Speaker 1: I saw this movie Moxie the other day. It's based
Speaker 1: on a book I believe, and Amy Poehler produced it,
Speaker 1: and it's about teenagers in high school and these girls
Speaker 1: start this women's empowerment group and it's really a good movie. Paul,
Speaker 1: my fiance, has produced a bunch of independent films and
Speaker 1: Want of Peabody, and he was really just saying, I mean,
Speaker 1: this is not one of these sort of Netflix chop
Speaker 1: shop movies. It's actually a great movie. And in the movie,
Speaker 1: one of the threads was girls wearing tank tops that
Speaker 1: then the teacher or the headmaster, we're telling to, you know,
Speaker 1: cover up and not wear the tank tops. And the
Speaker 1: girl who had the really large breasts was saying, well,
Speaker 1: she's wearing a tank top to it. Why is it
Speaker 1: different for me and um and And to be honest,
Speaker 1: I understand from a female empowerment, women's liberation perspective what
Speaker 1: the girls saying, Yeah, we're both wearing the same tank top.
Speaker 1: I just happen to have larger breast From just a
Speaker 1: gut instinct seeing a girl's breasts so prominent, I also
Speaker 1: understand the the reaction and the visual. So it's funny
Speaker 1: because um My daughter yesterday was saying, would you let
Speaker 1: me wear this particular tank top like crop top to school?
Speaker 1: And my instinct was no, And and what's the reason.
Speaker 1: Should shouldn't girls be just proud of their bodies and
Speaker 1: where whatever they want and show their bodies and um,
Speaker 1: And then other people would say, right, but it's provocative,
Speaker 1: but it shouldn't be provocative because it should be that
Speaker 1: you should be able to just show your body. But
Speaker 1: then why can't you just walk out fully naked? Like
Speaker 1: where is the line? And so maybe I'm just traditional
Speaker 1: in old school, but I do think that, uh, I
Speaker 1: would say to my daughter, No, I don't. I say
Speaker 1: less is more, and you know you can you know
Speaker 1: she she just happens to be somewhat conservative and Earthian
Speaker 1: doesn't wear a lot of makeup. And I'm not fully
Speaker 1: out there wearing everything low cut and short and um.
Speaker 1: And but I noticed, and I talked on here in
Speaker 1: another time about the fact that in the movie Pretty Woman,
Speaker 1: everybody in this hotel was appalled in Beverly Hills to
Speaker 1: see what Julia Roberts was wearing. That's what people would
Speaker 1: wear now to go to a NIXT game, Like everybody
Speaker 1: just I mean everybody's wearing crop tops and really short skirts,
Speaker 1: and and you know, at the award shows, forget it,
Speaker 1: people are literally wearing something I don't think I would
Speaker 1: wear it to the beach. People are half naked and
Speaker 1: wearing fishnet stockings as pants. And it's self expression, it's creative,
Speaker 1: it's evolved. But um would you be okay with your
Speaker 1: teenage daughter wearing fishnet stockings to school? And if not,
Speaker 1: why not? So? I think it's an interesting conversation because, um,
Speaker 1: I understand both sides of it. You know, it's your body,
Speaker 1: and no one should be ashamed of their body. Uh.
Speaker 1: This comes up when people are breastfeeding. Oh their breasts,
Speaker 1: Get over it. I'm just feeding my child, you know. Um. So,
Speaker 1: but breasts are a provocative topic for people. So and
Speaker 1: it's just anatomy. Why is a leg not provocative? Although
Speaker 1: it can be, and a breast is. So I just
Speaker 1: think it's interesting that conversation. Um. And I also my
Speaker 1: first you know, my daughter will show me something and
Speaker 1: just like, can you believe this girl's only this age?
Speaker 1: Look at the dress she's wearing. Look how short this
Speaker 1: stress is, Look at the it's got no stomach. And
Speaker 1: I think it too. I think that there is age
Speaker 1: appropriate clothing and I don't think that young young girls
Speaker 1: should be wearing very prorocative clothing. Um. And why so
Speaker 1: we talked about the negatives of the pandemic, and of
Speaker 1: course some people have succeeded and their businesses have thrives
Speaker 1: because they happen to be on the right side of
Speaker 1: the coin during the pandemic, if you were in e
Speaker 1: commerce or home learning or um cars luxury goods. I mean,
Speaker 1: there's just so many random things that you wouldn't have
Speaker 1: thought ever anything food or cooking was successful. And then
Speaker 1: obviously other people's businesses really took a hit. And if
Speaker 1: you weren't able to flip the script and shake the
Speaker 1: snow globe and adjust, you know, you got pulled under.
Speaker 1: But I do think the pandemic brought many things to light.
Speaker 1: It brought many relationship issues to light. There were many
Speaker 1: I think there were a lot of divorces it um.
Speaker 1: It brought dating app and connecting and connecting online for
Speaker 1: love in a in a way that became beyond successful
Speaker 1: like the norm, like the way to meet someone. Because
Speaker 1: I do believe in the beginning, certain people were going
Speaker 1: on apps and they would meet people and they would
Speaker 1: hook up. And older people, maybe divorces or people in
Speaker 1: my age group had dabble, but they weren't fully immersed
Speaker 1: in it. And I do think in the pandemic just
Speaker 1: it became you could talk to anybody you wanted, which
Speaker 1: is why TikTok became so huge, because you're just connecting
Speaker 1: and communicating about food and slow cooking and relationships and
Speaker 1: dancing and everything. So that was a big shift in
Speaker 1: the pandemic. It brought things to light what people wanted
Speaker 1: to do with their lives, what they didn't want to do.
Speaker 1: For me, I really shaved off a lot of business
Speaker 1: opportunities that I that weren't making me happy, that I
Speaker 1: didn't want to work on. And it sounds obvious if
Speaker 1: you don't want to do what you shouldn't do it
Speaker 1: money and notwithstanding, meaning people have to pay their rent
Speaker 1: and their insurance and for their kids school and for
Speaker 1: food on the table. So I'm not saying everyone has
Speaker 1: a luxury of not doing something they don't want to.
Speaker 1: But you could have five sort of shitty jobs and
Speaker 1: maybe one is at least closer to what you like
Speaker 1: doing and closer to your passion and I did take
Speaker 1: a lot of things off the board, as I describe it,
Speaker 1: meaning I just really created a discipline to say, is
Speaker 1: this making me happy? Does this give me an r O?
Speaker 1: I return on my investment? Meaning of my time? Am
Speaker 1: I feeling stressed out and miserable, mine in a bad
Speaker 1: mood when I do it? Um? Do I feel happy? Um?
Speaker 1: Not financially, but do I feel happy emotionally? I mean,
Speaker 1: am I doing more relief work and helping people? So
Speaker 1: that's got to return on my investment? Or um? Is
Speaker 1: it something where there's a smash and grab money job?
Speaker 1: So I it's a grind, but I I cash a
Speaker 1: check and I don't love doing it, But that's that's
Speaker 1: the r O. I. So I feel like a lot
Speaker 1: of those questions became very prominent, and for myself, I
Speaker 1: decided that more is not more, and that I wanted
Speaker 1: to do less than quality of life. And even though
Speaker 1: I always have spent all the time I'm not working
Speaker 1: with my daughter, it made the time that I was
Speaker 1: working such a grind that it was either that I
Speaker 1: was with my daughter or the second that I wasn't.
Speaker 1: I was so crammed in with work that there became
Speaker 1: no time for me whatsoever. And I talked about and
Speaker 1: think about balance for women, and it's such a question
Speaker 1: that everyone asks. They always ask it in a way
Speaker 1: like how do you find balance? And then someone has
Speaker 1: to give some like a drink, water and sleep, And
Speaker 1: I don't find that like it's always some basic answer.
Speaker 1: But if you truly think about it, like how do
Speaker 1: you find balance? You have to also have some time
Speaker 1: for you. Women are scrambling and trying to fit fifty
Speaker 1: pounds of ship in a five pound bag, and so
Speaker 1: if you are doing stacking, which I do, and it's
Speaker 1: a great practice because then you get quality time with
Speaker 1: your kids and then you really are a president at work.
Speaker 1: Where's the U time? I realized I was spending time
Speaker 1: in my relationship. I was spending time traveling to go places.
Speaker 1: I was spending time with my daughter, I was spending
Speaker 1: time with work, but spending no I was spending no
Speaker 1: time with myself. And that was one thing I do
Speaker 1: miss about the pandemic. Spending time just with Brin and
Speaker 1: the dogs, my dog. Spending quality time with your dogs
Speaker 1: is like spending quality time with your kids. And sometimes
Speaker 1: they're just around the house and you can see them
Speaker 1: after a day and be like, I haven't seen you
Speaker 1: all day, and you feel guilty, just like with your kids.
Speaker 1: So the pandemic I miss in the pandemic that time
Speaker 1: alone for nothing all day. You could just think about
Speaker 1: a recipe, recipe to make just a cocktail, to make
Speaker 1: it five o'clock with fresh mint, or something you order
Speaker 1: online or some gadget you bought. And I do miss
Speaker 1: that because I was built for that pandemic, and truthfully,
Speaker 1: bringing things to light, the pandemic saved my life. The
Speaker 1: pandemic saved my life. I my girlfriend pointed it out,
Speaker 1: And the pandemic is when I got primary custody of
Speaker 1: my daughter after a ten year torturous divorce because the
Speaker 1: pandemic ought things to light, brought the truth to light
Speaker 1: with my daughter. And as they get older, when they're younger,
Speaker 1: and if you're going through a divorce, when you get
Speaker 1: when you have younger kids, they process information differently. But
Speaker 1: later the movie all comes into play. All the cards
Speaker 1: shuffle in the deck and they kind of realized flashbacks
Speaker 1: of things that happened when they were younger, and they
Speaker 1: put the pieces together because they're now functioning opinionated people
Speaker 1: and all of this happened because the world slowed down
Speaker 1: for the pandemic and my daughter realized a lot of things,
Speaker 1: and UM, it was a very challenging time. It was
Speaker 1: a very stressful time. I cannot explain how challenging the
Speaker 1: pandemic was because I had a tortures situation that I
Speaker 1: will go into detail on um at a later date.
Speaker 1: But during the pandemic it put a pin and finalized
Speaker 1: something that had gone on for years, and we I
Speaker 1: did as many custody legal court dates as I did
Speaker 1: for the past ten years in person. Now I was
Speaker 1: doing these court dates and lawyers and she had a
Speaker 1: lawyer and all of this at home. So so so
Speaker 1: trust me when I say the pandemic was a ship
Speaker 1: storm and a nightmare, but it resolved something that was
Speaker 1: just seemed like it was going to go on for
Speaker 1: the rest of my life. It seemed endless, and I
Speaker 1: just was shackled and suffocated and couldn't breathe and just
Speaker 1: felt trapped and like it was in an endless journey.
Speaker 1: And I stayed the course and I checked every box,
Speaker 1: and I it's what I talked about with Kanye making
Speaker 1: all the wrong moves. I did everything the way that
Speaker 1: you're supposed to do what. I wasn't rash, I wasn't
Speaker 1: half cocked. I didn't think I knew everything. I respected
Speaker 1: the process. I respected the legal system like I do
Speaker 1: the ocean. You cannot funk around with it. It will
Speaker 1: come and it will pull you under. But by the
Speaker 1: end of the pandemic, the situation, well the pandemic is
Speaker 1: not over. But by the end of the hardcore quarantined pandemic, okay,
Speaker 1: there was a resolution. And sometimes maybe maybe is what
Speaker 1: is it? It's no is the second best answer, meaning
Speaker 1: they know, is this Like maybe is the worst answer.
Speaker 1: I'm getting it wrong, But it's like, yes, it is
Speaker 1: a good answer. Maybe no is not great that's what.
Speaker 1: Yes it's a good answer. No is not such a
Speaker 1: great answer. Often but maybe he's the worst answer. So
Speaker 1: all these years of maybe and I don't know and
Speaker 1: will this ever end? And just this being resolved, it
Speaker 1: just was finite. And so the pandemic saved my life.
Speaker 1: And what's funny is people talk about situations that they're in.
Speaker 1: It could be a bad toxic work situation, a toxic relationship, um,
Speaker 1: a work complication, a lawsuit, just a conflict, a kid
Speaker 1: that's got problems at school or emotional issues at home,
Speaker 1: like any kind of thing that's sort of just lingering.
Speaker 1: I know people who are in bad relationships and they
Speaker 1: break up and then they get rid of a knot
Speaker 1: that's been living in their back. They didn't know why
Speaker 1: I wouldn't go away, Like things live in your body,
Speaker 1: and any time that there's something so weighing on you
Speaker 1: and toxic, when it's gone, you just and it takes
Speaker 1: a while, but you feel differently. So it's been a
Speaker 1: while since the resolution, but it's like it's just like
Speaker 1: exiting my body. I feel like a different person. I
Speaker 1: feel more relaxed. Even on the nights that I don't sleep,
Speaker 1: I don't feel afraid like I used to. I just
Speaker 1: feel like, okay, I didn't sleep, but my whole being.
Speaker 1: I noticed it when I'm on a plane when I'm
Speaker 1: waiting for something, and usually I would be edgy or
Speaker 1: I noticed because i went to do Ellen recently for
Speaker 1: the final episode, and I've been there twenty five times
Speaker 1: before this, and I usually like we're doing that, someone
Speaker 1: are we doing next? And I was like, hey, dudes, chill,
Speaker 1: Like it's just when something toxic leaves your life and
Speaker 1: your body. You really just feel different. So, um, the
Speaker 1: pandemic eliminated a lot of things for people, good and bad,
Speaker 1: but at least it resolved things for people. So that's
Speaker 1: what I think about that