WEBVTT - Can we have it all? 

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<v Speaker 1>Hi, guys, and welcome to another episode of Life Uncut.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Laura and I'm Brittany, and today we're going to

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<v Speaker 1>be talking about our favorite Astrobatchie, our only astro, only

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<v Speaker 1>Astrobacci and why was he called to see you next Tuesday?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, but it was Psycho this week, it

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<v Speaker 1>really was and a disrespectful pig. There're two things that

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<v Speaker 1>you don't really want to be called. We're also going

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<v Speaker 1>to be talking about what it is to have it all?

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<v Speaker 1>Is it possible to have it all? Can you have

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<v Speaker 1>the career, the babies, the clean house, drink a cups

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<v Speaker 1>of water a day, exfoliate? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>And just what does it all mean to an individual?

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<v Speaker 2>Because I think it means a lot of different things

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<v Speaker 2>to a lot of different women.

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<v Speaker 1>But before we get into that, Brittany, did you hear

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<v Speaker 1>that Cyrel and e are having a baby? I dare

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<v Speaker 1>read this late last night. Tell me what you feel

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<v Speaker 1>about this? Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>So I think that you're going to be far more

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<v Speaker 2>opinionated than I am on this one because I have

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<v Speaker 2>a confession to make.

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<v Speaker 1>If you say that you didn't watch either of those seasons,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to get you to leave right now, I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like get out, get out. So yeah, I actually

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<v Speaker 1>have never watched Married at First Sight. I have an excuse.

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<v Speaker 2>The first season played when I was in the Batch mansion,

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<v Speaker 2>and as you know, you're not allowed to watch any TV.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, that's a pretty pretty good excuse. And then I

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<v Speaker 1>just was too worried.

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<v Speaker 2>It was such a train wreck that I thought I

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<v Speaker 2>would get stuck on it because all of Australia were

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<v Speaker 2>stuck on it, and I.

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<v Speaker 1>Just didn't want it.

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<v Speaker 2>I hadn't even had a TV in seven years, so

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<v Speaker 2>I wasn't going to start watching it.

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<v Speaker 1>For Married at First Sight? What did you talk about

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<v Speaker 1>for like four months? I don't understand in the mansion. No,

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<v Speaker 1>as in when Married First Site was on TV? What

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<v Speaker 1>did you actually talk about to your friends and to

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<v Speaker 1>people in general? Don't tell me that there was other

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<v Speaker 1>topics of conversation going around. Yeah, I think I was

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<v Speaker 1>actually talking about real things, like side global warming and

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<v Speaker 1>you know she's so cultured. Oh my god, guy, it's

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<v Speaker 1>called woke Laura. She's woke everyone. I'm not woke. It's

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<v Speaker 1>very early in the morning. Woke again. I am not woke,

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<v Speaker 1>but here we are. What did you think about it.

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<v Speaker 2>I know you're gonna have I have an opinion, but

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<v Speaker 2>I want to hear yours first, because you actually frothed

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<v Speaker 2>on that show.

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<v Speaker 1>I did. I was obsessed with Married at First Sight,

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<v Speaker 1>And for those who don't know, Eden is not from

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<v Speaker 1>Married at First Site, He's from Love Island, right, So

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<v Speaker 1>they have cross pollinated the reality TV world, which is

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<v Speaker 1>just nuts in itself, isn't it. You're not supposed to

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<v Speaker 1>go onto the dark side. What are these people doing?

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<v Speaker 1>Stick to your lane, people, stick to your lane. Look,

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<v Speaker 1>I have mixed feelings about this. Not about the fact

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<v Speaker 1>that they're having a baby. I think it's amazing that

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<v Speaker 1>they're having a baby. I love babies. I have a baby.

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<v Speaker 1>I talk about my baby all the time. You like babies,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know babies are great. The thing that I

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<v Speaker 1>am a bit conflicted about is yesterday when it was

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<v Speaker 1>announced their baby announcement was overshadowed by the fact that

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<v Speaker 1>everyone is saying that they're doing it for a publicity stunt,

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<v Speaker 1>which in itself is pretty horrific. You should not have

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<v Speaker 1>a baby for a publicity stunt. I think we're all

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<v Speaker 1>on board with that. My issue comes from the fact

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<v Speaker 1>that they very strongly denied that this was the case. However,

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<v Speaker 1>they did their release their announcement through NW, so they

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<v Speaker 1>kept it as an exclusive announcement through NW magazine. If

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<v Speaker 1>you've got something such so special, like a baby, that's

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<v Speaker 1>something that you've announced that privately, If there's no publicity

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<v Speaker 1>or leveraging involved here, why do you need to announce

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<v Speaker 1>it through a glossy mag Look.

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<v Speaker 2>I am going to play Devil's advocate a little bit,

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<v Speaker 2>but I can see both sides. If you're going to

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<v Speaker 2>announce something anyway this I'm not saying I would do this,

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<v Speaker 2>but I can see why they're like, Look, we're going

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<v Speaker 2>to do it anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>Why don't we make a few thousand dollars doing it?

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<v Speaker 2>Put it away for the baby, you know, if it's

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<v Speaker 2>like that, if it's for the baby's future, et cetera,

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<v Speaker 2>et cetera. I can see like we're gonna do it anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>But also I do feel a little bit sorry for

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<v Speaker 2>them if it's not a publicity stand, which I don't

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<v Speaker 2>think it is. You don't having a baby's a pretty

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<v Speaker 2>big publicity start, because that's a commitment.

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<v Speaker 1>That it's a long term goal, that is a real

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<v Speaker 1>long goal. Right.

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<v Speaker 2>I think they're a really controversial couple, so I think

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<v Speaker 2>that anything they do, the media and the public are

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<v Speaker 2>going to label that as a publicity stunt. Imagine that

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<v Speaker 2>living like that, that would be really really hard. That

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<v Speaker 2>you can't scratch yourself without someone saying or you're doing

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<v Speaker 2>it for money, or you're doing it for fame.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree that is a shit label to have. However,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're so concerned about that label, would you then

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<v Speaker 1>try and make hay when the sun shines and monopolize

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<v Speaker 1>on the fact that you can make some money from

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<v Speaker 1>your announcement. It sits a bit uncomfortably with me because

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's hard to say that there's nothing about

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<v Speaker 1>it that you're going to gain from it from a

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<v Speaker 1>publicity's sake. If you're going to go down the route

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<v Speaker 1>of using the magazine to announce your pregnancy, Yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 1>pretty controversial. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And the only other thing that didn't sit right with

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<v Speaker 2>me was the fact that they both independently made a

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<v Speaker 2>comment that the ex partners had fertility problems.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't like that. I did read that as well.

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<v Speaker 1>It seems pretty insensitive to even really need to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about your exes at all when you're having a baby

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<v Speaker 1>announcement with someone else. Yeah, it should really be. The

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<v Speaker 1>focus should be on your relationship and on what you're

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<v Speaker 1>creating together, not to bring in other people's struggles and difficulties,

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<v Speaker 1>which is such an incredibly sensitive issue into your announcement

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<v Speaker 1>because Aaron and Nick they don't have a voice in

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<v Speaker 1>this and they're not able to express how they feel.

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<v Speaker 1>To kind of drag them into it and to comment

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<v Speaker 1>on what they can and can't have and their fertility

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<v Speaker 1>struggles is incredibly insensitive. It's just a.

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<v Speaker 2>Very very personal topic and it should be theirs, and

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<v Speaker 2>there's only to discuss in a public manner.

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<v Speaker 1>So I agree that wasn't cool with me. But good

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<v Speaker 1>luck to them. Congratulations that happy couple. We hope that

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<v Speaker 1>you have a beautiful, healthy baby. I really do hope

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<v Speaker 1>that they have a beautiful, healthy baby, because that at

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<v Speaker 1>the end of the day, regardless of any sentiment or

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<v Speaker 1>any motivation behind it, or even how they execute all

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<v Speaker 1>of their milestones coming up, there is the baby involved

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<v Speaker 1>and that is the biggest part of this. So I

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<v Speaker 1>really hope that everyone else can get on board and

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<v Speaker 1>be supportive. But moving along.

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<v Speaker 2>Laura Batch recap Episode five the Dog. See you next Tuesday.

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<v Speaker 1>Holy moly, guaca mole, Holy moly, guaca moly. Does anyone

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<v Speaker 1>remember that are you five? No? That was on Ali's

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<v Speaker 1>season of the Bachelor. I was doing a quote. I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't watch it. I missed that. Sorry, Oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>why is she here? Can someone tell me why Brittany

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<v Speaker 1>is commentating on a reality TV podcast when she doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>watch reality TV? I've got some real issues with this. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm here for the lulls. Yeah, are you here so

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<v Speaker 1>that I can recap it to you so that you

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<v Speaker 1>know what's going on. I openly will admit I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>really watch all of Allie's season either. I was really

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<v Speaker 1>batched out. That was straight off the back of my season.

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<v Speaker 1>You're coming in hot. But anyway, forgive you for this.

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<v Speaker 1>I was having a mine a meltdown in my room.

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<v Speaker 1>So long as you are dedicated to the cause from

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<v Speaker 1>here on in, girlfriend, so dedicated? We need to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about well, let's start from the start.

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<v Speaker 2>I know we want to jump into see next Tuesday. No,

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<v Speaker 2>I was just saying, we need to talk about Abby.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, abdog ab doc.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. She had a single date. Yeah she did, and

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<v Speaker 1>she squished fruit with her feet. Gross. She's very handsy,

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<v Speaker 1>she's very flirtatious. She knows what she wants and she's

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<v Speaker 1>going to go get that.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of sexual chemistry. We've seen that on all

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<v Speaker 2>of their dates and all of their single time, but

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<v Speaker 2>I think this date, Matt was like, Okay, cool, I

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<v Speaker 2>get her, we can make out. We need to see

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<v Speaker 2>there's more.

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<v Speaker 1>She did bring the chat to the table when she

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<v Speaker 1>started talking about her family and she was talking about

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<v Speaker 1>how she had a difficult relationship with her dad leaving

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<v Speaker 1>that was that was really good because that kind of

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<v Speaker 1>cushioned the rest of the of the controversial chat. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, oh, girlfriend, I feel you. And I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you got me with a knife when she started talking

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<v Speaker 1>about Monique spot Yes, So for those of you who

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, Abby kind of threw Manique under the bus

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit, kinda did she did that? She slaughtered

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<v Speaker 1>her with a bus. And it was coming off the

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<v Speaker 1>back of the last episode where Monique had had a

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<v Speaker 1>single date and she'd macked on with Matt and then

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<v Speaker 1>Matt had come into the cocktail party and macked on

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<v Speaker 1>with Abby, and Abby had really come back from her

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<v Speaker 1>macking on date and told every much macking, there's so

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<v Speaker 1>much macking. What then happened was Monique obviously was a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit annoyed. She said some pretty colorful things about Matt, which, look,

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<v Speaker 1>the sea bomb is probably not really an acceptable thing

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<v Speaker 1>to ever call anyone. I don't really see how it

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<v Speaker 1>can can be a joke, which is what she was

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<v Speaker 1>trying to phrase it as.

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<v Speaker 2>Later, well, I think what she means is and I

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<v Speaker 2>guess I can see this in a way. To me,

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<v Speaker 2>the sea word is the most disgraceful, disgusting word, and

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<v Speaker 2>I can't even bring myself to say it in it

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<v Speaker 2>if I'm retelling a story.

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<v Speaker 1>I just don't like it. But the way she speaks,

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<v Speaker 1>Laura is.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, oh, looking at me, Like sometimes sometimes I say

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<v Speaker 2>it for me, No, for me, it's a no if. Actually,

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<v Speaker 2>if I'm talking to a guy and he says it,

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<v Speaker 2>it's an immediate turn off, and in my mind, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>I strike him out. Like I won't say it on

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<v Speaker 2>this podcast because we're.

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<v Speaker 1>Not r rated, but from time to time, if I

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<v Speaker 1>won't say it about someone, would you say it? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't say it on the podcast. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't say it as a joke. I guess I

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<v Speaker 1>would say it about something. Start again from the top.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe I'll delete this. I don't need the world note

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<v Speaker 1>that I've got a potty bouth. Also, if you listen

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<v Speaker 1>to the way she talks, that sort of is her vibe.

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<v Speaker 1>She's a bit of a.

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<v Speaker 2>Rough diamond and her vocabulary is questionable, so I could

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<v Speaker 2>see it thrown out there is sort of funny colloquial,

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<v Speaker 2>but maybe that just is her Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>But heading back to Abby and Abby telling Matt on

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<v Speaker 1>the date what Manique said? What do you think of that? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't look out if that was cool or not cool?

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<v Speaker 1>Not cool? Well, so this is the.

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<v Speaker 2>Thing, something that happened in our season two and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not going to say it, but the producers were really

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<v Speaker 2>pushing us anyone whoever, they didn't care, pushing someone to

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<v Speaker 2>go and tell Nick what was said. No one did

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<v Speaker 2>because it was quite down to the end as well.

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<v Speaker 2>They was sort of getting me to do it, and

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<v Speaker 2>I said, there's no way I'm going to do that.

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<v Speaker 2>He can work this out on his own, essentially, and

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<v Speaker 2>it's not my job. And I didn't feel comfortable going

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<v Speaker 2>and throwing someone else under the bus. So I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>and no one did.

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<v Speaker 1>We all ignored it. So I don't know how I

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<v Speaker 1>feel about her doing it. Well, my issue with the

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<v Speaker 1>whole thing is more the fact that you have very

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<v Speaker 1>limited time to talk about yourself. Why would you waste

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<v Speaker 1>your date bitching about what somebody else said and what

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<v Speaker 1>no one else probably has realized? And I was like, hah,

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<v Speaker 1>I know something's happening here is on a single date.

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<v Speaker 1>Once you get given a rose, that single date is over.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't have extended time flapping around in a pool

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<v Speaker 1>making out. Oh you're input on a chain and you

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<v Speaker 1>were dragging out it. It's like, cool, we got what

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<v Speaker 1>we came for, Thanks guys, Out we go. Abby got

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<v Speaker 1>her rose sitting on the couch, and then all of

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<v Speaker 1>a sudden that's like, hey, let's go get in the

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<v Speaker 1>jacuzzi and make out some more, which made me realize,

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<v Speaker 1>I know that something else is coming. This day was

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<v Speaker 1>already premeditated, That conversation was already set up, because there's

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<v Speaker 1>no way in hell they would have given Abby that

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<v Speaker 1>extra one or one time. So they probably kind of

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<v Speaker 1>dangled it in front of her as a carrot and

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<v Speaker 1>said ribe for sure, Yeah, if you tell Matt, then

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<v Speaker 1>you'll get extra time with him, you'll get to get

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<v Speaker 1>in the pool, you can get real handsy. So I

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<v Speaker 1>guess she thought maybe she was leveraging it to the

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<v Speaker 1>best of her ability. However, the messenger never comes out

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<v Speaker 1>on top, it's not gonna end well for her.

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<v Speaker 2>And she also would have thought that Monique is starting

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<v Speaker 2>to be a real threat, So that was her chance to,

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<v Speaker 2>I guess, sort of not a competitor out a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but it's really childish. It's a really childish way

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<v Speaker 1>of doing it. And I think that most people can

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<v Speaker 1>kind of see through through the motivating factors in that,

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<v Speaker 1>because she was in the pool smiling, being like, I

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<v Speaker 1>just have to tell you because I just want to

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<v Speaker 1>do the right thing by you KII So whose side

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<v Speaker 1>were you on? Monique's or Abby's? I think they've both

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<v Speaker 1>done the wrong thing. They both probably should have just left.

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<v Speaker 1>Matt is smart enough, he's good enough at the game

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<v Speaker 1>that he's going to be able to figure out who's

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<v Speaker 1>in there for the right reasons. I don't think that

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<v Speaker 1>you need to point it out for him, because it

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't make you look good and it's really hard.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you have anybody on your season that was just

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<v Speaker 2>polar opposite alone in the house with you guys to

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<v Speaker 2>when the cameras came on and The Bachelor came on. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>it's hard to watch. So if that's the case, I

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<v Speaker 2>guess maybe there was some frustration in there as well

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<v Speaker 2>that do you know what?

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<v Speaker 1>We did actually have a couple of girls who in

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<v Speaker 1>our season were really quite mean behind the camera, and

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<v Speaker 1>then when the cameras were on were like, it's showtime,

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<v Speaker 1>but their true colors came out on the screen anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>So the villains that were the villains in our season

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<v Speaker 1>were actually the villains in the house, so there wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>a mismatch, and nobody had to stand up and jump

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<v Speaker 1>up and down and say, hey, that person's really mean.

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<v Speaker 1>Matt just figured it out on his own. Yeah, and

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<v Speaker 1>I know that our Astrobatchy would have figured out.

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<v Speaker 2>And also the producers are there saying, you know, he

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<v Speaker 2>should know, he deserves to know. So you have this

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<v Speaker 2>outside pressure to it on the spot of like maybe

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<v Speaker 2>I should tell him, you know, I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 2>have to keep an open mind now since I've done it,

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<v Speaker 2>I have to be open about it, and I can't

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<v Speaker 2>jump to any conclusions because I know what happens in there. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>So moving quite along, Helena gets a date.

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<v Speaker 1>They go to the pearl factory, the pearl factory, the

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<v Speaker 1>insemination factory. It was so sexual, wasn't it. The sexual

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<v Speaker 1>innuendos were way too over the top every episode of

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<v Speaker 1>This Bachelor. I don't know how they make the most

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<v Speaker 1>meaningless trivial activities so heated and sexual. We're making a baby, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>just get it in there like you like that. It

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<v Speaker 1>was just a bit too much. Yeah, and they hadn't

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<v Speaker 1>even kissed and they were making babies. What about the

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<v Speaker 1>reference to the pearl necklace at the end? Yeah, right,

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<v Speaker 1>google that because that's also not g reck. I actually

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<v Speaker 1>had to google it. I knew it was something, but

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know what. It's actually taken me by surprise.

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<v Speaker 1>And how sexual Matt is.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't think when he came on as this nerdy

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<v Speaker 2>astrophysicist bachelor, I thought it was going to be all

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<v Speaker 2>chats and intellectuals.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's been pretty I rated. Do you know what

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<v Speaker 1>I think it is? I think he's just this mega

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<v Speaker 1>nerd that's never had chicks like falling all over him before,

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<v Speaker 1>and now he's like, I am a guy. I love me.

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<v Speaker 1>So he's just out there waving his little rocket around

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<v Speaker 1>so excited. Everything was it my arm action for the rocket.

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<v Speaker 1>Then he's going to see Laura's hand gestures right now,

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<v Speaker 1>she's so animated with his rocket. But it's so so sexuals.

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<v Speaker 1>I kind of got to a point with that date

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<v Speaker 1>where I was like, all right, we get it. You

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<v Speaker 1>guys are gonna get it on. And then they didn't

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<v Speaker 1>get it on exactly. It stopped doing those hands. Sorry

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<v Speaker 1>make me so uncomfortable, I know, And then he kissed

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<v Speaker 1>her on bom bomba the cheek and then they just

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<v Speaker 1>both got up and walked on opposite directions off screen.

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<v Speaker 1>It was really sad the end of their day. And

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<v Speaker 1>I know that they were trying to the Bachelotte franchise

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<v Speaker 1>was trying to frame it as Matt's a good guy.

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<v Speaker 1>He's not out there kissing all these people. He has

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<v Speaker 1>sexual allegings. Matt has feelings too. He's, you know, an

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<v Speaker 1>oppressed white man that gets to choose between all of

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<v Speaker 1>the women. It's hard for him, Brittany, it's hard. It

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<v Speaker 1>is hard, and I feel for the guy. Yeah, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>totally so he has an awkward date with Elena, although

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<v Speaker 1>I do really like her. Then we end up at

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<v Speaker 1>the cocktail party where Matt confronts Monique.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and I do feel sorry for all the other

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<v Speaker 2>girls at the cocktail party because Inspector Gadget, I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>Matt did spend all his time with these two girls,

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<v Speaker 2>Abby and Monique and just trying to work out what

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<v Speaker 2>had happened.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think every other girl got forgotten. It was no,

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<v Speaker 1>it was just so high school, the fact that he

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<v Speaker 1>interrogated every single other girl that was there and was like,

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<v Speaker 1>cigand what did Monique say about me? Chelsea? What did

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<v Speaker 1>Manique say about me? Did Monique say this? And then

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<v Speaker 1>at the end of it, he cracked the shits and

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<v Speaker 1>walked out. It was to me, it was just very,

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<v Speaker 1>very childish, especially because he didn't even send either of

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<v Speaker 1>the girls home. He sent lovely ukulele girl home, I know,

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<v Speaker 1>and I loved her. I loved ukulele girl Julia. She

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<v Speaker 1>has a name, Laura. Ukulele girl was great. So I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to do that thing where I am probably too

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<v Speaker 1>nice and fight you on this one. But I did

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<v Speaker 1>think it was high school.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, but if you were in his position, and you

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<v Speaker 2>really you had two people's word against each other, that's it,

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<v Speaker 2>and you like both of them, but you know one

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<v Speaker 2>of them is doing the wrong thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Off with their heads, all of them. I never would

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<v Speaker 1>have survived in the quit of Scott's age, would I.

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<v Speaker 1>You would have just annihilated me. And yes, I appreciate

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<v Speaker 1>it if you've got feelings for both of them, you

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<v Speaker 1>want to get to the bottom of it.

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<v Speaker 2>But Laura was talking about The Bachelor, there's never going

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<v Speaker 2>to be an episode without drama.

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<v Speaker 1>We need the series.

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<v Speaker 2>What would have happened in that episode? Honestly if he

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<v Speaker 2>didn't investigate who said what?

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<v Speaker 1>And he would have been heckled from production to try

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<v Speaker 1>and get to the bottom of it, So it would

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<v Speaker 1>have been off. Yeah, it would have been motivated by

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<v Speaker 1>production to really take a deep dive. I just thought

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<v Speaker 1>it went on too long and it got a bit

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<v Speaker 1>of high school and it was interesting to see a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of the other girl's responses. Well, most of the

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<v Speaker 1>girls were annoyed to Abby, even though they knew man

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<v Speaker 1>he could set it. They were pissed off at Abby. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like girl code, isn't it. I guess at the end

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<v Speaker 1>of the day, things that have said within the mansion,

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<v Speaker 1>especially things that have said under frustration, shouldn't then be

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<v Speaker 1>repeated to the bachelor. To try and one up yourself

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<v Speaker 1>and to get ahead of the race just means that

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<v Speaker 1>you become untrustworthy in everyone else's eyes. So Abby has

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<v Speaker 1>a massive target on her back. Now, Yeah, I think

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<v Speaker 1>there's another side we might not have seen yet. In

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<v Speaker 1>comparison to that episode, the next episode was pretty boring.

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<v Speaker 1>I think the highlight from the next episode was just

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<v Speaker 1>Chelsea's day. No, what the hell.

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<v Speaker 2>I loved their group date. It was like a fight

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<v Speaker 2>to the death for the bouquet.

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<v Speaker 1>Then Matt slung with this sling shot. It really took

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<v Speaker 1>things from zero to hero with a whole wedding dress thing.

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<v Speaker 2>It was for me, it was quite a laughable, embarrassing date,

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<v Speaker 2>and I think the girls felt that too. You could

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<v Speaker 2>see them sitting there in their wedding dresses being like,

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<v Speaker 2>what are we doing?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, they got into it. I liked it. I kind

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<v Speaker 1>of liked the date.

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<v Speaker 2>I literally was a fight to the death between Abby

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<v Speaker 2>and Monique.

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<v Speaker 1>And everyone was hell bent on getting Abby out. Abby

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<v Speaker 1>really has become like the unassuming villain in this hole.

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<v Speaker 1>But seas. To be fair, Abby was quite athletic.

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<v Speaker 2>She's just doing some leaps and lunges and tumbles and

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<v Speaker 2>she caught so many both.

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<v Speaker 1>No, but do you not remember the second part of

0:18:40.440 --> 0:18:42.040
<v Speaker 1>that date where they had to try and do the

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<v Speaker 1>compatibility tests and Matt was asking questions, you know, like

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<v Speaker 1>when do you want to get married? And then they

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<v Speaker 1>had to say A B or C and pick, and

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<v Speaker 1>Abby was choosing the answers that she knew were most

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<v Speaker 1>relative to Matt instead of choosing the answers that were

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<v Speaker 1>genuine to her. So she said that in the next

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<v Speaker 1>two years. It was a two years, five years, who knows,

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<v Speaker 1>very soon she wants to be married and have babies.

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<v Speaker 1>And now the other girls are like, girlfriend, you are lie.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but apparently she told them she didn't want kids

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<v Speaker 2>in anywhere in the near future.

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<v Speaker 1>If ever, well she's young, you know, and maybe she

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't want kids. Does she want them in the next

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<v Speaker 1>two years. I'm gonna call bullshit on that one. So

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<v Speaker 1>what did you think of Chelsea's date?

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<v Speaker 2>Chelsea's date was super cute. I mean, you could see

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<v Speaker 2>that little food fight a mile away.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a bit contrived, but I still like them.

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<v Speaker 1>They are. I mean the match. There was this moment

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<v Speaker 1>at the end of the food fight where they were

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<v Speaker 1>having this really cute moment, but I couldn't take it

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<v Speaker 1>seriously because Chelsea had the biggest clump of dough on

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<v Speaker 1>her eyelashes and I just looked like conjunctividers and I

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't look at her. I was like, girl, wipe your

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<v Speaker 1>eye now, why are you leaving that shit in her eye?

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<v Speaker 1>I actually thought that the food fight went from being

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<v Speaker 1>cute to just being a bit disgusting, like, oh yeah, lo,

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<v Speaker 1>let's throw some flower and then Chelsea's base it in

0:19:56.840 --> 0:20:00.160
<v Speaker 1>batter from her to toe. It was and I'm I'm

0:20:00.160 --> 0:20:02.000
<v Speaker 1>just gonna also call bullshit. And the fact that they

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<v Speaker 1>did not make that banana bread it looked too good.

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<v Speaker 1>That came from the art department her hands down, that

0:20:07.680 --> 0:20:09.960
<v Speaker 1>was from a top notch bakery. All yeah, they just

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<v Speaker 1>like oh, and He's like.

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<v Speaker 2>Look at how we cooked at its moist and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>you have not seen that you did not make that?

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<v Speaker 1>Here is one we prepared earlier. I thought that they

0:20:17.560 --> 0:20:20.960
<v Speaker 1>were really sweet together. She's been cast very well to

0:20:21.359 --> 0:20:24.359
<v Speaker 1>match all of his criteria. She is the nerd he

0:20:24.520 --> 0:20:27.240
<v Speaker 1>is a nerd. They talk about nerd stuff together, and

0:20:27.280 --> 0:20:29.399
<v Speaker 1>they're going to go live in nerd village and have

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<v Speaker 1>nerd babies Nerd Squared. Yes, I think he's a nerd

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<v Speaker 1>to the power of Nerd.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just going to throw this out there to Chelsea's body.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, she's starting that under there, wasn't she. She's a

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<v Speaker 1>hot nerd.

0:20:44.680 --> 0:20:46.440
<v Speaker 2>But he's a hot nerd too, So the hot Nerd

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<v Speaker 2>squaredes loved it.

0:20:47.800 --> 0:20:50.520
<v Speaker 1>And then after Chelsea's date, we got into the cocktail

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<v Speaker 1>party and Matt gave him a nickue the boot. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>straight up out of here girlfriend. Yeah, he's all business,

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't he. He's like, I can't trust you. We can't

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<v Speaker 1>go any further. Do you want me to leave?

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<v Speaker 2>I think he was supposed to say no, but he didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but don't you think it's funny that the motivating

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<v Speaker 1>factor for her getting kicked out was the fact that

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<v Speaker 1>she wouldn't run around an oval after the bouquet like

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<v Speaker 1>he was, like, she just didn't try on the group date.

0:21:12.840 --> 0:21:15.480
<v Speaker 1>That really didn't try hard enough. But that really frustrated me.

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<v Speaker 1>She needs to run after flowers for me to prove

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<v Speaker 1>her love.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that actually really frustrated me because I don't think

0:21:22.600 --> 0:21:24.320
<v Speaker 2>you can use that as a reason at all. She

0:21:24.400 --> 0:21:26.359
<v Speaker 2>was standing there saying, this is ridiculous. I'm not going

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<v Speaker 2>to go and fight Abby in the mud for a

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<v Speaker 2>bouquet to prove my worth and how much I care

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<v Speaker 2>for Matt.

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<v Speaker 1>I just don't think that shows it. However, she did

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<v Speaker 1>get herself into a sticky situation with this whole thing,

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<v Speaker 1>and she probably needed to do something to try and

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<v Speaker 1>show that she was remorseful. I think, to be honest,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think she did that. No. I just think

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<v Speaker 1>that he knew it wasn't her and he didn't want

0:21:51.119 --> 0:21:54.240
<v Speaker 1>her there anymore, and he needed a reason, and so

0:21:54.440 --> 0:21:57.359
<v Speaker 1>he was grasping at straals and his reason happened to

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<v Speaker 1>be she didn't fight to the death and see you

0:21:59.240 --> 0:22:04.000
<v Speaker 1>next Tuesday, also a pretty hectic reason. If someone premier

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<v Speaker 1>someone called me a seepeep, I would definitely be like,

0:22:07.960 --> 0:22:11.280
<v Speaker 1>I think it's time to part ways. The other heartbreak

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<v Speaker 1>of the evening was Vaco Fucka. I know she's a sweetheart,

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<v Speaker 1>but she was very, very giggly on her extra time

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<v Speaker 1>with Matt, and I could see that from a mile

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<v Speaker 1>away that she was going to be leaving them yet.

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<v Speaker 2>And she's so stunning. But they just had nothing in common.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's part of dating. You're going to meet people

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<v Speaker 2>that you get along with, like a house on fire,

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<v Speaker 2>or that you just share no similarities with. And I

0:22:34.640 --> 0:22:37.840
<v Speaker 2>think those two are just two beautiful humans independently, but

0:22:38.040 --> 0:22:38.920
<v Speaker 2>they just don't work.

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<v Speaker 1>No, they had no vibe and no chemistry. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if she was nervous. Do you think the giggles

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<v Speaker 1>Was it just nerves, very nervous, yeah, Or was it

0:22:46.800 --> 0:22:49.159
<v Speaker 1>because she just didn't know what to say because she

0:22:49.240 --> 0:22:51.800
<v Speaker 1>has nothing in common with him. Probably a bit of

0:22:52.200 --> 0:22:55.000
<v Speaker 1>a mixture of both. They don't They are from different

0:22:55.040 --> 0:22:58.880
<v Speaker 1>worlds and they were never going to mesh in this environment.

0:22:58.960 --> 0:23:01.280
<v Speaker 1>But she was a sweet and I really enjoyed her

0:23:01.320 --> 0:23:02.760
<v Speaker 1>commentary throughout the whole thing.

0:23:02.880 --> 0:23:04.920
<v Speaker 2>I think we can probably take Salas in the fact

0:23:04.920 --> 0:23:06.679
<v Speaker 2>that she's going to be on Bachelor in Paradise in

0:23:06.680 --> 0:23:08.520
<v Speaker 2>a bikini and looking like a million dollars.

0:23:09.240 --> 0:23:10.840
<v Speaker 1>We have not seen the last of it. I will

0:23:10.840 --> 0:23:14.040
<v Speaker 1>put money on the fact that both Manig and Vaku

0:23:14.240 --> 0:23:16.280
<v Speaker 1>will be in Batch and Paradise. I feel like a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of this cast will be Actually, will you be

0:23:19.320 --> 0:23:23.479
<v Speaker 1>on Batch in Paradise, Brittany, don't make me laugh. No

0:23:23.520 --> 0:23:25.360
<v Speaker 1>one needs to see this in a bikini. Now that's

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<v Speaker 1>not even true. To stop, Let's get into our main chat,

0:23:31.680 --> 0:23:33.960
<v Speaker 1>and that is is it possible to have it all?

0:23:34.800 --> 0:23:35.920
<v Speaker 1>Can we have it all? And?

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<v Speaker 2>Actually, Laura, what does it all even mean these days?

0:23:40.040 --> 0:23:44.760
<v Speaker 1>Can we have the career, the family, the children, the husband?

0:23:44.840 --> 0:23:48.280
<v Speaker 2>Can we have the social circle, the holidays, the house,

0:23:48.320 --> 0:23:49.479
<v Speaker 2>the pick of fence, the dogs?

0:23:49.840 --> 0:23:51.679
<v Speaker 1>Is it possible to do it all equally? What do

0:23:51.720 --> 0:23:55.280
<v Speaker 1>you think? Me? What do I think? You're the other

0:23:55.400 --> 0:23:57.600
<v Speaker 1>person in the room on the podcast, So yeah, hi,

0:23:58.119 --> 0:24:00.679
<v Speaker 1>what do I think? It's possible for women to have

0:24:00.760 --> 0:24:02.399
<v Speaker 1>it all? But they cannot have it all at the

0:24:02.400 --> 0:24:06.320
<v Speaker 1>same time because in order to do one job well,

0:24:06.520 --> 0:24:08.439
<v Speaker 1>you need to really throw yourself into that. To do

0:24:08.520 --> 0:24:11.280
<v Speaker 1>your career and to be successful in a high powered career,

0:24:11.560 --> 0:24:14.240
<v Speaker 1>you need to throw yourself into that career to do that,

0:24:14.240 --> 0:24:16.920
<v Speaker 1>that's time away from your children. So how on earth

0:24:16.920 --> 0:24:20.560
<v Speaker 1>are you supposed to be a wonderful successful mum, a

0:24:20.600 --> 0:24:24.800
<v Speaker 1>wonderful successful business woman and not sacrifice anything in between?

0:24:25.040 --> 0:24:28.160
<v Speaker 1>The thought that we keep perpetuating that it is possible

0:24:28.600 --> 0:24:33.400
<v Speaker 1>only puts added stress and anxiety on women who aren't

0:24:33.680 --> 0:24:37.000
<v Speaker 1>achieving those things and feel like they're failing. Well, something

0:24:37.040 --> 0:24:39.800
<v Speaker 1>has to suffer, doesn't it. It always will, Something will

0:24:39.800 --> 0:24:43.080
<v Speaker 1>always suffer. And also I think your idea of having

0:24:43.160 --> 0:24:46.200
<v Speaker 1>it all changes with as you grow as a person.

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<v Speaker 2>So I remember when I was probably twenty six, I

0:24:52.600 --> 0:24:54.919
<v Speaker 2>was living in Sydney and Bonny in an amazing house.

0:24:55.000 --> 0:24:57.879
<v Speaker 2>I had two careers that were going really really well.

0:24:57.920 --> 0:25:00.840
<v Speaker 2>I have an amazing family. I lived on the beach.

0:25:00.880 --> 0:25:03.080
<v Speaker 2>You know, I had this amazing life. Some would say

0:25:03.119 --> 0:25:06.000
<v Speaker 2>like I had it all, but I was always feeling

0:25:06.080 --> 0:25:09.520
<v Speaker 2>less fulfilled, and what it all meant to me kept changing,

0:25:09.520 --> 0:25:11.959
<v Speaker 2>because once I had what I thought it all was,

0:25:12.880 --> 0:25:15.000
<v Speaker 2>you want more. You always want more, so all of

0:25:15.040 --> 0:25:17.919
<v Speaker 2>a sudden all became something different to me.

0:25:18.119 --> 0:25:19.040
<v Speaker 1>It's so true.

0:25:19.160 --> 0:25:21.159
<v Speaker 2>So then I chased this travel dream. I was like, well,

0:25:21.200 --> 0:25:23.280
<v Speaker 2>I haven't traveled the world yet, so that's what all is.

0:25:23.320 --> 0:25:25.160
<v Speaker 2>So I went and did that, and then I went

0:25:25.200 --> 0:25:28.440
<v Speaker 2>and studied again, and it just kept on snowballing.

0:25:29.200 --> 0:25:30.520
<v Speaker 1>And things do suffer.

0:25:30.600 --> 0:25:33.440
<v Speaker 2>So even now you and I, I guess, are trying

0:25:33.440 --> 0:25:37.440
<v Speaker 2>to have it all by juggling multiple careers and a baby,

0:25:37.520 --> 0:25:40.560
<v Speaker 2>and I think to at some point we're already suffering.

0:25:40.560 --> 0:25:45.240
<v Speaker 2>We're both walking zombies, but we're fighting to fill our

0:25:45.320 --> 0:25:48.600
<v Speaker 2>life with the idea of that we can do anything

0:25:48.640 --> 0:25:51.600
<v Speaker 2>we want to know in ourself that it's possible. No

0:25:51.640 --> 0:25:53.440
<v Speaker 2>one's going to tell you that you can't take on

0:25:53.480 --> 0:25:55.080
<v Speaker 2>a third job because you have a baby, Laura. You

0:25:55.119 --> 0:25:57.760
<v Speaker 2>know that's I think internally we're like, well I can.

0:25:57.880 --> 0:25:59.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to let one thing stop me.

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<v Speaker 1>So true. I almost get to a point sometimes where

0:26:02.560 --> 0:26:04.840
<v Speaker 1>I think, but it's not worth it. I don't want

0:26:04.840 --> 0:26:07.719
<v Speaker 1>to have it. All that just sounds exhausting.

0:26:08.240 --> 0:26:10.760
<v Speaker 2>I actually read an interesting article that was written by

0:26:10.800 --> 0:26:14.840
<v Speaker 2>a woman called Anne Marie Slaughter. She basically was the

0:26:14.840 --> 0:26:17.640
<v Speaker 2>first woman director of policy planning at the State Department.

0:26:17.720 --> 0:26:20.480
<v Speaker 2>So she was rubbing shoulders with the Obamas, and she

0:26:20.640 --> 0:26:23.399
<v Speaker 2>was basically the dream if you're in that industry. She

0:26:23.440 --> 0:26:25.280
<v Speaker 2>had worked so hard to get there, and she had

0:26:25.320 --> 0:26:27.480
<v Speaker 2>thought it was all she had ever wanted, and she

0:26:27.560 --> 0:26:29.440
<v Speaker 2>was about to re sign on for another two year

0:26:29.520 --> 0:26:32.639
<v Speaker 2>term and all she could think about. She said, I

0:26:33.320 --> 0:26:35.400
<v Speaker 2>was at this function and the Obamas were there, and

0:26:35.440 --> 0:26:37.320
<v Speaker 2>we were having this great old time, and I had

0:26:37.359 --> 0:26:39.679
<v Speaker 2>realized I had made it, but all I could think

0:26:39.680 --> 0:26:42.400
<v Speaker 2>about was my fourteen year old son at home and

0:26:42.520 --> 0:26:44.520
<v Speaker 2>the fact that he'd been playing up at school and

0:26:44.600 --> 0:26:46.840
<v Speaker 2>wasn't listening to twenty adults. And that was because she

0:26:47.119 --> 0:26:50.760
<v Speaker 2>had dedicated her time to her career, and at that

0:26:50.840 --> 0:26:52.479
<v Speaker 2>moment when she thought she had it all and she

0:26:52.520 --> 0:26:55.040
<v Speaker 2>was nailing it, she didn't sign on anymore and went

0:26:55.040 --> 0:26:57.399
<v Speaker 2>home to her son, even though she had finally had

0:26:57.440 --> 0:27:00.320
<v Speaker 2>her dream jobbing her hands, because she said, it's just

0:27:00.440 --> 0:27:02.840
<v Speaker 2>not possible. And I think a large part of that

0:27:02.960 --> 0:27:06.560
<v Speaker 2>also stems from this fact that we still make men

0:27:06.640 --> 0:27:10.040
<v Speaker 2>the breadwinner, and we need to change the way we

0:27:10.080 --> 0:27:12.760
<v Speaker 2>look at men and women and their roles because men

0:27:12.800 --> 0:27:14.879
<v Speaker 2>are still trained to think, and a lot of women

0:27:15.000 --> 0:27:17.560
<v Speaker 2>also judge a man on how much they earn in

0:27:17.640 --> 0:27:19.760
<v Speaker 2>their career goals, even if we don't want to admit it.

0:27:19.760 --> 0:27:21.040
<v Speaker 1>It's sort of like, what do you do, Oh, that's

0:27:21.040 --> 0:27:22.760
<v Speaker 1>a successful job. But if we.

0:27:22.800 --> 0:27:27.040
<v Speaker 2>Change that to workplaces and employers and employees and everyone

0:27:27.040 --> 0:27:30.280
<v Speaker 2>else having this equal view that men and women can

0:27:30.320 --> 0:27:33.400
<v Speaker 2>be the caregiver, then I think the roles will start

0:27:33.440 --> 0:27:34.879
<v Speaker 2>to change and we might be able to have it

0:27:34.880 --> 0:27:38.040
<v Speaker 2>at all. Because all will be inclusive of a man

0:27:38.080 --> 0:27:39.400
<v Speaker 2>looking after a child as well.

0:27:39.560 --> 0:27:41.680
<v Speaker 1>Do you know what I mean by saying that? Yeah,

0:27:41.720 --> 0:27:45.399
<v Speaker 1>I do. I definitely do, And I think that there

0:27:45.400 --> 0:27:47.840
<v Speaker 1>are aspects of it that we're getting closer towards. I mean,

0:27:47.880 --> 0:27:51.959
<v Speaker 1>I was having this conversation with Matt recently about paternity

0:27:52.040 --> 0:27:54.400
<v Speaker 1>leave and how a lot of businesses are bringing in

0:27:54.960 --> 0:27:57.879
<v Speaker 1>paid an equal paternity leave for their partners, and I

0:27:57.880 --> 0:28:00.240
<v Speaker 1>think that that's wonderful. But at the same time, I

0:28:00.320 --> 0:28:03.440
<v Speaker 1>was saying to Matt, there is a very real physical

0:28:03.560 --> 0:28:07.359
<v Speaker 1>recovery period that comes from having a baby. Maternity is

0:28:07.520 --> 0:28:11.920
<v Speaker 1>necessary because you have just physically birthed a child. There

0:28:12.000 --> 0:28:15.480
<v Speaker 1>is a huge taxing time frame that comes from being

0:28:15.520 --> 0:28:18.640
<v Speaker 1>a woman and having a baby that men don't have.

0:28:19.880 --> 0:28:22.879
<v Speaker 1>In order to have it all, you really need to

0:28:22.960 --> 0:28:26.320
<v Speaker 1>have help, and lots of help costs lots of money.

0:28:26.720 --> 0:28:28.800
<v Speaker 1>So to have it all, you need to have lots

0:28:28.800 --> 0:28:33.280
<v Speaker 1>of money, and it's so unfair and so unrealistic. Cycle. Yeah,

0:28:33.600 --> 0:28:36.679
<v Speaker 1>for the majority of people, we don't have this disposable

0:28:36.720 --> 0:28:39.400
<v Speaker 1>income where we can throw money at the problem. And

0:28:39.480 --> 0:28:41.480
<v Speaker 1>it made me think of this conference that I went

0:28:41.520 --> 0:28:44.600
<v Speaker 1>to Colled She Runs the World. There was this woman

0:28:44.640 --> 0:28:48.080
<v Speaker 1>speaking at it named Gillian Franklin, who owns and was

0:28:48.120 --> 0:28:52.240
<v Speaker 1>the CEO of a makeup online makeup company called hete

0:28:52.320 --> 0:28:55.600
<v Speaker 1>Very Very Successful, and she spoke about how the reason

0:28:55.600 --> 0:28:57.360
<v Speaker 1>why she can have it all in her career is

0:28:57.400 --> 0:29:01.160
<v Speaker 1>because she doesn't do anything with her children that don't

0:29:01.160 --> 0:29:04.800
<v Speaker 1>add value. So the cooking, the cleaning, all those aspects

0:29:04.840 --> 0:29:07.080
<v Speaker 1>of her life, she doesn't feel that they add value

0:29:07.080 --> 0:29:09.440
<v Speaker 1>to the relationship that she has with her children, and

0:29:09.520 --> 0:29:11.840
<v Speaker 1>so she has someone else to do that. And at

0:29:11.880 --> 0:29:14.720
<v Speaker 1>the time, I was listening to this speech and I thought,

0:29:15.400 --> 0:29:18.680
<v Speaker 1>you're so right. Don't do anything that doesn't add value

0:29:18.720 --> 0:29:20.880
<v Speaker 1>to your life. And now that I'm in this phase

0:29:20.880 --> 0:29:24.120
<v Speaker 1>of my life, like I was sold a goddamn lie.

0:29:24.240 --> 0:29:27.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because easier said than done. It's such money and

0:29:27.920 --> 0:29:28.959
<v Speaker 2>a lot of it.

0:29:28.960 --> 0:29:32.320
<v Speaker 1>It's such an entitled and privileged thing to outsource areas

0:29:32.320 --> 0:29:34.960
<v Speaker 1>of your life such as the cooking and the cleaning.

0:29:35.280 --> 0:29:37.200
<v Speaker 1>What about the person who is the cook and the

0:29:37.200 --> 0:29:39.760
<v Speaker 1>person who is the cleaner. They don't have the ability

0:29:39.800 --> 0:29:42.120
<v Speaker 1>to outsource those areas of their life. And it's very

0:29:42.160 --> 0:29:45.080
<v Speaker 1>possible that they have children as well, and they're trying

0:29:45.120 --> 0:29:48.080
<v Speaker 1>to work and manage and live this dream of having

0:29:48.160 --> 0:29:48.520
<v Speaker 1>it all.

0:29:48.760 --> 0:29:52.480
<v Speaker 2>I think the majority of the population, especially you know,

0:29:52.520 --> 0:29:54.880
<v Speaker 2>I think Australia is in the top ten most expensive

0:29:54.920 --> 0:29:57.120
<v Speaker 2>cities in the world. Majority of the population are just

0:29:57.200 --> 0:29:58.080
<v Speaker 2>trying to get by.

0:29:58.440 --> 0:29:59.120
<v Speaker 1>Absolutely.

0:29:59.280 --> 0:30:01.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they don't have choice of saying I'm not going

0:30:01.200 --> 0:30:03.840
<v Speaker 2>to cook today, it doesn't serve my purpose today.

0:30:03.960 --> 0:30:06.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's very I think it's a very privileged debate

0:30:06.600 --> 0:30:09.120
<v Speaker 1>to even consider can I have it all? Can I

0:30:09.160 --> 0:30:11.240
<v Speaker 1>have the travel, Can I have the kids? Can I

0:30:11.280 --> 0:30:13.440
<v Speaker 1>have the family? And I think the only way that

0:30:13.480 --> 0:30:17.239
<v Speaker 1>we're going to be able to overcome this idea of

0:30:17.320 --> 0:30:20.520
<v Speaker 1>having it all is by redefining what having it all means,

0:30:20.560 --> 0:30:23.400
<v Speaker 1>because what having it all means to me is very

0:30:23.440 --> 0:30:25.000
<v Speaker 1>different what having it all means to you.

0:30:25.440 --> 0:30:28.959
<v Speaker 2>I actually find this really interesting. My brother has a

0:30:29.520 --> 0:30:32.880
<v Speaker 2>seventeen month old son, and he and his partner are

0:30:32.920 --> 0:30:35.400
<v Speaker 2>both working in the bank in finances, and they both

0:30:35.400 --> 0:30:39.640
<v Speaker 2>have very good jobs. And my sister in law was

0:30:39.760 --> 0:30:42.200
<v Speaker 2>quite on her way to working herself up to a

0:30:42.240 --> 0:30:44.440
<v Speaker 2>job she had wanted for a long time. My brother

0:30:44.520 --> 0:30:47.080
<v Speaker 2>really wanted a child, it was what he really wanted,

0:30:47.160 --> 0:30:50.560
<v Speaker 2>so she ended up saying, Okay, we'll do this, but

0:30:51.440 --> 0:30:53.200
<v Speaker 2>I can't take a year of maternity to leave off,

0:30:53.240 --> 0:30:56.360
<v Speaker 2>because at that point in her life, she was really

0:30:56.440 --> 0:30:58.360
<v Speaker 2>adamant that she was going to continue to get to

0:30:58.520 --> 0:31:01.280
<v Speaker 2>this job, this position she wanted to yes had her goals.

0:31:01.480 --> 0:31:05.440
<v Speaker 2>So my brother said, absolutely, fine, I will be the

0:31:05.480 --> 0:31:08.560
<v Speaker 2>state home dad, even though he had this great job too.

0:31:08.800 --> 0:31:11.280
<v Speaker 2>So she took the first three months off and breastfed

0:31:11.320 --> 0:31:13.520
<v Speaker 2>and then she would express. After that she went back

0:31:13.520 --> 0:31:15.800
<v Speaker 2>to work, and then my brother took another six months

0:31:15.800 --> 0:31:19.360
<v Speaker 2>off and he and Parker he was the state at

0:31:19.360 --> 0:31:22.000
<v Speaker 2>home mum and for him or the stay at home dad. Well,

0:31:22.040 --> 0:31:24.880
<v Speaker 2>he was a state home dad and for him that

0:31:25.080 --> 0:31:27.640
<v Speaker 2>was what having it all was for him at that point.

0:31:27.720 --> 0:31:28.400
<v Speaker 1>It was the opposite.

0:31:28.440 --> 0:31:30.600
<v Speaker 2>It was giving up his crew at that point because

0:31:31.320 --> 0:31:33.200
<v Speaker 2>all for him was family At that moment.

0:31:33.840 --> 0:31:34.720
<v Speaker 1>Just really took my hat.

0:31:34.600 --> 0:31:38.240
<v Speaker 2>Off to both of them because there was no specific

0:31:38.560 --> 0:31:42.680
<v Speaker 2>set role and it wasn't like, oh, you can't do

0:31:42.840 --> 0:31:44.280
<v Speaker 2>that because it's the mum's job.

0:31:44.160 --> 0:31:46.440
<v Speaker 1>Sort of thing. I think that's amazing. I still think

0:31:46.480 --> 0:31:49.040
<v Speaker 1>that that's the minority, though. I do think that the

0:31:49.080 --> 0:31:51.600
<v Speaker 1>majority of the household work and the majority of the

0:31:51.720 --> 0:31:56.000
<v Speaker 1>family care kind of falls on the matriarch. It falls

0:31:56.000 --> 0:31:59.040
<v Speaker 1>on the females of the family, and I know that

0:31:59.040 --> 0:32:03.000
<v Speaker 1>that is shifting in some aspects in some relationships, but

0:32:03.080 --> 0:32:07.239
<v Speaker 1>I don't think overall we've had a huge shift in

0:32:07.280 --> 0:32:09.480
<v Speaker 1>that role. No. But that goes back to what I

0:32:09.520 --> 0:32:10.520
<v Speaker 1>said earlier.

0:32:10.680 --> 0:32:13.840
<v Speaker 2>If we slowly as a society start to change our

0:32:13.960 --> 0:32:20.080
<v Speaker 2>views that we can equally be breadwinners and caregivers, that having.

0:32:19.920 --> 0:32:23.760
<v Speaker 1>It all will be more achievable. Personally, I had a

0:32:23.760 --> 0:32:26.720
<v Speaker 1>different thought process when I was going into having kids.

0:32:27.000 --> 0:32:29.520
<v Speaker 1>I really thought that Matt and I would be very

0:32:29.640 --> 0:32:32.840
<v Speaker 1>fifty to fifty in our role in raising Maley. And

0:32:32.880 --> 0:32:35.200
<v Speaker 1>we're very fifty to fifty obviously in our love and

0:32:35.680 --> 0:32:38.800
<v Speaker 1>our commitment to her. But when it comes to the

0:32:38.880 --> 0:32:40.880
<v Speaker 1>day to day, I think I lived in a bit

0:32:40.880 --> 0:32:42.960
<v Speaker 1>of a fantasy world where I thought that it would

0:32:43.000 --> 0:32:46.680
<v Speaker 1>be more even, and it's just fallen on me that

0:32:47.560 --> 0:32:51.360
<v Speaker 1>I do the primary load of the silent work. I'm

0:32:51.360 --> 0:32:53.640
<v Speaker 1>the one that takes care of her most of the day,

0:32:53.920 --> 0:32:58.440
<v Speaker 1>and that's my role. And it's not because Matt and

0:32:58.520 --> 0:33:00.640
<v Speaker 1>I work different amounts. We still both work the same

0:33:00.640 --> 0:33:04.360
<v Speaker 1>amount of hours in the day. It's just that I

0:33:04.400 --> 0:33:06.960
<v Speaker 1>think that there is this still this expectation that the

0:33:07.040 --> 0:33:09.560
<v Speaker 1>mother takes care of the children. In a lot of

0:33:09.600 --> 0:33:12.520
<v Speaker 1>relationships and a lot of families, No, And I think.

0:33:12.360 --> 0:33:16.239
<v Speaker 2>It comes down to compromise and just really bringing it

0:33:16.240 --> 0:33:18.560
<v Speaker 2>to the table for each other. So my brother and

0:33:18.600 --> 0:33:21.360
<v Speaker 2>his partner are just a couple goals because they both

0:33:21.360 --> 0:33:24.320
<v Speaker 2>work so hard and sacrifice different like this, she wanted

0:33:24.320 --> 0:33:24.680
<v Speaker 2>that child.

0:33:24.760 --> 0:33:26.720
<v Speaker 1>I don't want you to think it she didn't. Yeah, no,

0:33:26.840 --> 0:33:28.400
<v Speaker 1>but she wants it. Yeah.

0:33:28.440 --> 0:33:30.920
<v Speaker 2>She walks in the door after work and he doesn't

0:33:30.960 --> 0:33:33.080
<v Speaker 2>leave her side, you know. And then my brother will

0:33:33.160 --> 0:33:35.840
<v Speaker 2>go and have his time, or he'll cook the dinner

0:33:35.840 --> 0:33:37.520
<v Speaker 2>while she spends the time with a baby. But they

0:33:37.560 --> 0:33:39.240
<v Speaker 2>just made it work together because they both knew what

0:33:39.240 --> 0:33:41.240
<v Speaker 2>they wanted and they made it happen. And I love

0:33:41.320 --> 0:33:42.480
<v Speaker 2>that and I hope to see a.

0:33:42.440 --> 0:33:44.520
<v Speaker 1>Lot more of that in the future. Basically, for all

0:33:44.520 --> 0:33:47.680
<v Speaker 1>the bra burning that was done, it wasn't done so

0:33:47.760 --> 0:33:49.800
<v Speaker 1>that women can have it all. It was done so

0:33:49.880 --> 0:33:52.400
<v Speaker 1>that we have choice. We have the option to have

0:33:52.480 --> 0:33:55.440
<v Speaker 1>it all. Absolutely, having it all is being able to

0:33:55.520 --> 0:33:58.240
<v Speaker 1>choose the parts that you want for yourself. And we

0:33:58.320 --> 0:34:01.120
<v Speaker 1>have the freedom to do that now, not the necessity

0:34:01.120 --> 0:34:02.800
<v Speaker 1>of having to do it all. At the same time,

0:34:03.240 --> 0:34:05.200
<v Speaker 1>I don't love the term either having it all, because

0:34:05.200 --> 0:34:07.080
<v Speaker 1>I do think it implies that what you have at

0:34:07.120 --> 0:34:09.640
<v Speaker 1>that time is not enough. Yeah, and so a lot

0:34:09.680 --> 0:34:11.600
<v Speaker 1>of people always think it's not enough, and they're wanting more,

0:34:11.640 --> 0:34:14.360
<v Speaker 1>and they're not living in the moment and appreciating and

0:34:14.400 --> 0:34:17.880
<v Speaker 1>being grateful for what they have. They're always striving for

0:34:18.120 --> 0:34:20.680
<v Speaker 1>something else. And the fact of the matter is you're

0:34:20.680 --> 0:34:22.319
<v Speaker 1>gonna get there, and you're gonna want something. You're gonna

0:34:22.320 --> 0:34:24.200
<v Speaker 1>want more again. It's so true, isn't it. If you're

0:34:24.200 --> 0:34:27.280
<v Speaker 1>an ambitious person and you're like, no one really stops

0:34:27.360 --> 0:34:30.520
<v Speaker 1>and takes stock of where they're at five years ago.

0:34:31.200 --> 0:34:34.279
<v Speaker 1>You are now exactly where you wanted to be five

0:34:34.360 --> 0:34:37.239
<v Speaker 1>years ago. You've succeeded, you've achieved all those things. But

0:34:37.280 --> 0:34:39.879
<v Speaker 1>no one sits in that moment and goes, God, I'm successful.

0:34:40.239 --> 0:34:42.719
<v Speaker 1>Everyone sits in that moment and goes, well, I'm not

0:34:42.719 --> 0:34:44.719
<v Speaker 1>there yet. I need to be here now, what can

0:34:44.719 --> 0:34:47.680
<v Speaker 1>I do better? Totally so in saying that, and I

0:34:47.680 --> 0:34:49.640
<v Speaker 1>think it is coming back to what you've just said

0:34:49.680 --> 0:34:54.839
<v Speaker 1>that it's this continuously unattainable goal of having it all

0:34:55.280 --> 0:34:58.600
<v Speaker 1>because you're never there. You never actually think you have it,

0:34:58.680 --> 0:35:01.240
<v Speaker 1>even when you do have it. Retrospect is a beautiful

0:35:01.239 --> 0:35:02.759
<v Speaker 1>thing to be able to look back and go, oh,

0:35:02.880 --> 0:35:05.560
<v Speaker 1>actually remember that time when I was really happy and

0:35:05.600 --> 0:35:07.560
<v Speaker 1>I did have all those beautiful things in my life.

0:35:07.960 --> 0:35:10.799
<v Speaker 1>Because there's ebbs and flows. What you have now you

0:35:10.840 --> 0:35:12.759
<v Speaker 1>may not have in ten years time. So I do

0:35:12.880 --> 0:35:15.000
<v Speaker 1>think that we need to be really appreciative of where

0:35:15.000 --> 0:35:17.880
<v Speaker 1>we're at and the wonderful things that we've achieved in

0:35:17.920 --> 0:35:19.840
<v Speaker 1>our life at every point along the journey.

0:35:19.920 --> 0:35:22.719
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So I think for everyone listening now, just take

0:35:22.719 --> 0:35:25.000
<v Speaker 2>a moment, think of what you've got right now, think

0:35:25.040 --> 0:35:28.760
<v Speaker 2>of what you've achieved, and just live in it. You'll

0:35:28.760 --> 0:35:33.440
<v Speaker 2>never ever have this day again. Taking time to be appreciative.

0:35:33.600 --> 0:35:35.440
<v Speaker 1>Laurie, you and I looking at each other now talking

0:35:35.440 --> 0:35:38.080
<v Speaker 1>about this, we're really really have taken it to heart.

0:35:38.280 --> 0:35:41.520
<v Speaker 1>What we're saying, we're believing. The look in your eyes

0:35:41.640 --> 0:35:43.759
<v Speaker 1>is you're like, you're thinking of Miley and Matt right now.

0:35:44.200 --> 0:35:46.280
<v Speaker 1>I'm so grateful. I can read you like a book.

0:35:46.600 --> 0:35:50.160
<v Speaker 1>I am so grateful. And I sometimes think we're so

0:35:50.239 --> 0:35:53.560
<v Speaker 1>busy that we don't We were rushing, and we're always rushing.

0:35:53.920 --> 0:35:56.040
<v Speaker 1>We live in this culture where it's almost like a

0:35:56.040 --> 0:35:58.960
<v Speaker 1>state of symbol to be really busy. Oh I'm really busy.

0:35:59.239 --> 0:36:00.960
<v Speaker 1>No one wants to say, actually, I'm not busy at all.

0:36:00.960 --> 0:36:02.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm super lazy. I'm going home to now, go on

0:36:02.640 --> 0:36:05.040
<v Speaker 1>home to Yeah. It's almost like you're not doing enough,

0:36:05.080 --> 0:36:07.799
<v Speaker 1>You're not successful enough. You haven't you haven't packed enough

0:36:07.840 --> 0:36:10.279
<v Speaker 1>stuff into your day. This concept you're like, oh, you're

0:36:10.320 --> 0:36:13.839
<v Speaker 1>only working three jobs. Oh, I'm doing four, you know,

0:36:13.960 --> 0:36:16.160
<v Speaker 1>like or the fact that you're doing for makes you

0:36:16.200 --> 0:36:19.120
<v Speaker 1>more important, yeah, which it does not. Busyness that we

0:36:19.200 --> 0:36:21.839
<v Speaker 1>live our lives in now is meant to be a

0:36:21.920 --> 0:36:26.640
<v Speaker 1>status symbol of being successful, but it really all it

0:36:26.680 --> 0:36:29.120
<v Speaker 1>means is that we're so our time is so full

0:36:29.160 --> 0:36:32.000
<v Speaker 1>that we don't have the ability to be introspective and

0:36:32.040 --> 0:36:36.440
<v Speaker 1>to take time to appreciate what we're doing. So I

0:36:36.480 --> 0:36:38.520
<v Speaker 1>do agree with that, Britt. I think it's so important

0:36:38.520 --> 0:36:41.759
<v Speaker 1>to take time and really reflect on how far you've

0:36:41.760 --> 0:36:44.719
<v Speaker 1>come on what you've achieved, and what having it all

0:36:45.080 --> 0:36:47.839
<v Speaker 1>is right now. This chat has been something I've been

0:36:47.840 --> 0:36:51.719
<v Speaker 1>thinking a lot about and really contemplating whether it is

0:36:51.760 --> 0:36:53.640
<v Speaker 1>possible to have it all, And I think we can

0:36:53.680 --> 0:36:56.960
<v Speaker 1>both agree it's not possible to have it all at

0:36:57.040 --> 0:37:02.600
<v Speaker 1>once at once, but also in the very confined ideology

0:37:02.680 --> 0:37:04.680
<v Speaker 1>of what having it all is. You can have it

0:37:04.719 --> 0:37:07.839
<v Speaker 1>all so long as your idea of having it all

0:37:08.239 --> 0:37:14.200
<v Speaker 1>is contentment beautiful. All right, well that was harmonious. Do

0:37:14.239 --> 0:37:19.280
<v Speaker 1>you feel transcendent now? My people? People have in touch?

0:37:19.719 --> 0:37:22.800
<v Speaker 1>What have we signed up for? That's your motivation? Monday

0:37:22.800 --> 0:37:31.200
<v Speaker 1>on a Wednesday? Okay, time for our favorite segment, ask uncut. Okay,

0:37:31.239 --> 0:37:34.400
<v Speaker 1>today you come to us for all of your unsolicited

0:37:34.480 --> 0:37:40.120
<v Speaker 1>relationship advice. And do I have a doozy for you? Laura?

0:37:40.200 --> 0:37:41.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't even know what this one is yet, so

0:37:42.080 --> 0:37:44.000
<v Speaker 1>hit me with it. No. Look, we try to not

0:37:44.040 --> 0:37:47.160
<v Speaker 1>tell each other because we want a response that's real

0:37:47.200 --> 0:37:51.040
<v Speaker 1>and on the spot, completely uneducated and ill informed and unresearched.

0:37:51.080 --> 0:37:53.200
<v Speaker 1>That's exactly what we're trying to bring to you today.

0:37:54.000 --> 0:37:57.680
<v Speaker 1>Thoughts on hall passes? Can a relationship? Yeah? I know.

0:37:58.320 --> 0:38:01.440
<v Speaker 2>Can a relationship be strong and long lasting if you

0:38:01.560 --> 0:38:05.560
<v Speaker 2>involve hall passes in the relationship. We have spoken about it,

0:38:05.640 --> 0:38:08.040
<v Speaker 2>and we think we should both have a hall pass

0:38:08.200 --> 0:38:12.400
<v Speaker 2>with rules of course, annually or semi annually or just

0:38:12.480 --> 0:38:15.439
<v Speaker 2>something because our relationship is great but it's never been

0:38:15.520 --> 0:38:16.759
<v Speaker 2>mind blowing in bed.

0:38:17.280 --> 0:38:19.359
<v Speaker 1>This is a question that was actually sent to us. Yeah,

0:38:19.400 --> 0:38:23.400
<v Speaker 1>word for word quote. Wow. Yeah, So long story short,

0:38:23.719 --> 0:38:26.640
<v Speaker 1>sex isn't great, but they love each other. They think

0:38:26.680 --> 0:38:29.920
<v Speaker 1>that they should be able to stray once or twice

0:38:30.000 --> 0:38:33.200
<v Speaker 1>a year. What do you think about that? Okay? My

0:38:33.360 --> 0:38:36.839
<v Speaker 1>question is are you going to get enough sexual gratification

0:38:37.400 --> 0:38:40.840
<v Speaker 1>from having sex with a random person once or twice

0:38:40.840 --> 0:38:44.080
<v Speaker 1>a year? Is that really going to profoundly impact your

0:38:44.120 --> 0:38:47.800
<v Speaker 1>sexual relationship with your partner? That's a solid question, that's

0:38:47.960 --> 0:38:50.520
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I don't have the answer for that because

0:38:50.560 --> 0:38:53.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm well, I'm not in a relationship that I have

0:38:53.440 --> 0:39:01.319
<v Speaker 1>to worry about the mismatch there. But hey, daily Mail,

0:39:01.480 --> 0:39:05.040
<v Speaker 1>take that one ahead. Wait to gloat over the top

0:39:05.080 --> 0:39:07.880
<v Speaker 1>of somebody's really serious question as well. What a dickhead?

0:39:07.960 --> 0:39:10.839
<v Speaker 1>I am back on track. Okay, So my question, that's

0:39:10.920 --> 0:39:14.239
<v Speaker 1>that's my question is is is one or once or

0:39:14.280 --> 0:39:17.680
<v Speaker 1>twice going to actually give you that gratification and be

0:39:18.280 --> 0:39:20.759
<v Speaker 1>and be exciting enough that it's going to fulfill you

0:39:20.800 --> 0:39:23.239
<v Speaker 1>and sustain you for the year that you have where

0:39:23.280 --> 0:39:27.560
<v Speaker 1>you feel like you're mismatched. Is the mismatch in your

0:39:27.560 --> 0:39:31.120
<v Speaker 1>sexual relationship because your partner has a lot of libido

0:39:31.200 --> 0:39:33.520
<v Speaker 1>than you, or is it just that you're not putting

0:39:33.560 --> 0:39:36.680
<v Speaker 1>the effort in, Because it sounds like if they're both unsatisfied,

0:39:37.320 --> 0:39:39.120
<v Speaker 1>then they both need to step up to the plate

0:39:39.160 --> 0:39:40.040
<v Speaker 1>and try a bit harder.

0:39:40.560 --> 0:39:43.279
<v Speaker 2>I think both of them need to. She hasn't said,

0:39:43.320 --> 0:39:45.520
<v Speaker 2>but I'm assuming they haven't sat down and had a

0:39:45.560 --> 0:39:47.600
<v Speaker 2>serious chat because I think a lot of couples find

0:39:47.600 --> 0:39:51.440
<v Speaker 2>it hard to admit to the other person that maybe

0:39:51.440 --> 0:39:52.840
<v Speaker 2>they're not getting what they need.

0:39:53.920 --> 0:39:56.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah sexually, well, it can be a real blow to

0:39:56.239 --> 0:39:59.080
<v Speaker 1>the ego to be told that that your partner is

0:39:59.120 --> 0:40:02.760
<v Speaker 1>not happy with your sexual performance. It's one of those.

0:40:02.680 --> 0:40:06.040
<v Speaker 2>Really tough conversations that has to be had, but no

0:40:06.080 --> 0:40:08.759
<v Speaker 2>one has them. We avoid them like the plague. But

0:40:09.440 --> 0:40:11.800
<v Speaker 2>if you're I mean, the next forty or fifty sixty

0:40:11.880 --> 0:40:14.040
<v Speaker 2>years is a long time to be with somebody that

0:40:14.160 --> 0:40:17.560
<v Speaker 2>a you're not happy with and b you're not comfortable

0:40:17.560 --> 0:40:19.480
<v Speaker 2>with enough to sit down and have that conversation. So

0:40:19.520 --> 0:40:21.279
<v Speaker 2>I think first of all, they need to talk to

0:40:21.360 --> 0:40:23.879
<v Speaker 2>each other, and by the sounds of it, they both

0:40:23.960 --> 0:40:26.400
<v Speaker 2>know that they're not happy in bed, So let's just

0:40:26.440 --> 0:40:28.120
<v Speaker 2>say okay, what are you not happy with or what

0:40:28.120 --> 0:40:29.960
<v Speaker 2>are you wanting or do you want to try something else?

0:40:30.160 --> 0:40:32.400
<v Speaker 2>Or I think that they need to start there before

0:40:32.400 --> 0:40:33.480
<v Speaker 2>they go hall passing.

0:40:33.680 --> 0:40:35.719
<v Speaker 1>I totally agree. I do not think that having a

0:40:35.760 --> 0:40:38.960
<v Speaker 1>hall pass is going to be a healthy, long term

0:40:38.960 --> 0:40:43.160
<v Speaker 1>solution to being unhappy sexually with your partner. To be fair, also,

0:40:43.239 --> 0:40:45.319
<v Speaker 1>I'm not I'm not gonna say I'm not. I'm not

0:40:45.360 --> 0:40:46.000
<v Speaker 1>against it.

0:40:46.120 --> 0:40:49.720
<v Speaker 2>If for that couple, if that works for them, great,

0:40:49.840 --> 0:40:52.000
<v Speaker 2>if they're gonna have if that is actually going to

0:40:52.040 --> 0:40:55.560
<v Speaker 2>allow them to have a really long lasting, happy relationship,

0:40:55.600 --> 0:40:56.920
<v Speaker 2>I mean, I can't see how it would.

0:40:57.360 --> 0:41:00.279
<v Speaker 1>But I think if you're open in any relationship, there's

0:41:00.320 --> 0:41:03.880
<v Speaker 1>no there's no rules to what the perfect relationship is

0:41:04.000 --> 0:41:06.799
<v Speaker 1>and should be. Individuals are so different, do you know,

0:41:06.880 --> 0:41:08.640
<v Speaker 1>I know, I know, it's just trying to look at

0:41:08.680 --> 0:41:11.440
<v Speaker 1>both sides. I do agree. I do think that like

0:41:11.560 --> 0:41:15.200
<v Speaker 1>what what works for one person doesn't work for somebody else.

0:41:15.280 --> 0:41:19.040
<v Speaker 1>And I do think that there's different strokes for different folks. Literally,

0:41:19.160 --> 0:41:22.160
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god. However, watching The Bachelor too much, I

0:41:22.320 --> 0:41:26.359
<v Speaker 1>know he put some innuendos in there, but I do

0:41:26.440 --> 0:41:28.920
<v Speaker 1>think that that is a very slippery slope. For the

0:41:28.920 --> 0:41:32.880
<v Speaker 1>majority of people. Having hall passes in your relationship is

0:41:32.960 --> 0:41:36.319
<v Speaker 1>only going to complicate things more and it's going to

0:41:36.360 --> 0:41:40.920
<v Speaker 1>create jealousy, it's going to create more insecurities. Yeah. So

0:41:40.960 --> 0:41:44.319
<v Speaker 1>she says there's rules, but she hasn't said what, And

0:41:44.400 --> 0:41:47.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to assume the rules are maybe I watched

0:41:47.600 --> 0:41:49.480
<v Speaker 1>too many movies, but that you never speak about it,

0:41:49.560 --> 0:41:51.279
<v Speaker 1>like you know, what happens at flight club stays at

0:41:51.280 --> 0:41:54.040
<v Speaker 1>fight club. I don't think that having a hall pass

0:41:54.120 --> 0:41:56.919
<v Speaker 1>is the healthy place to start. I really think that

0:41:57.520 --> 0:42:00.960
<v Speaker 1>if they love each other and they're both sexual unsatisfied,

0:42:01.239 --> 0:42:03.719
<v Speaker 1>then they can work towards you know, what is it

0:42:03.719 --> 0:42:05.799
<v Speaker 1>that you like? What can I do for you? And

0:42:05.920 --> 0:42:09.799
<v Speaker 1>really put effort into their relationship first before trying to

0:42:09.840 --> 0:42:13.400
<v Speaker 1>find external means to fix a problem. Yeah. So basically

0:42:13.440 --> 0:42:16.120
<v Speaker 1>she wants to know, do we think the relationship will

0:42:16.120 --> 0:42:18.359
<v Speaker 1>still be strong and long lasting? It looks like you're

0:42:18.400 --> 0:42:20.080
<v Speaker 1>going with no. I'm going with no.

0:42:20.920 --> 0:42:23.279
<v Speaker 2>I am going to say long term no, But I

0:42:23.320 --> 0:42:25.080
<v Speaker 2>do think give it a whirl.

0:42:25.200 --> 0:42:27.239
<v Speaker 1>If you have the chat. I think chat to each

0:42:27.239 --> 0:42:29.239
<v Speaker 1>other first, Go give it a whirl. Say you're going

0:42:29.280 --> 0:42:31.479
<v Speaker 1>to do it once and see how you feel. Because

0:42:31.480 --> 0:42:33.480
<v Speaker 1>you think, try it. You're saying go for it.

0:42:33.560 --> 0:42:37.360
<v Speaker 2>I think try it, because why not if if it

0:42:37.400 --> 0:42:38.120
<v Speaker 2>doesn't work?

0:42:38.360 --> 0:42:40.239
<v Speaker 1>But what if jealousy sets in and then they're not

0:42:40.280 --> 0:42:42.200
<v Speaker 1>able to overcome that, and then you're not with the

0:42:42.239 --> 0:42:44.879
<v Speaker 1>right person and you've figured that out. Better to figure

0:42:44.920 --> 0:42:46.040
<v Speaker 1>it out now than in five.

0:42:45.880 --> 0:42:47.799
<v Speaker 2>Years time when you're married with a child and your

0:42:47.880 --> 0:42:49.480
<v Speaker 2>husband still wants to go and sleep with people.

0:42:50.080 --> 0:42:52.759
<v Speaker 1>Wow, that was really depressing. We just went from being

0:42:52.800 --> 0:42:56.120
<v Speaker 1>so uplifting and taking time and focusing on what we

0:42:56.160 --> 0:42:59.360
<v Speaker 1>can appreciate in life to hear well, I really wanted that.

0:42:59.480 --> 0:43:01.840
<v Speaker 1>I really want to give this girl my honest opinion

0:43:01.880 --> 0:43:04.920
<v Speaker 1>because she's in a shitty well. She's given her the

0:43:04.960 --> 0:43:07.359
<v Speaker 1>worst opinions. We've given her two conflicting ones, and now

0:43:07.360 --> 0:43:10.600
<v Speaker 1>she's back on the fence. I mean, what's wrong with

0:43:10.640 --> 0:43:13.400
<v Speaker 1>trying it? Because I think that once you try it,

0:43:13.440 --> 0:43:14.920
<v Speaker 1>you can't come back from there. So I think that

0:43:14.920 --> 0:43:16.839
<v Speaker 1>there's so many other things that they need to do

0:43:16.960 --> 0:43:21.239
<v Speaker 1>first in order to try and mediate this issue. They

0:43:21.280 --> 0:43:23.760
<v Speaker 1>need to try and sexually get on the same page,

0:43:24.440 --> 0:43:27.759
<v Speaker 1>and maybe maybe before they take this decision, go and

0:43:27.800 --> 0:43:30.360
<v Speaker 1>see a counselor oh for sure, speak to a relationship

0:43:30.360 --> 0:43:33.080
<v Speaker 1>counselor about what this actually looks like if they're going

0:43:33.120 --> 0:43:36.560
<v Speaker 1>to go down this route, because there is no coming

0:43:36.600 --> 0:43:39.040
<v Speaker 1>back from it once you have had a sexual relationship

0:43:39.040 --> 0:43:41.920
<v Speaker 1>with somebody else outside of your own relationship. Do we

0:43:41.960 --> 0:43:45.319
<v Speaker 1>have another question from ask guncut? We do.

0:43:45.400 --> 0:43:47.799
<v Speaker 2>We actually have about two hundred and fifty questions, but

0:43:47.840 --> 0:43:51.080
<v Speaker 2>I have picked one. Okay, Yeah, so there is this

0:43:51.239 --> 0:43:52.000
<v Speaker 2>lovely girl.

0:43:52.120 --> 0:43:53.640
<v Speaker 1>We will not be getting to all two hundred and

0:43:53.640 --> 0:43:56.160
<v Speaker 1>fifty today, but please keep them coming. Yeah, we are trying.

0:43:56.840 --> 0:43:58.719
<v Speaker 2>There is a lovely girl who is in a relationship

0:43:58.800 --> 0:44:03.759
<v Speaker 2>and his best friend has been hitting on her.

0:44:04.360 --> 0:44:06.399
<v Speaker 1>And it was very subtle at the start. I saw

0:44:06.440 --> 0:44:07.000
<v Speaker 1>this question. Come.

0:44:07.160 --> 0:44:09.279
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I was very subtle at the start, and she

0:44:09.360 --> 0:44:11.240
<v Speaker 2>wasn't sure it was actually happening.

0:44:11.600 --> 0:44:13.640
<v Speaker 1>And then it started. She's one hundred percent now. It

0:44:13.680 --> 0:44:15.879
<v Speaker 1>started to become a lot more over. Yep.

0:44:16.000 --> 0:44:18.479
<v Speaker 2>And it started to happen in front of the best

0:44:18.480 --> 0:44:20.560
<v Speaker 2>friend as well, like the little passes and things. But

0:44:20.640 --> 0:44:23.600
<v Speaker 2>he hasn't noticed. Other people are noticing.

0:44:24.120 --> 0:44:25.799
<v Speaker 1>Girl. She doesn't know what to do. I have the

0:44:25.840 --> 0:44:28.960
<v Speaker 1>easiest solution for you. You need to pull that guy aside.

0:44:29.360 --> 0:44:31.600
<v Speaker 1>You need to pull your boyfriend's best friend aside and

0:44:31.680 --> 0:44:35.719
<v Speaker 1>tell him you've noticed what he's doing. It's inappropriate and

0:44:35.719 --> 0:44:37.839
<v Speaker 1>you would like him to stop. Otherwise you'll be telling

0:44:37.880 --> 0:44:40.000
<v Speaker 1>your boyfriend. Well, that's the thing. Does she just tell

0:44:40.040 --> 0:44:42.719
<v Speaker 1>the boyfriend though, or should she be keeping that? No? Look,

0:44:42.760 --> 0:44:44.799
<v Speaker 1>I don't think that you want to go and just

0:44:45.120 --> 0:44:48.440
<v Speaker 1>ruin your boyfriend's relationship with his best friend. Yes, the

0:44:48.480 --> 0:44:52.080
<v Speaker 1>guy may be flirting, he hasn't done anything outwardly like,

0:44:52.160 --> 0:44:55.560
<v Speaker 1>he's not done anything to a point that I think

0:44:55.760 --> 0:44:59.000
<v Speaker 1>like had her against incriminating. Well, that's sexual assault, but

0:44:59.640 --> 0:45:02.000
<v Speaker 1>he's not anything that's incriminating that's put her in a

0:45:02.040 --> 0:45:05.560
<v Speaker 1>position where she feels incredibly uncomfortable. If he has done that,

0:45:05.640 --> 0:45:08.160
<v Speaker 1>then I think go straight to your partner. But if

0:45:08.520 --> 0:45:12.200
<v Speaker 1>you're only in a situation where it's becoming increasingly uncomfortable

0:45:12.200 --> 0:45:15.560
<v Speaker 1>and increasingly obvious, chances are your boyfriend is going to

0:45:15.600 --> 0:45:18.440
<v Speaker 1>notice sooner or later and to just nip it in

0:45:18.480 --> 0:45:21.440
<v Speaker 1>the butt, I would go straight to the sauce and

0:45:21.520 --> 0:45:25.160
<v Speaker 1>say you make me uncomfortable. I do not have feelings

0:45:25.200 --> 0:45:27.120
<v Speaker 1>for you. I'm in love with my boyfriend. You need

0:45:27.160 --> 0:45:29.600
<v Speaker 1>to stop, because I will be going and telling him

0:45:29.600 --> 0:45:33.120
<v Speaker 1>that will be the next Yes, it's confrontational and no

0:45:33.160 --> 0:45:35.680
<v Speaker 1>one's going to enjoy that, but if you're serious about

0:45:35.719 --> 0:45:38.000
<v Speaker 1>wanting it to stop, and you're not feeding off the

0:45:38.000 --> 0:45:41.560
<v Speaker 1>attention at all, you need to nip that in the butt,

0:45:42.239 --> 0:45:44.279
<v Speaker 1>in the butter and the butt. I actually was just

0:45:44.280 --> 0:45:46.120
<v Speaker 1>watching say that butt, and I wanted to tell you

0:45:46.160 --> 0:45:50.080
<v Speaker 1>it's the butt, not in the but what in the butt? Yeah?

0:45:50.080 --> 0:45:51.799
<v Speaker 1>I used actually say nipp it in the butt too too.

0:45:51.840 --> 0:45:53.920
<v Speaker 1>My sister laughed in my face. Thanks for laughing in

0:45:53.920 --> 0:45:56.040
<v Speaker 1>my face, Brittany. Yeah, I was going to tell you

0:45:56.080 --> 0:45:59.799
<v Speaker 1>after the podcast, I'm glad you called yourself out on it.

0:46:00.080 --> 0:46:03.080
<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, Okay, I think you, guys, I think

0:46:03.080 --> 0:46:06.640
<v Speaker 1>that this one is actually a really simple question to answer.

0:46:06.640 --> 0:46:08.879
<v Speaker 2>I think you're right just go and tell him back

0:46:09.360 --> 0:46:12.240
<v Speaker 2>the hell off because it's not cool. I also wonder

0:46:12.280 --> 0:46:14.319
<v Speaker 2>if she obviously hasn't made it clear enough that she's

0:46:14.360 --> 0:46:16.160
<v Speaker 2>not into it and that it's inappropriate, but.

0:46:16.280 --> 0:46:17.399
<v Speaker 1>Totally keep doing it.

0:46:17.680 --> 0:46:21.080
<v Speaker 2>That's actually a really common thing too, that women feel

0:46:21.120 --> 0:46:23.839
<v Speaker 2>like they can't just say no to somebody and we

0:46:23.920 --> 0:46:25.040
<v Speaker 2>feel bad for.

0:46:25.160 --> 0:46:26.439
<v Speaker 1>Telling someone else to back off.

0:46:26.480 --> 0:46:28.719
<v Speaker 2>But girls, if you're ever in a situation where you

0:46:28.719 --> 0:46:32.200
<v Speaker 2>feel uncomfortable like that. There is nothing wrong with being

0:46:32.360 --> 0:46:34.319
<v Speaker 2>flat out rude sometimes.

0:46:34.480 --> 0:46:37.759
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you're so right in that that. We are very

0:46:37.760 --> 0:46:42.360
<v Speaker 1>cushy sometimes with how we deliver our disapproval with something.

0:46:42.560 --> 0:46:46.040
<v Speaker 1>In this instance, the only way that she's going to

0:46:46.040 --> 0:46:50.120
<v Speaker 1>get a successful outcome is being very assertive. I agree.

0:46:50.120 --> 0:46:51.879
<v Speaker 1>So there you go. There you have it. I love

0:46:51.880 --> 0:46:53.560
<v Speaker 1>it when we agree. Yeah. I love it when we

0:46:53.560 --> 0:46:56.640
<v Speaker 1>don't fence it. I love it when you don't fence it.

0:46:56.880 --> 0:46:59.960
<v Speaker 1>I try not to. No, Sometimes it's nice to be

0:47:00.200 --> 0:47:01.960
<v Speaker 1>the voice of reason in this.

0:47:02.320 --> 0:47:04.959
<v Speaker 2>I always wi look at a situation two sides before

0:47:05.000 --> 0:47:06.560
<v Speaker 2>I make my opinion, and then I'll get there.

0:47:06.600 --> 0:47:08.000
<v Speaker 1>So sometimes it takes me a bit.

0:47:08.239 --> 0:47:09.640
<v Speaker 2>It just takes me a bit longer to get there

0:47:09.680 --> 0:47:11.600
<v Speaker 2>sometimes because I want to view it from both sides.

0:47:12.320 --> 0:47:15.320
<v Speaker 1>Have you thought about your suck and sweet I actually

0:47:15.640 --> 0:47:19.400
<v Speaker 1>did for one. I waited. I don't know what my

0:47:19.560 --> 0:47:21.839
<v Speaker 1>suck and swing is. Well, let me go first and

0:47:21.880 --> 0:47:26.960
<v Speaker 1>you think about it head. So my suck this week

0:47:27.560 --> 0:47:31.359
<v Speaker 1>was that I had a flight canceled yesterday. Her suck

0:47:31.480 --> 0:47:33.279
<v Speaker 1>was my suck. I had a babysitter. We were going

0:47:33.320 --> 0:47:37.200
<v Speaker 1>to record this podcast yesterday and then bridge flight got canceled. Yeah,

0:47:37.280 --> 0:47:40.279
<v Speaker 1>I mean it was Tiger Air. Shout out to Tiger Air.

0:47:40.480 --> 0:47:43.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm never flying with you again because you just well

0:47:43.600 --> 0:47:45.320
<v Speaker 1>you just do it all the time. Are you using

0:47:45.360 --> 0:47:47.759
<v Speaker 1>our podcast to shit on Tiger Air? You know what

0:47:47.800 --> 0:47:48.160
<v Speaker 1>they did?

0:47:48.400 --> 0:47:51.520
<v Speaker 2>They emailed me at three am and said my flight

0:47:51.560 --> 0:47:53.160
<v Speaker 2>was in the morning because we were coming back to

0:47:53.200 --> 0:47:55.719
<v Speaker 2>record these podcasts. They email being said, sos dog, your

0:47:55.719 --> 0:47:56.600
<v Speaker 2>flight's been canceled.

0:47:56.600 --> 0:47:59.280
<v Speaker 1>Did they actually write so dog email? That's really impressive.

0:47:59.280 --> 0:48:00.960
<v Speaker 1>I would be happy with it that. I embellished that.

0:48:01.160 --> 0:48:05.560
<v Speaker 1>They said, sorry, missus Hockley, Miss sorry, my mistake.

0:48:05.600 --> 0:48:09.160
<v Speaker 2>Sorry, miss Hockley, your flight has been canceled.

0:48:09.160 --> 0:48:09.839
<v Speaker 1>But that was it.

0:48:10.160 --> 0:48:12.120
<v Speaker 2>And they said here's a number to call later when

0:48:12.120 --> 0:48:13.000
<v Speaker 2>you're away, because it's two.

0:48:13.000 --> 0:48:15.040
<v Speaker 1>I am okay, So that is your suck. That's a

0:48:15.040 --> 0:48:17.400
<v Speaker 1>pretty sucky suck, babe, My sweet was.

0:48:17.520 --> 0:48:21.000
<v Speaker 2>I flew to the Gold Coast for the weekend with

0:48:21.040 --> 0:48:23.359
<v Speaker 2>my family. I haven't seen my nephew and my mom

0:48:23.400 --> 0:48:25.720
<v Speaker 2>and dad and my brother. It was just really awesome

0:48:25.760 --> 0:48:27.520
<v Speaker 2>to get some quality family time. I'm so close to

0:48:27.560 --> 0:48:29.239
<v Speaker 2>my family and I hadn't seen him in a long time,

0:48:29.280 --> 0:48:30.960
<v Speaker 2>so I just feel a million dollars today.

0:48:31.080 --> 0:48:33.239
<v Speaker 1>That's so nice. That was actually your sweet for last

0:48:33.239 --> 0:48:35.359
<v Speaker 1>week because you pulled it forward because you were going

0:48:35.400 --> 0:48:37.440
<v Speaker 1>to see them, and now you're sweet. Is that you

0:48:37.520 --> 0:48:39.520
<v Speaker 1>actually saw that she's calling me out on the rules. No,

0:48:39.600 --> 0:48:41.080
<v Speaker 1>I love it, No, I love it. I think it's

0:48:41.080 --> 0:48:43.120
<v Speaker 1>so nice. I'm glad that you got to have weekend

0:48:43.160 --> 0:48:43.960
<v Speaker 1>away with your family.

0:48:44.239 --> 0:48:46.680
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we drank too much wine, but I think it's

0:48:47.160 --> 0:48:48.480
<v Speaker 2>it was always gonna happen, wasn't it.

0:48:49.080 --> 0:48:51.120
<v Speaker 1>Look I mean, it's not a successful weekend without some

0:48:51.160 --> 0:48:53.400
<v Speaker 1>wine drinking. I wouldn't know. I realized that I have

0:48:53.520 --> 0:48:56.000
<v Speaker 1>not had more than two glasses of wine in over

0:48:56.080 --> 0:49:01.400
<v Speaker 1>a year. Yeah, isn't that insane? Birthday on Wednesday, Brittany.

0:49:01.480 --> 0:49:04.560
<v Speaker 1>It is. It's Britney's birthday, the day that this podcast

0:49:04.600 --> 0:49:06.320
<v Speaker 1>comes out. It's Britney's birthday today.

0:49:06.560 --> 0:49:10.160
<v Speaker 2>That's actually funny because I was really going to keep

0:49:10.200 --> 0:49:10.920
<v Speaker 2>that on the lowdown.

0:49:11.000 --> 0:49:15.200
<v Speaker 1>But everybody wish Brittany a happy birthday today because it's

0:49:15.239 --> 0:49:18.239
<v Speaker 1>her birthday. I just don't do birthdays. I even took

0:49:18.239 --> 0:49:20.759
<v Speaker 1>my birthday off Facebook, like the announcements so that no one.

0:49:20.840 --> 0:49:23.920
<v Speaker 1>You're so mysterious. No, I just don't. I don't know.

0:49:24.160 --> 0:49:26.520
<v Speaker 1>I just I don't know. Let's move along. But thank

0:49:26.600 --> 0:49:29.600
<v Speaker 1>you for announcing that to Australia. That's so fun. That's

0:49:29.600 --> 0:49:31.360
<v Speaker 1>what I'm here for, babe, just to make sure that

0:49:31.440 --> 0:49:33.879
<v Speaker 1>the cutos gets given to you when you deserve it. Yep.

0:49:33.920 --> 0:49:35.680
<v Speaker 1>So it is my birthday today, thank you? So my

0:49:36.600 --> 0:49:38.200
<v Speaker 1>Can I start with my sweet you don't have to

0:49:38.239 --> 0:49:41.360
<v Speaker 1>start with my role is a suck? Yeah? I feel

0:49:41.360 --> 0:49:43.879
<v Speaker 1>like I've had a really good week, so great. Trying

0:49:43.880 --> 0:49:45.600
<v Speaker 1>to think of a suck is a bit difficult, and

0:49:45.640 --> 0:49:48.120
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to just throw something into the ring

0:49:48.239 --> 0:49:50.919
<v Speaker 1>just for the sake of dwelling on something negative. I'm

0:49:50.960 --> 0:49:54.319
<v Speaker 1>going to say, can be so trivial if that's the

0:49:54.360 --> 0:49:56.560
<v Speaker 1>case totally. I'm going to say, just based on what

0:49:56.600 --> 0:49:59.320
<v Speaker 1>we were talking about earlier in this episode, this feeling

0:49:59.400 --> 0:50:02.800
<v Speaker 1>of being I feel like I'm very busy at the moment,

0:50:03.000 --> 0:50:06.680
<v Speaker 1>and I'm just busy for busy's sake. So I think

0:50:06.880 --> 0:50:08.759
<v Speaker 1>next week I really need to just take some time

0:50:08.880 --> 0:50:12.600
<v Speaker 1>to eliminate some things that aren't adding anything to my

0:50:12.719 --> 0:50:16.600
<v Speaker 1>day and they're just noise and hustle, and be a

0:50:16.600 --> 0:50:18.640
<v Speaker 1>bit calmer that we know, me happy, you're going to

0:50:18.719 --> 0:50:24.600
<v Speaker 1>eliminate more cleaning. My sweet for this week has probably

0:50:24.680 --> 0:50:27.839
<v Speaker 1>also contributed to my suck. So my sweet this week

0:50:27.960 --> 0:50:31.240
<v Speaker 1>was that Matt and I actually had quite a social weekend,

0:50:31.600 --> 0:50:34.160
<v Speaker 1>which was amazing because it's really hard for anyone who

0:50:34.160 --> 0:50:36.920
<v Speaker 1>has a newborn baby. You would appreciate that it's really

0:50:37.000 --> 0:50:40.680
<v Speaker 1>difficult to maintain any semblance of a social life. And

0:50:40.760 --> 0:50:44.279
<v Speaker 1>this weekend, Matt and night we did dinner on Saturday night,

0:50:44.520 --> 0:50:46.719
<v Speaker 1>or we did dinner on Friday night, Saturday night and

0:50:46.840 --> 0:50:50.640
<v Speaker 1>Sunday night. We were really ambitious. Who are you? I

0:50:50.680 --> 0:50:54.279
<v Speaker 1>am wild? Didn't Marsh me wrong? Did Mary go to

0:50:54.280 --> 0:50:57.040
<v Speaker 1>all these dinners? Yeah? So we I think we just

0:50:57.040 --> 0:50:59.200
<v Speaker 1>got a bit over excited. Marley has gotten into an

0:50:59.239 --> 0:51:02.680
<v Speaker 1>amazing routine where I now know that I can put

0:51:02.680 --> 0:51:04.560
<v Speaker 1>her in there in the carrier, I can take her

0:51:04.600 --> 0:51:06.840
<v Speaker 1>to dinner and she's going to sleep for a certain period,

0:51:06.880 --> 0:51:08.920
<v Speaker 1>and we've kind of just worked out a really good routine,

0:51:08.960 --> 0:51:11.880
<v Speaker 1>which means that at the moment we're able to go

0:51:11.920 --> 0:51:14.279
<v Speaker 1>for dinners and enjoy ourselves and bring her along and

0:51:14.320 --> 0:51:16.400
<v Speaker 1>she sleeps. I know that this is going to be

0:51:16.440 --> 0:51:18.120
<v Speaker 1>short lived, and I know this is just a phase

0:51:18.200 --> 0:51:20.040
<v Speaker 1>so we're trying to make the absolute most of it

0:51:20.120 --> 0:51:23.040
<v Speaker 1>at the moment while she's in this sleep sort of routine.

0:51:23.480 --> 0:51:28.000
<v Speaker 1>So well, my suite is contributing to my suck. Yeah

0:51:28.040 --> 0:51:29.359
<v Speaker 1>that makes sense. Yes, fair.

0:51:29.640 --> 0:51:31.840
<v Speaker 2>And while we're on the sinners that you went out

0:51:32.080 --> 0:51:34.799
<v Speaker 2>twenty one times for dinner this week, do you have

0:51:34.840 --> 0:51:36.960
<v Speaker 2>a recommendation for anyone? Did you eat anywhere that was

0:51:37.000 --> 0:51:38.480
<v Speaker 2>amazing or by anyone?

0:51:38.480 --> 0:51:40.440
<v Speaker 1>I mean me? You know you know that I am

0:51:40.480 --> 0:51:42.520
<v Speaker 1>obsessed with Totty's. I knew you were going to say

0:51:42.520 --> 0:51:45.560
<v Speaker 1>you were to Totti's. Totti's is this Italian restaurant. It's

0:51:45.600 --> 0:51:49.239
<v Speaker 1>just down the road from us in Bondai, recessed. I

0:51:49.320 --> 0:51:52.200
<v Speaker 1>also went to a really great for anyone who's vegan.

0:51:52.560 --> 0:51:55.880
<v Speaker 1>I went to a really great vegan restaurant called Alibi,

0:51:55.920 --> 0:51:59.239
<v Speaker 1>which is in the Ovolo Hotel in Wollemloo, and we

0:51:59.280 --> 0:52:01.560
<v Speaker 1>did like a diggas thing that was Friday night. So

0:52:01.719 --> 0:52:03.680
<v Speaker 1>I recommend that for anyone who's vegan. Yeah.

0:52:03.680 --> 0:52:06.480
<v Speaker 2>I actually love vegan food when someone makes it for me.

0:52:06.520 --> 0:52:08.239
<v Speaker 2>When I make it for myself, I sit down sec

0:52:08.280 --> 0:52:10.880
<v Speaker 2>a lattice leaf and a bean wrapped together, and I'm like,

0:52:10.960 --> 0:52:12.960
<v Speaker 2>why do people do this, but when I go to

0:52:13.000 --> 0:52:14.840
<v Speaker 2>a vegan restaurant, I'm all over it.

0:52:14.920 --> 0:52:16.760
<v Speaker 1>You're always amazed by the fact that you can actually

0:52:16.760 --> 0:52:20.000
<v Speaker 1>make tasty, amazing meals. Yes, hands down. I thought this

0:52:20.040 --> 0:52:22.200
<v Speaker 1>had just turned into an ad for the ovolo. We'll stop,

0:52:22.239 --> 0:52:25.640
<v Speaker 1>We'll stop. Well, guys, you've made it this far, so

0:52:25.760 --> 0:52:29.719
<v Speaker 1>thank you for listening to another episode of Life Uncut.

0:52:30.080 --> 0:52:32.840
<v Speaker 1>We hope that you got something out of this, maybe

0:52:32.880 --> 0:52:36.319
<v Speaker 1>something insightful. Maybe we made you laugh, maybe you laughed

0:52:36.320 --> 0:52:41.239
<v Speaker 1>at Brittany. Thank you for visiting again. Guys. We absolutely

0:52:41.280 --> 0:52:43.839
<v Speaker 1>love bringing you this. We have so much fun doing it,

0:52:43.920 --> 0:52:47.640
<v Speaker 1>and next week we actually have a very exciting guest

0:52:47.719 --> 0:52:50.879
<v Speaker 1>coming on, so we're super excited for that. We are.

0:52:51.200 --> 0:52:53.960
<v Speaker 1>I am. I can't wait, So Laura, please tune in.

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<v Speaker 1>I will be here because I think you're gonna like it. Sprightly, Guys,

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<v Speaker 1>if you have enjoyed this episode, please please tell a friend,

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<v Speaker 1>spread the good word, leave us a review. If you

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<v Speaker 1>can be bothered and hit five stars lots of stars.

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<v Speaker 1>Just share the luck, guys, Because we love love, I

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<v Speaker 1>love you, and I love you