WEBVTT - Party partners: who pays for the drinks? 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:10.160 You are now entering the court of Judge Gina Leano. 0:00:15.840 --> 0:00:19.599 Even the most loving relationships can hit rough patches. But 0:00:19.680 --> 0:00:23.520 what happens when the fights can't be resolved? You come 0:00:23.680 --> 0:00:28.000 to my courtroom. I am Judge Gina, and my decision 0:00:28.240 --> 0:00:31.200 is final. You better be ready to hear my ruling. 0:00:33.520 --> 0:00:37.440 Tom has brought his partner Darren to Judge Gina. Tom 0:00:37.520 --> 0:00:40.640 claims he is the only one who buys drinks when 0:00:40.640 --> 0:00:43.760 the couple go out on the town. Tom is seeking 0:00:43.920 --> 0:00:48.000 six hundred dollars in financial compensation for rounds of drinks 0:00:48.040 --> 0:00:50.720 brought over a period of several years. 0:00:51.080 --> 0:00:53.680 Hi, guys, my name is Tom Gay from the USA, 0:00:53.800 --> 0:00:57.720 and you may have known me from TV commercials. Could 0:00:57.760 --> 0:01:01.920 be running the world's largest inflatable theme park, actor, model, 0:01:02.000 --> 0:01:05.080 TV presenter. But yes, you might know me from like 0:01:05.160 --> 0:01:06.480 the club on Oxford Street. 0:01:06.640 --> 0:01:10.959 So my name is Darren bought in Sydney, live in Sydney. 0:01:11.080 --> 0:01:14.720 I work in construction and you would know me from 0:01:14.760 --> 0:01:17.400 being Tom Gay from the USA's partner. 0:01:17.880 --> 0:01:21.600 So I've come to Judge Dina today because I love 0:01:21.720 --> 0:01:26.240 going to these fancy nightclubs in Sydney and the only 0:01:26.400 --> 0:01:29.160 way to get my partner to come out is that 0:01:29.360 --> 0:01:32.240 I'll have to buy him drinks. And I think enough 0:01:32.319 --> 0:01:34.760 is enough, especially when I see him having way too 0:01:34.840 --> 0:01:35.920 much fun today. 0:01:35.959 --> 0:01:38.440 I want Tom to keep paying for my drinks because 0:01:38.480 --> 0:01:39.720 I think it's a fair arrangement. 0:01:48.280 --> 0:01:54.480 Court is now in session. Please rise for Judge Chaina. 0:01:55.680 --> 0:01:58.560 Okay, So Tom and Darren. 0:01:58.800 --> 0:02:04.040 Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello, Well excited today, a little bit 0:02:04.120 --> 0:02:07.160 hungover from last night. But we're going to speak the 0:02:07.160 --> 0:02:07.720 truth today. 0:02:08.639 --> 0:02:12.560 Let's start right from the beginning. So how did you too? Mate? 0:02:12.919 --> 0:02:15.720 So we met. We met at Goodbar on August the 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:20.160 eleventh of twenty eighteen. I remember Darren coming up to 0:02:20.240 --> 0:02:23.240 me and he was like, hey, mate, like nice outfit, 0:02:23.360 --> 0:02:26.480 Like are you gay? And I'm like, I don't know, 0:02:26.600 --> 0:02:30.520 twenty percent, eighty percent, whatever you want. And that was 0:02:30.560 --> 0:02:33.760 the start. That was the first conversation we had. And 0:02:33.800 --> 0:02:36.240 as we as we went downstairs in the nightclub, I 0:02:36.280 --> 0:02:38.360 saw Darren in the back of the distance he was 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:41.160 giving me I, I was given him I And then 0:02:41.240 --> 0:02:43.600 I just decided to get up there and just kind 0:02:43.600 --> 0:02:46.120 of go and do a little cheeky little dance with 0:02:46.200 --> 0:02:49.000 him and then trying to keep this as peg as 0:02:49.040 --> 0:02:53.160 possible right now, and A few things happened, took him 0:02:53.160 --> 0:02:55.799 to the back corner, some other things happened, and then 0:02:55.919 --> 0:02:59.320 at one point, I, after this series of events happened, 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:02.400 which once again we're keeping a PG, I turned around 0:03:02.400 --> 0:03:05.080 and asked him. I was like, wait, mate, are you straight? 0:03:05.560 --> 0:03:07.960 And then it was yeah, I've kind of really never 0:03:08.440 --> 0:03:11.440 done these things before. Blah blah blah, and the rest 0:03:11.520 --> 0:03:14.560 is history. So now we're here, So there you go. 0:03:15.160 --> 0:03:16.600 You had someone turned for you. 0:03:20.600 --> 0:03:26.359 Every day, That's the story. He tells too much. 0:03:26.360 --> 0:03:28.760 I was pretty drunk, saw some guy out of dance floor, 0:03:28.880 --> 0:03:29.959 and then that's it. 0:03:30.639 --> 0:03:32.720 Moved in that weekend practically. 0:03:33.560 --> 0:03:35.800 And what sort of things do you do when you 0:03:35.840 --> 0:03:38.400 go out? What would you describe as a fun time? 0:03:38.960 --> 0:03:40.760 Keep it g rated please. 0:03:40.680 --> 0:03:44.760 Yes, my fun time is a bit different than Darren's. However, 0:03:44.840 --> 0:03:49.720 I enjoy the night life. I enjoy clubbing, I enjoy dancing, 0:03:50.320 --> 0:03:57.640 and Darren is a an outdoors, fun, excitable character. 0:03:57.680 --> 0:04:00.720 Thank you for speaking for me. He's not too far 0:04:00.760 --> 0:04:02.720 from the truth. So I do love the outdoors that 0:04:02.760 --> 0:04:04.800 sort of stuff. I'd probably go see a band more 0:04:04.840 --> 0:04:06.200 than i'd go to a night club dancing. 0:04:06.280 --> 0:04:08.720 So do you like going out, Darren? 0:04:08.880 --> 0:04:11.640 Yeah? I enjoy it, like in moderation, you know. 0:04:11.960 --> 0:04:14.680 H So have you always known that Darren doesn't really 0:04:14.720 --> 0:04:15.800 like going out? 0:04:17.279 --> 0:04:21.000 Well, it's a struggle because Darren does like going out. 0:04:21.440 --> 0:04:23.599 I think he underplays this little bit more than I 0:04:23.600 --> 0:04:27.560 think people are assuming, Like I've seen Darren dancing around 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:31.920 till morning time till sunrise. So no comment. 0:04:33.279 --> 0:04:35.880 Okay, So how often do you go clubbing? Is this weekly? 0:04:36.400 --> 0:04:39.680 Probably? Yeah? Yeah, it can be yeah, probably like four 0:04:39.800 --> 0:04:43.240 nights out of a week. Oh, he starts on a Wednesday. 0:04:43.760 --> 0:04:44.640 Tom, do you work? 0:04:45.920 --> 0:04:50.400 No? I don't know what he does that for. Honestly, Tom, 0:04:50.440 --> 0:04:53.080 what do you do? I'm an actor, model, TV presenter, 0:04:53.120 --> 0:04:55.640 and I also run the world's largest inflatable theme park. 0:04:55.839 --> 0:04:58.000 Okay, And so does that require you to be up 0:04:58.040 --> 0:05:00.000 in the morning and have a sleep routine? 0:05:00.839 --> 0:05:02.840 Not really. I mean I work from home. You can 0:05:02.920 --> 0:05:05.640 work remotely these days. Besides, there's twenty four hours in 0:05:05.680 --> 0:05:07.159 a day. You can do anything. 0:05:08.120 --> 0:05:10.440 Tom. You say that you loved going out and you 0:05:10.520 --> 0:05:12.600 love to party, and you do that four nights a week? 0:05:12.640 --> 0:05:13.000 Is that right? 0:05:13.080 --> 0:05:13.920 From Wednesday to start? 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:15.960 Is correct? That's correct? If I could do it every 0:05:16.000 --> 0:05:17.560 single night, I probably would. 0:05:17.480 --> 0:05:20.720 Okay, And you're based in Sydney, are you, yes, bas 0:05:20.960 --> 0:05:25.000 okay and Darren you're an engineer correct, yes? And so 0:05:25.080 --> 0:05:27.599 do you work every day the week like five days 0:05:27.880 --> 0:05:28.400 full time? 0:05:28.560 --> 0:05:29.080 Sure? Yep? 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:31.640 All right, and so but you're going out on a 0:05:31.680 --> 0:05:32.960 Wednesday to a Sunday night? 0:05:33.080 --> 0:05:33.400 Is that right? 0:05:33.440 --> 0:05:34.880 Are you going out the four nights a week? 0:05:35.320 --> 0:05:38.440 Well, he is, yeah, what about you? Well, not that 0:05:38.560 --> 0:05:42.520 often previously. Yeah, maybe two to three nights a week. 0:05:42.560 --> 0:05:44.120 And yeah, it's tough too, because it's not just an 0:05:44.160 --> 0:05:46.800 eight hour day. Sometimes they're like ten hour days even longer. 0:05:46.839 --> 0:05:49.440 So yeah, yeah, like busy working schedule and then also 0:05:49.600 --> 0:05:52.920 on top of it, yeah, getting dragged out to nightclubs midweek. 0:05:53.200 --> 0:05:56.800 So why are you here today? What's your beef? 0:05:57.760 --> 0:06:01.440 So I'm here today judged you know, is because we've 0:06:01.440 --> 0:06:05.200 had a pre arrangement of to get Darren to come 0:06:05.200 --> 0:06:07.240 out and to stay out with me, I have to 0:06:07.240 --> 0:06:11.039 buy him drinks. I've decided no more. I am no 0:06:11.080 --> 0:06:12.400 longer paying for his drinks. 0:06:12.880 --> 0:06:14.599 How did this arrangement come about? 0:06:14.760 --> 0:06:16.800 Well, to me, it was all fun. It was all 0:06:16.839 --> 0:06:20.400 fun and games until one day. To me, it looks 0:06:20.440 --> 0:06:23.040 like Darren just had enough. We had enough of going 0:06:23.080 --> 0:06:26.200 out and coming out and staying out to the early mornings. 0:06:26.920 --> 0:06:29.240 And then I had to whip a trick out of 0:06:29.279 --> 0:06:32.200 the old book of the Oh look. 0:06:31.600 --> 0:06:34.280 I just I started to realize nothing really good happens 0:06:34.320 --> 0:06:36.279 after twelve twelve am anymore so. 0:06:36.520 --> 0:06:38.880 And so Tom, you've come up with this old trick, 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:42.600 as you've called it, to pay for his drinks to 0:06:43.040 --> 0:06:45.599 entice him to come out, and you've been doing that 0:06:45.640 --> 0:06:46.640 for two and a half. 0:06:46.480 --> 0:06:48.599 Years and it's worked. 0:06:49.200 --> 0:06:52.560 So when did you get the idea that you would 0:06:52.600 --> 0:06:53.960 buy Darren his drinks? 0:06:54.200 --> 0:06:56.200 We kind of came up with it together. But it's 0:06:56.240 --> 0:06:59.520 turned into a point where I really love going to 0:06:59.600 --> 0:07:03.520 these these fancy nightclubs, these you know, launch events, and 0:07:03.600 --> 0:07:07.000 Darren's not so much into the whole Instagram taking photos, 0:07:07.080 --> 0:07:10.520 doing videos, and we've gotten to a point to get 0:07:10.600 --> 0:07:13.240 him to come out, he needs to be a little 0:07:13.240 --> 0:07:15.960 bit tipsy. And if that's the way, that was the way. 0:07:16.040 --> 0:07:18.280 So we've come to that conclusion of will I will 0:07:18.280 --> 0:07:20.640 pay for Darren's drink to get him to stay out, 0:07:21.280 --> 0:07:22.600 and that's the arrangement. 0:07:23.320 --> 0:07:26.040 And how long have you been buying his drinks? Oh 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:28.640 my god, like two and a half years now, two 0:07:28.680 --> 0:07:29.520 and a half years. 0:07:29.760 --> 0:07:30.960 Yeah, it's been a while. 0:07:31.560 --> 0:07:34.400 And is he a big drinker? Is that a costly 0:07:34.480 --> 0:07:36.440 thing for you to be buying him drinks? 0:07:37.360 --> 0:07:40.720 He's ausy? Of course, of course it's costly. 0:07:41.560 --> 0:07:43.960 And so how much do you spend on drinks when 0:07:43.960 --> 0:07:45.520 you go out together clubbing? 0:07:45.720 --> 0:07:48.360 I would say a good one hundred and fifty to 0:07:48.400 --> 0:07:51.560 two hundred in a night just for Darren. 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:54.280 Darren, did you know that? Did you know he was 0:07:54.320 --> 0:07:56.200 spending one hundred and fifty to two hundred Yeah? 0:07:56.240 --> 0:07:58.920 Yeah, you guys are like the nicest nightclubs in Sydney 0:07:58.960 --> 0:08:01.120 and it's like twenty five dollars for a drink. 0:08:01.000 --> 0:08:03.560 Right, So you're not holding back there obviously you're having 0:08:03.600 --> 0:08:06.160 one hundred and fifty to two hundred dollars worth of drinks. 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:10.720 So why do you insist that Darren comes out with you? Tom? 0:08:11.040 --> 0:08:13.400 I want him there, Like as a loving partner, it's 0:08:13.400 --> 0:08:15.560 always good to have kind of your partner in crime 0:08:15.800 --> 0:08:19.040 next to you getting up to all crazy shenanikins and 0:08:19.080 --> 0:08:22.560 I feel I love going out, but there are moments 0:08:22.640 --> 0:08:25.480 in my life when I just want my partner next 0:08:25.480 --> 0:08:25.680 to me. 0:08:26.360 --> 0:08:28.360 So, Darren, are you not willing to go out with 0:08:28.440 --> 0:08:30.200 him unless he pays for your drinks? Is that what 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:32.440 it's come to like? 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:33.160 Sometimes? 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:35.400 Yeah, but it tends to be the same same thing 0:08:35.440 --> 0:08:35.920 every time. 0:08:36.080 --> 0:08:38.080 So well, what do you like to do for fun? 0:08:38.320 --> 0:08:38.560 Yeah? 0:08:38.600 --> 0:08:41.320 So I like to go down to the pub with 0:08:41.360 --> 0:08:45.040 a couple of mates, you know, familiar, familiar territory, just relaxed, 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:47.440 sit down and have a few drinks with friends. You know, 0:08:47.559 --> 0:08:49.840 maybe sometimes get a little bit crazy, but yeah, just 0:08:49.880 --> 0:08:53.160 away from the dark, dirty nightclubs, you know. 0:08:53.320 --> 0:08:56.040 So you like a dark, dirty pub? And does Darren 0:08:56.120 --> 0:08:58.040 pay for your drinks or food when you go to 0:08:58.080 --> 0:08:58.439 the pub? 0:08:59.080 --> 0:09:03.160 Norely comes that's the issue here, Okay, No, I mean 0:09:03.200 --> 0:09:04.320 to be honest with you, I don't. 0:09:04.360 --> 0:09:07.959 I mean, look, no offensing to clubs at orly pubs 0:09:08.000 --> 0:09:10.880 at all. But I just can't sit there. I can't 0:09:10.920 --> 0:09:14.440 watch footy, I can't even drink a beer. This is 0:09:14.480 --> 0:09:15.360 not my vibe. 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:18.040 What are you two doing together? What's going on? 0:09:18.080 --> 0:09:19.439 You should see what I have to You should see 0:09:19.440 --> 0:09:20.680 what I have to put up with it when every 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:24.320 single time we go to club Sultan Pepper. Obviously obviously 0:09:24.400 --> 0:09:27.000 you've heard high. It's not just Tom, It's I'm Tom 0:09:27.000 --> 0:09:30.240 and gay from the USA. Yes, I dare you judge 0:09:30.240 --> 0:09:31.680 Gina to ask Tom where he's from? 0:09:31.760 --> 0:09:33.439 So mind you, I have to hear this. 0:09:34.360 --> 0:09:36.160 I've heard this over a thousand times and I could 0:09:36.240 --> 0:09:37.600 almost run the spiel off myself. 0:09:37.640 --> 0:09:38.719 But ask Tom where he's from? 0:09:39.040 --> 0:09:41.240 IM a bit worried about that. Tom, am I allowed 0:09:41.280 --> 0:09:42.400 to ask you where you're from? 0:09:42.679 --> 0:09:46.920 Tom Gay from the USA? Born in Cleveland, Ohio, Griven Washington, 0:09:47.000 --> 0:09:49.800 d C. Lived in La Miami, New York. We've been 0:09:49.880 --> 0:09:51.600 Spain for a year and now I live here. 0:09:51.760 --> 0:09:53.880 I mean, he's he is born in Cleveland. His parents 0:09:53.920 --> 0:09:56.280 are from Cleveland. He's from Cleveland, all right? 0:09:56.360 --> 0:09:58.120 And so how often do you go to the pub 0:09:58.160 --> 0:10:00.920 with Darren and how often does Aaron go at clubbing 0:10:00.960 --> 0:10:01.360 with you? 0:10:02.920 --> 0:10:05.920 Oh? Man, I would say that that's definitely not a 0:10:05.920 --> 0:10:08.720 fifty fifty split. I mean, when Darren goes to the pub, 0:10:09.320 --> 0:10:12.240 he'll ask me, as a courtesy, do you want to 0:10:12.240 --> 0:10:14.760 come with me? And I'll say yes or no. You know, 0:10:14.880 --> 0:10:18.320 but if I go, I'm there for one drink to 0:10:18.400 --> 0:10:21.480 say hello, show my face, and then I'm out. 0:10:21.720 --> 0:10:23.439 He barely puts a foot in the door before he's 0:10:23.440 --> 0:10:24.520 almost outside of public. 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:28.280 It's fifty to fifty but very short. Short stays. 0:10:28.480 --> 0:10:30.360 Yeah, short stays. When I go out with him, I'm 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:31.520 out till four am in the morning. 0:10:31.559 --> 0:10:33.680 Oh yeah, well that sounds like you're having fun then. 0:10:34.040 --> 0:10:35.640 Hmm, this is why we're here. 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:40.680 So okay it I mean after two or three drink, 0:10:40.720 --> 0:10:41.240 doesn't everyone? 0:10:42.280 --> 0:10:44.320 I mean I would suggest that what you do for 0:10:44.400 --> 0:10:48.000 fun is you go out clubbing. Have you worked that out? Darren? 0:10:51.200 --> 0:10:51.599 We help me? 0:10:52.480 --> 0:10:53.800 Well that's a question for Darren. 0:10:55.280 --> 0:10:57.920 Well I do I do? It's not It's not my 0:10:58.040 --> 0:11:01.080 number one choice. So for him to persuade me, yeah, 0:11:01.120 --> 0:11:03.199 I get him to pay for the drinks. I shouldn't 0:11:03.240 --> 0:11:04.839 be spending one hundred and fifty dollars a night for 0:11:05.040 --> 0:11:07.199 somewhere like I can really, I don't want to be. 0:11:07.760 --> 0:11:10.160 All right, but you're not spending one hundred and fifty 0:11:10.160 --> 0:11:13.439 at night. Clearly Tom is spending one hundred and fifty 0:11:13.440 --> 0:11:13.760 at night? 0:11:15.640 --> 0:11:16.679 Correct two hundred. 0:11:17.160 --> 0:11:18.160 How old are you Tom? 0:11:18.360 --> 0:11:19.560 I am thirty one years old? 0:11:19.600 --> 0:11:20.680 And how old are you Darren? 0:11:21.200 --> 0:11:21.760 Thirty five? 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:27.880 Okay, he's lying, are you forty or thirty five? 0:11:28.200 --> 0:11:29.000 I'm forty years old. 0:11:29.120 --> 0:11:31.440 Oh see, there you go. Okay, so you're getting a 0:11:31.440 --> 0:11:32.680 bit tired are you Darling. 0:11:32.920 --> 0:11:35.800 Well, you know what, like I think, you know, age 0:11:35.880 --> 0:11:39.000 is just a number, and I think days a new 0:11:39.120 --> 0:11:41.679 day until you get maybe I'll see you in the 0:11:41.760 --> 0:11:44.080 next eight years and then we can we can get. 0:11:44.000 --> 0:11:48.120 Back know about it. It's a very interesting dynamic. Why 0:11:48.160 --> 0:11:48.959 are you together? 0:11:52.480 --> 0:11:55.559 Maybe you know it's a little bit of yin and 0:11:55.640 --> 0:11:59.800 yang in Sulton Papa babyes. So I mean, I don't 0:11:59.800 --> 0:12:03.200 think I could be happy with someone exactly like me. 0:12:03.720 --> 0:12:06.640 I feel like the energy levels would just keep raising 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:09.480 each other up. I feel Darren has been so helpful. 0:12:09.480 --> 0:12:10.800 I think in the past four and a half years 0:12:10.800 --> 0:12:13.319 it's because he has kind of settled me down. He's 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:15.200 kind of pulled me back, you know, and kind of 0:12:15.480 --> 0:12:18.160 really brought me, you know, into this country, you know, 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:20.920 living in Australia. It's it's been amazing. But you know, 0:12:21.000 --> 0:12:24.440 you don't always need to be the American that I 0:12:24.600 --> 0:12:28.199 once knew it myself has you know, So yeah, kudos 0:12:28.240 --> 0:12:29.600 to Darren for putting up for it. 0:12:29.800 --> 0:12:31.840 What was the American that you once were? 0:12:32.040 --> 0:12:38.280 Let's not stereotype but loud, slightly obnoxious, steric, excitable center 0:12:38.360 --> 0:12:39.000 of the universe. 0:12:39.240 --> 0:12:43.200 Okay, so the stage isn't quite big enough for two Toms. No, 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:46.200 So what do you want me to do today? 0:12:46.400 --> 0:12:48.160 I want you. I want you to at least find 0:12:48.160 --> 0:12:51.559 a solution to this problem. Potentially, hopefully we can come 0:12:51.559 --> 0:12:54.720 to an arrangement where I'm no longer having to spend 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:58.439 two hundred dollars, especially if I see Darren having fun. 0:12:59.040 --> 0:13:01.080 You know. So the whole the reason behind it is 0:13:01.480 --> 0:13:03.520 to get Darren to come out is because it's assumed 0:13:03.520 --> 0:13:05.280 that he's not gonna have fun, he doesn't want to 0:13:05.280 --> 0:13:07.680 be there, Okay, But the moment I start to see 0:13:07.720 --> 0:13:10.959 him enjoying that his life, enjoying those moments, and he 0:13:11.080 --> 0:13:14.439 coming up to me, let's get another round, Well that's 0:13:14.480 --> 0:13:17.280 a point. That's a line that I'm gonna draw, because 0:13:17.280 --> 0:13:19.800 now it sounds like he wants to be. 0:13:19.800 --> 0:13:23.160 There, all right, Darren, Why don't you just say no 0:13:23.280 --> 0:13:24.320 if you don't want to go out? 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:26.320 I do, and I do it many people. 0:13:26.360 --> 0:13:28.480 Do you say no, Well you do want to go out? 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:31.319 I do say no, Okay, no, I'm gonna go down 0:13:31.360 --> 0:13:33.000 the pub. I'm gonna hang out with my friends, hang 0:13:33.040 --> 0:13:35.000 up my brother, do some things just around the area. 0:13:35.160 --> 0:13:35.959 So I do say no. 0:13:36.800 --> 0:13:38.760 And do you insist that Tom comes out with you. 0:13:38.840 --> 0:13:40.199 Two things he doesn't want to do. 0:13:41.320 --> 0:13:42.920 I do? I do? I say, come? 0:13:43.440 --> 0:13:45.400 You know obviously my brother lives down the road for me, 0:13:45.480 --> 0:13:47.440 and you're like, got family there, And I was like, 0:13:47.480 --> 0:13:49.199 come come, everyone wants to see you. Come hang out 0:13:49.240 --> 0:13:52.120 for a little bit. Very rarely does because he's doing 0:13:52.160 --> 0:13:55.120 his own thing. So yeah, I'd be happy if he 0:13:55.200 --> 0:13:57.800 came out with me a little bit more so, Mike, 0:13:57.960 --> 0:14:00.280 if I ever had a counterclaim, it would actually be, 0:14:01.200 --> 0:14:02.840 you know, come with me. 0:14:03.160 --> 0:14:05.760 Okay, So what do you do to spend time together 0:14:05.800 --> 0:14:08.679 rather than nightclubs? Do you go to travel? 0:14:08.840 --> 0:14:10.400 Do you? Yeah? We do. We do. 0:14:10.440 --> 0:14:13.360 We travel a lot together and obviously even last weekend 0:14:13.440 --> 0:14:15.760 we'll Downagenolan Caves, so we had a there's a couple 0:14:15.800 --> 0:14:17.800 of big weekends and then so so. 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:19.400 It's not the end of the relationship. 0:14:19.480 --> 0:14:20.160 No, not at all. 0:14:20.480 --> 0:14:22.760 Tom, What do you say about Darren not going out 0:14:22.800 --> 0:14:23.200 with you? 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:25.040 Can I just have the cake and eat it please? 0:14:25.840 --> 0:14:27.880 Well, the problem is you can't force someone to do 0:14:27.960 --> 0:14:31.080 something they don't want to do. You see, even in law, 0:14:31.360 --> 0:14:33.640 you can't force someone to do something. You can force 0:14:33.680 --> 0:14:35.720 them to pay if they don't want to pay, but 0:14:35.760 --> 0:14:38.760 you can't actually make someone do something they don't want 0:14:38.800 --> 0:14:39.080 to do. 0:14:39.280 --> 0:14:41.560 So can we come up with like a kind of claim. 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:45.120 You're putting in the claim? What are you talking about? 0:14:45.680 --> 0:14:49.440 You want to claim? And a counterclaim? Tell me, enlighten me? 0:14:50.960 --> 0:14:52.760 What is the strategy with love? 0:14:53.400 --> 0:14:55.360 If I start to add up drinks per night that 0:14:55.400 --> 0:14:58.520 we go out in terms of dullar amount, I either 0:14:58.560 --> 0:15:01.000 want I want someone of that back. I want someone 0:15:01.080 --> 0:15:02.120 I want some of that money. 0:15:01.920 --> 0:15:03.880 About going forward or in the past moving? 0:15:04.320 --> 0:15:07.160 I want the past and going forward because who goes 0:15:07.240 --> 0:15:09.040 here his money, here's free drinks. 0:15:09.080 --> 0:15:10.440 Actually give it all back. 0:15:10.480 --> 0:15:13.440 Now, I'm gonna start going around the house and collecting 0:15:13.520 --> 0:15:14.680 all the presents that I bought you. 0:15:15.040 --> 0:15:17.400 That's scooter to use every single day. Take it right back. 0:15:17.880 --> 0:15:21.560 So you've been living in the same house for four years, 0:15:21.800 --> 0:15:24.040 four and a half years, and so what's the set 0:15:24.120 --> 0:15:27.760 up there? Who pays for wash? And I don't need 0:15:27.760 --> 0:15:29.920 the breakdown? How do you? How do you do that? 0:15:30.080 --> 0:15:31.120 Is it shared expenses? 0:15:31.200 --> 0:15:34.120 Yeah? So we have a joint bank account, which is great. 0:15:35.080 --> 0:15:38.280 Everything is split down the middle from rent to took him 0:15:38.320 --> 0:15:40.560 a while. I was very reluctant at paying rent when 0:15:40.600 --> 0:15:41.160 I first. 0:15:41.480 --> 0:15:48.480 With the friendly word on the radio. Very frugal, surprisingly surprisingly. 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:49.280 Yeah, but he's very generous. 0:15:50.440 --> 0:15:53.840 It's very surprising arrangements. That's how Yeah, because that's how 0:15:53.880 --> 0:15:54.360 you get. 0:15:54.160 --> 0:15:57.680 What you want in life's throw money at it. 0:15:58.280 --> 0:16:03.120 Okay, all right, I think I've got things in life 0:16:03.120 --> 0:16:07.720 without throwing money up. It's a very interesting idea. So 0:16:07.920 --> 0:16:13.200 you split everything halfway? Yes, yeah, right, except for buying drinks. 0:16:13.440 --> 0:16:15.600 Which comes out of my personal expense account. 0:16:16.000 --> 0:16:16.320 Uh huh. 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:17.600 Okay, we do have. 0:16:17.520 --> 0:16:20.200 Two, like we have one joint account and two separate ones, 0:16:20.200 --> 0:16:22.440 and we kind of just use that joint account for 0:16:22.480 --> 0:16:23.440 all joint expenses. 0:16:23.440 --> 0:16:25.640 And then yeah, all right, And when you go to 0:16:25.720 --> 0:16:27.440 dinner at a restaurant, who pays? 0:16:28.000 --> 0:16:30.600 Do you split that? Yes, short answer, yes, but it 0:16:30.640 --> 0:16:32.680 depends on the occasion. If it's my birth there, Darren's 0:16:32.680 --> 0:16:33.080 birth there. 0:16:33.800 --> 0:16:36.320 So it's only these nightclubs. It's only nightclubs that Tom 0:16:36.360 --> 0:16:38.560 takes you too, Darren, and that he pays. 0:16:38.560 --> 0:16:39.080 It's correct. 0:16:39.200 --> 0:16:41.720 Yes, that's it, all right, And you've done that for 0:16:41.760 --> 0:16:43.600 two and a half years. Do you get along with 0:16:43.640 --> 0:16:46.440 each other's friends, like, do you have the same social group? 0:16:48.520 --> 0:16:52.520 A good question, very good question. His friends are lovely, lovely, lovely, 0:16:52.800 --> 0:16:55.640 lovely people. Just my crowd's a little different. I'm not there, 0:16:56.440 --> 0:16:59.880 and no disrespect, well whatsoever. I understand that Instagram is 0:16:59.880 --> 0:17:04.440 a very fun way to promote things, and yeah, get 0:17:04.520 --> 0:17:08.440 free drinks as well, sometimes a complement drinks. So yeah, 0:17:08.520 --> 0:17:10.560 so not my crowd, you know, like I love them 0:17:10.560 --> 0:17:13.400 the death actually, but it's yeah, my my crowd's more 0:17:13.560 --> 0:17:15.199 hang out the part of this new band, have a beer, 0:17:15.280 --> 0:17:16.600 have a laugh, talk about some sports. 0:17:16.800 --> 0:17:19.040 Answer the question we get along, don't get along? 0:17:19.080 --> 0:17:19.280 Yeah? 0:17:19.320 --> 0:17:22.080 Yes, all friends get along. Yes, my friends are very 0:17:22.920 --> 0:17:24.800 models influencers. 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:28.840 Tiktoker's okay, So can I ask you? How much do 0:17:28.880 --> 0:17:32.399 you think you've spent on drinks for Darren in the 0:17:32.440 --> 0:17:33.320 past two. 0:17:33.119 --> 0:17:36.080 And a half years. Give let me do some quick math. 0:17:36.840 --> 0:17:39.399 And while while you're doing that, Tom, Darren, how much 0:17:39.440 --> 0:17:41.399 have you spent on Tom? 0:17:41.680 --> 0:17:47.000 Yep, not too much, not too much, says he's never 0:17:47.000 --> 0:17:49.919 at the pub. So yeah, because I've come up with 0:17:49.920 --> 0:17:52.160 this figure. This this is just a rough draft over 0:17:52.200 --> 0:17:53.400 the past just one year. 0:17:53.800 --> 0:17:54.840 And how much is that then? 0:17:55.720 --> 0:18:00.600 Five two hundred bucks in drinks and that it's based 0:18:00.640 --> 0:18:04.000 on half of a year going out for at least 0:18:04.040 --> 0:18:04.760 twenty six of those. 0:18:04.800 --> 0:18:06.640 Na, I mean, I'll give you fifty bucks. I mean 0:18:06.680 --> 0:18:08.919 you said it before, are your honor? You said it before. 0:18:09.040 --> 0:18:10.040 He's given that to me. 0:18:10.520 --> 0:18:12.280 He has given that to you. So this is the 0:18:12.320 --> 0:18:14.800 next question. Can I ask you Tom, have you raised 0:18:14.800 --> 0:18:17.560 this with Darren in the past, that you don't want 0:18:17.560 --> 0:18:18.760 to pay for his drinks? 0:18:19.040 --> 0:18:19.359 Yes? 0:18:20.000 --> 0:18:20.959 How long ago was that? 0:18:21.359 --> 0:18:25.080