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Speaker 1: her why, and she said it's because she doesn't believe

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Speaker 1: in shoes, and then cried when she walked by a

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Speaker 2: It's the jew will show. That's a text message.

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Speaker 1: We just got in at four to one oh six

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Speaker 1: one because I asked the question what is a dating

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Speaker 1: turnoff for men? Because there's a trend going viral of

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Speaker 1: men sharing what the number one way to instantly turn

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Speaker 1: a man off from wanting a second date is. We'll

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Speaker 1: tell you what the number one response was in just

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Speaker 1: a second, but text in four one oh six to one,

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Speaker 1: what's something that instantly turns you off? And we'll go

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Speaker 1: over some of the other things that men are saying

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Speaker 1: are an instant turnoff for them that will instantly make

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Speaker 1: them not want a second date.

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Speaker 3: Can I just throw something out there really quick, don't

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Speaker 3: go get your nose pierced with the guy that you're dating.

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Speaker 2: Don't do any piercings with anybody. Yes. So the guy

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Speaker 2: that a first date and it wasn't a first date.

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Speaker 3: We had actually been dating for a while and he

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Speaker 3: decided he wanted to go get his nose pierced.

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Speaker 2: My nose has been pierced for a while.

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Speaker 3: But we sat in the room, like, I sat in

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Speaker 3: the room while I got his nose piers and it

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Speaker 3: looks really weird. And then I had my nose ring

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Speaker 3: changed and he sat and watched my nose ring and

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Speaker 3: get changed. And then we really didn't see each other

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Speaker 3: after that. So it is very not cute. So, like

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Speaker 3: you see in the nostril, like, you gotta be really comfortable.

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Speaker 3: I just don't recommend doing piercings with somebody on a date.

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Speaker 2: That's a good rule of thumb. Or tattoos.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, or tattoos, right, especially if you're both getting the

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Speaker 1: same tattoos you got on a first date. What are

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Speaker 1: some of the top responses from men on instant turn

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Speaker 1: offs for them that will make them not want a

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Speaker 1: second date? Deep personal interrogations on a first date. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: asking about divorces, trauma, or life altering events on a

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Speaker 1: date is too much. One guy said, couple.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's because you just can't face your own draws.

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Speaker 2: I was just gonna say, I don't care.

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Speaker 4: A lot of women think that that's a good conversation

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Speaker 4: to have you stop.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 5: That's like a third date thing for me. The first

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Speaker 5: day it's like a hey, how you doing? How many

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Speaker 5: siblings do you have? Not what's your past trauma? I mean,

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Speaker 5: you don't freeze it like that. But if you're not

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Speaker 5: willing to talk about things on the first date, you're

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Speaker 3: So my boy, Yeah, I don't mean I don't need

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Speaker 3: to know your entire life story, but I do like

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Speaker 3: deep conversation, and if you don't have the ability to

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Speaker 3: go there on a first date, it could be about

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Speaker 3: things yeah, scare you maybe you know that's still kind

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Speaker 3: of surface.

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Speaker 2: If you can't do that, that's not gonna work for me.

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Speaker 2: So while it's a turnoff for you, bro, then you're

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Speaker 2: just not with the right person.

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Speaker 1: Speaking of bro, somebody texted in at four one O

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Speaker 1: six one and said, well, if I go on a

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Speaker 1: over and over again, I'm not going on a second date.

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Speaker 2: I'm not your bro. That's fair, you know, Yeah, that's fair.

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Speaker 1: Going over a trend that's going viral of guys sharing

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Speaker 1: the things for them that are instant turn offs on

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Speaker 1: a first date, and they won't be going on a

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Speaker 1: second date, assuming that the guy is paying for everything. Automatically,

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Speaker 1: I agree on a first date, I like, I know

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Speaker 1: that I'm gonna pay, right, we both usually know that

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna pay. But at least I like the reach

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Speaker 1: for the card, you know yeah, or the like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I was gonna chip in when we both know that's

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Speaker 1: nonsense and you weren't actually gonna chip in, but at

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Speaker 1: least an acknowledgement that you would have if I had

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Speaker 1: been like, yeah, yeah, yeah, we're splitting this, you know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: If I ask, then I'm okay with the assumption that

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Speaker 4: I'm paying. If I asked her to go out, then

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Speaker 3: That's a good point, But you don't feel like that

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Speaker 3: sets the tone for you to like, you know how

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Speaker 3: some people grow up with people only see everything you

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Speaker 3: get paid for.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I dated those before.

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Speaker 2: So you don't care. You're just gonna let your pocket out.

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Speaker 4: For the first date. For the first date, if I

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Speaker 4: ask you out, I am taking you out. I am paying.

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Speaker 4: And if you you know, if they reach for their

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Speaker 4: wallet or whatever, I almost take offense to it.

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Speaker 1: Really, yeah, oh okay, because I asked you, So it's

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Speaker 1: like different for you.

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Speaker 4: But if but if we're getting into you know, we're

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Speaker 4: year into the relationship when we're going out to eat

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Speaker 4: and you're never paying for.

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Speaker 1: Your job and don't pay for anything, and he's like, what,

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Speaker 1: I'm just playing Xbox all day? Why you got a problem.

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Speaker 1: Then you're always judging go to work. You don't have

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Speaker 1: to go to work. We need to we need food. Whatever.

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Speaker 1: A list of the instant turnoffs for men when it

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Speaker 1: comes to dating. What will make a guy instantly not

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Speaker 1: want a second date? Flashing materialism is another one. Somebody

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Speaker 1: said talking NonStop about money, luxury brands, or expectations, one

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Speaker 1: guy said his date ranked him against her exes like

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Speaker 1: it was a Zillow wow.

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Speaker 2: Oh oh that's terrible. Why would you do that? Like,

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Speaker 2: why did you think you were going to get another date?

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Speaker 2: After doing that? She did one another date? She wanted

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Speaker 2: the free mial she got that date. She was just

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Speaker 2: going out with me to get this, to get the food.

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Speaker 4: She was dating freeze.

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Speaker 1: Somebody else said that an instant turnoff for them and

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Speaker 1: they won't be wanting a second date is extreme opinions

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Speaker 1: on anything, on anything that says more about them than

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Speaker 1: it does about the person with the opinion making me

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Speaker 1: out a strong opinion about that, I don't And anything political, spiritual,

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Speaker 1: dietary doesn't matter.

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Speaker 2: You need to be open minded about everything. You need

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Speaker 2: to go on a date with their blow up doll.

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Speaker 2: Just sit there and be happy. Some guys, I think

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Speaker 2: that's what they like. I agree. I know.

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Speaker 1: Another person said trauma dumping immediately and mentioning an X

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Speaker 1: is fine, but explaining your childhood wounds before the appetizers

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah for sure.

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Speaker 5: See all that to me still feels like third date material.

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Speaker 5: I don't want to hear like that. Just said that's

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Speaker 5: so much on first date. I barely know.

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Speaker 2: You tell me your last name?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, if it accidentally comes out like you do something

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Speaker 3: I'm down here.

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Speaker 2: You know that's funny, right.

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Speaker 1: Well Man said he had a date that cried into

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Speaker 1: her margarita while saying I usually don't open up this fast.

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Speaker 1: Check please, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: She's comfortable.

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Speaker 3: If you can't handle it, you shouldn't be here.

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Speaker 2: So this is mutual.

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Speaker 3: Both things are sped the sea that feels targeted.

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Speaker 1: And the number one response for men that is a

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Speaker 1: turn off on a first date that they won't give

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Speaker 1: you a second date is playing hard to get I

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Speaker 1: co signed that one hundred percent.

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Speaker 2: I get that. I don't understand.

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Speaker 1: No, I think women think guys like that, but we don't.

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Speaker 3: Me too.

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Speaker 1: Oh, But you know the thing is, like men tend

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Speaker 1: to be very literal, right, Like women are a little

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Speaker 1: bit more nuanced in the way that they communicate, you

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Speaker 1: things like that. So if you act uninterested, I just

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Speaker 1: believe you, yep, and I go the other way, right, cool.

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Speaker 2: She didn't like me?

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Speaker 5: Right?

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Speaker 1: And then if you text me, I'm like, are you're

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Speaker 1: texting me? You don't like me?

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Speaker 5: So what if like you didn't mean to, but you

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Speaker 5: actually go to someone and now it's been so long,

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Speaker 5: but you'd like thought about texting them? Do you text them?

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Speaker 5: Or do you not text them? Are they if it's

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Speaker 5: been a week, are they the guy are uninterested? I'm

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Speaker 5: currently going through this swection him? No?

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Speaker 2: Oh no, Like a week later, I'd be like, all right,

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Speaker 2: what's up. Yeah, I don't think it matters. Girl, hit

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Speaker 2: them up, you're cue. They still won't be like, oh,

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Speaker 2: like it's been a whole week.

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Speaker 1: Like no, And if you were honest about it and

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Speaker 1: said I, I probably looks like I was ghosting you,

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Speaker 1: but I didn't. I accidentally did that. I didn't mean

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Speaker 2: And they'll be mad. Yeah, okay, be honest.

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Speaker 4: He's gotta compet us on the head and tell us

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Speaker 4: everything's gonna be okay and.

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Speaker 2: Move on to the next day.

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Speaker 1: Kept well, because if you think about it, men usually

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Speaker 1: do the chasing right when it comes to relationships, like

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Speaker 1: men do a lot of the asking out.

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Speaker 2: Men usually do the first move and.

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Speaker 1: Stuff like that, and men don't often have somebody chase them.

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Speaker 1: So acting uninterested in a guy just confirms the fact

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Speaker 1: that no, you don't want to date him, because how

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Speaker 1: many times has that dude heard know before?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I guess I think that there is also a fine

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Speaker 3: because if it's too easy, they don't want it, and

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Speaker 3: if that's not the case, just know women are told

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Speaker 3: every single day on every single type of advice column

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Speaker 3: you name it, let him chase you.

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Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, I think the key is to express that

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Speaker 1: you're interested in a way that is also doesn't come

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Speaker 1: across as clingy, which is a fine line to walk,

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Speaker 1: right because some dudes are like, ah, she hugged me twice, dude,

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Speaker 1: no way, next thing. You know, she's gonna move in tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: So it's a fine line.

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Speaker 2: But I'm just kidding.

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Speaker 1: The acting uninterested, We'll have a dude, just believe you.

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Speaker 4: Just go with how you feel and stop reading these articles.

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Speaker 2: These are also mature men is mature ish.

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Speaker 1: So all right, your first day, first day follow up,

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Speaker 1: I don't know what day it is an your phone

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Speaker 2: Yeah,