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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the

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Speaker 1: time poor parent who just once answers.

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Speaker 2: Now, there is actually a way that I think that

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Speaker 2: we should be teaching our kids to apologize, and they

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Speaker 2: need to apologize when they mean it, because you can

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Speaker 2: only do a proper apology if you mean it. And

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Speaker 2: guess what, kids actually want relationships to be restored.

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Speaker 1: And now here's the stars of our show, my mom and.

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Speaker 3: Dad, Kylie Coulson. I'm cranky with you.

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Speaker 2: Have you done well? You sound like you've still got

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Speaker 2: that head cold of yours. Have you noticed that my

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Speaker 3: Have you noticed it?

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Speaker 4: It's very sexy?

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Speaker 5: Ye?

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Speaker 2: No, no, don't, don't try to get your way out of this.

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Speaker 2: It's because of you haven't even been kissing you. But

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Speaker 2: I've got this frog in my throat. Now you've had

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Speaker 2: it all week and you've managed to pass it along.

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Speaker 4: So if we're a family, we're a sharing family, we're.

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Speaker 2: Sharing is caring. This is doctor Justin Coulson, the not

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Speaker 2: quite myself.

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Speaker 4: Not only you've given me a hard time. I'm sick

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Speaker 4: and you're giving me a time. I can probably get

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Speaker 4: my words out of oh Man flew for you serious.

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Speaker 3: You don't know how bad this is.

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Speaker 2: Doctor Justin Courson, the founder of Happy Families dot Com,

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Speaker 2: tact You and the author of six books about how

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Speaker 2: to make your family happier. And I'm here with my

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Speaker 2: sick wife Kylie. It's amazing that we can get through

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Speaker 2: these podcasts. But we're going to soldier on with Quadrall,

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Speaker 2: not sponsored, just saying not sponsored, maybe we should be.

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Speaker 4: Have you ever had Condrall?

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Speaker 3: No, I don't think I have.

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Speaker 2: I don't get sick.

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Speaker 4: It's amazing. Those jingles.

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Speaker 2: They're just sticking your head though, don't they They? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Now we need to pause for a moment and actually

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Speaker 2: be quite serious. Today is the eleventh of November. The

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Speaker 2: eleventh of the eleventh at eleven am, Remembrance Day, a

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Speaker 2: much tragedy that's occurred in the history of the world,

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Speaker 2: throughout world wars and specifically World War One, ending after

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Speaker 2: so many lives were lost, so many battles fought for what, well,

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Speaker 2: I guess for world peace.

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Speaker 3: It didn't last very long.

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Speaker 2: But I'm grateful on Remembrance Day that we live in

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Speaker 2: So I just wanted to acknowledge and recognize Remembrance Day.

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Speaker 2: Hopefully today at eleven am, you'll have an opportunity to

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Speaker 2: pause and reflect and express some heartfelt appreciation for those

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Speaker 2: who have sacrificed for us. Now, with that acknowledgment, let's

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Speaker 2: talk about parental guidance.

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Speaker 6: Homeschooling builds that family camaraderie that we're all in this together,

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Speaker 6: so generally we can work it out.

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Speaker 3: Kylie, last night, I know we've.

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Speaker 4: Said this every day, but last night was a pretty

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Speaker 2: I just I love this show. I know I'm in it,

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Speaker 2: but this is a show that I would watch even

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Speaker 2: redeeming it is as well, Like we get to see

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Speaker 2: these three dimensional parents. There's no we're just seeing one

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Speaker 2: side of them being the strict parents or the discipline parents,

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Speaker 2: or the routine parents, the tiger parents. We're actually seeing

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Speaker 2: these well rounded individuals who are trying their best for

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Speaker 2: four couples are moving into the crowded House, four Families,

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Speaker 2: communal living, super parenting challenges. Cannot wait for next week.

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Speaker 2: But like you said, last night, lot's to talk about.

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Speaker 2: We watched some really great stuff and we also had

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Speaker 3: And there are.

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Speaker 2: Two topics that we need to discuss on the podcast today.

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Speaker 2: The first one negotiating as a family, because the way

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Speaker 2: those families navigated the challenge go to a theme park?

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Speaker 2: Can you believe we did this? Go to a theme park,

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Speaker 2: You're only allowed to go on one ride.

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Speaker 6: I'm quite surprised. They went straight for the job. They're

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Speaker 4: I mean, is that really what happened after the cameras stopped?

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Speaker 4: Did they get to have none? Are you serious?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? We sent them to the theme park.

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Speaker 2: They went on literally one ride, and then we said, okay,

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Speaker 4: Man, I think that would have been we caught right then.

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Speaker 2: I think that it was pretty hush, but sometimes life

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Speaker 3: So yeah, they went to the show.

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Speaker 2: They went into the theme park, they got to go

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Speaker 2: But the negotiations, we've got to talk about that. That's

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Speaker 2: our first topic for the podcast when we come back

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Speaker 2: after break. We're also going to talk about whether we

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Speaker 2: let's dive into this negotiating as a family. I'm just

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Speaker 2: curious if our family went to let's say Jamberu, because

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Speaker 4: One hundred percent of the thrill rise would have.

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Speaker 3: Been at the top of the letter is our kids,

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Speaker 4: And there would have been at least one child who

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Speaker 3: And that would have been you.

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Speaker 4: So we'll get to that was being diplomatic, Thank you

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Speaker 4: very much. It could have been you.

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Speaker 2: We'll get to the Tiger parents in sec But but

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Speaker 2: we've got to talk about Rachel's refusal.

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Speaker 4: I don't like many rides.

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Speaker 2: I don't like doing the big flippy ones coming.

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Speaker 5: No, no, no, there's no way we're not going on.

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Speaker 3: So we got teacup, then teacups to do the challenge

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Speaker 3: Baby Challenges. We all have to go on one ride together.

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Speaker 4: A little girl, not a baby. I've found this actually

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Speaker 2: Do you know what she said, I'm going to guess

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Speaker 4: That's exactly what she said. Wow, and then she counted one, two, three.

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Speaker 2: Really, so Sam and Rachel have this is that part

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Speaker 4: And I saw this little girl who's just like, I

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Speaker 2: I'm not a baby anymore, you make me go on

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Speaker 4: Yes, And just my heart broke for her. And it's

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Speaker 4: a completely different way. This time. She actually wanted to

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Speaker 2: Not that we want to bag out rage, right, I

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Speaker 2: mean for her own reasons. It was too much for her,

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Speaker 2: has different abilities. And Rachel also acknowledged she saw the contradiction,

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Speaker 4: It's interesting, though, because I, in some ways I relate

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Speaker 4: didn't seem to have any fears, but now even climbing

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think that's a critical thing. I really

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Speaker 2: And that's what we saw with Deb so complete opposite.

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Speaker 2: Rachel digs in the heels. She says, no, I'm not

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Speaker 3: Want to go on the roller coaster, and the kids like,

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Speaker 3: we're on the roller coaster.

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Speaker 6: Well, if the ruler is tall enough, we could go

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Speaker 6: if I'm pull enough, Okay, deal, No, sounds good. I'm

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Speaker 4: Coaster, the gold coaster.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: Oh wow, okay, oh my goodness. There was no way

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Speaker 2: Well, are you're excited? Yeah, you're excited. Yeah, it's going

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she's got my heart.

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Speaker 3: She's got my heart. That was I was. That's a

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Speaker 2: Doing hard things and this whole thing is kind of

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Speaker 2: like as a family, sometimes you've got to take one

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Speaker 2: for the team. Sometimes you've got to negotiate and figure

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Speaker 2: stuff out. Robin Sue's kids, Hudson and Fletcher, That's precisely.

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Speaker 2: They're like, Okay, you guys are arguing. One of you

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Speaker 3: The other way. Oh, look at this, that's cy looks cool.

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Speaker 2: What do you think this?

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Speaker 3: Or Papa part March deal? What do you think?

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Speaker 4: Fletch?

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Speaker 3: Oh, probably want this.

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Speaker 4: Rock, siss and papers is the best solution to any

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Speaker 3: You're lost. They okay, all right, mini golf.

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Speaker 4: It is as disciplined appearents. We know that disappointments are

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Speaker 4: suck it up. Let's be fair. They've kind of got

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Speaker 4: it easy. There's only two right, Sure, it's going to

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Speaker 4: be a fifty to fifty and paper scissors rock is

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Speaker 4: going to be the easiest way to negotiate. Can you

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Speaker 4: imagine doing that in our family? Who is six kids?

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Speaker 3: Oh my good well, how many?

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Speaker 4: How many guys do we have to tea here's his

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Speaker 4: paper rock before we got a conclusion.

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Speaker 2: Whenever I did that with my friends on my my siblings,

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Speaker 2: it'd be like best of three, best of three, best

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Speaker 3: That's exactly what it would be.

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Speaker 4: Seven.

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Speaker 2: Then we saw Penny and Daniel, they just had it

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Speaker 2: easy because we like, yeah, we want to do the same.

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Speaker 2: Like that was just in so much fun and it

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Speaker 2: was so nice to see one family actually not have

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Speaker 2: the one that we have to talk about The big

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Speaker 2: one was Kevin and Debbie are tiger parents. Mimi wanted

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Speaker 2: to play at Calypso Bay. I think it was called

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Speaker 2: just swim in the water and the rest.

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Speaker 4: Well, well, for someone who's not strong swimmers, and they

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Speaker 4: The great thing about this, I mean, we've never actually

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Speaker 3: That's right, It's just this is this is a.

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Speaker 2: This is what your head cold has done too much.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, explore explain in power. The one thing that we

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Speaker 3: Let's work it out together.

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Speaker 2: None of them did that, and to me, that's the perfect,

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Speaker 4: After the break, we're going to have a conversation about

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Speaker 4: whether or not forcing your children to say sorry is

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Speaker 4: actually teaching them to lie. It's the Happy Families Podcast.

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Speaker 4: It's the Happy Families Podcast. The podcast for a time

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Speaker 2: Before you talk about this statement, can I just say,

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Speaker 2: aren't you glad that you can listen to a podcast

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Speaker 4: A whole heap of sneezing in that break.

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Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, Yes, I am in the room.

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Speaker 2: Forcing children to apologize is teaching children to lie.

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Speaker 3: Well, you know as well as I do.

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Speaker 2: When I was about fourteen and fifteen, my sister Karina

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Speaker 4: It's interesting there's a common thread that goes through most

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Speaker 2: So there's an acknowledgment. Not only am I sorry, but

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Speaker 4: So what happens if you go through those steps and

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Speaker 2: This happens in our family all the time, because like

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Speaker 2: You just make sure that you keep it nice until then,

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Speaker 2: and let's work it out together. And that's how you

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Speaker 2: give a great apology. This means that we're not teaching

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Speaker 2: how to genuinely repair relationships. I think that's what I

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Speaker 4: I think that a lot of adults could learn a

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Speaker 2: Well, I know that it's something that's certainly worked for

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Speaker 4: I'm not going to say a word.

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Speaker 2: The Happy Families podcast is produced by Justin Ruland from

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Speaker 2: Bridge Media.

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Speaker 3: Craig Bruce is our executive producer.

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