Speaker 1: Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life
Speaker 1: un Guard. I am Britney. Laura is sitting next to me.
Speaker 1: I'm introducing her.
Speaker 2: That was Weirs.
Speaker 1: I'm yeah, because I'm on a roll.
Speaker 2: We are coming to you today from a very very
Speaker 2: special place.
Speaker 1: We have migrated our recording to not Laura's bedroom, to
Speaker 1: not my more professional lounge room, but to my bedroom.
Speaker 2: We ah, we're getting saucy.
Speaker 1: We are absolutely not getting saucy.
Speaker 2: We're certainly not getting saucy. We usually he's a bit
Speaker 2: of like hot news for everyone. You clearly will not
Speaker 2: care about this moment. Hang anyway. We have migrated from
Speaker 2: recording in my bedroom because we can't anymore because there's
Speaker 2: two children running around like wild feral beasts. And we
Speaker 2: usually record in Brittany's lounge room when we need to
Speaker 2: be more professional. Yeah, but we can't because somebody's outside drilling,
Speaker 2: so here we are. Brittany is also so close, like
Speaker 2: where she lives is so close to the ocean that
Speaker 2: everything kind of smells seaweedy. I'm not sure if you
Speaker 2: can tell.
Speaker 1: I think I just wet carpet.
Speaker 2: Either. Your whole apartment smells seaweedy. Or if it's like
Speaker 2: we can say it's because you're ambiently that close to borobee.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm very close, and it has been raining for days.
Speaker 1: I feel like I just probably have wet carpet. But
Speaker 1: I'll put some in sense around next time. If I
Speaker 1: knew you were coming in, but not that long ago.
Speaker 1: A few weeks ago, I actually, for the first time ever,
Speaker 1: was invited on another podcast as a guest. Now, before
Speaker 1: we get into this, why does no one want us
Speaker 1: on their podcast? Why has no one ever fighted you
Speaker 1: and I on the podcast? Like we have someone different
Speaker 1: in every second week, but no one wants.
Speaker 2: To talk to us. I've been speak yourself. I've been
Speaker 2: on a couple of podcasts. Okay, actually, let me rephrase that.
Speaker 1: No one wants me on their podcast anyway, That's not
Speaker 1: what this is about. This isn't a whoe is Why
Speaker 1: won't anyone speak to Britney. I went on this podcast
Speaker 1: and I went to their office and it just really
Speaker 1: made me reassess some of my life choices. I walked
Speaker 1: in and I was gobsmacked. It was the most beautiful building.
Speaker 1: It was all glass. It was immaculate. They had this
Speaker 1: big glass office to themselves. They had somebody else working
Speaker 1: from them, a lovely older lady that came in with
Speaker 1: a beautiful tea and biscuit in a really nice teapot.
Speaker 1: She's like, what else can I get you? Sparkling or still?
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh my god. When a guest
Speaker 1: comes to my house, they come into my laund room
Speaker 1: and I'm like, just fight your way through my plans.
Speaker 1: Sit here on the ground here. I prepared a cushion
Speaker 1: for you and that's it. And I was like, what,
Speaker 1: I don't know if we need to up our game.
Speaker 2: We don't need tea, they don't need a chair. We
Speaker 2: can we don't need a desk. I'm quite happy here
Speaker 2: with a pillow propping up this microphone. Anyway, if you
Speaker 2: are new to the podcast, welcome, Sorry that you know.
Speaker 2: This is how we started the episode. But we are
Speaker 2: doing ask on cut today, which is where you guys
Speaker 2: write in. You write in all your life dilemmas. You
Speaker 2: write in the big problems, the small problems, the ridiculous problem,
Speaker 2: wild problems, and we give you our life advice and
Speaker 2: we try and answer them for you. We try to
Speaker 2: come to some solution. But before we get.
Speaker 1: Into that there is something very problematic that we have
Speaker 1: seen that we want to talk about with the new
Speaker 1: married first Sight trailer. And now, Laura, you are the
Speaker 1: married at First Site addict. This is your world, so
Speaker 1: I want you to take it away, tell us what
Speaker 1: this issue is with the new twenty twenty two married
Speaker 1: a first Site trailer.
Speaker 2: This is your world. Yeah, guys, whole I have nothing
Speaker 2: going on in my life, and we all know that
Speaker 2: The Bachelor is about to finish soon, so all I'm
Speaker 2: doing is just sitting here waiting for the next reality
Speaker 2: TV cycle. Actually, before we get into unpacking this whole
Speaker 2: mass debarcle, we are going to be bringing out Batch
Speaker 2: Uncut a day late this week. It is finale week,
Speaker 2: so what better than to keep you waiting for an
Speaker 2: extra day. So the Batchel on Cut episode is actually
Speaker 2: going to be coming out on Saturday, not on Friday.
Speaker 2: Just a little hot tip on that one in case
Speaker 2: you're in your library is looking for it at the moment. Okay,
Speaker 2: so back to the other reality TV show. Okay, talking
Speaker 2: about maths. I am a fucking maths die hard. I
Speaker 2: thoroughly enjoy it. But there has actually been some new
Speaker 2: that's come out about the twenty twenty two Maths, and
Speaker 2: I have a few questions that I want to ask,
Speaker 2: So just to give you guys the rundown. There is
Speaker 2: a contestant that was cast on the current season of Maths.
Speaker 2: It's finished filming, it's wrapped up, and it will be
Speaker 2: coming out usually. I think it airs in January. The
Speaker 2: contestant who has caused a lot of controversy is named
Speaker 2: Simon Blackburn. So, Simon Blackburn was one of the contestants,
Speaker 2: and there have been some absolutely vile and horrific social
Speaker 2: media posts from him that have come out since he's
Speaker 2: been casted and since filming has ended. If you haven't
Speaker 2: heard of the Wash, the Wash was the first to
Speaker 2: report on it. They're a pop culture media house. They
Speaker 2: have an Instagram page. It's great stuff. But basically they
Speaker 2: have posted some resurface videos of Simon Blackburn, some of
Speaker 2: his very homophobic views, some of his misogynistic views. And
Speaker 2: I just want to play for you guys now a
Speaker 2: little excerpt from some of the videos that they have
Speaker 2: put up on their Instagram.
Speaker 3: Guys, we'll just jump in a box. You're getting in AIDS.
Speaker 3: If you are okay, you are getting it AIDS.
Speaker 1: It's just disgusting.
Speaker 3: It's like film actually sexual orientations. How is this?
Speaker 4: So the ex just texts me and goes, can you
Speaker 4: have the boys Friday night? Because I'm supposed to be
Speaker 4: going away. I'm like, okay, I'm thinking you're fucking dreaming, mate.
Speaker 4: I don't give a fuck what you're doing with your
Speaker 4: new boyfriend, but ask your fucking mother. The only thing
Speaker 4: I'm going to be doing Friday night, lads, is focusing
Speaker 4: on Karma, sutra and meditation so that when my cock
Speaker 4: enters this bird's mouth Saturday morning, I don't last thirty
Speaker 4: fucking seconds.
Speaker 3: I'm shooting Saturday. The last thing I'm fucking doing is
Speaker 3: changing fucking nappies and worried about where this fucking retard
Speaker 3: is because she's probably gone down a fucking god knows
Speaker 3: fucking cocker tool or some shit to go to some
Speaker 3: fucking B and B to fucking get the back taken
Speaker 3: out of her.
Speaker 4: All.
Speaker 3: Not in the day, I used to be like, oh,
Speaker 3: keep a bitch at home, mate. I had that the
Speaker 3: cunts do fucking nothing, sit on YouTube all fucking day.
Speaker 3: So if you've if the twenty twenty one world means
Speaker 3: that we I've got to fucking chip in, help out
Speaker 3: with the kitchen and stuff like that, bitch might as
Speaker 3: well make some fucking money. No point having that sit
Speaker 3: at home all fucking day. You come home bust in
Speaker 3: your ass all day, and then you've got to chip
Speaker 3: in and do everything as well. The only time we're
Speaker 3: going to fucking chip in is that cunt makes fucking money.
Speaker 2: I know that for a lot of people that would
Speaker 2: have been very difficult to hear because it is so,
Speaker 2: so incredibly offensive. My question here is how is it
Speaker 2: okay when doing casting and when putting together the new
Speaker 2: season of Married at First Sight? How is it okay
Speaker 2: to platform someone who has such wildly problematic views. Now,
Speaker 2: I will just quickly jump in and say that there
Speaker 2: has been a lot of backlash since these videos surfaced,
Speaker 2: and Channel nine has said that they're going to work
Speaker 2: towards removing him from the current season as much as
Speaker 2: they can, because obviously the season has finished filming. Whether
Speaker 2: that means he'll be removed in its entirety or just
Speaker 2: he'll get minimal screen time where yet to see. But
Speaker 2: the question is how do you get cast in the
Speaker 2: first place when you are someone who has such problematic views.
Speaker 2: When you you are so dangerous in your ideologies, how
Speaker 2: do you get platformed on reality TV? Because we are
Speaker 2: not overreacting when we say are some of the most
Speaker 2: discussing videos you've seen. The thing is people cry out
Speaker 2: that they want drama on reality TV? But where is
Speaker 2: the line?
Speaker 1: Because this person has one hundred percent gone too far?
Speaker 1: Channel nine casting this person has gone too far. Now
Speaker 1: Channel nine have said that they didn't realize that his
Speaker 1: thoughts were so prominent. They didn't realize he was like this.
Speaker 1: I mean, that's rubbish because casting do a deep diving
Speaker 1: to every person they cast. That's why they cast them.
Speaker 1: They know everything about them. They know if there are
Speaker 1: any connections, they know what their political views are, they
Speaker 1: know what their beliefs are. The whole reason you were
Speaker 1: cast on a show is because you're either there to
Speaker 1: be the really normal person that's going to have a
Speaker 1: successful relationship, or you're going to be the one that's
Speaker 1: there for controversy and drama. I don't believe for a
Speaker 1: second that casting agents said they didn't know, because it
Speaker 1: takes you two seconds to look on his page to
Speaker 1: find it. So unless they cast him blindfolded, they knew
Speaker 1: what it was about Channel nine and have now come
Speaker 1: and said that they are going to try and work
Speaker 1: towards removing him completely. But they've only said that They
Speaker 1: obviously didn't think that they were going to remove him.
Speaker 1: They didn't think that the response was going to be
Speaker 1: at the level it was. Otherwise they wouldn't have put
Speaker 1: him in the trailer and advertise they would have already
Speaker 1: cut him out. They have said that they're now going
Speaker 1: to cut him out purely because thousands of people have
Speaker 1: already said I'm done not watching the show, like this
Speaker 1: is the most ab horrent behavior. I'm done, and this
Speaker 1: is their response. So I don't know, is it a
Speaker 1: bit too little, too late? Do you think that they've
Speaker 1: just shot themselves in the foot by doing this?
Speaker 2: Well, I guess the issue that I have is, like
Speaker 2: every year there seems to be someone who plays that
Speaker 2: misogynistic role. Like every year the characters on Maths get
Speaker 2: a little bit more controversial, they get a little bit
Speaker 2: more wild in their belief systems. But at what point
Speaker 2: does that cross the line and become quite dangerous? And
Speaker 2: you know, when we put someone on a reality TV show,
Speaker 2: whether or not they are there to cause controversy, or
Speaker 2: drama to be the villain or whether they're there to
Speaker 2: have the genuine love story. We're still platforming that person,
Speaker 2: and if that person's views are misogynistic or they're homophobic,
Speaker 2: that can do a lot of damage to reinforcing other
Speaker 2: people who were out there in society who had those
Speaker 2: same views. They feel reinforced that there are other people
Speaker 2: who believe the things that they believe. I mean, what
Speaker 2: you just said, Britt, you absolutely hit the nail on
Speaker 2: the head when you're like it's one thing to say
Speaker 2: that they didn't know. That is the whole purpose. That's
Speaker 2: the whole reason why this person was cast is because
Speaker 2: they were cast to be that controversial character. But there
Speaker 2: definitely has to come a line where not only is
Speaker 2: it problematic for the viewer, but there also has to
Speaker 2: be a duty of care to the other contestants in
Speaker 2: that season. Because some woman has signed up to be
Speaker 2: matched with a man, and she's been matched with a
Speaker 2: man who has such vile views against other women.
Speaker 1: Well, this is the thing too, because okay, apparently rumor
Speaker 1: has it, and we're not going to know obviously until
Speaker 1: we see the show, but rumor has it. Simon lasts
Speaker 1: on the show for about two weeks. We're never going
Speaker 1: to know exactly what his time on the show was like.
Speaker 1: If he was expressing these views strongly for the two weeks,
Speaker 1: We're not going to know, because it seems like he's
Speaker 1: done and dusted. Channel nine or eight. Well, we went
Speaker 1: too far, we'll cut that out. One's on board.
Speaker 2: But also I.
Speaker 1: Don't know what person he was matched with for that
Speaker 1: two weeks. But if he gets wiped out, does this
Speaker 1: other poor person get wiped out as well as collateral dammage?
Speaker 1: Does that just ruin the whole show for them? Only
Speaker 1: three hours ago, the Wash released another post. Now Simon
Speaker 1: has responded. Simon has contacted the Wash. This is only
Speaker 1: three hours ago that the Wash posted this as a
Speaker 1: follow up after their original post. So the original post
Speaker 1: from the Wash was a swipe series of clips that
Speaker 1: they had taken from his own TikTok and Instagram, from
Speaker 1: other people's TikTok and Instagram, but they're all of Simon.
Speaker 1: Simon messaged the Wash and just said, can you remove
Speaker 1: your latest post?
Speaker 2: That is it?
Speaker 1: Then he proceeded to say leave the past in the
Speaker 1: past with a beer emoji. That was it. And so
Speaker 1: the Wash has just said, following on from our last post,
Speaker 1: he has now responded asking us to take it down.
Speaker 1: But there was no apology, no accountability or anything like that,
Speaker 1: just to comment with a beer emoji, a six word
Speaker 1: private message to us, and a random post to his
Speaker 1: personal page, appearing to play the victim because he has COVID.
Speaker 2: Well, one extra thing he did say, which I saw
Speaker 2: this morning as well, was that he said, these posts
Speaker 2: that have been collected, this carousel that was put on
Speaker 2: the wash is a collection of videos from over six
Speaker 2: months ago, and they're not my current views. How does
Speaker 2: your opinion on life change so dramatically in six months?
Speaker 2: I think, you know, I do believe in this idea
Speaker 2: that you know, we can learn and as people, not
Speaker 2: necessarily things that come up from ten years or fifteen
Speaker 2: years in the past. We can be very different people
Speaker 2: to who we were back then. But six months is
Speaker 2: not a big enough timeframe. You still need to be
Speaker 2: accountable for your actions from six months ago. Just one
Speaker 2: other thing I want to add on this now. Something
Speaker 2: we discussed earlier this year was doctor Tricia Stratford, when
Speaker 2: she was one of the relationship experts. She left the
Speaker 2: show on the current season so on twenty twenty one
Speaker 2: season she wasn't on there and she was replaced by
Speaker 2: Alessandra Rippola. Now, when Tricia left, originally she said she
Speaker 2: wanted to go and focus on her writing and focus
Speaker 2: on other academic endeavors. However, she later came out and
Speaker 2: said to media, by the end of my time on Maths,
Speaker 2: I couldn't compromise my professional and personal stay because there
Speaker 2: were participants on the show who I felt shouldn't have
Speaker 2: been there. Now, this new casting of Simon Blackburn just
Speaker 2: goes to reinforce that there are some very very problematic
Speaker 2: ways in which reality TV are cast, in particular Maths.
Speaker 2: And the reason why this struck me and I was like,
Speaker 2: I really want to talk about this is because Maths
Speaker 2: is the biggest reality TV show in Australia. It commands
Speaker 2: the most eyes. And we've seen this on The Bachelor
Speaker 2: this year that there's been this real pull away from
Speaker 2: The Bachelor, and I feel like The Bachelor has almost cast.
Speaker 2: There's been so little drama, there's been so little controversy.
Speaker 2: Everything has been very politically correct and as much as
Speaker 2: we have said and the public have said that that's
Speaker 2: what they want to watch, the ratings would suggest otherwise,
Speaker 2: And when the bachelor is going in one direction to
Speaker 2: try and cast the least amount of drama and the
Speaker 2: least amount of controversy. On the flip side, we have
Speaker 2: Married at First Sight, which is only ramping up the
Speaker 2: drama and the controversy. It makes you question what is
Speaker 2: it as the viewer are we wanting to consume? What
Speaker 2: is it that's keeping us hooked on reality TV?
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I mean we all love some drama, but
Speaker 1: as long as it doesn't get to the point where
Speaker 1: it's hardcore bullying or dangerous views. But casting somebody like Simon, who,
Speaker 1: even if he has said he has changed his views
Speaker 1: now we have to take that at face value. But
Speaker 1: who only six months ago was a homophobic bigot is
Speaker 1: toxic and dangerous. And to put that on a platform
Speaker 1: as big as Married at First Site in Australia, and
Speaker 1: knowing that Married at First Site also gets picked up
Speaker 1: in the UK, like Married First Site Australia is huge
Speaker 1: over in the UK, and I don't know, maybe America.
Speaker 1: We're not sure what's going to happen, But voicing somebody's
Speaker 1: opinion that is that dangerous and toxic at that level
Speaker 1: should never ever be happening, especially not in twenty twenty two.
Speaker 1: So I'm very disappointed. If he gets any airtime, I
Speaker 1: will be extremely disappointed.
Speaker 2: Pretty's gonna come for you. I am right on Britdie's like,
Speaker 2: I am very disappointed in you.
Speaker 1: I'm not mad. I am disappointed. No, but it's just like,
Speaker 1: it's almost like, how is it still happening? We need
Speaker 1: the drama in these TV shows. People love it, but
Speaker 1: we've got to find a happy medium of drama where
Speaker 1: no one's actually getting hurt, no one's being bullied, and
Speaker 1: we're not voicing toxic views.
Speaker 2: I one hundred percent agree. And there has to be
Speaker 2: a fine line where there is a duty of care.
Speaker 2: That's the big thing in this Well, you.
Speaker 1: Know you've crossed the line when an old contestant voices
Speaker 1: their opinion.
Speaker 4: Now.
Speaker 1: Tracy Jewel, he was from season five, actually commented on
Speaker 1: the original post from the Wash where all the videos
Speaker 1: were shared of Simon. She'd just said, where are the
Speaker 1: background checks on these people? It is putting other participants
Speaker 1: in potentially dangerous situations. Where is the duty of care?
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think falling back on the whole Oh,
Speaker 2: we didn't know we'll do better next time. Like that's
Speaker 2: your job. It's your job to last people. And you know,
Speaker 2: I think, like exactly what you said in the beginning,
Speaker 2: bred the people have been cast because of what they
Speaker 2: bring to the table. And if we're casting people because
Speaker 2: they bring misogynistic, homophobic views, it is really really problematic
Speaker 2: for all the reasons that we've already discussed. Anyway, guys,
Speaker 2: let's get into the questions for today. We have some rip.
Speaker 1: Black questions and you are going to kick start it.
Speaker 2: I am going to kick that. Actually I have which
Speaker 2: I'm gonna just surmise because it was a very long question.
Speaker 2: But I think I think we can come with some
Speaker 2: good advice to this one. So the person who's written
Speaker 2: in she is in a real little pickle dickle. She
Speaker 2: is currently trying to toss up between two different men.
Speaker 1: Oh what a problem tab dat doing think?
Speaker 2: I'm men.
Speaker 1: I think I've ever had that problem in my life.
Speaker 2: As if you've never had that problem, no way, like
Speaker 2: you didn't have you haven't had two guys interested in
Speaker 2: you at the same time, I.
Speaker 1: Have never had two men fight over me in my existence,
Speaker 1: nor do I think that would ever happen.
Speaker 2: No, have you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, I mean, I mean I was single ten
Speaker 1: years moving along. Yeah, I didn't have one man fighting
Speaker 1: over me.
Speaker 2: Well, this is like no, like you mean in early
Speaker 2: dating days. Yeah, like you know when you like when
Speaker 2: you're dating multiple people and you're kind of trying to
Speaker 2: figure out who you want to date, and then maybe
Speaker 2: you catch feels for two people at the same time.
Speaker 1: Okay, so there's not two people like wanting to lock
Speaker 1: it down and marry it. Tell me the question.
Speaker 2: Okay. Basically, she's been dating these two different guys simultaneously,
Speaker 2: and by the sounds of things, one of them is
Speaker 2: from her past, so she has a deeper and more
Speaker 2: long term connection with him. However, he's been a little
Speaker 2: bit problematic in the past. She didn't go into detailed
Speaker 2: flags mates and red flags, flansom flags. The chemistry is
Speaker 2: bang on, you know, and that's the thing that makes
Speaker 2: you keep coming back. It always is with the bad Boys,
Speaker 2: it always is. So there's a new guy in the
Speaker 2: picture as well. The new guy he seems I say this.
Speaker 1: He's nice, he's sweet, he loves her, he wants to
Speaker 1: he wants to look after her, he's reliable.
Speaker 2: But she wants the bad Boys is it, well, it's not.
Speaker 2: It's not so much that she wants the bad boy. Basically,
Speaker 2: she has the option of two guys, two guys who
Speaker 2: want to be invested in her, two guys who want
Speaker 2: to pursue a relationship with her. Both of them are
Speaker 2: making big, grand gestures of commitment, and one of them
Speaker 2: is the safe bet, but her feelings are not as strong.
Speaker 2: The other one is the risky guy, and her feelings
Speaker 2: for him are really strong. Now, I have quite conflicting
Speaker 2: feelings about this whole situation, But I want to know
Speaker 2: what's your take. If you were in this situation where
Speaker 2: you had someone who seemed like a sure thing or
Speaker 2: somebody who maybe is a bit problematic but there is
Speaker 2: a stronger pull, what would you choose or what advice
Speaker 2: would you give to a friend?
Speaker 1: I okay, I actually was in this situation.
Speaker 2: I just forgot to hear the truth comes out now
Speaker 2: it's like, oh, that's right. I definitely had multiple men
Speaker 2: fight over me.
Speaker 1: I forgot, but I blacked it out. But I actually
Speaker 1: comes with a funny story which I'll I'll tell you
Speaker 1: because it was pretty funny. Okay, So there was a
Speaker 1: very very long time ago, and it wasn't necessarily that
Speaker 1: two men were fighting over me, but it was that
Speaker 1: I had the option. One was just like the most safe, amazing,
Speaker 1: beautiful human and one was the sociopath that I had
Speaker 1: this real heart deep connection in chemistry with or So
Speaker 1: I thought, this is so funny. I was so beside
Speaker 1: myself because I knew that once I made the decision,
Speaker 1: there was no going back either way. And I was
Speaker 1: so so torn that I went to psychic. Someone recommended me.
Speaker 1: I'm not hunging in. I was such a headcase back then,
Speaker 1: and I was like, I know how I'll make his
Speaker 1: whole life decision.
Speaker 2: Yet I have to tell you why.
Speaker 1: It's so funny. I went to a psychic. She came
Speaker 1: highly recommended, and I was like, Okay, maybe I'll get
Speaker 1: some clarity, maybe she'll do something bang on. I was
Speaker 1: beside myself in hysterics inside. You know when you're in
Speaker 1: a really inappropriate moment and you want to be laughing,
Speaker 1: but you can't because it's not the moment. That's the
Speaker 1: moment I was in. I was trying to hold my
Speaker 1: laugh in. It was I told him my problem, I
Speaker 1: explained it. I spoke about both of them. She was
Speaker 1: very very serious, and I was like, this is going
Speaker 1: to be so wise and she's like, okay, I want
Speaker 1: you to picture this. You're on a beach. It's beautiful.
Speaker 1: And I was like picturing off. My eyes were closed.
Speaker 1: She's like closure eyes and I was really invested. You
Speaker 1: can hear the sound of the waves lapping on the water,
Speaker 1: and I was like, this is so beautiful. She's like,
Speaker 1: there are birds, there's no sound. Three hundred meters out,
Speaker 1: there's a boat. I was like, okay, picturing on the
Speaker 1: boat at these two men.
Speaker 2: I'm like so invested in this right now.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Also, I think it's the way you're talking. I'm it
Speaker 2: turned on.
Speaker 1: On the boat. Should I take my pants off on
Speaker 1: the boat. We're already on the bed my halfway there
Speaker 1: on the boat there are these two men and then
Speaker 1: in my hand, I was like, I think I know
Speaker 1: where this is going. And she's like there's a hole
Speaker 1: in the boat. The boat is slowly sinking and I
Speaker 1: was like ah. It's like she's like, they can't swim.
Speaker 1: You can only save one of them. You run into
Speaker 1: the water, you dive in, you start to swim. Who
Speaker 1: do you save? And I lost it. I was in hysterics.
Speaker 2: I was like, women, you are cool.
Speaker 1: I literally opened my eyes and looked at her and
Speaker 1: she's like, who is it? And I said both of them.
Speaker 1: She's like, I said, I would find a way to
Speaker 1: have both of them under my arms and I would
Speaker 1: swim them back to the shore. I was like, this
Speaker 1: is the most stupid thing. And I left and I
Speaker 1: was like, you are an idiot.
Speaker 2: Also, when you go to a psychic, you just want
Speaker 2: them to give you an answer. Undred you don't just
Speaker 2: say it't just even if you're not a good psychic,
Speaker 2: just pick one guy, So just pick one. No, make
Speaker 2: the answer easier for us.
Speaker 1: In all seriousness, this is really tricky I and this
Speaker 1: could be controversial. What I want to say is, and
Speaker 1: there are so many levels to this. If the guy
Speaker 1: that he said that you have this really strong connection
Speaker 1: to that you've known for a long time, but he's
Speaker 1: been problematic, it depends what the problems are and you
Speaker 1: only you're going to know this. Is it problematic because
Speaker 1: he's been cheating on you? Does he treat you badly,
Speaker 1: like really badly?
Speaker 2: Is he rude?
Speaker 1: Disrespectful? There are a lot of things that you need
Speaker 1: to weigh up when you say it's problematic or are
Speaker 1: the problems just that he couldn't commit completely.
Speaker 2: I get the feeling from the question that he just
Speaker 2: was someone who was super flaky, that he wasn't committing,
Speaker 2: that he would promise and then he would take it back.
Speaker 1: So maybe, okay, if that's the case, great is he
Speaker 1: just saying it's always been new, but it wasn't the
Speaker 1: right time, but now it is. I think that's different.
Speaker 1: What I want to say to you is, and I
Speaker 1: feel like Laura's going to disagree with me. I am
Speaker 1: going to say that for the matter of the heart,
Speaker 1: you go with the heart in this one. If his
Speaker 1: only problem was not being able to commit and now
Speaker 1: he wants to. If you settle for something that you
Speaker 1: know is lovely and you know it's safe, but the
Speaker 1: feelings aren't quite there at the level they should be,
Speaker 1: it's not gonna last anyway, because eventually you're gonna you're
Speaker 1: gonna get bored. You don't want to marry someone or
Speaker 1: spend your life with someone that's just mediocre, because if
Speaker 1: you don't want to be alone. I'm really passionate about that.
Speaker 1: I think that you for this, I would say, try
Speaker 1: with the one that you are really passionate about and
Speaker 1: that the feelings are there for But you have to
Speaker 1: go in knowing that it's not.
Speaker 2: Gonna work out.
Speaker 1: Not that it's not, but you have to go in
Speaker 1: knowing that it might not work out. And then you
Speaker 1: have to know that the other really safe option might
Speaker 1: not be there waiting for you. This is a really
Speaker 1: big thing that you need to weigh up. Is it
Speaker 1: a possibility and only you're gonna know this. Is it
Speaker 1: a possibility that you're at a level where you can
Speaker 1: continue to date both of them and you can just say, like,
Speaker 1: I'm not ready to jump in anything serious yet, but
Speaker 1: I really want to keep getting to know you and
Speaker 1: spending time together. Or are you exclusive? Do you need
Speaker 1: to make a decision where you're exclusive with one because
Speaker 1: if it's still early days, you're allowed to date multiple
Speaker 1: people until you have that conversation. So I think if
Speaker 1: you don't know if you're ready, but deep down I
Speaker 1: think I think you know the answer with who you
Speaker 1: want to be on this one.
Speaker 2: I agree with some parts of what you've said, but
Speaker 2: I very deeply disagree with other parts.
Speaker 1: Of what you want to go with A safe option.
Speaker 2: No, I don't think no, I actually this is okay.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna start with my answer, and then I'm an
Speaker 2: unpack Why don't pick either of them? Don't pick either
Speaker 2: of them, don't like, don't pick either of them. Don't
Speaker 2: hatch your bets in this way. I think if you
Speaker 2: have two people and you don't know who to choose,
Speaker 2: neither of them is your person, because your person would
Speaker 2: cut through, it would be very obvious to you who
Speaker 2: you should be choosing. In this you should answer You
Speaker 2: shouldn't have to compromise. It shouldn't be compromising on someone
Speaker 2: who treats you a bit bad but you have a
Speaker 2: strong chemistry with, or someone you don't have chemistry with
Speaker 2: but they're safe. Like, Neither of those options are actually
Speaker 2: a good option, And I think you deserve better on
Speaker 2: both sides of the coin. So I would say, don't
Speaker 2: choose either one because I think if you choose the
Speaker 2: person who you have incredibly strong chemistry with, like, and
Speaker 2: they've already proven time and time again that they're not
Speaker 2: being committed and that they can't give you what you want.
Speaker 2: Are they only showing up to the table now, Are
Speaker 2: they only wanting to commit now because you have another option?
Speaker 2: Because you're investor with someone else, and we'll we've all
Speaker 2: been there. We've all experienced that partner who's like, oh,
Speaker 2: I don't know what I want, and as soon as
Speaker 2: you're interested in someone else, you get the hey, i've
Speaker 2: been thinking about your text because they just slide back
Speaker 2: in to fuck things up. But I really think that
Speaker 2: if you're in that situation and you're trying to juggle
Speaker 2: or to pick the best suitor, I think that it's neither.
Speaker 2: My reason why I say don't pick the safe guy,
Speaker 2: and the reason why I do agree with you on
Speaker 2: that one, Brit is because I think if you pick
Speaker 2: the safe person who you don't have chemistry with, or
Speaker 2: you don't have this not not even chemistry, but the
Speaker 2: desire for, there is the possibility that you will regret
Speaker 2: or you will always think what if, and it will
Speaker 2: be an unclosed chapter with that other person who you
Speaker 2: had that really strong pull towards. I think you have
Speaker 2: to get over that person first before you can have
Speaker 2: not only a safe relationship that's like committed and reliable
Speaker 2: and all those things that are comfortable, but that you
Speaker 2: also have that strong connection with as well. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I like that you said that because my last thing
Speaker 1: I was about to say is the reason I'm saying
Speaker 1: try it with one and probably the one that you
Speaker 1: have the pool with. Look, like Laura said, if there's
Speaker 1: a high chance it won't work out, if he has
Speaker 1: never been committed, he's coming back for the wrong reason.
Speaker 1: You don't know. But what I do one hundred percent
Speaker 1: know is and why I'm saying you should give it
Speaker 1: a go is you will always wonder why, there will
Speaker 1: always be something left unsaid, and you won't ever really
Speaker 1: move on. And I have a friend that called me
Speaker 1: last night and actually a guy friend, and he said
Speaker 1: exactly this. He was like, there's a girl from six
Speaker 1: years ago that has come back into his life that
Speaker 1: they had this really big pool with, but it wasn't
Speaker 1: there's a reason it didn't work out. And this was
Speaker 1: literally just last night, and he's like, you know, I've
Speaker 1: reached back out and I think we need to meet
Speaker 1: She reached back out, Sorry, we need to meet back up,
Speaker 1: And I said, look, do you want to revisit that,
Speaker 1: Like there is a reason that it hasn't worked out,
Speaker 1: but you're forgetting those reasons. Like when you think of
Speaker 1: that relationship, what do you think he's like just all
Speaker 1: the good parts. And I said, okay, and now I
Speaker 1: want you to go and think about why you broke
Speaker 1: up in the bad parts. And he's like, yeah, I know,
Speaker 1: you're right. He's like, it just feels like there might
Speaker 1: be something left unsaid. And I said, cool, Maybe go
Speaker 1: meet for coffee. Then it's been six years, meet for
Speaker 1: coffee and see if there's anything there. But there's always
Speaker 1: going to be this feeling if you don't revisit something.
Speaker 1: My point is there's always gonna be this feeling of
Speaker 1: like what if. And I just I'm saying this on
Speaker 1: what I am like as a human, and I as
Speaker 1: a human am I like I wish I knew. I
Speaker 1: wish i'd just found out for sure, otherwise I'd always
Speaker 1: wonder why. And that's all I can base it on
Speaker 1: is my personal experience.
Speaker 2: I also just want to say that this one quote,
Speaker 2: which I fucking love and I will live by forever.
Speaker 2: When people show you who they are the first time,
Speaker 2: believe them. And I really believe this.
Speaker 1: I don't now people can change and it depends on
Speaker 1: what they've done. I'm at giving people a second chance
Speaker 1: and knowing that people can make mistakes and we don't
Speaker 1: know what this guy has done, and she's not gonna
Speaker 1: always wonder why she's going to wonder what if what
Speaker 1: if I was with him and he was my person?
Speaker 1: What if he came back and he was like, I
Speaker 1: will do anything for you.
Speaker 2: You're saying that like you believe that everyone only has
Speaker 2: one person there we can all have happy and long
Speaker 2: term relationships with multiple people, like we have multiple soulmates.
Speaker 2: It's not like, of course, he's the one person and
Speaker 2: if this fucks up, you're never going to meet someone
Speaker 2: else again. So that's why I'm like, that's almost like
Speaker 2: a detrimental It's alsmost like a detrimental thing to say.
Speaker 2: It's like, well, what if that was your person? No,
Speaker 2: that one person, it's not your person. Whoever you choose
Speaker 2: in the long run, whoever you invest your time, your energy,
Speaker 2: and your love into, that's the person.
Speaker 1: Well, I am so sorry to this listener because we're,
Speaker 1: for the first time ever, are giving you a divisive answer,
Speaker 1: and I think we maybe don't quite agree on this
Speaker 1: and we have our own reasons to wrap it. I
Speaker 1: think that and again, it's depending on what he did
Speaker 1: in the past, is depending when you said you know
Speaker 1: that it was problematic. If it's just that he wasn't
Speaker 1: ready to commit, and it was I guess at a level,
Speaker 1: there was a level of innocence there. It was the
Speaker 1: wrong timing. If it's just something like that and you're
Speaker 1: really feeling the pool now and he's telling you that
Speaker 1: he wants you, he's telling you that he's changed, she's apologized.
Speaker 1: If he's actually are the same as his words and
Speaker 1: you still have that feeling you're already dating him, I
Speaker 1: would give it a go, because I think you'll always
Speaker 1: wonder if you don't if your relationship in the past,
Speaker 1: if the red flags were actually more messed up and toxic,
Speaker 1: if there was cheating, if there was aggression, if there
Speaker 1: was rudeness, if there was anything that you know is
Speaker 1: not compatible with a healthy relationship, then of course, don't
Speaker 1: revisit it.
Speaker 2: I reckon don't do it either, That's my essay, and
Speaker 2: say things.
Speaker 1: Let us know what you decide to do and how
Speaker 1: it turns out, because I would. I actually genuinely love
Speaker 1: following up on these. I really want to know how
Speaker 1: it turns out, all right.
Speaker 2: Question number two, So question number two is a work
Speaker 2: related question which we don't get many work related questions
Speaker 2: because we are not career advisors, but we will do
Speaker 2: our best anyway, Ladies, I have been working for the
Speaker 2: same company for the past four years. I've really enjoyed
Speaker 2: the company that I work for. However, I have been
Speaker 2: in this situation where they will not give me a
Speaker 2: pay rise even though I've put forward the best case
Speaker 2: I possibly can for why I deserve one. With their
Speaker 2: in mind, I've started applying for other jobs with other companies. However,
Speaker 2: the Indy is small. This is the first time I've
Speaker 2: ever had to really go out and look for a
Speaker 2: new job since being employed. What is the etiquette Should
Speaker 2: I tell my current employer that I'm now looking for
Speaker 2: new jobs? Should I just go out and do it
Speaker 2: and then not put them on my reference? What am
Speaker 2: I supposed to do? Because I'm worried that it's going
Speaker 2: to get back to my current employer that I'm out
Speaker 2: searching for a new occupation. Really, I mean, this is
Speaker 2: a like everybody's experienced this.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is a It's a tough one. It's depending
Speaker 1: on your situation and depends on where you work. That's
Speaker 1: what I found. I think that no, you don't need
Speaker 1: to if you're searching for another job. You don't tell them,
Speaker 1: you don't be like, hey, just heads up, I'm super
Speaker 1: unhappy with you. I could leave and drop a smoke
Speaker 1: bomb at any minute. Just want you to know that
Speaker 1: maybe I will, maybe I won't.
Speaker 2: You'll never know.
Speaker 1: This actually happened to someone I worked with. It was
Speaker 1: one of my work colleagues in a hospital environment, but
Speaker 1: they were looking for another job. They didn't tell our
Speaker 1: boss that they put them down as a reference, but
Speaker 1: they did. But they put them down as a reference.
Speaker 1: And like you in a hospital environment, you don't ever
Speaker 1: get job without calling references.
Speaker 2: Like it does.
Speaker 1: It's impossible. It does not happen, you know how some
Speaker 1: jobs the don't actually follow up on the references. They
Speaker 1: look at your CB and they look at your call
Speaker 1: of vacations and they're like, cool, it doesn't happen in
Speaker 1: our line of work. So my boss gets a call saying, hey,
Speaker 1: just wanted to check Sarah's applied for a job here.
Speaker 1: What was she like to work with? And they're like, oh, Sarah,
Speaker 1: Like that's a made up name, by the way, She's like,
Speaker 1: what do you mean, So I applied for a job,
Speaker 1: Like I've just got Sarah rossill for the next six months.
Speaker 1: I don't understand. And she came to Sarah and she
Speaker 1: was like, hey, can we talk Are you thinking about leaving?
Speaker 1: And she was like, oh not really why She's like, well, yeah,
Speaker 1: I just got a call from your prospective employer. And
Speaker 1: she's like, I actually did give you a glowing reference.
Speaker 1: And she wasn't mad. But she's lucky because my boss
Speaker 1: was amazing. She's like, you know, but like, are you
Speaker 1: talk to me when you want to leave? Like I
Speaker 1: use this a real thing that that was just she's
Speaker 1: lucky that our boss was in a really it was
Speaker 1: a really good person and it was really nice and
Speaker 1: gave her a glowing reference. But it's situations like that,
Speaker 1: like if you're gonna it's this, if this prospect of
Speaker 1: them being called you one hundreds that need to tell them,
Speaker 1: and maybe you say it's for personal reasons, or it's
Speaker 1: time to move on, or it's a really good offer,
Speaker 1: or whatever it is you want to say. There does
Speaker 1: come a time where there is a level of eteqacy
Speaker 1: and respect that you do give your employer. But when
Speaker 1: you're just on a hunt, I don't think you need
Speaker 1: to know.
Speaker 2: Okay, one hundred percent. If you're going to put your
Speaker 2: current employer down as a reference, then you need to
Speaker 2: ask if that's okay. But I think it's I do
Speaker 2: not think you tell your current employer that you're looking
Speaker 2: for a job, especially if you're just in the pitchinga
Speaker 2: the pitching phase, especially if you're just sending out resumes
Speaker 2: and whatnot, because if you're in that phase, the last
Speaker 2: thing you want to do is go and tell your
Speaker 2: employer that you're looking for a job, and then a
Speaker 2: job doesn't come up and you get pushed out of
Speaker 2: your current work early because as soon as you tell
Speaker 2: your employer that you're looking for another job, so they're
Speaker 2: going to look for someone to replace you. And I
Speaker 2: really think that in that instance, you can completely shoot
Speaker 2: yourself in the foot. You can be almost too caring
Speaker 2: about your occupation that you're not taking care of yourself enough.
Speaker 2: So I think, like, you don't know how long this
Speaker 2: journey's going to be of you looking for a new occupation.
Speaker 2: You don't know how long it's going to take until
Speaker 2: you find something that's suitable, So you know you don't
Speaker 2: need to go and tell your current employer that you're looking.
Speaker 2: And I think very very few people actually do that.
Speaker 2: Just so long as you stick by your contract, you
Speaker 2: give as much notice as you possibly can once you've
Speaker 2: taken a new role. The one thing I do want
Speaker 2: to say on this though, is that there can be
Speaker 2: a level of transparency with your prospective employers, Like the
Speaker 2: people that you're sending out your resume to. You can
Speaker 2: say to them or put it into your resume. You know,
Speaker 2: I haven't spoken to my current employer yet that I
Speaker 2: am leaving or that I'm looking for a new role.
Speaker 2: And if this resume does progress to X point in
Speaker 2: your processes of looking for a suitable candidate, please let
Speaker 2: me know so that I can then make them aware.
Speaker 2: And I think that then you're at least covering your
Speaker 2: bets and covering all covering everything. But I think just transparency, communication,
Speaker 2: honesty in that respect is really really well received by
Speaker 2: the person who is looking to employ someone as well.
Speaker 1: One hundrederstand and I think, I mean, I don't really
Speaker 1: want to add anything to that. I think we've really
Speaker 1: covered it. And I think there's just a level of
Speaker 1: respect that you know, I mean, treat people how you
Speaker 1: want to be treated. I think if you were a boss,
Speaker 1: what you'd want to do. It's always the same. You
Speaker 1: can always put that sing, you can always refer it
Speaker 1: back to yourself. But tripy, how you want to be treated.
Speaker 1: Think of what you would want if you're in that situation,
Speaker 1: and I think if you do the right thing, only
Speaker 1: the good things can happen back to you.
Speaker 2: But it's such a I think it's such a tricky one.
Speaker 2: I do think it's one that so many people, Like
Speaker 2: every single person's done this, every single person's worked for
Speaker 2: an occupation or worked for an employer and then at
Speaker 2: the same time being on the job hunt for something else.
Speaker 2: No employer is going god like. I mean, they might
Speaker 2: be surprised by you quitting if they didn't think it
Speaker 2: was on the cards, but it's not something that they
Speaker 2: haven't experienced before with all their other staff. So you know,
Speaker 2: I've been especially if they're not going to give you
Speaker 2: a pay rise and you've asked for it and you've
Speaker 2: kind of put forward all the things and the reasons
Speaker 2: why if you're leaving because you don't feel like you've
Speaker 2: been treated fairly in your employment, then I think like
Speaker 2: you don't really have anything that you need to kind
Speaker 2: of do. On the other side, go.
Speaker 1: Get a girl. So question number three, this is the
Speaker 1: last question for today. Hey girls, I'm hoping you can
Speaker 1: help me with something that has been gnor in a
Speaker 1: way at me for a very long time. I'm currently
Speaker 1: with my boyfriend of five months, who I honestly think
Speaker 1: could be my penguin. I just love him so much,
Speaker 1: love that fear. There's just one thing.
Speaker 2: That just sounded so not I just love that.
Speaker 1: I love the extra wishes just like I just love him.
Speaker 1: I actually do love that. For you, There's just the
Speaker 1: one thing nagging at me. Just after our very first date,
Speaker 1: I went out with a few friends and I ended
Speaker 1: up sleeping with one of my guy friends. There were
Speaker 1: no feelings at all. It was literally just a drunken hookup.
Speaker 1: My boyfriend and I were by no means exclusive, and
Speaker 1: again I had only just been on one date with
Speaker 1: him at the time. But I can't help but feel
Speaker 1: so guilty and that I've done something wrong. He's a
Speaker 1: very sensitive guy. I also love that few who has
Speaker 1: experienced cheating in his past relationships, and I know for
Speaker 1: a fact he wouldn't take the news well and wouldn't
Speaker 1: want to know. Is not telling him a form of
Speaker 1: lying even if it is to protect him, and how
Speaker 1: the hell do I get rid of this feeling like
Speaker 1: I'm being dishonest every time I think about it. I
Speaker 1: just don't know that if I tell him, I'll be
Speaker 1: transferring the problem from me to him, and I don't want.
Speaker 2: To do that.
Speaker 1: Thanks in Evan. I don't think this is a hard question.
Speaker 2: Okay, No, I think that The reason why this is interesting.
Speaker 2: The reason why you feel guilt is because you can
Speaker 2: shag your friend. If it was just a one night stand,
Speaker 2: if it was some guy who was completely you're never
Speaker 2: gonna see him again. You're never gonna talk to him again.
Speaker 2: If he was like not in your friendship group, you
Speaker 2: wouldn't have this level of guilt. The reason why you
Speaker 2: have this level of guilt is because I'm guessing if
Speaker 2: he's your good mate and you guys all hang out together,
Speaker 2: your boyfriend doesn't know that you fucked your friend. That's
Speaker 2: where the guilt comes from. Now, do I think you
Speaker 2: should tell your boyfriend? No, I don't. I think that
Speaker 2: sometimes we can experience guilt around things where we haven't
Speaker 2: actually done anything necessarily wrong, Like you didn't do anything wrong.
Speaker 2: You're punishing yourself. You're never gonna do it again. Do
Speaker 2: I think that there's gonna be anything gained from telling
Speaker 2: a boyfriend. No. I think by telling him all that's
Speaker 2: gonna happen is he's gonna be one insecure. When you
Speaker 2: then hang out with your friend, it's probably going to
Speaker 2: be the end of that friendship because he's gonna be like, well,
Speaker 2: I don't want you to be hanging out with him
Speaker 2: if there was some overlap there and this was a
Speaker 2: weird thing for me, and also it could just bring
Speaker 2: up a whole lot of other issues around insecurity. I'm
Speaker 2: not saying lying. I don't normally think that omitting details
Speaker 2: is a good idea, but I just think in this instance,
Speaker 2: maybe honesty is a little bit more cruel than what
Speaker 2: it is kind.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you just said it yourself in this question.
Speaker 1: You said, I know he wouldn't want to know. That's
Speaker 1: what you said. I know he doesn't want to know.
Speaker 1: I know he wouldn't want to know, and you know
Speaker 1: he won't be happy with it. You did not cheat
Speaker 1: on him, like you didn't cheat on him. You've said
Speaker 1: you weren't together. You went on one date with the guy,
Speaker 1: like Laurie said, Gilt hundredercent comes from fucking the friend.
Speaker 2: It does. It's like we've all been there.
Speaker 1: But I think that there is nothing to gain, and
Speaker 1: I'm again I hate omitting details. I don't want to lie,
Speaker 1: and I don't believe in cheating in relationships.
Speaker 2: But you didn't cheat.
Speaker 1: You're not really lying, You're not doing anything wrong. I'm
Speaker 1: not sure or why it's eating you away, because it
Speaker 1: probably shouldn't be eating you away this much after this
Speaker 1: long unless that I don't know. Is there any weird
Speaker 1: feelings for the friend still, or do you still spend
Speaker 1: a lot of time with a friend. If so, maybe
Speaker 1: don't spend as much time with a friend. But one
Speaker 1: hundred percent, I would just embrace your relationship. If you
Speaker 1: tell him that after one day you slept with your friend,
Speaker 1: it's going to cause so many problems in your relationship.
Speaker 1: It just will. And even if he's like, oh, that's cool,
Speaker 1: that's on his mind forever, he can't unhear that it's
Speaker 1: just dumping knowledge on someone unnecessarily. That's going to change
Speaker 1: the way he thinks and feels. So I just think,
Speaker 1: I really, really just think you need to accept that
Speaker 1: it's done and that you did nothing wrong and just
Speaker 1: embrace your relationship.
Speaker 2: I think there's a greater conversation here around guilt, which
Speaker 2: I think is probably the most interesting part of this question. Like,
Speaker 2: we all feel guilt for many different things, and it
Speaker 2: actually serves a really important purpose as an emotion. It's
Speaker 2: a shitty emotion to have, but it's important because it
Speaker 2: helps us self regulate the fact that you feel guilty
Speaker 2: and the fact that you are very aware of what
Speaker 2: has happened and you're like, you know, you genuinely feel
Speaker 2: guilt for it. Even though you haven't done something wrong,
Speaker 2: you feel guilt. What that does is it stops you
Speaker 2: from ever doing it again. It will actually make you
Speaker 2: a better girlfriend. The fact that you care this much
Speaker 2: makes you better at taking care of your boyfriend. It
Speaker 2: makes you more considered of his feelings. And I think
Speaker 2: about this in regards to parent guilt, like it's something
Speaker 2: that I've read a lot about because it's something I
Speaker 2: experience a hell of a lot, and I think most
Speaker 2: parents experience parent guilt at different times. It's not necessarily
Speaker 2: I mean, it's a terrible feeling to have. It can
Speaker 2: be debilitating, and if it is, then definitely go and
Speaker 2: speak to someone but guilt in and of itself can
Speaker 2: really make us be better at whatever it is that
Speaker 2: we feel guilty for, and it makes us change our behavior,
Speaker 2: and it makes us do things and want to strive
Speaker 2: to be better. That's the purpose that it serves. So
Speaker 2: I think don't continue to beat yourself up about it.
Speaker 2: If you're being a great girlfriend, if you've never actually cheated,
Speaker 2: which you obviously haven't, if you've never done anything to
Speaker 2: make your partner not trust you, then I don't think
Speaker 2: you need to go in and unpack all the fine
Speaker 2: nitty details. That's only going to make him feel insecure.
Speaker 1: Welly too much of a good person. If this is
Speaker 1: still troubling you have to.
Speaker 2: Fight five literally when you're why are you feeling guilt
Speaker 2: around this? I'm like, maybe she's just such a nice person. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that's I think.
Speaker 1: That's the real problem here is you're too much of
Speaker 1: a good person. This should not so be weighing on
Speaker 1: your mind after five months. So I hope that you
Speaker 1: can accept Maybe it's just that you've still you think
Speaker 1: that all this time you've done something wrong. You haven't,
Speaker 1: So maybe when you get that acceptance you can move
Speaker 1: on and just live your best life with your partner.
Speaker 1: But that's it I think for that one.
Speaker 2: Don't fuck things up by sitting down and having in
Speaker 2: D and M about it. No, because you're on a
Speaker 2: good thing obviously.
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Speaker 1: Neither of them what a ridiculous competition. Neither of them
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Speaker 2: They are so ridiculous. Matt is like so broad now
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