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Speaker 1: Quest.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, welcome friends to the Christian O'Connell Show podcast.

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Speaker 3: I think in any relationship where you're married or not,

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Speaker 3: you know, sometimes halftime at the end of an AFL game,

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Speaker 3: they have the oval and then you see these colour

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Speaker 3: zones like a heat mat where you see where the impact.

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Speaker 1: Well, where the players got their kids in possessions, that

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Speaker 1: sort of thing.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's blotches of red on this, these hot zones,

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Speaker 3: these heat zones. I think if you had an overview

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Speaker 3: of any home, whether you own it or your nty,

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Speaker 3: you'll see red zones for you and your partner, whether

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Speaker 3: it's the kitchen, the bathroom, the study, whatever it is.

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Speaker 3: I think the majority of the arguments we have are

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Speaker 3: normally narrowed down to a certain area and always about

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Speaker 3: a specific one or two things, and you'll spend the

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Speaker 3: rest of your time together recreating this drama. Sometimes I'm

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Speaker 3: in a mid of an argument, I'm like, oh, back

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Speaker 3: into this one again. You know, it's like a director

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Speaker 3: in our heads, going this time. Why don't you just

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Speaker 3: bring some stuff about five years ago into it, just

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Speaker 3: to sort of sprinkle up a bit. Where do you

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Speaker 3: think your hot zone is, Patsy, We'll share with the

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Speaker 3: house and what you are.

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Speaker 2: Going to the love God and I always face off

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Speaker 2: over the bathroom that we share. It's funny because Monday

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Speaker 2: to Friday we don't share it because we're like ships

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Speaker 2: in the night. We're at opposite ends of the day.

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Speaker 2: So then come the weekend and it's a shared zone

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Speaker 2: suddenly again it's like we have to reset boundaries again.

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Speaker 3: Oh, we do a lot of that the weekend. You're right,

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Speaker 3: it's got too much time together.

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Speaker 2: So Sunday I went in there Sunday morning after a shower,

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Speaker 2: hadn't bothered to fetch a fresh bath mash, and so

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Speaker 2: after he dried himself, had just laid his towel on

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Speaker 2: the floor. And I said that that's a a.

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Speaker 3: I used to do that when I was nine at

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Speaker 3: the swimming baths. You do that, you put the towel

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Speaker 3: down and you stand on it and you get changed.

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Speaker 1: It's still all absorbing materials, are you? I have been

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Speaker 1: known to a used towel is as good as a.

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Speaker 3: Because are you going to go and wash it afterwards?

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Speaker 1: So if you throw it in the wash and you

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Speaker 1: will never know that it's back in the towel and

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Speaker 1: you wouldn't to try.

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Speaker 3: That's why we have a good old boss.

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Speaker 2: It was fresh, it was afresh. We have big, massive

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Speaker 2: towels and they take a lot to wash trying. I

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Speaker 2: just changed those over yesterday. Now it needs to go

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Speaker 2: back in the wash and he said, no, it's fine,

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Speaker 2: and I said, no, it's not. You use That's what

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Speaker 2: a bath MAT's for. Everything's got it's.

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Speaker 3: Got longer fivles, those of like an octopus's tentacles to dry.

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Speaker 2: You and massage your feet as you stick out of

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Speaker 2: the shower.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Jack.

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Speaker 3: So if patsy'sen is in the bathroom and the en suite,

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Speaker 3: where's your heat zone in? And arguments in the house.

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Speaker 1: Ours would be you know what, it would be the

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Speaker 1: front door and coming into the hallway. Because the topic

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Speaker 1: that we will fight about for the rest of our

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Speaker 1: lives is I just have a disagreement or different understanding

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Speaker 1: of what it means to be on time getting to

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Speaker 1: things on time. So even this weekend she came, she

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Speaker 1: went out to get Cige balls for everybody as like

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Speaker 1: a healthy breakfast and bring it. As she's bringing it

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Speaker 1: back into the house, I'm like, we're going to be

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Speaker 1: late for Gordon swimming listen. No, no, we got twenty minutes, Like,

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Speaker 1: but you have to factor in the eating of the

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Speaker 1: assie balls and then getting in the car getting there.

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Speaker 3: I actually said that my wife is a time optimist. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: and I'm like, it won't nothing takes five minutes. She goes,

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Speaker 3: I'll just be five minutes. Nothing in life is of

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Speaker 3: the five minutes.

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Speaker 1: But Biank's idea of getting somewhereround time is the swimming

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Speaker 1: lessons at nine am. If we leave the house anytime

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Speaker 1: in the eight am zone, whether it's eight point fifty nine,

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Speaker 1: she thinks that's being on time.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no. It makes me so sussle

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Speaker 3: that you're right. My wifeend is still arguing about time

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Speaker 3: we went out for dinner on Sunday, sorry for lunch,

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Speaker 3: that the restaurant was booked for one. We're leaving at

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Speaker 3: five to two twenty five minutes, And I then said

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Speaker 3: to her, we can't keep living like this.

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Speaker 1: Brighter.

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