WEBVTT - Closure. If you know the what, the why doesn't matter. Or does it? 0:00:19.840 --> 0:00:23.000 Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life 0:00:23.000 --> 0:00:29.360 One Cut. I'm Brittany and I'm not Laura, Like, hello, guys. 0:00:29.520 --> 0:00:31.960 This is our Tuesday episode, our big media episode, but 0:00:32.040 --> 0:00:34.800 we have something a little bit different today. We have 0:00:34.880 --> 0:00:36.920 produced a Keisha on board, and I shouldn't say we 0:00:37.200 --> 0:00:41.360 produce a Keisha has replaced co host Laura, not for long, 0:00:41.720 --> 0:00:44.680 just for one very short moment in timeout for the 0:00:44.800 --> 0:00:49.920 intro today because very unfortunately, Laura had a bit of 0:00:49.960 --> 0:00:53.680 a family emergency and little Lola Derby took a turn 0:00:53.720 --> 0:00:56.720 over night and got quite sick. She's doing fine, she's okay, 0:00:56.840 --> 0:00:59.040 but they did have to be admitted into the hospital, 0:00:59.560 --> 0:01:02.639 so they had been in there today and tomorrow, so 0:01:03.080 --> 0:01:04.840 she couldn't record even if she wanted to. But we're like, 0:01:04.840 --> 0:01:07.759 you just go focus on that and we will sort 0:01:07.760 --> 0:01:11.240 something out. And the result is produce a Kisha. Produce 0:01:11.280 --> 0:01:13.280 a Kisha. Welcome to Life on Cut. I will thank you. 0:01:13.600 --> 0:01:15.280 Very nice to be here, very nice to be on 0:01:15.319 --> 0:01:18.039 the microphone here, I should say, But usually on the 0:01:18.080 --> 0:01:20.440 other side, I'm usually just sitting over there in the corner, 0:01:20.680 --> 0:01:22.880 and you're more dressed than what you usually are when 0:01:22.880 --> 0:01:25.800 you record. Just with Laura. So so, guys, usually we're 0:01:25.840 --> 0:01:28.160 in our undies and we have no makeup on, but 0:01:28.360 --> 0:01:31.039 I have a face of makeup. I've even got fake eyelashes. 0:01:31.120 --> 0:01:34.040 I did have to go in and do a presentation today. 0:01:34.160 --> 0:01:35.000 It's not for me. 0:01:35.319 --> 0:01:37.280 She hasn't put all this on for me. 0:01:37.640 --> 0:01:39.559 It's not for you. It's also not for a boy. 0:01:39.640 --> 0:01:42.680 So it's literally I had a job today. Keisha came 0:01:42.680 --> 0:01:45.319 in with me. Laura was also supposed to come. I 0:01:45.360 --> 0:01:48.360 mean talk about us thriving in chaos. Laura and I 0:01:48.400 --> 0:01:50.440 always say we thriving chaos. We were supposed to be 0:01:50.520 --> 0:01:54.480 on this panel, a big international podcast panel, really big deal. 0:01:54.600 --> 0:01:57.480 It was being streamed to Europe, the UK, in America 0:01:57.520 --> 0:02:00.360 and obviously there were people there as well, and we 0:02:00.360 --> 0:02:03.120 were supposed to be yes speaking about podcasting and the 0:02:03.160 --> 0:02:06.120 success and giving our tips, and then especially about the 0:02:06.120 --> 0:02:08.320 discussion group that was kind of this special thing that 0:02:08.320 --> 0:02:08.959 they wanted. 0:02:08.720 --> 0:02:09.200 To hear about. 0:02:09.320 --> 0:02:11.560 They wanted to hear about you everybody is in the 0:02:11.600 --> 0:02:14.160 discussion group and how kind of it's created a community 0:02:14.200 --> 0:02:16.680 of its own. Yeah, they were more frothing on you guys, 0:02:16.680 --> 0:02:18.640 the community than they were ourselves. So we were like 0:02:18.800 --> 0:02:20.200 do you want to know anything about our lot as 0:02:20.200 --> 0:02:23.280 a community. So last minute, Laura had to pull out 0:02:23.320 --> 0:02:25.639 of that, so I had to go and fly solo 0:02:26.000 --> 0:02:29.400 with no prep. So fine, but thank god Keisha came 0:02:29.440 --> 0:02:30.679 to cheer from me out the back. She was like, 0:02:30.680 --> 0:02:32.640 you're doing great, sweetie, like keep it up. 0:02:32.680 --> 0:02:36.720 Actually was Chris Jenna, like you're doing great, sweetie, going. 0:02:36.560 --> 0:02:39.440 Doing the thumbs up. You really didn't you really wear 0:02:39.520 --> 0:02:42.400 Chris Janna. So anyway, everyone that put Laura and little 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:45.520 Lolla Derby in your thoughts today, Now this is just 0:02:45.560 --> 0:02:49.320 the intro because luckily the day before Lola took a turn, 0:02:49.919 --> 0:02:52.240 we did record the bulk of the episode. And just 0:02:52.320 --> 0:02:56.160 so you know, actually, Keisha, this episode slightly because of you. 0:02:56.280 --> 0:02:58.799 So why don't you introduce the episode? Well, I think 0:02:58.840 --> 0:03:00.400 I'll start by saying that when I f I started 0:03:00.400 --> 0:03:03.160 working with you guys, it was around the time that 0:03:03.280 --> 0:03:06.680 you told everyone you were dating Jordan, and you got 0:03:06.720 --> 0:03:09.040 so many messages and they were pretty funny. 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:10.000 They all said, I'm. 0:03:09.880 --> 0:03:12.000 Really happy for you, I'm so glad that you finally 0:03:12.000 --> 0:03:15.200 found love, but I'm actually slightly upset because it means 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:16.840 that you're not going to be sharing the shit show 0:03:16.840 --> 0:03:17.079 of a. 0:03:17.040 --> 0:03:19.320 Time that you have in the dating world anymore. 0:03:19.440 --> 0:03:21.640 The support was very questionable from you guys at the start. 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:23.919 I felt the loved but I also felt they well 0:03:24.120 --> 0:03:26.560 fear no more. You brought on a producer that is 0:03:26.600 --> 0:03:28.600 in the trenches with you guys in the dating world, 0:03:28.680 --> 0:03:32.959 and that is kind of the slight inspiration for today's episode. 0:03:33.000 --> 0:03:36.000 It is all about closure, and a lot of the 0:03:36.040 --> 0:03:39.000 messages that we get to Instagram and to the Facebook 0:03:39.320 --> 0:03:41.520 are all about you know, I feel like I just 0:03:41.600 --> 0:03:45.600 want closure from this situation, and I have had a 0:03:45.760 --> 0:03:50.000 very interesting couple of weeks. Kisha has definitely taken over 0:03:50.000 --> 0:03:52.840 the reins for the shit show of dating that I 0:03:53.000 --> 0:03:55.120 used to hold, and I'm very happy to have hit 0:03:55.360 --> 0:03:57.400 those over to you. You literally came into life on 0:03:57.520 --> 0:04:00.320 Cutt's life at the exact time, right when we needed 0:04:00.360 --> 0:04:02.800 those shitty dating stories. So thank you. But yeah, this 0:04:02.840 --> 0:04:05.000 episode is all about closure, and I've kind of had 0:04:05.040 --> 0:04:06.720 a bit of an experience in the last couple of 0:04:06.720 --> 0:04:11.480 weeks where basically I went through a pretty tumultuous relationship. 0:04:11.480 --> 0:04:12.760 It was a quite toxic. 0:04:12.440 --> 0:04:14.880 Relationship and over the course of time, you know, we 0:04:14.920 --> 0:04:16.080 broke up multiple times. 0:04:16.160 --> 0:04:17.760 It was one of those ones and be. 0:04:17.760 --> 0:04:20.600 On again, off again. Well, I noticed that the first. 0:04:20.440 --> 0:04:21.440 Time that we broke up. 0:04:21.480 --> 0:04:23.480 You know, for me, it was only three weeks after 0:04:23.560 --> 0:04:25.640 this guy had told me that he loved me for 0:04:25.680 --> 0:04:28.800 the first time. Red flag, Yeah, a whole bunch of 0:04:28.880 --> 0:04:33.240 red flags that I was disguising as pink hues shades 0:04:33.279 --> 0:04:37.800 of red at the time. I remember thinking, like, how 0:04:37.839 --> 0:04:40.120 the fuck am I gonna get over this? I don't 0:04:40.320 --> 0:04:44.080 understand how things have changed so quickly, and I feel 0:04:44.080 --> 0:04:46.480 like I need the answers. I need to fit these 0:04:46.480 --> 0:04:50.280 pieces of the puzzle together so that I actually know. 0:04:50.400 --> 0:04:52.760 What has happened here, so that I can get over it. 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:55.520 Anyway, A couple of broke ups later, I saw him 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:58.479 for the first time since we've broken up last week. 0:04:59.480 --> 0:05:03.000 Not by your sort of stalker ish, wasn't it. It 0:05:03.040 --> 0:05:05.240 was like, and I don't know if we encourage this 0:05:05.480 --> 0:05:08.440 or we discourage this day. It definitely wasn't romantic, but 0:05:08.600 --> 0:05:10.520 I saw him for the first time, and it was 0:05:10.520 --> 0:05:13.000 one of those moments that you know when you're in 0:05:13.040 --> 0:05:16.520 the midst of a breakup and you kind of think, gosh, 0:05:16.560 --> 0:05:18.920 I'm really looking forward to the day that the thought 0:05:18.960 --> 0:05:21.640 of this person doesn't upset me, or seeing them doesn't 0:05:21.720 --> 0:05:24.320 upset me, or I just want closure from this situation. 0:05:25.040 --> 0:05:28.440 I realized when I saw him that I didn't actually 0:05:28.480 --> 0:05:31.520 need closure. I didn't need the conversation, I didn't need 0:05:31.560 --> 0:05:33.080 any of that. And it was one of those really 0:05:33.160 --> 0:05:35.400 nice moments for me where I looked back and I went, Wow, 0:05:35.440 --> 0:05:38.120 this same person, you know, because I've been through multiple 0:05:38.120 --> 0:05:40.719 breakups with them. The first time I really felt like 0:05:40.760 --> 0:05:43.919 I needed closure, and this time I didn't. And it 0:05:43.960 --> 0:05:45.760 was really actually quite nice to look at the personal 0:05:45.800 --> 0:05:48.600 growth that I've experienced from that situation. So, yeah, I 0:05:48.680 --> 0:05:51.039 kind of thought maybe we should do an episode on closure. 0:05:51.080 --> 0:05:53.840 We seem to get a whole bunch of messages about it, 0:05:53.920 --> 0:05:56.200 and maybe we can kind of unpack that a little bit. Yeah, 0:05:56.240 --> 0:05:59.000 so we're gonna talk about closure. Do we really need it? 0:05:59.080 --> 0:06:02.919 And if so, why, and what are the personality types 0:06:02.960 --> 0:06:05.240 that feel like they need it more than others? But 0:06:05.400 --> 0:06:07.400 what do you think? I mean? To me, I feel like, 0:06:07.600 --> 0:06:10.240 and I know, hindsight it's a beautiful thing, but I 0:06:10.240 --> 0:06:13.359 think when you're in a relationship and it's early days 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:16.279 and you're going through multiple breakups straight away, to me, 0:06:16.360 --> 0:06:18.640 that's a red flag. Like if Jordan nine the last 0:06:18.640 --> 0:06:21.039 six months had broken up and gone back together three times. 0:06:21.360 --> 0:06:25.200 To me, that's like, this is supposed to be the 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:28.080 best time of a relationship, the beginning. I'm not saying 0:06:28.120 --> 0:06:30.560 this to you. I'm just like, you know, having a discussion. 0:06:30.560 --> 0:06:33.719 But it's like the honeymoon phase. If you are having 0:06:33.839 --> 0:06:37.680 that many problems and that much of a tumultuous relationship 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:40.200 in the first like two, three, four, six months, I mean, 0:06:40.240 --> 0:06:43.080 you should never have that many problems. But I think 0:06:43.120 --> 0:06:44.720 of it as that's supposed to be the most like 0:06:44.839 --> 0:06:49.719 all consuming, loving, smitten, sickeningly, disgustingly loved up time of 0:06:49.720 --> 0:06:52.000 your life. And if you're like breaking up constantly, I 0:06:52.080 --> 0:06:54.960 feel like you're never going to get to the finish line. 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:55.200 You know. 0:06:55.279 --> 0:06:58.640 It's funny going through that experience. That was the first 0:06:58.640 --> 0:07:01.200 time I've kind of had one of those stars of relationships. 0:07:01.520 --> 0:07:04.640 And I think it's kind of the boiling pot analogy. 0:07:04.720 --> 0:07:06.479 You know how they say that you can have a 0:07:06.480 --> 0:07:08.560 frog in a pot and if you just gradually heat 0:07:08.560 --> 0:07:10.480 it up, it doesn't realize that the water's getting hot 0:07:10.520 --> 0:07:13.240 around it. It was that I didn't realize there were 0:07:13.280 --> 0:07:15.280 these little things that happened at the start that kind 0:07:15.280 --> 0:07:18.360 of started getting bigger and bigger and bigger and bigger, 0:07:18.440 --> 0:07:20.040 and by the time I kind of realized what was 0:07:20.040 --> 0:07:21.640 going on. And I mean, I'm to blame for it 0:07:21.680 --> 0:07:23.600 as well, and I'm not saying that this other person 0:07:23.680 --> 0:07:26.840 is completely at fault. It was one of those situations 0:07:26.840 --> 0:07:29.880 that I think I just gradually became desensitized to, and 0:07:30.400 --> 0:07:34.000 I kind of misinterpreted the toxic nature of it for 0:07:34.080 --> 0:07:38.240 passion common misconception. It happens. It happens to the best 0:07:38.280 --> 0:07:41.040 of us. It really does. And we've spoken about it before, 0:07:41.080 --> 0:07:43.000 but I think that that is something that happens a lot. 0:07:43.120 --> 0:07:44.960 And we get to this point where we're like, oh, 0:07:45.040 --> 0:07:47.080 this is a boring relationship. He doesn't love me as 0:07:47.120 --> 0:07:49.960 much as my last relationship because my last relationship he 0:07:50.000 --> 0:07:52.400 was so jealous and he was so needy, and that's love, 0:07:52.800 --> 0:07:55.120 Like I'm telling you now, it's not love. Well, I 0:07:55.160 --> 0:07:57.160 started to think that that was quite thrilling, and I 0:07:57.160 --> 0:07:59.840 think I became desensitized to just how fucked up it was. 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:02.440 And you know, probably vice versa, he would probably be 0:08:02.480 --> 0:08:04.520 saying the same thing about me. I have a friend 0:08:04.520 --> 0:08:05.880 his name is Brad and he used to say this 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:07.960 thing to me back years ago. So it's a bit 0:08:08.000 --> 0:08:10.080 sad that I haven't learned this until now. But here 0:08:10.080 --> 0:08:12.920 we are. He used to say, if you know the what, 0:08:13.680 --> 0:08:17.680 the why doesn't matter love that. Yeah. So he was like, Caish, 0:08:17.760 --> 0:08:20.360 if you know that someone doesn't want to be with you, 0:08:20.640 --> 0:08:21.920 it doesn't matter why. 0:08:22.360 --> 0:08:23.840 You know that they don't want to be with you, 0:08:23.880 --> 0:08:25.200 So that's it, move on. 0:08:25.680 --> 0:08:28.200 And that's what I mean. I'm lucky that I'm in 0:08:28.200 --> 0:08:30.320 a really beautiful place in my life, only because I've 0:08:30.320 --> 0:08:32.360 gone through so much shit to get here. And I 0:08:32.400 --> 0:08:34.600 wasn't always like this, but I'm in a place where 0:08:34.760 --> 0:08:36.840 I honestly am like that. And I was talking to 0:08:36.920 --> 0:08:40.360 Jordan about this last night because I wanted his opinion 0:08:40.360 --> 0:08:42.880 on it. I'm like, if I broke up with you tomorrow, 0:08:43.679 --> 0:08:46.160 you know, out of nowhere because we're so great, would 0:08:46.160 --> 0:08:47.719 you be all right to move on? Or would you 0:08:48.000 --> 0:08:49.319 want to come and meet me and have a sit 0:08:49.360 --> 0:08:51.520 down talk because you need answers and you need to 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:54.440 know why. And he's like, god no, And then I 0:08:54.480 --> 0:08:55.600 was a bit like, what, You're not going to fight 0:08:55.600 --> 0:08:58.120 for me? And it like started our own fight. I 0:08:58.160 --> 0:08:59.000 was like, what do you mean, You're not going to 0:08:59.080 --> 0:09:00.800 fight for me? He's like, if you told me you 0:09:00.800 --> 0:09:02.360 don't want to be with me, because I don't really care, 0:09:02.520 --> 0:09:04.319 He's like why, He's like, I want to be with 0:09:04.360 --> 0:09:06.040 someone that wants to be with me and if for 0:09:06.120 --> 0:09:08.240 whatever reason, and then I was a bit like five 0:09:08.280 --> 0:09:10.240 for me, God damn it. But I'm the same if 0:09:10.280 --> 0:09:11.920 someone said to me, now, I don't want to be 0:09:11.960 --> 0:09:14.160 with you, of course I would ask why, and I 0:09:14.160 --> 0:09:16.079 would prefer to know. But it's not the end of 0:09:16.120 --> 0:09:17.839 the world. If they wanted to ghost me, I know 0:09:17.920 --> 0:09:19.720 that I could still move on just fine, because I 0:09:19.760 --> 0:09:22.040 did it when I ended my two year relationship with 0:09:22.040 --> 0:09:24.760 the sociopath. Trust me, I did not get answers for 0:09:24.760 --> 0:09:26.440 a long time. For over a year, that guy, that 0:09:26.520 --> 0:09:28.480 man was not going to speak to me, and in 0:09:28.480 --> 0:09:30.320 all honesty, I was a bit scared to speak to him, 0:09:30.360 --> 0:09:33.080 but I didn't get any closure. But I was like, cool, 0:09:33.400 --> 0:09:35.040 that was not meant for me, and that was pretty 0:09:35.040 --> 0:09:36.679 fucked up. So I'm just going to get on with it. 0:09:36.880 --> 0:09:37.000 Well. 0:09:37.040 --> 0:09:39.160 I think that the one thing that I will add 0:09:39.320 --> 0:09:41.480 is that I do like a lot of the people who. 0:09:41.320 --> 0:09:43.040 Listen to this podcast have anxiety. 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:45.080 And I think that when you have had an anxious brain, 0:09:45.600 --> 0:09:48.079 if you go through a situation like I did initially 0:09:48.160 --> 0:09:51.240 with this same person, for me, it had just gone 0:09:51.240 --> 0:09:55.080 from so good to so bad so quickly that I 0:09:55.120 --> 0:09:57.040 was kind of left with so many questions. And when 0:09:57.080 --> 0:09:59.760 you have an anxious brain, you tend to catastrophize things 0:09:59.760 --> 0:10:02.560 and tend to kind of just go over it over 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:04.520 and over and over, and you will come to the 0:10:04.559 --> 0:10:08.600 worst case answer unless you're given something else. And I 0:10:08.600 --> 0:10:10.840 think that that was something that I've kind of had 0:10:10.840 --> 0:10:13.679 to try and train out of myself, because I will 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:16.920 naturally jump to, well, this must be what happened, and 0:10:16.960 --> 0:10:19.560 that must be what occurred, and that's why they've broken 0:10:19.640 --> 0:10:21.800 up with me, and it is not good for your 0:10:21.800 --> 0:10:24.240 confidence or your ego. And I think that's the other 0:10:24.280 --> 0:10:25.480 thing as well, is when you kind of have to 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:27.959 distinguish the difference between is this your ego that's hurting 0:10:28.440 --> 0:10:30.640 or is it your heart that's hurting. Is this actually 0:10:30.679 --> 0:10:32.680 really upsetting me because I thought that I would have 0:10:32.720 --> 0:10:34.599 this life with this person and now all of a 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:36.560 sudden that's been taken away. Or is this just a 0:10:36.559 --> 0:10:38.480 bit of a blow to my ego because this person 0:10:38.480 --> 0:10:40.240 doesn't want to be with me, and I'm upset that 0:10:40.280 --> 0:10:42.840 they don't see that I'm amazing. Yeah, like why like 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:44.640 come to the party, don't you know what? How lucky 0:10:44.679 --> 0:10:48.120 you are? We've all been there. But before we get 0:10:48.120 --> 0:10:50.319 into that, I guess what. Okay, I have another question 0:10:50.360 --> 0:10:54.000 for you. How would you feel if you saw your 0:10:54.040 --> 0:10:56.640 ex or if he saw you online dating? Would that 0:10:56.679 --> 0:10:58.520 be cool? Are you at a place that that would 0:10:58.640 --> 0:11:02.080 shock and hurt you? Or would you just wish there 0:11:02.160 --> 0:11:04.520 was a possibility that you never had to see him 0:11:04.559 --> 0:11:04.760 on there. 0:11:04.800 --> 0:11:05.800 Again, I wish that there was. 0:11:05.800 --> 0:11:09.760 A possibility I never had to see him in general. Again, Yeah, 0:11:09.800 --> 0:11:11.960 I wish there was a possibility to get rid of that. Okay, 0:11:12.000 --> 0:11:15.280 well I can't do that, but I read something really 0:11:15.280 --> 0:11:19.280 interesting today. Tinder have just brought in a new feature 0:11:19.760 --> 0:11:23.559 and you can now block certain people in your life 0:11:23.600 --> 0:11:26.600 from seeing your profile. So you can put in your 0:11:26.720 --> 0:11:28.240 I think you just put in their phone number, so 0:11:28.280 --> 0:11:30.720 you have to have the contact If you put in 0:11:30.760 --> 0:11:32.720 the phone number into Tinder, and it will block that 0:11:32.760 --> 0:11:36.400 person from being able to see I think that's bloody brilliant. 0:11:36.440 --> 0:11:38.440 There were so many people I was trying to avoid 0:11:38.520 --> 0:11:41.920 when when I was on the dating circuit, especially like 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:44.520 I mean, like this makes me sound really sad, but 0:11:44.880 --> 0:11:47.520 you know, single six years in BONDI that's not that 0:11:47.559 --> 0:11:50.000 many people in bond eye Like I turned through some days, 0:11:50.840 --> 0:11:54.720 there were definitely some people and whether they were like flatmates, friends, ex's, 0:11:55.400 --> 0:11:58.320 work colleagues, there were people that, like you just didn't 0:11:58.360 --> 0:12:00.439 want to see on there, and I wish at the 0:12:00.480 --> 0:12:01.880 time I could have blocked them, But you can do 0:12:02.000 --> 0:12:04.160 that now. I thought that this feature would have already 0:12:04.160 --> 0:12:06.760 been a thing, like surely I thought that there would 0:12:06.760 --> 0:12:08.880 be a button where it's like hide by a profile 0:12:08.920 --> 0:12:11.120 from that person. See. I think that's really good actually, 0:12:11.160 --> 0:12:12.760 and I think that that should be something they bring 0:12:12.760 --> 0:12:14.839 in so you can do it as you go, because 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:17.040 you might not have a contacts number. But it does 0:12:17.280 --> 0:12:21.800 present another problem. Some people have come out on Reddit 0:12:22.040 --> 0:12:25.439 and all these conversation chains and they're like, this is 0:12:25.480 --> 0:12:28.000 all well and good. You can block your ex, but 0:12:28.040 --> 0:12:30.679 what about the fact that you could block your current 0:12:30.840 --> 0:12:34.120 partner or your partner's friends and just have a field 0:12:34.200 --> 0:12:36.360 day cheating. Well, how many times we've had a lot 0:12:36.360 --> 0:12:38.679 of people writing actually we had one only on an 0:12:38.679 --> 0:12:42.200 ask gun. I think two weeks ago where a work 0:12:42.240 --> 0:12:45.120 colleague went to Queensland on a trip and saw her 0:12:45.240 --> 0:12:49.920 colleague's husband on Tinder. He's obviously gone away, and thought that, 0:12:50.160 --> 0:12:52.000 you know, he's far enough away he's not gonna know anyone. 0:12:52.080 --> 0:12:54.200 What are the odds she's seen it? And then she's like, 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:57.000 Holy Molly, do I tell my colleague that I saw 0:12:57.040 --> 0:12:59.200 her husband on Tinder? So it gets to a point 0:12:59.240 --> 0:13:01.320 where you could go through your phone. I mean, hypothetically, 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:04.319 I hope no one does this, but you could go 0:13:04.400 --> 0:13:07.080 through and block your partner and all your partner's friends 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:10.280 or your family or their family, and then go to town. Well, 0:13:10.320 --> 0:13:12.520 for starters, I think you'd hope that if you were 0:13:12.520 --> 0:13:14.559 going to cheat on your partner, your partner wasn't also 0:13:14.679 --> 0:13:18.200 on Tinder, right imagine if you both like that would 0:13:18.280 --> 0:13:19.680 kind of be like, ah, well you were doing it 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:20.120 to me too. 0:13:20.520 --> 0:13:22.079 But also I don't. 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:24.959 Think you'd have all the phone numbers of your partner's friends, 0:13:24.960 --> 0:13:28.360 would you. I mean, if this is clutching at straws, 0:13:28.360 --> 0:13:29.760 I think that if someone's going to go to that 0:13:29.880 --> 0:13:32.679 much effort to get away with cheating, they've probably got 0:13:32.720 --> 0:13:34.360 like a whole bag of tricks up their sleep, right, 0:13:34.400 --> 0:13:36.400 I mean they're gonna get caught anyway, if anyone's listening. 0:13:36.440 --> 0:13:38.160 We're not encouraged this and don't do it if you 0:13:38.160 --> 0:13:42.600 always get caught, like always, all right, producer Keisha. Before 0:13:42.640 --> 0:13:45.800 we get into the episode, we have our favorite segment 0:13:46.160 --> 0:13:50.320 accidentally unfiltered. This is not your first radio Do you 0:13:50.320 --> 0:13:52.440 want to kick start? Yes? I do. 0:13:52.960 --> 0:13:55.400 And firstly, thanks to everyone who sends these through. 0:13:55.520 --> 0:13:57.840 It's often like the three of us kind of scrolling 0:13:57.880 --> 0:14:00.000 through and having a good old giggle. Sometimes they think 0:14:00.080 --> 0:14:01.720 that they will come in at such funny times of 0:14:01.760 --> 0:14:03.760 the night and my housemates will just hear me, like 0:14:03.800 --> 0:14:05.360 start cracking up laughing, and I. 0:14:05.360 --> 0:14:08.960 Wonder whether they know what I'm laughing at. Okay, here's 0:14:08.960 --> 0:14:09.360 one for you. 0:14:09.840 --> 0:14:12.200 So a few years back, my boyfriend at the time 0:14:12.200 --> 0:14:14.040 and I were out for lunch and he had invited 0:14:14.080 --> 0:14:16.120 along one of his work colleagues. And I'd never met 0:14:16.120 --> 0:14:18.720 this work colleague before. So we're sitting there, we're having 0:14:18.800 --> 0:14:22.280 lunch when we're chatting about everything, and the conversation went 0:14:22.320 --> 0:14:25.600 to tattoos and I started telling him about this guy 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:28.720 that my girlfriend had previously hooked up with. She told 0:14:28.800 --> 0:14:32.680 me that he had a suck Me Off Beautiful tattoo 0:14:33.400 --> 0:14:37.640 across his underline. So he's a cat. Is something you 0:14:37.680 --> 0:14:40.920 want to take home to your mama, darling? I proceeded 0:14:41.000 --> 0:14:43.520 to say, I mean, how gross is that? Why the 0:14:43.560 --> 0:14:46.640 hell would you get anything like that tattooed on your body? 0:14:46.920 --> 0:14:49.920 Every girl is gonna think that You're absolutely disgusting. You 0:14:49.960 --> 0:14:53.640 can only imagine my face when this guy looks at 0:14:53.720 --> 0:14:59.000 me straight in the eyes, stands up, the top of 0:14:59.080 --> 0:15:04.280 his trousers down and starts bursting out. Last, did he 0:15:04.400 --> 0:15:10.480 have sight suck me off Beautiful and tattooed on the 0:15:10.520 --> 0:15:14.840 top of his undeline? RIPENI fuck my life? How small 0:15:14.880 --> 0:15:18.280 can this world get? I'm still embarrassed to this day. 0:15:18.560 --> 0:15:23.120 What firstly, bro go and get a laser removal. No 0:15:23.120 --> 0:15:26.480 one's the time, but I don't care what bet you lost. Secondly, 0:15:27.000 --> 0:15:29.680 what are the odds that you're telling a story this 0:15:29.720 --> 0:15:32.040 happened to your friend? Your friends slept with someone, and 0:15:32.080 --> 0:15:34.120 it's the person sitting across from here. It's probably in 0:15:34.520 --> 0:15:37.800 probably want to has anyone else slept with this person? 0:15:37.880 --> 0:15:40.280 Can you ride in? Yes? Send a message if you've 0:15:40.280 --> 0:15:42.400 slept with the guy that specifically has a tattoo that 0:15:42.440 --> 0:15:46.120 reads suck me off beautiful tattooed on his undeyline. Have 0:15:46.280 --> 0:15:48.760 you gone for me? Yeah? I do. My one is 0:15:48.840 --> 0:15:51.680 like proper cooked. I feel a bit gross reading it, 0:15:51.720 --> 0:15:55.160 but whatever. So the other day I came home from 0:15:55.200 --> 0:15:57.000 work and I was putting my stuff down on the 0:15:57.040 --> 0:15:59.640 kitchen bench when my three month old kitten jumped up 0:15:59.640 --> 0:16:02.480 to say. As I was patting him, I noticed something 0:16:02.480 --> 0:16:04.560 on his fur. It was as though he had gotten 0:16:04.600 --> 0:16:07.040 into something and it spilled in him, sort of like milk. 0:16:07.080 --> 0:16:10.120 Maybe it had me rattled. Everything I could think of 0:16:10.360 --> 0:16:14.640 was nowhere in sight. Then I remembered something. I remembered 0:16:14.640 --> 0:16:17.240 how only a few weeks prior, my partner was telling 0:16:17.280 --> 0:16:19.680 me that he was trying to have a little sexy 0:16:19.720 --> 0:16:22.040 alone time, but the kitten kept trying to swipe his 0:16:22.120 --> 0:16:25.400 balls while he was doing it. Had suddenly clicked in 0:16:25.440 --> 0:16:27.600 this moment. I turned to him as he finished descending 0:16:27.640 --> 0:16:29.880 the stairs, and I said, Babe, did you come on 0:16:29.960 --> 0:16:34.480 the cat? His face went from laughing to shocked, and 0:16:34.520 --> 0:16:36.840 that's when I knew. I burst into laughed at he 0:16:36.920 --> 0:16:39.560 dropped to the ground. Turns out he was doing his 0:16:39.600 --> 0:16:42.560 thing and had mistaken the cat for an item of clothing. 0:16:43.160 --> 0:16:46.720 Wait wait, wait, wait wait wait, mistaken the cat for 0:16:46.840 --> 0:16:50.600 an iseam of clothing for it? How do you do that? 0:16:50.800 --> 0:16:54.000 How do you either you have like shot it out 0:16:54.280 --> 0:16:56.800 and it has intercepted it as it's like a running 0:16:57.440 --> 0:17:01.080 or you're a sicko or you're blind and whatever out. 0:17:01.280 --> 0:17:03.640 Surely they surely they shoot it out, don't they don't 0:17:03.680 --> 0:17:05.399 men just try and see how far it can go? 0:17:06.080 --> 0:17:06.679 Surely not? 0:17:06.960 --> 0:17:08.760 Yeah, I think so. I reckon it keeps people out 0:17:08.760 --> 0:17:10.560 there being like one hundred percent they have at least 0:17:10.600 --> 0:17:12.240 once in their life they want to know like what 0:17:12.400 --> 0:17:14.439 power and distance they have because they think it's like 0:17:15.320 --> 0:17:17.520 they think it means their swimmers are stronger and things, 0:17:17.560 --> 0:17:21.280 so like I can guarantee you velocity to them. Do 0:17:21.320 --> 0:17:23.879 you know what's actually really interesting? Can you all ask 0:17:24.080 --> 0:17:27.840 your partners in your life if they have ever done this, 0:17:27.920 --> 0:17:29.680 if it's a thing that men do where they want 0:17:29.720 --> 0:17:33.280 to test the power of their sperm. We're gonna put 0:17:33.280 --> 0:17:34.800 a pole up and I'm gonna ask you. I want 0:17:34.840 --> 0:17:36.399 you to vote on behalf of the men. You're like 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:39.360 super curious. I'm gonna say yes, I'm gonna I'm gonna 0:17:39.359 --> 0:17:41.320 say more people have done that once in their life. 0:17:41.359 --> 0:17:43.199 What are you gonna do? That's pretty cooked and a 0:17:43.200 --> 0:17:48.280 bit fucked us. I'm not saying it's not cooked. Well anyway, 0:17:48.280 --> 0:17:50.000 it was lovely to join you for the intro. But 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:52.240 don't worry, guys, I'm not on the rest of the episode. 0:17:52.480 --> 0:17:55.120 Your gal Laura is about to join you right now. 0:17:55.440 --> 0:17:58.119 Thank you for coming on, Keisha. We are in my 0:17:58.240 --> 0:18:00.879 lounge room. We are clothes though, so it's so different. 0:18:00.920 --> 0:18:02.240 I don't really know what to do with it looking 0:18:02.240 --> 0:18:05.439