1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,119 Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:15,880 Speaker 1: and the Black Effects, And just like that, we're back 3 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:19,480 Speaker 1: on the air. Welcome back to yet another Carefully Reckless episode. 4 00:00:19,480 --> 00:00:23,440 Speaker 1: What's Your Girl? And host just hilarious. Listen, I've been 5 00:00:23,440 --> 00:00:25,599 Speaker 1: taken to the liking of all the followers on the 6 00:00:25,640 --> 00:00:28,479 Speaker 1: carefully Reckless page. Let's just give the carefully Reckless page 7 00:00:28,520 --> 00:00:31,280 Speaker 1: a huge shout out. Y'all been sending them vms and 8 00:00:31,600 --> 00:00:34,160 Speaker 1: and stuff to the email and all that type of stuff. 9 00:00:34,320 --> 00:00:37,440 Speaker 1: And I'm gonna name this episode just fix my mess now. 10 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:39,360 Speaker 1: This is a segment that I was doing back in 11 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:42,440 Speaker 1: season one that I stopped doing. Don't ask me why 12 00:00:42,479 --> 00:00:44,199 Speaker 1: I just stopped, do you know what I mean? But 13 00:00:44,320 --> 00:00:46,479 Speaker 1: I'm picking it back up now. And I asked you 14 00:00:46,479 --> 00:00:49,640 Speaker 1: guys last week on the Carefully Reckless page to submit 15 00:00:49,760 --> 00:00:52,720 Speaker 1: some of the most complicating situations that you're going through 16 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:55,400 Speaker 1: right now, that you've been through and that you don't 17 00:00:55,440 --> 00:00:57,440 Speaker 1: ever want to go through, or if someone close to 18 00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:00,400 Speaker 1: you went through something. Just keep it anonymous, because unlike 19 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:03,320 Speaker 1: last season, I'm not gonna put anybody out there, and 20 00:01:03,440 --> 00:01:05,240 Speaker 1: a lot of y'all didn't really care about me putting 21 00:01:05,240 --> 00:01:08,120 Speaker 1: your names and Instagram handles and social media handles out 22 00:01:08,160 --> 00:01:12,360 Speaker 1: there because you know, you just didn't care. But I'm 23 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:15,800 Speaker 1: going to keep everybody anonymous, you know, just turning over 24 00:01:15,840 --> 00:01:18,360 Speaker 1: a new leaf, and it will still help people, whether 25 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:20,920 Speaker 1: people know who you are or not. So these are 26 00:01:20,959 --> 00:01:26,440 Speaker 1: stories gearing toward relationship problems. Okay, First one, Jess, I've 27 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:28,720 Speaker 1: been with my man for eight months. I changed a 28 00:01:28,760 --> 00:01:31,800 Speaker 1: lot of ship for him, including changing my clothes when 29 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:34,760 Speaker 1: he feels that my outfits are too seductive for public. 30 00:01:35,240 --> 00:01:38,120 Speaker 1: But I feel my outfits are empowering and I don't 31 00:01:38,160 --> 00:01:41,880 Speaker 1: want to change them, so I stopped. Whenever he gets upset, 32 00:01:42,000 --> 00:01:45,000 Speaker 1: he screams and yells and calls me thoughts, what the 33 00:01:45,040 --> 00:01:48,360 Speaker 1: funk should I do? What's my standpoint? Because I want 34 00:01:48,400 --> 00:01:51,880 Speaker 1: to leave, but I do love him? Okay, Okay, so 35 00:01:51,920 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 1: I can see both sides. This is the thing. No 36 00:01:55,000 --> 00:02:00,560 Speaker 1: man wants their woman to be walking around showing leavage 37 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:03,880 Speaker 1: and showing body parts that only he needs to see. 38 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:07,160 Speaker 1: So I definitely do understand. You know, if he feels 39 00:02:07,640 --> 00:02:10,760 Speaker 1: as if your outfits are too seductive and he wants 40 00:02:10,760 --> 00:02:14,040 Speaker 1: you to change them, if you are willing to change them, 41 00:02:14,040 --> 00:02:16,680 Speaker 1: if you love him, that much and you're willing, then 42 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:19,480 Speaker 1: it's nothing wrong with that. Now, what is he doing 43 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:23,720 Speaker 1: to you that's making you not want to keep the 44 00:02:23,760 --> 00:02:25,720 Speaker 1: deal like it was and then you want to wear 45 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:28,240 Speaker 1: your cities out and ship like that's the thing. What 46 00:02:28,400 --> 00:02:31,519 Speaker 1: is he doing? Is he not reciprocating any sacrifices or 47 00:02:31,560 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 1: any compromised like because that that's a compromise. I would 48 00:02:34,880 --> 00:02:39,040 Speaker 1: deem that as a sacrifice. You sacrificed your style for 49 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:41,639 Speaker 1: your man because he feels some type of way about 50 00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:46,280 Speaker 1: you dressing like a damn hooker. Okay, mate, you didn't 51 00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:47,960 Speaker 1: say that. I'm an chill out all right, My bad, 52 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:50,639 Speaker 1: but that's what it looks like to him. And I've 53 00:02:50,639 --> 00:02:53,440 Speaker 1: been through a similar situation. You know, my previous relationship. 54 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:55,080 Speaker 1: My boyfriend did not like for me to wear my 55 00:02:55,120 --> 00:02:57,320 Speaker 1: body all the time. He didn't like for me to 56 00:02:57,320 --> 00:02:59,440 Speaker 1: be tworking all over the internet, and Ship didn't like 57 00:02:59,520 --> 00:03:04,320 Speaker 1: for others to see what his eyes should only see 58 00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:06,560 Speaker 1: what's for him. You know, in a sense, you belong 59 00:03:06,639 --> 00:03:09,119 Speaker 1: to that person and that person belongs to you. When 60 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 1: you officialize something, officialize is not a word, but damn it, 61 00:03:12,320 --> 00:03:15,440 Speaker 1: I made it up. When you officialize, I think officiate is, 62 00:03:15,480 --> 00:03:20,240 Speaker 1: but I like officialized, when you officialize a relationship meaning 63 00:03:20,360 --> 00:03:22,640 Speaker 1: this is what we're doing, we're moving forward, we're together, 64 00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:26,679 Speaker 1: we are one together, not even marriage, just a relationship. 65 00:03:27,200 --> 00:03:29,040 Speaker 1: You have to be secure enough and you have to 66 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:31,520 Speaker 1: set those boundaries. Look, this is what I don't like. 67 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:34,160 Speaker 1: And he told you that, But something had to happen 68 00:03:34,280 --> 00:03:37,760 Speaker 1: for you to go back to wearing that ship. Maybe 69 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:41,200 Speaker 1: he's not compromising enough for you. Maybe you feel like 70 00:03:41,400 --> 00:03:44,720 Speaker 1: you've been compromising for him and changing yourself and and 71 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:47,320 Speaker 1: he hasn't done anything. But he has a list of 72 00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:51,560 Speaker 1: demands for you. So I don't think if you love him, 73 00:03:51,640 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 1: you should leave. This should be a conversation piece. You 74 00:03:53,920 --> 00:03:56,320 Speaker 1: should sit down and talk to him, and you know, 75 00:03:56,720 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 1: dress up in your lingerie girl, dress up in your 76 00:03:59,320 --> 00:04:02,560 Speaker 1: goddamn law garay and you know, strip for him and 77 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:04,680 Speaker 1: do all of that, you know if if he likes that, 78 00:04:05,360 --> 00:04:07,320 Speaker 1: and then you know, you get them all riled up. 79 00:04:07,640 --> 00:04:10,600 Speaker 1: Feed him some strawberries his favorite fruit. Something, give him 80 00:04:10,640 --> 00:04:14,120 Speaker 1: like a nice little tease, like a nice little strip show, 81 00:04:14,200 --> 00:04:16,840 Speaker 1: you know, and put it on his ass right and 82 00:04:16,880 --> 00:04:20,920 Speaker 1: then sell them. Babe, Listen, these are my issues. This 83 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:23,240 Speaker 1: is the issue I know that you don't like me 84 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:26,599 Speaker 1: having my body out. I know that. However, this is 85 00:04:26,640 --> 00:04:29,880 Speaker 1: my issue with you. I felt like you're not compromising enough. 86 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:31,520 Speaker 1: I changed for you. I don't feel like you're changing 87 00:04:31,600 --> 00:04:33,880 Speaker 1: enough for me for me to keep on keeping up 88 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:37,279 Speaker 1: with your demands. If you want to stay, stay. I 89 00:04:37,279 --> 00:04:39,680 Speaker 1: don't think this is a big deal. Honestly, guys, and 90 00:04:39,680 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 1: to all my listeners out there, y'all can give me 91 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:43,919 Speaker 1: your feedback. If y'all feel like my advice, you know, 92 00:04:44,080 --> 00:04:46,600 Speaker 1: was good enough for my baby almost at a name. 93 00:04:46,760 --> 00:04:48,479 Speaker 1: If you feel like it was good enough, let me know, 94 00:04:48,600 --> 00:04:50,800 Speaker 1: because I feel like this is not big Ladies, this 95 00:04:50,880 --> 00:04:52,880 Speaker 1: is not big man. They can make it through this. 96 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:55,200 Speaker 1: They just have to communicate and he has to be 97 00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:58,719 Speaker 1: willing to compromise with your list of demands if you 98 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:02,160 Speaker 1: have any as well. Okay, everything has to be reciprocated 99 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:06,600 Speaker 1: in a relationship. Okay, moving on. I was dating this 100 00:05:06,640 --> 00:05:09,360 Speaker 1: guy for about a year, but I had never been 101 00:05:09,400 --> 00:05:11,960 Speaker 1: to his house. He always would come to mind, or 102 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:15,119 Speaker 1: we would get hotels and we would travel. I would 103 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:17,600 Speaker 1: post him, he would post me, but it was just 104 00:05:17,760 --> 00:05:20,799 Speaker 1: something that would keep me from coming over his house. 105 00:05:21,200 --> 00:05:23,560 Speaker 1: I asked him and he would always go around the 106 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:26,200 Speaker 1: situation and want to take me out or come to 107 00:05:26,279 --> 00:05:29,280 Speaker 1: my house. What do you think that was about, Well, 108 00:05:29,720 --> 00:05:32,800 Speaker 1: the fact that the story is described in the past tense. 109 00:05:33,320 --> 00:05:35,720 Speaker 1: I think you figured that out your damn self, or 110 00:05:35,839 --> 00:05:37,559 Speaker 1: or did y'all break up for a whole another reason, 111 00:05:37,600 --> 00:05:40,480 Speaker 1: I don't know. Because you said you dated this guy 112 00:05:40,560 --> 00:05:45,000 Speaker 1: for about a year, I honestly wouldn't automatically skip ahead 113 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:48,000 Speaker 1: to thinking that he had someone living with him or 114 00:05:48,200 --> 00:05:51,719 Speaker 1: he was necessarily living a double life. My mind would 115 00:05:51,720 --> 00:05:55,560 Speaker 1: go to, and this is only because you said, y'all 116 00:05:55,600 --> 00:05:57,960 Speaker 1: posted each other. You know, you are posting each other up, 117 00:05:57,960 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 1: were going out on trips, he was with you, He 118 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:02,760 Speaker 1: was always your house and hotels or whatever, just whatever. 119 00:06:03,600 --> 00:06:07,640 Speaker 1: That's the main reason why I wouldn't automatically go to 120 00:06:07,680 --> 00:06:09,720 Speaker 1: the fact that he may have had someone else living 121 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:12,800 Speaker 1: at home or living a double life. I will honestly 122 00:06:13,040 --> 00:06:15,120 Speaker 1: say that maybe he didn't have a place to live 123 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:17,080 Speaker 1: and he could have been living with his mother, or 124 00:06:17,080 --> 00:06:18,960 Speaker 1: he could have been staying with a homeboy and was 125 00:06:19,080 --> 00:06:20,839 Speaker 1: leading you to believe that he had his own home 126 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:23,480 Speaker 1: or whatever, or maybe he never even spoken of it. 127 00:06:23,839 --> 00:06:26,800 Speaker 1: But you know, women minds wander, our minds wander. If 128 00:06:26,800 --> 00:06:29,520 Speaker 1: we don't know, something will start running in our heads 129 00:06:29,520 --> 00:06:31,160 Speaker 1: and we will make up some ship and we will 130 00:06:31,200 --> 00:06:33,440 Speaker 1: get in our own way. I do feel like you 131 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:35,800 Speaker 1: should have told me a couple of his responses when 132 00:06:35,839 --> 00:06:37,960 Speaker 1: you would ask him, why can't I come to your house? 133 00:06:37,960 --> 00:06:39,520 Speaker 1: So let me come over? Because you said that he 134 00:06:39,560 --> 00:06:41,760 Speaker 1: would always go around it. How would he go around it? 135 00:06:41,800 --> 00:06:44,920 Speaker 1: What are the things that he would say, like, oh, no, 136 00:06:45,040 --> 00:06:47,480 Speaker 1: my ship, my house dirty right now, or you know, 137 00:06:47,640 --> 00:06:50,040 Speaker 1: or I'm getting the carpet pulled up and ship like whatever. 138 00:06:50,080 --> 00:06:52,400 Speaker 1: But this was a year, a year, and you hadn't 139 00:06:52,400 --> 00:06:55,960 Speaker 1: been to his residence. Maybe he ain't have no goddamn residence, 140 00:06:56,360 --> 00:07:00,400 Speaker 1: or think worst case scenario, maybe he was living a life. 141 00:07:00,400 --> 00:07:02,520 Speaker 1: Maybe he did have a girlfriend at home, or a 142 00:07:02,520 --> 00:07:04,960 Speaker 1: wife at home, or a man at home, a boyfriend 143 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:07,280 Speaker 1: at home. It doesn't matter. Nowadays, you never motherfucker know. 144 00:07:07,720 --> 00:07:10,520 Speaker 1: So you have to make sure you know a person 145 00:07:10,600 --> 00:07:14,400 Speaker 1: before you even solidify anything. You have to make sure 146 00:07:14,440 --> 00:07:16,880 Speaker 1: that or at least that you know the basis, because 147 00:07:17,160 --> 00:07:19,400 Speaker 1: let's just be honest here, nobody is gonna ever know 148 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:27,360 Speaker 1: everything about their partner before they decide to make it official. 149 00:07:27,760 --> 00:07:30,080 Speaker 1: It's mary folks still getting to know each other right now, 150 00:07:30,160 --> 00:07:32,640 Speaker 1: still learning each other right now, said this day. It's 151 00:07:32,680 --> 00:07:35,120 Speaker 1: people who have been in relationships for years who still 152 00:07:35,160 --> 00:07:37,480 Speaker 1: don't know each and everything about each other, who still 153 00:07:37,520 --> 00:07:40,560 Speaker 1: are learning each other, you know. So you have to 154 00:07:40,600 --> 00:07:43,120 Speaker 1: remain cognizant of that as well. But you were supposed 155 00:07:43,160 --> 00:07:45,400 Speaker 1: to give me some more meat to that damn story. Girl. 156 00:07:45,640 --> 00:07:49,240 Speaker 1: You definitely was. You're actually out of that based on 157 00:07:49,440 --> 00:07:52,400 Speaker 1: the tents of your statements, So I don't need to 158 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:54,720 Speaker 1: give you any advice. But you did ask me what 159 00:07:54,840 --> 00:07:57,440 Speaker 1: I thought. Like I said, I really think that he 160 00:07:57,520 --> 00:07:59,880 Speaker 1: doesn't have a home, you know, giving all the factors 161 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:02,120 Speaker 1: of everything that you described, I don't think that he 162 00:08:02,320 --> 00:08:04,040 Speaker 1: had anywhere to stay. I think he may have been 163 00:08:04,080 --> 00:08:07,200 Speaker 1: staying with somebody or whatever like that. Hold up, Hold up, 164 00:08:07,240 --> 00:08:09,200 Speaker 1: I know the ship getting good. But listen to just 165 00:08:09,280 --> 00:08:11,320 Speaker 1: a couple of seconds of a commercial. If you love me, 166 00:08:11,360 --> 00:08:16,680 Speaker 1: you'll listen. Okay. The next one is from a guy. 167 00:08:16,840 --> 00:08:19,920 Speaker 1: I love when my guys right me. Because everybody thinks 168 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:22,559 Speaker 1: I'm just all for the women. No, I'm for the people, baby. Okay. 169 00:08:22,560 --> 00:08:24,880 Speaker 1: So this one is from a guy. Why every time 170 00:08:24,920 --> 00:08:28,200 Speaker 1: I get into my girl's car. The passenger seat is 171 00:08:28,240 --> 00:08:31,080 Speaker 1: not how I left it. It's linked all the way back. 172 00:08:31,160 --> 00:08:38,439 Speaker 1: And you already know what the funk that's given. Okay, Okay, 173 00:08:38,520 --> 00:08:41,200 Speaker 1: So he didn't pose a question at the end. He's 174 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:44,960 Speaker 1: just letting me know that he don't like that ship 175 00:08:45,040 --> 00:08:48,600 Speaker 1: every time. So have you taken this to her? Now? 176 00:08:48,800 --> 00:08:50,600 Speaker 1: This man did. I can say his name, but I'm 177 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:52,760 Speaker 1: not going to Oh my god, I want to call 178 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:55,800 Speaker 1: you boy. Your name so bad. Listen, have you talked 179 00:08:55,840 --> 00:08:57,840 Speaker 1: to her about it? You need to go to her. 180 00:08:58,200 --> 00:09:01,600 Speaker 1: Go to her? Okay, and listen. Do you have your 181 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:06,360 Speaker 1: own car? Because why are you always riding with her? Basically? No? 182 00:09:06,559 --> 00:09:08,480 Speaker 1: And listen, listen, No, I'm not down to you. If 183 00:09:08,480 --> 00:09:10,280 Speaker 1: you don't have a car, that's fine. If you don't 184 00:09:10,280 --> 00:09:12,200 Speaker 1: have a car. And if you don't have a car 185 00:09:12,600 --> 00:09:15,640 Speaker 1: and she does and she is your only means of transportation, 186 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:18,000 Speaker 1: is that the reason why you haven't bought this up 187 00:09:18,040 --> 00:09:21,160 Speaker 1: to her? If you haven't because you feel like, all right, 188 00:09:21,200 --> 00:09:23,400 Speaker 1: this is her car. You know I ain't I ain't 189 00:09:23,480 --> 00:09:25,520 Speaker 1: driving right now, but every time I get in this 190 00:09:25,600 --> 00:09:28,160 Speaker 1: motherfucking car, this ship linked all the way back. I'm 191 00:09:28,200 --> 00:09:30,920 Speaker 1: guessing further than when you lean it back. That's what 192 00:09:30,960 --> 00:09:33,880 Speaker 1: I'm guessing, because you said it's never how you left it, okay, 193 00:09:33,920 --> 00:09:36,400 Speaker 1: So that means one, you're always in her passenger seats, 194 00:09:36,400 --> 00:09:39,240 Speaker 1: so that means you're never driving. And then too, you 195 00:09:39,280 --> 00:09:42,120 Speaker 1: pay attention, motherfucker. That's that's what that means. You pay attention. 196 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:44,000 Speaker 1: I do get it. You have to talk to her. 197 00:09:44,320 --> 00:09:46,160 Speaker 1: You have to talk to her. Some girls leaning all 198 00:09:46,200 --> 00:09:47,920 Speaker 1: the way back. She might have a home girl, or 199 00:09:47,920 --> 00:09:50,199 Speaker 1: she might have a guy in the car. It may 200 00:09:50,240 --> 00:09:53,640 Speaker 1: not be somebody that she's sucking with it. Maybe I 201 00:09:53,679 --> 00:09:56,560 Speaker 1: don't know. It could be a homeboy, a cousin, Like 202 00:09:56,600 --> 00:09:59,360 Speaker 1: do you notice a guy best friend that she has? 203 00:09:59,400 --> 00:10:01,440 Speaker 1: Like you, you have to sit down and talk. Things 204 00:10:01,520 --> 00:10:05,280 Speaker 1: are so childish to me. These are childish. And the 205 00:10:05,320 --> 00:10:08,720 Speaker 1: reason why I'm deeming it as childish, guys, because these 206 00:10:08,720 --> 00:10:11,880 Speaker 1: are just one two questions that you can talk to 207 00:10:12,040 --> 00:10:14,720 Speaker 1: your mate about. And if you ain't scared, you know 208 00:10:14,760 --> 00:10:16,200 Speaker 1: what I mean, you can go and talk to your 209 00:10:16,240 --> 00:10:17,800 Speaker 1: girlfriend about that. You're supposed to be able to call 210 00:10:17,880 --> 00:10:19,680 Speaker 1: your bitch and be like or go in the house 211 00:10:19,679 --> 00:10:22,320 Speaker 1: and be like, yo's come here, come here, come go 212 00:10:22,320 --> 00:10:24,280 Speaker 1: go in and get her asked up if she sleep 213 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:25,880 Speaker 1: or go get her out the kitchen, if she's cooking, 214 00:10:26,200 --> 00:10:29,600 Speaker 1: take her, pull her away from the TV. Listen, come here, 215 00:10:29,640 --> 00:10:31,280 Speaker 1: let me let me show you this real quick. Take 216 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:33,920 Speaker 1: her ass outside by her hand, lead her around the car, 217 00:10:34,000 --> 00:10:38,200 Speaker 1: Open up that goddamn door. Show her, Yo, this ain't 218 00:10:38,200 --> 00:10:41,360 Speaker 1: how I left it. What's this like? You know? Talk 219 00:10:41,440 --> 00:10:44,280 Speaker 1: to her, ask her, and I guarantee you you either 220 00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:49,240 Speaker 1: gonna get the truth or you ain't. But whatever her responses, 221 00:10:49,920 --> 00:10:53,079 Speaker 1: you're gonna know what happened. Whatever the fucking response is, 222 00:10:53,120 --> 00:10:54,720 Speaker 1: You're gonna be able to get the truth. You will 223 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:58,560 Speaker 1: know something right or you was just overreacting, you said 224 00:10:58,600 --> 00:11:01,960 Speaker 1: every time you get in there. So either she is 225 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:06,040 Speaker 1: frequently cheating or she not, it gotta be the same person. 226 00:11:06,120 --> 00:11:08,240 Speaker 1: If the ship always linked back, it gotta be the 227 00:11:08,280 --> 00:11:12,160 Speaker 1: same person. And if she is cheating, that means this 228 00:11:12,200 --> 00:11:16,000 Speaker 1: bitch love niggas that don't drive. That's what I'm just 229 00:11:16,040 --> 00:11:18,360 Speaker 1: gonna keep it, Keep it simple for you, baby. She 230 00:11:18,520 --> 00:11:21,000 Speaker 1: just she loved the fact that y'all depend on her. 231 00:11:21,080 --> 00:11:22,679 Speaker 1: She loved the fact that y'all need her. A lot 232 00:11:22,679 --> 00:11:25,080 Speaker 1: of women love to be needed. They love to be 233 00:11:25,160 --> 00:11:27,440 Speaker 1: a necessity to a man. You get what I'm saying. 234 00:11:27,440 --> 00:11:29,160 Speaker 1: They love for a man to depend on them. I 235 00:11:29,200 --> 00:11:31,360 Speaker 1: need for you to get your own car, and if 236 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:32,800 Speaker 1: you in her house, get the funk up out of 237 00:11:32,800 --> 00:11:35,880 Speaker 1: there too, because if there is another man in her 238 00:11:35,920 --> 00:11:38,800 Speaker 1: car every time you get out, it is another man 239 00:11:38,960 --> 00:11:41,400 Speaker 1: in her house every time you leave out. So I 240 00:11:41,440 --> 00:11:43,320 Speaker 1: need for you to understand that, brother, and we're gonna 241 00:11:43,360 --> 00:11:47,800 Speaker 1: move on. We got another man, yes, lord, I love it. Yo. 242 00:11:47,920 --> 00:11:51,280 Speaker 1: My baby mother has been receiving child support. But my 243 00:11:51,360 --> 00:11:54,319 Speaker 1: baby is well taken care of by me and her. 244 00:11:54,440 --> 00:11:57,040 Speaker 1: We both work and have jobs. So why the funk 245 00:11:57,080 --> 00:11:59,839 Speaker 1: and my own child support? Right? She uses the money 246 00:11:59,840 --> 00:12:04,120 Speaker 1: to buy nice things for herself. What the fuck? You'll say, 247 00:12:04,200 --> 00:12:06,840 Speaker 1: what the fuck? I get it and makes you upset 248 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:10,480 Speaker 1: and listen. On a more serious note, these women they 249 00:12:10,559 --> 00:12:13,160 Speaker 1: do that ship. There there are mothers out here like that. 250 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:16,080 Speaker 1: There are men out here, these fathers who are taking 251 00:12:16,080 --> 00:12:19,920 Speaker 1: care of their children and they are still on child support. Ship. 252 00:12:20,120 --> 00:12:25,360 Speaker 1: I know men that keep their kids, primarily single fathers 253 00:12:25,480 --> 00:12:28,280 Speaker 1: who are on fucking child support literally, like my father 254 00:12:28,400 --> 00:12:30,560 Speaker 1: was just one of them. My father was just on 255 00:12:30,640 --> 00:12:33,040 Speaker 1: child support for his daughter and his daughter lives with him. 256 00:12:33,080 --> 00:12:35,640 Speaker 1: My little sister was living with him and still was 257 00:12:35,679 --> 00:12:38,120 Speaker 1: on child support. You feel me like, it's just hard. 258 00:12:38,600 --> 00:12:40,679 Speaker 1: Once you go on, it's hard as ship to get 259 00:12:40,679 --> 00:12:43,120 Speaker 1: you off. That's why I always tell ladies, listen, if 260 00:12:43,160 --> 00:12:46,280 Speaker 1: you don't need to put him on child support, if 261 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:49,200 Speaker 1: you absolutely don't need to and you're not doing it 262 00:12:49,240 --> 00:12:52,840 Speaker 1: out of spite and you really really fucking need child support, 263 00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:55,760 Speaker 1: don't put them on there unless you really need it, 264 00:12:56,040 --> 00:12:58,360 Speaker 1: because it's hard as fun to get a man off, 265 00:12:58,920 --> 00:13:01,360 Speaker 1: and that's not the way you hit below the belt. 266 00:13:01,720 --> 00:13:03,679 Speaker 1: If a guy is really taking care of his child 267 00:13:04,000 --> 00:13:07,600 Speaker 1: and you don't need the state for those extra benefits 268 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:09,920 Speaker 1: and you don't need to go through the courts to 269 00:13:09,960 --> 00:13:12,640 Speaker 1: get him to take care of your child, don't do it. 270 00:13:12,920 --> 00:13:15,240 Speaker 1: All other personal ship don't have nothing to do with 271 00:13:15,280 --> 00:13:18,600 Speaker 1: the baby. Seriously, And I know this sounds like cliche, 272 00:13:18,720 --> 00:13:20,600 Speaker 1: but this is real life ship that women go through 273 00:13:20,640 --> 00:13:24,520 Speaker 1: and men go through. My son's dad, rome little baby father, 274 00:13:24,800 --> 00:13:27,760 Speaker 1: he on child support. Two of his kids moms have 275 00:13:27,840 --> 00:13:30,920 Speaker 1: him on child support because them bitches was mad at him, 276 00:13:30,960 --> 00:13:32,760 Speaker 1: not because he don't take care of his kids. He 277 00:13:32,880 --> 00:13:35,440 Speaker 1: still take care of his kids. What y'all don't understand 278 00:13:35,480 --> 00:13:37,560 Speaker 1: is when y'all do that ship out of feelings and 279 00:13:37,559 --> 00:13:39,680 Speaker 1: all that type of ship, and y'all get back cool 280 00:13:39,679 --> 00:13:41,720 Speaker 1: with the nigga, then y'all feel bad. Then y'all try 281 00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:45,480 Speaker 1: to take him off, but the state don't work like that. Now. 282 00:13:45,480 --> 00:13:47,240 Speaker 1: They're not just gonna oh he he good this week? 283 00:13:47,280 --> 00:13:49,199 Speaker 1: Are we gonna take them off and ship? Now? It's 284 00:13:49,240 --> 00:13:52,960 Speaker 1: so many loopholes and so many hurdles and obstacles you 285 00:13:52,960 --> 00:13:55,200 Speaker 1: have to jump through and go through and conquer to 286 00:13:55,280 --> 00:13:57,080 Speaker 1: get a man off of child support. It's not that 287 00:13:57,160 --> 00:14:00,160 Speaker 1: fucking easy. And then also when you put a man 288 00:14:00,240 --> 00:14:02,360 Speaker 1: on child support who's taking care of his child, you're 289 00:14:02,400 --> 00:14:05,680 Speaker 1: actually taking away from with the child could potentially have 290 00:14:06,040 --> 00:14:09,280 Speaker 1: if they weren't on child support. Because even with my 291 00:14:09,360 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 1: son's dad, he's on child support for one of his kids. 292 00:14:12,880 --> 00:14:16,000 Speaker 1: He was doing so much more for her before he 293 00:14:16,040 --> 00:14:18,480 Speaker 1: was put on child support. So it's like, damn, you 294 00:14:18,480 --> 00:14:20,360 Speaker 1: didn't sunk that up because you're mad because the nigga 295 00:14:20,360 --> 00:14:22,720 Speaker 1: ain't with you, but he's still taking kid of his baby, 296 00:14:22,960 --> 00:14:25,240 Speaker 1: and you had the baby so he would stay with you. 297 00:14:25,360 --> 00:14:27,640 Speaker 1: But you've got to understand also that these men are 298 00:14:27,680 --> 00:14:31,120 Speaker 1: not staying for these babies. A baby cannot keep a man, 299 00:14:31,240 --> 00:14:34,600 Speaker 1: and that is very selfish to a child, very selfish. 300 00:14:34,920 --> 00:14:38,960 Speaker 1: So I'm sorry, brother, I'm so, so sorry, but you 301 00:14:39,000 --> 00:14:41,240 Speaker 1: need to take that ship to the courts. Okay. You 302 00:14:41,320 --> 00:14:44,120 Speaker 1: need to be able to provide proof that your daughter 303 00:14:44,240 --> 00:14:46,360 Speaker 1: or your son or I don't know if it's children 304 00:14:46,840 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 1: are well taken care of. You know, you need to 305 00:14:48,760 --> 00:14:51,720 Speaker 1: see counsel and you know, try to get custody or 306 00:14:51,800 --> 00:14:55,000 Speaker 1: joint custody or something like that that will help you 307 00:14:55,040 --> 00:14:58,000 Speaker 1: out in that situation, because I know how that looks 308 00:14:58,040 --> 00:14:59,920 Speaker 1: and I know how that feels. There's been many a 309 00:15:00,040 --> 00:15:03,080 Speaker 1: times that my son's dad has cried over that ship, like, yo, 310 00:15:03,560 --> 00:15:07,880 Speaker 1: I'm literally going broke trying to take care of my 311 00:15:08,000 --> 00:15:10,200 Speaker 1: kids and page you'll support, Why the fund do I 312 00:15:10,200 --> 00:15:12,160 Speaker 1: have to do both when I'm already taking care of them? 313 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:15,000 Speaker 1: You know? So I definitely do understand your frustration, and 314 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:17,520 Speaker 1: I'm sorry about that, brother, because a lot of times 315 00:15:17,760 --> 00:15:21,160 Speaker 1: these women ain't shipped, These mothers ain't shet y'all. Lord, 316 00:15:21,800 --> 00:15:23,640 Speaker 1: Now we got a commercial and if you click off 317 00:15:23,640 --> 00:15:25,680 Speaker 1: of this podcast, I swear I'm gonna beat your ass. 318 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:31,840 Speaker 1: Listen Okay, moving on, I broke up with my nigga. 319 00:15:31,880 --> 00:15:34,680 Speaker 1: Oh my god, stop saying nigga, this is this is 320 00:15:34,680 --> 00:15:37,160 Speaker 1: a young girl right here. I broke up with my nigga. 321 00:15:37,920 --> 00:15:40,320 Speaker 1: And the crazy thing is I started falling for his 322 00:15:40,400 --> 00:15:42,880 Speaker 1: best friend. His best friend is the one that I 323 00:15:42,960 --> 00:15:46,560 Speaker 1: wanted from the jump, but he was in a relationship already. 324 00:15:46,600 --> 00:15:49,480 Speaker 1: I broke up with my boyfriend around the same time 325 00:15:49,720 --> 00:15:52,640 Speaker 1: he broke up with his girlfriend. Would that be bad 326 00:15:52,800 --> 00:15:57,080 Speaker 1: if we started to link? Bitch, let me tell you 327 00:15:57,120 --> 00:15:59,920 Speaker 1: something the way you just asked me that motherfucking question. 328 00:16:00,880 --> 00:16:03,200 Speaker 1: You already linking with this nigga. Don't don't sit here. 329 00:16:03,480 --> 00:16:05,680 Speaker 1: Don't sit here and try to Yeah, I'm talking to 330 00:16:05,680 --> 00:16:08,120 Speaker 1: you because I know you're listening, all right. Don't sit 331 00:16:08,200 --> 00:16:10,160 Speaker 1: here and try to act like you ain't already make 332 00:16:10,240 --> 00:16:11,720 Speaker 1: up in your mind that she was gonna funk with 333 00:16:11,760 --> 00:16:14,480 Speaker 1: that nigga before you broke up with his friend. Don't 334 00:16:14,520 --> 00:16:17,080 Speaker 1: do that. Okay. You know I ain't for this ship. 335 00:16:17,560 --> 00:16:19,200 Speaker 1: I ain't for it. You know. I support a lot 336 00:16:19,240 --> 00:16:21,800 Speaker 1: of funk ships. Sometimes I support a lot of ratch city. 337 00:16:22,160 --> 00:16:24,200 Speaker 1: You know, I support a lot of ghet on this. 338 00:16:24,440 --> 00:16:27,360 Speaker 1: I do a lot of messy ship, but not this 339 00:16:27,560 --> 00:16:30,440 Speaker 1: that as nasty as fun, and they're not just friends. 340 00:16:30,520 --> 00:16:33,760 Speaker 1: They ain't just homeboys, but they're not co workers. Okay, 341 00:16:33,840 --> 00:16:36,720 Speaker 1: they're they're best friends. You just said to me you 342 00:16:36,760 --> 00:16:38,440 Speaker 1: had your eye on the best friend before you even 343 00:16:38,440 --> 00:16:41,040 Speaker 1: pursued his homeboy. It must have been a reason why 344 00:16:41,120 --> 00:16:43,120 Speaker 1: he wasn't able to date this nigga. He was in 345 00:16:43,160 --> 00:16:47,040 Speaker 1: a relationship, right, so you played house with his homeboy 346 00:16:47,400 --> 00:16:50,920 Speaker 1: and monitored his relationship the whole time because y'all just 347 00:16:51,440 --> 00:16:56,600 Speaker 1: out of nowhere coincidentally broke up at the same time, 348 00:16:56,680 --> 00:16:58,680 Speaker 1: broke up with your boyfriend and girlfriend at the same 349 00:16:58,720 --> 00:17:00,640 Speaker 1: damn time, And you ask in me, would it be 350 00:17:00,680 --> 00:17:03,320 Speaker 1: wrong for y'all to link you? Motherfucking right, is wrong 351 00:17:03,400 --> 00:17:06,560 Speaker 1: that you're sucking that nigga? Yep, I ain't even gonna 352 00:17:06,560 --> 00:17:09,639 Speaker 1: answer it, like you didn't already go see him, stop playing, 353 00:17:09,800 --> 00:17:11,639 Speaker 1: And honestly, I'm gonna take it a step further. You 354 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:15,240 Speaker 1: might have been sucking around with the best friend while 355 00:17:15,280 --> 00:17:18,359 Speaker 1: you was with your boyfriend, and the poor boyfriend don't know, 356 00:17:18,440 --> 00:17:20,479 Speaker 1: and the poor girlfriend don't know. I hope they all listening, 357 00:17:20,680 --> 00:17:24,320 Speaker 1: because that's nasty. And her name is Stasia. I'm gonna 358 00:17:24,359 --> 00:17:27,560 Speaker 1: put you out there, bitch. Anastasia is her name, Anastasia 359 00:17:27,680 --> 00:17:31,440 Speaker 1: right to seven? All right, I ain't gonna put out 360 00:17:31,480 --> 00:17:33,680 Speaker 1: the whole Instagram. And I just got mad at that 361 00:17:33,680 --> 00:17:36,040 Speaker 1: because that's some nasty as ship. Girl. You already knew 362 00:17:36,040 --> 00:17:38,240 Speaker 1: I wasn't going to agree with that ship. I'm moving 363 00:17:38,280 --> 00:17:43,040 Speaker 1: on from that. That's that's disgusted. Okay, moving on. Okay, 364 00:17:43,359 --> 00:17:47,960 Speaker 1: I like this one. Hey, Jess. I am a wealthy author. Okay. 365 00:17:48,000 --> 00:17:50,760 Speaker 1: I have four books out and I'm on my fifth one. 366 00:17:51,200 --> 00:17:54,199 Speaker 1: I am currently engaged and about to get married. I 367 00:17:54,280 --> 00:17:58,280 Speaker 1: presented the idea of a prenup to my fiancee and 368 00:17:58,320 --> 00:18:02,320 Speaker 1: he refused to sign it. Am I wrong for that? Well, 369 00:18:02,400 --> 00:18:05,040 Speaker 1: let me ask you a question, and you're gonna eventually 370 00:18:05,040 --> 00:18:08,240 Speaker 1: write me back. Is that a dealbreaker for you that 371 00:18:08,359 --> 00:18:10,800 Speaker 1: he won't sign it? I need some more information, I 372 00:18:10,840 --> 00:18:12,479 Speaker 1: need some more meat. I need to know how long 373 00:18:12,560 --> 00:18:17,040 Speaker 1: you've been together. Were you struggling with him before? Like, 374 00:18:17,160 --> 00:18:18,919 Speaker 1: what was he with you when you didn't have anything? 375 00:18:19,280 --> 00:18:21,520 Speaker 1: If you if you've ever had nothing, you know what 376 00:18:21,520 --> 00:18:23,880 Speaker 1: I mean? Maybe you have never been in that predicament 377 00:18:23,880 --> 00:18:26,400 Speaker 1: of not not trying to put that on you. I'm 378 00:18:26,400 --> 00:18:29,720 Speaker 1: just saying, was he there? You know what I mean? 379 00:18:29,760 --> 00:18:32,959 Speaker 1: Prenups are always scary for people because there has been 380 00:18:32,960 --> 00:18:36,680 Speaker 1: a stigma put on them. A prenup is an agreement 381 00:18:36,720 --> 00:18:40,840 Speaker 1: that you signed prior to marriage that states you leave 382 00:18:40,920 --> 00:18:43,600 Speaker 1: this marriage like you came in. You leave this marriage 383 00:18:43,640 --> 00:18:46,920 Speaker 1: with whatever you brought to this marriage. That's what a 384 00:18:47,000 --> 00:18:50,920 Speaker 1: prenup is put in place for. Okay, Now, without the prenup, 385 00:18:51,320 --> 00:18:53,840 Speaker 1: if you guys get a divorce, she would then have 386 00:18:54,000 --> 00:18:56,760 Speaker 1: to give up half of everything that she worked hard for, 387 00:18:56,800 --> 00:18:58,520 Speaker 1: or even if he didn't have anything to do with it, 388 00:18:58,800 --> 00:19:00,679 Speaker 1: half of it would go to him, you know, and 389 00:19:00,680 --> 00:19:03,200 Speaker 1: then depends on any other things that their lawyers work 390 00:19:03,200 --> 00:19:06,040 Speaker 1: out or whatever. But is it a deal breaker for you? 391 00:19:06,280 --> 00:19:08,400 Speaker 1: I can't even really speak on it until I know, 392 00:19:08,880 --> 00:19:10,840 Speaker 1: you know, because I'm gonna give you this. Charlemagne and 393 00:19:10,840 --> 00:19:13,000 Speaker 1: God just sat down and did an interview, right, and 394 00:19:13,040 --> 00:19:15,160 Speaker 1: I love him by the way, he and his wife 395 00:19:15,280 --> 00:19:17,760 Speaker 1: they don't have a print up. And he explained the 396 00:19:17,760 --> 00:19:20,600 Speaker 1: reason why she's always been down for me. She was 397 00:19:20,640 --> 00:19:24,960 Speaker 1: my rider die when I was in between jobs. That 398 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:27,920 Speaker 1: woman was taking me to work, helping me fill out applications. 399 00:19:28,040 --> 00:19:30,640 Speaker 1: She was paying all the bills. There were times where 400 00:19:30,960 --> 00:19:33,120 Speaker 1: I didn't know I didn't have a damn job, and 401 00:19:33,200 --> 00:19:35,719 Speaker 1: she was still grinding. She was helping me and and 402 00:19:35,760 --> 00:19:38,159 Speaker 1: taking care of everything, you know, and our kids and 403 00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:41,560 Speaker 1: just all of that ship. I could never present her 404 00:19:41,600 --> 00:19:44,200 Speaker 1: with the fucking prenup, is what he's saying. I would never. 405 00:19:44,320 --> 00:19:48,000 Speaker 1: That's my best friend, that's my you know, she deserves 406 00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:50,159 Speaker 1: half of that ship if we ever get a divorce. 407 00:19:50,200 --> 00:19:52,879 Speaker 1: But we ain't getting no fucking divorce, is what he said. 408 00:19:53,119 --> 00:19:55,680 Speaker 1: You have to be sure when you walk in down 409 00:19:55,720 --> 00:19:59,360 Speaker 1: that out that you don't even expect to be divorced. 410 00:19:59,359 --> 00:20:02,280 Speaker 1: A lot of people get married with the notion that 411 00:20:02,400 --> 00:20:04,600 Speaker 1: they're not gonna be together forever, or maybe we won't 412 00:20:04,960 --> 00:20:07,919 Speaker 1: make it to the end. These days, it's just like 413 00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:11,560 Speaker 1: people date with options open, keeping options open because they're 414 00:20:11,560 --> 00:20:14,040 Speaker 1: so scared that the ship won't work. You can't date 415 00:20:14,119 --> 00:20:16,920 Speaker 1: like that, you can't marry someone like that. You can't 416 00:20:16,960 --> 00:20:19,440 Speaker 1: be in a marriage unsure. I gotta be able to 417 00:20:19,520 --> 00:20:20,919 Speaker 1: know if I'm walking around with a ring on and 418 00:20:20,960 --> 00:20:23,960 Speaker 1: I got a husband, I ain't think about no motherfucking divorce. 419 00:20:24,640 --> 00:20:26,840 Speaker 1: I ain't think about none of that ship, even if 420 00:20:26,880 --> 00:20:30,040 Speaker 1: we're going through some ship. I ain't thinking about canceling 421 00:20:30,080 --> 00:20:32,240 Speaker 1: my contract on this, nigga, because that's exactly what a 422 00:20:32,320 --> 00:20:35,600 Speaker 1: marriage is, a contract before God whoever. You want to 423 00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:39,000 Speaker 1: look at it like that or not. Ship, we're not 424 00:20:39,119 --> 00:20:41,760 Speaker 1: breaching no motherfucking contract. We ain't doing it. I mean, 425 00:20:41,760 --> 00:20:43,960 Speaker 1: we're not breaking no fucking contract. Even if you breach 426 00:20:44,040 --> 00:20:47,520 Speaker 1: the contract with infidelity, with flies whatever. All right, we're 427 00:20:47,520 --> 00:20:50,239 Speaker 1: gonna sit down, we're gonna think about we're gonna, you know, 428 00:20:50,359 --> 00:20:53,000 Speaker 1: it's other routes to take real quick separation, and we're 429 00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:55,040 Speaker 1: gonna figure out if if if I'm better over here 430 00:20:55,040 --> 00:20:56,760 Speaker 1: and you better over there, and then we can talk 431 00:20:56,800 --> 00:20:59,600 Speaker 1: about divorce. But that ship shouldn't even be on your 432 00:20:59,640 --> 00:21:02,960 Speaker 1: mind when you're getting married, well before you even walk 433 00:21:03,080 --> 00:21:04,840 Speaker 1: down the aisle, you know what I mean, they're in 434 00:21:04,880 --> 00:21:08,960 Speaker 1: the engagement phase. Is that a deal breaker for you? Woman? 435 00:21:09,960 --> 00:21:11,760 Speaker 1: By the way, I just want to take a moment 436 00:21:11,800 --> 00:21:15,800 Speaker 1: to congratulate you on your fifth book. I congratulate your wealth, 437 00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:20,080 Speaker 1: I congratulate even your engagement. I'm so happy you're a woman. 438 00:21:20,119 --> 00:21:22,680 Speaker 1: You're doing your thing. Let me know about your book. 439 00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:24,880 Speaker 1: You didn't even say you're you know, maybe you didn't 440 00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:26,560 Speaker 1: want nobody to know who you who you were. I 441 00:21:26,600 --> 00:21:29,280 Speaker 1: get it, definitely, that's probably why. But I will support 442 00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:32,240 Speaker 1: your books because I read sometimes. You know, it's just sometimes, 443 00:21:32,240 --> 00:21:33,600 Speaker 1: but I'll be reading or whatever. And I got a 444 00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:35,479 Speaker 1: lot of people that will read to me, you know, 445 00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:38,159 Speaker 1: if I don't want to read. So yeah, but I 446 00:21:38,200 --> 00:21:41,439 Speaker 1: definitely do understand how you feel, baby girl. It's just 447 00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:44,720 Speaker 1: a conversation. It's a conversation and it shouldn't be a 448 00:21:44,720 --> 00:21:46,679 Speaker 1: hard one even if it is. Are you willing to 449 00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:48,960 Speaker 1: even set there for it? Are you willing to do 450 00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:50,760 Speaker 1: the work? You're not even married to this man yet, 451 00:21:50,760 --> 00:21:53,360 Speaker 1: but there is a reason why you're engaged, So don't 452 00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:56,119 Speaker 1: forget that. And just like that, we come to the 453 00:21:56,240 --> 00:21:59,840 Speaker 1: end of yet another Carefully Reckless episode. 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