WEBVTT - Do New Partners Need To Know You’ve Slept With Your Friends? 🍆 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:02.560 The Flex and Rooms Daily. 0:00:02.279 --> 0:00:04.280 Podcast brought to you. 0:00:06.000 --> 0:00:10.240 Hello, yeaty. 0:00:10.600 --> 0:00:14.400 I love that yet Yeat Bix my new favorite breakfast. 0:00:14.600 --> 0:00:15.360 There's something there. 0:00:15.920 --> 0:00:17.200 Oh God, I love to say it. 0:00:18.079 --> 0:00:20.880 I haven't had a Wheat Bix since I was a child, 0:00:21.880 --> 0:00:25.080 and I've been really craving milky things like I want 0:00:25.120 --> 0:00:26.880 to get back into crunchy not and wheat bigs, but 0:00:26.960 --> 0:00:28.319 I just don't think it will agree with me. 0:00:28.440 --> 0:00:30.479 I can't have chok tops anymore. 0:00:30.840 --> 0:00:34.000 Why Because I mentioned to you earlier that I'm trying 0:00:34.000 --> 0:00:36.960 to improve my mind body mind muscle connection, which means 0:00:37.040 --> 0:00:41.120 listening to my body's feeling after everything. So, as you know, 0:00:41.240 --> 0:00:46.000 sally best friend, Sally lactose intolerant in denial, as we 0:00:46.040 --> 0:00:47.839 all kind of are with that kind of thing. But 0:00:47.920 --> 0:00:49.520 she started taking lack teas. I was like, I don't 0:00:49.560 --> 0:00:52.919 know that, mild with it. Went to the cinema, had 0:00:52.920 --> 0:00:58.280 a chok Top, guts bustard spawn. 0:00:58.880 --> 0:01:01.280 I could not believe it. I didn't even enjoy it 0:01:01.280 --> 0:01:01.560 that way. 0:01:01.600 --> 0:01:02.520 Did you go to the toilet? 0:01:02.800 --> 0:01:02.959 Yeah? 0:01:03.000 --> 0:01:03.200 It was. 0:01:03.280 --> 0:01:04.319 It was like dead fall and. 0:01:04.319 --> 0:01:07.160 I was squirming in the seat and from there I 0:01:07.200 --> 0:01:08.520 was like, nah, it's not for me. 0:01:09.000 --> 0:01:11.000 I don't want to say this, but as you're speaking, 0:01:12.440 --> 0:01:15.800 my gut, he's making the most crazy noise curdling. I 0:01:15.840 --> 0:01:18.440 gotta go, so let's get this show on the road. 0:01:18.720 --> 0:01:19.080 Let's go. 0:01:20.360 --> 0:01:25.880 We haven't even done our podcast intros through anyway. Coming up, 0:01:25.880 --> 0:01:30.200 we're talking to our alleged residence psychic astrologer Aunte has 0:01:30.280 --> 0:01:33.040 just started with is it the commercial. 0:01:32.560 --> 0:01:34.119 Team the Caya Family. 0:01:35.520 --> 0:01:35.800 Rooms? 0:01:36.000 --> 0:01:39.600 Our resident cult leader shout out some people were a family, 0:01:39.760 --> 0:01:43.520 which is very sickening to do. But Auntie apparently has 0:01:43.560 --> 0:01:48.200 this uncanny ability to guess someone's star sign off the dome, 0:01:48.400 --> 0:01:50.240 so he's gonna guess ours. 0:01:50.520 --> 0:01:51.240 Fremy does have. 0:01:51.200 --> 0:01:54.160 Some suspicions about whether he just googled this information, which 0:01:54.200 --> 0:01:57.440 is completely likely impossible, and even if he did, I 0:01:57.560 --> 0:02:01.240 love shared delusion because what is shared delusion but just 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:01.960 a truth? 0:02:02.520 --> 0:02:04.560 Yes, I agree with all of the above. Let's get 0:02:04.560 --> 0:02:10.160 to it. Not me just playing on my line. They're 0:02:10.160 --> 0:02:13.160 really going to go flex and frooms. So I have 0:02:13.200 --> 0:02:15.880 a love line for you. It's basically where someone sends 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:19.359 in their relationship dilemma, we answer it by not answering it. 0:02:19.440 --> 0:02:22.639 So here's one. The title is is it a deal 0:02:22.680 --> 0:02:25.120 breakout that I've had sex with all of my present 0:02:25.320 --> 0:02:33.600 close female friends. Initial thoughts, live your lacking, go off 0:02:33.600 --> 0:02:38.960 my virile prints. Here's what he said. I currently have 0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:41.800 four close female friends whom I have slept with at 0:02:41.919 --> 0:02:45.200 least at at least one point in the past. What's 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:47.560 the past. We're going to go through them. 0:02:47.600 --> 0:02:47.840 Great. 0:02:48.200 --> 0:02:50.320 The first one was a classmate whom I've known for 0:02:50.360 --> 0:02:53.920 more than a decade. She didn't marry until recently, so 0:02:53.960 --> 0:02:56.400 when she was single, we used to go on staycations 0:02:56.680 --> 0:02:58.880 when we were feeling a little bit stressed and have sex. 0:02:59.400 --> 0:03:10.160 Families actually pretty close. Second, she didn't marry. Phrasing on 0:03:10.200 --> 0:03:13.320 this one. Second one is a friend who everyone thinks 0:03:13.400 --> 0:03:15.480 is a lesbian, but when she singles, she wants sex 0:03:15.480 --> 0:03:20.360 with the guy. We did it maybe just twice. Third 0:03:21.000 --> 0:03:30.040 phrase it like that, so unnecessary, but you know it twice. 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:35.360 And third is a neighbor whom I have known for 0:03:35.400 --> 0:03:38.360 maybe four years. Ever since the first one got married, 0:03:38.360 --> 0:03:40.400 this friend has been my go to travel buddy. We 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:43.120 go on trips maybe twice a year. And the fourth 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:45.680 is a coworker. We tried to date briefly but it 0:03:45.720 --> 0:03:49.520 didn't work, so we just stay as friends. Anyway, even 0:03:49.560 --> 0:03:51.520 if they're in a relationship, or if I'm in one, 0:03:51.600 --> 0:03:54.560 we still talk often, maybe once a week. We would 0:03:54.560 --> 0:03:57.200 meet up maybe every other month for lunch or coffee somewhere. 0:03:57.440 --> 0:04:03.720 So they're besties, right him, These four girlfriends nothing sexual 0:04:03.760 --> 0:04:06.480 whenever any of us are in a relationship. I brought 0:04:06.480 --> 0:04:09.720 this up with my girlfriend because I always get conflicting opinions. 0:04:10.120 --> 0:04:12.000 Some say I should bring this up with my future 0:04:12.080 --> 0:04:14.520 dates because it would be unfair for her to be 0:04:14.640 --> 0:04:17.320 all chummy with them, not knowing that I slept with them. 0:04:17.520 --> 0:04:19.839 On the other hand, some say it shouldn't be spoken 0:04:19.839 --> 0:04:25.800 about it because it's in the past, and because the 0:04:25.800 --> 0:04:27.200 other the rest of them, like most of them, are 0:04:27.200 --> 0:04:30.120 in longtime relationships anyway, so it doesn't matter. I don't 0:04:30.160 --> 0:04:32.640 know if this also matters, but they're all decent looking, 0:04:33.040 --> 0:04:34.800 educated and pretty well. 0:04:34.680 --> 0:04:40.440 Off hotties that I would like to continue to occasionally. 0:04:41.200 --> 0:04:43.400 But he wants to know if he should be disclosing 0:04:43.440 --> 0:04:47.200 this information to people that he starts to see in future. 0:04:47.279 --> 0:04:50.039 What do you think for a MENI don't ask, stump. 0:04:52.120 --> 0:04:55.719 I reckon if the chance of the new girlfriend finding 0:04:55.800 --> 0:04:59.279 out from someone else is quite high, then I would 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:03.800 mention it, like, for example, if he doesn't tell her, 0:05:03.880 --> 0:05:06.120 but she's likely going to find out, like at a 0:05:06.160 --> 0:05:08.960 party a few months into them dating, and it's going 0:05:09.040 --> 0:05:11.480 to shock her. I'd rather if I was in her position, 0:05:11.520 --> 0:05:14.480 I'd rather him tell me straight up, rather him say, 0:05:15.120 --> 0:05:18.480 you know what, all of my for best friends were rooted. 0:05:20.279 --> 0:05:23.000 I don't think it's can I don't think it's necessary 0:05:23.000 --> 0:05:25.400 to know until it's necessary to know. Otherwise it sounds 0:05:25.480 --> 0:05:29.280 like a subtle flex just so you know they're hot, 0:05:29.360 --> 0:05:30.360 and I could if I wouldn't have. 0:05:31.920 --> 0:05:32.919 I think that's a bit odd. 0:05:33.320 --> 0:05:36.000 But I also feel like telling a date, so what 0:05:36.160 --> 0:05:40.200 is it I think that's unnecessary to do. The degrees 0:05:40.240 --> 0:05:43.520 of separation between people have rooted before. That's weird. 0:05:44.240 --> 0:05:45.880 Well, but what if they're all hanging out? 0:05:46.600 --> 0:05:48.599 Still don't think it's necessary until it's necessary. 0:05:49.279 --> 0:05:51.320 See I thought that, But I've been in this situation 0:05:51.400 --> 0:05:54.520 where hanging out with a partner's friends and they're acting 0:05:54.560 --> 0:05:55.800 a bit sus. 0:05:55.960 --> 0:05:57.840 Well, that's when it's necessary to know. 0:05:58.360 --> 0:06:01.520 Didn't know exactly, but I feel like if you had 0:06:01.600 --> 0:06:06.880 to preface every interpersonal relationship with the context of we 0:06:06.960 --> 0:06:08.480 slept together, what if. 0:06:08.360 --> 0:06:10.560 It's not relevant they're just adding. 0:06:11.520 --> 0:06:14.159 And also we have to remember this is a guy 0:06:14.240 --> 0:06:16.360 speaking from his perspective of the relationships he's had with 0:06:16.400 --> 0:06:18.800 these women. Who knows if these women would ever go 0:06:18.839 --> 0:06:21.480 there again? Like maybe it was a pity route, you. 0:06:21.400 --> 0:06:24.120 Know, maybe I don't know, like I went there and 0:06:24.200 --> 0:06:25.840 now I'm not into it. It would never happen again. 0:06:26.320 --> 0:06:29.160 I just feel like he's complicating his relationship with these 0:06:29.160 --> 0:06:32.840 other friends because maybe it's not just friendly, you know 0:06:32.839 --> 0:06:35.560 what I'm saying. Maybe he knows that he would rather 0:06:35.600 --> 0:06:38.720 be with any of those four and they're unavailable, so 0:06:38.760 --> 0:06:40.279 he's had to look elsewhere. 0:06:39.960 --> 0:06:42.080 I reckon, That's how it sounds. He seems a little 0:06:42.080 --> 0:06:43.000 bit too invested. 0:06:43.480 --> 0:06:45.560 Yeah, now there's a dark over his head where he's like, 0:06:46.360 --> 0:06:48.520 I've got to hang out with these rodents because the 0:06:48.520 --> 0:06:50.120 people I want aren't available. 0:06:50.960 --> 0:06:53.000 Oh, we've all been there. Let's send him on his 0:06:53.040 --> 0:06:55.279 way with a song. This is one of my personal 0:06:55.360 --> 0:06:57.760 favorites by the by Skills that's called. 0:07:00.680 --> 0:07:05.039 Tell Me. That's a really really well hold on, hold on. 0:07:07.279 --> 0:07:07.960 If you want to be. 0:07:17.920 --> 0:07:21.200 My lover, you gotta get with my four well. 0:07:20.840 --> 0:07:25.200 Educated, well educated, hot and eligible friends that I would 0:07:25.240 --> 0:07:27.000 probably but I won't. 0:07:28.600 --> 0:07:31.560 I like him. Shout out to that mystery caller. It 0:07:31.640 --> 0:07:34.120 can stay flex and firms. 0:07:34.360 --> 0:07:37.440 We have a very special segment. We are not alone 0:07:37.480 --> 0:07:39.920 in the studio. We do have a poltergeist in our mits, 0:07:40.000 --> 0:07:44.240 but we also have a real human man his Aunte. 0:07:44.680 --> 0:07:44.880 Hello. 0:07:45.640 --> 0:07:50.400 Hello, So Auntie is a member of the cad family. 0:07:50.800 --> 0:07:51.560 It is a family. 0:07:51.880 --> 0:07:53.400 No, don't do it. 0:07:53.520 --> 0:07:56.640 No one of those small business underpaid over resource. 0:07:57.160 --> 0:07:59.680 We're a family. Don't ask, don't take that annually. 0:08:01.000 --> 0:08:03.320 No, Ante is part of the Kita. 0:08:04.000 --> 0:08:06.160 Auntie's an employee. 0:08:06.320 --> 0:08:07.960 I mean what it is. 0:08:09.080 --> 0:08:10.000 And you're new, aren't you? 0:08:10.320 --> 0:08:12.560 I am Yes. I started last week on Monday, So 0:08:12.720 --> 0:08:15.160 first week done in the camp stunning. 0:08:15.600 --> 0:08:15.800 Well. 0:08:15.840 --> 0:08:17.440 I knew that you were coming because I used to 0:08:17.520 --> 0:08:21.200 work with one of my besties, Eliza. She had lots 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:23.520 of good things to say about you. Well, that's good, 0:08:24.600 --> 0:08:28.320 like he's just really cool. He's really nice, so really 0:08:28.520 --> 0:08:34.559 like gets the brands. He's really cool. It was a 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:37.800 glowing reference. It was very excited to meet you. And 0:08:37.880 --> 0:08:39.680 on the weekend she was over at my house and 0:08:39.720 --> 0:08:41.920 she told me that you have a very special skill. 0:08:42.040 --> 0:08:45.440 Ane apparently can tell people's star signs. Tell us a 0:08:45.440 --> 0:08:46.439 bit more about your skill. 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:48.840 It's a bit of a weird one. I kind of 0:08:48.920 --> 0:08:50.679 like picked it up over a couple of years of 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:53.319 just feeling out people's auras, like when you meet them, 0:08:53.360 --> 0:08:55.560 you know, you get like a certain energy or a feel. 0:08:55.760 --> 0:08:57.920 It's my kind of guy. Yes, my kind of guy. 0:08:58.120 --> 0:09:02.120 Okay vibes, And I just kind of like had a 0:09:02.160 --> 0:09:04.320 little bit of background like researching me like, oh what 0:09:04.400 --> 0:09:06.240 star sign is? Like what? And then all of a 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:09.840 sudden I was just like sometimes I could just pick 0:09:09.880 --> 0:09:12.080 it straight away and then it would work out to 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:12.679 be correct. 0:09:12.720 --> 0:09:15.520 So do you do like the star sign, the moon sign, 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:17.280 the rising or just doing like. 0:09:17.440 --> 0:09:20.000 A star sign like general star sign right now? I 0:09:20.000 --> 0:09:21.960 mean I would like to get into the moon. That'd 0:09:21.960 --> 0:09:24.960 be could you imagine for expansion? There you go, that's 0:09:25.040 --> 0:09:28.240 the next level. I see colors, Oh you literally. 0:09:28.040 --> 0:09:28.960 See the person? 0:09:29.160 --> 0:09:29.319 Yeah? 0:09:29.360 --> 0:09:31.160 Yeah, do you see any of else? Yeah? This is 0:09:31.200 --> 0:09:32.040 like a red. 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:35.000 Orange because there's an orange light in the studio. This 0:09:35.080 --> 0:09:38.120 is like a legit thing, and it would be like 0:09:38.400 --> 0:09:40.240 blue like aquamarine. Maybe. 0:09:41.280 --> 0:09:43.840 Wow, that could be related to my star sign as well. 0:09:45.040 --> 0:09:46.160 Do you want to give it a red hot go? 0:09:46.520 --> 0:09:48.400 What I kind of start with is like filling out 0:09:48.440 --> 0:09:52.040 people's energy. So obviously color was yours like a bit 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:56.000 more orange, you red, So I'm thinking like ferocity, but 0:09:56.160 --> 0:09:59.719 also very very stable, just kind of like the way 0:09:59.760 --> 0:10:04.040 you're sitting, very like strong posture. You've been doing anything 0:10:04.120 --> 0:10:06.720 lately to kind of work on your posture? 0:10:07.400 --> 0:10:09.240 Weights and pilarates. 0:10:09.280 --> 0:10:11.439 Pilarates okay cool? Yeah, pilates all right. 0:10:11.480 --> 0:10:12.880 I feel that there's my history. 0:10:13.080 --> 0:10:17.440 I feel like you would be into like arcane topics, 0:10:17.480 --> 0:10:22.839 like things like maybe like conspiracy vibes my. 0:10:22.800 --> 0:10:28.960 Thing at all, No, exactly exactly, the skill works. 0:10:29.000 --> 0:10:33.000 The skill works, So maybe my aunt has just been 0:10:33.000 --> 0:10:36.200 in the logs like Wright as a character profile. 0:10:39.520 --> 0:10:43.240 Were we were not in communication on the spot, I 0:10:43.240 --> 0:10:45.800 would say Aries definitely, okay cool. 0:10:45.840 --> 0:10:49.520 If you said anything else, I would be very surprised, really, 0:10:49.720 --> 0:10:51.840 because I think you would need to know me to 0:10:51.960 --> 0:10:55.960 understand there's anything under the surface of just being an Aries. 0:10:56.120 --> 0:11:00.559 Sweet you are aries es? Yeah? And anti yeah April 0:11:00.559 --> 0:11:01.200 Aries though? 0:11:01.640 --> 0:11:02.199 Are you sure? 0:11:02.360 --> 0:11:02.520 Yeah? 0:11:02.600 --> 0:11:04.959 Yeah, I think so because my sister was April Aries 0:11:05.600 --> 0:11:06.680 and she's April ninth. 0:11:06.960 --> 0:11:07.240 Yeah. 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:09.440 I feel like you've got a little bit of that there. 0:11:09.600 --> 0:11:12.000 What would what about me doesn't feel like a March. 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:14.440 Aries March two borderline Pisces. So it's a little bit 0:11:14.480 --> 0:11:16.679 more watery, but you're fighting, right, Okay, yes. 0:11:16.480 --> 0:11:19.360 All right, so Anti's I am and April Aries, you 0:11:19.400 --> 0:11:21.040 read it all. There was not one thing you said 0:11:21.080 --> 0:11:21.600 that was off. 0:11:21.880 --> 0:11:23.880 That's amazing. Are you not more amazed? 0:11:24.160 --> 0:11:24.360 Yeah? 0:11:24.400 --> 0:11:27.440 But as soon as Ante said spiritually vibes, I'm like, okay, 0:11:27.440 --> 0:11:28.040 I trust him. 0:11:28.160 --> 0:11:33.000 Okay. So the aquamarine blue feeling like you're very in 0:11:33.040 --> 0:11:36.920 tuned emotionally, like your eyes give off like how can 0:11:36.960 --> 0:11:40.520 I connect to someone emotionally first? So kind of in 0:11:40.520 --> 0:11:41.520 the right park Yep. 0:11:43.760 --> 0:11:48.640 That's crazy And I never noticed until. 0:11:48.400 --> 0:11:49.560 That video and I was like, you know, I can't 0:11:49.559 --> 0:11:52.079 see it. 0:11:49.920 --> 0:11:50.600 I see it. 0:11:52.240 --> 0:11:54.040 Crazy beautiful. Yeah, you know. 0:11:56.000 --> 0:11:58.280 So I'm thinking, like a lot of water around you. 0:11:58.440 --> 0:12:03.680 So who's tough. I'm going to go out Pisces. 0:12:05.640 --> 0:12:06.319 Yes am? 0:12:06.320 --> 0:12:09.760 I right? So you are? That's right. I would have 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:11.160 thought was an Aquarius. 0:12:11.320 --> 0:12:13.400 Yeah, I thought that, But I think it's because you 0:12:13.480 --> 0:12:16.800 remind me a little bit of me. So I'm like, yeah, 0:12:16.840 --> 0:12:18.360 a little bit like Pisces. And I just had like 0:12:18.360 --> 0:12:19.520 a guess. I was like, I'm just going to go 0:12:19.559 --> 0:12:21.600 for it. Thank you, very colorful. 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:23.080 What month? Uh? 0:12:24.000 --> 0:12:25.880 Oh, that's a good one. You remind me and my 0:12:25.960 --> 0:12:26.600 dad so much. 0:12:27.720 --> 0:12:28.400 I don't trust. 0:12:28.600 --> 0:12:32.080 How do you got a whole family? So stress? 0:12:32.120 --> 0:12:32.800 Are you serious? 0:12:33.720 --> 0:12:34.319 Once again? 0:12:35.000 --> 0:12:38.839 Hm? Hm? So serious? 0:12:39.840 --> 0:12:40.960 What did it say? Repeat? 0:12:41.000 --> 0:12:43.040 So the polter geist is in here? 0:12:43.120 --> 0:12:46.080 So it was like, I'm sorry, please repeat. 0:12:45.760 --> 0:12:51.040 That, repeat it please, gentle she's chilly? 0:12:52.760 --> 0:12:54.520 So your dad is also a Pisces in March. 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:55.800 Yes, he's a March too? 0:12:57.200 --> 0:13:00.559 What am I? Can you mind? 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:00.920 I reckon? 0:13:01.640 --> 0:13:05.200 It's like fifth maybe no fourth. 0:13:05.040 --> 0:13:09.280 Th yep, let him have it? 0:13:09.480 --> 0:13:12.280 Okay, wow, okay, now we're gonna guess you ant's Pisces? 0:13:12.520 --> 0:13:13.720 But which month? 0:13:14.440 --> 0:13:17.680 M severy February twenty seven? 0:13:18.040 --> 0:13:18.400 Whoa? 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:21.240 Who have you been talking to you like you're one 0:13:21.320 --> 0:13:23.559 day off? That's very good, guess says. 0:13:23.440 --> 0:13:26.000 Wow, he's just a vibe in the room. He fe 0:13:26.120 --> 0:13:30.440 witchy today. Auntie has a very textbook pisces man vibes? 0:13:31.000 --> 0:13:31.760 Really, what's that? 0:13:32.360 --> 0:13:33.840 You got to know it to know it? If have 0:13:33.920 --> 0:13:36.000 you not met a Piscy's man who was just like you? 0:13:36.880 --> 0:13:39.000 Uh no, not really. 0:13:38.960 --> 0:13:43.040 No, you gotta I feel like here's textbook pisces man 0:13:43.600 --> 0:13:50.000 number one, very calm, inviting, disposition and aura. 0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:53.920 Always feel listened to by pisces man, but emphasis on 0:13:54.080 --> 0:13:54.920 feel listen to. 0:13:57.000 --> 0:13:59.600 My king, Thank you, humble king, thank you. 0:14:00.160 --> 0:14:01.760 Two favorite pieces in one's face. 0:14:04.559 --> 0:14:06.320 This is flex and frooms. 0:14:07.400 --> 0:14:10.079 Have you ever worked in an office? Miss forms multiple times? 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:10.600 What'd you do? 0:14:10.840 --> 0:14:11.880 I worked a pedestrian? 0:14:12.679 --> 0:14:16.360 Oh yeah, my, does that count? 0:14:18.920 --> 0:14:21.520 But I'm asking because I'm sure that you, and like 0:14:21.600 --> 0:14:25.480 most people, despite whether you work in a office or 0:14:25.640 --> 0:14:29.320 a different workplace, have dealt with being micromanaged. And I've 0:14:29.360 --> 0:14:33.240 experienced it on both ends as someone who has experienced micromanaging, 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:35.920 and then my first foreward into being a manager and 0:14:35.920 --> 0:14:39.280 not understanding how to manage effectively because I was micromanaged. 0:14:39.720 --> 0:14:42.640 So I remember I worked in PR and like that 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:46.000 was the worst, because I remember our boss used to 0:14:46.040 --> 0:14:50.160 make us do like some lord of the flies, like 0:14:50.960 --> 0:14:54.080 would invite us into have one on ones, but wouldn't 0:14:54.120 --> 0:14:56.760 ask us about ourselves, would make would ask us about 0:14:56.760 --> 0:15:00.240 other employees. So for example, I would have one one 0:15:00.280 --> 0:15:01.960 with her and she likes her house rooms going. 0:15:03.200 --> 0:15:04.480 You know how shay that is. 0:15:04.520 --> 0:15:07.680 And so because everybody does those meetings and knows what happened, 0:15:07.920 --> 0:15:11.360 you developed this sense of mistrust between everybody in the office. 0:15:11.480 --> 0:15:14.040 It was cooked. Very smart of her to do, but 0:15:14.200 --> 0:15:14.840 super cooked. 0:15:15.040 --> 0:15:17.320 Anyway, I came across this article about this woman who 0:15:17.320 --> 0:15:21.320 won a lawsuit after being micromanager, and I said, I. 0:15:21.280 --> 0:15:25.520 Wish I knew legal literacy back in the days, because 0:15:25.800 --> 0:15:26.840 that could have been us. 0:15:27.200 --> 0:15:28.120 How did she do it? 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:30.440 Listen to this say no more. 0:15:31.680 --> 0:15:34.640 An Australian woman has been awarded two point eight million 0:15:34.720 --> 0:15:37.480 dollars after it was deemed that she'd been micromanaged and 0:15:37.560 --> 0:15:40.040 bullied by her boss. A racing club in New South 0:15:40.080 --> 0:15:42.320 Wales was ordered to make the major payout after a 0:15:42.360 --> 0:15:46.000 long time manager was subjected to an overbearing micromanagement style. 0:15:46.080 --> 0:15:48.800 The federal court found the workplace was negligent in preventing 0:15:48.800 --> 0:15:52.360 the woman from experiencing psychiatric harm, and that the CEO 0:15:52.520 --> 0:15:55.480 had breached the company's contract by withholding her benefits and 0:15:55.520 --> 0:15:58.080 denying her bonus. The court also found that the CEO 0:15:58.200 --> 0:16:01.840 had bullied the manager by singling her out, micromanaging her tasks, 0:16:01.920 --> 0:16:05.440 distracting her from work with relentless emails, and denying her 0:16:05.480 --> 0:16:08.240 benefits that were offered to other employees. The woman, who'd 0:16:08.280 --> 0:16:10.720 been working for the club since nineteen ninety one started 0:16:10.760 --> 0:16:13.160 having the issues when the new CEO came on board 0:16:13.160 --> 0:16:15.680 in twenty sixteen. It was at this point the new 0:16:15.720 --> 0:16:18.240 CEO felt the manager was being paid too much and 0:16:18.280 --> 0:16:22.160 the harassment began. Manager was denied annual leave, long service leave, 0:16:22.240 --> 0:16:25.840 and commission payments, but after numerous complaints, the manager left 0:16:25.840 --> 0:16:28.440 the business in twenty nineteen, and the court awarded the 0:16:28.440 --> 0:16:30.600 manager of the payout in December twenty twenty one. 0:16:30.880 --> 0:16:32.720 Good on her, incredible. 0:16:32.880 --> 0:16:35.640 I can't think of any other outcome that is more 0:16:35.640 --> 0:16:40.000 deserving than that. One ask for three millions, yes, take it. 0:16:40.360 --> 0:16:42.120 But also what I think is really interesting is that 0:16:42.320 --> 0:16:44.280 how many people read that article and relate to the 0:16:44.320 --> 0:16:48.200 treatment that they also receive in their workplaces and was 0:16:48.360 --> 0:16:50.200 inconfident let's that sewing. 0:16:50.320 --> 0:16:52.520 I don't know anyone who works in like a media 0:16:53.080 --> 0:16:57.360 job that has a boss that isn't micromanaged. 0:16:57.440 --> 0:16:58.960 I think it's two sides. 0:16:59.040 --> 0:17:02.440 In extreme spectrum, you're either getting micromanaged or not managed 0:17:02.480 --> 0:17:05.399 at all, like not trained, no resources, can't get a 0:17:05.440 --> 0:17:07.760 hold of them, no meetings when you need it, no 0:17:07.880 --> 0:17:09.600 feedback when you need it. 0:17:09.800 --> 0:17:13.240 True, but I guess don't know what I'd prefer. Probably 0:17:13.280 --> 0:17:15.440 the latter me do my side hustle. 0:17:16.520 --> 0:17:17.920 I think it depends on how much you get paid. 0:17:18.760 --> 0:17:23.840 You're paying me seven hundred K. I'll be on my back. 0:17:23.760 --> 0:17:26.159 Jump on, I'll strap you when I'll swallowing you. 0:17:27.840 --> 0:17:28.360 Let's go. 0:17:29.840 --> 0:17:30.359 Go dear. 0:17:31.480 --> 0:17:34.679 You're listening to Flex and Frooms on kDa. 0:17:34.880 --> 0:17:36.639 Can I tell you about this little something something I 0:17:36.640 --> 0:17:39.040 read on the internet? It's always something because where else 0:17:39.040 --> 0:17:40.040 am I reading things? 0:17:40.119 --> 0:17:40.560 Anyway? 0:17:41.080 --> 0:17:43.560 I haven't read a book that I've been obsessed with 0:17:44.200 --> 0:17:48.160 in close to a year, and I was averaging maybe 0:17:48.240 --> 0:17:49.080 two books a week. 0:17:49.400 --> 0:17:50.840 What something happened. 0:17:50.600 --> 0:17:51.920 Between two books a week? 0:17:52.680 --> 0:17:53.120 Babes? 0:17:53.480 --> 0:17:57.439 When am I sleeping reading? Rhyme would be like eleven 0:17:57.520 --> 0:18:00.880 to three am. I'm in the train if I want 0:18:00.880 --> 0:18:04.840 to read something I'm reading. I don't know why I 0:18:04.880 --> 0:18:06.520 am surprised by that. I was every day I. 0:18:06.560 --> 0:18:07.520 Being like I just finished the book. 0:18:08.040 --> 0:18:08.359 Don't care? 0:18:08.400 --> 0:18:10.359 Wait you at the time and don't get the time? 0:18:11.000 --> 0:18:11.159 Do you? 0:18:11.480 --> 0:18:13.040 How how many hours of a week do you? How 0:18:13.040 --> 0:18:14.159 many hours a day do sleep? 0:18:15.160 --> 0:18:15.760 Depends? 0:18:15.920 --> 0:18:17.880 Like on a weekday, I might do like a four hour. 0:18:18.240 --> 0:18:22.280 On a weekend, I'll do a twelve hour. Listen to 0:18:22.320 --> 0:18:24.560 this Have you heard of fixed law? No? 0:18:25.119 --> 0:18:26.439 I see judgment on you. 0:18:26.480 --> 0:18:28.320 I don't understand how you sleep before hours. That's like 0:18:28.440 --> 0:18:29.440 very manic scenes. 0:18:29.720 --> 0:18:33.480 Yeah, but I just I really like sleeping. But realistically 0:18:33.640 --> 0:18:37.520 I'm I am prioritizing my enjoyment. I hate finishing a 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:40.720 day feeling like all I did was work or stress. 0:18:40.920 --> 0:18:43.640 I need to unwind properly. That means I'm cutting into sleep. 0:18:43.640 --> 0:18:46.680 We're cutting into sleep not afraid to do it. I'm 0:18:46.680 --> 0:18:48.760 not to live your truth at all. 0:18:49.119 --> 0:18:50.720 Literally, Okay, listen to this. 0:18:51.119 --> 0:18:53.800 Hix law is a simple idea that says, the more 0:18:53.920 --> 0:18:57.040 choices you present your users with, the longer it will 0:18:57.040 --> 0:18:59.800 take them to make a decision. It's common sense, but 0:19:00.200 --> 0:19:03.720 neglected in the rush to cramp too much functionality into 0:19:03.760 --> 0:19:06.600 a site or an application. Now that's obviously about UX 0:19:06.640 --> 0:19:08.520 and UI and building computers, but I was thinking about 0:19:08.520 --> 0:19:11.280 that in the context of just being people, and that 0:19:11.400 --> 0:19:15.080