WEBVTT - Ask Uncut - Should I Tell My Husband That I Slept With Him? 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.800 Life Uncut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose lands 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:06.520 were never seated. We pay our respects to their elders 0:00:06.559 --> 0:00:07.600 past and present. 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:11.320 Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was 0:00:11.360 --> 0:00:23.439 recorded on Cameragle Land. Hi guys, and welcome back to 0:00:23.440 --> 0:00:24.760 another episode of Life Uncut. 0:00:24.840 --> 0:00:28.280 I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and this is therapy Thursday. Ask 0:00:28.320 --> 0:00:31.360 gun Cut, were you writing your deepest, darkest burning questions? 0:00:31.920 --> 0:00:34.839 We answer, we do our best. I need some therapy 0:00:34.920 --> 0:00:35.760 after last night. 0:00:36.479 --> 0:00:38.440 There it be full stop, not just after last night, 0:00:38.479 --> 0:00:38.760 I do. 0:00:38.760 --> 0:00:40.760 Do you know what? We advocate for therapy a lot 0:00:40.760 --> 0:00:40.960 on here. 0:00:41.000 --> 0:00:42.880 We're always talking about how it's so good for people, 0:00:42.960 --> 0:00:45.320 but then we don't go and get there like we should. 0:00:45.440 --> 0:00:47.000 Oh, I should go to a regular therapist. 0:00:47.120 --> 0:00:51.360 I was for quite a while post breakup with you 0:00:51.440 --> 0:00:52.080 know who. 0:00:52.520 --> 0:00:53.480 The man who. 0:00:55.240 --> 0:00:58.040 No, actually that makes it sound like he was bad Jordan, 0:00:58.120 --> 0:00:59.680 my ex, you all know him. I went to therapy 0:00:59.720 --> 0:01:03.360 after that because I needed therapy after you. It's a 0:01:03.520 --> 0:01:04.120 rough time. 0:01:04.240 --> 0:01:05.720 You really did need therapy after that. 0:01:05.760 --> 0:01:08.920 But I haven't been in ages and it's wrong because 0:01:09.800 --> 0:01:12.920 you don't or shouldn't just go to therapy when like 0:01:13.000 --> 0:01:15.319 something happens and you need it. Although that's how I 0:01:15.360 --> 0:01:18.480 took that situation, but there are so many people that 0:01:18.760 --> 0:01:21.600 experts that say, you know, your brain is also a 0:01:21.680 --> 0:01:24.880 muscle that you need to look after and exercise, whether 0:01:24.920 --> 0:01:26.880 it's at its high or at it's low. So people 0:01:26.880 --> 0:01:30.720 should be going to like constant, weekly or monthly therapy 0:01:30.760 --> 0:01:31.680 just for like maintenance. 0:01:31.720 --> 0:01:33.680 Look, I don't actually need therapy because of what happened 0:01:33.680 --> 0:01:35.240 to me last night. Please don't come for me for 0:01:35.480 --> 0:01:37.480 using therapy as a joke. And I shouldn't joke about it, 0:01:37.640 --> 0:01:40.520 but I last night. So at the moment, I don't 0:01:40.520 --> 0:01:42.399 know if you've heard this in the news, brut and 0:01:42.440 --> 0:01:44.560 I know that you're very abreast of what's happening in 0:01:44.600 --> 0:01:48.160 the news. There is a plague of gastro that's going around, 0:01:48.160 --> 0:01:50.560 Like gastro is like the worst it's ever been in Australia. 0:01:50.600 --> 0:01:52.960 At the moment, gastro at an all time high. Have 0:01:53.040 --> 0:01:53.440 you heard this? 0:01:53.640 --> 0:01:55.200 Yeah? Sorry, I was waiting for you to tell me. Well, 0:01:55.400 --> 0:01:56.560 is that it? You just wanted to give me the 0:01:56.560 --> 0:01:57.720 news headline on gastow. 0:01:57.720 --> 0:01:59.600 I don't need to I don't need to read the 0:01:59.600 --> 0:02:01.360 news about the gastro. And you want to know why 0:02:01.440 --> 0:02:05.200 because she because the burn Johnson household is riddled with gastro. No, 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:06.960 the adults don't have it, just the kids. So it 0:02:07.080 --> 0:02:09.760 absolutely railed Lola. And now Marley has gastro. 0:02:10.160 --> 0:02:12.720 I thought that you guys got gastro all time. No, 0:02:13.080 --> 0:02:15.560 in my head, when someone plays a word association game, 0:02:15.600 --> 0:02:16.600 they go Laura, I go gastro. 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:17.720 Hold on. 0:02:17.760 --> 0:02:20.320 This does feel very familiar. No, okay, this is what 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:23.640 happened to me. So Lola has been sick for about 0:02:23.639 --> 0:02:25.800 four days now. She's in pretty good spirits for a 0:02:25.880 --> 0:02:28.200 kid who's like, you know, shooting out of both ends. 0:02:28.480 --> 0:02:30.440 But every so often she'll just be like playing around 0:02:30.440 --> 0:02:32.800 and then she goes, oh, my tummy hurts, vomb Oh my 0:02:32.840 --> 0:02:35.959 tummy hurts, like explosive diarrhea. 0:02:35.440 --> 0:02:37.560 Like no warning, no time to get anywhere. 0:02:37.560 --> 0:02:39.000 It's just like it's there. 0:02:38.680 --> 0:02:41.440 No warning for the vomits, but plenty of warning for 0:02:41.480 --> 0:02:44.080 the diary. All right, good, plenty of warning. She's three, 0:02:44.120 --> 0:02:46.600 so she's like pretty well and truly toilet trained. 0:02:46.840 --> 0:02:47.400 Do you toilet? 0:02:47.440 --> 0:02:50.480 Is it potty trained? Toilet trained? That kind of feels 0:02:50.560 --> 0:02:54.360 very like animal association, like she uses a toilet, she 0:02:54.480 --> 0:02:57.880 uses a toilet, she's trained to use a toilet. At nighttime, 0:02:58.000 --> 0:03:00.600 she still wears a nappy because, like you know, and 0:03:00.639 --> 0:03:01.680 the drinks at nighttime. 0:03:01.720 --> 0:03:02.480 Things still happens. 0:03:02.639 --> 0:03:05.120 So anyway, it was the middle of the night last night, 0:03:05.320 --> 0:03:08.080 and every night she still gets into our bed, like 0:03:08.120 --> 0:03:10.760 every single night without fail. So about two o'clock, I 0:03:10.840 --> 0:03:12.800 either hear her crying in her room and she wants 0:03:12.840 --> 0:03:14.840 me to come physically pick her up and carry her 0:03:14.880 --> 0:03:17.080 to my room, or she'll like make her way to 0:03:17.120 --> 0:03:18.680 the side of the bed and then kind of winge 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:20.239 until I pick her up and pull her into bed. 0:03:20.560 --> 0:03:23.119 So she comes into the room and she's like, she's 0:03:23.200 --> 0:03:26.520 kind of half crying, and I was like, baby, come here, 0:03:26.560 --> 0:03:29.000 and I picked her up. And as I picked her 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:31.160 up and pulled her into the bed and pulled her 0:03:31.240 --> 0:03:34.359 into my sheets and my blanket. 0:03:34.280 --> 0:03:37.560 She goes, mummy, I wet myself. 0:03:38.120 --> 0:03:39.680 I was like, oh, sweetheart, it's okay. 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:42.240 And then as she was saying mummy, I wet myself, 0:03:43.200 --> 0:03:46.320 I realized that in fact, she did not wet herself. 0:03:46.760 --> 0:03:48.840 She was a human burrito of shit. 0:03:49.200 --> 0:03:50.880 You know, when you get Guzman and Gomez and then 0:03:50.920 --> 0:03:52.560 all the sauces come out at the bottom. 0:03:52.680 --> 0:03:54.520 No one listening needs the visual, like, well, let me 0:03:54.520 --> 0:03:55.080 tell you the source. 0:03:55.120 --> 0:03:56.840 Well, and truly came out the bottom because I took 0:03:56.840 --> 0:03:59.360 her into the bathroom and she had shit everywhere up 0:03:59.360 --> 0:04:02.200 her back to her neckline, down to her ankles. It 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:05.320 was like she was encased and it was everywhere. It 0:04:05.360 --> 0:04:06.960 was in my bed, it was on my sheets, it 0:04:07.000 --> 0:04:07.600 was in her sheet. 0:04:07.880 --> 0:04:09.640 You just give up. 0:04:09.680 --> 0:04:11.840 How have you not got it when she basically bombed 0:04:11.880 --> 0:04:14.160 in you in your mouth? Because sometimes they just take 0:04:14.200 --> 0:04:14.880 down the kids. 0:04:15.240 --> 0:04:17.880 Apparently, this gastro strain that's going around Australia at the 0:04:17.920 --> 0:04:20.080 moment is just like taking down the little kids. 0:04:20.360 --> 0:04:21.960 And adults are being pretty scott free. 0:04:22.040 --> 0:04:27.279 I swear to God, every time I think, oh yeah, 0:04:27.360 --> 0:04:30.960 I think I might want a kid, you pull me 0:04:31.000 --> 0:04:33.000 back down to the ground, Laura. You you kick my 0:04:33.080 --> 0:04:35.039 legs out from underneath me, and then you stump on 0:04:35.080 --> 0:04:35.960 me while I'm on the ground. 0:04:36.400 --> 0:04:40.719 To be fair, it's physically taking out the kids, but 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:42.680 it's emotionally taking out the parents. 0:04:42.800 --> 0:04:47.640 Yes, yeah, I don't know what's worse. Shooting yourself, No, 0:04:47.760 --> 0:04:50.120 emotions are bad. Shooting yourself constantly is worse. 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:51.479 This is the highs and loads. 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:59.479 You just called me brisket, pretty titty hungry brisket, hey Bridge, that's. 0:04:59.320 --> 0:05:02.560 What happens when you have no sleep. I have fucking slept, guys, anyway, 0:05:02.720 --> 0:05:04.479 So that's where I'm at. I know I don't actually 0:05:04.560 --> 0:05:06.280 need therapy, but I'm on the edge of a lot 0:05:06.279 --> 0:05:06.920 of things at the moment. 0:05:06.960 --> 0:05:08.760 I'm all seriousness. I'm not just saying this, but I 0:05:08.760 --> 0:05:12.640 think you might actually like it could actually help you 0:05:12.680 --> 0:05:13.720 with ave sis stuff. 0:05:14.320 --> 0:05:14.920 Anyway. 0:05:15.320 --> 0:05:17.960 Well, I haven't had anything hugely event for but I 0:05:18.000 --> 0:05:19.600 have been having a bit of a laugh. So Ben 0:05:19.640 --> 0:05:23.560 and I are in the very early stages of wedding planning, which. 0:05:24.000 --> 0:05:25.919 You've been in the early stages of wedding planning for 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:26.719 twenty years. 0:05:26.880 --> 0:05:29.479 No, I haven't. I've never planned my wedding. I've never 0:05:29.480 --> 0:05:31.960 been a person that saves wedding dresses, that thinks of 0:05:32.000 --> 0:05:33.960 what they want like, I've never been that person. 0:05:34.000 --> 0:05:36.600 How many ring photos did you have saved in your 0:05:36.800 --> 0:05:39.960 in the folder of your saved images in Instagram? 0:05:40.120 --> 0:05:40.440 A lot? 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:42.599 It is very helpful. That's not a criticism. That was 0:05:42.800 --> 0:05:43.479 really good for me. 0:05:43.640 --> 0:05:47.480 But I genuinely, honestly am telling you this I started 0:05:47.520 --> 0:05:51.200 saving rings for the first time six eight months ago. Like, 0:05:51.200 --> 0:05:52.599 when I knew I was going to marry Ben, I 0:05:52.720 --> 0:05:54.719 wasn't one of those girls that grew up dreaming of 0:05:54.880 --> 0:05:57.120 the pick a fence and the Yeah, no, neither, do 0:05:57.160 --> 0:05:58.960 you know what I mean? Like, there are people that 0:05:59.120 --> 0:06:01.279 have had their kids day picked out since they're fifteen 0:06:01.360 --> 0:06:03.240 and the ring and there's nothing wrong with that. It's 0:06:03.320 --> 0:06:05.840 not me. I'm also not a planner, so like the 0:06:05.880 --> 0:06:08.320 thought of trying to plan his wedding is a disgusting 0:06:08.440 --> 0:06:10.360 so overwhelming for me. But anyway, I said to Ben, 0:06:10.440 --> 0:06:13.440 let's just start the very early planning, like the big 0:06:13.480 --> 0:06:16.040 things like what do you want from a wedding? How 0:06:16.080 --> 0:06:17.320 do you see it? So we started to have that 0:06:17.360 --> 0:06:18.800 discussion and I was like, let's just see if we're 0:06:18.800 --> 0:06:20.680 on the same page. You know, the things like do 0:06:20.760 --> 0:06:22.160 you want to sit down or do you want to 0:06:22.200 --> 0:06:25.720 stand up? Do you want a church inside wedding somewhere? 0:06:25.760 --> 0:06:27.360 Do you want an outside wedding? You know those things 0:06:27.400 --> 0:06:29.080 that are like you don't need to have a planner 0:06:29.160 --> 0:06:30.840 or be booking stuff. It's just let's see we're on 0:06:30.880 --> 0:06:31.400 the same page. 0:06:31.440 --> 0:06:33.400 Also, the size, Yeah, if you want to have a 0:06:33.400 --> 0:06:35.039 big after party. Do you want to be casual? Do 0:06:35.080 --> 0:06:35.960 you want it to be formal? 0:06:36.160 --> 0:06:36.640 I get it. 0:06:36.760 --> 0:06:37.320 Yeah. 0:06:37.400 --> 0:06:40.080 So I said to him, Ben, what do you let's 0:06:40.120 --> 0:06:41.680 talk about like the big stuff. Just see if we 0:06:41.720 --> 0:06:43.520 see on the same page. What are the big things, 0:06:43.560 --> 0:06:46.360 like the most important things that you see at your wedding. 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:49.160 And there was a moment of silence and he looks 0:06:49.160 --> 0:06:51.240 off and he thinks. And I was like, oh, he's 0:06:51.279 --> 0:06:53.760 really thinking about this. And he looks back down and 0:06:53.760 --> 0:06:56.719 he goes, I just really want that stick thing that 0:06:56.760 --> 0:06:57.960 you waddle in your hands. 0:06:58.520 --> 0:07:02.039 Sorry, what the share don't they do? And I was 0:07:02.080 --> 0:07:03.120 like I was like sorry what. 0:07:03.200 --> 0:07:05.400 He's like, yeah, this stick that you wattle. I was like, 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:06.839 the stick that you wattle? 0:07:07.160 --> 0:07:08.320 What are you talking about? 0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:10.160 And I'm trying to think of the big stuff and 0:07:10.200 --> 0:07:12.640 I'm like the stick that you waddle and he's like, yeah, 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:15.280 you know, you you wattle it around, isn't that? 0:07:15.280 --> 0:07:17.040 And I said think that that's a cultural thing. 0:07:17.080 --> 0:07:19.720 It's not. I said, do you mean a sparkler and 0:07:19.760 --> 0:07:25.000 he was like yeah, I said a sparkler and he's like, yeah, 0:07:25.040 --> 0:07:27.520 the thing that you like, Oh my god. I was like, okay, babe, 0:07:27.960 --> 0:07:29.680 I can do a sparkle for you. First of all, 0:07:29.720 --> 0:07:31.400 it's got a sparkle. It's not a stick. You wattle. 0:07:31.440 --> 0:07:32.360 I was like, what is wattle. 0:07:32.680 --> 0:07:34.360 He's like, oh no, I think it's an English translation. 0:07:34.440 --> 0:07:37.040 I was like, no one wattles anything. But I was like, yeah, babe, 0:07:37.120 --> 0:07:37.800 that's fine. 0:07:37.920 --> 0:07:39.880 Do you know what this means? We need a wedding 0:07:39.880 --> 0:07:43.120 plan you? This means you organizing a wedding. That's what 0:07:43.160 --> 0:07:44.160 I've come to realize. 0:07:44.240 --> 0:07:46.560 I was like, this is us trying to break down 0:07:46.600 --> 0:07:48.440 the big stuff, and the first and only thing that 0:07:48.480 --> 0:07:49.600 you want is a sparkler. 0:07:49.680 --> 0:07:51.040 I was like, babe, I've got you covered. 0:07:51.120 --> 0:07:55.679 I'm gonna have so many wattles there for you plas 0:07:55.720 --> 0:07:56.840 his soul. And then in my head I was like, 0:07:56.840 --> 0:08:00.160 I'm fucked. I'm going to plan this whole wedding. So 0:08:00.240 --> 0:08:02.360 that's about as far as we got. We got some spucks. 0:08:02.840 --> 0:08:05.960 I always find it interesting because so many men they 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:08.520 plan the engagement, but then they haven't thought passed the 0:08:08.520 --> 0:08:11.239 engagement to a wedding at all, and so the buck 0:08:11.400 --> 0:08:14.160 often and I don't want to be like stereotyping here 0:08:14.200 --> 0:08:16.280 because I know it can be different nor relationships, but 0:08:16.440 --> 0:08:19.760 often It's like I did the engagement and then kind 0:08:19.840 --> 0:08:24.280 of they're planning preparation, handwiping happens like like just finishes 0:08:24.320 --> 0:08:27.880 there and then the baton has passed to the woman 0:08:27.960 --> 0:08:30.880 in heterosexual relationships to do the rest of the work, 0:08:30.920 --> 0:08:31.960 and that kind of sucks. 0:08:32.040 --> 0:08:34.599 Yeah, and I will also be passing the baton. 0:08:34.640 --> 0:08:37.280 To a wedding else. Please do this all right? 0:08:37.320 --> 0:08:39.280 Well, look before we get into answering your questions today, 0:08:39.400 --> 0:08:41.559 we do have our lives and our unsubscribes. 0:08:42.000 --> 0:08:44.040 Brittany, what is yoel vibe? 0:08:44.120 --> 0:08:47.240 Okay, It's a Netflix movie called The Beautiful Game, which 0:08:47.360 --> 0:08:52.000 is basically about the Homeless World Cup football competition. So 0:08:52.320 --> 0:08:54.960 the movie is fictional, but it's based on a real story. 0:08:54.960 --> 0:08:56.439 And I only knew it was based on a real 0:08:56.480 --> 0:08:59.360 story after I watched it and thought, I wonder if 0:08:59.360 --> 0:09:00.240 this is real, had to. 0:09:00.280 --> 0:09:00.840 Go google it. 0:09:01.240 --> 0:09:04.199 So, long story short, every single year all around the 0:09:04.240 --> 0:09:07.200 world is like fifty countries they do a Homeless World 0:09:07.240 --> 0:09:10.480 Cup where the only criteria is you need to be homeless, 0:09:10.720 --> 0:09:14.559 and it's really for shining a light on social marginalization 0:09:14.760 --> 0:09:17.080 and what people are going through all over the world, 0:09:17.120 --> 0:09:19.440 but trying to find them A source of happiness because 0:09:19.480 --> 0:09:22.400 a lot of these homeless people around the world get 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:24.839 together and they play street football, you know, like even 0:09:25.000 --> 0:09:27.199 famous football athletes. Now you hear a lot of them 0:09:27.240 --> 0:09:29.439 saying they started in poverty playing on the streets and 0:09:29.520 --> 0:09:32.640 they have amazing skills. So what happens is all around 0:09:32.640 --> 0:09:34.800 the world every year they get a team of homeless 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:36.600 people that play football that are really good and they 0:09:36.600 --> 0:09:38.960 go and compete against each other in the Homeless World Cup. 0:09:39.120 --> 0:09:44.280 And it was just such a beautiful film that did 0:09:44.320 --> 0:09:47.480 have a wonderful ending, Like it's sad because you know 0:09:47.520 --> 0:09:50.120 that these people are really homeless and they are really struggling, 0:09:50.440 --> 0:09:52.680 but it's really beautiful to show how happy they are 0:09:52.880 --> 0:09:55.679 by feeling that can they're included in something and they 0:09:55.840 --> 0:09:59.400 connected and a sense of purpose and like seeing them 0:09:59.440 --> 0:10:02.880 achieve their dreams. Because I googled it and in reality, 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:05.480 thousands of people go to watch these Homeless World Cups 0:10:05.520 --> 0:10:08.320 and they're cheering for their country and they just feel 0:10:08.320 --> 0:10:09.240 like they have a purpose. 0:10:09.360 --> 0:10:11.160 It makes you a question like how and where does 0:10:11.200 --> 0:10:13.200 the funding come from to allow for this, because if 0:10:13.200 --> 0:10:16.000 people are homeless and they're unable to support themselves, then 0:10:16.000 --> 0:10:18.199 I would say that they're very unlikely that they're in 0:10:18.280 --> 0:10:20.200 a financial position where they're able to go and play 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:21.520 in any sort of World Cup. 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:24.240 Yeah. Absolutely, and most of it, you know, just for 0:10:24.360 --> 0:10:26.120 my own curiosity how to look, but most of it 0:10:26.200 --> 0:10:30.880 is funded externally from sponsors and the FIFA Foundation put 0:10:30.880 --> 0:10:33.679 a little bit of money in. But my understanding is 0:10:33.880 --> 0:10:36.719 the accommodation and food and things like that, and their 0:10:36.880 --> 0:10:39.920 entries are all covered when they're there. But my understanding 0:10:40.040 --> 0:10:44.040 is they need to fund themselves their team to get there. 0:10:44.440 --> 0:10:46.320 And the teams are quite small. It's not a full 0:10:46.320 --> 0:10:49.199 football field. It's like five or six players on a side, 0:10:49.440 --> 0:10:53.120 so they're smaller. But it is an incredible film, Like 0:10:53.200 --> 0:10:55.120 I can't stress enough for you guys to watch it, 0:10:55.160 --> 0:10:58.040 The Beautiful Game on Netflix. You will froth it. 0:10:58.200 --> 0:11:01.080 My rope of the week is it's a podcast. It 0:11:01.200 --> 0:11:03.600 is called The Rest is Entertainment. It is hosted by 0:11:03.600 --> 0:11:06.800 two British people that are in their fifties, so it's 0:11:06.800 --> 0:11:09.760 got a little bit of a more mature and definitely 0:11:09.840 --> 0:11:12.480 smarter than me essence to it. 0:11:12.480 --> 0:11:14.480 It's just because someone's older doesn't make me smarter. 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:17.680 These people are definitely smarter than me, so it's hosted 0:11:17.760 --> 0:11:21.040 by the author and he's also a TV producer. He's 0:11:21.160 --> 0:11:23.199 been in media and entertainment for a very long time. 0:11:23.320 --> 0:11:27.360 Richard Osman, the name of the author didn't completely ring 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:28.800 a bell to me, but then when I saw the 0:11:28.840 --> 0:11:31.000 cover of his books, he's that one that has the 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:32.360 fox on his books. 0:11:32.400 --> 0:11:34.400 I'm not sure he's written. Oh yeah, yeah, he's like 0:11:34.559 --> 0:11:35.080 very well. 0:11:34.960 --> 0:11:36.120 Known, very established author. 0:11:36.200 --> 0:11:38.640 And the other host is a journalist and a columnist 0:11:38.640 --> 0:11:41.679 for The Guardian called Marina Hyde. It's a pop culture 0:11:41.720 --> 0:11:44.600 and politics based podcast, but because they're based in the UK, 0:11:44.960 --> 0:11:48.160 it has a particular focus on British politics and this 0:11:48.280 --> 0:11:51.600 week the episode that they released is called which Dumped 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:54.320 Tory Will Do Strictly, which is not something that a 0:11:54.320 --> 0:11:57.000 lot of Australians would be interested in. But the first 0:11:57.000 --> 0:11:59.360 thing that they spoke about was Jill Biden doing the 0:11:59.400 --> 0:12:02.680 cover of you Vogue, and they broke down how much 0:12:02.679 --> 0:12:06.280 of like these political kind of things that intertwine with 0:12:06.360 --> 0:12:07.000 media and with. 0:12:07.040 --> 0:12:08.400 Pop culture coverage. 0:12:08.559 --> 0:12:10.400 You know, a lot of the first ladies of the 0:12:10.480 --> 0:12:13.920 United States have done US Vogue and they spoke about 0:12:13.920 --> 0:12:16.360 how that has evolved over time, like started as a 0:12:16.360 --> 0:12:18.640 puff piece and now it's something that people are like, Oh, 0:12:18.679 --> 0:12:20.960 I don't really think you should be doing this. They 0:12:21.000 --> 0:12:25.360 spoke about Glen Powell, Sidney Sweeney, they spoke about Sabrina Carpenter, 0:12:25.480 --> 0:12:27.240 and then they went into the last segment that was 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:29.760 all about the UK election and how they've now got 0:12:29.840 --> 0:12:33.000 a new prime minister. It was super, super interesting if 0:12:33.000 --> 0:12:34.960 you're into that kind of thing. I know that some 0:12:35.000 --> 0:12:38.040 people are into politics and others really really aren't, but 0:12:38.120 --> 0:12:40.400 I found that I learned a lot, and I learned 0:12:40.400 --> 0:12:43.600 about stuff that I wouldn't usually listen to, even though 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:46.120 they're the fields of interest of mine, if that makes sense. 0:12:46.160 --> 0:12:50.120 Sounds like a weird mix, like Sabrina Carpenter to Joe Biden. Yeah, 0:12:50.120 --> 0:12:50.800 that's what I like. 0:12:51.000 --> 0:12:53.439 It's definitely politics, but make it fluffy. 0:12:53.640 --> 0:12:56.200 God, it's more like politics, but make it different to 0:12:56.240 --> 0:12:59.079 what I'm used to listening to about politics, because it 0:12:59.320 --> 0:13:01.800 sounds like they're trying trying to make it more like 0:13:01.880 --> 0:13:04.920 snack size or more interesting to people that probably wouldn't 0:13:05.000 --> 0:13:07.840 be interested in politics. So it's like, let's suck you 0:13:07.920 --> 0:13:10.720 in with some pop culture and then sprinkle our political 0:13:10.760 --> 0:13:11.680 agenda in there too. 0:13:13.240 --> 0:13:13.680 Brilliant. 0:13:14.000 --> 0:13:15.040 Yeah, I really like it. 0:13:15.040 --> 0:13:17.360 It's called The Rest Is Entertainment. It is a podcast 0:13:17.360 --> 0:13:18.440 that you can find anywhere. 0:13:18.600 --> 0:13:21.600 Okay, I'm going to make mine quick minus recommendation for parents. 0:13:22.000 --> 0:13:24.840 I feel like one of the hardest thing to find 0:13:25.000 --> 0:13:27.840 is to find good babysitters or if you're looking for 0:13:27.880 --> 0:13:31.520 a nanny, a good nanny, because also not only is 0:13:31.559 --> 0:13:34.440 it hard, it's also like something that feels really risky 0:13:34.520 --> 0:13:38.480 because most people don't feel comfortable or confident in choosing 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:41.120 someone who's outside their network to take care of their kids, 0:13:41.120 --> 0:13:44.200 which is obviously how pretty much every parent feels. There 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:47.360 is an app it is called Juggle Street, and we 0:13:47.400 --> 0:13:49.880 were recently in the position so we have help in 0:13:50.160 --> 0:13:53.040 the mornings with Male and Lola, simply because we start 0:13:53.040 --> 0:13:55.280 working so early and it was just last year was 0:13:55.360 --> 0:13:58.240 such a huge year for Matt in terms of him 0:13:58.240 --> 0:14:01.440 having to carry the parenting load, and so to help us, 0:14:01.559 --> 0:14:04.040 we hired a friend who was coming and she was 0:14:04.080 --> 0:14:06.800 doing the mornings to help get the girls to daycare. 0:14:07.000 --> 0:14:08.920 But she's recently just left to have a baby, So 0:14:08.960 --> 0:14:11.360 we were in a position I was like, you already 0:14:11.400 --> 0:14:14.400 have to why do you need drive, why do you 0:14:14.400 --> 0:14:15.240 need another one? 0:14:16.280 --> 0:14:18.400 Hurry back from Tony, you can bring your baby. 0:14:19.760 --> 0:14:21.920 So she left us and we had to try and 0:14:21.960 --> 0:14:24.320 find a new I mean, I wouldn't call her a nanny, 0:14:24.320 --> 0:14:26.760 but it's kind of more than a babysitter, and so 0:14:26.880 --> 0:14:29.120 juggle Street was something that was recommended to us. It's 0:14:29.120 --> 0:14:31.120 an app. You have to pay for a subscription. I 0:14:31.120 --> 0:14:33.920 think it's around ninety dollars. But by paying for it, 0:14:33.960 --> 0:14:35.800 you have to verify that you're a family and then 0:14:35.840 --> 0:14:40.080 you have access to all verified daycare workers and babysitters, 0:14:40.280 --> 0:14:42.600 people who have their health and safety checks, they have 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:45.040 all of their insurances, they're working. 0:14:44.800 --> 0:14:46.480 With kids, certificates, all of that stuff. 0:14:46.520 --> 0:14:48.600 A lot of them are actually daycare workers who are 0:14:48.600 --> 0:14:52.040 looking for some extra hours of babysitting in the evenings 0:14:52.120 --> 0:14:55.160 or whatnot. And basically you go on you post a job. 0:14:55.200 --> 0:14:57.120 It could be like I need a babysitter for four 0:14:57.120 --> 0:14:59.400 hours on Monday night, and then you can go in 0:14:59.480 --> 0:15:02.520 and you can act send your job to people's profiles, 0:15:02.520 --> 0:15:05.160 specific people who you've gone and vetted yourself. So you 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:07.280 might pick fifty people and send the job to them 0:15:07.560 --> 0:15:09.360 and they can say whether they do or don't want 0:15:09.400 --> 0:15:12.360 to do the job. And we found our new babysit 0:15:12.360 --> 0:15:14.120 are on there who we are using. I just think 0:15:14.160 --> 0:15:16.920 it is really hard to find quality care and at 0:15:17.000 --> 0:15:19.640 least this gives you a little bit more control over 0:15:19.640 --> 0:15:22.240 the process and you're not just posting on any public 0:15:22.280 --> 0:15:25.080 forums or having to rely on asking a friend necessarily 0:15:25.400 --> 0:15:27.120 or stealing a friends nanny or babysitter. 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:28.600 So it's called juggle Street. 0:15:28.640 --> 0:15:31.080 It's an app, and I've paid the ninety five dollars 0:15:31.080 --> 0:15:33.680 for the subscription and I would recommend it, So if 0:15:33.720 --> 0:15:36.120 you do take that choice, I mean, I know it's expensive, 0:15:36.240 --> 0:15:37.600 but the last thing I want to say about this 0:15:37.640 --> 0:15:40.120 one specifically is I have used lots of apps, Like 0:15:40.160 --> 0:15:42.880 I've used lots of online forums. I've done the due 0:15:42.880 --> 0:15:45.840 diligence around trying to find something that's like suitable and 0:15:45.880 --> 0:15:48.360 really not just use it friendly, but like active because 0:15:48.360 --> 0:15:49.680 a lot of these apps, often a lot of the 0:15:49.720 --> 0:15:51.960 profiles are old, like these are all people who have 0:15:52.000 --> 0:15:53.560 been active within the day, you know what I mean, 0:15:53.600 --> 0:15:56.160 So you know that they're people who are actually looking 0:15:56.200 --> 0:15:58.280 for work. And I just think that this is the 0:15:58.280 --> 0:16:00.160 best one by far that I've used. So that's my 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:03.240 recommendation for any parents out there. I hope you enjoy it. 0:16:03.280 --> 0:16:04.960 I know it's expensive, but I do think it is 0:16:05.000 --> 0:16:07.240 worth it. Let's get into your questions. 0:16:08.360 --> 0:16:10.960 Question number one. I've moved back to the town I 0:16:11.000 --> 0:16:14.040 grew up in and had a situation where I recognized 0:16:14.080 --> 0:16:17.440 a trade that came to our property. I had slept 0:16:17.480 --> 0:16:20.040 with him. I didn't mention it to my husband, but 0:16:20.080 --> 0:16:21.800 then I had a thought that maybe I should have 0:16:21.840 --> 0:16:24.240 told him. I would never lie if he asked me 0:16:24.320 --> 0:16:26.080 out right, But now I don't know if I need 0:16:26.120 --> 0:16:28.200