1 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:07,040 Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast. It's the podcast for. 2 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:10,399 Speaker 2: The time poor parent who just wants answers Now. 3 00:00:10,800 --> 00:00:13,239 Speaker 1: Every Friday on the Happy Families Podcast, we talk to 4 00:00:13,280 --> 00:00:15,520 Speaker 1: you about our personal lives, the stuff we're doing right, 5 00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:17,400 Speaker 1: the stuff we're not doing the right, the things we're 6 00:00:17,480 --> 00:00:20,119 Speaker 1: challenged by, and the things where we're having wins with 7 00:00:20,200 --> 00:00:22,960 Speaker 1: our kids. It's called I'll do Better Tomorrow. The whole 8 00:00:23,000 --> 00:00:25,119 Speaker 1: idea is we want you to do better tomorrow. Is 9 00:00:25,160 --> 00:00:28,080 Speaker 1: we try to do better tomorrow ourselves. I reckon, I 10 00:00:28,200 --> 00:00:31,200 Speaker 1: reckon that today's I'll do Better Tomorrow is just such 11 00:00:31,240 --> 00:00:33,599 Speaker 1: a great way to start the year. We're actually starting 12 00:00:33,920 --> 00:00:36,960 Speaker 1: with a hack that somebody sent us. I don't know 13 00:00:37,000 --> 00:00:39,040 Speaker 1: who it was. The team sent it through. There was 14 00:00:39,080 --> 00:00:41,040 Speaker 1: no name on it. But you know how kids fight 15 00:00:41,080 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: over it's my tune, No, it's my turn, I want 16 00:00:42,760 --> 00:00:44,280 Speaker 1: to go first all how come he gets to choose 17 00:00:44,320 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 1: the music? How come she always gets to choose what 18 00:00:46,080 --> 00:00:47,600 Speaker 1: we're going to go? And do you know that sort 19 00:00:47,640 --> 00:00:50,080 Speaker 1: of I want to have a choice kind of thing. 20 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:55,120 Speaker 1: These parents have sent through a simpling argument solving first 21 00:00:55,200 --> 00:00:58,480 Speaker 1: DIBs hack that is second to none. I love it, 22 00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:01,639 Speaker 1: they said, our two kids when they were about six 23 00:01:01,680 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 1: and eight, used to argue who got first DIBs, who 24 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:08,560 Speaker 1: picks a movie, who gets the last candy, etc. We 25 00:01:08,640 --> 00:01:10,640 Speaker 1: tried getting them to do rock, paper scissors or whatever 26 00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:12,760 Speaker 1: to figure it out, but always resulted in hurt feelings 27 00:01:12,760 --> 00:01:17,880 Speaker 1: and fighting, so we put in play the first choice token. 28 00:01:18,640 --> 00:01:22,800 Speaker 1: We wrote first choice in sharpie on an old poker chip. 29 00:01:23,440 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 1: The first choice token is held by one of the kids. 30 00:01:26,680 --> 00:01:30,320 Speaker 1: If in any circumstance they don't want to compromise or 31 00:01:30,400 --> 00:01:33,080 Speaker 1: leave it to chance, they can play the first choice 32 00:01:33,080 --> 00:01:37,560 Speaker 1: token to basically get first DIBs. Once played, the token 33 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:39,680 Speaker 1: goes to the other person. They can hold the first 34 00:01:39,760 --> 00:01:41,919 Speaker 1: choice token for as long as they want, but once played, 35 00:01:42,520 --> 00:01:45,880 Speaker 1: it's handed over. It solved so much fighting and has 36 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:47,960 Speaker 1: made a fun game out of it. The first choice 37 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:51,400 Speaker 1: token is usually only used if one of them really 38 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:55,400 Speaker 1: really wants first DIBs. I read that and my eyes 39 00:01:55,520 --> 00:01:57,200 Speaker 1: lit up. What's your reaction? 40 00:01:57,600 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 2: I'm thinking, how do we do that with six kids? 41 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 1: That was my only thought. It's really easy. 42 00:02:03,720 --> 00:02:07,280 Speaker 2: For two in our house. I actually think that first 43 00:02:07,320 --> 00:02:09,200 Speaker 2: token might just get lost. 44 00:02:09,639 --> 00:02:13,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, that happens a lot in our house. 45 00:02:14,320 --> 00:02:15,800 Speaker 1: I think that it works though, you just start with 46 00:02:15,840 --> 00:02:17,480 Speaker 1: the oldest and go to the youngest. And the thing is, 47 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:19,640 Speaker 1: we're down to three kids now, really, I mean our 48 00:02:19,680 --> 00:02:21,799 Speaker 1: third daughter's about to leave. She's going to be out 49 00:02:21,800 --> 00:02:23,560 Speaker 1: of the house in a couple of weeks time. We've 50 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:26,240 Speaker 1: got eight weeks to go until she's taking off and 51 00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:29,639 Speaker 1: heading overseas. Are you counting well in an excited way? 52 00:02:29,720 --> 00:02:33,400 Speaker 1: Not well, I'm excited on all levels anyway, First DIBs token, 53 00:02:33,480 --> 00:02:36,320 Speaker 1: I really love that. Try it out. Let us know 54 00:02:36,360 --> 00:02:37,920 Speaker 1: what you think. Maybe it'll work for you and your 55 00:02:37,919 --> 00:02:41,359 Speaker 1: family as well, Kylie. Before we dive into I'll do 56 00:02:41,360 --> 00:02:43,760 Speaker 1: about it tomorrow. There is a news item that popped 57 00:02:43,840 --> 00:02:46,120 Speaker 1: up in my newsfeed recently that I do want to 58 00:02:46,160 --> 00:02:49,560 Speaker 1: share with you. This was reporting by Natasha Beata in 59 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:52,160 Speaker 1: The Australian and she shared something that I think matters 60 00:02:52,160 --> 00:02:53,959 Speaker 1: so much, especially off the back of what we talked 61 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:57,799 Speaker 1: about on yesterday's podcast, helping kids to be engaged in 62 00:02:57,880 --> 00:03:02,520 Speaker 1: school and feel like life is is good. Teenagers, she says, 63 00:03:02,760 --> 00:03:05,840 Speaker 1: are truanting and dropping out of school at record rates 64 00:03:06,400 --> 00:03:09,919 Speaker 1: as state and territory governments shortchanged the public schools struggling 65 00:03:09,960 --> 00:03:13,440 Speaker 1: with a growing number of disadvantaged students. One in four 66 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:18,160 Speaker 1: high school students and half of all Indigenous teenagers are 67 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:22,519 Speaker 1: failing to finish year twelve. One in three primary school 68 00:03:22,520 --> 00:03:26,520 Speaker 1: students and half of all high school students skipped a 69 00:03:26,600 --> 00:03:30,480 Speaker 1: month of classes last year, according to new data. So 70 00:03:30,560 --> 00:03:34,080 Speaker 1: Productivity Commission data shows that barely half of the seventy 71 00:03:34,120 --> 00:03:36,000 Speaker 1: six and a half thousand students who dropped out of 72 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:38,680 Speaker 1: school in twenty twenty two had found full time work 73 00:03:38,760 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 1: or enrolled in further study or training. A year later, 74 00:03:41,000 --> 00:03:44,400 Speaker 1: in twenty twenty three, half the school dropouts were unemployed, 75 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:48,760 Speaker 1: although were working or studying part time. Really scary stats 76 00:03:48,800 --> 00:03:50,839 Speaker 1: when it comes to what's happening with kids and being 77 00:03:50,840 --> 00:03:53,119 Speaker 1: engaged in school. I just felt like it was worth 78 00:03:53,200 --> 00:03:56,760 Speaker 1: highlighting that because it matters so much that we're helping 79 00:03:56,800 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 1: our kids to be engaged in school and to be 80 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:02,480 Speaker 1: engaged in life. So that was just sort of a 81 00:04:02,480 --> 00:04:04,600 Speaker 1: bit of news that I wanted to bring into this conversation. 82 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:07,800 Speaker 1: Let's dive into old do Better tomorrow. I'm going to 83 00:04:07,880 --> 00:04:09,520 Speaker 1: kick it off because it kind of ties in with 84 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:14,280 Speaker 1: everything we've just talked about, certainly engagement with life and 85 00:04:14,400 --> 00:04:17,000 Speaker 1: worrying about first DIBs. We've come up with a tradition 86 00:04:17,080 --> 00:04:19,479 Speaker 1: in our home. The tradition is that when the kids 87 00:04:19,480 --> 00:04:23,360 Speaker 1: turn sixteen, they get some special time with you and I, 88 00:04:23,760 --> 00:04:27,840 Speaker 1: just them and us. And late last year, one of 89 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:31,560 Speaker 1: our kids turned sixteen. Because of family circumstances and some tragedy, 90 00:04:31,600 --> 00:04:33,160 Speaker 1: we were not able to take her away on the 91 00:04:33,200 --> 00:04:35,520 Speaker 1: trip that we've been planning, and so I got postponed 92 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:38,800 Speaker 1: until last weekend. But last weekend we were able to 93 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:43,760 Speaker 1: do something really fun, really special with our fourth daughter Annie. 94 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:47,000 Speaker 1: We took her on a trip. And on these trips, 95 00:04:47,320 --> 00:04:49,200 Speaker 1: they get to select the destination so long as it's 96 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:52,400 Speaker 1: within a few hours of home, and you don't have 97 00:04:52,480 --> 00:04:53,880 Speaker 1: to do it our way, by the way, but I 98 00:04:53,920 --> 00:04:57,160 Speaker 1: love this idea. We have lots of conversations with them anyway, 99 00:04:57,640 --> 00:05:01,280 Speaker 1: but at this sixteenth birthday trip, we talk about finances, 100 00:05:01,360 --> 00:05:07,120 Speaker 1: We talk about romantic interests and intimacy, We talk about education, 101 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:12,240 Speaker 1: and we talk about values and spiritual stuff. We have 102 00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:15,719 Speaker 1: four big conversations over two or three days with a 103 00:05:16,040 --> 00:05:19,000 Speaker 1: kid who is kind of on the precipice of adulthood 104 00:05:19,040 --> 00:05:21,640 Speaker 1: only a couple of years ago, grade eleven. And so 105 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:24,200 Speaker 1: my I'll do better it's moral, I guess, is maybe 106 00:05:24,240 --> 00:05:26,920 Speaker 1: giving a bit of inspiration for parents who are thinking, 107 00:05:27,200 --> 00:05:29,200 Speaker 1: how do I really get quality time with my kids 108 00:05:29,200 --> 00:05:31,920 Speaker 1: and how do I have the conversations that matter? Our 109 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:34,839 Speaker 1: kids know we're going away when you turn sixteen. You 110 00:05:34,880 --> 00:05:37,840 Speaker 1: get to select the location within reason, and we've got 111 00:05:37,839 --> 00:05:39,839 Speaker 1: to be able to afford it, and we're going to 112 00:05:39,839 --> 00:05:43,280 Speaker 1: have these big conversations about important things. 113 00:05:43,760 --> 00:05:45,800 Speaker 2: What really stood out to me with this trip, having 114 00:05:45,839 --> 00:05:49,160 Speaker 2: now done it four times, is just the acknowledgment that 115 00:05:49,200 --> 00:05:53,839 Speaker 2: we have gotten better at having these conversations more with 116 00:05:53,960 --> 00:05:56,440 Speaker 2: our kids. First time round, we were kind of having 117 00:05:56,480 --> 00:06:00,599 Speaker 2: those conversations for the first time in any real depth, 118 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:04,560 Speaker 2: whereas now sitting down with baby number four and having them, 119 00:06:04,800 --> 00:06:06,560 Speaker 2: she kind of looked at us and she was like, Okay, 120 00:06:06,720 --> 00:06:09,080 Speaker 2: we've talked about this, talked about this, I kind of 121 00:06:09,120 --> 00:06:09,599 Speaker 2: know it all. 122 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:13,400 Speaker 1: But we can't stop doing the trip because the little 123 00:06:13,440 --> 00:06:14,960 Speaker 1: kids have seen their big sisters get it, and they 124 00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:16,720 Speaker 1: all expect that they're going to go away when they're sixteen. 125 00:06:16,839 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 1: So we still have the conversations and it's meaningful, and 126 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:23,359 Speaker 1: more than anything, it helps the kids really feel I 127 00:06:23,400 --> 00:06:27,359 Speaker 1: guess like they've got our full and undivided attention for 128 00:06:27,440 --> 00:06:28,600 Speaker 1: the time that we're away. 129 00:06:28,600 --> 00:06:32,039 Speaker 2: Well did she did she really feel that? 130 00:06:32,080 --> 00:06:33,680 Speaker 1: A few times she complained that she felt like she 131 00:06:33,760 --> 00:06:36,680 Speaker 1: was willing because we were on like an extended day. 132 00:06:36,760 --> 00:06:39,040 Speaker 1: That is true. Actually, she did this one annoying thing 133 00:06:39,080 --> 00:06:41,440 Speaker 1: where we're walking along and we're holding hands, and she'd 134 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:44,320 Speaker 1: keep on diving in between the tours, like splitting us 135 00:06:44,360 --> 00:06:46,400 Speaker 1: up and making sure that we couldn't hold hands so 136 00:06:46,400 --> 00:06:48,520 Speaker 1: that she could hold both our hands because she didn't 137 00:06:48,520 --> 00:06:50,359 Speaker 1: want to be a third wheel. That was That was 138 00:06:50,360 --> 00:06:52,440 Speaker 1: both beautiful and incredibly annoying. 139 00:06:52,640 --> 00:06:54,320 Speaker 2: It kind of reminded me of the week before our 140 00:06:54,320 --> 00:06:56,760 Speaker 2: wedding and I had to kind of sneak out to 141 00:06:56,760 --> 00:06:58,200 Speaker 2: find you so we could have a kiss or a 142 00:06:58,200 --> 00:07:00,880 Speaker 2: cuddle because my mom didn't want that's just spent too 143 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:01,760 Speaker 2: much time together. 144 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:04,119 Speaker 1: I really prefer it when our daughter is third willing, 145 00:07:04,160 --> 00:07:07,680 Speaker 1: then when your mum is third willing. Anyway, So that's 146 00:07:07,680 --> 00:07:09,640 Speaker 1: one of my old A better tomorrow is just taking 147 00:07:09,640 --> 00:07:11,880 Speaker 1: the time to invest in your kids and show them 148 00:07:11,880 --> 00:07:14,520 Speaker 1: that they matter by doing something a little bit special, 149 00:07:14,600 --> 00:07:18,360 Speaker 1: creating the tradition and also setting it up with a 150 00:07:18,440 --> 00:07:21,080 Speaker 1: level of ceremony. There are some conversations we're going to have. 151 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:23,960 Speaker 1: This is a coming of age kind of experience. All 152 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:25,520 Speaker 1: of our kids, all four of them, have had that 153 00:07:25,560 --> 00:07:28,760 Speaker 1: experience now and just this morning before we stepped into 154 00:07:28,800 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 1: the studio to record this episode of the podcast, our 155 00:07:32,360 --> 00:07:35,400 Speaker 1: next daughter on the list, daughter number five, Lily. I 156 00:07:35,400 --> 00:07:38,160 Speaker 1: mean she's only thirteen. She's still got two and a 157 00:07:38,160 --> 00:07:40,200 Speaker 1: half years or so to go until she gets her 158 00:07:40,480 --> 00:07:45,640 Speaker 1: sixteenth birthday trip. And she said, Dad, I just can't wait. 159 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:47,960 Speaker 1: I cannot wait. I'm like kidding, You've got to wait 160 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:51,280 Speaker 1: a while. She said, no, it's really really close. She 161 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 1: started counting down. That's what tradition does. That's what ceremony does. 162 00:07:55,040 --> 00:08:03,320 Speaker 1: I think that is really valuable. What's your odd about 163 00:08:03,320 --> 00:08:04,320 Speaker 1: it tomorrow? For this week? 164 00:08:04,640 --> 00:08:07,280 Speaker 2: Mine actually is an experience that we had. So one 165 00:08:07,320 --> 00:08:09,280 Speaker 2: of the things that I love about this trip is 166 00:08:09,760 --> 00:08:12,400 Speaker 2: you take the girls on a date. This time, I 167 00:08:12,600 --> 00:08:14,520 Speaker 2: was the third world because I got to come along 168 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:17,200 Speaker 2: and be a spectator to something that I think was 169 00:08:17,320 --> 00:08:18,120 Speaker 2: really profound. 170 00:08:18,440 --> 00:08:20,720 Speaker 1: So all of our dates have been really different. I've 171 00:08:20,760 --> 00:08:23,840 Speaker 1: taken a daughter kayaking as part of that special weekend away. 172 00:08:23,840 --> 00:08:25,600 Speaker 1: Another daughter just wanted to go and have a special 173 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:30,480 Speaker 1: dinner with me. This one. This was a little more 174 00:08:30,520 --> 00:08:33,880 Speaker 1: extreme in terms of being on a daddy daughter date. 175 00:08:34,720 --> 00:08:37,200 Speaker 1: And you know what, it's so bizarre because this is 176 00:08:37,240 --> 00:08:38,760 Speaker 1: probably our quietest kid. 177 00:08:39,160 --> 00:08:42,360 Speaker 2: And that's where my learning took place. So Annie decided 178 00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:44,080 Speaker 2: she wanted to go on the canyon swing. 179 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:48,080 Speaker 1: This is like a bungee jump, except just sets it 180 00:08:48,120 --> 00:08:51,880 Speaker 1: inside diving. Yeah, it's just sickening. Who does this? 181 00:08:51,960 --> 00:08:56,280 Speaker 2: And this kid, she's our most anxious. She is constantly 182 00:08:56,360 --> 00:08:59,679 Speaker 2: in her head with what ifs, and we didn't actually 183 00:08:59,720 --> 00:09:01,560 Speaker 2: tell who we'd booked it. She told us it was 184 00:09:01,559 --> 00:09:03,520 Speaker 2: what she wanted to do, but we didn't tell her 185 00:09:03,600 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 2: until the morning of that she was going to do it. 186 00:09:05,800 --> 00:09:09,760 Speaker 2: And I could see her anxiety increasing as we got 187 00:09:09,760 --> 00:09:12,120 Speaker 2: closer and closer to it, and I thought, there is 188 00:09:12,160 --> 00:09:13,720 Speaker 2: no way this kid is going to do this. There 189 00:09:13,800 --> 00:09:18,880 Speaker 2: is literally no way. I felt physically ill the entire 190 00:09:18,920 --> 00:09:22,520 Speaker 2: time we were standing there waiting for everything to take place. 191 00:09:22,600 --> 00:09:25,600 Speaker 1: So here's the context here. We're standing around about one 192 00:09:25,640 --> 00:09:28,760 Speaker 1: hundred one hundred and thirty meters above a canyon floor. 193 00:09:28,920 --> 00:09:32,439 Speaker 1: The river is flowing underneath, and the idea is you 194 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:34,280 Speaker 1: just sort of I don't know, Well, there's all sorts 195 00:09:34,280 --> 00:09:36,439 Speaker 1: of ways that you can leave the safety of the 196 00:09:37,040 --> 00:09:39,439 Speaker 1: thing that we're standing on. But it's a sixty meter 197 00:09:39,559 --> 00:09:42,520 Speaker 1: free fall, takes a little under three seconds of pure 198 00:09:43,000 --> 00:09:47,520 Speaker 1: freefall terror before the rope gently I mean very gently, 199 00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:50,840 Speaker 1: extremely tame, in fact, swings you out into the middle 200 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:52,400 Speaker 1: of the canyon and then swings you back and you 201 00:09:52,400 --> 00:09:54,240 Speaker 1: get winched back up to the platform from which you 202 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:56,440 Speaker 1: had departed a minute earlier. 203 00:09:57,000 --> 00:09:59,880 Speaker 2: And Annie decided she literally picked what would be con 204 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:02,719 Speaker 2: it did the most scariest way of doing it. 205 00:10:02,880 --> 00:10:07,080 Speaker 1: She jump running jump, She jumped running jump. I was 206 00:10:07,120 --> 00:10:08,960 Speaker 1: not prepared, so I didn't want to do this at all, 207 00:10:09,200 --> 00:10:11,120 Speaker 1: but since I was doing it, I chose what they 208 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:14,520 Speaker 1: call the lucky dip. So there's this thing that you've 209 00:10:14,520 --> 00:10:17,280 Speaker 1: got to pull, Okay, like there's a lever that's holding 210 00:10:17,320 --> 00:10:20,280 Speaker 1: you connected to everything, and when you pull it, that's 211 00:10:20,280 --> 00:10:23,080 Speaker 1: when it releases you and you fall. But the lucky dip, 212 00:10:23,120 --> 00:10:25,400 Speaker 1: they put three different levers up there that you can pull, 213 00:10:25,520 --> 00:10:28,080 Speaker 1: and basically you just pull one and you're either still 214 00:10:28,080 --> 00:10:31,040 Speaker 1: hanging or you're suddenly falling. So that was my one, 215 00:10:31,040 --> 00:10:33,480 Speaker 1: and I happened to pull the correct one first, So 216 00:10:33,520 --> 00:10:36,240 Speaker 1: I just pulled and fell. But she's standing there and 217 00:10:36,280 --> 00:10:39,280 Speaker 1: she's got to take a running leap, a running leap 218 00:10:39,360 --> 00:10:41,920 Speaker 1: off a platform above a canyon, like one hundred and 219 00:10:41,960 --> 00:10:44,679 Speaker 1: something meet terrifying. There's no way I could have done 220 00:10:44,679 --> 00:10:45,439 Speaker 1: that one. 221 00:10:45,800 --> 00:10:48,280 Speaker 2: And I could see. I was up on a viewing platform, 222 00:10:48,320 --> 00:10:50,160 Speaker 2: so I couldn't hear what was going on. I could 223 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:52,080 Speaker 2: just see, and I could see the two workers on 224 00:10:52,160 --> 00:10:54,800 Speaker 2: either side of her. She was as far back on 225 00:10:54,840 --> 00:10:57,360 Speaker 2: the platform as you can be from the edge, and 226 00:10:57,440 --> 00:11:00,440 Speaker 2: I could see the two workers and they were bouncing 227 00:11:00,559 --> 00:11:02,760 Speaker 2: like they were trying to show her what she needed 228 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:05,080 Speaker 2: to do to get that forward momentum ready and go. 229 00:11:05,400 --> 00:11:07,480 Speaker 2: They were there for a while, but I could see 230 00:11:07,480 --> 00:11:10,600 Speaker 2: that she was smiling, and then all of a sudden, 231 00:11:10,920 --> 00:11:14,880 Speaker 2: she just jumped. She literally did a running jump and 232 00:11:14,920 --> 00:11:19,839 Speaker 2: went off the edge of a cliff. And I won't lie. 233 00:11:19,880 --> 00:11:23,960 Speaker 2: I cried. I absolutely cried. I lost it in that moment. 234 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:30,080 Speaker 2: I was just so blown away with this kid, and 235 00:11:30,120 --> 00:11:34,679 Speaker 2: it just made me think of the times where possibly 236 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:38,960 Speaker 2: I have a limiting belief of what they're capable of 237 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:44,160 Speaker 2: doing because of whatever it is their fear, or their age, 238 00:11:44,440 --> 00:11:48,680 Speaker 2: or their previous experience with things, And in what ways 239 00:11:48,679 --> 00:11:52,840 Speaker 2: do I hinder their ability to live life to the 240 00:11:52,960 --> 00:11:56,200 Speaker 2: very best of their capacity because of my anxiety and 241 00:11:56,320 --> 00:12:01,679 Speaker 2: my concern. To see her do that was just or inspiring. 242 00:12:01,920 --> 00:12:04,120 Speaker 2: I can't I can't put it into any other words. 243 00:12:04,120 --> 00:12:07,080 Speaker 2: It was just amazing. And to see her come up 244 00:12:07,400 --> 00:12:09,160 Speaker 2: at the other end ready. 245 00:12:08,920 --> 00:12:10,800 Speaker 1: To do it again, she begged to do it again. 246 00:12:10,840 --> 00:12:13,360 Speaker 1: I'm not paying any more money. I have one very 247 00:12:13,360 --> 00:12:17,240 Speaker 1: important question about this story. Did you burst into tears 248 00:12:17,240 --> 00:12:21,680 Speaker 1: when I was falling off the platform. I was probably 249 00:12:21,720 --> 00:12:24,600 Speaker 1: more anxious to you to see you didn't cry for me. 250 00:12:24,640 --> 00:12:27,080 Speaker 1: I did not cried for our baby girl. Yes, okay, 251 00:12:28,280 --> 00:12:31,000 Speaker 1: I thought so. The Happy Families podcast is produced by 252 00:12:31,080 --> 00:12:34,040 Speaker 1: Justin Roland from Bridge Media. Craig Bruce is our executive producer. 253 00:12:34,200 --> 00:12:36,200 Speaker 1: We really hope that we've given you some inspo for 254 00:12:36,280 --> 00:12:39,640 Speaker 1: some ideas that can help you to build better traditions 255 00:12:39,679 --> 00:12:42,079 Speaker 1: and relationships and live with more intention when it comes 256 00:12:42,120 --> 00:12:44,280 Speaker 1: to raising your kids and make your family happier. Thanks 257 00:12:44,320 --> 00:12:46,640 Speaker 1: so much for listening. If you haven't checked out the quest, 258 00:12:46,679 --> 00:12:49,280 Speaker 1: it's our brand new Happy Families membership. It is designed 259 00:12:49,280 --> 00:12:53,040 Speaker 1: to take you step by step, holding your hand as 260 00:12:53,080 --> 00:12:55,400 Speaker 1: you tread the treacherous path of family life and do 261 00:12:55,440 --> 00:12:57,240 Speaker 1: your best to help your family to flourish. 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