WEBVTT - MINI: Relationship Heatmap

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<v Speaker 1>Quest.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, welcome friends to the Christian O'Connell Show podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>I think in any relationship where you're married or not,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, sometimes halftime at the end of an AFL game,

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<v Speaker 3>they have the oval and then you see these colour

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<v Speaker 3>zones like a heat mat where you see where the impact.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, where the players got their kids in possessions, that

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<v Speaker 1>sort of thing.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so it's blotches of red on this, these hot zones,

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<v Speaker 3>these heat zones. I think if you had an overview

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<v Speaker 3>of any home, whether you own it or your nty,

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<v Speaker 3>you'll see red zones for you and your partner, whether

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<v Speaker 3>it's the kitchen, the bathroom, the study, whatever it is.

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<v Speaker 3>I think the majority of the arguments we have are

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<v Speaker 3>normally narrowed down to a certain area and always about

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<v Speaker 3>a specific one or two things, and you'll spend the

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<v Speaker 3>rest of your time together recreating this drama. Sometimes I'm

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<v Speaker 3>in a mid of an argument, I'm like, oh, back

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<v Speaker 3>into this one again. You know, it's like a director

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<v Speaker 3>in our heads, going this time. Why don't you just

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<v Speaker 3>bring some stuff about five years ago into it, just

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<v Speaker 3>to sort of sprinkle up a bit. Where do you

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<v Speaker 3>think your hot zone is, Patsy, We'll share with the

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<v Speaker 3>house and what you are.

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<v Speaker 2>Going to the love God and I always face off

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<v Speaker 2>over the bathroom that we share. It's funny because Monday

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<v Speaker 2>to Friday we don't share it because we're like ships

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<v Speaker 2>in the night. We're at opposite ends of the day.

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<v Speaker 2>So then come the weekend and it's a shared zone

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<v Speaker 2>suddenly again it's like we have to reset boundaries again.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, we do a lot of that the weekend. You're right,

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<v Speaker 3>it's got too much time together.

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<v Speaker 2>So Sunday I went in there Sunday morning after a shower,

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<v Speaker 2>hadn't bothered to fetch a fresh bath mash, and so

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<v Speaker 2>after he dried himself, had just laid his towel on

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<v Speaker 2>the floor. And I said that that's a a.

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<v Speaker 3>I used to do that when I was nine at

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<v Speaker 3>the swimming baths. You do that, you put the towel

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<v Speaker 3>down and you stand on it and you get changed.

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<v Speaker 1>It's still all absorbing materials, are you? I have been

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<v Speaker 1>known to a used towel is as good as a.

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<v Speaker 3>Because are you going to go and wash it afterwards?

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<v Speaker 1>So if you throw it in the wash and you

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<v Speaker 1>will never know that it's back in the towel and

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<v Speaker 1>you wouldn't to try.

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<v Speaker 3>That's why we have a good old boss.

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<v Speaker 2>It was fresh, it was afresh. We have big, massive

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<v Speaker 2>towels and they take a lot to wash trying. I

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<v Speaker 2>just changed those over yesterday. Now it needs to go

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<v Speaker 2>back in the wash and he said, no, it's fine,

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<v Speaker 2>and I said, no, it's not. You use That's what

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<v Speaker 2>a bath MAT's for. Everything's got it's.

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<v Speaker 3>Got longer fivles, those of like an octopus's tentacles to dry.

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<v Speaker 2>You and massage your feet as you stick out of

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<v Speaker 2>the shower.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Jack.

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<v Speaker 3>So if patsy'sen is in the bathroom and the en suite,

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<v Speaker 3>where's your heat zone in? And arguments in the house.

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<v Speaker 1>Ours would be you know what, it would be the

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<v Speaker 1>front door and coming into the hallway. Because the topic

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<v Speaker 1>that we will fight about for the rest of our

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<v Speaker 1>lives is I just have a disagreement or different understanding

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<v Speaker 1>of what it means to be on time getting to

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<v Speaker 1>things on time. So even this weekend she came, she

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<v Speaker 1>went out to get Cige balls for everybody as like

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<v Speaker 1>a healthy breakfast and bring it. As she's bringing it

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<v Speaker 1>back into the house, I'm like, we're going to be

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<v Speaker 1>late for Gordon swimming listen. No, no, we got twenty minutes, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>but you have to factor in the eating of the

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<v Speaker 1>assie balls and then getting in the car getting there.

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<v Speaker 3>I actually said that my wife is a time optimist. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm like, it won't nothing takes five minutes. She goes,

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<v Speaker 3>I'll just be five minutes. Nothing in life is of

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<v Speaker 3>the five minutes.

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<v Speaker 1>But Biank's idea of getting somewhereround time is the swimming

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<v Speaker 1>lessons at nine am. If we leave the house anytime

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<v Speaker 1>in the eight am zone, whether it's eight point fifty nine,

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<v Speaker 1>she thinks that's being on time.

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, no, no. It makes me so sussle

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<v Speaker 3>that you're right. My wifeend is still arguing about time

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<v Speaker 3>we went out for dinner on Sunday, sorry for lunch,

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<v Speaker 3>that the restaurant was booked for one. We're leaving at

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<v Speaker 3>five to two twenty five minutes, And I then said

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<v Speaker 3>to her, we can't keep living like this.

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<v Speaker 1>Brighter.

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