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Speaker 1: our respects to elders past, present and emerging, and extend

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Speaker 1: that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today,

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Speaker 1: I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, and this is the Rise

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Speaker 1: and Conquer podcast. This is the podcast where which have mindset,

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Speaker 1: a lot of laughs, plus behind the scenes of my

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Speaker 1: life running two businesses and being among Think of us

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Speaker 1: as the perfect combo of brunch with your besties mixed

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Speaker 1: we're here to help you be curious, pull yourself out,

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Speaker 1: and embrace radical self awareness. If you're ready to get

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Speaker 1: Hi everybody, and welcome to the RNC Potty. Happy Friday

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Speaker 1: and Happy Easter. Happy long weekend, Tier. I know I

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Speaker 1: love long weekends. This is like a long, long week

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Speaker 1: so true, weather starts to get a bit crispy. It's

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Speaker 1: So true. And I feel like it's interesting because every

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Speaker 1: And ps, guys, if you're not in the RNC Facebook group,

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Speaker 1: that's when we like have a lot of discussion. That's

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Speaker 1: In those moments where the universe is really testing you,

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Speaker 1: that season. That is so huge because if you bypass

428
00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:05,720
Speaker 1: those that are just going to come back in a

429
00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:09,080
Speaker 1: different way, in some other fuck toxic way. Yep. So

430
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:11,400
Speaker 1: you need to feel them, you need to go through it.

431
00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:15,120
Speaker 1: But also you will notice there is a point then

432
00:25:15,280 --> 00:25:19,000
Speaker 1: where you're kind of like, all right, I've been feeling

433
00:25:19,040 --> 00:25:22,440
Speaker 1: the feelings, I've been doing the things, but also how

434
00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:25,320
Speaker 1: do I want to move forward? And that's where you

435
00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:28,880
Speaker 1: get to make the decision of am I going to

436
00:25:29,119 --> 00:25:33,479
Speaker 1: keep playing in I think like the victim mentality is

437
00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:36,000
Speaker 1: like maybe a bit brutal here, but it's like, am

438
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:39,000
Speaker 1: I going to keep playing in the Oh my god,

439
00:25:39,320 --> 00:25:42,159
Speaker 1: bad shit just keeps happening to me? Or this is

440
00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:46,040
Speaker 1: you know, so shit and the opposite to life happens

441
00:25:46,040 --> 00:25:48,280
Speaker 1: for me. Yeah, am I going to keep playing in

442
00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:51,400
Speaker 1: that frequency? Or am I actually going to step into

443
00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:55,760
Speaker 1: a different frequency of I actually get to use this

444
00:25:56,359 --> 00:25:59,520
Speaker 1: and I actually get to build the person I want

445
00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:02,680
Speaker 1: to be. Because even if you think about it, I've

446
00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:05,040
Speaker 1: said this a lot, and like I've been fucking really

447
00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:08,800
Speaker 1: hone in and on this and my captions of you know,

448
00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:12,239
Speaker 1: when things are easy, it's so easy to show up

449
00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:15,480
Speaker 1: as your best self so eat, when things are flowing

450
00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:17,600
Speaker 1: a line, it's so easy to go and do the

451
00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:20,800
Speaker 1: thing and be confident. And when you're getting all this

452
00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 1: positive feedback, and it's like, it's so easy to do

453
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:27,479
Speaker 1: the thing and show up as that person that you

454
00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:29,960
Speaker 1: know you and vision, but it's like, how are you

455
00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:34,200
Speaker 1: showing up when things aren't easy? Because that is such

456
00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:37,480
Speaker 1: a huge thing that I've been thinking about of. Oh,

457
00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:39,440
Speaker 1: you know, the gym is just such an easy example

458
00:26:39,480 --> 00:26:41,840
Speaker 1: of like when you're fucking feeling tired and when you're

459
00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:45,480
Speaker 1: feeling shit, like do you just sleep in? Yeah, because

460
00:26:45,520 --> 00:26:49,879
Speaker 1: then that is going to tell your brain what you

461
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:53,760
Speaker 1: do once things get hard, And basically when things get

462
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:57,320
Speaker 1: hard is like it's you to the core, it's actually you,

463
00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:01,159
Speaker 1: because when things are easy, you can be your highest

464
00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:03,640
Speaker 1: version of yourself. Of course you can. It's not hard,

465
00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 1: it's not hard. But when things are hard, that's actually

466
00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 1: when you get to show up as you're most authentic you.

467
00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:16,600
Speaker 1: So how you showing up? Do you love that you

468
00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:19,280
Speaker 1: feel like every episode is directed at you? I look

469
00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:22,520
Speaker 1: into your eyes? And then the gym example gets me

470
00:27:23,760 --> 00:27:26,880
Speaker 1: an I'm going as I to say, don't lean into

471
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:29,680
Speaker 1: that shit. No, no old story it is. I think

472
00:27:29,720 --> 00:27:32,480
Speaker 1: the other thing I noticed as well, especially like you mentioned,

473
00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:36,719
Speaker 1: with the negative emotions and feeling the feelings, I actually

474
00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:38,440
Speaker 1: noticed this one I did do it for you, for

475
00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:42,120
Speaker 1: you yourself is that when a negative thing happens, sometimes

476
00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:44,640
Speaker 1: I'll feel a way towards it, and then I'll feel

477
00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:47,199
Speaker 1: ashamed of the feeling, so I don't feel the feeling,

478
00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:51,399
Speaker 1: and like, if something minor will happen, then I'll get upset,

479
00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:54,080
Speaker 1: and then I get ashamed that I'm upset about something

480
00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:57,239
Speaker 1: that doesn't matter, and then I just don't deal with it.

481
00:27:57,320 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 1: But then that emotion carries through like the next four months,

482
00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:03,480
Speaker 1: and then I just keep getting triggered with tiny little

483
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 1: things that don't matter, when I should have just nipped

484
00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:07,399
Speaker 1: it in the butt in the first place. So I

485
00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:11,439
Speaker 1: think that's also important to acknowledge, is that when things

486
00:28:11,520 --> 00:28:14,280
Speaker 1: go wrong, you're going to feel ways, and even if

487
00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:17,639
Speaker 1: it's quote unquote not a big thing that's gone wrong,

488
00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:20,359
Speaker 1: you need to still honor your feelings and not be

489
00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:26,320
Speaker 1: ashamed about them, because if you're ashamed and you bottle

490
00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:28,800
Speaker 1: them up and you don't address them, then you're the

491
00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:32,600
Speaker 1: only person losing out, Like it's not hurting anybody but you.

492
00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 1: And if you're sitting in the feeling of shame or

493
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:41,640
Speaker 1: guilt for having that feeling, you almost can't like dissolve

494
00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:45,360
Speaker 1: that feeling, no, because it like goes in this loop. Yeah,

495
00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:47,640
Speaker 1: Whereas that's what I was saying before of like, if

496
00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 1: you can shift that one gear higher of curiosity of

497
00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:54,520
Speaker 1: why you went to shame even ye, or why you're

498
00:28:54,520 --> 00:28:57,200
Speaker 1: feeling that feeling, you can shift out of it and

499
00:28:57,240 --> 00:29:00,200
Speaker 1: you can almost kind of bring yourself out into a

500
00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:04,880
Speaker 1: bird's eye few because when we are stuck in the

501
00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 1: I'm in this low vibe and then I feel shame

502
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:11,480
Speaker 1: for being in this low vibe, it very much keeps

503
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:15,400
Speaker 1: us there. Yeah, And it's then easy and it's really

504
00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 1: interesting because I didn't realize how much of my internal

505
00:29:19,600 --> 00:29:26,360
Speaker 1: dialogue was shame me either. I didn't realize like, wow,

506
00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:30,160
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm actually really driven by shame. And it's

507
00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:34,959
Speaker 1: really interesting because then I then thought, oh wow, a

508
00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:37,960
Speaker 1: lot of my success comes because I shame myself. But

509
00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:41,040
Speaker 1: then I was like, no, that's not the vibe. And

510
00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:45,200
Speaker 1: even if it did previously, I know I can always

511
00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:48,680
Speaker 1: shift and it can like that's not the vibe because

512
00:29:48,680 --> 00:29:52,080
Speaker 1: also that's not sustainable because if I'm feeling shame all

513
00:29:52,080 --> 00:29:54,400
Speaker 1: the time and it's driving me, I'm still sitting in

514
00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:57,800
Speaker 1: this low vibe. So I can then only attract things

515
00:29:57,800 --> 00:30:01,480
Speaker 1: in this low vibe. It's like I might be getting,

516
00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:05,240
Speaker 1: you know, quote on quote doing things because of the shame,

517
00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 1: but it's like it's not going to be sustainable because

518
00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 1: I need to like elevate. Yeah, and so I did

519
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:16,120
Speaker 1: notice so much of my internal dialogue being shame, and

520
00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 1: I think I think that's very normal for everyone. Yeah,

521
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:21,560
Speaker 1: for sure, if you even think about, like I grew

522
00:30:21,640 --> 00:30:25,760
Speaker 1: up where we didn't really express our emotions, and you know,

523
00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:27,959
Speaker 1: if you even think about the concept of a child,

524
00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 1: like when a baby cries, everyone wants that baby to

525
00:30:33,280 --> 00:30:36,520
Speaker 1: stop crying. We see it as a bad thing that

526
00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:39,160
Speaker 1: the baby is having an emotion. When I remember when

527
00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:41,920
Speaker 1: Ivy first started getting colic and she cried all the time,

528
00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:45,360
Speaker 1: it literally nearly drove me mad. And then I had

529
00:30:45,640 --> 00:30:48,800
Speaker 1: so much shame and guilt because I thought I'm her mother,

530
00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:51,840
Speaker 1: I should be able to stop her crying. And it

531
00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:55,400
Speaker 1: wasn't until I had a doctor explained to me like obviously,

532
00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:58,240
Speaker 1: like she was just fucking gone through shit. Yeah, internally,

533
00:30:58,400 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 1: but also like a doctor was like, a baby crying

534
00:31:01,720 --> 00:31:05,800
Speaker 1: isn't necessarily like a bad thing all the time. It's

535
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 1: the only way they can express themselves, so of course

536
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:12,080
Speaker 1: they've got to cry because they've got to tell you

537
00:31:12,160 --> 00:31:16,360
Speaker 1: what they need, but don't let it like trigger you. Yeah,

538
00:31:16,400 --> 00:31:21,239
Speaker 1: and also you can feed and change and then something is,

539
00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:24,520
Speaker 1: you know, still wrong the baby's crying. The doctor was like,

540
00:31:25,040 --> 00:31:27,520
Speaker 1: they also just might be getting out of motion, like

541
00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:29,720
Speaker 1: I'm sure you have times where you just need to

542
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:34,160
Speaker 1: have a cry. So true, and I was like, wow,

543
00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:37,240
Speaker 1: I never thought of it like that, And that was

544
00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:41,240
Speaker 1: really pivotal when Ivy had colic, because of course I

545
00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:43,200
Speaker 1: checked if she was okay, and I deal with the things,

546
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:46,280
Speaker 1: but also I could just sit in more of a

547
00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:49,800
Speaker 1: neutral state and like not be so fucking dysregulated by

548
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:52,840
Speaker 1: her crying and actually just be there for her and

549
00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:55,680
Speaker 1: have support and be like you can cry, it's okay,

550
00:31:55,800 --> 00:31:59,080
Speaker 1: I've got you. Like, And that was really amazing for

551
00:31:59,160 --> 00:32:02,560
Speaker 1: me personally because I had built up in my head

552
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:05,680
Speaker 1: of show emotion, shut it down, and we do that

553
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:08,360
Speaker 1: to ourselves. Yeah, well I fucking do that to myself,

554
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:11,960
Speaker 1: show emotion, shut it down. But if we don't let

555
00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 1: ourselves have that emotion, and like we kind of make

556
00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:20,600
Speaker 1: ourselves wrong. We're like, oh, I feel like that it's wrong,

557
00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:22,440
Speaker 1: and that was kind of the theme and the questions

558
00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:27,000
Speaker 1: of like, I'm low vibe, I'm wrong, yeah, instead of

559
00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:29,680
Speaker 1: could you shift that and be like, oh, i'm low vibe,

560
00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:33,080
Speaker 1: I'm attracting certain things. Where can I actually shed light

561
00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:35,520
Speaker 1: on this or see this as a lesson, see this

562
00:32:35,600 --> 00:32:39,920
Speaker 1: as a moment of learning and a big thing too,

563
00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 1: I guess speaking on like, you know, the attracting the

564
00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:47,280
Speaker 1: low vibes is if you don't learn the lesson, if

565
00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:50,719
Speaker 1: you don't see the cookshit going on, or just like

566
00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:54,360
Speaker 1: you know what's happening there, it's gonna keep coming in

567
00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:57,440
Speaker 1: different ways. Yeah, And that's what a huge thing I

568
00:32:57,640 --> 00:33:00,360
Speaker 1: noticed is when I went, oh, I'm gonna, you know,

569
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:05,160
Speaker 1: get uncomfortable, it literally came from every angle and I

570
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:11,040
Speaker 1: was like, oh, maybe not that uncomfortable, too fast fast,

571
00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:14,080
Speaker 1: But it's like no, because this is like this is

572
00:33:14,120 --> 00:33:17,880
Speaker 1: a moment where I'm building myself. Yeah. I love that

573
00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:21,400
Speaker 1: so much. So what are your let's say, top three

574
00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:26,160
Speaker 1: tips to someone who say is having those low vibe

575
00:33:26,160 --> 00:33:29,800
Speaker 1: moments is potentially shaming themselves for feeling that way, because

576
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:31,760
Speaker 1: that was a very common theme in the questions, is

577
00:33:31,800 --> 00:33:34,840
Speaker 1: that they felt guilty for feeling low vibe and also

578
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:38,200
Speaker 1: for them to be able to acknowledge their feelings but

579
00:33:38,360 --> 00:33:41,080
Speaker 1: shift into a higher vibe so they're not attracting more

580
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:44,840
Speaker 1: bad things. Yeah. I want to just like stop you

581
00:33:44,880 --> 00:33:50,120
Speaker 1: there though, because again I don't necessarily think if you're

582
00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:52,920
Speaker 1: in a low vibe you're going to attract more low

583
00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:57,000
Speaker 1: vibe things. I think if you're in a consistent low

584
00:33:57,080 --> 00:34:01,440
Speaker 1: vibe Liken twenty four seven, yes, what your life will reflect. Yeah,

585
00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:04,560
Speaker 1: But I also think too, don't get in the mentality

586
00:34:04,600 --> 00:34:06,480
Speaker 1: of oh, I'm I've been in a low vibe for

587
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:08,160
Speaker 1: a week, so now the next week, I'm going to

588
00:34:08,160 --> 00:34:11,239
Speaker 1: attract low vibe things. Yeah, because you can really, like

589
00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:14,640
Speaker 1: if you think of even like quantum like realm vibes, Yeah,

590
00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:17,720
Speaker 1: you can shift and quantum leaps things in a second.

591
00:34:18,400 --> 00:34:20,719
Speaker 1: So even if you've been in a low vibe for

592
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:22,839
Speaker 1: you know, a week or a month or whatever, you

593
00:34:22,880 --> 00:34:25,120
Speaker 1: can actually shift and go up here in a second.

594
00:34:26,000 --> 00:34:28,960
Speaker 1: So like, don't let yourself be like, oh, well, of

595
00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:32,320
Speaker 1: course I'm now going to have a bad week because

596
00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:34,600
Speaker 1: I was in a bad mood last week. Because it's

597
00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:36,479
Speaker 1: your belief that you're going to have a bad week

598
00:34:36,520 --> 00:34:39,080
Speaker 1: that is going to attract it. So just be so

599
00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 1: careful of that belief. I just wanted to, yeah, put

600
00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:43,640
Speaker 1: a bit in it. That's a good thing to put

601
00:34:43,640 --> 00:34:47,120
Speaker 1: a bit in. Yes, But just notice that language there,

602
00:34:47,160 --> 00:34:51,040
Speaker 1: because again, do you see how that is, Like that's

603
00:34:51,040 --> 00:34:53,920
Speaker 1: a belief of oh, if I'm in a low vibe,

604
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:56,520
Speaker 1: going to attract more low vibe things. Yeah, you only

605
00:34:56,600 --> 00:34:59,800
Speaker 1: will if you think you will. Yes. So it's almost

606
00:34:59,840 --> 00:35:02,240
Speaker 1: like I'm in a low vibe. I give myself permission

607
00:35:02,280 --> 00:35:03,839
Speaker 1: to be in a low vibe and it's not going

608
00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:07,879
Speaker 1: to affect anything around me. Yep, I love that. Yeah,

609
00:35:08,960 --> 00:35:11,960
Speaker 1: I've taken that way tears like that is mine. Yeah,

610
00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:16,719
Speaker 1: that's my new coll belief truly. Well, I think it's

611
00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:20,719
Speaker 1: it's first of all, catching yourself, Yeah, in in the

612
00:35:20,840 --> 00:35:24,880
Speaker 1: season where you're like, oh, I have actually been in

613
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:30,400
Speaker 1: a season where I have given a lot of responsibility away.

614
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 1: So this thing happened to me. This person is doing

615
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:38,080
Speaker 1: this to me, that is happening to me. See even

616
00:35:38,160 --> 00:35:42,680
Speaker 1: that like energy of like you're currently in a victim mentality, Yeah,

617
00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:45,080
Speaker 1: and it's you know, you may have even been in

618
00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:47,719
Speaker 1: it for a while and that's fine too, because it's

619
00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:50,839
Speaker 1: like we often need to be in that to then

620
00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:54,319
Speaker 1: see what the triggers and like the mirror is. Yeah,

621
00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:58,000
Speaker 1: but just notice of like things that are happening around

622
00:35:58,000 --> 00:36:01,320
Speaker 1: me in this situation. Am I really seeing this as

623
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:05,360
Speaker 1: you know, this is happening to me? Rather than a

624
00:36:05,400 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 1: what lesson or what thing can I see here that

625
00:36:09,719 --> 00:36:13,479
Speaker 1: I can actually use? I even think about it of

626
00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:17,200
Speaker 1: like if you're going through life, it's like door Explorer vibes,

627
00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:19,080
Speaker 1: and it's like you're picking up little things and you're

628
00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:22,399
Speaker 1: putting them in your backpack of like learnings. I love

629
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:25,160
Speaker 1: that so much. Such a weird analogy. I don't know

630
00:36:25,200 --> 00:36:30,439
Speaker 1: where that's I don't know. I actually used to watch it.

631
00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:33,440
Speaker 1: I did. Do I look so good? Are you just

632
00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:35,719
Speaker 1: seeing them around you? Being like, fuck, there's shit all

633
00:36:35,760 --> 00:36:39,919
Speaker 1: around me, but you're not actually using it to your advantage? Yeah?

634
00:36:39,960 --> 00:36:42,960
Speaker 1: So it's like just clock yourself there first of being like,

635
00:36:43,040 --> 00:36:46,759
Speaker 1: oh I noticed that, So then I want you to

636
00:36:47,960 --> 00:36:54,680
Speaker 1: really notice are you putting yourself into shame because you

637
00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:57,560
Speaker 1: are in this low vibe or you're feeling these feelings.

638
00:36:58,360 --> 00:37:01,799
Speaker 1: So a great example of this is when I was,

639
00:37:01,880 --> 00:37:05,960
Speaker 1: you know, dealing with this whole relatability wound, I then

640
00:37:06,080 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 1: had a whole heap of comments on Instagram that like

641
00:37:09,640 --> 00:37:12,319
Speaker 1: popped up literally in the week, and I never, like,

642
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:16,120
Speaker 1: I never get shit comments. I really don't, like I

643
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:19,960
Speaker 1: have the most amazing community, and I also like, am

644
00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:23,080
Speaker 1: not really in my dms, but I never get that

645
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:25,839
Speaker 1: sort of stuff. And it's so interesting because when I

646
00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:29,680
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I'm gonna unpack this relatability wound, and

647
00:37:29,719 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 1: then like literally three comments came up bam, bam, bam,

648
00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:35,560
Speaker 1: all triggered the fuck out of me. And it's like

649
00:37:36,000 --> 00:37:39,480
Speaker 1: I could have gone into a spiral of no, but

650
00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:42,400
Speaker 1: I need to be you know, relatable, like these people

651
00:37:42,400 --> 00:37:44,520
Speaker 1: are literally and one of the comments literally said the

652
00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:49,360
Speaker 1: words you used to be relatable. I was like, wow,

653
00:37:51,360 --> 00:37:55,920
Speaker 1: life happens, Bobby, And it's like noticing and being very

654
00:37:56,000 --> 00:37:59,759
Speaker 1: like present in the am I going to go to

655
00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:03,279
Speaker 1: And because the whole vibe with this is like I

656
00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:05,680
Speaker 1: thought I was someone who was like over the negative

657
00:38:05,719 --> 00:38:08,759
Speaker 1: comments thing like I'm like, I thought i'd like dissolve that,

658
00:38:08,840 --> 00:38:10,719
Speaker 1: and now it's like and then you felt shame for

659
00:38:10,800 --> 00:38:13,400
Speaker 1: being triggered about the comments, and then I got triggered,

660
00:38:13,520 --> 00:38:15,560
Speaker 1: and then I had shame because I got triggered because

661
00:38:15,560 --> 00:38:17,600
Speaker 1: I was like, I thought I was over this. I

662
00:38:17,640 --> 00:38:19,800
Speaker 1: fucking teach on this, and why am I even bothered

663
00:38:19,800 --> 00:38:22,399
Speaker 1: by this? You know? But then do you see that

664
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:25,680
Speaker 1: that's shame? Yeah. So it's like could you then see

665
00:38:25,760 --> 00:38:27,880
Speaker 1: me going on a fucking downward spiral?

666
00:38:28,080 --> 00:38:28,360
Speaker 2: Yeah?

667
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:30,000
Speaker 1: So first of all, I had to catch myself and

668
00:38:30,040 --> 00:38:33,120
Speaker 1: be like, this is a human experience. I'm actually also

669
00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:36,080
Speaker 1: asked for this experience because I'm trying to build her.

670
00:38:36,520 --> 00:38:38,879
Speaker 1: So I'm actually just gonna take a step back and

671
00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:42,000
Speaker 1: not do the shame thing. So it's like, it doesn't

672
00:38:42,000 --> 00:38:44,239
Speaker 1: matter if I thought I had been past this, It

673
00:38:44,239 --> 00:38:46,400
Speaker 1: doesn't matter. Even if I have teachings on this, Like,

674
00:38:46,480 --> 00:38:49,320
Speaker 1: that doesn't matter. I'm not doing the shame thing. Able

675
00:38:49,400 --> 00:38:52,600
Speaker 1: to take Like, if you're wanting to go one step higher,

676
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:55,680
Speaker 1: I always say gone to curiosity. Yeah. So and it's

677
00:38:55,680 --> 00:38:59,440
Speaker 1: good because that's not you know, that doesn't feel like

678
00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:02,960
Speaker 1: you have to be fake happy now. No, literally, just

679
00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:08,280
Speaker 1: going into so interesting why did that comment trigger me? Yeah?

680
00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:11,799
Speaker 1: Or so interesting? Why did I get quite angry at

681
00:39:11,840 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 1: Tim when he asked me about that thing? Or so interesting?

682
00:39:17,400 --> 00:39:22,120
Speaker 1: I actually notice, you know when I do this, that happens,

683
00:39:22,239 --> 00:39:25,240
Speaker 1: or and then just taking a step back, not shaming

684
00:39:25,280 --> 00:39:28,640
Speaker 1: yourself for acting that way or reacting that way, and

685
00:39:28,680 --> 00:39:31,520
Speaker 1: then just being like, oh, I wonder if anything's here.

686
00:39:32,080 --> 00:39:34,600
Speaker 1: And also what I do is like I literally like

687
00:39:34,680 --> 00:39:36,360
Speaker 1: will write it down a bit. I was just about

688
00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:38,239
Speaker 1: to say, I need to start carrying a bloody book

689
00:39:38,280 --> 00:39:41,320
Speaker 1: around because it happens so much, and then by the

690
00:39:41,400 --> 00:39:43,960
Speaker 1: end of the day you'll forget some of the things

691
00:39:43,960 --> 00:39:46,359
Speaker 1: that you want to just keep happening. Yeah, So it's

692
00:39:46,400 --> 00:39:48,799
Speaker 1: almost see it, write it down, put it in your

693
00:39:48,800 --> 00:39:50,920
Speaker 1: notes or whatever, and if you can't unpack it in

694
00:39:50,920 --> 00:39:53,480
Speaker 1: that moment, and then it's like I just have that

695
00:39:53,840 --> 00:39:58,120
Speaker 1: because also what you don't realize is you'll notice and fuck,

696
00:39:58,680 --> 00:40:01,839
Speaker 1: since I've started doing so like deeper shadow work, I

697
00:40:01,960 --> 00:40:05,880
Speaker 1: noticed the same pattern and reactivity I have with Tim,

698
00:40:06,160 --> 00:40:09,279
Speaker 1: I have with Cooper, I have with my parents, like

699
00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:12,799
Speaker 1: I am in and it's like it plays out in

700
00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:15,759
Speaker 1: different ways. Yeah, but if I actually get to the

701
00:40:15,880 --> 00:40:18,759
Speaker 1: root of why I reacted that way or felt that way,

702
00:40:19,239 --> 00:40:23,080
Speaker 1: I'm actually in such a pattern and we all do this.

703
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:26,960
Speaker 1: So it's all it's kind of being like, even like,

704
00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:28,880
Speaker 1: where is this showing up in my life in a

705
00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:32,600
Speaker 1: different way? And that's The thing is, see how I

706
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:36,080
Speaker 1: just shifted into curiosity there, Yeah, and that just puts

707
00:40:36,120 --> 00:40:39,480
Speaker 1: yourself in that higher vibe and then you're able to

708
00:40:39,960 --> 00:40:42,680
Speaker 1: And that's the thing too, is it's not like fucking

709
00:40:42,800 --> 00:40:45,719
Speaker 1: all day I'm like, oh, how did that trigger me?

710
00:40:45,800 --> 00:40:49,080
Speaker 1: Fucking write it down and do a whole process on it. Literally,

711
00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:54,600
Speaker 1: awareness is such a tool to just bring it out

712
00:40:54,760 --> 00:40:57,839
Speaker 1: of bringing it to that higher level. And also I

713
00:40:57,960 --> 00:41:02,680
Speaker 1: very much like trust life, like myself and my evolution,

714
00:41:02,880 --> 00:41:05,640
Speaker 1: if that makes sense. Yeah, so I trust if I'm

715
00:41:05,719 --> 00:41:09,960
Speaker 1: constantly stepping into awareness, things are going to not like

716
00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:14,520
Speaker 1: naturally unravel figure themselves out and figure themselves out because

717
00:41:14,520 --> 00:41:17,520
Speaker 1: I'm no longer here and in the shame and the guilt,

718
00:41:17,840 --> 00:41:21,120
Speaker 1: I've actually just stepped up, So of course naturally things

719
00:41:21,160 --> 00:41:23,719
Speaker 1: are now going to be on this frequency. So it's

720
00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:27,000
Speaker 1: almost like even if you're not quantum leaping up, you're

721
00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:30,880
Speaker 1: like slowly climbing the little mountain. Yeah, that and that

722
00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 1: is going to be And especially if you're doing that,

723
00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:37,080
Speaker 1: like with you know, every single thing, even after the thing,

724
00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:39,279
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be before the think. Yeah, but

725
00:41:39,320 --> 00:41:42,239
Speaker 1: what you'll notice is then it's going to start being

726
00:41:42,320 --> 00:41:46,919
Speaker 1: before you react so now I know. Now I can,

727
00:41:47,040 --> 00:41:50,799
Speaker 1: like because I did the whole awareness after awareness after

728
00:41:50,840 --> 00:41:55,320
Speaker 1: awareness after Now I'm even getting glimpses of awareness before

729
00:41:55,600 --> 00:41:59,600
Speaker 1: and I make a different action and that do you

730
00:41:59,640 --> 00:42:02,400
Speaker 1: see that transition? But I had to do this first,

731
00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:06,360
Speaker 1: and then now I'm like, oh, I actually can like rarely,

732
00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:12,480
Speaker 1: very rarely. But it's like I'm naturally just making you know,

733
00:42:12,719 --> 00:42:18,000
Speaker 1: a progression and it's nothing crazy, it's nothing crazy. I

734
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:20,400
Speaker 1: love that so much. And it's like I'm just like

735
00:42:20,719 --> 00:42:23,239
Speaker 1: trusting myself that I'm like figuring it out and I'm

736
00:42:23,280 --> 00:42:26,279
Speaker 1: moving onto a different frequency. So that's a huge thing

737
00:42:26,280 --> 00:42:29,000
Speaker 1: of like I would just be stepping into curiosity and

738
00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:33,080
Speaker 1: awareness and just like watch things like unravel. And then

739
00:42:33,120 --> 00:42:36,600
Speaker 1: I think also even if you think of like if

740
00:42:36,600 --> 00:42:41,440
Speaker 1: we're talking vibrations and frequency of if you go from

741
00:42:41,800 --> 00:42:43,960
Speaker 1: oh my god, this bad thing is happening to me

742
00:42:44,280 --> 00:42:47,520
Speaker 1: to what could this be teaching me, and then that

743
00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:52,160
Speaker 1: step up is, oh, I'm actually so grateful, like if

744
00:42:52,239 --> 00:42:54,799
Speaker 1: I you know, let's just go back to the common example, Oh,

745
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:58,719
Speaker 1: I'm actually so grateful for this comment because it has

746
00:42:58,760 --> 00:43:01,000
Speaker 1: actually shown me that I don't want to be relatable

747
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:04,800
Speaker 1: and I no longer have to identify and I actually

748
00:43:04,800 --> 00:43:09,160
Speaker 1: get to leave that story behind because I'm actually going upwards.

749
00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:13,000
Speaker 1: And it's like, oh, thank you so much. That happened

750
00:43:13,040 --> 00:43:17,880
Speaker 1: to me with boundaries as I wanted firmer boundaries and things,

751
00:43:18,120 --> 00:43:23,120
Speaker 1: and then people just started asking from this shit that

752
00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:26,680
Speaker 1: I didn't want to do, and I was like, oh,

753
00:43:26,880 --> 00:43:30,359
Speaker 1: now I get to test my boundary skill. And then

754
00:43:30,680 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 1: shifting into that just made it so much easier to

755
00:43:32,520 --> 00:43:34,839
Speaker 1: put the boundaries in place, rather than going, like I

756
00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:36,960
Speaker 1: just said, I wanted to work on my boundaries, and

757
00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:39,240
Speaker 1: now all these people were and all these things against

758
00:43:39,320 --> 00:43:41,640
Speaker 1: my boundaries, and it's just like, no, like this is

759
00:43:41,680 --> 00:43:44,920
Speaker 1: an opportunity to show myself that I can do it

760
00:43:44,960 --> 00:43:48,560
Speaker 1: and it is easy, yes, rather than going, oh, like

761
00:43:48,920 --> 00:43:50,560
Speaker 1: I said, I wanted to work on it and now

762
00:43:50,600 --> 00:43:54,040
Speaker 1: it's hard. Yeah, but it's not. It's easy, and it's

763
00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:56,880
Speaker 1: the opportunity so that next time it happens, it's not

764
00:43:56,920 --> 00:43:58,400
Speaker 1: even going to be a thing in my head of

765
00:43:58,440 --> 00:44:00,279
Speaker 1: like this is a boundary. It's just like this is

766
00:44:00,320 --> 00:44:03,359
Speaker 1: how I am. And no. And you know what's great

767
00:44:03,360 --> 00:44:06,200
Speaker 1: about that, Attia is even taking because if you think

768
00:44:06,239 --> 00:44:09,440
Speaker 1: about it, we this episode, we have really spoken about,

769
00:44:09,520 --> 00:44:12,760
Speaker 1: you know, us wanting to strengthen something and then something happens.

770
00:44:12,800 --> 00:44:16,080
Speaker 1: But if you even turn like shift that and a

771
00:44:16,120 --> 00:44:19,080
Speaker 1: lot of people would be experiencing why didn't fucking ask

772
00:44:19,160 --> 00:44:22,640
Speaker 1: for this thing and this thing happened? Is what's in

773
00:44:22,680 --> 00:44:27,160
Speaker 1: that thing that you can reflect to yourself of where

774
00:44:27,600 --> 00:44:30,799
Speaker 1: maybe you're you know, let's say it's boundaries or your

775
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:34,640
Speaker 1: standards or like integrity to what you say you are

776
00:44:35,040 --> 00:44:39,520
Speaker 1: is being tested, because that's also showing you an amazing

777
00:44:39,600 --> 00:44:42,000
Speaker 1: thing that you get to work on. Yeah, it's always

778
00:44:42,040 --> 00:44:45,319
Speaker 1: gonna you know, it's always gonna reflect and let's just

779
00:44:45,440 --> 00:44:47,520
Speaker 1: you know, take it back. Let's say I hadn't asked,

780
00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:50,120
Speaker 1: you know, to work on relatability, and I got that

781
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:52,920
Speaker 1: comment of like taking it back and being like, oh wow,

782
00:44:53,400 --> 00:44:57,000
Speaker 1: it's so funny. I'm actually out of integrity with I say.

783
00:44:57,160 --> 00:44:59,880
Speaker 1: I'm someone who doesn't you know, care what people think,

784
00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:03,799
Speaker 1: and I'm an expander, but I actually still have this

785
00:45:03,960 --> 00:45:06,600
Speaker 1: story about I want to be relatable to my audience

786
00:45:06,600 --> 00:45:10,360
Speaker 1: so they like me. So see how I could actually

787
00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:13,399
Speaker 1: you know, twist it around there and be like, oh,

788
00:45:13,480 --> 00:45:16,120
Speaker 1: this is actually something I want to go deeper. Yeah,

789
00:45:16,160 --> 00:45:21,319
Speaker 1: and it's sometimes really hard because we are blinded by

790
00:45:21,800 --> 00:45:25,799
Speaker 1: the pain the sadness, And that's why I think it's

791
00:45:25,840 --> 00:45:29,560
Speaker 1: so important to feel the feelings yea, and sometimes like

792
00:45:30,200 --> 00:45:32,320
Speaker 1: not go Like, for example, when I had my miscarriage,

793
00:45:32,360 --> 00:45:34,680
Speaker 1: I wasn't like, what's the lesson in this? Like you?

794
00:45:34,680 --> 00:45:37,480
Speaker 1: I mean, I was fucking sad, Yeah, And I think

795
00:45:37,560 --> 00:45:40,800
Speaker 1: that's really important to sit in that feeling and really

796
00:45:40,920 --> 00:45:44,960
Speaker 1: like and also not shame yourself about sitting in that feeling. Yeah,

797
00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:48,440
Speaker 1: And then that was actually like, oh, In one of

798
00:45:48,480 --> 00:45:52,359
Speaker 1: the live calls, I answered a question of the one

799
00:45:52,360 --> 00:45:54,680
Speaker 1: of the girls was saying she's going through a breakup

800
00:45:55,200 --> 00:45:58,920
Speaker 1: and it's like half the days she feels like really

801
00:45:58,960 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 1: really sad, but then she's like I should be over this,

802
00:46:01,880 --> 00:46:04,440
Speaker 1: And then half the days she feels like she's getting

803
00:46:04,480 --> 00:46:06,960
Speaker 1: over it, but then she's like should I be sadder?

804
00:46:07,360 --> 00:46:10,400
Speaker 1: And I was like, do you see how every single like,

805
00:46:10,520 --> 00:46:13,239
Speaker 1: no matter what emotion you're having, you're feeling guilty. Yeah,

806
00:46:13,280 --> 00:46:16,520
Speaker 1: you're feeling guilty, and you're like not letting yourself literally

807
00:46:16,600 --> 00:46:19,200
Speaker 1: just have that emotion. Like I think if you literally

808
00:46:19,239 --> 00:46:22,440
Speaker 1: let yourself and have that emotion, you're actually gonna be

809
00:46:22,480 --> 00:46:24,960
Speaker 1: able to transcend and fucking get over. It's so much

810
00:46:25,040 --> 00:46:28,200
Speaker 1: easier then having that emotion and then questioning yourself for

811
00:46:28,280 --> 00:46:31,080
Speaker 1: having that emotion. Yeah, because you're not letting the emotion

812
00:46:31,200 --> 00:46:35,160
Speaker 1: do its thing like emotions naturally want to move through us,

813
00:46:35,520 --> 00:46:37,759
Speaker 1: be in us, and then release, and it's like you're

814
00:46:37,760 --> 00:46:39,919
Speaker 1: not letting yourself doing that. So it's trying to come

815
00:46:39,960 --> 00:46:42,399
Speaker 1: in every day and then you're stopping it. So it's

816
00:46:42,440 --> 00:46:45,960
Speaker 1: like you're actually limiting yourself from transcending this because you

817
00:46:46,040 --> 00:46:49,240
Speaker 1: can't feel the feeling. That's so true. You're making yourself

818
00:46:49,280 --> 00:46:52,520
Speaker 1: wrong for feeling the feeling, not me making you notice

819
00:46:52,560 --> 00:46:56,400
Speaker 1: something I have done that. I love that. This is

820
00:46:56,480 --> 00:47:01,879
Speaker 1: like just personal therapy. This is what this podcast has ad.

821
00:47:02,080 --> 00:47:08,919
Speaker 1: You should be paying me. I've never heard you laugh

822
00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:20,440
Speaker 1: like on that note. Thanks guys, thank you so much

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00:47:20,440 --> 00:47:28,600
Speaker 1: for listening. Thank you so much for listening to another

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Speaker 1: episode of the Rise and Conquer podcast. If you enjoyed

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00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:35,560
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