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Speaker 2: I Hard het'e willam woo. Do you hope you're having

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Speaker 3: I'm pretty excited about this because we've got another decode

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Speaker 3: the broom.

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Speaker 1: Always reach out to us, just to to the women

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Speaker 1: out there. If you've received some correspondence a message with

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Speaker 1: a bloke who're you're hoping to maybe one day date,

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Speaker 1: but you can maybe.

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Speaker 2: It comes with your son or your dad.

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Speaker 3: I mean, men are everywhere, and they're always very confusing

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Speaker 3: and often very very difficult.

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Speaker 2: So if you're relationships in general.

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Speaker 3: I think men can be hard to understand. So I

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Speaker 3: think it's it's nice that we can. We're on the

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Speaker 3: inner sanctum. Obviously we're both men.

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Speaker 1: We give the male perspective on the curious mind of men.

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Speaker 1: And today we've got our button push a cat. Who

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Speaker 1: you want to give a situation?

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Speaker 4: Cat? You're early on with a guy?

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Speaker 5: Yes, so I'm four dates in with a new guy.

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Speaker 6: Quick back story. He's a year older than me. He's

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Speaker 6: thirty three this year. He's got a great job, he

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Speaker 6: owns a house, he's got his life together. He's got

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Speaker 6: his ducks in a row, met on hinge. Yeah, four

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Speaker 6: dates in and it's been feeling really good. He's paid

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Speaker 6: for all of the meals on the dates right sign

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Speaker 6: which first two dates out and about third date relaxed

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Speaker 6: night in at his house. Okay, great, you know, turned

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Speaker 6: into a sleepover. Ok had a sleepover.

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Speaker 4: Great?

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Speaker 1: And then I thought she was she had a kiss,

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Speaker 1: She had a kiss kiss or two?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, right, okay here and then I thought, okay, what

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Speaker 6: happens after this? That's going to be. That's going to

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Speaker 6: tell me everything I need to know. He's either going

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Speaker 6: to disappear or he's.

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Speaker 4: Going to hang in after the sleepover.

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Speaker 6: After the sleepover, of course, after the sleepover, continued talking,

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Speaker 6: still consistent, chatting every day.

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Speaker 5: Wanted to meet up again.

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Speaker 1: The morning after the sleepover. Did you have breakfast together

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Speaker 1: or hang out together?

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Speaker 4: Or was that a.

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Speaker 5: I can't remember? And I went home. I went home.

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Speaker 4: You chose to go home.

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Speaker 5: I chose to go home because I had to let

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Speaker 5: the dog out.

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Speaker 4: Anyway, euphemism sorry the already been released.

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Speaker 6: And then it was great after that, continually chatting. I

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Speaker 6: said to him, I'd love to see you again. He

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Speaker 6: said yes, absolutely, me too.

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Speaker 4: Okay, great, keep chatting.

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Speaker 6: He's interested, he's like, you know, asking me questions, getting

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Speaker 6: to know me. And then fourth date was another sleepover.

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Speaker 6: But I will point out he was on the back

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Speaker 6: of like working for two weeks straight.

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Speaker 5: He was tired, but he still made the time to

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 4: Great sign. It's all great sign.

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Speaker 3: Yes, the sleep number two? Did that have like a

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Speaker 5: Okay?

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Speaker 6: So was it just a kind of so he was,

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Speaker 6: he'd finished work, We went for a walk, we drove,

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Speaker 5: Yep, yep. And then we went and ordered food and

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Speaker 5: picked it up and got smash.

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Speaker 3: So it's the whole a full kitten kerbuters, it's not

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Speaker 3: a booty cause basically what I'm saying, did you speak

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Speaker 3: over the two weeks while he was working full time?

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Speaker 2: Yes, it sounds like it's on.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, properly. So what's happened recently?

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Speaker 5: Okay? So post post last sleepover a few days ago.

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Speaker 6: Texting for a couple of days, I'm on day two

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Speaker 6: of hearing nothing from him.

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Speaker 1: Can I ask what was the last bit of correspondence

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Speaker 6: Yep. I said something about that I'm doing at work,

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Speaker 6: and he was like, wow, that sounds amazing, that's so good.

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Speaker 6: And then he asked me a question. I can't remember

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Speaker 6: what it was. He kept the conversation going.

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Speaker 4: Him asking you a question, great sign he wants to

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Speaker 4: keep the conversation. So he asked you. You answered the.

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Speaker 5: Question, Yep, asked him a question, Nada.

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Speaker 2: What's the question you asked him?

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Speaker 6: It was pretty vague. He was just talking about how

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Speaker 6: he'd been to the gym at like nine thirty.

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Speaker 5: At nine. I was like, wow, you can't.

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Speaker 2: Believe you do that?

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Speaker 5: Like fit that in when you're really busy? That's good.

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Speaker 5: Do you often do that?

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Speaker 4: That is that's trucking chat?

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Speaker 2: How do you feel that in? Oh my god? Do

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Speaker 2: you often do that? Oh?

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Speaker 4: Wow?

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Speaker 2: Okay? Good?

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Speaker 3: Can I just say it's not it's shocking chat, candy,

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Speaker 3: but it's not a it's not a it's not a

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Speaker 2: Thing to lead to not talking to you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, all right, I think we've got to a song

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Speaker 3: here woulds We'll have a little bit of a chat

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Speaker 3: in the song, and I'll give my diagnosis on this bro.

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Speaker 3: Two days ago, I've had some bad chat, but just

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Speaker 3: the standard conversation. You've been talking pretty much every day

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Speaker 3: for how long?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Two months?

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Speaker 2: And then he hasn't spoken to you now for two.

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Speaker 5: Days yep, at the end of two days.

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Speaker 3: Now, anything else that you could have done besides asking

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Speaker 3: him how he squeezes in a nine to thirty gym session,

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Speaker 3: that it would lead to him not talking to you.

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Speaker 5: I don't think so. I've been pretty good.

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Speaker 6: But I will say as well that the chat on

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Speaker 5: We do that in person.

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Speaker 2: Oh nice.

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Speaker 5: The chat has just been a little bit of how

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Speaker 5: have you been today? Setting up the next day?

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Speaker 4: So you've seen how many texts a day on.

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Speaker 5: Average between three and five?

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Speaker 4: So you're not you're not.

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Speaker 3: But you haven't really sent him a great message there

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Speaker 3: that really deserved a response.

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Speaker 2: Not really.

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Speaker 4: It was a question, though I think she has asked.

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Speaker 1: So my thing with Datty was always if I've asked

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Speaker 1: always a bit of a whereas if I'd answered the

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Speaker 1: last text without a question, then technically it's on either

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Speaker 1: review to be the next one to message, right.

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Speaker 3: But Kat's put herself out there by asking a question

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Speaker 3: because it's so comfortable, So like whatever, there's no jeopardy

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Speaker 3: in asking a question with someone that you're talking with. No,

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Speaker 3: have had four dates with it felt like there's been

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Speaker 3: a slow in conversation.

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Speaker 4: Can she double down and write a second message?

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Speaker 5: I'm not going to do that. I'm not a chaser.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't want to do that.

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Speaker 2: It sounds like you've chased before.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and I'm not doing it now.

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Speaker 2: You're afraid of that, yeah, I just know.

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Speaker 5: That that'll push him away about just not doing that.

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Speaker 1: You also mentioned that he was really busy, right, he's

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Speaker 1: got a full on job. Okay, so like there is

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Speaker 1: one hundred percent of I mean, don't get me wrong. It

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Speaker 1: takes ten seconds to write back to a message. I

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Speaker 1: do get that, but is a world he's so busy.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes I run back to messages in my head. I

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Speaker 1: know that sounds crazy, but like sometimes I will genuinely

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Speaker 1: think I've thought to write a message back and then

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Speaker 1: I've just forgotten to write back. It's only yeah, super handy,

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Speaker 1: super weirdly. I still use it as an excuse, and

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Speaker 1: obviously it doesn't What do.

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Speaker 2: You think do you think he's uninterested?

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Speaker 4: I don't know, I don't think he's uninterested.

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Speaker 1: I think we've got days here, like, leave it another

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Speaker 1: two to three days. I think if we're having the

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Speaker 1: same conversation in six days and he hasn't written back

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Speaker 1: shocked at this?

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Speaker 2: Unless why are you shocked at this?

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Speaker 5: I feel like that's a long time.

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Speaker 2: I agree, I think that's a long time.

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Speaker 4: How old this guy? How old is this guy?

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Speaker 2: Just texted, shut up? God, shut up? What he's back.

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Speaker 6: And bits he texting like bits, he's busy, he's really important.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 6: So actually, the last things I sent to him, he

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Speaker 6: was like, I waselling him about where I went to dinner.

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Speaker 5: He was like, what's the menu like? And I sent

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Speaker 5: him the menu, So there was that.

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Speaker 4: There was a few.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, he's just loved the menu, like love react to

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Speaker 6: the menu amazing. And he's just said the menu looks good.

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Speaker 6: And then he's just responded to my work thing that

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Speaker 6: I said, So we acknowledged that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and he's about to answer.

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Speaker 5: My stupid gym question hopefully.

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Speaker 3: Ah, so busy.

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Speaker 4: I freaked out for nothing. This is a man for

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Speaker 4: all the ladies listening.

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Speaker 2: This is a man who's let's decode this brother.

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Speaker 1: This is a man who is over a man who

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Speaker 1: is over thirty.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we're not always on our phones. We're bad at response.

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Speaker 1: You've got to give us at least seventy two hours

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Speaker 1: before we start freaking out.

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Speaker 2: What are you trying to say here? Men have more

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Speaker 2: things in their life. No, that is that the moral?

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Speaker 2: We've got worry about guys. We're busy. At least thought busy.

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Speaker 4: You thought forty eight hours was a huge amount.

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Speaker 6: That's two days of not thinking about me crazy.

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Speaker 3: I agree, I'm thinking about them all the time, but

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Speaker 3: a little.

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Speaker 4: Yes, but I'm not what I was texting about it.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I am. Oh, that's good for you, gat great,

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Speaker 2: huge news. So I would just say, what's all?

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Speaker 6: I'll leave it off one now, just leave it, just

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Speaker 6: just leave, just chill now.

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Speaker 5: Do I wait a whole day to respond to him?

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Speaker 2: Don't play that game? No, no, no, Georgia, no no,

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Speaker 2: I can't have this. That's the end of that's the

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Speaker 2: end of all relationships.

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Speaker 1: If he wrote back something short and didn't ask you

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Speaker 1: a question, I agree with all the girls. You make

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Speaker 1: him wait three days, but he has written you like

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Speaker 1: four messages. He's responded to your questions.

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Speaker 4: I'd wait half an hour. How was your day's wass?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? How was your day? Oh mate?

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Speaker 4: Beautiful?

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Speaker 1: Send him back a jiff, no dancing one, yes, alright,

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Speaker 1: don't

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Speaker 2: Ye