WEBVTT - Staying in your lane: How to stop comparing yourself & feel enough 0:00:10.920 --> 0:00:14.120 Hi, and welcome to the Rise and Conquer Podcast. I'm 0:00:14.160 --> 0:00:17.520 your host, Georgie Stevenson. I am a lawyer, tend health coach, 0:00:17.800 --> 0:00:22.439 social media influencer, wife and dogmam. On the Rise and 0:00:22.480 --> 0:00:28.080 Conquer Podcast, we dive deep into all things mindset, habits, career, health, 0:00:28.240 --> 0:00:31.920 relationships and more. This is a podcast for women who 0:00:31.960 --> 0:00:34.800 want to rise up to be the best version of themselves, 0:00:35.080 --> 0:00:37.360 who have big dreams in who are willing to put 0:00:37.360 --> 0:00:39.560 in the work to get there. I want to bring 0:00:39.600 --> 0:00:43.360 you the tools and actionable steps to feel confident in yourself, 0:00:43.840 --> 0:00:48.479 inspired to take bold action, and motivated to conquer your goals. 0:00:48.920 --> 0:00:52.000 Are you with me, your friends, Let's rise and conquer. 0:01:02.320 --> 0:01:05.560 Hi, guys, welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcast. 0:01:06.000 --> 0:01:10.200 It is your host, Georgie Stevenson. So today we are 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:15.120 getting into the whole self comparison and I want to 0:01:15.160 --> 0:01:17.720 talk to you guys just some tools that I use 0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:22.160 personally to stop comparing myself to others and to flex 0:01:22.200 --> 0:01:25.039 that self love muscle that I know we all have. 0:01:25.800 --> 0:01:28.360 And the reason why this has come up and I 0:01:28.400 --> 0:01:30.840 wanted to talk to you guys about this is I 0:01:31.360 --> 0:01:35.319 at the start of the week have experienced some mad 0:01:35.480 --> 0:01:38.959 feelings of comparing myself to others, which made me feel 0:01:39.040 --> 0:01:42.320 really uncomfortable because I thought this was something I already 0:01:42.360 --> 0:01:47.440 dealt with, and obviously, not comparing your others and self 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:52.040 love and self acceptance is not a final destination. It 0:01:52.160 --> 0:01:55.360 is something that we have to constantly work on. So 0:01:55.480 --> 0:01:58.720 let's back it up a little bit. I am currently 0:01:58.960 --> 0:02:03.280 in Sydney, which is in our flight from my hometown Brisbane. 0:02:03.480 --> 0:02:07.640 I'm down here on a business slash work trip. I'm 0:02:07.680 --> 0:02:11.240 here with a brand called jym Shark, which I collaborate with. 0:02:11.600 --> 0:02:15.520 I suppose you would call me an ambassador or athlete 0:02:15.720 --> 0:02:19.200 or that sort of thing, and they're an amazing brand. 0:02:19.360 --> 0:02:21.120 They are an online. 0:02:20.880 --> 0:02:22.600 Active way company if you don't know who they are, 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:25.120 and they put on these pop up stores where you 0:02:25.160 --> 0:02:27.919 can come and you can shop, and they also fly 0:02:28.280 --> 0:02:31.560 in certain athletes that they have under the brand and 0:02:31.600 --> 0:02:34.359 people get a chance to meet them. So I'm doing 0:02:34.400 --> 0:02:38.359 that this weekend. It is currently Friday, and I've actually 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:40.799 been in Sydney all week because it's pretty cool. They 0:02:40.840 --> 0:02:43.640 fly you in the week before and we've actually just 0:02:43.680 --> 0:02:45.680 been doing a lot of team stuff. So we did 0:02:45.800 --> 0:02:48.880 a team photo shoot with the other Aussie athletes. I 0:02:48.960 --> 0:02:51.880 met all the American and the UK, and there's even 0:02:52.080 --> 0:02:55.840 athletes here from Canada. So it's been a really cool week. 0:02:55.919 --> 0:03:01.480 But and this is me just being totally real and 0:03:01.919 --> 0:03:05.080 raw and honest with you guys. So I'll paint a 0:03:05.080 --> 0:03:08.040 little picture for you. At the start of the week. 0:03:08.600 --> 0:03:11.840 The first day was a photo shoot day, and this 0:03:12.040 --> 0:03:15.880 was with the other Bussy athletes, and I was with 0:03:16.000 --> 0:03:19.520 this other girl. Her name's Morgan, shout out to Morgan, 0:03:19.919 --> 0:03:25.400 and she is an amazing handstander and gymnastic girl. She 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:29.360 does handstands and gymnastic and she can bend and flip 0:03:29.480 --> 0:03:33.040 and do these really cool things. And she's obviously beautiful, 0:03:33.120 --> 0:03:36.360 has an amazing body. She's really cool. Also, she's one 0:03:36.360 --> 0:03:38.720 of those girls who can hang with the guys, and 0:03:38.920 --> 0:03:41.880 she has so much confidence and she's just really cool. 0:03:41.920 --> 0:03:45.160 I was like straight away attracted to her personality. So 0:03:45.240 --> 0:03:47.360 she was there and she was lovely, and then all 0:03:47.400 --> 0:03:49.520 the guys were there, and a lot of the guys 0:03:49.520 --> 0:03:53.200 can do cool stuff like flips and handstands and all 0:03:53.280 --> 0:03:55.920 that sort of stuff, so it was really cool. So 0:03:55.960 --> 0:03:58.680 the first day we did the lifestyle shoot and then 0:03:58.720 --> 0:04:03.360 we also went clar diving. So because these guys are 0:04:03.400 --> 0:04:07.600 like extroverted and adrenaline junkies, I swear, and so they're like, 0:04:07.680 --> 0:04:09.120 let's go cliff diving, and I was. 0:04:09.120 --> 0:04:12.240 Like sure, and so I did it. 0:04:12.280 --> 0:04:14.560 And I totally went cliff diving because I honestly felt 0:04:14.600 --> 0:04:16.200 like I had to prove myself because I just have 0:04:16.920 --> 0:04:18.600 no mad skills like they did. 0:04:18.680 --> 0:04:20.359 And so we did that and it was a really 0:04:20.400 --> 0:04:21.240 amazing day. 0:04:21.480 --> 0:04:27.000 But something I did notice, and it's really weird, because 0:04:27.160 --> 0:04:29.080 I have done a lot of work on myself and 0:04:29.440 --> 0:04:32.600 I feel like I'm really confident and I'm really secure 0:04:32.880 --> 0:04:35.560 in the way that I feel about myself and who 0:04:35.640 --> 0:04:36.039 I am. 0:04:36.279 --> 0:04:37.200 But it's really weird. 0:04:37.279 --> 0:04:41.279 I kept having these feelings of comparing myself to these 0:04:41.440 --> 0:04:46.200 amazing people and basically feeling like they were better than me, 0:04:46.839 --> 0:04:50.120 and I was less because I couldn't do these amazing 0:04:50.200 --> 0:04:53.240 handstands or stuff like that. Something I did notice I 0:04:53.279 --> 0:04:56.160 was comparing myself a lot with is I'm actually, at 0:04:56.160 --> 0:04:58.919 heart a bit of an introvert. So even though I 0:04:58.960 --> 0:05:02.160 can get on you Tube and Instagram and I have 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:06.880 a really bubbly personality, I definitely get my energy from 0:05:07.080 --> 0:05:11.760 not necessarily being alone. But I'm just not extroverted. So 0:05:11.800 --> 0:05:14.800 I can definitely bring a presence and have a bubbly personality. 0:05:15.200 --> 0:05:19.360 I'm just not overly extroverted, and I'm. 0:05:19.200 --> 0:05:21.320 A little bit shy. I'm not gonna lie. These people. 0:05:21.560 --> 0:05:23.520 They're all either really big. 0:05:23.360 --> 0:05:26.440 On Instagram or YouTube or just have really big presence 0:05:26.560 --> 0:05:29.039 and you could really tell it in their personalities. So 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:32.000 I was feeling like I kept comparing myself to these 0:05:32.040 --> 0:05:35.200 amazing people, and I kept telling myself because I couldn't 0:05:35.200 --> 0:05:37.000 do these cool skills, I. 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:38.760 Wasn't a real athlete. 0:05:38.640 --> 0:05:42.240 And because I wasn't extroverted and really out there and 0:05:42.279 --> 0:05:45.680 bobbly and loud, I wasn't good enough. And it's really 0:05:45.760 --> 0:05:48.680 weird because I would feel these feelings and I was 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:51.920 just kind of pushing them down and ignoring them because 0:05:51.960 --> 0:05:53.880 I kept saying to myself, like, when are you doing 0:05:53.920 --> 0:05:57.080 your job? You're confident, you're secure, you love yourself, it's 0:05:57.120 --> 0:05:59.200 all good. Why are you even thinking like this? So 0:05:59.520 --> 0:06:02.320 I just push the feelings down because you know, when 0:06:02.360 --> 0:06:05.120 you feel feelings and you maybe act a different way. 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:07.359 I didn't want that to happen because this is my 0:06:07.440 --> 0:06:10.279 bonding time with these amazing people, So I pushed the 0:06:10.320 --> 0:06:14.120 feelings aside when I got back to my room later on, 0:06:14.480 --> 0:06:17.000 and just a couple of days later, I think the 0:06:17.040 --> 0:06:18.840 next day I had a free day, I sort of 0:06:18.920 --> 0:06:21.760 just sat with them. And at first I was really 0:06:21.800 --> 0:06:24.599 annoyed at myself. Like I said, I would consider myself 0:06:24.680 --> 0:06:29.279 very confident and someone who doesn't compare themselves to others 0:06:29.400 --> 0:06:31.320 and feel less or anything like that. 0:06:31.400 --> 0:06:32.000 So I was. 0:06:32.000 --> 0:06:35.560 Annoyed that I was even feeling these feelings. But I 0:06:35.640 --> 0:06:39.120 decided to sort of just sit with them, and I 0:06:39.360 --> 0:06:43.040 have a couple of tools that I do use when 0:06:43.200 --> 0:06:47.080 I feel like I'm comparing myself to others and it's 0:06:47.120 --> 0:06:49.920 affecting me, And so I went through a couple of 0:06:49.920 --> 0:06:53.440 these tools, and after that, I felt so much better 0:06:53.640 --> 0:06:56.719 and I was just like, oh, almost like a relief 0:06:56.800 --> 0:06:58.960 went through me and I was like, oh, it's all good. 0:06:59.240 --> 0:07:01.800 And then the next couple days, I didn't think once 0:07:01.960 --> 0:07:05.040 about comparing myself to someone else or feeling less than 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:09.360 because someone had this amazing skill or something different to 0:07:09.440 --> 0:07:13.160 what I have. So I just wanted to go through 0:07:13.400 --> 0:07:16.960 some of the tools I use when I'm feeling that 0:07:17.480 --> 0:07:21.400 self comparison creeping in because I know you guys may 0:07:21.440 --> 0:07:24.040 feel this feeling too, and it's really easy. 0:07:24.200 --> 0:07:26.000 Oh my god, guys. On a side note, this is 0:07:26.040 --> 0:07:26.480 so funny. 0:07:26.480 --> 0:07:28.520 Obviously I'm a podcast so you can't see me, but 0:07:28.760 --> 0:07:32.200 I'm sitting here at the protail desk in my room 0:07:32.360 --> 0:07:34.800 and I'm like, my hands are going everywhere because I 0:07:34.880 --> 0:07:35.520 just like to speak. 0:07:35.640 --> 0:07:37.800 My hands and anyway, so hard to note. 0:07:39.560 --> 0:07:41.560 And yeah, so I just wanted to go through some 0:07:41.560 --> 0:07:44.160 stuff that I went through to make myself feel better. 0:07:44.280 --> 0:07:46.720 I know that self comparison it can just sort of 0:07:46.880 --> 0:07:50.040 creep in, even if you are a very confident and 0:07:50.120 --> 0:07:54.640 self aware person. It is so easy. It's especially easy 0:07:54.760 --> 0:07:58.480 on these days with social media and all you see 0:07:58.920 --> 0:08:04.000 is mostlyeople's highlight wheels and these perfect lives, so it's 0:08:04.120 --> 0:08:08.040 very easy to fall in this comparison trap. So I 0:08:08.040 --> 0:08:10.360 don't think I'm even going to go too much into 0:08:10.400 --> 0:08:13.040 the social media side of things. I have dealt a 0:08:13.080 --> 0:08:16.960 lot with that, and I don't compare myself to anyone 0:08:17.000 --> 0:08:20.440 on social media these days anymore because I worked through 0:08:20.640 --> 0:08:23.720 a lot of that previously. It was so shocking to 0:08:23.760 --> 0:08:25.840 me because I have done a lot of work on that, 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:29.520 and then to feel these feelings in person with other people. 0:08:29.920 --> 0:08:30.920 I just haven't really. 0:08:30.720 --> 0:08:32.679 Felt like that before, so I was just a bit 0:08:32.760 --> 0:08:35.280 blown away, and it was actually good because it did 0:08:35.320 --> 0:08:37.960 make me realize that we have to be constantly working 0:08:37.960 --> 0:08:41.839 on ourselves and constantly practing self love and self compassion 0:08:42.000 --> 0:08:46.240 on ourselves. So anyway, let's get into it. I did 0:08:46.320 --> 0:08:49.880 want to say that don't be upset or annoyed if 0:08:49.920 --> 0:08:54.000 you are comparing yourself to others. I think it's great 0:08:54.040 --> 0:08:56.520 to sort of be self aware and apply these tools 0:08:56.520 --> 0:08:59.040 that I'm about to tell you. But something you do 0:08:59.120 --> 0:09:02.360 need to realize is comparing ourselves to others is a 0:09:02.520 --> 0:09:06.760 natural instinct. If you think about it, back in prehistoric times, 0:09:07.400 --> 0:09:12.000 it would be our natural instinct to analyze others and 0:09:12.320 --> 0:09:15.520 identify possible threats and that sort of thing. So we 0:09:15.559 --> 0:09:20.120 would be constantly comparing ourselves to others back in prehistoric times. 0:09:20.520 --> 0:09:22.000 But I guess it's super. 0:09:21.679 --> 0:09:24.079 Hard in this day and time because we do have 0:09:24.160 --> 0:09:28.720 things like social media and these highlight reels, and it's 0:09:28.840 --> 0:09:32.640 very easy to fall in the self comparison trap. Okay, 0:09:32.760 --> 0:09:36.280 so one of the first tools I use I think about, 0:09:36.679 --> 0:09:39.840 instead of comparing myself to this person, that I'm comparing 0:09:39.840 --> 0:09:44.280 myself to I compare myself to who I am today 0:09:44.520 --> 0:09:46.880 to who I was yesterday. 0:09:46.520 --> 0:09:47.520 Or in the past. 0:09:48.040 --> 0:09:50.560 And I think this is a really great mind shift 0:09:50.720 --> 0:09:53.520 because if you think about it, we are forever growing, 0:09:53.640 --> 0:09:58.240 forever learning and for other achieving different things. So instead 0:09:58.240 --> 0:10:03.079 of focusing on something that we are not because we're 0:10:03.080 --> 0:10:06.520 comparing ourself to someone else, I try and shift the 0:10:06.600 --> 0:10:09.720 mindset and I think, to myself, am I the same 0:10:09.800 --> 0:10:12.760 person that I was a year ago or even a 0:10:12.880 --> 0:10:17.520 week ago? And the answer is no, because I constantly 0:10:17.559 --> 0:10:20.760 am growing and learning and achieving, and we all are. 0:10:21.160 --> 0:10:23.840 And I think it's very easy to fall into this 0:10:23.960 --> 0:10:27.480 track where we think we're moving too slow or we're 0:10:27.480 --> 0:10:31.280 not achieving enough, because we're surrounded by a social media 0:10:31.440 --> 0:10:34.240 and these highlight reels where everyone seems like they're just 0:10:34.360 --> 0:10:37.600 killing it a life. So I think it's really important 0:10:37.640 --> 0:10:40.000 to do a bit of a mind shift and focus 0:10:40.040 --> 0:10:45.199 on yourself, block out those outside ideals that we should 0:10:45.480 --> 0:10:48.960 constantly be achieving sort of thing, and so I will 0:10:49.000 --> 0:10:52.480 look at myself and go, hey, I am learning and 0:10:52.880 --> 0:10:56.280 I am achieving things, And so I will look and 0:10:56.440 --> 0:11:01.040 celebrate my own successes rather than looking at someone else 0:11:01.440 --> 0:11:05.400 because let's be honest, you don't know how they got there, 0:11:05.679 --> 0:11:08.160 what they did to get there, You don't know any 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:12.640 of the backstory, so you cannot compare yourself. But you 0:11:12.760 --> 0:11:16.600 do know your own backstory. You do know yourself. So 0:11:16.760 --> 0:11:19.520 if you're going to compare yourself to anyone, it should 0:11:19.559 --> 0:11:22.240 be yourself. So I like to do that. It's just 0:11:22.320 --> 0:11:25.559 a small mind shift. You think about it, and obviously, 0:11:25.559 --> 0:11:27.720 you know, sometimes we may not be in the place 0:11:27.760 --> 0:11:32.320 we want to be or progression wise, but this is 0:11:32.320 --> 0:11:35.840 where self compassion comes in. And think about the challenges 0:11:35.880 --> 0:11:39.920 that you have faced and you're still here, you're still fighting, 0:11:40.440 --> 0:11:43.840 and often we overlook those little things. So that's my 0:11:43.840 --> 0:11:47.520 first little tip. I basically went through and I was like, hey, yeah, 0:11:47.640 --> 0:11:50.520 these people are amazing, they can do amazing stuff. But 0:11:50.600 --> 0:11:53.720 also I am amazing. I've done amazing stuff, I've gone 0:11:53.760 --> 0:11:58.560 through crazy challenges and I am super proud of myself. 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:02.560 The next thing I love to use, and this is 0:12:02.880 --> 0:12:08.240 realizing that the people that you're comparing yourself are not flawless. 0:12:08.679 --> 0:12:11.720 So I have this rule where on social media I 0:12:11.800 --> 0:12:16.600 actually unfollow anyone who if their life looks like too 0:12:16.600 --> 0:12:20.600 perfect and they don't show anything real, I will literally 0:12:20.720 --> 0:12:23.720 unfollow that person because to me, I'm like, I don't 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:26.840 need that shit in my life. I don't need that 0:12:27.520 --> 0:12:32.000 fakeness basically because to me, I want to be surrounded. 0:12:31.480 --> 0:12:34.679 By real, inspiring people. 0:12:35.080 --> 0:12:37.440 And don't get me wrong, I think it's amazing that, 0:12:37.559 --> 0:12:40.600 you know, people celebrate their achievements and they put it 0:12:40.720 --> 0:12:43.920 there highlight reel and their best movements and all that 0:12:43.960 --> 0:12:46.960 sort of thing. I think that's perfectly okay, but also 0:12:47.160 --> 0:12:50.920 make sure you're following accounts where they are also showing 0:12:50.960 --> 0:12:55.040 you their challenges, showing you the not so glamorous life. 0:12:55.360 --> 0:12:58.679 And so basically I will literally unfollow or just not 0:12:58.800 --> 0:13:03.679 associate myself with anyone else who just doesn't show that 0:13:03.720 --> 0:13:06.640 sort of thing, because I did find at one stage 0:13:06.679 --> 0:13:08.800 that was really something that. 0:13:08.679 --> 0:13:10.079 Would get to me personally. 0:13:10.440 --> 0:13:14.240 So that's another thing is you also would realize a 0:13:14.280 --> 0:13:16.920 lot that you tell people, a lot that you put 0:13:16.960 --> 0:13:19.680 on social media, we all do it. We show a 0:13:19.760 --> 0:13:23.120 highlight reel, we show the good stuff. Basically, no matter 0:13:23.320 --> 0:13:27.840 how perfect someone else seems, we all know real life 0:13:28.080 --> 0:13:29.000 is messy. 0:13:28.920 --> 0:13:31.240 Raw, and it's flawed. We all know this. 0:13:31.800 --> 0:13:34.840 So I personally like I said, don't even follow people 0:13:34.880 --> 0:13:38.120 accounts that don't you anything like that. But it's just 0:13:38.160 --> 0:13:42.320 common knowledge that people are not perfect. You've just got 0:13:42.320 --> 0:13:44.760 to realize that. And that's actually another thing this week 0:13:44.960 --> 0:13:47.720 being with these amazing people throughout the week. Like I said, 0:13:47.920 --> 0:13:50.960 I've been here since Monday, and I got to know 0:13:51.200 --> 0:13:53.680 more of their life more in depth, and they have 0:13:53.840 --> 0:13:58.679 been through challenges. There's definitely non glamorous things about their lives. 0:13:59.080 --> 0:14:02.319 And so when we see people initially and we first 0:14:02.320 --> 0:14:04.920 talked to them, or we first see them on Instagram 0:14:05.040 --> 0:14:07.360 or social media, you need to take that with a 0:14:07.400 --> 0:14:10.880 grain of salt and make sure you are refreshing your 0:14:10.960 --> 0:14:12.760 mind and telling yourself. 0:14:12.800 --> 0:14:14.120 No one has the perfect life. 0:14:14.160 --> 0:14:18.000 There's always going to be messiness behind closed doors, and 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:23.240 that's okay, and we all know that. So basically realizing 0:14:23.400 --> 0:14:27.520 that what you may be comparing yourself to, they will 0:14:27.520 --> 0:14:30.480 have their own challenges and they will have their own issues, 0:14:30.640 --> 0:14:34.240 so it's okay, there's not even any point of comparing 0:14:34.280 --> 0:14:37.240 yourself to that person because they have challenges, they have 0:14:37.400 --> 0:14:40.840 issues too. Okay, this is the last little tool I'm 0:14:40.880 --> 0:14:43.680 going to give you guys, and this is probably my favorite, 0:14:44.080 --> 0:14:46.560 So I probably listened to it on a podcast or 0:14:46.600 --> 0:14:49.480 I've read it somewhere, and it said, when you have 0:14:49.680 --> 0:14:53.600 a feeling, you only actually feel it for ninety seconds 0:14:53.640 --> 0:14:54.760 and then it passes. 0:14:55.400 --> 0:14:58.040 And I just remember being like mind blown by that. 0:14:58.560 --> 0:15:01.200 But then since I've been aware of it, I could 0:15:01.200 --> 0:15:04.560 not agree more So something that I like to do 0:15:04.680 --> 0:15:07.840 and something that I definitely did this week when I 0:15:07.960 --> 0:15:10.800 brought up these feelings, like I said, like push them down, 0:15:10.920 --> 0:15:12.600 and then I brought them up again in my room. 0:15:12.920 --> 0:15:18.640 And I really love the practice of affirmations. So affirmations 0:15:18.680 --> 0:15:22.120 are basically just like sentences and words you say, I 0:15:22.160 --> 0:15:26.360 personally say them out loud and you just repeat and 0:15:26.640 --> 0:15:29.200 you probably don't believe them at the start, but you 0:15:29.240 --> 0:15:32.840 honestly just repeat them enough until you almost believe them. 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:36.600 And basically, an affirmation is just like the action or 0:15:36.640 --> 0:15:42.080 the process of affirming something. So you are affirming something 0:15:42.360 --> 0:15:46.000 to yourself. So basically what I do and will call 0:15:46.080 --> 0:15:49.040 this tool like basically you are loving and you're accepting 0:15:49.080 --> 0:15:52.960 yourself as you are right now. And if you think 0:15:53.000 --> 0:15:55.760 about it, this little voice in your head that tells 0:15:55.800 --> 0:15:59.080 you that you're not good enough to this person or 0:15:59.240 --> 0:16:02.600 anything like that, it's a natural instinct, and it's basically 0:16:02.680 --> 0:16:07.680 yourself identifying areas where you think you may be falling behind, 0:16:08.120 --> 0:16:12.800 and it can be really cruel to yourself. So basically 0:16:12.880 --> 0:16:17.000 what I do is I just accept myself for who 0:16:17.080 --> 0:16:21.520 I am, and I do this amazing practice of affirmations. 0:16:22.280 --> 0:16:24.200 Something that I did at the start of the week 0:16:24.360 --> 0:16:26.440 is when I got back to my room. This is 0:16:26.480 --> 0:16:29.120 actually an affirmation that I say all the time, and 0:16:29.160 --> 0:16:29.720 I'm just in. 0:16:29.640 --> 0:16:30.120 Love with it. 0:16:30.400 --> 0:16:33.000 I think you need to find affirmations and words that 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:36.360 really speak to you and you feel a motive when 0:16:36.600 --> 0:16:39.960 you say them or hear them, Otherwise it's not really 0:16:40.000 --> 0:16:43.640 going to work personally. This sentence really speaks to me, 0:16:43.840 --> 0:16:46.400 and so I've always used it, and so I use 0:16:46.440 --> 0:16:50.320 the affirmation no one is me and that is my power. 0:16:50.680 --> 0:16:53.200 So I will sit there, I make sure it's silent, 0:16:53.440 --> 0:16:56.400 I turn my phone on airplane mode, and I sit 0:16:56.440 --> 0:16:59.080 there kind of like I'm meditating, and I will say 0:16:59.080 --> 0:17:02.440 to myself, no one is me and that is my power. 0:17:03.040 --> 0:17:05.679 And I will say it for around two minutes. I 0:17:05.720 --> 0:17:09.360 go off that ninety second and it's basically until I 0:17:09.520 --> 0:17:13.800 feel the feeling of comparing myself and jealousy and not 0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:16.440 feeling good enough to pass through me. And then I 0:17:16.520 --> 0:17:18.359 stop saying it. So I'll sit there and I'll say, 0:17:18.800 --> 0:17:22.359 no one is me and that is my power. No 0:17:22.359 --> 0:17:26.000 one is me and that is my power. No one 0:17:26.080 --> 0:17:30.159 is me and that is my power. And honestly, guys, 0:17:30.760 --> 0:17:33.800 after I feel that sort of feeling go through me, 0:17:34.240 --> 0:17:38.200 it's like this sense of relief and I always feel 0:17:38.240 --> 0:17:41.080 so much better. And I just love that saying, like 0:17:41.520 --> 0:17:47.160 it is so true accepting yourself and realizing that your 0:17:47.280 --> 0:17:52.199 imperfections and what you are makes up you and that 0:17:52.320 --> 0:17:55.520 is your superpower. Like that is your power. And so 0:17:56.200 --> 0:17:59.680 even though I'm looking at what I am not and 0:17:59.760 --> 0:18:03.040 what I wish, maybe I could be taking it back 0:18:03.240 --> 0:18:06.040 and really talking to myself and being like, I am 0:18:06.160 --> 0:18:12.200 so special. Everyone is so different and how amazing is that? Like, honestly, 0:18:12.280 --> 0:18:14.800 imagine how boring life would be if we were all 0:18:14.880 --> 0:18:18.719 the same. No one is you and that is your power. 0:18:19.160 --> 0:18:21.600 That is what makes you you. That is what makes 0:18:21.760 --> 0:18:25.600 you special, and you need to embrace it. And honestly, 0:18:25.640 --> 0:18:29.200 it's taking me years to embrace it, but I finally 0:18:29.240 --> 0:18:30.359 am and it feels good. 0:18:30.400 --> 0:18:31.280 And when I. 0:18:31.280 --> 0:18:34.320 Say that affirmation to myself. Like I said, it just 0:18:34.520 --> 0:18:38.040 honestly transforms the way I'm feeling and it just makes 0:18:38.040 --> 0:18:39.959 me feel so much better. And it's like I just 0:18:40.280 --> 0:18:42.240 I need to say it, and then I'm like, oh, okay, 0:18:42.400 --> 0:18:45.399 I'm all good now. And then basically I use some 0:18:45.440 --> 0:18:47.760 of those tools. Honestly, it was mostly the last one. 0:18:47.920 --> 0:18:49.960 I did want to include the other two tools just 0:18:50.000 --> 0:18:54.160 because I use them also, But after that I felt 0:18:54.280 --> 0:18:57.080 such a sense of relief. And then I noticed the 0:18:57.160 --> 0:19:00.640 whole entire week, I met way more athlete and new 0:19:00.680 --> 0:19:05.119 people and I did not compare myself once. That's just 0:19:05.160 --> 0:19:08.040 to me, I'm like wow, because that's how I usually 0:19:08.040 --> 0:19:11.600 feel like. I usually feel like confident, and basically I've 0:19:11.640 --> 0:19:14.679 done the sort of self work where I have just 0:19:14.800 --> 0:19:16.840 loved and accepted myself and I. 0:19:16.840 --> 0:19:17.879 Love being in that place. 0:19:18.160 --> 0:19:20.679 And so it really upset me and I was annoyed 0:19:20.720 --> 0:19:24.600 at myself when I felt those feelings of I wouldn't 0:19:24.640 --> 0:19:28.760 say jealousy, but I just definitely was comparing myself and 0:19:28.840 --> 0:19:30.320 I was feeling less. 0:19:30.160 --> 0:19:30.800 Because of it. 0:19:31.000 --> 0:19:34.040 And it did make me realize that confidence and self 0:19:34.040 --> 0:19:37.840 acceptance and self love is definitely a muscle. As I say, like, 0:19:37.880 --> 0:19:41.080 it's something that you constantly have to be working on. 0:19:41.280 --> 0:19:43.919 It's not an end destination, and I think it's just 0:19:44.040 --> 0:19:48.400 really good to realize that. And I think it definitely 0:19:48.480 --> 0:19:52.000 does get easier. Like I said, I don't usually feel 0:19:52.000 --> 0:19:54.639 that way, but I don't think it ever just completely 0:19:54.680 --> 0:19:58.040 goes away. These feelings will creep back in every now 0:19:58.080 --> 0:20:01.399 and again in situations. This is why you have these 0:20:01.520 --> 0:20:04.240 tools that I've just spoke about, and make sure you 0:20:05.160 --> 0:20:08.639 sort of seeing like it really depends what sort of 0:20:08.760 --> 0:20:12.840 makes you feel a certain emotion, So try them out, 0:20:13.040 --> 0:20:15.960 have a little play. What works for me won't necessarily 0:20:16.040 --> 0:20:18.840 work for you, but you will sort of realize as 0:20:18.960 --> 0:20:21.919 you are more aware of them and you have a 0:20:21.960 --> 0:20:24.679 feel for them and all that sort of stuff. So 0:20:25.040 --> 0:20:27.639 I think it definitely gets easier, but it definitely doesn't 0:20:27.680 --> 0:20:31.800 go away. So make sure you are utilizing these sorts 0:20:31.880 --> 0:20:35.400 of tools. And I think another thing is I think 0:20:35.400 --> 0:20:38.840 it's great to be okay with these feelings. Like I said, 0:20:38.960 --> 0:20:41.000 I was almost like a bit annoyed at myself for 0:20:41.080 --> 0:20:43.600 feeling like this, but then I was like, you've got 0:20:43.600 --> 0:20:47.080 to practice self compassion and be like, oh, it's okay. 0:20:47.400 --> 0:20:48.920 I know you've done the work and I know you 0:20:49.000 --> 0:20:52.400 think you're really confident and you love yourself and you've 0:20:52.400 --> 0:20:54.240 practiced self love and all that sort of thing. And 0:20:54.240 --> 0:20:57.720 it doesn't mean I'm going backwards. It means I'm only human. 0:20:58.119 --> 0:21:00.639 It means I'm only human for feeling these feelings and 0:21:00.680 --> 0:21:04.280 it's okay. So I am gonna wrap this up. This 0:21:04.440 --> 0:21:07.960 was just like a short and sweet episode. I love 0:21:08.280 --> 0:21:11.760 talking to you guys about stuff that I'm currently experiencing. 0:21:12.119 --> 0:21:14.960 I just feel like it just feels better for me, 0:21:15.520 --> 0:21:18.359 and I feel like this is definitely something that you 0:21:18.400 --> 0:21:21.120 guys could probably resonate with, and I felt it could 0:21:21.160 --> 0:21:25.040 help you because, like I said previously, I've definitely dealt 0:21:25.119 --> 0:21:29.359 with a lot of feelings of feeling less and just 0:21:29.400 --> 0:21:34.080 constantly comparing myself and it's a really crappy feeling. So 0:21:34.240 --> 0:21:36.359 I hope if you ever feel like this, or if 0:21:36.359 --> 0:21:39.480 you're currently feeling like this, make sure you are using 0:21:39.520 --> 0:21:43.159 these tools, seeing what works for you, and just putting 0:21:43.160 --> 0:21:46.760 an even into your daily practice and seeing how you go. 0:21:47.000 --> 0:21:50.879 I personally like to say affirmations every single day, not 0:21:51.040 --> 0:21:52.119 necessarily when. 0:21:52.000 --> 0:21:54.080 I'm just feeling that emotion. 0:21:54.520 --> 0:21:56.520 I like to say them every single day, even when 0:21:56.560 --> 0:21:59.720 I'm feeling like really good, and I don't necessarily need them, 0:22:00.080 --> 0:22:05.560 because I think it's really great your affirmations with affirming things. 0:22:05.960 --> 0:22:08.119 So I think it's really great to use them, not 0:22:08.320 --> 0:22:11.800 just necessarily when you need them or in negative or 0:22:11.840 --> 0:22:15.280 bad times, but just to be constantly using them even 0:22:15.320 --> 0:22:17.800 in the positive times, and I feel like it just 0:22:17.800 --> 0:22:21.280