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Speaker 1: Hi, and welcome to the Rise and Conquer Podcast. I'm

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Speaker 1: your host, Georgie Stevenson. I am a lawyer, tend health coach,

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Speaker 1: social media influencer, wife and dogmam. On the Rise and

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Speaker 1: Conquer Podcast, we dive deep into all things mindset, habits, career, health,

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Speaker 1: relationships and more. This is a podcast for women who

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Speaker 1: want to rise up to be the best version of themselves,

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Speaker 1: who have big dreams in who are willing to put

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Speaker 1: in the work to get there. I want to bring

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Speaker 1: you the tools and actionable steps to feel confident in yourself,

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Speaker 1: inspired to take bold action, and motivated to conquer your goals.

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Speaker 1: Are you with me, your friends, Let's rise and conquer.

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Speaker 2: Hi, guys, welcome back to the Rise and Conquer Podcast.

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Speaker 2: It is your host, Georgie Stevenson. So today we are

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Speaker 2: getting into the whole self comparison and I want to

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Speaker 2: talk to you guys just some tools that I use

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Speaker 2: personally to stop comparing myself to others and to flex

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Speaker 2: that self love muscle that I know we all have.

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Speaker 2: And the reason why this has come up and I

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Speaker 2: wanted to talk to you guys about this is I

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Speaker 2: at the start of the week have experienced some mad

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Speaker 2: feelings of comparing myself to others, which made me feel

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Speaker 2: really uncomfortable because I thought this was something I already

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Speaker 2: dealt with, and obviously, not comparing your others and self

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Speaker 2: love and self acceptance is not a final destination. It

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Speaker 2: is something that we have to constantly work on. So

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Speaker 2: let's back it up a little bit. I am currently

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Speaker 2: in Sydney, which is in our flight from my hometown Brisbane.

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Speaker 2: I'm down here on a business slash work trip. I'm

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Speaker 2: here with a brand called jym Shark, which I collaborate with.

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Speaker 2: I suppose you would call me an ambassador or athlete

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Speaker 2: or that sort of thing, and they're an amazing brand.

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Speaker 3: They are an online.

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Speaker 2: Active way company if you don't know who they are,

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Speaker 2: and they put on these pop up stores where you

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Speaker 2: can come and you can shop, and they also fly

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Speaker 2: in certain athletes that they have under the brand and

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Speaker 2: people get a chance to meet them. So I'm doing

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Speaker 2: that this weekend. It is currently Friday, and I've actually

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Speaker 2: been in Sydney all week because it's pretty cool. They

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Speaker 2: But and this is me just being totally real and

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Speaker 2: raw and honest with you guys. So I'll paint a

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Speaker 2: The first day was a photo shoot day, and this

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Speaker 2: this other girl. Her name's Morgan, shout out to Morgan,

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Speaker 2: and she is an amazing handstander and gymnastic girl. She

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