Speaker 1: Flex and Rooms Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex
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Speaker 2: What an app time to release to you? This TikTok
Speaker 2: from Sof and Rach. It's about five honest questions to
Speaker 2: ask yourself if you're unsure about your relationship, Go Go, Go,
Speaker 2: Go Go.
Speaker 3: It says, if you're unsure about your relationship, try asking
Speaker 3: yourself these five honest questions. They have personally helped me
Speaker 3: so much. One if someone told you you're a lot
Speaker 3: like your partner, would this be a compliment to you?
Speaker 1: Two?
Speaker 3: Are you truly fulfilled or just less lonely? Three? Are
Speaker 3: you able to be unapologetically yourself or do you feel
Speaker 3: the need to show up differently to.
Speaker 1: Please your partner?
Speaker 4: Four?
Speaker 1: Are you in love with who.
Speaker 3: Your partner is right now as a whole? Or are
Speaker 3: you only in love with their good side, their potential
Speaker 3: or the idea of them? Five? Would you want your
Speaker 3: future slash imagine child to date someone like your partner?
Speaker 5: Oh that if the first four questions were already stressing
Speaker 5: you out, that last one was like the punisher tk out.
Speaker 2: It's interesting because I don't know if I'm over the
Speaker 2: belief that if you have to ask you probably know
Speaker 2: the answer. Similar to that song, if you have to ask,
Speaker 2: you can't afford it. There's something about seeking more clarity,
Speaker 2: which means that the information you have now is leading
Speaker 2: you to an answer that you don't want to believe.
Speaker 2: The thing is, somebodys aren't that bad. Like if someone's
Speaker 2: told you that you're a lot like your partner, with
Speaker 2: this be a compliment, you'd have to ask which bits
Speaker 2: which bits? Because how do you even know that they're
Speaker 2: assessing you correctly?
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 4: I mean watching the L word and some and the
Speaker 4: this is losbian couple and they're just becoming like each other.
Speaker 1: In a good way, in a bad way and in
Speaker 1: what way? Oh they had like a term for it.
Speaker 4: Someone who's listening might know, but last Moss, Yeah, anyway,
Speaker 4: I can see that happening. If you have the same
Speaker 4: dress and you see couples start dressing like each other, scary.
Speaker 2: It reminds me though, But in friendships, you know, when
Speaker 2: you start using the same language as your friend and
Speaker 2: it feels like a badge of honor, or you get
Speaker 2: them into this artist you really like, or you start
Speaker 2: watching the same TV shows, it feels like sameness in
Speaker 2: friendships is good the best, so why not good in
Speaker 2: romantic relationship?
Speaker 1: It's like we then think of that as pathetic. Okay, Mickey.
Speaker 4: As as the relationship, Girlie, are you like justin?
Speaker 1: Yeah? No, I think we've morphed into each other though.
Speaker 2: I think like I've picked up on things like even
Speaker 2: just like saying that I get from you guys.
Speaker 1: I think he does it too, all right redacted? What
Speaker 1: does he say? Redacted? Yeah? Yeah, I do leave me
Speaker 1: out of it a lot, because that's what about.
Speaker 2: Coaching some new life? Are you truly fulfilled or just
Speaker 2: less lonely? This one feels like a trap because I
Speaker 2: don't think the average person really knows what fulfilled it
Speaker 2: looks like, and we are looking for like outside validation
Speaker 2: to figure that out, Like, how do you really know
Speaker 2: how happy you are unless you've seen happiness in front
Speaker 2: of you? How creative do you know you are if
Speaker 2: you're not surrounded by other creative people?
Speaker 1: So this one feels like the only answer is less
Speaker 1: lonely you.
Speaker 6: Once you do the HC analysis and once you really
Speaker 6: unpack the sentence that it feels like it's leading to
Speaker 6: one place, and then what is the issue of being
Speaker 6: less lonely, Like, why can't that be a good reason
Speaker 6: to like be near someone?
Speaker 4: Nah, I think that can be a bad reason because
Speaker 4: then you think you less only but you're actually more
Speaker 4: lonely because you're with someone that's not suitable.
Speaker 2: But that's the thing, right, oh, because yeah, this is
Speaker 2: not just generally, this is if you're not sure about
Speaker 2: the relationship. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 4: Number three, are you able to be unapologetically yourself or
Speaker 4: do you need to show up differently to please you?
Speaker 4: Partner's a bit of me, a little bit of the
Speaker 4: funny with the girls, cute and sexy with the boys,
Speaker 4: the tailor's oldest time myself in my experience.
Speaker 1: But I've stopped doing that completely, he said, fisted up.
Speaker 1: When will you bring it back?
Speaker 4: Are?
Speaker 1: Is it like a Q one four or a Q four?
Speaker 4: I went through my He's just not that into your face.
Speaker 2: You know when you we first read it and you're like, yep,
Speaker 2: this book really hits, and then you had a stage
Speaker 2: you're like, maybe it doesn't really hit. Where are you
Speaker 2: now in terms of where that fits because some of
Speaker 2: the points you made you felt quite strongly about.
Speaker 4: Honestly, there's face in my life that I must associate.
Speaker 1: From because I we just got here.
Speaker 4: I seriously shocked myself, guys, and that's probably one of them,
Speaker 4: that he's just not that into your era.
Speaker 1: What do you mean you shocked yourself because I.
Speaker 4: Got really into it, Like I think, I'm I never
Speaker 4: thought I could be into prop propaganda.
Speaker 1: But you want to repeat that sentence.
Speaker 2: You through me, never thought you could be interproper cant.
Speaker 2: You just called yourself the poster childs the naughty as
Speaker 2: if that wasn't.
Speaker 4: Babe, he's coming from inside the houseboys, No, I reckon
Speaker 4: like being unapologetically yourself. You taught me this, FLEXI some
Speaker 4: things you got to leave out of the relationship. No
Speaker 4: farting with the door open, et cetera, in your experience.
Speaker 2: Unless it's you think it's a cornerstone of comfort, you know.
Speaker 2: But I think we have to assess which bits are
Speaker 2: actually necessary in our expression of ourselves and.
Speaker 1: Which are over compensating.
Speaker 2: Like I feel like a lot of people who do
Speaker 2: the public public fart thing are trying to present as
Speaker 2: open people as opposed to just being open people. I
Speaker 2: don't know, I don't know. Maybe it's just my experience.
Speaker 2: This one is a really great one. If you could
Speaker 2: delete the first three, I'd say delete them, we don't
Speaker 2: really need them, but this one.
Speaker 1: Are you in love with who your partner.
Speaker 2: Is right now as a whole, or are you only
Speaker 2: in love with their goods side, their potential or the
Speaker 2: idea of them.
Speaker 1: I can't get away from potential. I love it. I
Speaker 1: love it.
Speaker 4: You think there's some potential, right, it's like buying you don't. Actually,
Speaker 4: it's like buying a renovated house, but they're renovated in
Speaker 4: ugly ways, so you don't want to spend.
Speaker 1: But this is the thing.
Speaker 2: A lot of people who have aspirations to renovate never
Speaker 2: end up doing it because it's too expensive, or they
Speaker 2: can't get their vision aligned, or they can't you know,
Speaker 2: they can't find the materials the tradesmen, and then you
Speaker 2: just end up living in the house.
Speaker 1: Or similarly, people who say, oh.
Speaker 2: You know, want to be bad at my parents' home,
Speaker 2: We're going to decorate my house just like I want to,
Speaker 2: And then you live in the house for five years
Speaker 2: and it still looks like okay, mart starter pack with
Speaker 2: none of your personality in it.
Speaker 4: Not the starter pack.
Speaker 1: It's no shade it's just something there.
Speaker 2: So maybe we are wrong and you have to love
Speaker 2: your partner who they are right now, scared with no changes?
Speaker 1: Do we love anything with no changes?
Speaker 2: I can say, hand on heart, I love capitano vocapasta,
Speaker 2: no changes.
Speaker 4: I can say, hand on heart. I quick became fresh
Speaker 4: off the surveiller belt in Cranburn.
Speaker 1: Which belt the conveiler belt? Whatever? Number five? Would you
Speaker 1: like your.
Speaker 4: Future or imagine child to date someone like your partner?
Speaker 1: Because why am? I kinda like?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Why not? I would say that about that great taste.
Speaker 1: I would say it.
Speaker 4: About my last partner. If I had a son that
Speaker 4: was like my last partner, I'd be like.
Speaker 2: No, we're not saying to date someone like them? Oh yeah,
Speaker 2: I want my little daughter d why not?
Speaker 1: Lovely guy?
Speaker 2: I think maybe that's where they're getting us, the contradiction
Speaker 2: between do you love.
Speaker 1: Your partner how they are right now? Not sure? Would
Speaker 1: you want your future kid to date someone just like them? Sure?
Speaker 2: There's something confusing, not for us to unpack, for you
Speaker 2: to do in your own time. Miss you already, talk
Speaker 2: you tomorrow.
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