Speaker 1: I'd like to acknowledge the traditional owners on which this
Speaker 1: episode is being recorded, the combo marry people. We pay
Speaker 1: our respects to elders past, present and emerging, and extend
Speaker 1: that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today,
Speaker 1: I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, and this is the Rise
Speaker 1: and Conquer podcast. This is the podcast where which have mindset,
Speaker 1: self development and becoming your higher self mix soon with
Speaker 1: a lot of laughs, plus behind the scenes of my
Speaker 1: life running two businesses and being among Think of us
Speaker 1: as the perfect combo of brunch with your besties mixed
Speaker 1: with self development. No matter where you are in your journey,
Speaker 1: we're here to help you be curious, pull yourself out,
Speaker 1: and embrace radical self awareness. If you're ready to get
Speaker 1: into the driver's seat of your own life and stop
Speaker 1: letting life past you by, then you're in the right place.
Speaker 1: Hi everybody, and welcome to the RNC Potty. Happy Friday
Speaker 1: and Happy Easter. Happy long weekend, Tier. I know I
Speaker 1: love long weekends. This is like a long, long week
Speaker 1: You long long because it's four days. Oh, it's beautiful.
Speaker 1: I love Easter time because not only do we get
Speaker 1: to eat all the chocolate and just not give two
Speaker 1: f's about it. But it's like the season changing. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: so true, weather starts to get a bit crispy. It's
Speaker 1: a little bit colder, but it's still that really and
Speaker 1: beautiful sunshine. It's just taking away that like humid heat.
Speaker 1: So true. And I feel like it's interesting because every
Speaker 1: single Easter it's like really you can notice it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's actually such a good point. And I love it
Speaker 1: so much. I love Easter because on Monday, the chocolate's
Speaker 1: always really cheap. Tisa. I have distinct memory every year
Speaker 1: go to the shops when the bunnies go down to
Speaker 1: a dollar bunny and I buy like eight chocolate bunnies.
Speaker 1: I love that. This is like the do you like
Speaker 1: celebrate Easter or do anything with Easter? No? Nothing, Yeah,
Speaker 1: just chocolate. Yeah, so do we It's just like chocolate.
Speaker 1: You hang out with your fam Yeah, ideal, guys, we
Speaker 1: have a really fun episode for you. So this is,
Speaker 1: you know, one of my famous pep talks. We decided
Speaker 1: to do this because we notice a theme in our
Speaker 1: Facebook group of you guys were asking how we can
Speaker 1: show up for ourselves when things are going not so great,
Speaker 1: and I feel like we've kind of spoken about this
Speaker 1: a little bit and touched on it recently, but we
Speaker 1: just noticed such a strong theme in our Facebook group.
Speaker 1: And ps, guys, if you're not in the RNC Facebook group,
Speaker 1: that's when we like have a lot of discussion. That's
Speaker 1: like where honestly we get most of our ideas from
Speaker 1: because we're we're so engrossed in the community. So jump
Speaker 1: in there if you're not. Link is in the show notes.
Speaker 1: In those moments where the universe is really testing you,
Speaker 1: that's what we're talking about today, and I'm going to
Speaker 1: give you my tips what I do, and yeah, we
Speaker 1: just have a great chat about it. It is such
Speaker 1: a good episode. I'd say this every episode, but he's like,
Speaker 1: this is my favorite. But our quick week updates are
Speaker 1: tru of us. I had such a fun week. Well,
Speaker 1: we had your event on Saturday, which was so nice,
Speaker 1: and it was so nice to meet some of the
Speaker 1: r n C community that came to. So many of
Speaker 1: you guys were there. I think it was like pretty
Speaker 1: much the whole part, Like everyone I spoke to it
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I've done the project and you know,
Speaker 1: I listened to the podcast so shout out to the
Speaker 1: RNC community. Now you guys are literally the best, the best,
Speaker 1: and it's interesting. So I'm just gonna like take it's
Speaker 1: so interesting because the event. Firstly, I think because it
Speaker 1: was just attached to a theme that I am so
Speaker 1: passionate about that feels so authentically me and like, you know,
Speaker 1: the collection amazing, but also doing a community event to
Speaker 1: connect with people who I genuinely felt like we were
Speaker 1: on the same level. And I said this to Jamie. Actually,
Speaker 1: I was like, I spoke to so many people and
Speaker 1: I felt like my cup was so full. Yes, like
Speaker 1: I generally was like, oh my god, that was a
Speaker 1: beautiful conversation. And I feel like even though you know,
Speaker 1: events can sometimes be draining because there's a lot of
Speaker 1: energy used, I walked away from that event so fucking
Speaker 1: happy and like my cup was full mine too. It
Speaker 1: was beautiful. I totally agree, Like it was not draining
Speaker 1: at all. Everyone was so high vibe, everyone was willing
Speaker 1: to give everything a go. Yeah, it was just beautiful.
Speaker 1: And also even just the vibes of the event, like
Speaker 1: pre event not stressful. Everything was organized. God, the NH
Speaker 1: team is just fucking but everything was organized, Like everyone
Speaker 1: was there to help out. Everything went to plan. There
Speaker 1: was no heat coups, the most beautiful energy, and I
Speaker 1: like that day just felt so aligned and so perfect.
Speaker 1: And yeah, it was like one of those moments in
Speaker 1: my quote unquote career where I was like, Wow, this
Speaker 1: is my job. I love that so much, Like this
Speaker 1: is my job and I just genuinely am so grateful
Speaker 1: and can't fucking believe it. I just got to fucking
Speaker 1: hang out with my friends and that's what it felt like. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we were just with a bunch of our besties. I
Speaker 1: know it was the best. It was the best, So
Speaker 1: highly recommend. It depends should we do. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: that's all the Iron c F team asking guys. It
Speaker 1: has to be perfect, it has to feel perfect, and
Speaker 1: it's got to be different, I think, yeah, And it's
Speaker 1: just it's gotta make sense. So stay tuned. Yeah, watch
Speaker 1: is Space Now. Before we get into the episode, we
Speaker 1: do want to start bringing some more segments each week
Speaker 1: to the podcast. So to start off, we're going to
Speaker 1: be doing some self discovery ones. This will be where
Speaker 1: I ask your question, G and you'll give us your
Speaker 1: take on it and also maybe give the listeners some
Speaker 1: tips on how they can find their answer to the
Speaker 1: question in a way that feels good to them. M hmm,
Speaker 1: okay cool. So our question for today's segment is what
Speaker 1: are your top three most important values and how would
Speaker 1: I guess after you've said yours, tell us how you
Speaker 1: know that that's it? Okay, let me have a little think.
Speaker 1: I think definitely, Like one is authenticity. Yeah, Like one
Speaker 1: of my core beliefs is like when I lock into
Speaker 1: me and when I lock into just me being me,
Speaker 1: magic happens. And that's truly like a value that I'm like, yes,
Speaker 1: that is, that's truth for me. The next one is
Speaker 1: trusting that life happens for me. I love how I've
Speaker 1: just made this about Corbyli like Carl Vales, same shit.
Speaker 1: So like trusting life happens for me, And I think
Speaker 1: this is a beautiful value for me personally because it's
Speaker 1: like it kind of will touch on this episode, is
Speaker 1: like can you trust when even things are looking like
Speaker 1: it's not gonna work out? And I think that is
Speaker 1: really the difference between people manifesting what they want and
Speaker 1: people not because they give up at that last moment.
Speaker 1: And so a big value is like no, I get
Speaker 1: to lock in and I get to trust that this
Speaker 1: is going to work out, and even if you know,
Speaker 1: I have so much evidence of that, but also it's
Speaker 1: because I've created that evidence. And then the last value
Speaker 1: is probably just like a bit of a motto in business,
Speaker 1: and how I do things is like feel the fear
Speaker 1: and do it anyway. Yeah, that's just like anything uncomfortable. Again,
Speaker 1: that's where the magic happens. And again I've created so
Speaker 1: much evidence where it's like, oh, this feels uncomfortable, fearful,
Speaker 1: let's fucking go. I love that one. That's like how
Speaker 1: I want to live my life because I don't want
Speaker 1: to just be comfortable in my whole life and then
Speaker 1: get to the end and be like, fuck, I actually
Speaker 1: did nothing. Yeah, that's like a huge thing. So they're
Speaker 1: probably like my top three values currently. How I got
Speaker 1: there was just I guess I'm really clear on my
Speaker 1: core beliefs. I'm really clear on what's important to me
Speaker 1: and how I live my life. And that's something that
Speaker 1: I constantly revise and constantly look at. If you have
Speaker 1: no concept of that, it's kind of hard to tell
Speaker 1: them like quickly a tear, but like, for example, that's
Speaker 1: what I do. It for do it for your future self.
Speaker 1: Course is all about is getting clear and like getting
Speaker 1: clear on your concept of self and what's important to you.
Speaker 1: And that's the thing. Is like, when you're not clear
Speaker 1: on who you are and what you stand for, it's
Speaker 1: really hard to make decisions, it's really hard to move forward.
Speaker 1: So that's like, if you ever wanted to start with
Speaker 1: any personal development, I would say clarity is your first
Speaker 1: thing of like clarity of who you are and what
Speaker 1: you stand for. And again we have a course of
Speaker 1: that or that. It's like keep the things you can do,
Speaker 1: Like you can literally go on the internet and google
Speaker 1: a bunch of values lists and like go through and
Speaker 1: see which ones work for you. Yeah, and try them
Speaker 1: on and see how they fit. But again it's about
Speaker 1: if you're not clear on this stuff, I would start
Speaker 1: working on this. This is such a great place to start.
Speaker 1: So true, what are your values? Mine? I prepare them earlier,
Speaker 1: Thanks for use the question mine, and I think they change,
Speaker 1: They've changed a lot, but I think these ones are
Speaker 1: probably it for me again at the moment. They might
Speaker 1: shift in the future, just depending But my first one
Speaker 1: would be risk taking, sort of similar to your field
Speaker 1: of fear. And do it anyway. It's so important to
Speaker 1: me to do things that scare me. And I think,
Speaker 1: when I think about it deeper, I don't think I've
Speaker 1: ever had anything negative come out of taking a risk.
Speaker 1: So what am I actually get? Oh my god? I
Speaker 1: love that. Yeah, Like, I feel like if you take
Speaker 1: a risk, you'll get rewarded somehow or the other. You're
Speaker 1: never gonna have anything necessarily bad come out of it.
Speaker 1: Isn't it interesting though that humans are so scared of that?
Speaker 2: Though?
Speaker 1: Taking risk it's a whole other podcast. Yeah, that's it's
Speaker 1: help ponder that later. My second one, which I think
Speaker 1: has come out about more of this year, is integrity
Speaker 1: and doing things with purpose but without it needing to
Speaker 1: make sense to others, and it just needs to internally
Speaker 1: make sense to you and that's all that matters, and
Speaker 1: connecting with that, holding onto that and trusting that, love that.
Speaker 1: And then my last one is compassion. I think it's
Speaker 1: so important to treat others with kindness and almost have
Speaker 1: like elegance and grace and things that you do even
Speaker 1: if something's upset you or triggered you, you can still
Speaker 1: compassionately explain that to a person or show them compassion
Speaker 1: by not addressing it or just setting that boundary. But
Speaker 1: I think that's something I want to lean into, is
Speaker 1: like have my boundaries and all of that sort of stuff,
Speaker 1: but still like I don't need to jump down anyone's
Speaker 1: throat if that makes sense. Oh my god, that's beautiful.
Speaker 1: That's actually something. You know. What compassion I feel like
Speaker 1: comes with two is like kind of maturity. Yeah, don't
Speaker 1: you feel like you go through especially because we are
Speaker 1: both you know, young, passionate the icy females. But it's
Speaker 1: like you go through this stage where you find your voice, Yeah,
Speaker 1: and you find who you are and you want to
Speaker 1: like fucking shout it to the rooftops. Yeah, and you
Speaker 1: want to tell everyone. And also when you are so
Speaker 1: clear on who you are and what you want in
Speaker 1: your boundaries, you're like, no, I will fucking tell you, yeah,
Speaker 1: because I've gotten clear in this. But it is almost
Speaker 1: this sense of maturity of the step past that is
Speaker 1: like I actually get to have my boundaries, be clear
Speaker 1: on who I am. But I also again have compassion
Speaker 1: for other people because they're on their journey and I
Speaker 1: trust their evolution. Yeah, And I'm not going to try
Speaker 1: and push something on them or try and make them wrong.
Speaker 1: I just get to have it for me. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: that's when the compassion would come in. Yeah, exactly it.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I love that so much. It's like
Speaker 1: we have the same brains just connected now because we
Speaker 1: spent so much time to go. It's like me, you,
Speaker 1: Ellie and Jamie and Georgina were just like morphing into
Speaker 1: the best way possible. Oh my god, I love that.
Speaker 1: It tea. Yeah, so those are mine. This is so fun.
Speaker 1: I cannot wait to do more segments with you guys.
Speaker 1: And also, let's put a post in the Facebook group
Speaker 1: and ask them what their values are. There three top values,
Speaker 1: because I just I want to hear you, you guys. I
Speaker 1: want to hear what you're going through, what you're processing,
Speaker 1: and what you're currently locking in. And a little tip.
Speaker 1: Some of how I found mine is I noticed when
Speaker 1: I was triggered by other people when they did something
Speaker 1: out of jealousy. I was like, oh my gosh, I
Speaker 1: wish I could do that, but I haven't done that
Speaker 1: with someone who takes a lot of risks. And that's
Speaker 1: how I realized that that was something I valued because
Speaker 1: it's it triggered you it's important to you. Yeah. Interesting,
Speaker 1: and it's something you want. Oh I love that. Yeah? Interesting. Okay,
Speaker 1: all right, let's.
Speaker 2: Get all right, guys, let's fucking chat.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I need to swop swearing. I have
Speaker 1: been letting loose with what do you think that is? Passion?
Speaker 1: It is? It's passion. All right, we'll leave it in
Speaker 1: what we'll jump it down to. I love it too
Speaker 1: because I tear. You're someone who like doesn't swear, Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I can almost feel you be like, oh, I'm
Speaker 1: getting better. You know what's funny is I actually grew
Speaker 1: up with my parents never swearing, not ever. The first
Speaker 1: time I ever heard the word fuck come out of
Speaker 1: my parents' mouth was when I had, like, I tested
Speaker 1: my mom so much she just yelled fuck at me.
Speaker 1: I was like so scared. I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: this is when I die, had like either had broken her.
Speaker 1: I was also like twelve. My parents don't swear too much,
Speaker 1: but it's just like here and there. But I feel
Speaker 1: like the first time I heard them swearing, they were
Speaker 1: like on the phone, our electricity hadn't gone on or something,
Speaker 1: and we just moved house and they're like swearing. That's
Speaker 1: funny means like intro. Oh shit, all right, guys, today
Speaker 1: we are chatting how to go through hard shit and
Speaker 1: hold yourself to a stand in and get through it.
Speaker 1: Such a big one. So this has actually come about
Speaker 1: because we have noticed such a theme in our rn
Speaker 1: C community Facebook page. Ps, if you're not in there,
Speaker 1: come and join us. It's really fun. It's a lot
Speaker 1: of fun. It's a lot of fun. We all got
Speaker 1: each other out limiting police. I know, it's like pretty intense.
Speaker 1: It's like other Facebook groups, it's like giveaways, but like,
Speaker 1: come discuss shadow. We're like, it is that a shadow? Actually, no,
Speaker 1: that's us in the office. I know. Jamie's always like
Speaker 1: go deeper, why is that turning? Like okay, he'll let
Speaker 1: me think about it. So annoying. No, we have lots
Speaker 1: of fun in there, so come join us if you're
Speaker 1: not in there. And then also, oh my god, the
Speaker 1: passion and the vibe in the project Facebook group too
Speaker 1: is just it's next level, is not It's amazing. Me
Speaker 1: and a Tea was like discussing that we think this
Speaker 1: round is like one of the most potent rounds, Like
Speaker 1: everyone is so involved and it's like really incredible to see,
Speaker 1: but it's also we can see themes and we were
Speaker 1: having our team meeting and sorry, when this episode goes live,
Speaker 1: the project should be finished in at a deer. Yes,
Speaker 1: you can still buy the project and do it in
Speaker 1: your own time, but the actual Facebook group is really
Speaker 1: really potent. Actually if you buy it after you get
Speaker 1: put in the all rounds all rounds Facebook groups, so
Speaker 1: you can still you know, uncovera shit in there. But
Speaker 1: a huge theme that we notice in this round is
Speaker 1: people really struggling with you know, things are going quote
Speaker 1: unquote bad in my life. How do I deal with this?
Speaker 1: And a lot of messages like how do I stay
Speaker 1: high vibe? Yeah? How do I stay high vibe during
Speaker 1: this time? Because when people first get introduced into manifesting,
Speaker 1: you know, it is the concept of like attracts, like,
Speaker 1: so your vibe attracts you know, everything you want, everything
Speaker 1: you want. So people kind of go into this mindset
Speaker 1: of like, oh, I need to be happy all the
Speaker 1: time if I want to manifest like my dreams and everything.
Speaker 1: So I'm here to tell you stop stressing about that.
Speaker 1: It's it's not going to like if you're not high
Speaker 1: vibe all the time, that's not actually going to matter
Speaker 1: if you are setting a standard as you go through
Speaker 1: lower vibrational seasons. Yeah, let's say, because I think it's
Speaker 1: like we're not doing toxic positivity here where it's like, well,
Speaker 1: I just need to be happy all the time. I'm
Speaker 1: not a good idea. No, And it's also that's just
Speaker 1: not real life because also I believe, you know, my
Speaker 1: belief is like you come to earth as a soul
Speaker 1: and you have a journey you go on, and you
Speaker 1: have certain KLMA contracts, and you have certain things happening
Speaker 1: where like, imagine if everything just went right in your
Speaker 1: life and you had no struggles, you had no lessons, like,
Speaker 1: it'd just be neutral in But also you wouldn't even
Speaker 1: be well, it's not that you wouldn't be a person,
Speaker 1: but you would have no like character building, and you
Speaker 1: would have no concept of yourself because you've never had
Speaker 1: experiences that have shown you, oh, I'm actually really strong, yeah,
Speaker 1: and I'm actually really courageous and I actually can do
Speaker 1: hard things. You would have no self awareness about that, yeah,
Speaker 1: because you have never been put in that situation. So
Speaker 1: I really think when we are going through times when
Speaker 1: things are you know, quote unquote low vibe. I don't think, Fuck,
Speaker 1: how do I get to a higher vibe? I think
Speaker 1: I take a step back, and I'm like, Hey, what's
Speaker 1: actually going on here? Is there a lesson I can learn?
Speaker 1: Is there something I can uncover? Is there somewhere I
Speaker 1: can go deeper? And I really see it as like, well,
Speaker 1: first of all, it's like you can automatically shift the
Speaker 1: quote unquote bad vibe, which is you know, low vibe
Speaker 1: feelings is you know, like shame and guilt and like
Speaker 1: deep deep sadness, and you can shift that instantly into
Speaker 1: like one level higher of like curiosity. Yeah, so I
Speaker 1: say this a lot, but it's like you can shift
Speaker 1: it into oh, what could actually be the lesson here?
Speaker 1: Am I getting a lesson about my standards in relationships?
Speaker 1: So curious? Curious about this? I keep attracting fucked people? No,
Speaker 1: But like it's like that old thing where they're like,
Speaker 1: if everything's going wrong, maybe you're the prost You hate
Speaker 1: that one? Am I? The problem? Is it? Me? Am I?
Speaker 1: The problem? Literally? Though? So it's like taking a step
Speaker 1: back and thinking, what can I actually learn here? And
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm I'm in a huge season of
Speaker 1: absolutely leaning into discomfort. I love that so much. And
Speaker 1: it's like, it's funny because once I decided I'm leaning
Speaker 1: into discomfort and I am actually going through a season
Speaker 1: where I can do hard things. You know what happened
Speaker 1: a lot of hard things, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: manifest But honestly I did in a way because I
Speaker 1: told the universe I'm actually ready to build on my
Speaker 1: concept of self and my self awareness and I'm actually
Speaker 1: ready to build some like skills and let's just call
Speaker 1: it character that is going to be so worthwhile for me,
Speaker 1: you know, in the long run. And so yeah, I'm like,
Speaker 1: you know, all the tiktoks of like I'm building her,
Speaker 1: I'm actually fucking building it. Like there's so much truth
Speaker 1: for that. And it's so interesting because once I was like, no,
Speaker 1: I'm actually gonna lean into discomfort and I'm gonna do
Speaker 1: I'm gonna lean into the hard things because I'm actually
Speaker 1: ready to go through them. Yeah, and I'm actually ready
Speaker 1: to use this as almost an exercise where I'm building
Speaker 1: the person I want to be. So it's really funny
Speaker 1: because at the moment with my coach, I was really
Speaker 1: working on the relatability piece for me. Yeah, So I
Speaker 1: have a huge wound of wanting to be relatable, and
Speaker 1: it really comes down to like high school shit, you know,
Speaker 1: like fucking high high school shit where you want people
Speaker 1: to like you, you want to fit in. And it's
Speaker 1: so funny because my coach had to reflect me and
Speaker 1: she's like, yeah, but do you remember high school where
Speaker 1: you wanted to fit in but then you were like well,
Speaker 1: in my case, you were friends with the popular girls,
Speaker 1: but then you fucking hated it because that was a
Speaker 1: mean to you or they were mean to other people.
Speaker 1: And you're like, oh, I actually didn't want this. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and so you've now attracted people you don't actually want
Speaker 1: And I was like, wow, and you almost you water
Speaker 1: yourself down to be someone else so someone else can
Speaker 1: like you, but then you're so disconnected inside because you've
Speaker 1: just fucking wartered yourself down. Yeah, well that's one huge thing.
Speaker 1: And so I was like, okay, well, also, I don't
Speaker 1: have to be relatable for me to be liked, if
Speaker 1: that makes sense or like interesting? Yes, because also, if
Speaker 1: you think about it, my whole brand is inspiring. I'm
Speaker 1: an expander. Yeah, I do cool shit, and then that
Speaker 1: gives other people permission to do cool shit. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: kind of the gist of my brand, and like Trailblazer, like,
Speaker 1: I'm just fucking doing my own thing, and then other
Speaker 1: people like, you know, even how I do life as
Speaker 1: a mom, I have no one in my life who
Speaker 1: has done life as a mom how I have done it.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So and then I've you know that beautiful DM. I
Speaker 1: got the other day tear of the girl who was saying,
Speaker 1: you know, she never wanted kids until she saw how
Speaker 1: I had kids and did life with kids, and she's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I actually really would love kids. It was just the
Speaker 1: fact that I saw other people doing kids in a
Speaker 1: way that I didn't like. Yeah, And I was like,
Speaker 1: how fucking cool is I like that so much? Having children,
Speaker 1: like having Ivy has been the greatest thing of my life.
Speaker 1: And it's like I would hate someone else not to
Speaker 1: feel that and go through that just because they thought
Speaker 1: they couldn't have freedom or they couldn't have you know,
Speaker 1: life a certain way. So for me to be an
Speaker 1: expanded to that person just simply living my life, like
Speaker 1: how that is that's the shit that lights me up.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Oh so I had to be like wait a minute,
Speaker 1: like I'm not here to be liked. I'm actually here
Speaker 1: to show people who I am lead my life in
Speaker 1: the way that I want to lead my life. And
Speaker 1: it's like if they don't like it, they just fucking
Speaker 1: unfollow me, or like you're just not here for the ride,
Speaker 1: and that's okay. Yeah. So I had to hugely unpack
Speaker 1: that because a lot of my you know, stuff I
Speaker 1: was doing previously, I was like, is this gonna upset anyone,
Speaker 1: or like, you know, they're still gonna like me, And
Speaker 1: then that was then watering down and like not letting
Speaker 1: me fully step into my authentic self, which again is
Speaker 1: my whole fucking brand. Yeah, so it's like, oh, so
Speaker 1: I'm noticing things, but kind of going back to it.
Speaker 1: So I really see hard seasons as such a way
Speaker 1: where you can actually and I think we've got to
Speaker 1: speak to obviously, when fucking really bad shit happens, there's
Speaker 1: such a place where it's like you've just got to
Speaker 1: feel the feelings, yeah, absolutely, and be in them and
Speaker 1: also honor yourself with whatever you need to do in
Speaker 1: that season. That is so huge because if you bypass
Speaker 1: those that are just going to come back in a
Speaker 1: different way, in some other fuck toxic way. Yep. So
Speaker 1: you need to feel them, you need to go through it.
Speaker 1: But also you will notice there is a point then
Speaker 1: where you're kind of like, all right, I've been feeling
Speaker 1: the feelings, I've been doing the things, but also how
Speaker 1: do I want to move forward? And that's where you
Speaker 1: get to make the decision of am I going to
Speaker 1: keep playing in I think like the victim mentality is
Speaker 1: like maybe a bit brutal here, but it's like, am
Speaker 1: I going to keep playing in the Oh my god,
Speaker 1: bad shit just keeps happening to me? Or this is
Speaker 1: you know, so shit and the opposite to life happens
Speaker 1: for me. Yeah, am I going to keep playing in
Speaker 1: that frequency? Or am I actually going to step into
Speaker 1: a different frequency of I actually get to use this
Speaker 1: and I actually get to build the person I want
Speaker 1: to be. Because even if you think about it, I've
Speaker 1: said this a lot, and like I've been fucking really
Speaker 1: hone in and on this and my captions of you know,
Speaker 1: when things are easy, it's so easy to show up
Speaker 1: as your best self so eat, when things are flowing
Speaker 1: a line, it's so easy to go and do the
Speaker 1: thing and be confident. And when you're getting all this
Speaker 1: positive feedback, and it's like, it's so easy to do
Speaker 1: the thing and show up as that person that you
Speaker 1: know you and vision, but it's like, how are you
Speaker 1: showing up when things aren't easy? Because that is such
Speaker 1: a huge thing that I've been thinking about of. Oh,
Speaker 1: you know, the gym is just such an easy example
Speaker 1: of like when you're fucking feeling tired and when you're
Speaker 1: feeling shit, like do you just sleep in? Yeah, because
Speaker 1: then that is going to tell your brain what you
Speaker 1: do once things get hard, And basically when things get
Speaker 1: hard is like it's you to the core, it's actually you,
Speaker 1: because when things are easy, you can be your highest
Speaker 1: version of yourself. Of course you can. It's not hard,
Speaker 1: it's not hard. But when things are hard, that's actually
Speaker 1: when you get to show up as you're most authentic you.
Speaker 1: So how you showing up? Do you love that you
Speaker 1: feel like every episode is directed at you? I look
Speaker 1: into your eyes? And then the gym example gets me
Speaker 1: an I'm going as I to say, don't lean into
Speaker 1: that shit. No, no old story it is. I think
Speaker 1: the other thing I noticed as well, especially like you mentioned,
Speaker 1: with the negative emotions and feeling the feelings, I actually
Speaker 1: noticed this one I did do it for you, for
Speaker 1: you yourself is that when a negative thing happens, sometimes
Speaker 1: I'll feel a way towards it, and then I'll feel
Speaker 1: ashamed of the feeling, so I don't feel the feeling,
Speaker 1: and like, if something minor will happen, then I'll get upset,
Speaker 1: and then I get ashamed that I'm upset about something
Speaker 1: that doesn't matter, and then I just don't deal with it.
Speaker 1: But then that emotion carries through like the next four months,
Speaker 1: and then I just keep getting triggered with tiny little
Speaker 1: things that don't matter, when I should have just nipped
Speaker 1: it in the butt in the first place. So I
Speaker 1: think that's also important to acknowledge, is that when things
Speaker 1: go wrong, you're going to feel ways, and even if
Speaker 1: it's quote unquote not a big thing that's gone wrong,
Speaker 1: you need to still honor your feelings and not be
Speaker 1: ashamed about them, because if you're ashamed and you bottle
Speaker 1: them up and you don't address them, then you're the
Speaker 1: only person losing out, Like it's not hurting anybody but you.
Speaker 1: And if you're sitting in the feeling of shame or
Speaker 1: guilt for having that feeling, you almost can't like dissolve
Speaker 1: that feeling, no, because it like goes in this loop. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Whereas that's what I was saying before of like, if
Speaker 1: you can shift that one gear higher of curiosity of
Speaker 1: why you went to shame even ye, or why you're
Speaker 1: feeling that feeling, you can shift out of it and
Speaker 1: you can almost kind of bring yourself out into a
Speaker 1: bird's eye few because when we are stuck in the
Speaker 1: I'm in this low vibe and then I feel shame
Speaker 1: for being in this low vibe, it very much keeps
Speaker 1: us there. Yeah, And it's then easy and it's really
Speaker 1: interesting because I didn't realize how much of my internal
Speaker 1: dialogue was shame me either. I didn't realize like, wow,
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm actually really driven by shame. And it's
Speaker 1: really interesting because then I then thought, oh wow, a
Speaker 1: lot of my success comes because I shame myself. But
Speaker 1: then I was like, no, that's not the vibe. And
Speaker 1: even if it did previously, I know I can always
Speaker 1: shift and it can like that's not the vibe because
Speaker 1: also that's not sustainable because if I'm feeling shame all
Speaker 1: the time and it's driving me, I'm still sitting in
Speaker 1: this low vibe. So I can then only attract things
Speaker 1: in this low vibe. It's like I might be getting,
Speaker 1: you know, quote on quote doing things because of the shame,
Speaker 1: but it's like it's not going to be sustainable because
Speaker 1: I need to like elevate. Yeah, and so I did
Speaker 1: notice so much of my internal dialogue being shame, and
Speaker 1: I think I think that's very normal for everyone. Yeah,
Speaker 1: for sure, if you even think about, like I grew
Speaker 1: up where we didn't really express our emotions, and you know,
Speaker 1: if you even think about the concept of a child,
Speaker 1: like when a baby cries, everyone wants that baby to
Speaker 1: stop crying. We see it as a bad thing that
Speaker 1: the baby is having an emotion. When I remember when
Speaker 1: Ivy first started getting colic and she cried all the time,
Speaker 1: it literally nearly drove me mad. And then I had
Speaker 1: so much shame and guilt because I thought I'm her mother,
Speaker 1: I should be able to stop her crying. And it
Speaker 1: wasn't until I had a doctor explained to me like obviously,
Speaker 1: like she was just fucking gone through shit. Yeah, internally,
Speaker 1: but also like a doctor was like, a baby crying
Speaker 1: isn't necessarily like a bad thing all the time. It's
Speaker 1: the only way they can express themselves, so of course
Speaker 1: they've got to cry because they've got to tell you
Speaker 1: what they need, but don't let it like trigger you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and also you can feed and change and then something is,
Speaker 1: you know, still wrong the baby's crying. The doctor was like,
Speaker 1: they also just might be getting out of motion, like
Speaker 1: I'm sure you have times where you just need to
Speaker 1: have a cry. So true, and I was like, wow,
Speaker 1: I never thought of it like that, And that was
Speaker 1: really pivotal when Ivy had colic, because of course I
Speaker 1: checked if she was okay, and I deal with the things,
Speaker 1: but also I could just sit in more of a
Speaker 1: neutral state and like not be so fucking dysregulated by
Speaker 1: her crying and actually just be there for her and
Speaker 1: have support and be like you can cry, it's okay,
Speaker 1: I've got you. Like, And that was really amazing for
Speaker 1: me personally because I had built up in my head
Speaker 1: of show emotion, shut it down, and we do that
Speaker 1: to ourselves. Yeah, well I fucking do that to myself,
Speaker 1: show emotion, shut it down. But if we don't let
Speaker 1: ourselves have that emotion, and like we kind of make
Speaker 1: ourselves wrong. We're like, oh, I feel like that it's wrong,
Speaker 1: and that was kind of the theme and the questions
Speaker 1: of like, I'm low vibe, I'm wrong, yeah, instead of
Speaker 1: could you shift that and be like, oh, i'm low vibe,
Speaker 1: I'm attracting certain things. Where can I actually shed light
Speaker 1: on this or see this as a lesson, see this
Speaker 1: as a moment of learning and a big thing too,
Speaker 1: I guess speaking on like, you know, the attracting the
Speaker 1: low vibes is if you don't learn the lesson, if
Speaker 1: you don't see the cookshit going on, or just like
Speaker 1: you know what's happening there, it's gonna keep coming in
Speaker 1: different ways. Yeah, And that's what a huge thing I
Speaker 1: noticed is when I went, oh, I'm gonna, you know,
Speaker 1: get uncomfortable, it literally came from every angle and I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, maybe not that uncomfortable, too fast fast,
Speaker 1: But it's like no, because this is like this is
Speaker 1: a moment where I'm building myself. Yeah. I love that
Speaker 1: so much. So what are your let's say, top three
Speaker 1: tips to someone who say is having those low vibe
Speaker 1: moments is potentially shaming themselves for feeling that way, because
Speaker 1: that was a very common theme in the questions, is
Speaker 1: that they felt guilty for feeling low vibe and also
Speaker 1: for them to be able to acknowledge their feelings but
Speaker 1: shift into a higher vibe so they're not attracting more
Speaker 1: bad things. Yeah. I want to just like stop you
Speaker 1: there though, because again I don't necessarily think if you're
Speaker 1: in a low vibe you're going to attract more low
Speaker 1: vibe things. I think if you're in a consistent low
Speaker 1: vibe Liken twenty four seven, yes, what your life will reflect. Yeah,
Speaker 1: But I also think too, don't get in the mentality
Speaker 1: of oh, I'm I've been in a low vibe for
Speaker 1: a week, so now the next week, I'm going to
Speaker 1: attract low vibe things. Yeah, because you can really, like
Speaker 1: if you think of even like quantum like realm vibes, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you can shift and quantum leaps things in a second.
Speaker 1: So even if you've been in a low vibe for
Speaker 1: you know, a week or a month or whatever, you
Speaker 1: can actually shift and go up here in a second.
Speaker 1: So like, don't let yourself be like, oh, well, of
Speaker 1: course I'm now going to have a bad week because
Speaker 1: I was in a bad mood last week. Because it's
Speaker 1: your belief that you're going to have a bad week
Speaker 1: that is going to attract it. So just be so
Speaker 1: careful of that belief. I just wanted to, yeah, put
Speaker 1: a bit in it. That's a good thing to put
Speaker 1: a bit in. Yes, But just notice that language there,
Speaker 1: because again, do you see how that is, Like that's
Speaker 1: a belief of oh, if I'm in a low vibe,
Speaker 1: going to attract more low vibe things. Yeah, you only
Speaker 1: will if you think you will. Yes. So it's almost
Speaker 1: like I'm in a low vibe. I give myself permission
Speaker 1: to be in a low vibe and it's not going
Speaker 1: to affect anything around me. Yep, I love that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've taken that way tears like that is mine. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's my new coll belief truly. Well, I think it's
Speaker 1: it's first of all, catching yourself, Yeah, in in the
Speaker 1: season where you're like, oh, I have actually been in
Speaker 1: a season where I have given a lot of responsibility away.
Speaker 1: So this thing happened to me. This person is doing
Speaker 1: this to me, that is happening to me. See even
Speaker 1: that like energy of like you're currently in a victim mentality, Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it's you know, you may have even been in
Speaker 1: it for a while and that's fine too, because it's
Speaker 1: like we often need to be in that to then
Speaker 1: see what the triggers and like the mirror is. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but just notice of like things that are happening around
Speaker 1: me in this situation. Am I really seeing this as
Speaker 1: you know, this is happening to me? Rather than a
Speaker 1: what lesson or what thing can I see here that
Speaker 1: I can actually use? I even think about it of
Speaker 1: like if you're going through life, it's like door Explorer vibes,
Speaker 1: and it's like you're picking up little things and you're
Speaker 1: putting them in your backpack of like learnings. I love
Speaker 1: that so much. Such a weird analogy. I don't know
Speaker 1: where that's I don't know. I actually used to watch it.
Speaker 1: I did. Do I look so good? Are you just
Speaker 1: seeing them around you? Being like, fuck, there's shit all
Speaker 1: around me, but you're not actually using it to your advantage? Yeah?
Speaker 1: So it's like just clock yourself there first of being like,
Speaker 1: oh I noticed that, So then I want you to
Speaker 1: really notice are you putting yourself into shame because you
Speaker 1: are in this low vibe or you're feeling these feelings.
Speaker 1: So a great example of this is when I was,
Speaker 1: you know, dealing with this whole relatability wound, I then
Speaker 1: had a whole heap of comments on Instagram that like
Speaker 1: popped up literally in the week, and I never, like,
Speaker 1: I never get shit comments. I really don't, like I
Speaker 1: have the most amazing community, and I also like, am
Speaker 1: not really in my dms, but I never get that
Speaker 1: sort of stuff. And it's so interesting because when I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I'm gonna unpack this relatability wound, and
Speaker 1: then like literally three comments came up bam, bam, bam,
Speaker 1: all triggered the fuck out of me. And it's like
Speaker 1: I could have gone into a spiral of no, but
Speaker 1: I need to be you know, relatable, like these people
Speaker 1: are literally and one of the comments literally said the
Speaker 1: words you used to be relatable. I was like, wow,
Speaker 1: life happens, Bobby, And it's like noticing and being very
Speaker 1: like present in the am I going to go to
Speaker 1: And because the whole vibe with this is like I
Speaker 1: thought I was someone who was like over the negative
Speaker 1: comments thing like I'm like, I thought i'd like dissolve that,
Speaker 1: and now it's like and then you felt shame for
Speaker 1: being triggered about the comments, and then I got triggered,
Speaker 1: and then I had shame because I got triggered because
Speaker 1: I was like, I thought I was over this. I
Speaker 1: fucking teach on this, and why am I even bothered
Speaker 1: by this? You know? But then do you see that
Speaker 1: that's shame? Yeah. So it's like could you then see
Speaker 1: me going on a fucking downward spiral?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: So first of all, I had to catch myself and
Speaker 1: be like, this is a human experience. I'm actually also
Speaker 1: asked for this experience because I'm trying to build her.
Speaker 1: So I'm actually just gonna take a step back and
Speaker 1: not do the shame thing. So it's like, it doesn't
Speaker 1: matter if I thought I had been past this, It
Speaker 1: doesn't matter. Even if I have teachings on this, Like,
Speaker 1: that doesn't matter. I'm not doing the shame thing. Able
Speaker 1: to take Like, if you're wanting to go one step higher,
Speaker 1: I always say gone to curiosity. Yeah. So and it's
Speaker 1: good because that's not you know, that doesn't feel like
Speaker 1: you have to be fake happy now. No, literally, just
Speaker 1: going into so interesting why did that comment trigger me? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Or so interesting? Why did I get quite angry at
Speaker 1: Tim when he asked me about that thing? Or so interesting?
Speaker 1: I actually notice, you know when I do this, that happens,
Speaker 1: or and then just taking a step back, not shaming
Speaker 1: yourself for acting that way or reacting that way, and
Speaker 1: then just being like, oh, I wonder if anything's here.
Speaker 1: And also what I do is like I literally like
Speaker 1: will write it down a bit. I was just about
Speaker 1: to say, I need to start carrying a bloody book
Speaker 1: around because it happens so much, and then by the
Speaker 1: end of the day you'll forget some of the things
Speaker 1: that you want to just keep happening. Yeah, So it's
Speaker 1: almost see it, write it down, put it in your
Speaker 1: notes or whatever, and if you can't unpack it in
Speaker 1: that moment, and then it's like I just have that
Speaker 1: because also what you don't realize is you'll notice and fuck,
Speaker 1: since I've started doing so like deeper shadow work, I
Speaker 1: noticed the same pattern and reactivity I have with Tim,
Speaker 1: I have with Cooper, I have with my parents, like
Speaker 1: I am in and it's like it plays out in
Speaker 1: different ways. Yeah, but if I actually get to the
Speaker 1: root of why I reacted that way or felt that way,
Speaker 1: I'm actually in such a pattern and we all do this.
Speaker 1: So it's all it's kind of being like, even like,
Speaker 1: where is this showing up in my life in a
Speaker 1: different way? And that's The thing is, see how I
Speaker 1: just shifted into curiosity there, Yeah, and that just puts
Speaker 1: yourself in that higher vibe and then you're able to
Speaker 1: And that's the thing too, is it's not like fucking
Speaker 1: all day I'm like, oh, how did that trigger me?
Speaker 1: Fucking write it down and do a whole process on it. Literally,
Speaker 1: awareness is such a tool to just bring it out
Speaker 1: of bringing it to that higher level. And also I
Speaker 1: very much like trust life, like myself and my evolution,
Speaker 1: if that makes sense. Yeah, so I trust if I'm
Speaker 1: constantly stepping into awareness, things are going to not like
Speaker 1: naturally unravel figure themselves out and figure themselves out because
Speaker 1: I'm no longer here and in the shame and the guilt,
Speaker 1: I've actually just stepped up, So of course naturally things
Speaker 1: are now going to be on this frequency. So it's
Speaker 1: almost like even if you're not quantum leaping up, you're
Speaker 1: like slowly climbing the little mountain. Yeah, that and that
Speaker 1: is going to be And especially if you're doing that,
Speaker 1: like with you know, every single thing, even after the thing,
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be before the think. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: what you'll notice is then it's going to start being
Speaker 1: before you react so now I know. Now I can,
Speaker 1: like because I did the whole awareness after awareness after
Speaker 1: awareness after Now I'm even getting glimpses of awareness before
Speaker 1: and I make a different action and that do you
Speaker 1: see that transition? But I had to do this first,
Speaker 1: and then now I'm like, oh, I actually can like rarely,
Speaker 1: very rarely. But it's like I'm naturally just making you know,
Speaker 1: a progression and it's nothing crazy, it's nothing crazy. I
Speaker 1: love that so much. And it's like I'm just like
Speaker 1: trusting myself that I'm like figuring it out and I'm
Speaker 1: moving onto a different frequency. So that's a huge thing
Speaker 1: of like I would just be stepping into curiosity and
Speaker 1: awareness and just like watch things like unravel. And then
Speaker 1: I think also even if you think of like if
Speaker 1: we're talking vibrations and frequency of if you go from
Speaker 1: oh my god, this bad thing is happening to me
Speaker 1: to what could this be teaching me, and then that
Speaker 1: step up is, oh, I'm actually so grateful, like if
Speaker 1: I you know, let's just go back to the common example, Oh,
Speaker 1: I'm actually so grateful for this comment because it has
Speaker 1: actually shown me that I don't want to be relatable
Speaker 1: and I no longer have to identify and I actually
Speaker 1: get to leave that story behind because I'm actually going upwards.
Speaker 1: And it's like, oh, thank you so much. That happened
Speaker 1: to me with boundaries as I wanted firmer boundaries and things,
Speaker 1: and then people just started asking from this shit that
Speaker 1: I didn't want to do, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: now I get to test my boundary skill. And then
Speaker 1: shifting into that just made it so much easier to
Speaker 1: put the boundaries in place, rather than going, like I
Speaker 1: just said, I wanted to work on my boundaries, and
Speaker 1: now all these people were and all these things against
Speaker 1: my boundaries, and it's just like, no, like this is
Speaker 1: an opportunity to show myself that I can do it
Speaker 1: and it is easy, yes, rather than going, oh, like
Speaker 1: I said, I wanted to work on it and now
Speaker 1: it's hard. Yeah, but it's not. It's easy, and it's
Speaker 1: the opportunity so that next time it happens, it's not
Speaker 1: even going to be a thing in my head of
Speaker 1: like this is a boundary. It's just like this is
Speaker 1: how I am. And no. And you know what's great
Speaker 1: about that, Attia is even taking because if you think
Speaker 1: about it, we this episode, we have really spoken about,
Speaker 1: you know, us wanting to strengthen something and then something happens.
Speaker 1: But if you even turn like shift that and a
Speaker 1: lot of people would be experiencing why didn't fucking ask
Speaker 1: for this thing and this thing happened? Is what's in
Speaker 1: that thing that you can reflect to yourself of where
Speaker 1: maybe you're you know, let's say it's boundaries or your
Speaker 1: standards or like integrity to what you say you are
Speaker 1: is being tested, because that's also showing you an amazing
Speaker 1: thing that you get to work on. Yeah, it's always
Speaker 1: gonna you know, it's always gonna reflect and let's just
Speaker 1: you know, take it back. Let's say I hadn't asked,
Speaker 1: you know, to work on relatability, and I got that
Speaker 1: comment of like taking it back and being like, oh wow,
Speaker 1: it's so funny. I'm actually out of integrity with I say.
Speaker 1: I'm someone who doesn't you know, care what people think,
Speaker 1: and I'm an expander, but I actually still have this
Speaker 1: story about I want to be relatable to my audience
Speaker 1: so they like me. So see how I could actually
Speaker 1: you know, twist it around there and be like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is actually something I want to go deeper. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it's sometimes really hard because we are blinded by
Speaker 1: the pain the sadness, And that's why I think it's
Speaker 1: so important to feel the feelings yea, and sometimes like
Speaker 1: not go Like, for example, when I had my miscarriage,
Speaker 1: I wasn't like, what's the lesson in this? Like you?
Speaker 1: I mean, I was fucking sad, Yeah, And I think
Speaker 1: that's really important to sit in that feeling and really
Speaker 1: like and also not shame yourself about sitting in that feeling. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And then that was actually like, oh, In one of
Speaker 1: the live calls, I answered a question of the one
Speaker 1: of the girls was saying she's going through a breakup
Speaker 1: and it's like half the days she feels like really
Speaker 1: really sad, but then she's like I should be over this,
Speaker 1: And then half the days she feels like she's getting
Speaker 1: over it, but then she's like should I be sadder?
Speaker 1: And I was like, do you see how every single like,
Speaker 1: no matter what emotion you're having, you're feeling guilty. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're feeling guilty, and you're like not letting yourself literally
Speaker 1: just have that emotion. Like I think if you literally
Speaker 1: let yourself and have that emotion, you're actually gonna be
Speaker 1: able to transcend and fucking get over. It's so much
Speaker 1: easier then having that emotion and then questioning yourself for
Speaker 1: having that emotion. Yeah, because you're not letting the emotion
Speaker 1: do its thing like emotions naturally want to move through us,
Speaker 1: be in us, and then release, and it's like you're
Speaker 1: not letting yourself doing that. So it's trying to come
Speaker 1: in every day and then you're stopping it. So it's
Speaker 1: like you're actually limiting yourself from transcending this because you
Speaker 1: can't feel the feeling. That's so true. You're making yourself
Speaker 1: wrong for feeling the feeling, not me making you notice
Speaker 1: something I have done that. I love that. This is
Speaker 1: like just personal therapy. This is what this podcast has ad.
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