WEBVTT - UNPACKED REALITY - FARMER WANTS A WIFE - FARMER TOM 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:01.760 It's in the news today, but it was actually on 0:00:01.840 --> 0:00:03.960 TV Reload the podcast last week that night. 0:00:04.040 --> 0:00:06.200 Hey guys, welcome back to TV Reload. 0:00:06.280 --> 0:00:08.559 I want to thank you for clicking and downloading on 0:00:08.640 --> 0:00:11.240 these episodes that I've been doing with the Farmer Wants 0:00:11.240 --> 0:00:14.920 a Wife series. Today we are finishing my interviews with 0:00:15.000 --> 0:00:18.720 Farmer Tom. This series has been the highest rating series 0:00:18.760 --> 0:00:20.840 of the show, and whilst I've noticed a lot of 0:00:20.840 --> 0:00:23.400 the fans talking about the high level of drama and 0:00:23.440 --> 0:00:26.240 some comparisons to Maps, I actually think it's great that 0:00:26.520 --> 0:00:29.200 so many people have been tuning in and watching the 0:00:29.400 --> 0:00:32.239 evolution of these farmers, you know, meet these girls and 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:35.800 find true love. My guest today, Tom is twenty two 0:00:35.880 --> 0:00:36.600 years of age. 0:00:36.640 --> 0:00:37.840 He is a third. 0:00:37.640 --> 0:00:40.960 Generation cattle and crop farmer with a pragmatic approach to 0:00:41.040 --> 0:00:44.120 life and a genuine ability to laugh at himself, which 0:00:44.200 --> 0:00:47.960 I have really enjoyed watching. From running his own contracting 0:00:48.080 --> 0:00:51.160 business to partnering with his dad on the family farm, 0:00:51.280 --> 0:00:55.160 Tom's work, ethic and dedication is really second to none, 0:00:55.320 --> 0:00:58.600 with everyone from Samantha Armaitige the host, to Farmer Burt, 0:00:58.640 --> 0:01:00.880 one of his close friends, could affirming that he's a 0:01:00.880 --> 0:01:02.720 bit of an old soul and we really did get 0:01:02.760 --> 0:01:05.039 to see that. Along the way, I will talk about 0:01:05.040 --> 0:01:07.880 Tom's time on the show, from the awkward dinners where 0:01:07.880 --> 0:01:11.039 he needed to send people home worrying about the possible 0:01:11.120 --> 0:01:13.560 drama that could happen between the girls, and what he 0:01:13.600 --> 0:01:15.039 thinks of some of the women that are on the 0:01:15.080 --> 0:01:17.960 other farms. We will unpack his age and if he 0:01:18.000 --> 0:01:20.600 thought twenty two was too young to sign up for 0:01:20.600 --> 0:01:23.200 a show like this, including what he thought of some 0:01:23.280 --> 0:01:25.480 of the girls being a bit older that were picked 0:01:25.520 --> 0:01:28.440 for his farm, and if he had been attracted to 0:01:28.480 --> 0:01:31.680 older women in the past. Farmer Tom will discuss hiding 0:01:31.760 --> 0:01:34.600 the outcome with Sarah and what he thinks of all 0:01:34.640 --> 0:01:37.959 the rumors that keep surrounding this show. We will find 0:01:37.959 --> 0:01:40.560 out what his family thought of his final two girls 0:01:40.640 --> 0:01:43.039 and why they clashed over who he should choose in 0:01:43.080 --> 0:01:46.160 the end. There's actually so much to unpack with Farmer Tom, 0:01:46.440 --> 0:01:48.320 and I just want to quickly say thank you to 0:01:48.680 --> 0:01:51.080 everyone who has been listening to these chats this season. 0:01:51.160 --> 0:01:54.040 I've thoroughly enjoyed getting to know the farmers, and I've 0:01:54.040 --> 0:01:56.559 really appreciated all the comments that have been getting along 0:01:56.600 --> 0:01:59.640 the way as well. So yeah, sit back and relaxes. 0:02:00.080 --> 0:02:02.880 We unpacked the wonderful world of Farmer Wants a Wife. 0:02:03.440 --> 0:02:04.920 Hey, Tom, how are you good? 0:02:04.920 --> 0:02:05.360 How are you? 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:07.400 I'm good, I'm good. 0:02:07.480 --> 0:02:09.080 Do you know It's so funny that I've been watching 0:02:09.120 --> 0:02:12.119 this series for so long and I've just been mistaking 0:02:12.400 --> 0:02:15.400 where you are, and I've zoomed in now on the 0:02:15.440 --> 0:02:17.480 maps to find out exactly where you are, and it's 0:02:17.480 --> 0:02:19.000 starting to make a little bit more sense that you 0:02:19.120 --> 0:02:21.000 ended up in the Bendigo Gazette. 0:02:21.080 --> 0:02:23.799 Yeah, because like our farm we kline of bought it 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:26.040 to Bilk in the Gambi. Yeah, so I like my 0:02:26.400 --> 0:02:29.200 post codes to Builk. But yeah, like if anyone asked, 0:02:29.200 --> 0:02:30.960 I'd probably say in the Gambi sort of thing. 0:02:31.320 --> 0:02:33.760 Yeah right, okay, all right, well that makes a little 0:02:33.760 --> 0:02:36.760 bit more sense. I'm my whole my partner's whole family. 0:02:37.400 --> 0:02:39.080 They live in Bendigo, So I spent a bit of 0:02:39.120 --> 0:02:41.880 time out sort of your way, but yeah, sort of 0:02:41.880 --> 0:02:44.639 putting a little bit more perspective as to whereabouts your base. 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:46.280 Yeah, yeah, that's best. 0:02:47.320 --> 0:02:50.160 How did you get yourself involved in a show like this? 0:02:50.560 --> 0:02:52.919 Well, a friend of mine signed me up for the show, 0:02:53.160 --> 0:02:55.400 or like kind of started the application and then I 0:02:55.440 --> 0:02:59.240 got contacted to like a casting and then yeah, I 0:02:59.280 --> 0:03:01.040 was kind of like should I do it? Then I 0:03:01.080 --> 0:03:03.080 was like, oh, heah, what's the worst that can happen. 0:03:03.240 --> 0:03:05.200 Then as we got more into it, yeah, I was 0:03:05.200 --> 0:03:06.480 just like, now this would be good. 0:03:06.760 --> 0:03:08.880 Well, you were a fan of the show, Like, I mean, 0:03:08.880 --> 0:03:11.160 this is what I always think, you know, looking at 0:03:11.160 --> 0:03:13.880 you on the show up to this point, I'm like, well, 0:03:14.240 --> 0:03:16.400 you know, I can't imagine you're sitting around watching Farmer 0:03:16.440 --> 0:03:18.640 Wance a Wife, but maybe it's your favorite show. 0:03:18.680 --> 0:03:19.080 I don't know. 0:03:19.280 --> 0:03:21.400 Oh well, like if I got home in time, I 0:03:21.440 --> 0:03:23.320 probably would have put it on and watched it. I've 0:03:23.320 --> 0:03:25.440 watched a very few of the seasons, Like I've never 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:28.240 really watched the whole whole season back to back, But 0:03:28.520 --> 0:03:29.840 then I've watched plenty of it. 0:03:29.960 --> 0:03:31.799 I always think, as well, when you get asked to 0:03:31.800 --> 0:03:33.840 do a show like this and then it's about to 0:03:33.840 --> 0:03:36.280 come to crunch time, do you then go back and 0:03:36.320 --> 0:03:39.200 watch previous seasons? Did you start trying to bone up 0:03:39.240 --> 0:03:40.440 on you know, how you were. 0:03:40.360 --> 0:03:40.960 Going to play this? 0:03:41.320 --> 0:03:43.960 Oh? Not really, I'd probably fly. I'm pretty blind, to 0:03:44.000 --> 0:03:46.280 be honest. I had a bit of an understanding of 0:03:46.320 --> 0:03:49.600 what how it works and like what sort of to expect. 0:03:49.680 --> 0:03:52.080 So yeah, and I just kind of went into it. 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:53.640 Was this dating show the best way for you to 0:03:53.680 --> 0:03:55.960 get out of your comfort zone, because like how long 0:03:55.960 --> 0:03:58.760 had you been single before taking this show on. 0:04:00.080 --> 0:04:03.520 I've probably been single like a year and a half 0:04:03.640 --> 0:04:06.680 maybe a year sort of thing. And yeah, yeah, like 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:09.040 it was good in that sense, like because yeah, like 0:04:09.200 --> 0:04:11.040 I do work a lot, so like the only real 0:04:11.080 --> 0:04:13.760 place where i'd kind of meet people either like they 0:04:13.840 --> 0:04:16.520 work at the same place where I'm kind of working, 0:04:16.680 --> 0:04:18.920 or yeah, kind of like somewhere where I'm shopping. 0:04:19.160 --> 0:04:21.200 And why has it a relationship worked out for you 0:04:21.240 --> 0:04:24.320 in the past, Like why has your relationships ended when 0:04:24.320 --> 0:04:26.279 you've been in other with other girls? 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:30.000 There's always been multiple like yeah, like different reasons. Like 0:04:30.120 --> 0:04:32.760 one the one that was probably the closest to going 0:04:32.839 --> 0:04:34.799 to work out, like it was a fair age gap, 0:04:34.960 --> 0:04:37.200 and yeah, there was like that just kind of yeah, 0:04:37.240 --> 0:04:39.120 like I was still quite young, so I was like 0:04:39.400 --> 0:04:41.120 we'll both just kind of like, yeah, this probably is 0:04:41.160 --> 0:04:43.440 going to work out a few others, like because I've 0:04:43.440 --> 0:04:45.719 worked a lot, they might want me to do things 0:04:45.720 --> 0:04:47.800 that I just kind of can't at that time year, 0:04:48.080 --> 0:04:50.400 and that always makes things challenging. 0:04:50.279 --> 0:04:53.440 Some years, you know, a few scandals fall off the wagon. 0:04:53.720 --> 0:04:56.600 You know, during and after the show. Were you worried 0:04:56.640 --> 0:05:01.520 about putting yourself on national television and having people scrutinize 0:05:01.520 --> 0:05:02.000 your life? 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:04.719 Oh, like, I'm not that worried about that. Like anything 0:05:04.920 --> 0:05:07.200 anything that I've done, I'll just own it and be like, yeah, 0:05:07.240 --> 0:05:10.240 whatever had happened, Like there's no point yeah, kind of 0:05:10.279 --> 0:05:12.440 like trying to deny it. Like if it happened, it happened. 0:05:12.600 --> 0:05:15.080 You just try and grow as a person and do better. 0:05:15.360 --> 0:05:17.760 But no, like, yeah, I wasn't that worried about it. 0:05:17.800 --> 0:05:19.520 Like you've just kind of got a hope that no 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:21.839 one kind of makes anything up that's not true. 0:05:22.080 --> 0:05:24.680 Yeah, which people can do. I mean, people feel relevant 0:05:24.720 --> 0:05:28.240 both like they have information. So sometimes you know, people 0:05:28.640 --> 0:05:31.240 have this need to say something that maybe they think 0:05:31.360 --> 0:05:33.440 is true but isn't true, you know what I mean, 0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:34.720 just to make themselves feel heard. 0:05:34.800 --> 0:05:37.800 Oh yeah, definitely. And lies always travel faster than the. 0:05:37.760 --> 0:05:41.720 Truth, so it's usually a little bit more exciting. Yeah, usually, yeah, 0:05:42.360 --> 0:05:43.600 a little bit more scandalous. 0:05:43.720 --> 0:05:46.960 Yeah, the truth can be quite worrying sometimes He's twenty. 0:05:46.680 --> 0:05:50.960 Two years old too young to be getting married, well, like, 0:05:51.279 --> 0:05:52.120 and I kind. 0:05:51.880 --> 0:05:54.320 Of like, yeah, plenty of people have said that, like, 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:56.560 we don't get it's like we actually get married at 0:05:56.560 --> 0:05:58.600 the end of the show, like that's obviously the long 0:05:58.680 --> 0:06:01.599 term plan. But no, like, I still wouldn't say it's 0:06:01.600 --> 0:06:06.000 too young. Like, I know plenty of successful relationships that 0:06:06.040 --> 0:06:08.880 have got together at like nineteen twenty and if you 0:06:08.960 --> 0:06:12.799 go back forty fifty years and like a bit further, 0:06:13.120 --> 0:06:15.760 that's when they were getting together, Like they're married by 0:06:15.760 --> 0:06:16.760 eight a nineteen. 0:06:17.120 --> 0:06:19.599 I guess I was sort of curious about these getting 0:06:19.640 --> 0:06:23.000 married at a younger age still a thing in Central Victoria. 0:06:23.120 --> 0:06:25.960 I like, it's probably not the most common thing, but yeah, 0:06:25.960 --> 0:06:27.960 it's like anything, if you're going to Yeah, if you're 0:06:28.080 --> 0:06:30.000 open to it and going to make it work, I 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:32.120 don't see why it can't happen. So as long as 0:06:32.160 --> 0:06:35.560 the kind of maturity levels there with both parties, they're like, 0:06:35.640 --> 0:06:38.240 I don't see the difference in the age sort of thing. 0:06:38.400 --> 0:06:41.760 Well, the other farmers and Samantha have been telling me 0:06:41.920 --> 0:06:44.400 each week that you're a bit of an old soul. 0:06:44.800 --> 0:06:47.320 I think that they think that you're not really this 0:06:47.440 --> 0:06:49.200 twenty two year old guy who hasn't got his shit 0:06:49.279 --> 0:06:51.640 together an actual fact, you're a bit like a thirty 0:06:51.720 --> 0:06:53.680 year old bloke in a twenty two year old's body. 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:56.320 Is there any truth or how do you resonate with that? 0:06:56.520 --> 0:06:59.800 Yeah, it's probably true, and like really like normally when 0:06:59.839 --> 0:07:02.719 I kind of go and just getting around doing whatever, 0:07:02.800 --> 0:07:05.480 like everyone thinks I'm kind of like twenty seven kind 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:08.120 of thirty two anyway, So yeah, I don't know, And 0:07:08.160 --> 0:07:10.400 all my friends are a lot older, like I wouldn't 0:07:10.400 --> 0:07:12.280 have any friends in my own age really, like they'd 0:07:12.280 --> 0:07:16.680 probably vary from like twenty seven to forty five sort 0:07:16.720 --> 0:07:17.040 of things. 0:07:17.080 --> 0:07:20.560 So, well, what's your relationship like with Farmer Burt? Because 0:07:20.600 --> 0:07:22.640 when I spoke to him, I said, you know, how's 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:25.680 it all going, how's the ladies and what's it like 0:07:25.720 --> 0:07:28.600 with the other farmers? And he quickly circled, you know 0:07:28.680 --> 0:07:31.559 and singled you out and said how much he's really 0:07:31.640 --> 0:07:34.920 enjoyed having you there and going through this show together. 0:07:35.280 --> 0:07:38.080 What's what's the story there? What's the relationship between you 0:07:38.120 --> 0:07:40.320 and farmer Bird? Like, how have you connected? 0:07:40.480 --> 0:07:42.440 Yeah? No, we get along really well, Like I don't know, 0:07:42.640 --> 0:07:45.280 kind of from the get go. We got on very 0:07:45.320 --> 0:07:47.200 well and like, yeah, I don't know, we probably talk 0:07:47.280 --> 0:07:49.600 on the phone every second day or something like now 0:07:49.640 --> 0:07:51.600 that it's kind of like the show is obviously over 0:07:51.680 --> 0:07:53.960 now and yeah, like yeah, I flew up and saw 0:07:54.040 --> 0:07:56.240 him a couple of weeks, probably a month or two 0:07:56.280 --> 0:07:58.560 ago now, yeah, and we talk a fair bit. Yeah, 0:07:58.560 --> 0:08:00.520 I don't know, just kind of sometimes and you click 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:02.560 with someone, you get along super quick. 0:08:02.600 --> 0:08:05.120 And I guess it's easy now because you both can 0:08:05.160 --> 0:08:07.200 watch the show and now you can put a face 0:08:07.200 --> 0:08:09.000 to some of the names, because I'm assuming if you 0:08:09.040 --> 0:08:11.920 were talking through filming, you probably would have been talking 0:08:12.000 --> 0:08:13.640 about the ladies that were on your farm. 0:08:13.840 --> 0:08:15.800 And then now you get to sort of see how 0:08:15.840 --> 0:08:16.240 it all. 0:08:16.200 --> 0:08:18.960 Unfolded exactly, and like I kind of knew, yeah, like 0:08:19.040 --> 0:08:21.920 we did. I've got to meet most of his girls. 0:08:22.000 --> 0:08:25.520 Like the first one that went home, I didn't get 0:08:25.560 --> 0:08:27.880 to meet her, Like I probably met her once, but 0:08:27.960 --> 0:08:29.800 you know, like not enough to actually get to know her. 0:08:30.000 --> 0:08:30.520 Yeah, true. 0:08:30.560 --> 0:08:32.880 And then the second one I don't really remember her. 0:08:32.920 --> 0:08:35.640 But then the last like three that he had, like yeah, 0:08:35.679 --> 0:08:38.040 like I got to know them quite well, Like, yeah, 0:08:38.080 --> 0:08:41.200 they're all pretty good, good people. So no, it's interesting 0:08:41.240 --> 0:08:43.440 to see like kind of like he'd be like, oh, yeah, 0:08:43.480 --> 0:08:46.800 this happened, and you kind of can't really know exactly 0:08:46.840 --> 0:08:48.560 what happened, but no, it's good to be able to 0:08:48.559 --> 0:08:50.720 see it and kind of get some context of what 0:08:50.760 --> 0:08:51.640 we were talking about. 0:08:51.760 --> 0:08:53.319 I kind of feel like with you that they did 0:08:53.320 --> 0:08:55.600 a good job of picking these girls, like some of 0:08:55.600 --> 0:08:57.800 the sets of girls to some of the farmers, I'm 0:08:57.800 --> 0:08:59.320 a little bit like, oh, I don't know, but I 0:08:59.440 --> 0:09:01.200 just thought, you know, they did a pretty good job 0:09:01.240 --> 0:09:04.240 of being able to I guess find out what you 0:09:04.280 --> 0:09:07.040 were interested in in a partner and finding them. What 0:09:07.080 --> 0:09:08.959 did you think of all of these women that were 0:09:08.960 --> 0:09:09.600 picked for you? 0:09:09.640 --> 0:09:12.160 Obviously, when you're trying to pick a partner for someone 0:09:12.160 --> 0:09:13.679 that you don't know, it's never going to be an 0:09:13.720 --> 0:09:16.480 easy job. But no, like they all did. Yeah, Like 0:09:16.520 --> 0:09:20.160 they're all very nice ladies and very respectful and time. 0:09:20.400 --> 0:09:22.440 So yeah, you probably couldn't have asked for a better 0:09:22.480 --> 0:09:24.880 group of girls in that way, that's for sure. They 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:25.959 got along really well. 0:09:26.160 --> 0:09:26.360 Well. 0:09:26.400 --> 0:09:28.600 That's the thing is, like, what's going to happen if 0:09:28.600 --> 0:09:30.640 these girls are all going to remain friends and you 0:09:30.720 --> 0:09:33.160 pick one of them? Are you going to be being well, 0:09:33.160 --> 0:09:34.920 this is a little bit awkward when you know she 0:09:34.960 --> 0:09:36.160 wants to go off and hang out with some of 0:09:36.200 --> 0:09:38.000 the other girls that you've probably made out with on 0:09:38.040 --> 0:09:38.439 the farm. 0:09:38.600 --> 0:09:41.320 Oh, I like, yeah, probably wouldn't have been like it's 0:09:41.360 --> 0:09:44.560 probably not ideal, but you know, like all the girls 0:09:44.640 --> 0:09:47.040 kind of left well enough that you could, Yeah, it 0:09:47.080 --> 0:09:49.720 wouldn't be a drama, like, yeah, I don't yeah, I 0:09:49.760 --> 0:09:52.160 can't see that ever been a problem, to be honest. 0:09:52.000 --> 0:09:55.040 How did you go sending them home? You know, sending 0:09:55.040 --> 0:09:57.400 some of these girls home? Was that stressful for you? 0:09:57.600 --> 0:10:00.520 Yeah, it definitely was an ideal because but you do 0:10:00.679 --> 0:10:04.120 kind of still care about the person. Yeah, kind of 0:10:04.360 --> 0:10:07.080 it's a hard situation because it's not like, yeah, like 0:10:07.120 --> 0:10:09.840 it hasn't come to like a natural ending. You've kind 0:10:09.840 --> 0:10:12.520 of just got to make that decision and stick with it. Yeah, 0:10:12.679 --> 0:10:15.720 it definitely wasn't easy, and you know, like some took 0:10:15.720 --> 0:10:18.200 it very well and just kind of like thanks for 0:10:18.280 --> 0:10:21.200 letting us, like thanks for having a go and that 0:10:21.280 --> 0:10:23.559 sort of thing. But yeah, it definitely wasn't the most 0:10:23.559 --> 0:10:25.720 pleasant part of the experience, that's for sure. 0:10:25.920 --> 0:10:28.199 I just kept thinking about some of those dinners where 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:30.880 you're all sitting there eating before you're about to send 0:10:30.880 --> 0:10:34.280 someone home. Are they as awkward in real life as 0:10:34.280 --> 0:10:35.640 they come across on screen? 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:38.200 I think it's probably worth Yeah, it probably works because 0:10:38.240 --> 0:10:40.560 like they do take a long time because you kind 0:10:40.559 --> 0:10:43.600 of talk to each girl individually, so like, yeah, by 0:10:43.640 --> 0:10:46.040 the time you've kind of spoken to everyone and you've 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:48.480 all sat there and like you know, like you obviously 0:10:48.559 --> 0:10:50.120 have to set up and that sort of thing, Like 0:10:50.280 --> 0:10:52.360 you've been there for a fair few hours, and yeah 0:10:52.360 --> 0:10:54.240 it is by the end of it. Yeah, you've been 0:10:54.280 --> 0:10:55.959 there for a long time, and it's quite awkward. 0:10:56.120 --> 0:10:58.960 Did you always know who you were sending home throughout 0:10:59.000 --> 0:11:01.600 those dinners? Like you left it up to the last 0:11:01.600 --> 0:11:04.240 minute to make a decision, or were you in sort 0:11:04.240 --> 0:11:06.160 of sitting there at the table trying to cover it up, 0:11:06.400 --> 0:11:08.160 you know, so that it would work for television and 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:10.560 keep audiences guessing, like you kind. 0:11:10.320 --> 0:11:13.440 Of you don't always know you're obviously sitting there, you 0:11:13.720 --> 0:11:16.520 have like your talk with everyone and then you know 0:11:16.679 --> 0:11:18.640 kind of make your decision, like you might have had 0:11:18.640 --> 0:11:22.240 an idea beforehand, but yeah, like you know, anything can 0:11:22.320 --> 0:11:25.559 change in that sort of situation, Like probably just leave 0:11:25.600 --> 0:11:27.559 it a bit open until you've done what you had 0:11:27.559 --> 0:11:28.120 to do. 0:11:28.120 --> 0:11:30.679 Do you think that they knew? I'm always curious as 0:11:30.679 --> 0:11:32.839 to whether or not they're still sitting there thinking it's 0:11:32.920 --> 0:11:35.120 hope it's not me, or do you reckon that they've 0:11:35.160 --> 0:11:36.360 got a pretty clear idea. 0:11:36.600 --> 0:11:39.240 Yeah, I don't actually know, because, like obviously I never 0:11:39.280 --> 0:11:42.280 really went into that with them. They might think, oh, 0:11:42.400 --> 0:11:44.839 maybe it's me, and probably hopeful that it's not. That 0:11:44.920 --> 0:11:48.320 they're probably all in the same situation, like probably thinking 0:11:48.320 --> 0:11:51.680 because like obviously, most of the interactions are done on 0:11:51.800 --> 0:11:53.920 the dates you go on when you're on your own. 0:11:54.160 --> 0:11:56.800 Obviously the girls now happen on their own, but they 0:11:56.840 --> 0:12:00.000 don't know what's happened on a date with a different girl, 0:12:00.080 --> 0:12:01.920 so they're always going to be like, oh, yeah, I 0:12:01.960 --> 0:12:04.880 don't think they would know like that in some situations 0:12:04.880 --> 0:12:06.880 they might, but definitely not in all of them. 0:12:07.160 --> 0:12:09.480 I love it on reality TV as well that you 0:12:09.559 --> 0:12:12.840 were whispering goodbye it's Sarah A. But it's all on camera. So, 0:12:13.000 --> 0:12:15.160 like I was wondering, when you're whispering to the girls 0:12:15.160 --> 0:12:17.760 at times, is that because you don't want the other 0:12:17.800 --> 0:12:20.560 women to know, or are you hoping that whispering doesn't 0:12:20.559 --> 0:12:23.000 get picked up on the camera. What's it like filming 0:12:23.040 --> 0:12:24.840 the show? Do you sort of forget at times that 0:12:24.960 --> 0:12:26.280 you're always miked up? 0:12:26.360 --> 0:12:28.080 No, I know you kind of know that you're always 0:12:28.120 --> 0:12:30.520 miked up. And yeah, like if it was said quietly, 0:12:30.600 --> 0:12:32.760 it probably was just to kind of like fit the 0:12:32.800 --> 0:12:36.120 conversation that was happening. Yeah, Like nothing was there, Like 0:12:36.200 --> 0:12:39.360 I didn't do anything differently because it was cameras there, Like, yeah, 0:12:39.360 --> 0:12:42.240 it would have just been done quietly because yeah, kind 0:12:42.280 --> 0:12:44.280 of how that mood was. 0:12:44.480 --> 0:12:47.720 You know, you were giving her some serious reassurance and 0:12:47.800 --> 0:12:49.439 I think, you know, maybe you were just trying to 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:51.240 keep it down because the girls out the back would 0:12:51.240 --> 0:12:53.079 be like, well, why is he sending her home? But 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:54.640 like it was a nice thing to do. I think 0:12:54.679 --> 0:12:56.880 it was sort of, you know, more gentlemanly to sort 0:12:56.920 --> 0:12:59.320 of say good on you, you'll find love and sorry 0:12:59.320 --> 0:13:00.600 it hasn't worked out, do you know what I mean. 0:13:00.679 --> 0:13:04.120 Yeah, Like she's a lovely girl, Like she was very good, 0:13:04.200 --> 0:13:07.200 like always very happy, buddly. Yeah, you probably couldn't have 0:13:07.200 --> 0:13:10.560 asked for more of a nice person. I always wanted 0:13:10.559 --> 0:13:12.400 to do the right thing by her, that's for sure. 0:13:12.559 --> 0:13:15.480 Now, what was the age difference between you and Chrissy. 0:13:15.840 --> 0:13:17.320 Was there a bigger age difference there? 0:13:17.679 --> 0:13:19.400 Oh, there is a bit, but I couldn't tell you 0:13:19.480 --> 0:13:21.959 exactly what it is because she. 0:13:21.960 --> 0:13:23.680 Was a bit older, right, so like I think she 0:13:23.840 --> 0:13:26.920 was like yeah, so I'd say. 0:13:27.080 --> 0:13:29.000 Yeah, I think she's twenty nine. I mean, hit it 0:13:29.160 --> 0:13:31.840 you hit it off with Chrissy. But that age gap seemed, 0:13:32.320 --> 0:13:35.080 you know, it seems like it's quite big in comparison. 0:13:35.080 --> 0:13:37.400 I mean, in you're twenty two and she's twenty nine. 0:13:37.600 --> 0:13:39.560 Does that makes me want to ask you this question? 0:13:39.920 --> 0:13:42.120 Do you go for older women usually? 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:44.840 I probably would. Yeah. Yeah, Like I'd nearly always go 0:13:45.000 --> 0:13:48.000 for an older, older girl. That's not to say that 0:13:48.040 --> 0:13:50.520 I wouldn't go if someone was younger or my own age. 0:13:50.559 --> 0:13:52.600 That's just kind of and it's probably more to do 0:13:52.679 --> 0:13:54.280 with how I've met people too. 0:13:54.480 --> 0:13:54.800 True. 0:13:54.920 --> 0:13:58.560 They're kind of at that career stage. They've been to university, 0:13:58.640 --> 0:14:01.920 they've studied, they've done all that sort of thing. So yeah, 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:04.480 by the time they're kind of in the career where 0:14:04.520 --> 0:14:07.000 I'll meet them, they're kind of at that thirty years 0:14:07.000 --> 0:14:09.720 old twenty five. Well, it's probably more of the rate 0:14:09.840 --> 0:14:12.160 not gone for older people. And yeah, just kind of 0:14:12.200 --> 0:14:14.360 like the conversations we can have just to match that. 0:14:14.400 --> 0:14:16.200 I think maybe with you being a bit of an 0:14:16.200 --> 0:14:19.080 old soul, that you probably a little bit more suited 0:14:19.120 --> 0:14:21.360 to being with an older woman. I think that's probably 0:14:21.560 --> 0:14:24.720 a better match because you yourself seem to be a 0:14:24.760 --> 0:14:26.120 little bit wiser than your age. 0:14:26.280 --> 0:14:27.400 Yeah, no, I agree. 0:14:27.440 --> 0:14:29.600 And then the baby talk is something that really needed 0:14:29.600 --> 0:14:32.520 to be taken into consideration. Do you think that Chrissy 0:14:32.680 --> 0:14:35.640 might be wanting kids sooner and that might be a 0:14:35.640 --> 0:14:37.080 bit of a decision maker for you? 0:14:37.280 --> 0:14:40.360 Oh, Like, it's always something to think about, that's for sure. Like, yeah, 0:14:40.400 --> 0:14:43.960 like John, you obviously can't have children forever. It's definitely 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:46.960 something you have to weigh into your decision. Yeah, like 0:14:47.000 --> 0:14:49.760 the conversation about having children was always going to have 0:14:49.880 --> 0:14:50.360 to happen. 0:14:50.400 --> 0:14:52.480 And why is it that you don't want children at 0:14:52.520 --> 0:14:54.800 this age? Are you planning them to have them in 0:14:54.840 --> 0:14:57.880 your thirties or what's the decision there with wanting to 0:14:58.200 --> 0:14:58.840 hold off on that? 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:01.640 Oh like yeah, and like obviously i'd want to be 0:15:01.800 --> 0:15:03.960 with the person that I was considering having them with 0:15:04.080 --> 0:15:07.120 for a fair while, Like you want a good understanding 0:15:07.160 --> 0:15:10.360 of exactly who someone is and yeah, like, yeah, you 0:15:10.400 --> 0:15:13.200 don't want to have children with the wrong person, that's 0:15:13.240 --> 0:15:13.640 for sure. 0:15:13.840 --> 0:15:16.800 And then you've got Sarah C who's from Western Australia. 0:15:16.880 --> 0:15:18.480 Do you think that that might be too much of 0:15:18.520 --> 0:15:21.760 a move, like their families so much further away. Is 0:15:21.880 --> 0:15:24.560 the fact that Sarah Ce is from a you know, 0:15:24.800 --> 0:15:26.200 a state so far away? 0:15:26.600 --> 0:15:28.680 Is that going to play into your decision making? 0:15:28.880 --> 0:15:31.600 Yeah? I would say that definitely will play into making 0:15:31.640 --> 0:15:34.280 the decision. Like, yeah, like it's a four or five 0:15:34.400 --> 0:15:36.760 hour flight or something like that, and like I'm still 0:15:36.760 --> 0:15:38.480 an hour and a half from the airport, so it 0:15:38.520 --> 0:15:40.600 turns it into a whole day sort of thing, just 0:15:40.640 --> 0:15:42.720 trying to get there or get back or yeah, and 0:15:42.840 --> 0:15:45.160 like obviously being so far from your family is never 0:15:45.200 --> 0:15:47.520 going to be easy. But yeah, like if that kind 0:15:47.520 --> 0:15:49.320 of who I ended up with, just have to try 0:15:49.360 --> 0:15:52.640 and make it work, I suppose, Like yeah, yeah, like 0:15:52.680 --> 0:15:54.160 you've got to be open to the option. 0:15:54.400 --> 0:15:56.720 Well, we get to see you introducing these girls to 0:15:56.760 --> 0:15:58.920 your family and friends, and you can see that family 0:15:59.000 --> 0:16:01.920 is important to you. What was your family's honest opinion? 0:16:02.120 --> 0:16:05.080 Did they seem to have a collective thought on one 0:16:05.080 --> 0:16:07.160 of the girls over the other oh, like I think. 0:16:07.000 --> 0:16:08.920 It was a bit of a split decision. Like, yeah, 0:16:08.920 --> 0:16:11.000 like my family did have a bit like it was 0:16:11.040 --> 0:16:12.840 a bit of a split decision. Like one of my 0:16:12.920 --> 0:16:15.760 friends that was there, she said that she thought Chrissy 0:16:15.800 --> 0:16:18.080 would be a better match, and then like, kind, I 0:16:18.120 --> 0:16:20.520 think my little brother agreed with her, And then like 0:16:20.640 --> 0:16:23.480 my mother and father probably thought Sarah might be a 0:16:23.520 --> 0:16:25.720 better fit. Yeah, it was a bit of a split decision, 0:16:25.720 --> 0:16:27.880