it can't be dispersed. We'll we'll 0:16:35.840 --> 0:16:37.600 update next week on that once we have the result. 0:16:37.880 --> 0:16:41.520 So yt you go newsweek with Brutal Guys. It is 0:16:41.600 --> 0:16:46.880 time for my personal favorite segment, and that is accidentally unfiltered. 0:16:47.040 --> 0:16:49.600 I feel like this is everyone's favorite segment surely, just 0:16:49.640 --> 0:16:52.760 your most embarrassing stories you write in those moments where 0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:54.520 you want to bury yourself, and we read them out 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:57.320 and we laugh at you and with you, but mostly 0:16:57.360 --> 0:17:00.280 at you, with you, with with you, at you, and 0:17:00.320 --> 0:17:02.600 with everybody else who's listening to this. Okay, I actually 0:17:02.680 --> 0:17:04.800 love this one because I work in operating theater and 0:17:04.840 --> 0:17:06.679 I know exactly how this would have gone down, and 0:17:06.720 --> 0:17:09.720 I can picture the whole thing. Back before the Iota's, 0:17:09.760 --> 0:17:11.560 I went out with some friends to a few bars 0:17:11.600 --> 0:17:13.879 and we partied into the night. I met a boy 0:17:14.400 --> 0:17:17.760 and we had a really fun one night stand. I 0:17:17.800 --> 0:17:20.600 thought things were great, he got my number, but in 0:17:20.680 --> 0:17:23.080 the sober light of day, I knew that I absolutely 0:17:23.119 --> 0:17:26.199 never wanted to see this guy again, and well I 0:17:26.359 --> 0:17:29.320 just go st nim. Sorry. I was uneducated at the time. Ladies, 0:17:29.960 --> 0:17:32.720 thank you, yes learned your lessons from this podcast. So 0:17:32.800 --> 0:17:34.600 fast forward a few weeks later and I was at 0:17:34.600 --> 0:17:37.119 work as an endoscopy nurse. Now we joke that we 0:17:37.160 --> 0:17:39.720 are the butthole inspectors, which they literally are. They're the 0:17:39.720 --> 0:17:42.320 people that put the scope up your butt as we 0:17:42.320 --> 0:17:45.800 were doing As we were doing the list in theater, 0:17:45.840 --> 0:17:48.080 the next patient was wheeled into the room, and as 0:17:48.080 --> 0:17:50.399 I finished setting up the scope, I turn around to 0:17:50.440 --> 0:17:53.159