WEBVTT - Would You Rather Be Intimidating or Intimidated ❓ 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:05.120 The Flex and Rooms Daily podcast, brought to you by Listen. 0:00:05.160 --> 0:00:05.320 Here. 0:00:05.400 --> 0:00:07.800 Flex is currently taking view of me playing with my 0:00:07.880 --> 0:00:08.920 crop with my socks on. 0:00:09.119 --> 0:00:12.760 I'm a documentarian. That's it is. Simply, it is what 0:00:12.800 --> 0:00:13.200 it is. 0:00:13.480 --> 0:00:16.400 One would think, because I am an influencer, it's me 0:00:16.680 --> 0:00:19.200 that I want to document always. No, I want to 0:00:19.200 --> 0:00:22.400 document my surroundings at all time because I know the 0:00:22.440 --> 0:00:25.520 feeling of watching someone's story from an environment or space 0:00:25.560 --> 0:00:27.720 you were in and being like you really captured it 0:00:27.760 --> 0:00:30.440 all and for a fact, for me leaves cater and 0:00:30.600 --> 0:00:33.000 looks back on my stories as wow, that. 0:00:33.000 --> 0:00:34.640 Was such a fun day. 0:00:35.200 --> 0:00:37.280 I do a bit of that too, as much as you. 0:00:38.680 --> 0:00:40.040 But you do have a great eye. 0:00:40.120 --> 0:00:40.839 Thank you so much. 0:00:40.920 --> 0:00:42.800 And I really love spending time with you. 0:00:42.800 --> 0:00:43.520 You're obsessed. 0:00:43.800 --> 0:00:46.920 I love spending time with you too, doll. I responded, 0:00:47.000 --> 0:00:51.320 like you would respond, isn't it true? We roll averse? 0:00:51.600 --> 0:00:53.559 Yeah? Nice do Yeah? Love it? Love it. 0:00:53.840 --> 0:00:55.440 Listen. We're going to talk about whether or not you'd 0:00:55.440 --> 0:00:58.600 want to be intimidate ted or intimidate ting. I think 0:00:58.960 --> 0:01:01.639 I would say that from the outset of Sorry, from 0:01:01.680 --> 0:01:07.240 the outside you're an intimidate tour. Yeah, And I'm not intimidating, 0:01:07.720 --> 0:01:10.960 But I'm not intimidated either. Perhaps I've been intimidated by 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:11.520 you in the past. 0:01:11.520 --> 0:01:14.800 Some would say, yeah, I'm an intimidate tour, but you're 0:01:14.840 --> 0:01:19.840 an intimidate tour aggressor you're an animal into it. Yes, 0:01:20.319 --> 0:01:25.119 these are true things. But look, I feel like one 0:01:25.160 --> 0:01:27.520 thing we all need to work on is the stories 0:01:27.520 --> 0:01:30.720 we tell ourselves about stuff. I hang out with a 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:34.080 lot of people who see the world very differently to me, 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:37.640 and it can be quite illuminating how you can be 0:01:37.800 --> 0:01:41.280 in the same environment and be having a very different experience, 0:01:41.560 --> 0:01:44.279 and nobody is willing to not meet in the middle 0:01:44.319 --> 0:01:47.120 but really validate the other person's experience. So like I 0:01:47.360 --> 0:01:51.880 called mental illness literally, So like I will go on 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:54.320 to say, I'm having a conversation with someone who was 0:01:54.360 --> 0:01:58.000 just adamant that everybody in the room was intimidating because 0:01:58.000 --> 0:02:01.400 of certain characteristics that they were also just playing. I said, baby, 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:05.720 the call is coming from where it always is. 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:09.680 It's big pot call and kettle black energy. Let's get into. 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:11.720 Sweat, flex and frooms. 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:14.920 We're back here on our BS. If anyone doesn't know 0:02:14.919 --> 0:02:17.480 what that is, use your imagination. If I said BS, 0:02:17.480 --> 0:02:24.680 what would you think beasting big sack? Thank you big 0:02:25.360 --> 0:02:26.079 sexy vibes. 0:02:26.280 --> 0:02:31.040 Okay, enough enough. 0:02:30.680 --> 0:02:32.320 I'm in the mood today where I can't decide if 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:36.520 I'm annoying myself or loving myself. You sent me a 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:38.600 message the other day which was a DM that you 0:02:38.639 --> 0:02:43.079 got sent. I don't recall this, but about me all right? 0:02:43.200 --> 0:02:44.880 It was like a week hereo. It's from a woman 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:48.799 called Keeley. She goes hallo flex. Can I please please 0:02:48.880 --> 0:02:51.800 ask a massive favor from you? People are really getting 0:02:51.800 --> 0:02:52.959 around the politess these days. 0:02:53.000 --> 0:02:53.799 Yea, and I love it. 0:02:53.600 --> 0:02:57.400 It's fantastic. Can you please share with rooms that I 0:02:57.440 --> 0:03:00.760 had an extremely similar experience the first I got lit? 0:03:01.200 --> 0:03:03.880 Oh, yep, yep. I do recall scanning this one before 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:04.480 I passed it on. 0:03:04.639 --> 0:03:05.880 So my apology. 0:03:05.520 --> 0:03:09.440 Reference to a time when I was really young and 0:03:09.480 --> 0:03:11.280 I was at a party and I got a little 0:03:11.280 --> 0:03:14.119 bit too close near it and ended up having a 0:03:13.520 --> 0:03:16.959 little tiny mentee bee ran away from the party, sat 0:03:16.960 --> 0:03:20.680 in the forest, calling my parents, crying, feeling like I 0:03:20.720 --> 0:03:22.959 wanted to watch the Simpsons, or like the Simpsons was 0:03:23.040 --> 0:03:23.799 running around my head. 0:03:23.919 --> 0:03:26.280 Yes, you had two thoughts. One was I'm in grave 0:03:26.400 --> 0:03:28.119 danger and I love the Simpsons. 0:03:30.080 --> 0:03:32.079 All right, can you please pass this on with Thrones. 0:03:32.480 --> 0:03:34.280 It was twenty thirteen and I was on my gap 0:03:34.360 --> 0:03:38.240 year in Ibitha at Navichi show very You, That's big 0:03:38.960 --> 0:03:41.160 and that show. People cryed those shows. I can be 0:03:41.240 --> 0:03:43.640 the one to make you feel that way. These two 0:03:43.720 --> 0:03:46.640 men were having trouble untying their shoelaces from one another 0:03:46.840 --> 0:03:49.040 and said they'd buy me a drink if I could 0:03:49.080 --> 0:03:50.000 help untie it. 0:03:50.280 --> 0:03:51.160 Oh. 0:03:51.240 --> 0:03:56.760 I did, and I had another drink and I freaked out. 0:03:57.800 --> 0:04:01.440 I went nonverbal and only responded laughed. When my friends 0:04:01.440 --> 0:04:05.520 would say Simpsons clothes, I've got to say, I think 0:04:05.520 --> 0:04:08.360 it's got something to do with a familiarity. I don't 0:04:08.400 --> 0:04:11.160 really know what's going on up there. Thank you in advance. 0:04:11.560 --> 0:04:14.360 So the hypothesis here, okay, is that when you lose 0:04:14.360 --> 0:04:18.599 your marbles and you're looking for some familiarity in your life, 0:04:19.279 --> 0:04:21.480 the Simpsons is a natural state of order. 0:04:21.960 --> 0:04:24.599 Yeah, for Simpsons people, but for everybody else who isn't 0:04:24.600 --> 0:04:28.160 a Simpsons person, what is the equivalent? You wouldn't know 0:04:28.520 --> 0:04:31.640 because you're a Simpsons person. This is my point exactly. 0:04:31.839 --> 0:04:36.679 Simpsons people only know two things, outdated references and old shows. 0:04:37.160 --> 0:04:37.560 That's it. 0:04:38.080 --> 0:04:40.160 The Simpsons is still running. I haven't watched it in 0:04:40.200 --> 0:04:40.960 about twenty years. 0:04:40.960 --> 0:04:43.520 To be fair, did you tell everyone that you're a 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:46.120 fake Shrek fan or was that just inter me and confidence? 0:04:46.279 --> 0:04:47.400 Yes, everyone knows. 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:48.720 Should I say it again? 0:04:48.880 --> 0:04:49.120 Yeah? 0:04:49.200 --> 0:04:51.800 Okay, So I feel like what should be a closer, 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:55.200 a closer core of your identity is in fact that 0:04:55.200 --> 0:04:57.880 you're a Simpsons person, not a Shrek person, because the 0:04:57.920 --> 0:05:01.479 Shrek thing is just a cute little reference. You've barely 0:05:01.520 --> 0:05:03.920 watched the whole Shrek movie before, but everyone's like, is 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:08.880 the Shrek girl, she's the Simpsons girl. People update your references. 0:05:08.400 --> 0:05:13.839 People are Simpsons people is too common. I will powers person, 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:18.280 but I like Shrek has some mystique around him. Still 0:05:18.320 --> 0:05:20.960 MI like Myers, but a real level of mistake and 0:05:21.000 --> 0:05:22.239 a fantastic voice. 0:05:22.600 --> 0:05:24.719 Yeah. But if when something is like a mainstream meme, 0:05:24.800 --> 0:05:26.120 can it have any mystique? 0:05:26.640 --> 0:05:28.599 It still does for some reason, It's been going around 0:05:28.680 --> 0:05:31.120 probably for ten years, Shrek memes. 0:05:31.600 --> 0:05:33.880 I want to understand because now people think I'm a 0:05:33.880 --> 0:05:37.120 Shrek person. I'm like, babes, that's not even me. I've 0:05:37.120 --> 0:05:41.120 not even seen it before. That's an issue with proximity yeah, 0:05:41.279 --> 0:05:43.720 that's number one. But the proximity to you. Now people 0:05:43.720 --> 0:05:47.920 are trying to emerge the brands they love Shrek. No, no, no, no, 0:05:48.040 --> 0:05:48.920 that was not what said. 0:05:49.480 --> 0:05:49.840 Anyway. 0:05:49.960 --> 0:05:52.800 Let's stop with that though. So Simpsons people, you don't 0:05:52.839 --> 0:05:56.039 need to identify yourselves. I already know. I'm talking about 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:59.560 non Simpsons people. Not to be confused with friends people. 0:05:59.600 --> 0:06:01.919 I'm not calling for you. Sign for people. I'm not 0:06:01.960 --> 0:06:02.480 calling for. 0:06:02.440 --> 0:06:03.560 You, oh sign feels it. 0:06:04.279 --> 0:06:07.800 No, the Futurama people, the South Park people, I'm not 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:09.000 calling for you. 0:06:09.320 --> 0:06:12.039 You were a future Ama girl, No way, really you 0:06:12.080 --> 0:06:13.760 give big future alma vibe? Do I really? 0:06:14.040 --> 0:06:15.960 Actually, the thing is, I'm trying to find the people 0:06:15.960 --> 0:06:20.120 who weren't influenced by children's show Where are You? It's 0:06:20.120 --> 0:06:22.240 because you came off of Spaceship. Literally, I was a 0:06:22.279 --> 0:06:26.040 stalk and then a preteen. Stop flirting with me. 0:06:26.279 --> 0:06:27.560 Flex and frooms. 0:06:27.680 --> 0:06:31.440 A couple of weeks ago, I made an Instagram story 0:06:31.560 --> 0:06:34.800 selfie mode video to camera. Now I don't usually do 0:06:34.839 --> 0:06:37.800 that these days because I'm out of my ear of 0:06:37.800 --> 0:06:41.080 oversharing on the internet, and now when I have thoughts, 0:06:41.120 --> 0:06:42.919 I just put them in the group chat, you know, Ah, 0:06:42.960 --> 0:06:44.520 I share them with you, but I was like, this 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:47.240 one is getting on my last nerves because now that 0:06:47.279 --> 0:06:49.320 I'm out and about, you know, I'm making sure my 0:06:49.400 --> 0:06:51.240 name's on the guest list. These days, I'm popping and 0:06:51.240 --> 0:06:54.479 getting the photo leaving. I keep having a variation of 0:06:54.480 --> 0:06:56.359 the same conversation. 0:06:56.480 --> 0:06:58.400 Hey do you remember me? 0:06:59.080 --> 0:07:01.440 You might not remember me, but we've met, which I 0:07:01.480 --> 0:07:05.640 can't think of anything more humiliating than putting yourself in 0:07:05.640 --> 0:07:08.560 a position to be the forgotten person, because you're not 0:07:08.560 --> 0:07:10.800 gonna believe me if I say I do remember you, right, 0:07:10.840 --> 0:07:12.920 because you're like, oh no, like she's probably lying or whatever, 0:07:13.520 --> 0:07:17.119 or I now have to overcompensate or overvalue the effect 0:07:17.160 --> 0:07:18.600 you had on my life, being like no, of course 0:07:18.640 --> 0:07:21.160 I remember you. Now you feel all important for no reason, 0:07:21.320 --> 0:07:23.960 you know what I'm saying. So that's been grinding my gears. 0:07:24.400 --> 0:07:27.280 Let's park that, you know, because I've already expressed that. 0:07:27.680 --> 0:07:30.560 The second thing is I keep seeing this floating around 0:07:30.560 --> 0:07:35.840 the bloody internet, right justifying why you know, like this 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:38.880 phrase like you're so intimidating and that's why you don't 0:07:38.880 --> 0:07:41.160 get the things you want, or that's why this person 0:07:41.200 --> 0:07:43.480 didn't do this, or so you're just so intimidating and 0:07:43.480 --> 0:07:45.520 like la la la la lad. And my thing is 0:07:45.760 --> 0:07:50.280 it's not a compliment to be called intimidating. However, if 0:07:50.280 --> 0:07:52.840 someone were to ask you, would you rather be called 0:07:52.840 --> 0:07:55.520 intimidating or be the intimidated person? 0:07:55.680 --> 0:07:56.480 Which would you prefer? 0:07:57.240 --> 0:07:58.200 Which would you prefer? 0:07:58.280 --> 0:07:59.560 Intimidating? All day? 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:02.880 I don't want to be the intimidated person. Ill people 0:08:02.880 --> 0:08:05.480 are so lame, like we're all equal parts of disgusting, 0:08:05.560 --> 0:08:06.360 rabid creatures. 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:08.120 Why would I be intimidated? 0:08:09.320 --> 0:08:12.280 I guess. So there's just I think being intimidating is ugly. 0:08:13.000 --> 0:08:17.600 Yeah, but then being intimidated is like where is your backbone? 0:08:18.320 --> 0:08:19.160 True? True? 0:08:19.320 --> 0:08:22.640 Like stop pedestalizing people. It's really like naive and childish. 0:08:22.760 --> 0:08:24.760 Yeah, they're both negative, I guess, but you got to 0:08:24.840 --> 0:08:26.640 choose one. Choose by listen. 0:08:26.680 --> 0:08:28.840 I think you made your choice. I think you made 0:08:28.840 --> 0:08:30.880 your choice. Just say the words down the barrels. 0:08:32.480 --> 0:08:36.960 One of my most biggest social pet peeves are people 0:08:36.960 --> 0:08:40.120 who choose to be intimidating. I'll tell you a story. 0:08:40.200 --> 0:08:42.480 When I was in year seven, came to a new school. 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:44.400 I reckon, I've told you know. I'm at the point 0:08:44.400 --> 0:08:46.240 in my career where I've told the same story at 0:08:46.320 --> 0:08:46.800 least twice. 0:08:46.920 --> 0:08:47.760 Oh no, you're aging. 0:08:48.200 --> 0:08:50.040 Oh yeah, but this is why we're getting near it 0:08:50.080 --> 0:08:50.920 to get more stories. 0:08:51.000 --> 0:08:53.560 Oh yeah, this is what I'm saying. We need to 0:08:53.600 --> 0:08:55.199 update the back catalog. 0:08:54.840 --> 0:08:55.760 So I'm draining it out. 0:08:55.880 --> 0:08:58.240 Yeah yeah, more room Okay, cool coo cool, more room. 0:08:58.160 --> 0:09:00.839 For jelly beans in the lolliger. Now, when I was 0:09:00.880 --> 0:09:02.800 in yey seven, I moved to a new school and 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:07.240 I was intimidating. Fancy school. You were intimidating, No, I 0:09:07.320 --> 0:09:09.880 was intimidated part of me. It was a premium school 0:09:09.920 --> 0:09:14.240 experience that I was not used to go in. Everyone 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:16.600 seems really smart. We started with an entrance exam to 0:09:16.600 --> 0:09:18.800 get into the school. Now, it wasn't to get into 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:20.439 the school. It was to determine whether or not you 0:09:20.480 --> 0:09:22.680 would get a scholarship to the show to the school. 0:09:22.840 --> 0:09:26.520 It was kind of like a Napland style situation. Of course, 0:09:26.520 --> 0:09:29.040 I didn't get a scholarship. I'm not that good at 0:09:29.040 --> 0:09:32.960 maths and that's a core tenant of getting into this school. Anyway, 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:34.839 finished the test, I was feeling a bit shit, like 0:09:34.920 --> 0:09:37.560 had really bad anxiety. And then I was walking back 0:09:37.600 --> 0:09:39.760 to meet my mum in the car. And when I 0:09:39.800 --> 0:09:41.880 was that age, I was very smiley, probably a little 0:09:41.920 --> 0:09:44.280 bit too much, like I'd run around people say why 0:09:44.360 --> 0:09:46.000 walk with the little spring in my step? 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:46.800 That's sweet? 0:09:47.000 --> 0:09:52.679 Like this such a freak. And there was this girl 0:09:52.720 --> 0:09:54.680 that was really pretty and she was wearing red glasses 0:09:54.679 --> 0:09:56.760 and she was with her best friend. I'd like already 0:09:56.760 --> 0:09:59.240 sparred them out. They're in their car going home, and 0:09:59.320 --> 0:10:01.080 I looked at them, I smiled and I waved, and 0:10:01.080 --> 0:10:05.560 they both gave me greases. And it hit different, of course, 0:10:05.960 --> 0:10:09.000 given I am a people pleaser and an upwardly mobile 0:10:09.120 --> 0:10:12.720 social type of person cloud chaser. Well, it is what 0:10:12.760 --> 0:10:15.880 it is, a friend of them in your night via 0:10:16.000 --> 0:10:21.120 getting my hair dyed blonde, getting finally in the popular group, 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:24.839 and who became good and I probably became I was 0:10:24.960 --> 0:10:28.520 part of the more intimidating group, probably. 0:10:28.240 --> 0:10:33.839 And you made that transition consciously. I want what I want. 0:10:33.600 --> 0:10:35.280 I get what I want by changing. 0:10:37.080 --> 0:10:40.440 Every fiber of my being and then having crisis later 0:10:40.520 --> 0:10:43.520 down in life. No, so what I will say, I've 0:10:43.559 --> 0:10:48.319 been on the receiving end of people who are purposely intimidating. 0:10:49.120 --> 0:10:51.040 But the older I get and I guess when I'm 0:10:51.040 --> 0:10:54.920 like living in symphony with my values. 0:10:55.400 --> 0:10:56.600 I love that phrasing. 0:10:56.920 --> 0:10:59.760 I think those people are lame. Yeah, and I don't 0:10:59.760 --> 0:11:01.959 get it. I get intimidated by them in the moment, 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:03.320 But then at the end of the day, I think, 0:11:03.480 --> 0:11:05.560 I'm so glad I'm not like you. I'm so glad 0:11:05.600 --> 0:11:08.360 I'm friends with people that are so welcoming, like my 0:11:08.440 --> 0:11:12.719 two best friends Madison and Eliza are like, you'll meet 0:11:12.760 --> 0:11:15.400 them and they just include you and are so interested 0:11:15.440 --> 0:11:18.640 in you, and they remember everything. So I would still 0:11:18.679 --> 0:11:23.000 choose to be intimidated because I would never consciously want 0:11:23.000 --> 0:11:25.240 to make someone feel uncomfortable. That is at the core tender. 0:11:25.440 --> 0:11:28.679 This is what I'm getting to the people who say 0:11:28.800 --> 0:11:33.280 they're intimidated. You're creating an air of discomfort totally. 0:11:33.320 --> 0:11:35.640 And I think you make a good point about the pedestalness. Yeah, 0:11:35.679 --> 0:11:39.240 but I'm thinking with my values, yes, I would prefer 0:11:39.360 --> 0:11:43.559 to pedal stool someone and make everyone feel comfortable then 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:48.160 in invernal. But yeah, sometimes you must invernently make people 0:11:48.160 --> 0:11:49.520 feel intimidated. 0:11:49.040 --> 0:11:52.520 Either way, which feels like you know when someone tells you, 0:11:52.640 --> 0:11:55.080 or like I've been having this thought about honesty a 0:11:55.120 --> 0:11:56.480 lot because I used to be an honesty is the 0:11:56.480 --> 0:11:58.560 best policy type bitch, until I realize that everyone is 0:11:58.600 --> 0:12:01.439 really emotionally fragile and they can't handle it. And I 0:12:01.480 --> 0:12:03.599 don't want to be that person who's just like traumatizing 0:12:03.600 --> 0:12:06.600 people because I was told that honestly is the best policy. 0:12:06.760 --> 0:12:09.440 Turns out you bitch as are liars. So now I 0:12:09.559 --> 0:12:11.719 just keep my mouth shut, not trying to say too much. 0:12:11.720 --> 0:12:14.560 I'm trying to do too much, not trying to be 0:12:14.720 --> 0:12:17.720 necessarily open to make other people feel feel really comfortable. 0:12:17.720 --> 0:12:19.600 I don't want to do any of that stuff. But 0:12:19.640 --> 0:12:21.160 what I'm fine is I have so much time to 0:12:21.200 --> 0:12:23.960 observe the way people interact with each other, right, and 0:12:24.000 --> 0:12:26.600 so everybody. I was at a party recently and I 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:28.040 was talking to this girl who was like, oh my god, 0:12:28.080 --> 0:12:28.480 thank you so. 0:12:28.480 --> 0:12:29.240 Much for talking to me. 0:12:29.240 --> 0:12:31.520 Like everyone here is like so intimidating, And I was like, 0:12:31.600 --> 0:12:33.199 what is it about when they're finding intimidating? 0:12:33.200 --> 0:12:34.319 And she was like, oh, you know. 0:12:34.400 --> 0:12:36.840 Like I've walked in and like nobody's really said anything 0:12:36.880 --> 0:12:38.240 to me. And I was like, have you said anything 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:40.480 to them? Like what kind of self concept do you 0:12:40.520 --> 0:12:42.160 have that you assume when you walk into a room 0:12:42.240 --> 0:12:45.360 people need to now make themselves available to you. I'm like, 0:12:45.400 --> 0:12:47.720 don't you see in my head I'm having this conversation 0:12:47.760 --> 0:12:50.679 because I was just nodding and smiling because who is 0:12:50.720 --> 0:12:51.240 this person? 0:12:51.600 --> 0:12:53.040 But I was like, think about your self concept. 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:55.000 When you walk into a space, your instinct is if 0:12:55.000 --> 0:12:57.439 people don't acknowledge me that they must be the issue 0:12:57.920 --> 0:12:58.680 you Are you gonna? 0:12:58.679 --> 0:12:59.560 Are you gonna say hello? 0:13:00.040 --> 0:13:01.160 She was just kinda like yeah, I just think it's 0:13:01.200 --> 0:13:03.480 really strange, like why have this party and have all 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:05.800 these people who don't know each other and not put 0:13:05.840 --> 0:13:08.600 emphasis on like introducing each other or making them feel 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:11.000 everyone feel comfortable. And I was like, well, I said 0:13:11.040 --> 0:13:14.360 hello to you, so you go pay it forward, you 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:15.480 know what I mean? And she was like yeah, but 0:13:15.520 --> 0:13:17.920 it's different because like you were smiling, and I'm like, these. 0:13:17.720 --> 0:13:19.720 Are exactly no no, no, hold. 0:13:19.520 --> 0:13:23.200 On and again, but these are just stories you're telling yourself, right, 0:13:23.200 --> 0:13:24.760 It's like you're not smiling. 0:13:24.920 --> 0:13:26.920 She wasn't like if anything, I'm like, you fit right 0:13:27.000 --> 0:13:29.160 in babes. You're giving stone cold bitch like the rest 0:13:29.200 --> 0:13:29.840 of these people. 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:32.720 And you're like the same energy that you're observing is 0:13:32.760 --> 0:13:34.480 the same energy you're bringing into the space. 0:13:35.240 --> 0:13:36.080 It's exact same. 0:13:36.440 --> 0:13:38.720 And to that point, I don't have social anxiety, but 0:13:38.760 --> 0:13:40.680 the people that I know who do, I'm like, you 0:13:40.800 --> 0:13:43.400 be the bitches looking people in a space at all times, 0:13:43.679 --> 0:13:45.920 all my socially anxious friends, I'm like, it's you with 0:13:45.960 --> 0:13:50.079 They're not smiling, they're looking stiff, they're not getting involved. 0:13:49.800 --> 0:13:52.040 And I'm like, of course, of course. 0:13:51.840 --> 0:13:54.760 You look that way, but just imagine the person that 0:13:54.800 --> 0:13:58.400 you're observing to be intimidating or like rude or whatever, 0:13:58.840 --> 0:14:01.199 is just you reflected Because I know when I walk 0:14:01.200 --> 0:14:04.439 into a space, everyone's like, like bubbly because I'm being bubbly. 0:14:04.600 --> 0:14:07.600 Everyone's smiling because I'm smiling. Everyone's being open because I'm 0:14:07.640 --> 0:14:08.000 being open. 0:14:08.200 --> 0:14:09.120 But you also got clout. 0:14:09.280 --> 0:14:10.679 So yeah, but how do you think I got How 0:14:10.679 --> 0:14:11.920 do you think I got the cloud? Babe? 0:14:12.360 --> 0:14:12.600 True? 0:14:12.640 --> 0:14:14.400 I have seen you in social situations and you have 0:14:14.440 --> 0:14:16.680 a very good way of connecting with people and making 0:14:16.679 --> 0:14:19.600 people feel seen. I will say agree with the woman 0:14:19.800 --> 0:14:22.720 wasn't there, but I totally catch her energy. You just 0:14:22.760 --> 0:14:24.560 know when you walk in a room, it's a good 0:14:24.640 --> 0:14:27.120 vibe or it's a hostile vibe. So Sis, whatever your 0:14:27.200 --> 0:14:29.600 name is, I'm with you. I feel you as a 0:14:29.600 --> 0:14:32.280 smiley person. I have no resting bitch face, and I 0:14:32.360 --> 0:14:34.920 get it. You never see me, don't. Yeah, yeah, it's 0:14:34.920 --> 0:14:35.560 really beautiful. 0:14:35.800 --> 0:14:38.600 This is Flex and Frooms on Kada. 0:14:38.760 --> 0:14:40.400 So I was watching this video that was talking about 0:14:40.400 --> 0:14:41.360 in and Out. You've been before? 0:14:41.800 --> 0:14:42.200 Sure have? 0:14:42.440 --> 0:14:42.840 Do you like it? 0:14:42.880 --> 0:14:45.240 Didn't write it really not at all. 0:14:45.320 --> 0:14:47.240 I think the hype is something to do with that, 0:14:47.280 --> 0:14:49.920 because I will say that the chips are quite stale, 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:52.040 and I think they're made from real potato and that's 0:14:52.080 --> 0:14:52.880 the issue. 0:14:53.280 --> 0:14:54.720 But the burger was fantastic. 0:14:54.720 --> 0:14:56.720 And whenever I'm in LA, I'm always run around and around, 0:14:56.760 --> 0:14:57.600 run out and trying to get it. 0:14:58.000 --> 0:15:00.520 God. I really like La me too. I'd leave there 0:15:00.520 --> 0:15:03.840 over Europe. Yeah, maybe we should move. 0:15:04.080 --> 0:15:04.640 Maybe we should. 0:15:04.680 --> 0:15:06.960 I've been trying to convince Flex to move to Melbourne, 0:15:07.000 --> 0:15:09.120 but maybe La is the more logical step. 0:15:09.160 --> 0:15:11.880 Either way, we gotta go. I'm thinking like somewhere Rogue, 0:15:11.960 --> 0:15:12.480 like Portugal. 0:15:15.200 --> 0:15:16.520 So I was watching this video and they were talking 0:15:16.520 --> 0:15:19.160 about how it's super odd that In and Out isn't 0:15:19.200 --> 0:15:21.880 expanding heaps rapidly because everybody's so obsessed with it, and 0:15:21.880 --> 0:15:24.840 they only open five new restaurants a year, and I 0:15:24.880 --> 0:15:26.960 was like, that sounds like a lot of new restaurants 0:15:26.960 --> 0:15:27.400 to open. 0:15:27.600 --> 0:15:30.280 What is that compared to? Like the video was reading 0:15:30.280 --> 0:15:30.720 my mind. 0:15:30.800 --> 0:15:34.440 They went to say, unlike McDonald's, who opened a new 0:15:34.520 --> 0:15:36.160 restaurant how frequently? 0:15:36.200 --> 0:15:36.480 For me? 0:15:36.960 --> 0:15:41.280 You should know this every week, think about it. Every 0:15:41.360 --> 0:15:43.800 fourteen and a half hours. 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:49.320 They showed a map. 0:15:49.080 --> 0:15:52.800 Of all the McDonald's in the US. It's just McDonald's. 0:15:52.920 --> 0:15:55.520 I feel like there's more. There's more McDonald's than roads. 0:15:55.640 --> 0:15:59.320 Every how often fourteen and a half hours. 0:16:00.400 --> 0:16:01.160 Every time you go. 0:16:01.120 --> 0:16:04.800 To sleep and wake up, there's a new McDonald's allegedly allegedly. 0:16:05.960 --> 0:16:07.160 How is that possible? 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:09.080 Does that make sense? 0:16:09.480 --> 0:16:10.160 I don't know. 0:16:10.720 --> 0:16:12.320 I mean I remember hearing this stat a couple of 0:16:12.360 --> 0:16:15.480 years ago and it was one one a day, So 0:16:16.960 --> 0:16:17.760 it's the same thing. 0:16:17.800 --> 0:16:20.440 Well, I guess the population's gone up to eight billion billion. 0:16:20.520 --> 0:16:23.760 We made it, kiddies, We made it kittlets. Now the 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:25.440 world is even more uninhabitable. 0:16:26.840 --> 0:16:27.440 We did that. 0:16:27.760 --> 0:16:28.960 We did that, queens. 0:16:30.240 --> 0:16:33.000 Oh well that's exciting. Yeah it is, you know, I 0:16:33.080 --> 0:16:36.200 used to You know, it's a franchise e situation. Is 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:39.320 a data guys parents own a McDonald's. You want to 0:16:39.320 --> 0:16:43.840 say that, yeah, okay, it's a Flex. It was so cool. 0:16:44.200 --> 0:16:47.240 Really felt felt that was like a serendipitous moment, you know, 0:16:47.360 --> 0:16:49.840 because I love macas so much. Manifested it. 0:16:50.040 --> 0:16:52.640 I never seen heard you speak this way about anything. 0:16:53.440 --> 0:16:55.640 Why are you still smitten? Let it go dead? 0:16:55.880 --> 0:16:59.000 Sorry? Look up. Next, I want to talk about Simpsons again. 0:16:59.120 --> 0:17:02.040 As we know, Flex is not a Simpsons person. However, 0:17:02.080 --> 0:17:07.200 I am some core tenants of my personality McDonald's Simpsons. Yep, 0:17:07.560 --> 0:17:08.320 getting near it? 0:17:09.000 --> 0:17:13.800 No, no, myself to it? 0:17:14.480 --> 0:17:19.920 Are you still doing getting near it? Poohoo? Whooo? 0:17:20.040 --> 0:17:20.639 Homie? 0:17:21.840 --> 0:17:24.200 Have you graduated on the brain? Doll chilli? 0:17:24.880 --> 0:17:27.600 We are you done? 0:17:27.840 --> 0:17:31.840 Listen? I'm done with the Pooh humor? Right, turning twenty seven? Sorry, 0:17:31.880 --> 0:17:35.000 pardon me, I'm turning twenty five, so I gotta grow 0:17:35.040 --> 0:17:37.200 out of it. Up Next, I want to tell you 0:17:37.240 --> 0:17:41.040