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Speaker 1: What's Your Girl? And host just hilarious. Listen, I've been
Speaker 1: taken to the liking of all the followers on the
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Speaker 1: and stuff to the email and all that type of stuff.
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna name this episode just fix my mess now.
Speaker 1: This is a segment that I was doing back in
Speaker 1: season one that I stopped doing. Don't ask me why
Speaker 1: I just stopped, do you know what I mean? But
Speaker 1: I'm picking it back up now. And I asked you
Speaker 1: guys last week on the Carefully Reckless page to submit
Speaker 1: some of the most complicating situations that you're going through
Speaker 1: right now, that you've been through and that you don't
Speaker 1: ever want to go through, or if someone close to
Speaker 1: you went through something. Just keep it anonymous, because unlike
Speaker 1: last season, I'm not gonna put anybody out there, and
Speaker 1: a lot of y'all didn't really care about me putting
Speaker 1: your names and Instagram handles and social media handles out
Speaker 1: there because you know, you just didn't care. But I'm
Speaker 1: going to keep everybody anonymous, you know, just turning over
Speaker 1: a new leaf, and it will still help people, whether
Speaker 1: people know who you are or not. So these are
Speaker 1: stories gearing toward relationship problems. Okay, First one, Jess, I've
Speaker 1: been with my man for eight months. I changed a
Speaker 1: lot of ship for him, including changing my clothes when
Speaker 1: he feels that my outfits are too seductive for public.
Speaker 1: But I feel my outfits are empowering and I don't
Speaker 1: want to change them, so I stopped. Whenever he gets upset,
Speaker 1: he screams and yells and calls me thoughts, what the
Speaker 1: funk should I do? What's my standpoint? Because I want
Speaker 1: to leave, but I do love him? Okay, Okay, so
Speaker 1: I can see both sides. This is the thing. No
Speaker 1: man wants their woman to be walking around showing leavage
Speaker 1: and showing body parts that only he needs to see.
Speaker 1: So I definitely do understand. You know, if he feels
Speaker 1: as if your outfits are too seductive and he wants
Speaker 1: you to change them, if you are willing to change them,
Speaker 1: if you love him, that much and you're willing, then
Speaker 1: it's nothing wrong with that. Now, what is he doing
Speaker 1: to you that's making you not want to keep the
Speaker 1: deal like it was and then you want to wear
Speaker 1: your cities out and ship like that's the thing. What
Speaker 1: is he doing? Is he not reciprocating any sacrifices or
Speaker 1: any compromised like because that that's a compromise. I would
Speaker 1: deem that as a sacrifice. You sacrificed your style for
Speaker 1: your man because he feels some type of way about
Speaker 1: you dressing like a damn hooker. Okay, mate, you didn't
Speaker 1: say that. I'm an chill out all right, My bad,
Speaker 1: but that's what it looks like to him. And I've
Speaker 1: been through a similar situation. You know, my previous relationship.
Speaker 1: My boyfriend did not like for me to wear my
Speaker 1: body all the time. He didn't like for me to
Speaker 1: be tworking all over the internet, and Ship didn't like
Speaker 1: for others to see what his eyes should only see
Speaker 1: what's for him. You know, in a sense, you belong
Speaker 1: to that person and that person belongs to you. When
Speaker 1: you officialize something, officialize is not a word, but damn it,
Speaker 1: I made it up. When you officialize, I think officiate is,
Speaker 1: but I like officialized, when you officialize a relationship meaning
Speaker 1: this is what we're doing, we're moving forward, we're together,
Speaker 1: we are one together, not even marriage, just a relationship.
Speaker 1: You have to be secure enough and you have to
Speaker 1: set those boundaries. Look, this is what I don't like.
Speaker 1: And he told you that, But something had to happen
Speaker 1: for you to go back to wearing that ship. Maybe
Speaker 1: he's not compromising enough for you. Maybe you feel like
Speaker 1: you've been compromising for him and changing yourself and and
Speaker 1: he hasn't done anything. But he has a list of
Speaker 1: demands for you. So I don't think if you love him,
Speaker 1: you should leave. This should be a conversation piece. You
Speaker 1: should sit down and talk to him, and you know,
Speaker 1: dress up in your lingerie girl, dress up in your
Speaker 1: goddamn law garay and you know, strip for him and
Speaker 1: do all of that, you know if if he likes that,
Speaker 1: and then you know, you get them all riled up.
Speaker 1: Feed him some strawberries his favorite fruit. Something, give him
Speaker 1: like a nice little tease, like a nice little strip show,
Speaker 1: you know, and put it on his ass right and
Speaker 1: then sell them. Babe, Listen, these are my issues. This
Speaker 1: is the issue I know that you don't like me
Speaker 1: having my body out. I know that. However, this is
Speaker 1: my issue with you. I felt like you're not compromising enough.
Speaker 1: I changed for you. I don't feel like you're changing
Speaker 1: enough for me for me to keep on keeping up
Speaker 1: with your demands. If you want to stay, stay. I
Speaker 1: don't think this is a big deal. Honestly, guys, and
Speaker 1: to all my listeners out there, y'all can give me
Speaker 1: your feedback. If y'all feel like my advice, you know,
Speaker 1: was good enough for my baby almost at a name.
Speaker 1: If you feel like it was good enough, let me know,
Speaker 1: because I feel like this is not big Ladies, this
Speaker 1: is not big man. They can make it through this.
Speaker 1: They just have to communicate and he has to be
Speaker 1: willing to compromise with your list of demands if you
Speaker 1: have any as well. Okay, everything has to be reciprocated
Speaker 1: in a relationship. Okay, moving on. I was dating this
Speaker 1: guy for about a year, but I had never been
Speaker 1: to his house. He always would come to mind, or
Speaker 1: we would get hotels and we would travel. I would
Speaker 1: post him, he would post me, but it was just
Speaker 1: something that would keep me from coming over his house.
Speaker 1: I asked him and he would always go around the
Speaker 1: situation and want to take me out or come to
Speaker 1: my house. What do you think that was about, Well,
Speaker 1: the fact that the story is described in the past tense.
Speaker 1: I think you figured that out your damn self, or
Speaker 1: or did y'all break up for a whole another reason,
Speaker 1: I don't know. Because you said you dated this guy
Speaker 1: for about a year, I honestly wouldn't automatically skip ahead
Speaker 1: to thinking that he had someone living with him or
Speaker 1: he was necessarily living a double life. My mind would
Speaker 1: go to, and this is only because you said, y'all
Speaker 1: posted each other. You know, you are posting each other up,
Speaker 1: were going out on trips, he was with you, He
Speaker 1: was always your house and hotels or whatever, just whatever.
Speaker 1: That's the main reason why I wouldn't automatically go to
Speaker 1: the fact that he may have had someone else living
Speaker 1: at home or living a double life. I will honestly
Speaker 1: say that maybe he didn't have a place to live
Speaker 1: and he could have been living with his mother, or
Speaker 1: he could have been staying with a homeboy and was
Speaker 1: leading you to believe that he had his own home
Speaker 1: or whatever, or maybe he never even spoken of it.
Speaker 1: But you know, women minds wander, our minds wander. If
Speaker 1: we don't know, something will start running in our heads
Speaker 1: and we will make up some ship and we will
Speaker 1: get in our own way. I do feel like you
Speaker 1: should have told me a couple of his responses when
Speaker 1: you would ask him, why can't I come to your house?
Speaker 1: So let me come over? Because you said that he
Speaker 1: would always go around it. How would he go around it?
Speaker 1: What are the things that he would say, like, oh, no,
Speaker 1: my ship, my house dirty right now, or you know,
Speaker 1: or I'm getting the carpet pulled up and ship like whatever.
Speaker 1: But this was a year, a year, and you hadn't
Speaker 1: been to his residence. Maybe he ain't have no goddamn residence,
Speaker 1: or think worst case scenario, maybe he was living a life.
Speaker 1: Maybe he did have a girlfriend at home, or a
Speaker 1: wife at home, or a man at home, a boyfriend
Speaker 1: at home. It doesn't matter. Nowadays, you never motherfucker know.
Speaker 1: So you have to make sure you know a person
Speaker 1: before you even solidify anything. You have to make sure
Speaker 1: that or at least that you know the basis, because
Speaker 1: let's just be honest here, nobody is gonna ever know
Speaker 1: everything about their partner before they decide to make it official.
Speaker 1: It's mary folks still getting to know each other right now,
Speaker 1: still learning each other right now, said this day. It's
Speaker 1: people who have been in relationships for years who still
Speaker 1: don't know each and everything about each other, who still
Speaker 1: are learning each other, you know. So you have to
Speaker 1: remain cognizant of that as well. But you were supposed
Speaker 1: to give me some more meat to that damn story. Girl.
Speaker 1: You definitely was. You're actually out of that based on
Speaker 1: the tents of your statements, So I don't need to
Speaker 1: give you any advice. But you did ask me what
Speaker 1: I thought. Like I said, I really think that he
Speaker 1: doesn't have a home, you know, giving all the factors
Speaker 1: of everything that you described, I don't think that he
Speaker 1: had anywhere to stay. I think he may have been
Speaker 1: staying with somebody or whatever like that. Hold up, Hold up,
Speaker 1: I know the ship getting good. But listen to just
Speaker 1: a couple of seconds of a commercial. If you love me,
Speaker 1: you'll listen. Okay. The next one is from a guy.
Speaker 1: I love when my guys right me. Because everybody thinks
Speaker 1: I'm just all for the women. No, I'm for the people, baby. Okay.
Speaker 1: So this one is from a guy. Why every time
Speaker 1: I get into my girl's car. The passenger seat is
Speaker 1: not how I left it. It's linked all the way back.
Speaker 1: And you already know what the funk that's given. Okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: So he didn't pose a question at the end. He's
Speaker 1: just letting me know that he don't like that ship
Speaker 1: every time. So have you taken this to her? Now?
Speaker 1: This man did. I can say his name, but I'm
Speaker 1: not going to Oh my god, I want to call
Speaker 1: you boy. Your name so bad. Listen, have you talked
Speaker 1: to her about it? You need to go to her.
Speaker 1: Go to her? Okay, and listen. Do you have your
Speaker 1: own car? Because why are you always riding with her? Basically? No?
Speaker 1: And listen, listen, No, I'm not down to you. If
Speaker 1: you don't have a car, that's fine. If you don't
Speaker 1: have a car. And if you don't have a car
Speaker 1: and she does and she is your only means of transportation,
Speaker 1: is that the reason why you haven't bought this up
Speaker 1: to her? If you haven't because you feel like, all right,
Speaker 1: this is her car. You know I ain't I ain't
Speaker 1: driving right now, but every time I get in this
Speaker 1: motherfucking car, this ship linked all the way back. I'm
Speaker 1: guessing further than when you lean it back. That's what
Speaker 1: I'm guessing, because you said it's never how you left it, okay,
Speaker 1: So that means one, you're always in her passenger seats,
Speaker 1: so that means you're never driving. And then too, you
Speaker 1: pay attention, motherfucker. That's that's what that means. You pay attention.
Speaker 1: I do get it. You have to talk to her.
Speaker 1: You have to talk to her. Some girls leaning all
Speaker 1: the way back. She might have a home girl, or
Speaker 1: she might have a guy in the car. It may
Speaker 1: not be somebody that she's sucking with it. Maybe I
Speaker 1: don't know. It could be a homeboy, a cousin, Like
Speaker 1: do you notice a guy best friend that she has?
Speaker 1: Like you, you have to sit down and talk. Things
Speaker 1: are so childish to me. These are childish. And the
Speaker 1: reason why I'm deeming it as childish, guys, because these
Speaker 1: are just one two questions that you can talk to
Speaker 1: your mate about. And if you ain't scared, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, you can go and talk to your
Speaker 1: girlfriend about that. You're supposed to be able to call
Speaker 1: your bitch and be like or go in the house
Speaker 1: and be like, yo's come here, come here, come go
Speaker 1: go in and get her asked up if she sleep
Speaker 1: or go get her out the kitchen, if she's cooking,
Speaker 1: take her, pull her away from the TV. Listen, come here,
Speaker 1: let me let me show you this real quick. Take
Speaker 1: her ass outside by her hand, lead her around the car,
Speaker 1: Open up that goddamn door. Show her, Yo, this ain't
Speaker 1: how I left it. What's this like? You know? Talk
Speaker 1: to her, ask her, and I guarantee you you either
Speaker 1: gonna get the truth or you ain't. But whatever her responses,
Speaker 1: you're gonna know what happened. Whatever the fucking response is,
Speaker 1: You're gonna be able to get the truth. You will
Speaker 1: know something right or you was just overreacting, you said
Speaker 1: every time you get in there. So either she is
Speaker 1: frequently cheating or she not, it gotta be the same person.
Speaker 1: If the ship always linked back, it gotta be the
Speaker 1: same person. And if she is cheating, that means this
Speaker 1: bitch love niggas that don't drive. That's what I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna keep it, Keep it simple for you, baby. She
Speaker 1: just she loved the fact that y'all depend on her.
Speaker 1: She loved the fact that y'all need her. A lot
Speaker 1: of women love to be needed. They love to be
Speaker 1: a necessity to a man. You get what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: They love for a man to depend on them. I
Speaker 1: need for you to get your own car, and if
Speaker 1: you in her house, get the funk up out of
Speaker 1: there too, because if there is another man in her
Speaker 1: car every time you get out, it is another man
Speaker 1: in her house every time you leave out. So I
Speaker 1: need for you to understand that, brother, and we're gonna
Speaker 1: move on. We got another man, yes, lord, I love it. Yo.
Speaker 1: My baby mother has been receiving child support. But my
Speaker 1: baby is well taken care of by me and her.
Speaker 1: We both work and have jobs. So why the funk
Speaker 1: and my own child support? Right? She uses the money
Speaker 1: to buy nice things for herself. What the fuck? You'll say,
Speaker 1: what the fuck? I get it and makes you upset
Speaker 1: and listen. On a more serious note, these women they
Speaker 1: do that ship. There there are mothers out here like that.
Speaker 1: There are men out here, these fathers who are taking
Speaker 1: care of their children and they are still on child support. Ship.
Speaker 1: I know men that keep their kids, primarily single fathers
Speaker 1: who are on fucking child support literally, like my father
Speaker 1: was just one of them. My father was just on
Speaker 1: child support for his daughter and his daughter lives with him.
Speaker 1: My little sister was living with him and still was
Speaker 1: on child support. You feel me like, it's just hard.
Speaker 1: Once you go on, it's hard as ship to get
Speaker 1: you off. That's why I always tell ladies, listen, if
Speaker 1: you don't need to put him on child support, if
Speaker 1: you absolutely don't need to and you're not doing it
Speaker 1: out of spite and you really really fucking need child support,
Speaker 1: don't put them on there unless you really need it,
Speaker 1: because it's hard as fun to get a man off,
Speaker 1: and that's not the way you hit below the belt.
Speaker 1: If a guy is really taking care of his child
Speaker 1: and you don't need the state for those extra benefits
Speaker 1: and you don't need to go through the courts to
Speaker 1: get him to take care of your child, don't do it.
Speaker 1: All other personal ship don't have nothing to do with
Speaker 1: the baby. Seriously, And I know this sounds like cliche,
Speaker 1: but this is real life ship that women go through
Speaker 1: and men go through. My son's dad, rome little baby father,
Speaker 1: he on child support. Two of his kids moms have
Speaker 1: him on child support because them bitches was mad at him,
Speaker 1: not because he don't take care of his kids. He
Speaker 1: still take care of his kids. What y'all don't understand
Speaker 1: is when y'all do that ship out of feelings and
Speaker 1: all that type of ship, and y'all get back cool
Speaker 1: with the nigga, then y'all feel bad. Then y'all try
Speaker 1: to take him off, but the state don't work like that. Now.
Speaker 1: They're not just gonna oh he he good this week?
Speaker 1: Are we gonna take them off and ship? Now? It's
Speaker 1: so many loopholes and so many hurdles and obstacles you
Speaker 1: have to jump through and go through and conquer to
Speaker 1: get a man off of child support. It's not that
Speaker 1: fucking easy. And then also when you put a man
Speaker 1: on child support who's taking care of his child, you're
Speaker 1: actually taking away from with the child could potentially have
Speaker 1: if they weren't on child support. Because even with my
Speaker 1: son's dad, he's on child support for one of his kids.
Speaker 1: He was doing so much more for her before he
Speaker 1: was put on child support. So it's like, damn, you
Speaker 1: didn't sunk that up because you're mad because the nigga
Speaker 1: ain't with you, but he's still taking kid of his baby,
Speaker 1: and you had the baby so he would stay with you.
Speaker 1: But you've got to understand also that these men are
Speaker 1: not staying for these babies. A baby cannot keep a man,
Speaker 1: and that is very selfish to a child, very selfish.
Speaker 1: So I'm sorry, brother, I'm so, so sorry, but you
Speaker 1: need to take that ship to the courts. Okay. You
Speaker 1: need to be able to provide proof that your daughter
Speaker 1: or your son or I don't know if it's children
Speaker 1: are well taken care of. You know, you need to
Speaker 1: see counsel and you know, try to get custody or
Speaker 1: joint custody or something like that that will help you
Speaker 1: out in that situation, because I know how that looks
Speaker 1: and I know how that feels. There's been many a
Speaker 1: times that my son's dad has cried over that ship, like, yo,
Speaker 1: I'm literally going broke trying to take care of my
Speaker 1: kids and page you'll support, Why the fund do I
Speaker 1: have to do both when I'm already taking care of them?
Speaker 1: You know? So I definitely do understand your frustration, and
Speaker 1: I'm sorry about that, brother, because a lot of times
Speaker 1: these women ain't shipped, These mothers ain't shet y'all. Lord,
Speaker 1: Now we got a commercial and if you click off
Speaker 1: of this podcast, I swear I'm gonna beat your ass.
Speaker 1: Listen Okay, moving on, I broke up with my nigga.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, stop saying nigga, this is this is
Speaker 1: a young girl right here. I broke up with my nigga.
Speaker 1: And the crazy thing is I started falling for his
Speaker 1: best friend. His best friend is the one that I
Speaker 1: wanted from the jump, but he was in a relationship already.
Speaker 1: I broke up with my boyfriend around the same time
Speaker 1: he broke up with his girlfriend. Would that be bad
Speaker 1: if we started to link? Bitch, let me tell you
Speaker 1: something the way you just asked me that motherfucking question.
Speaker 1: You already linking with this nigga. Don't don't sit here.
Speaker 1: Don't sit here and try to Yeah, I'm talking to
Speaker 1: you because I know you're listening, all right. Don't sit
Speaker 1: here and try to act like you ain't already make
Speaker 1: up in your mind that she was gonna funk with
Speaker 1: that nigga before you broke up with his friend. Don't
Speaker 1: do that. Okay. You know I ain't for this ship.
Speaker 1: I ain't for it. You know. I support a lot
Speaker 1: of funk ships. Sometimes I support a lot of ratch city.
Speaker 1: You know, I support a lot of ghet on this.
Speaker 1: I do a lot of messy ship, but not this
Speaker 1: that as nasty as fun, and they're not just friends.
Speaker 1: They ain't just homeboys, but they're not co workers. Okay,
Speaker 1: they're they're best friends. You just said to me you
Speaker 1: had your eye on the best friend before you even
Speaker 1: pursued his homeboy. It must have been a reason why
Speaker 1: he wasn't able to date this nigga. He was in
Speaker 1: a relationship, right, so you played house with his homeboy
Speaker 1: and monitored his relationship the whole time because y'all just
Speaker 1: out of nowhere coincidentally broke up at the same time,
Speaker 1: broke up with your boyfriend and girlfriend at the same
Speaker 1: damn time, And you ask in me, would it be
Speaker 1: wrong for y'all to link you? Motherfucking right, is wrong
Speaker 1: that you're sucking that nigga? Yep, I ain't even gonna
Speaker 1: answer it, like you didn't already go see him, stop playing,
Speaker 1: And honestly, I'm gonna take it a step further. You
Speaker 1: might have been sucking around with the best friend while
Speaker 1: you was with your boyfriend, and the poor boyfriend don't know,
Speaker 1: and the poor girlfriend don't know. I hope they all listening,
Speaker 1: because that's nasty. And her name is Stasia. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: put you out there, bitch. Anastasia is her name, Anastasia
Speaker 1: right to seven? All right, I ain't gonna put out
Speaker 1: the whole Instagram. And I just got mad at that
Speaker 1: because that's some nasty as ship. Girl. You already knew
Speaker 1: I wasn't going to agree with that ship. I'm moving
Speaker 1: on from that. That's that's disgusted. Okay, moving on. Okay,
Speaker 1: I like this one. Hey, Jess. I am a wealthy author. Okay.
Speaker 1: I have four books out and I'm on my fifth one.
Speaker 1: I am currently engaged and about to get married. I
Speaker 1: presented the idea of a prenup to my fiancee and
Speaker 1: he refused to sign it. Am I wrong for that? Well,
Speaker 1: let me ask you a question, and you're gonna eventually
Speaker 1: write me back. Is that a dealbreaker for you that
Speaker 1: he won't sign it? I need some more information, I
Speaker 1: need some more meat. I need to know how long
Speaker 1: you've been together. Were you struggling with him before? Like,
Speaker 1: what was he with you when you didn't have anything?
Speaker 1: If you if you've ever had nothing, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean? Maybe you have never been in that predicament
Speaker 1: of not not trying to put that on you. I'm
Speaker 1: just saying, was he there? You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Prenups are always scary for people because there has been
Speaker 1: a stigma put on them. A prenup is an agreement
Speaker 1: that you signed prior to marriage that states you leave
Speaker 1: this marriage like you came in. You leave this marriage
Speaker 1: with whatever you brought to this marriage. That's what a
Speaker 1: prenup is put in place for. Okay, Now, without the prenup,
Speaker 1: if you guys get a divorce, she would then have
Speaker 1: to give up half of everything that she worked hard for,
Speaker 1: or even if he didn't have anything to do with it,
Speaker 1: half of it would go to him, you know, and
Speaker 1: then depends on any other things that their lawyers work
Speaker 1: out or whatever. But is it a deal breaker for you?
Speaker 1: I can't even really speak on it until I know,
Speaker 1: you know, because I'm gonna give you this. Charlemagne and
Speaker 1: God just sat down and did an interview, right, and
Speaker 1: I love him by the way, he and his wife
Speaker 1: they don't have a print up. And he explained the
Speaker 1: reason why she's always been down for me. She was
Speaker 1: my rider die when I was in between jobs. That
Speaker 1: woman was taking me to work, helping me fill out applications.
Speaker 1: She was paying all the bills. There were times where
Speaker 1: I didn't know I didn't have a damn job, and
Speaker 1: she was still grinding. She was helping me and and
Speaker 1: taking care of everything, you know, and our kids and
Speaker 1: just all of that ship. I could never present her
Speaker 1: with the fucking prenup, is what he's saying. I would never.
Speaker 1: That's my best friend, that's my you know, she deserves
Speaker 1: half of that ship if we ever get a divorce.
Speaker 1: But we ain't getting no fucking divorce, is what he said.
Speaker 1: You have to be sure when you walk in down
Speaker 1: that out that you don't even expect to be divorced.
Speaker 1: A lot of people get married with the notion that
Speaker 1: they're not gonna be together forever, or maybe we won't
Speaker 1: make it to the end. These days, it's just like
Speaker 1: people date with options open, keeping options open because they're
Speaker 1: so scared that the ship won't work. You can't date
Speaker 1: like that, you can't marry someone like that. You can't
Speaker 1: be in a marriage unsure. I gotta be able to
Speaker 1: know if I'm walking around with a ring on and
Speaker 1: I got a husband, I ain't think about no motherfucking divorce.
Speaker 1: I ain't think about none of that ship, even if
Speaker 1: we're going through some ship. I ain't thinking about canceling
Speaker 1: my contract on this, nigga, because that's exactly what a
Speaker 1: marriage is, a contract before God whoever. You want to
Speaker 1: look at it like that or not. Ship, we're not
Speaker 1: breaching no motherfucking contract. We ain't doing it. I mean,
Speaker 1: we're not breaking no fucking contract. Even if you breach
Speaker 1: the contract with infidelity, with flies whatever. All right, we're
Speaker 1: gonna sit down, we're gonna think about we're gonna, you know,
Speaker 1: it's other routes to take real quick separation, and we're
Speaker 1: gonna figure out if if if I'm better over here
Speaker 1: and you better over there, and then we can talk
Speaker 1: about divorce. But that ship shouldn't even be on your
Speaker 1: mind when you're getting married, well before you even walk
Speaker 1: down the aisle, you know what I mean, they're in
Speaker 1: the engagement phase. Is that a deal breaker for you? Woman?
Speaker 1: By the way, I just want to take a moment
Speaker 1: to congratulate you on your fifth book. I congratulate your wealth,
Speaker 1: I congratulate even your engagement. I'm so happy you're a woman.
Speaker 1: You're doing your thing. Let me know about your book.
Speaker 1: You didn't even say you're you know, maybe you didn't
Speaker 1: want nobody to know who you who you were. I
Speaker 1: get it, definitely, that's probably why. But I will support
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Speaker 1: forget that. And just like that, we come to the
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