WEBVTT - 🧩 Decode Your Situationship With These Qs 😍

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<v Speaker 1>Flex and Rooms Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex

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<v Speaker 1>and Frooms catch up podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>What an app time to release to you? This TikTok

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<v Speaker 2>from Sof and Rach. It's about five honest questions to

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<v Speaker 2>ask yourself if you're unsure about your relationship, Go Go, Go,

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<v Speaker 2>Go Go.

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<v Speaker 3>It says, if you're unsure about your relationship, try asking

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<v Speaker 3>yourself these five honest questions. They have personally helped me

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<v Speaker 3>so much. One if someone told you you're a lot

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<v Speaker 3>like your partner, would this be a compliment to you?

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<v Speaker 1>Two?

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<v Speaker 3>Are you truly fulfilled or just less lonely? Three? Are

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<v Speaker 3>you able to be unapologetically yourself or do you feel

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<v Speaker 3>the need to show up differently to.

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<v Speaker 1>Please your partner?

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<v Speaker 4>Four?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you in love with who.

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<v Speaker 3>Your partner is right now as a whole? Or are

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<v Speaker 3>you only in love with their good side, their potential

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<v Speaker 3>or the idea of them? Five? Would you want your

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<v Speaker 3>future slash imagine child to date someone like your partner?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh that if the first four questions were already stressing

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<v Speaker 5>you out, that last one was like the punisher tk out.

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<v Speaker 2>It's interesting because I don't know if I'm over the

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<v Speaker 2>belief that if you have to ask you probably know

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<v Speaker 2>the answer. Similar to that song, if you have to ask,

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<v Speaker 2>you can't afford it. There's something about seeking more clarity,

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<v Speaker 2>which means that the information you have now is leading

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<v Speaker 2>you to an answer that you don't want to believe.

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<v Speaker 2>The thing is, somebodys aren't that bad. Like if someone's

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<v Speaker 2>told you that you're a lot like your partner, with

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<v Speaker 2>this be a compliment, you'd have to ask which bits

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<v Speaker 2>which bits? Because how do you even know that they're

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<v Speaker 2>assessing you correctly?

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean watching the L word and some and the

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<v Speaker 4>this is losbian couple and they're just becoming like each other.

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<v Speaker 1>In a good way, in a bad way and in

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<v Speaker 1>what way? Oh they had like a term for it.

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<v Speaker 4>Someone who's listening might know, but last Moss, Yeah, anyway,

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<v Speaker 4>I can see that happening. If you have the same

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<v Speaker 4>dress and you see couples start dressing like each other, scary.

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<v Speaker 2>It reminds me though, But in friendships, you know, when

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<v Speaker 2>you start using the same language as your friend and

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<v Speaker 2>it feels like a badge of honor, or you get

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<v Speaker 2>them into this artist you really like, or you start

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<v Speaker 2>watching the same TV shows, it feels like sameness in

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<v Speaker 2>friendships is good the best, so why not good in

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<v Speaker 2>romantic relationship?

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<v Speaker 1>It's like we then think of that as pathetic. Okay, Mickey.

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<v Speaker 4>As as the relationship, Girlie, are you like justin?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? No, I think we've morphed into each other though.

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<v Speaker 2>I think like I've picked up on things like even

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<v Speaker 2>just like saying that I get from you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>I think he does it too, all right redacted? What

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<v Speaker 1>does he say? Redacted? Yeah? Yeah, I do leave me

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<v Speaker 1>out of it a lot, because that's what about.

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<v Speaker 2>Coaching some new life? Are you truly fulfilled or just

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<v Speaker 2>less lonely? This one feels like a trap because I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think the average person really knows what fulfilled it

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<v Speaker 2>looks like, and we are looking for like outside validation

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<v Speaker 2>to figure that out, Like, how do you really know

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<v Speaker 2>how happy you are unless you've seen happiness in front

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<v Speaker 2>of you? How creative do you know you are if

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<v Speaker 2>you're not surrounded by other creative people?

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<v Speaker 1>So this one feels like the only answer is less

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<v Speaker 1>lonely you.

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<v Speaker 6>Once you do the HC analysis and once you really

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<v Speaker 6>unpack the sentence that it feels like it's leading to

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<v Speaker 6>one place, and then what is the issue of being

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<v Speaker 6>less lonely, Like, why can't that be a good reason

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<v Speaker 6>to like be near someone?

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<v Speaker 4>Nah, I think that can be a bad reason because

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<v Speaker 4>then you think you less only but you're actually more

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<v Speaker 4>lonely because you're with someone that's not suitable.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's the thing, right, oh, because yeah, this is

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<v Speaker 2>not just generally, this is if you're not sure about

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<v Speaker 2>the relationship. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 4>Number three, are you able to be unapologetically yourself or

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<v Speaker 4>do you need to show up differently to please you?

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<v Speaker 4>Partner's a bit of me, a little bit of the

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<v Speaker 4>funny with the girls, cute and sexy with the boys,

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<v Speaker 4>the tailor's oldest time myself in my experience.

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<v Speaker 1>But I've stopped doing that completely, he said, fisted up.

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<v Speaker 1>When will you bring it back?

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<v Speaker 4>Are?

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<v Speaker 1>Is it like a Q one four or a Q four?

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<v Speaker 4>I went through my He's just not that into your face.

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<v Speaker 2>You know when you we first read it and you're like, yep,

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<v Speaker 2>this book really hits, and then you had a stage

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<v Speaker 2>you're like, maybe it doesn't really hit. Where are you

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<v Speaker 2>now in terms of where that fits because some of

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<v Speaker 2>the points you made you felt quite strongly about.

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<v Speaker 4>Honestly, there's face in my life that I must associate.

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<v Speaker 1>From because I we just got here.

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<v Speaker 4>I seriously shocked myself, guys, and that's probably one of them,

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<v Speaker 4>that he's just not that into your era.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you mean you shocked yourself because I.

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<v Speaker 4>Got really into it, Like I think, I'm I never

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<v Speaker 4>thought I could be into prop propaganda.

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<v Speaker 1>But you want to repeat that sentence.

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<v Speaker 2>You through me, never thought you could be interproper cant.

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<v Speaker 2>You just called yourself the poster childs the naughty as

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<v Speaker 2>if that wasn't.

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<v Speaker 4>Babe, he's coming from inside the houseboys, No, I reckon

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<v Speaker 4>like being unapologetically yourself. You taught me this, FLEXI some

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<v Speaker 4>things you got to leave out of the relationship. No

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<v Speaker 4>farting with the door open, et cetera, in your experience.

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<v Speaker 2>Unless it's you think it's a cornerstone of comfort, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think we have to assess which bits are

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<v Speaker 2>actually necessary in our expression of ourselves and.

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<v Speaker 1>Which are over compensating.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I feel like a lot of people who do

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<v Speaker 2>the public public fart thing are trying to present as

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<v Speaker 2>open people as opposed to just being open people. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, I don't know. Maybe it's just my experience.

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<v Speaker 2>This one is a really great one. If you could

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<v Speaker 2>delete the first three, I'd say delete them, we don't

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<v Speaker 2>really need them, but this one.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you in love with who your partner.

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<v Speaker 2>Is right now as a whole, or are you only

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<v Speaker 2>in love with their goods side, their potential or the

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<v Speaker 2>idea of them.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't get away from potential. I love it. I

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<v Speaker 1>love it.

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<v Speaker 4>You think there's some potential, right, it's like buying you don't. Actually,

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<v Speaker 4>it's like buying a renovated house, but they're renovated in

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<v Speaker 4>ugly ways, so you don't want to spend.

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<v Speaker 1>But this is the thing.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of people who have aspirations to renovate never

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<v Speaker 2>end up doing it because it's too expensive, or they

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<v Speaker 2>can't get their vision aligned, or they can't you know,

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<v Speaker 2>they can't find the materials the tradesmen, and then you

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<v Speaker 2>just end up living in the house.

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<v Speaker 1>Or similarly, people who say, oh.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, want to be bad at my parents' home,

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<v Speaker 2>We're going to decorate my house just like I want to,

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<v Speaker 2>And then you live in the house for five years

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<v Speaker 2>and it still looks like okay, mart starter pack with

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<v Speaker 2>none of your personality in it.

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<v Speaker 4>Not the starter pack.

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<v Speaker 1>It's no shade it's just something there.

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<v Speaker 2>So maybe we are wrong and you have to love

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<v Speaker 2>your partner who they are right now, scared with no changes?

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<v Speaker 1>Do we love anything with no changes?

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<v Speaker 2>I can say, hand on heart, I love capitano vocapasta,

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<v Speaker 2>no changes.

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<v Speaker 4>I can say, hand on heart. I quick became fresh

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<v Speaker 4>off the surveiller belt in Cranburn.

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<v Speaker 1>Which belt the conveiler belt? Whatever? Number five? Would you

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<v Speaker 1>like your.

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<v Speaker 4>Future or imagine child to date someone like your partner?

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<v Speaker 1>Because why am? I kinda like?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Why not? I would say that about that great taste.

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<v Speaker 1>I would say it.

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<v Speaker 4>About my last partner. If I had a son that

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<v Speaker 4>was like my last partner, I'd be like.

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<v Speaker 2>No, we're not saying to date someone like them? Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I want my little daughter d why not?

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<v Speaker 1>Lovely guy?

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<v Speaker 2>I think maybe that's where they're getting us, the contradiction

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<v Speaker 2>between do you love.

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<v Speaker 1>Your partner how they are right now? Not sure? Would

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<v Speaker 1>you want your future kid to date someone just like them? Sure?

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<v Speaker 2>There's something confusing, not for us to unpack, for you

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<v Speaker 2>to do in your own time. Miss you already, talk

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<v Speaker 2>you tomorrow.

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