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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is the Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letter subject. I have become friendly with his wife. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. I'm a twenty seven year old single female

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Speaker 1: and I just moved to my own place and started

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Speaker 1: a new job. I like my job, and I have

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Speaker 1: a few associates that I hang out with after work.

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Speaker 1: There's one guy that I am the closest with. He's

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Speaker 1: forty seven and married but unhappy at home. We created

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Speaker 1: a bond and we could tell each other anything without judgment.

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Speaker 1: The first time we made love, he made me feel

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Speaker 1: like a princess. Right after we started seeing each other,

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Speaker 1: I'm his wife. At the office, she asked me where

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Speaker 1: I got my hair braided, and I told her that

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Speaker 1: my cousin did it. I arranged for my cousin to

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Speaker 1: braid her hair at my place. The wife came over

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Speaker 1: on a Friday evening with a bottle of wine and

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Speaker 1: we sat and talked for five hours while she got

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Speaker 1: her hair braided. It felt awkward at first, but she's

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Speaker 1: really cool and easy to talk to. She's thirty three

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Speaker 1: and said sometimes she regrets marrying an older man. We

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Speaker 1: were vibing and enjoying the wine, all while some of

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Speaker 1: her husband's clothes, shoes, and toiletrees were at my house.

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Speaker 1: She didn't suspect a thing. Her husband texted me a

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Speaker 1: few times to make sure everything was going okay while

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Speaker 1: she was at my place. The following week, she invited

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Speaker 1: my cousin and I to meet her out for a drink.

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Speaker 1: She was flirting with men, and she left us early

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Speaker 1: to meet up with a male friend. I texted her

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Speaker 1: hubby my boyfriend, to tell him she might be cheating

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Speaker 1: on him. He told me that he doesn't want us

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Speaker 1: hanging out anymore. I've been aborting her since then, but

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Speaker 1: she won't stop calling and texting me. I think that

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Speaker 1: she and I are friendly enough for me to tell

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Speaker 1: her the truth about what's going on. I would want

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Speaker 1: to know if I was married, should I be honest

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Speaker 1: with her or not. Okay, really, come on, you're kidding

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Speaker 1: me right now? Right? I mean, I gotta ask you.

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Speaker 1: All of a sudden, you get morals and a conscious

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Speaker 1: you know you want to be open and honest, because

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Speaker 1: you certainly didn't have them when you decided to sleep

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Speaker 1: with her husband slash coworker. You're a coworker. You fell

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Speaker 1: for the tired, cheating husband, lion or I'm not happy

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Speaker 1: at home. You fell for that, And now, after deceitfully

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Speaker 1: befriending his wife, you want to tell her that you

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Speaker 1: and her man are having sex. Okay, how is this

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Speaker 1: sounding to you? Because, as you say, you and wife

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Speaker 1: are friendly enough? Now you know you had a bottle

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Speaker 1: of wine with her. Uh No, and just because you

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Speaker 1: drank a bottle of wine with her doesn't mean that

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Speaker 1: she will. She will not whoop your whoop your behind

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Speaker 1: about her man. Okay, you are being messy and petty.

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Speaker 1: Just beyond messy and petty, you're you're hurtful and delusional.

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Speaker 1: Right now, no good and what good can come of

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Speaker 1: this if you run your mouth to her. No, leave

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Speaker 1: these people alone before you destroy their family. Okay, and

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Speaker 1: we're not buying your line about you would want to

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Speaker 1: know if it was you, if you were, come on,

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Speaker 1: stop it. You sound really silly, you really do. And

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Speaker 1: this is Women's History Month. I just want to let

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Speaker 1: you know that. And we're not having that. Okay, we

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Speaker 1: are not having it, all right, Steve. Wow, this letter,

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Speaker 1: it just took so many sharp turns. I know, I mean,

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Speaker 1: you know, I couldn't even figure out how we went

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Speaker 1: from what to what. This woman is twenty seven years old,

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Speaker 1: obviously don't know nothing about life or marriage. You got

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Speaker 1: to be kidding me. So you meet this, I have

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Speaker 1: a job, and you got some associated you hang out with.

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Speaker 1: There's one guy that I'm closest with. Okay, we're going

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Speaker 1: along with it. He's forty seven and married but unhappy

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Speaker 1: at home. Of course he is. Okay, we created a

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Speaker 1: y'all just hanging out. The first time we made up?

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Speaker 1: What exactly when that come from? What? Y'all was just

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Speaker 1: made love. What. That's a hell of a jump, lady.

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Speaker 1: You just you don't even know how to write letters.

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Speaker 1: You're just anyway. First time we made love, he made

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Speaker 1: each other, I met his wife at the office. And

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Speaker 1: then she asked you about how you got your hair braidy,

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Speaker 1: You got your cousin come over with braidy And it

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Speaker 1: felt awkward at first, but she's really cool, easy talk

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Speaker 1: to god. Okay, how much wine was just more than

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Speaker 1: guess that made you feel better. Yeah. Then we were

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Speaker 1: vibing and enjoying the wine and all the while some

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Speaker 1: of her husband's clothes, shoes, and tarlet trees while at

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Speaker 1: my house. Wait a minute, what exactly he got clothes, shoes,

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Speaker 1: and tarlet trees at your house? What's happening? This story

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Speaker 1: just took some big turns in him. She didn't suspect

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Speaker 1: the thing. Her husband text me a few times to

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Speaker 1: make sure everything was going on. Okay while she was

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Speaker 1: at my place, Steve, you haven't killed me. This dude

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Speaker 1: is so damn concerned. Make sure everything Okay? What is

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Speaker 1: he saying though, Steve on the Andy. When we come

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Speaker 1: back and I finished the letter, I'm gonna tell you

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Speaker 1: what he's saying in the text after I do the

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Speaker 1: rest of the letter. All right, all right, we'll have

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Speaker 1: part two of Steve's response coming up at twenty three

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Speaker 1: minutes after the hours, subject I have become friendly with

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Speaker 1: his wife. Will get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Let's recap today Strawberry letters. Subject I have become friendly

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Speaker 1: with his wife. Okay, Uh, This twenty seven year old

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Speaker 1: woman and got this new job, moved into her home place,

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Speaker 1: and she made some friends with some associates they hang

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Speaker 1: out with after working. This one guy she close to.

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Speaker 1: He forty seven, and man, we ain't happy at the

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Speaker 1: each other anything. Anyway. After the first time we made love.

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Speaker 1: What That's where the letter just took us. We was

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Speaker 1: just talking passing no judgment, but we just saw we

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Speaker 1: was doing. We used to go out to drunk. The

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Speaker 1: next thing, you know, he just we naked and we

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Speaker 1: just and he made me feel like a princess. And

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Speaker 1: then right after we started seeing each other. So now

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Speaker 1: right away were seeing each other. This ain't no one

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Speaker 1: time we hit We eyed them and uh, you know,

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Speaker 1: she asked you met her wife at the office, asked

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Speaker 1: where you got a hebraid your cousin didn't she invited

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Speaker 1: you invited, she said, couldn't your husband do my half?

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Speaker 1: You invited over to du the hat. She bought a

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Speaker 1: bottle of wine. She thirty three years old. She easy

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Speaker 1: to talk to, She really cool. Y'all got to talk

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Speaker 1: and she admitted that she wished she hadn't married older man.

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Speaker 1: I guess that made you feel okay with seeing him.

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Speaker 1: We were vibing and joined the wine. All the while

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Speaker 1: some of her husband's closed shoes and tarntus was at

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Speaker 1: my house. And she didn't suspect a thing. No, no

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Speaker 1: woman would think that a woman that's seeing her husband

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Speaker 1: would invite her to her house to get her damn, halbraided.

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Speaker 1: It ain't like stupid, She just that's nothing. You can't

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Speaker 1: even think that exactly. You know, that's like a thief.

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Speaker 1: Invite me to the basement and he got all my

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Speaker 1: stolen stuff in that Yeah, yeah, that don't make no sense,

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Speaker 1: all right now, she didn't suspect the thing. Her husband

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Speaker 1: texts me a few times to make sure everything was

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Speaker 1: going okay. I'll tell you what that would text was

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Speaker 1: about Lato. While she was at my place the following week,

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Speaker 1: she invited your cousin not to meet out for a drink.

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Speaker 1: She was flirting with me, and she left us early

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Speaker 1: to meet up with a male friend. I text her

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Speaker 1: husband parentheses my boyfriend to tell him she might be

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Speaker 1: cheating on him. You got a lot of nerves. You

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Speaker 1: got a lot of damn nerve. I mean your youth

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Speaker 1: and inexperience with life, relationships, marriage and just how to

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Speaker 1: cheating on you. That's nerve. He told me he don't

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Speaker 1: want us hanging out no more. Then here we go.

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Speaker 1: I've been avoiding us since then, but she won't stop

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Speaker 1: calling texting me. This was a letter. I think she

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Speaker 1: and I are friendly enough for me to tell her

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Speaker 1: the truth about what's going on. What a stupid again,

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Speaker 1: y'all that damn friendly you're finding get stabbed? Are you nuts?

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Speaker 1: Have you lost your rabbit? Ass man? What is wrong

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Speaker 1: with you? See, you're too young to have an affair

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Speaker 1: because you don't know HI supposed to go? Hello, affairs

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Speaker 1: are wrong. We all know that, but you are too

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Speaker 1: supposed to go. You have a delusionary view that somehow

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Speaker 1: screwing your husband and some of his shoes, clothes and

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Speaker 1: tarletries is at my house and they was over there

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Speaker 1: when you was over that getting your hair braided. What man,

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Speaker 1: it's inconceivable. You can't tell this to no woman of

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Speaker 1: no race? And this go good? Right? Then? She says,

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Speaker 1: first and then y'all got cool. So now your stupid side,

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Speaker 1: your stupid side came up when you invited it to

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Speaker 1: all this. But somehow you think that if you were married,

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Speaker 1: you would want to know, you would want to know what,

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Speaker 1: Like Shirley said, where did you get all these morals

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Speaker 1: from all of a sudden? You didn't have now when

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Speaker 1: know when he got a wife. So I don't. I

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Speaker 1: record it for us and send it to her because

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Speaker 1: I really do now real quick. The text was that

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Speaker 1: he sent to her, Hey, anything good? Yeah, how's it going?

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Speaker 1: She said, anything to you? What y'all talking about? That's

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Speaker 1: what dirty works saying, like right, hey, let man, let

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Speaker 1: me ask you something. She ain't been in the bedroom

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Speaker 1: in closets. Yeah, hey, don't where my going going in

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Speaker 1: up under their hone plump plunge your at a matter

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Speaker 1: of fact, throw it away all right? Coming up next

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Speaker 1: after this, you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show