1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,120 Speaker 1: I would like to acknowledge the traditional owners of the 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:06,560 Speaker 1: land on which this episode is being recorded, the Komboo 3 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:10,520 Speaker 1: Marry people. We pay our respects to elders past, present 4 00:00:10,560 --> 00:00:14,280 Speaker 1: and emerging and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and 5 00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:22,639 Speaker 1: Torres Strait Islander peoples. Today I'm your host, Georgie Stevenson, 6 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:30,200 Speaker 1: and this is the Rise and Conquer Podcast. This is 7 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:33,760 Speaker 1: the podcast where which have mindset, self development and becoming 8 00:00:33,920 --> 00:00:37,120 Speaker 1: your higher self mix soon with a lot of laughs, 9 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:40,320 Speaker 1: plus behind the scenes of my life running two businesses 10 00:00:40,440 --> 00:00:43,800 Speaker 1: and being among Think of us as the perfect combo 11 00:00:43,920 --> 00:00:47,440 Speaker 1: of brunch with your besties mixed with self development. No 12 00:00:47,520 --> 00:00:49,839 Speaker 1: matter where you are in your journey, We're here to 13 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:53,800 Speaker 1: help you be curious, pull yourself out, and embrace radical 14 00:00:53,920 --> 00:00:58,440 Speaker 1: self awareness. If you're ready to get into the driver's 15 00:00:58,480 --> 00:01:01,280 Speaker 1: seat of your own life and stop letting life pass 16 00:01:01,320 --> 00:01:09,160 Speaker 1: you by, then you're in the right place. Hello everybody, 17 00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:12,800 Speaker 1: Welcome back to the Rise and Conker Podcast. Today is 18 00:01:13,040 --> 00:01:16,399 Speaker 1: part three of our get Ready with Me for twenty 19 00:01:16,440 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 1: twenty four series. So in this series, guys, I am 20 00:01:19,520 --> 00:01:22,479 Speaker 1: taking you through some of the biggest lessons of twenty 21 00:01:22,520 --> 00:01:26,240 Speaker 1: twenty three. The reflections and I'm giving you my top 22 00:01:26,319 --> 00:01:29,800 Speaker 1: tips and exercises to help you get ready for the 23 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:32,759 Speaker 1: new year so we can all step into twenty twenty 24 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:37,039 Speaker 1: four excited and clear. So in this episode, we are 25 00:01:37,120 --> 00:01:40,759 Speaker 1: chatting about alignment and how to know when it's time 26 00:01:40,840 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 1: to realign. So in this episode, I'm going to help 27 00:01:43,959 --> 00:01:46,920 Speaker 1: you break down what actually alignment is, how you know 28 00:01:47,440 --> 00:01:50,000 Speaker 1: you're in it, how to navigate it, and I also 29 00:01:50,080 --> 00:01:53,240 Speaker 1: share with you why I actually get really excited when 30 00:01:53,280 --> 00:01:56,320 Speaker 1: I'm not in alignment because for me, it means there's 31 00:01:56,360 --> 00:01:59,000 Speaker 1: a shift and change coming. And I think when we 32 00:01:59,040 --> 00:02:02,480 Speaker 1: can really change our mindset and be excited about this, 33 00:02:02,960 --> 00:02:05,320 Speaker 1: we can embrace it and it doesn't have to be 34 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:09,399 Speaker 1: as bumpy as we all know that out of alignment 35 00:02:09,480 --> 00:02:12,240 Speaker 1: can feel. Being out of alignment can feel really hard, 36 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:14,840 Speaker 1: and being stuck or feeling like you know you've lost 37 00:02:14,840 --> 00:02:18,520 Speaker 1: your mojo is something that you shouldn't ignore. It's actually 38 00:02:18,560 --> 00:02:20,960 Speaker 1: just showing you something. It's trying to highlight something. So 39 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:23,120 Speaker 1: we're going to get into that in this episode. But 40 00:02:23,880 --> 00:02:29,120 Speaker 1: do it for your future self is currently fifty percent off. Guys. 41 00:02:29,120 --> 00:02:32,880 Speaker 1: This is our signature Clarity course. It has changed thousands 42 00:02:32,880 --> 00:02:36,000 Speaker 1: of women's lives. It is like, this is the course 43 00:02:36,040 --> 00:02:38,280 Speaker 1: to do at the end of the year, at a 44 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:42,040 Speaker 1: start of a new year. It is only seven modules. Well, 45 00:02:42,040 --> 00:02:44,760 Speaker 1: actually it's eight now I'll get to that in a second. 46 00:02:45,000 --> 00:02:49,079 Speaker 1: So it's seven working modules, seven days, thirty minutes a day. 47 00:02:49,240 --> 00:02:52,079 Speaker 1: We make it so easy for you and basically it's 48 00:02:52,120 --> 00:02:56,239 Speaker 1: going to give you the tools to really reflect, get clear, 49 00:02:56,680 --> 00:03:00,880 Speaker 1: and make a plan that is so specific for you 50 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:04,919 Speaker 1: for twenty twenty four that is actually going to light 51 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:08,640 Speaker 1: you up, fill up your soul cup and give you 52 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:12,800 Speaker 1: the tools to like navigate creating goals that are specific 53 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:15,240 Speaker 1: to you rather than just like making random goals not 54 00:03:15,280 --> 00:03:18,920 Speaker 1: achieving them feeling like crap. So also these tools are 55 00:03:18,960 --> 00:03:21,280 Speaker 1: then like you're going to use them throughout the whole year. 56 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:24,760 Speaker 1: And that's what we've actually added a bonus module and 57 00:03:25,000 --> 00:03:27,320 Speaker 1: this will come to you guys on date eighth, so 58 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:31,320 Speaker 1: John eighth. And it is a mini like do it 59 00:03:31,360 --> 00:03:34,680 Speaker 1: for your future self monthly. You could call it like 60 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:37,680 Speaker 1: a template a workbook. So it's going to give you 61 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:40,760 Speaker 1: the tools to implement this monthly. Because that was the 62 00:03:40,800 --> 00:03:44,200 Speaker 1: feedback is people are saying, like it's so hard to 63 00:03:44,320 --> 00:03:47,160 Speaker 1: like remember everything that happened, and you don't want to 64 00:03:47,160 --> 00:03:49,240 Speaker 1: get all the way within the year and think, fuck, 65 00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:52,240 Speaker 1: I wish I reflected a bit sooner. So we're going 66 00:03:52,320 --> 00:03:53,840 Speaker 1: to give you these tools so you can do this 67 00:03:53,880 --> 00:03:57,320 Speaker 1: every single month, which is so exciting. And guys, if 68 00:03:57,360 --> 00:04:00,200 Speaker 1: you proofsly bought do it for your future self, you'll 69 00:04:00,240 --> 00:04:03,800 Speaker 1: get this automatically added to your platform. Do not worry, 70 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:07,680 Speaker 1: we have you covered. But quickly a tear because I've 71 00:04:07,720 --> 00:04:10,480 Speaker 1: just rambled on a lot your weekly recommendation. 72 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:13,320 Speaker 2: Well not to sound like a broken record, but I 73 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:17,680 Speaker 2: copied you and I've done it for you, for you 74 00:04:17,720 --> 00:04:21,480 Speaker 2: yourself this past week, and you loved it. 75 00:04:21,640 --> 00:04:22,200 Speaker 1: Love that for you. 76 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:25,479 Speaker 2: I'm going on holidays this week and I wasn't sure 77 00:04:25,480 --> 00:04:27,039 Speaker 2: whether I wanted to do do it for you fut 78 00:04:27,040 --> 00:04:28,880 Speaker 2: yourself this side of the year or when I get 79 00:04:28,920 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 2: back in Jam. And after what you said about doing 80 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:35,560 Speaker 2: the reflections and working through it before jan first, that 81 00:04:35,760 --> 00:04:38,480 Speaker 2: got me really excited. And I redid it and I 82 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:40,599 Speaker 2: loved it, and I actually think I will do it 83 00:04:40,600 --> 00:04:42,560 Speaker 2: when I get back in Jam, just to see the 84 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:45,479 Speaker 2: difference and to see if anything else comes up. But 85 00:04:45,600 --> 00:04:47,920 Speaker 2: I really like having the time and space to like 86 00:04:48,279 --> 00:04:50,640 Speaker 2: take that extra day on a specific module if I 87 00:04:50,680 --> 00:04:53,120 Speaker 2: want to, because I feel like in Jen I really 88 00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:56,240 Speaker 2: love doing it the like every single day me too, 89 00:04:56,400 --> 00:04:58,960 Speaker 2: but now I just have that have had that little 90 00:04:58,960 --> 00:05:01,560 Speaker 2: bit more flexibility. So that's my wreck. If you have 91 00:05:01,720 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 2: bought JO for your future self and last year, redo 92 00:05:05,680 --> 00:05:08,400 Speaker 2: it now. If you are waiting for jan first because 93 00:05:08,400 --> 00:05:11,520 Speaker 2: it's your first time, totally understand, but maybe give module 94 00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:13,920 Speaker 2: one to go before the end of the year. I 95 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:17,920 Speaker 2: also loved doing module too, because that's the release of 96 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:21,680 Speaker 2: anything negative and I love that thought of leaving it 97 00:05:21,760 --> 00:05:24,600 Speaker 2: in this year and not carrying into the next year 98 00:05:24,640 --> 00:05:24,920 Speaker 2: at all. 99 00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:27,480 Speaker 1: I was about to say, did you feel lighter? 100 00:05:27,839 --> 00:05:28,760 Speaker 2: So much laughter? 101 00:05:28,880 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 1: You had like Dante seven and you were just like wow, 102 00:05:31,800 --> 00:05:34,960 Speaker 1: because you know what happens is. And I was actually 103 00:05:35,040 --> 00:05:38,200 Speaker 1: talking to Kate Jones about this because she religiously does 104 00:05:38,279 --> 00:05:40,560 Speaker 1: do it for your future self monthly and that's really 105 00:05:40,600 --> 00:05:42,960 Speaker 1: like why we have that bonus module because I think 106 00:05:42,960 --> 00:05:47,040 Speaker 1: it's so powerful, and she was saying it's so powerful 107 00:05:47,080 --> 00:05:48,920 Speaker 1: at the end of the month to reflect and see 108 00:05:48,960 --> 00:05:52,360 Speaker 1: what really sometimes kept you down, sometimes kept you low, 109 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:57,080 Speaker 1: and to acknowledge that and then release it and be 110 00:05:57,200 --> 00:06:00,159 Speaker 1: like you no longer have a hold over me. And 111 00:06:00,200 --> 00:06:03,160 Speaker 1: I think even seeing your growth in that is so beautiful. 112 00:06:03,160 --> 00:06:05,839 Speaker 1: And that's how you know, humans were meant to evolve. 113 00:06:05,920 --> 00:06:08,440 Speaker 1: That's literally what we're like olf, what we want to 114 00:06:08,480 --> 00:06:11,400 Speaker 1: do naturally. Yeah, And it's such a beautiful feeling to 115 00:06:11,440 --> 00:06:13,680 Speaker 1: be like, you know what, I've actually gone through so 116 00:06:13,839 --> 00:06:16,239 Speaker 1: much and I'm so proud of myself and I'm maybe 117 00:06:16,279 --> 00:06:18,359 Speaker 1: on a path that like I didn't think I would 118 00:06:18,360 --> 00:06:20,599 Speaker 1: be here, but I'm still so proud of myself that 119 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:23,360 Speaker 1: I'm here. Yeah, and now I'm gonna let this year go. 120 00:06:23,880 --> 00:06:24,920 Speaker 2: Yeah. I love that. 121 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:26,839 Speaker 1: It's so powerful. And even if you had a really 122 00:06:26,880 --> 00:06:29,200 Speaker 1: good year, yeah, I think letting the year go is 123 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:30,000 Speaker 1: so powerful. 124 00:06:30,360 --> 00:06:31,719 Speaker 2: And what is your rant? 125 00:06:31,839 --> 00:06:33,960 Speaker 1: So I remember last week I told you guys, I've 126 00:06:33,960 --> 00:06:36,719 Speaker 1: been really switching up my routine and giving myself that 127 00:06:36,839 --> 00:06:39,479 Speaker 1: hour of the day and it's like changing changing my life. 128 00:06:39,560 --> 00:06:42,320 Speaker 1: Not to be dramatic, but something new you've also been 129 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:45,880 Speaker 1: doing is I joined this new gym and it's super bougie. 130 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:48,159 Speaker 1: It's literally got like a bathhouse attached to it. 131 00:06:48,520 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 2: I love it. 132 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:53,400 Speaker 1: If I live down here, I joined, it's so beautiful. 133 00:06:53,560 --> 00:06:57,279 Speaker 1: It's called your native state. It's in like Kira on 134 00:06:57,360 --> 00:06:59,360 Speaker 1: the Gold Coast, if you guys know what that is. 135 00:07:00,360 --> 00:07:03,279 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. So they have like a bath house 136 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:05,680 Speaker 1: and so after your like gym class, you can do 137 00:07:05,720 --> 00:07:08,880 Speaker 1: like hot and cold plunges. And I've been doing that 138 00:07:08,960 --> 00:07:12,040 Speaker 1: only once a week because it's just like a you know, 139 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:15,640 Speaker 1: whole time thing. But it's amazing and it's like so 140 00:07:16,400 --> 00:07:19,000 Speaker 1: after it, you get the biggest like dope mean here 141 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:19,720 Speaker 1: and you're just like. 142 00:07:20,360 --> 00:07:22,600 Speaker 2: Whoa, So are you doing a cold plunge too? 143 00:07:23,240 --> 00:07:26,200 Speaker 1: Yeah? Honestly, are you shocked? Because I'm like, yeah, because 144 00:07:26,240 --> 00:07:29,480 Speaker 1: you very anti cold, anti cold. I put me in 145 00:07:29,520 --> 00:07:31,280 Speaker 1: a srnet all day every day. I could work in 146 00:07:31,320 --> 00:07:34,560 Speaker 1: his HORNA ye, fine, struggle with the cold and no, 147 00:07:34,640 --> 00:07:38,720 Speaker 1: I'm doing it. And I get the hype people, you know, 148 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:40,960 Speaker 1: they really hype it up. I'm like, oh yeah, but no, 149 00:07:41,080 --> 00:07:41,640 Speaker 1: I get it. 150 00:07:42,080 --> 00:07:43,960 Speaker 2: You do get the cold plunch? Yeah? 151 00:07:44,120 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 1: Are you gonna buy one? Maybe? I love that? So yeah, 152 00:07:49,520 --> 00:07:53,840 Speaker 1: I might be getting one for Christmas. We'll say, all right, 153 00:07:53,880 --> 00:08:04,440 Speaker 1: shall we get into this episode? Yes, In this episode, 154 00:08:04,680 --> 00:08:07,960 Speaker 1: I really just want to talk about how to get 155 00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:11,080 Speaker 1: back in alignment. I think it's really funny because this 156 00:08:11,160 --> 00:08:15,960 Speaker 1: is a concept that you have probably heard everywhere like alignment, 157 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:17,920 Speaker 1: and I just I want to say, for the record, 158 00:08:18,400 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 1: I've been talking about alignment for probably four years, and 159 00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:23,160 Speaker 1: now it feels like a bit of a hype word. 160 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:26,960 Speaker 1: Basically if you don't know what it means. It's basically 161 00:08:27,080 --> 00:08:31,280 Speaker 1: just getting to a vibe in your life where things 162 00:08:31,760 --> 00:08:34,840 Speaker 1: feel good, they feel flowy, and you feel like you know, 163 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:37,240 Speaker 1: when you wake up in the morning and you're like, oh, 164 00:08:37,240 --> 00:08:40,720 Speaker 1: I feel good, I feel like on point, I feel healthy, 165 00:08:41,280 --> 00:08:43,520 Speaker 1: I feel flowy. I kind of feel like this magic 166 00:08:44,080 --> 00:08:44,400 Speaker 1: for me. 167 00:08:44,800 --> 00:08:47,880 Speaker 2: Alignment also feels like every day is the same, Like 168 00:08:47,920 --> 00:08:50,480 Speaker 2: I'm not any more excited for the weekend than I 169 00:08:50,559 --> 00:08:51,640 Speaker 2: am for the week. 170 00:08:52,200 --> 00:08:53,080 Speaker 1: I love that. 171 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:56,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a cool concept. Yeah there's no Sunday blues. 172 00:08:56,840 --> 00:09:01,920 Speaker 1: Yes vibes. So in the last episode, if you haven't listened, 173 00:09:01,960 --> 00:09:04,480 Speaker 1: go and listen, because this series is really like one 174 00:09:04,640 --> 00:09:07,520 Speaker 1: an episode leading onto the other. And in the previous 175 00:09:07,559 --> 00:09:12,080 Speaker 1: episode we really spoke about this concept of pivoting and 176 00:09:12,160 --> 00:09:14,600 Speaker 1: like reasons why you feel like you need to pivot. 177 00:09:14,720 --> 00:09:18,000 Speaker 1: We gave you some really great questions, so highly recommend 178 00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:21,640 Speaker 1: you start there first. But we did start talking about 179 00:09:21,679 --> 00:09:25,760 Speaker 1: like realignment in the last part of the episode, and 180 00:09:25,800 --> 00:09:28,240 Speaker 1: we really just wanted to touch on it more and 181 00:09:28,360 --> 00:09:32,520 Speaker 1: expand on it more because it is a very interesting topic. 182 00:09:32,600 --> 00:09:35,920 Speaker 1: And I think sometimes people do get a little bit 183 00:09:36,640 --> 00:09:41,920 Speaker 1: messed up by alignment because they constantly almost like chase alignment. 184 00:09:41,960 --> 00:09:46,040 Speaker 1: They're constantly chasing the good feelings, the good vibes. But 185 00:09:46,240 --> 00:09:49,040 Speaker 1: what you don't realize is, and this is from a 186 00:09:49,080 --> 00:09:52,200 Speaker 1: manifesting lens, I want you guys to picture a circle, 187 00:09:52,800 --> 00:09:56,520 Speaker 1: and like at the top of the circle is the 188 00:09:56,679 --> 00:10:00,800 Speaker 1: vibes of like you're in flow, you're a track things, 189 00:10:00,880 --> 00:10:04,280 Speaker 1: you've got the right people, the right relationships, you're in 190 00:10:04,320 --> 00:10:07,920 Speaker 1: a vibe. You're feeling confident, and that's amazing. Let's just 191 00:10:07,920 --> 00:10:12,120 Speaker 1: call that like you're manifesting mojo. Life is great. So 192 00:10:12,600 --> 00:10:16,360 Speaker 1: what then happens is just like when things go up, 193 00:10:16,440 --> 00:10:20,960 Speaker 1: they must come down. Is then the pendulum swings and 194 00:10:21,080 --> 00:10:25,320 Speaker 1: down the bottom is where we come into the energy 195 00:10:25,559 --> 00:10:28,600 Speaker 1: of let's just say, out of alignment. So this is 196 00:10:28,679 --> 00:10:33,679 Speaker 1: where we get nudges of things aren't serving us, We're 197 00:10:33,679 --> 00:10:38,320 Speaker 1: feeling a lower vibration and whatnot. We you know, we're 198 00:10:38,520 --> 00:10:41,640 Speaker 1: entertaining certain things we don't want to entertain. Maybe we're 199 00:10:41,640 --> 00:10:44,360 Speaker 1: getting lessons, we're not listening to them. 200 00:10:44,440 --> 00:10:45,520 Speaker 2: And what most. 201 00:10:45,280 --> 00:10:50,160 Speaker 1: People don't realize is just what goes down must go up. 202 00:10:50,640 --> 00:10:53,640 Speaker 1: So it's just the natural state that you're about to 203 00:10:53,720 --> 00:10:57,680 Speaker 1: go up again. But what people do is when they're 204 00:10:57,720 --> 00:11:01,400 Speaker 1: in this lower vibe and out of alignment, they stay 205 00:11:01,520 --> 00:11:04,640 Speaker 1: in it because they don't realize it's just a part 206 00:11:04,760 --> 00:11:09,520 Speaker 1: of the flow. It's just this like natural rhythm of life. 207 00:11:09,640 --> 00:11:12,840 Speaker 1: And why they stay in it is because what happens 208 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:16,760 Speaker 1: when we're in this you know, lower vibration, is this 209 00:11:16,960 --> 00:11:20,320 Speaker 1: is when we get the nudges and lessons of what 210 00:11:20,520 --> 00:11:24,280 Speaker 1: needs to change. But most of us stay in victim 211 00:11:24,320 --> 00:11:26,920 Speaker 1: mentality of like, oh poor me, this is happening. Oh 212 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:30,200 Speaker 1: I'm not in alignment, blah blah blah, and we don't listen, 213 00:11:30,240 --> 00:11:32,280 Speaker 1: and then we don't change, and that's when we get 214 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:36,320 Speaker 1: stuck in that energy rather than getting the nudges and 215 00:11:36,360 --> 00:11:41,520 Speaker 1: getting those uncomfortable feelings, sitting in them, reflecting, moving through them, 216 00:11:41,679 --> 00:11:44,160 Speaker 1: and then you just move up again. Yeah, it's like 217 00:11:44,240 --> 00:11:47,760 Speaker 1: it's this beautiful cycle. Think of a circle. I'm doing 218 00:11:47,760 --> 00:11:49,520 Speaker 1: it with my hands, but you guys can't see me, 219 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:54,200 Speaker 1: and so it's this beautiful cycle, and so what goes 220 00:11:54,280 --> 00:11:56,800 Speaker 1: up must come down. So I love to look at 221 00:11:56,920 --> 00:11:59,439 Speaker 1: out of alignment like that. I don't see it as 222 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:02,400 Speaker 1: a bad thing. I just see it as a what 223 00:12:02,520 --> 00:12:05,840 Speaker 1: lessons do I need to learn? What are the things 224 00:12:05,880 --> 00:12:07,920 Speaker 1: that I need to move through? And also from a 225 00:12:08,000 --> 00:12:11,680 Speaker 1: manifesting lens, I very much see it as like, oh 226 00:12:11,880 --> 00:12:16,160 Speaker 1: what needs to shift here? Is it shame? Is it guilt? Like? 227 00:12:16,240 --> 00:12:19,440 Speaker 1: What's the emotion I need to work through to then 228 00:12:19,720 --> 00:12:21,599 Speaker 1: move my energy up? 229 00:12:21,960 --> 00:12:24,240 Speaker 2: I agree, and I think especially when you get to 230 00:12:24,280 --> 00:12:26,839 Speaker 2: that low point and you get stuck in that victim mentality, 231 00:12:26,920 --> 00:12:30,800 Speaker 2: it's so easy to quickly go like you said, poor me, 232 00:12:30,960 --> 00:12:33,520 Speaker 2: this is all my fault, I'm a failure, I'm this, 233 00:12:33,800 --> 00:12:36,600 Speaker 2: I'm that, and really talk down on yourself for I guess, 234 00:12:36,679 --> 00:12:40,679 Speaker 2: quote unquote ending up out of alignment. Yeah, but once 235 00:12:40,720 --> 00:12:44,200 Speaker 2: you accept that, no matter what you do, you will 236 00:12:44,240 --> 00:12:47,160 Speaker 2: feel those feelings, it's a lot easier to move through 237 00:12:47,200 --> 00:12:49,839 Speaker 2: them and not get stuck because you go cool, this 238 00:12:49,920 --> 00:12:51,840 Speaker 2: is a part where things feel a bit off. I 239 00:12:51,880 --> 00:12:54,600 Speaker 2: get to make some changes, I get to have some reflections, 240 00:12:54,600 --> 00:12:56,760 Speaker 2: because how am I going to improve if things are 241 00:12:56,800 --> 00:12:57,760 Speaker 2: always good? 242 00:12:58,160 --> 00:13:01,760 Speaker 1: Guys? Think of it. My husband he he's done a 243 00:13:01,800 --> 00:13:05,000 Speaker 1: lot of personal development lately, and he talks about this concept. 244 00:13:05,320 --> 00:13:07,720 Speaker 1: What was taught to him was like the hero's journey. 245 00:13:08,240 --> 00:13:11,720 Speaker 1: So if you think of any good movie ever, it's like, 246 00:13:12,400 --> 00:13:15,480 Speaker 1: you know, you see the hero go through a journey, 247 00:13:15,559 --> 00:13:18,080 Speaker 1: they go through the lesson, they go through the low 248 00:13:18,120 --> 00:13:20,439 Speaker 1: and then they come up and then you're like, yes, 249 00:13:20,800 --> 00:13:23,400 Speaker 1: go and you feel so proud of them they go 250 00:13:23,480 --> 00:13:25,839 Speaker 1: through that journey. Imagine if you watch a movie and 251 00:13:25,920 --> 00:13:27,880 Speaker 1: just like nothing happened. 252 00:13:27,559 --> 00:13:28,880 Speaker 2: It was just like good the whole time. 253 00:13:28,960 --> 00:13:32,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, you'd be like, this was the waste of two hours. Yeah, 254 00:13:32,200 --> 00:13:34,560 Speaker 1: Like what lesson did I learn? It's the exact same 255 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:37,000 Speaker 1: thing of life. So a big thing is like when 256 00:13:37,040 --> 00:13:39,120 Speaker 1: we are going through a low time or something's happening, 257 00:13:39,400 --> 00:13:43,000 Speaker 1: he always says, Babe, here's journey, here's journey. And he 258 00:13:43,120 --> 00:13:45,640 Speaker 1: reminds me and I'm like, yes, thank you. I am 259 00:13:45,640 --> 00:13:47,840 Speaker 1: the hero of my own story. I am the main character, 260 00:13:47,880 --> 00:13:50,400 Speaker 1: and I will move through this like what lesson? But 261 00:13:50,480 --> 00:13:52,400 Speaker 1: this is okay. So this is the bits that it's 262 00:13:52,440 --> 00:13:56,720 Speaker 1: gonna fuck you up if you don't learn the lesson, 263 00:13:57,679 --> 00:14:00,480 Speaker 1: It's going to keep happening to you. Yep, going to 264 00:14:00,600 --> 00:14:04,600 Speaker 1: keep attracting the same thing. It might be through different people, 265 00:14:04,840 --> 00:14:09,560 Speaker 1: different situations, And this is this is when you know 266 00:14:10,000 --> 00:14:12,920 Speaker 1: you haven't learned your lesson because it's this feeling and 267 00:14:12,960 --> 00:14:16,760 Speaker 1: I've done this. I was like, I've been here before. Yes, 268 00:14:16,880 --> 00:14:19,720 Speaker 1: I've been in this situation. This has happened, the same 269 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:22,720 Speaker 1: thing has happened. And that's when you know you're the 270 00:14:22,760 --> 00:14:26,680 Speaker 1: problem and you need to take ownership and you need 271 00:14:26,720 --> 00:14:28,280 Speaker 1: And that's the thing is if you want to stop 272 00:14:28,320 --> 00:14:32,440 Speaker 1: experiencing this thing, like, for example, if you have repetition 273 00:14:32,480 --> 00:14:36,360 Speaker 1: in your life, maybe it's you constantly attract shit friendships. 274 00:14:36,760 --> 00:14:40,000 Speaker 1: Maybe you can never get on top of your finances 275 00:14:40,120 --> 00:14:44,040 Speaker 1: or attract money. Maybe it's like you always attract fuck boys. 276 00:14:44,640 --> 00:14:49,440 Speaker 1: If the things keep happening like more than twice, there 277 00:14:49,640 --> 00:14:52,160 Speaker 1: is a point where you need to look at and 278 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:55,920 Speaker 1: take ownership of like how am I supporting this? How 279 00:14:55,920 --> 00:14:59,480 Speaker 1: am I not learning my lesson? How has this come 280 00:14:59,600 --> 00:15:02,600 Speaker 1: up so many times? And I haven't reflected, I haven't 281 00:15:02,640 --> 00:15:05,560 Speaker 1: moved through this, I haven't gotten help for this. Yeah, 282 00:15:05,600 --> 00:15:07,920 Speaker 1: that's a big point, and I think that's a really 283 00:15:07,960 --> 00:15:10,880 Speaker 1: interesting thing that no one talks about in self development. 284 00:15:11,080 --> 00:15:14,480 Speaker 2: What's been your most repetitive lesson or this is such. 285 00:15:14,360 --> 00:15:18,200 Speaker 1: A good one, and I haven't actually fully shifted it. 286 00:15:18,240 --> 00:15:21,040 Speaker 1: I'm aware of it, but I'm so happy to talk 287 00:15:21,080 --> 00:15:23,880 Speaker 1: about things I haven't shifted yet because that's juicy. So 288 00:15:24,200 --> 00:15:28,400 Speaker 1: my story is that I'm the driver. I've spoken about 289 00:15:28,400 --> 00:15:33,160 Speaker 1: this concept of like in you know, my relationship with Tim. 290 00:15:33,520 --> 00:15:36,160 Speaker 1: If I don't make date plans, we don't go on dates. 291 00:15:36,400 --> 00:15:40,840 Speaker 1: In my relationship with my businesses, if I'm not leading, 292 00:15:40,920 --> 00:15:44,240 Speaker 1: if I'm not like pushing and driving like this, like 293 00:15:44,840 --> 00:15:49,800 Speaker 1: king at war, nothing happens. We don't have success. If 294 00:15:49,880 --> 00:15:53,640 Speaker 1: I am not the one like reaching out to my friends, calling, 295 00:15:53,760 --> 00:15:58,640 Speaker 1: texting them, nothing happens. In every single aspect of my life. 296 00:15:58,720 --> 00:16:03,680 Speaker 1: The same story is on repeat. And I had awareness 297 00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:06,720 Speaker 1: of this probably at the start of the year. Wow, 298 00:16:06,800 --> 00:16:12,360 Speaker 1: and I've been like, oh, oh, this is amazing. Look 299 00:16:12,360 --> 00:16:15,400 Speaker 1: what I've created. Yeah, And that's the thing is my 300 00:16:15,560 --> 00:16:17,400 Speaker 1: nervous system is comfortable with that. 301 00:16:17,640 --> 00:16:17,880 Speaker 2: Yeah. 302 00:16:17,920 --> 00:16:21,040 Speaker 1: It lacks being control, it lacks being the driver. I 303 00:16:21,120 --> 00:16:25,480 Speaker 1: actually get so many benefits from this cycle. It's not 304 00:16:25,600 --> 00:16:28,640 Speaker 1: fucking funny. So of course I'm in the same cycle. 305 00:16:28,880 --> 00:16:31,040 Speaker 1: But the first step, and this is like getting into 306 00:16:31,040 --> 00:16:33,000 Speaker 1: a whole other episode. It's kind of like shadow work, 307 00:16:33,040 --> 00:16:36,320 Speaker 1: but the first step is awareness. So it's great that 308 00:16:36,360 --> 00:16:38,360 Speaker 1: I'm aware of it and then when I see it 309 00:16:38,440 --> 00:16:42,200 Speaker 1: acting out in certain scenarios so for example, I'm just 310 00:16:42,200 --> 00:16:44,440 Speaker 1: going on an attendant here. For example with me and 311 00:16:44,520 --> 00:16:49,760 Speaker 1: Tim is I have never surrendered so much to a 312 00:16:49,840 --> 00:16:55,040 Speaker 1: male in a relationship that I have with Tim this year. Wow, 313 00:16:55,080 --> 00:16:57,080 Speaker 1: And that's like, that's really big for me to say 314 00:16:57,200 --> 00:17:02,200 Speaker 1: because I very much held story of like, no, I 315 00:17:02,240 --> 00:17:04,800 Speaker 1: will not surrender like I am the driver, I am 316 00:17:04,880 --> 00:17:07,760 Speaker 1: like in charge. I am I am in charge. And 317 00:17:07,960 --> 00:17:10,359 Speaker 1: it's funny because him is such a fucking chill person 318 00:17:10,520 --> 00:17:12,400 Speaker 1: that that's always benefited him. 319 00:17:12,600 --> 00:17:12,879 Speaker 2: Yeah. 320 00:17:12,920 --> 00:17:15,280 Speaker 1: Do you see how you then attract people that it 321 00:17:15,400 --> 00:17:18,440 Speaker 1: benefits them and it keeps you in the same cycle. Yes, 322 00:17:18,640 --> 00:17:21,359 Speaker 1: So we have had to do so much work to 323 00:17:21,520 --> 00:17:26,240 Speaker 1: break that cycle in our relationship together, and Tim had 324 00:17:26,359 --> 00:17:28,760 Speaker 1: like and it's taken a lot of communication, it's taken 325 00:17:28,760 --> 00:17:31,399 Speaker 1: a lot of work together. We have both been seeing 326 00:17:31,480 --> 00:17:34,320 Speaker 1: someone to like, you know, work on it because in 327 00:17:34,400 --> 00:17:37,439 Speaker 1: the end of like, you're never going to truly feel 328 00:17:37,480 --> 00:17:41,199 Speaker 1: equal to someone that you think you control or you 329 00:17:41,359 --> 00:17:45,320 Speaker 1: drive and a relationship, it's so important that you feel equal. 330 00:17:45,440 --> 00:17:47,840 Speaker 1: So it's like that has been such a huge blind 331 00:17:47,880 --> 00:17:50,359 Speaker 1: spot in our relationship that we have been like working 332 00:17:50,400 --> 00:17:53,199 Speaker 1: on just to be very honest with you guys, the 333 00:17:53,240 --> 00:17:57,000 Speaker 1: exact same thing with like me and Cooper in the companies. Again, 334 00:17:57,080 --> 00:18:00,760 Speaker 1: it's like I have had to surrender and let go 335 00:18:01,040 --> 00:18:03,480 Speaker 1: a tea. You've probably seen how much I've surrendered with 336 00:18:03,520 --> 00:18:05,679 Speaker 1: the team compared to how I usually. 337 00:18:05,920 --> 00:18:07,960 Speaker 2: Even the fact that you've like gone on holidays is 338 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:10,000 Speaker 2: here and like not had your computer with you. It's 339 00:18:10,040 --> 00:18:10,840 Speaker 2: been a massive thing. 340 00:18:11,040 --> 00:18:16,320 Speaker 1: Crazy Yeah, crazy me not checking Shopify. Yeah. You know 341 00:18:16,359 --> 00:18:19,680 Speaker 1: what's even funny is like I remember Tim, I can't 342 00:18:19,720 --> 00:18:21,879 Speaker 1: remember what it was. It was like the conversation cards 343 00:18:21,960 --> 00:18:26,359 Speaker 1: or something, and you know, cause you guys like launch 344 00:18:26,560 --> 00:18:29,360 Speaker 1: you know, new products the team does. And Tim's like, oh, 345 00:18:29,400 --> 00:18:31,439 Speaker 1: like how did they go? And I think it was 346 00:18:31,520 --> 00:18:33,959 Speaker 1: like the second or third day and I was like, oh, 347 00:18:34,040 --> 00:18:36,040 Speaker 1: I haven't even checked Shopify, like I wouldn't actually know, 348 00:18:36,880 --> 00:18:39,840 Speaker 1: and he was shocked. He was like so good though, 349 00:18:40,080 --> 00:18:42,399 Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh, like, oh, oh, I've got a 350 00:18:42,400 --> 00:18:44,919 Speaker 1: meeting with Jamie. I'll chat to her about it. And 351 00:18:44,960 --> 00:18:48,919 Speaker 1: that's huge. Yeah, it's like such a like had to 352 00:18:49,119 --> 00:18:51,639 Speaker 1: interrupt that pattern and be like, no, I'm not the 353 00:18:51,640 --> 00:18:55,600 Speaker 1: fucking driver. Yeah, like I have created these businesses and yes, 354 00:18:55,680 --> 00:18:57,560 Speaker 1: at the start I probably had to be the driver, 355 00:18:57,960 --> 00:18:59,680 Speaker 1: but now I have a team and now we get 356 00:18:59,680 --> 00:19:02,240 Speaker 1: to fly and we get to expend. Yeah, and look, 357 00:19:02,280 --> 00:19:07,360 Speaker 1: I'm still working in the friendships, but we'll get there. 358 00:19:07,960 --> 00:19:10,919 Speaker 1: But that is a cycle that is like a repetitive 359 00:19:11,000 --> 00:19:13,800 Speaker 1: cycle that has come up for me that has given 360 00:19:13,840 --> 00:19:17,480 Speaker 1: me so much pain but also so much pleasure. And 361 00:19:17,600 --> 00:19:22,199 Speaker 1: you will find that your repetitive cycles give you so 362 00:19:22,359 --> 00:19:25,199 Speaker 1: much pain but so much pleasure. So for example, the 363 00:19:25,240 --> 00:19:28,680 Speaker 1: money situation, if you can never have enough money, if 364 00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:30,879 Speaker 1: you always like you attract money, but then you attract 365 00:19:30,920 --> 00:19:33,800 Speaker 1: a bill I guarantee you. And this is going to 366 00:19:33,840 --> 00:19:37,640 Speaker 1: be very confronting of like you're getting pleasure in some way. 367 00:19:37,880 --> 00:19:40,480 Speaker 1: Maybe you get to lean on your parents and feel 368 00:19:40,480 --> 00:19:43,760 Speaker 1: close to them and have that relationship with them. Maybe 369 00:19:43,840 --> 00:19:46,359 Speaker 1: get to lean on your partner. Maybe you get to 370 00:19:46,400 --> 00:19:48,679 Speaker 1: then go and like wins to everyone about it and 371 00:19:48,720 --> 00:19:50,520 Speaker 1: they give you a lot of attention for it. 372 00:19:50,680 --> 00:19:53,639 Speaker 2: Like again, you get to feel relatable to people. 373 00:19:54,359 --> 00:19:58,280 Speaker 1: Oh that's a good one. I love that at tea 374 00:19:58,440 --> 00:20:00,240 Speaker 1: and yeah, maybe you get to be on the same 375 00:20:00,240 --> 00:20:04,600 Speaker 1: page as your friends and have that relationship still. Yeah, 376 00:20:04,640 --> 00:20:10,040 Speaker 1: so anyway, huge tangent, but yeah, that has been Yeah 377 00:20:10,080 --> 00:20:13,119 Speaker 1: my cycle. Do you have like a certain cycle or 378 00:20:13,160 --> 00:20:14,760 Speaker 1: a pattern that you see in your life? 379 00:20:14,840 --> 00:20:17,560 Speaker 2: I had one, This is an older one, and I 380 00:20:17,600 --> 00:20:21,760 Speaker 2: had like four very very close friends that i'd like met, 381 00:20:22,280 --> 00:20:28,200 Speaker 2: built up relationships with, and they just kept disappearing, like ghosting, 382 00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:31,360 Speaker 2: Like someone ghosted me, someone was just really mean one day, 383 00:20:31,359 --> 00:20:33,080 Speaker 2: and I finally put a boundary in It was like 384 00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:34,960 Speaker 2: I don't really want to be spoken to like that, 385 00:20:35,080 --> 00:20:38,360 Speaker 2: and then they were off it like within two years, 386 00:20:38,560 --> 00:20:41,360 Speaker 2: people who I would talk to every day, super close with. 387 00:20:41,760 --> 00:20:44,200 Speaker 2: And it was also like just after I'd finished school, 388 00:20:44,280 --> 00:20:47,280 Speaker 2: so it was that real transition period, and I was 389 00:20:48,040 --> 00:20:50,840 Speaker 2: the victim every time. I was literally played the victim. 390 00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:53,600 Speaker 2: Every time. I'm like, poor me, What am I doing wrong? 391 00:20:53,680 --> 00:20:55,560 Speaker 2: Why am I such a bad person? Why am I 392 00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:58,640 Speaker 2: never good enough for anyone? And then on the fourth time, 393 00:20:59,359 --> 00:21:03,359 Speaker 2: I was fine, like, hey you a second. This happened 394 00:21:03,359 --> 00:21:07,320 Speaker 2: four times in two years, me, am I the probably? Yeah, 395 00:21:07,359 --> 00:21:10,679 Speaker 2: And I just realized that I either was not saying 396 00:21:10,680 --> 00:21:14,680 Speaker 2: the right boundaries or I was accepting things that I 397 00:21:14,720 --> 00:21:18,159 Speaker 2: shouldn't have been in a friendship, and then I raised 398 00:21:18,160 --> 00:21:22,359 Speaker 2: my standards and I now have amazing friendships. And yeah, 399 00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:26,040 Speaker 2: that was my repetitive lesson that's really stuck in my head. 400 00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:28,720 Speaker 2: And I think the one i've also now because I 401 00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:31,040 Speaker 2: let go of it reaped a lot of benefit from 402 00:21:31,320 --> 00:21:34,320 Speaker 2: because I have great relationships and I see the value 403 00:21:34,359 --> 00:21:38,120 Speaker 2: in that. But now, reflecting, like what you said, you 404 00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:40,760 Speaker 2: get pain and benefit. I'd never really thought of that. 405 00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:43,879 Speaker 2: But I think I enjoyed having a little bit of drama. 406 00:21:45,200 --> 00:21:49,320 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I love that realization. Yeah, because I 407 00:21:49,359 --> 00:21:53,760 Speaker 1: think so many of us do not see how much 408 00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:54,840 Speaker 1: they enjoyed the drama. 409 00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:58,359 Speaker 2: Yeah, like I loved having something to win out to 410 00:21:58,520 --> 00:22:01,840 Speaker 2: other people. I just love that you're so comfortable in 411 00:22:01,880 --> 00:22:03,000 Speaker 2: saying that. That's huge. 412 00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:07,800 Speaker 1: Thank you. I forget how many guys if you're listening, 413 00:22:07,840 --> 00:22:10,159 Speaker 1: this is a safe place, and we really appreciate you 414 00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:12,679 Speaker 1: holding the space for us. Yeah, because it's just me 415 00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:14,120 Speaker 1: and a ty in a room, so we think we're 416 00:22:14,160 --> 00:22:17,680 Speaker 1: like two besties chatting. Yeah, which we are, but you're included. 417 00:22:18,000 --> 00:22:21,359 Speaker 1: That's huge, And see that is so true. I'm the 418 00:22:21,440 --> 00:22:27,080 Speaker 1: exact same is I definitely loved the drama of then 419 00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:30,719 Speaker 1: almost like getting And it's so funny because my parents 420 00:22:30,720 --> 00:22:34,879 Speaker 1: fed into this. My mom would literally be like, if 421 00:22:34,920 --> 00:22:37,600 Speaker 1: I'd be like, I'm so tired and exhausted from all 422 00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:40,960 Speaker 1: the work I did, she would be like, oh, Georgie, come, 423 00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:43,840 Speaker 1: you're such a hot. Let me. She would literally massage 424 00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:46,840 Speaker 1: my feet and be like, you're such a hard worker 425 00:22:47,320 --> 00:22:52,520 Speaker 1: and fully fighting into my fucking sick sickness of like 426 00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:55,040 Speaker 1: being the fucking driver. But you see how I got pleasure, 427 00:22:55,280 --> 00:22:57,680 Speaker 1: So I got recognition from my parents for being the 428 00:22:57,720 --> 00:23:01,280 Speaker 1: hardest worker in the room. Yeah, it's going to continue 429 00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:06,560 Speaker 1: the fucking behavior wild wild, and guys, this is why 430 00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:11,200 Speaker 1: it's so important to do belief identity and like subconscious work, 431 00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:15,119 Speaker 1: because you don't actually realize the shit that you're entertaining, 432 00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:18,600 Speaker 1: and this could then continue your whole entire life. Imagine 433 00:23:18,600 --> 00:23:21,960 Speaker 1: that without you knowing. Yeah, yeah, it's so funny. The 434 00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:25,199 Speaker 1: friend thing is such a key thing. I actually have 435 00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:28,320 Speaker 1: a like a couple of other friends who did these 436 00:23:28,400 --> 00:23:32,320 Speaker 1: sac same cycles with friends really and then I remember 437 00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:36,320 Speaker 1: having a conversation with them being like, but it keeps happening, 438 00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:38,640 Speaker 1: so do you think it's a you thing like why 439 00:23:38,640 --> 00:23:41,000 Speaker 1: are you not getting and she just couldn't see it 440 00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:47,080 Speaker 1: and I just was like, all right, next conversation anyway. Okay, 441 00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:50,119 Speaker 1: so guys, getting back to it. So what needs to 442 00:23:50,119 --> 00:23:54,199 Speaker 1: be address before you move forward? These are some prompt 443 00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:55,600 Speaker 1: for you, guys to think about. So we're going to 444 00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:57,760 Speaker 1: give you some time, so either write these down or 445 00:23:57,760 --> 00:23:59,719 Speaker 1: if you're in the car, just have a think about it. So, 446 00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:03,320 Speaker 1: currently you're out of alignment or things just aren't feeling right. 447 00:24:03,760 --> 00:24:11,720 Speaker 1: What needs to be addressed before you move forward? Is 448 00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:16,359 Speaker 1: there something that needs to be brought to light or 449 00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:19,400 Speaker 1: even like, is there a conversation that needs to be had? 450 00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:29,000 Speaker 1: If this thing was not here to upset you, what 451 00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:33,359 Speaker 1: could it be illuminating? This is a good one if 452 00:24:33,400 --> 00:24:36,280 Speaker 1: you can take your personal feelings out of it and 453 00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:39,000 Speaker 1: be like, if you saw this on a TV show, 454 00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:42,800 Speaker 1: someone playing out this cycle or like your current funk, 455 00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:48,200 Speaker 1: what could you possibly see that? It's like, it's not personal, 456 00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:54,119 Speaker 1: If that makes sense? What has been swept under the rug? 457 00:24:57,720 --> 00:25:07,480 Speaker 1: And what do you need to let go? Okay, guys, 458 00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:11,800 Speaker 1: so my advice to you is do not wait, do 459 00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:16,679 Speaker 1: not ignore this unaligned feeling? Again, I think that is 460 00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:20,040 Speaker 1: you know, I think there's there's got to be time, 461 00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:22,960 Speaker 1: and you've got to be like okay with being uncomfortable 462 00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:25,959 Speaker 1: in this like kind of funk, and it is it's 463 00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:29,000 Speaker 1: like it's towards the end of the year. Everyone's fucking exhausted, 464 00:25:29,480 --> 00:25:32,320 Speaker 1: and so allow yourself to sit in this feeling. But 465 00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:36,520 Speaker 1: I really really encourage you don't just like sit in 466 00:25:36,560 --> 00:25:39,960 Speaker 1: this feeling and ignore it, because again, this pattern is 467 00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:44,720 Speaker 1: going to play out, and the trick is to be proactive. 468 00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:48,240 Speaker 1: So listen to kind of the lessons. The nudge is 469 00:25:48,280 --> 00:25:51,040 Speaker 1: coming your way. Another thing I did say in this 470 00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:55,120 Speaker 1: previous episode, but ask for guidance if things are feeling funky, 471 00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:58,000 Speaker 1: if things are feeling not clear, I literally will be like, 472 00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:02,359 Speaker 1: show me a sign. I'm ready, what's meant to happen? 473 00:26:02,680 --> 00:26:05,080 Speaker 1: Give me the nudges, And then you need to be open. 474 00:26:05,119 --> 00:26:07,440 Speaker 1: You need to have space for them, and like I 475 00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:10,560 Speaker 1: even like to change my perspective and be like, I've 476 00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:13,520 Speaker 1: lost my mojo for a reason. You know it's here 477 00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:16,399 Speaker 1: to actually serve me. When you can take your power 478 00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:19,639 Speaker 1: back and be like this is happening for a reason, 479 00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:21,880 Speaker 1: and I get to like get something out of this 480 00:26:22,359 --> 00:26:25,479 Speaker 1: that is such a huge perspective shift and something I 481 00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:28,639 Speaker 1: really want you to lean into it. And it's so funny. 482 00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:31,280 Speaker 1: Like the weird example that came to mind was like, 483 00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:35,560 Speaker 1: and this is a very like logical example of like 484 00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:40,240 Speaker 1: Ivy's routine. So this thing. So I was a routine 485 00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:42,800 Speaker 1: mum at the start because Ivy had colic, and then 486 00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:46,520 Speaker 1: I introduced like a feed and sleep routine, and oh 487 00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:49,480 Speaker 1: my god, her colic got so much better. So then 488 00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:51,960 Speaker 1: I kind of swung the opposite way where I was 489 00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:54,880 Speaker 1: like such a routine mum. Like it was like if 490 00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:56,879 Speaker 1: it was a minute pass, I'm like to Tim, we 491 00:26:56,960 --> 00:26:59,280 Speaker 1: gotta get her in bed, like fuck. 492 00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:02,560 Speaker 2: Like I remember you checking like the cameras when you 493 00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:04,280 Speaker 2: were at work to make sure she had her naps 494 00:27:04,320 --> 00:27:04,720 Speaker 2: on time. 495 00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:08,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, because fucking half an hour out, fucking whole nights out. 496 00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:11,440 Speaker 1: It wasn't. But that's how I felt at the time. 497 00:27:11,760 --> 00:27:15,320 Speaker 1: But you know what used to happen is she would 498 00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:18,360 Speaker 1: check because like at you know, one to three months, 499 00:27:18,440 --> 00:27:20,960 Speaker 1: it's a certain routine, and then three to six months 500 00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:23,240 Speaker 1: it's a certain routine, and it would like increase. And 501 00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:24,879 Speaker 1: I used to like go off this chart from my 502 00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:29,840 Speaker 1: sleep consultant, and it's funny because she would just get 503 00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:33,000 Speaker 1: in a groove and it would be like clockwork, and 504 00:27:33,040 --> 00:27:34,960 Speaker 1: it would be so good, and I'd get into a 505 00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:38,080 Speaker 1: routine with her naps and you'd just like feel good, 506 00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:40,800 Speaker 1: and then it would change and you would be. 507 00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:42,720 Speaker 2: Like, fuck, we just got it. 508 00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:44,560 Speaker 1: We just got into the groove. And then it would 509 00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:46,560 Speaker 1: change and you'd have to figure it out. You'd have 510 00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:48,280 Speaker 1: to figure out what she likes. Oh, she likes the 511 00:27:48,280 --> 00:27:52,480 Speaker 1: milk fucking cold. Now not holden, like all these stupid things, 512 00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:55,119 Speaker 1: and then you just get into that groove and it 513 00:27:55,160 --> 00:27:57,560 Speaker 1: would change. And it was such a good reminder to 514 00:27:57,640 --> 00:28:02,000 Speaker 1: me of like, you can't control things. Things are always 515 00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:05,440 Speaker 1: going to change, and you have to like be adaptable. 516 00:28:05,520 --> 00:28:08,480 Speaker 1: You have to be like in the flow, because if 517 00:28:08,560 --> 00:28:11,960 Speaker 1: you were so controlling, it ends up consuming your life. 518 00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:14,680 Speaker 1: And I remember Tim having a conversation with me being 519 00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:19,040 Speaker 1: like Georgia, we can't just like constantly abide to this 520 00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:21,760 Speaker 1: routine because I would like cancel plans, like I'm not 521 00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:23,600 Speaker 1: going to your birthday party if it's during her nap 522 00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:27,719 Speaker 1: kind of thing. Tim's like, dude, it's like my nana's birthday, 523 00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:31,000 Speaker 1: Like we're gonna go. That's not an actual example, but 524 00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:32,919 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Yeah, And so that was 525 00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:35,400 Speaker 1: such a good thing where I'm like, oh, yeah, I've 526 00:28:35,400 --> 00:28:37,480 Speaker 1: got to be adaptable. I've got to be able to 527 00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:41,320 Speaker 1: like work through it and also enjoy the times when 528 00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:44,920 Speaker 1: things are uncomfortable. So now, like I was currently going 529 00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:49,080 Speaker 1: through the situation where she literally won't eat, so like 530 00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:52,600 Speaker 1: I will try to give her all this food and 531 00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:55,680 Speaker 1: like stuff that she's liked forever, and she's like no, 532 00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:58,560 Speaker 1: and she'll she's like no, like that's what she says now, 533 00:28:59,120 --> 00:29:03,160 Speaker 1: and I I'm getting so like flustered. We're wasting all 534 00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:05,760 Speaker 1: this food. And I had to have this moment where 535 00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:09,440 Speaker 1: I'm like, she's not gonna starve, Like she's physically not 536 00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:12,640 Speaker 1: gonna starve. If she's hungry, she will eat. I get 537 00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:15,920 Speaker 1: to keep offering her. Yeah, And it's just what it is. 538 00:29:16,080 --> 00:29:19,120 Speaker 1: And I had to tell myself that realign and be 539 00:29:19,240 --> 00:29:21,520 Speaker 1: like it's fine. I'm a good mom. And because I 540 00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:23,360 Speaker 1: would internalize, oh my god, I'm not a good mom. 541 00:29:23,400 --> 00:29:26,200 Speaker 1: She's not eating. I even like called this like food person, 542 00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:28,560 Speaker 1: and then she couldn't come out and blah blah blah. 543 00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:32,760 Speaker 1: And so it's funny because now she's this week, She's 544 00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:34,440 Speaker 1: never eaten so much food. 545 00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:37,760 Speaker 2: Interesting, And so I'm like, see Georgia, like it was 546 00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:38,520 Speaker 2: just a couple of. 547 00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:41,040 Speaker 1: Weeks, Like chill the fuck out and enjoy the journey. 548 00:29:41,400 --> 00:29:43,280 Speaker 1: And so that is something I want to leave with 549 00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:47,080 Speaker 1: you guys, is like just because you're out of alignment 550 00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:49,560 Speaker 1: doesn't mean you don't get to enjoy life. 551 00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:50,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, and you. 552 00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:53,840 Speaker 1: Are constantly going to go through these ebbs and flows. 553 00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:57,080 Speaker 1: And if you then get out of alignment and you 554 00:29:57,200 --> 00:30:03,120 Speaker 1: go into like you know, shame, guilt, not enjoying life, 555 00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:07,360 Speaker 1: life through shit, victim mentality, you honestly like you're gonna 556 00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:11,280 Speaker 1: miss half your life. And it's so important to be like, ah, 557 00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:13,920 Speaker 1: this is happening again. What's it trying to tell me? 558 00:30:14,280 --> 00:30:17,360 Speaker 1: How can I lean into this? Like so funny, Tim 559 00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:20,880 Speaker 1: is like the ultimate in alignment person because when Ivy 560 00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:25,640 Speaker 1: wasn't eating, he's like, babe saving money on food. It's like, 561 00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:29,440 Speaker 1: oh my god, you actually kill me. But you know, 562 00:30:29,520 --> 00:30:32,360 Speaker 1: like he's just like, let's just go with it. It's fine, 563 00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:34,920 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. And so I'm like I probably can't 564 00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:37,240 Speaker 1: see it that way, but I'm going to like go 565 00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:37,640 Speaker 1: with it. 566 00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:40,440 Speaker 2: Yeah. I love that, And I think what's really important 567 00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:43,960 Speaker 2: as well when it comes to realigning is having the 568 00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:48,440 Speaker 2: clarity and creating the space to find that clarity, because 569 00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:51,960 Speaker 2: I think it's so easy to especially get stuck in 570 00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:54,360 Speaker 2: that bottom section. Like you spoke at the beginning of 571 00:30:54,360 --> 00:30:57,880 Speaker 2: the episode of Poor Me, nothing's going right, everything's shit, 572 00:30:58,040 --> 00:30:59,560 Speaker 2: Especially at the end of the year. You'll like look 573 00:30:59,560 --> 00:31:01,800 Speaker 2: at your friend and you'll go, gosh, they did a 574 00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:04,080 Speaker 2: lot near year, Like think about where they were this 575 00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:06,720 Speaker 2: time last year and where they are now. You're completely 576 00:31:06,720 --> 00:31:07,360 Speaker 2: different person. 577 00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:11,800 Speaker 1: You know what that came to mind? Fucking like Kim Kardashian, Yeah, like, fuck, 578 00:31:11,880 --> 00:31:15,560 Speaker 1: she did a lot of she did a lot, And 579 00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:19,480 Speaker 1: I don't know why that came to mind, Like launching 580 00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:21,880 Speaker 1: with NBA. I know when I saw that, I thought, fuck, 581 00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:24,840 Speaker 1: I gotta like pull my fucking finger out of my ars, 582 00:31:26,920 --> 00:31:30,880 Speaker 1: And I was like, wait a minute, you also did 583 00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:31,120 Speaker 1: a lot. 584 00:31:32,720 --> 00:31:35,880 Speaker 2: But you look at around and on Instagram or at 585 00:31:35,920 --> 00:31:38,440 Speaker 2: your friends and you go, gosh, they've done a lot, 586 00:31:38,520 --> 00:31:40,400 Speaker 2: Like look at how much they've progressed and what have 587 00:31:40,520 --> 00:31:45,760 Speaker 2: I done? But you, your situation is not going to 588 00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:47,800 Speaker 2: change if you don't get clear on where you want 589 00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:50,720 Speaker 2: to go. Yes, and that's why I loved doing do 590 00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:52,760 Speaker 2: It for your future self and why I love doing 591 00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:54,880 Speaker 2: do it for your future self as often as I can. 592 00:31:55,080 --> 00:31:57,360 Speaker 2: And my new goal this year is to actually be 593 00:31:57,480 --> 00:32:01,000 Speaker 2: consistent with doing that reset. Like it's seven days, it's 594 00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:03,680 Speaker 2: half an hour. I can fit it in. Yeah, Because 595 00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:05,520 Speaker 2: the more you pivot and the more you change, and 596 00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:08,040 Speaker 2: the more you consistently check in with yourself, the further 597 00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:10,240 Speaker 2: you'll get and the faster you'll get there. 598 00:32:11,280 --> 00:32:14,360 Speaker 1: One hundred percent. Well, I think that that's the thing 599 00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:19,880 Speaker 1: is you won't have to continually relive these lessons if 600 00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:23,840 Speaker 1: you were just taking space and time to reflect, you know, 601 00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:26,760 Speaker 1: to go through Oh what could this be teaching me? 602 00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:30,680 Speaker 1: And that's why, Yeah, reflection is so so important and 603 00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:32,680 Speaker 1: that's why we're all doing do It for your Future 604 00:32:32,720 --> 00:32:37,080 Speaker 1: self because I'm not reliving any lessons this year. I've 605 00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:40,160 Speaker 1: had enough. But I've had enough. This is it, and 606 00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:42,440 Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm telling the universe, no, I'm going to 607 00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:44,840 Speaker 1: take all these lessons on board. Next year is going 608 00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:47,560 Speaker 1: to be so different, tit. I have the best vibes 609 00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:49,080 Speaker 1: for next year, me too, do you? 610 00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:50,000 Speaker 2: Yeah? 611 00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:51,320 Speaker 1: That it's going to be good? 612 00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:51,920 Speaker 2: All right? 613 00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:55,120 Speaker 1: My loves, I hope you liked this episode and we 614 00:32:55,240 --> 00:32:58,320 Speaker 1: will see you in for the final get Ready with 615 00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:06,240 Speaker 1: Us series, get Ready for twenty twenty four. Bye. Thank 616 00:33:06,280 --> 00:33:09,640 Speaker 1: you so much for listening to another episode of the 617 00:33:09,760 --> 00:33:13,320 Speaker 1: Rise and Concer podcast. 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