Speaker 1: I mean, everybody does, like a top ten list of
Speaker 1: twenty twenty five, but none are more disastrous than ours.
Speaker 2: We have the worst of the worst.
Speaker 3: And with your number five second date update, how long
Speaker 3: should a good first date last?
Speaker 4: Like?
Speaker 2: Maybe an hour? Possibly two? No?
Speaker 3: Wrong, the correct answer is one hundred and twenty hours straight.
Speaker 2: Wait, because that's exactly how long.
Speaker 3: One of our listeners planned his first date to span
Speaker 3: five full days, and he did it with a woman
Speaker 3: that he'd never met in person before.
Speaker 2: Oh no, the date doesn't go well.
Speaker 1: I don't know, I feel like hour two, she's already
Speaker 1: ready to tap out. Yeah, it sounds like.
Speaker 2: A recipe for success to me.
Speaker 3: I guess we'll find out what happened in your number
Speaker 3: five second date update right now.
Speaker 2: Second date Update date, What do you.
Speaker 3: Do if you've been on the dating apps for so
Speaker 3: long you start seeing the same people on there over
Speaker 3: and over and over?
Speaker 1: Does that happen? Ye?
Speaker 2: Are you?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 1: Delete it? And the two years later you get it
Speaker 1: and you're like you again?
Speaker 3: You start thinking like, oh, they haven't found somebody yet,
Speaker 3: Oh that catfish account is still active. At that point,
Speaker 3: they're not potential soulmates to you anymore. They're more like coworkers,
Speaker 3: just occupying the same space as you every single day.
Speaker 2: Hey, Sarah, good to see you.
Speaker 3: And that's where one of our listeners, Patrick found himself recently,
Speaker 3: and he chose to do something about it.
Speaker 2: So let's find out Patrick. Welcome to the show.
Speaker 4: Hey guys, thanks for having me.
Speaker 1: It's funny to think that the people that are you
Speaker 1: were seeing are also seeing you and thinking the same thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you know, but.
Speaker 3: It sounds like you were on the dating apps for
Speaker 3: a long time.
Speaker 5: Yeah I was.
Speaker 1: Unfortunately, he's like, why bring it up, Jeff, Yeah, thanks.
Speaker 4: For reminding me.
Speaker 2: But it says that you decided to do something about
Speaker 2: it to change that. What did you do?
Speaker 4: So?
Speaker 5: I kept seeing the same people, so I expanded my locate.
Speaker 1: Willing to drive four hours for a year now.
Speaker 4: Basically, OK, so you.
Speaker 3: Expanded your search to farther away, and who did you
Speaker 3: end up matching with?
Speaker 5: Her name was Lisa and our first day actually ended
Speaker 5: up being a vacation.
Speaker 1: What wait, is that far away that you had to
Speaker 1: take a whole weekend to get there?
Speaker 4: What the heck?
Speaker 5: Well, it was kind of more of a separate trip.
Speaker 1: Whoa you invited her on a vacation, and she said.
Speaker 5: Yes, well it happened to coincide with the work vacation,
Speaker 5: so I just thought I would bring her and it
Speaker 5: sounded fun and spontaneous.
Speaker 3: Wow, because every time sometimes I feel like weh, I
Speaker 3: go on a vacation and a girl always joked like.
Speaker 6: Oh my god, take me with you, but like you
Speaker 6: don't actually take them with you.
Speaker 2: That's a stranger, bro.
Speaker 1: Did she know you don't live in her city?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 4: I told her. I told you. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Okay, so confused.
Speaker 1: And you're calling this a work vacation. Aren't those two
Speaker 1: words that don't go together.
Speaker 4: It's kind of sponsored by my work.
Speaker 5: It's a five day trip that we could take if
Speaker 5: we want.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, you spent five days together.
Speaker 5: Wow, Well it was supposed to be five days. It
Speaker 5: actually lasted about a day and a half half.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's not good. Why, well what happened?
Speaker 4: Well, I'm not quite sure.
Speaker 5: Actually we were staying in the same room, and of
Speaker 5: course we were going to restaurants, we were seeing the sites,
Speaker 5: doing all the stuff and having a really good time.
Speaker 4: In my mind, and my gosh.
Speaker 1: Like you're staying in the same room. Did she like,
Speaker 1: there's just so many layers to that. Like you're meeting
Speaker 1: this person for the first time and you're going to
Speaker 1: be using the same bathroom, is all I can think.
Speaker 2: Yeah, to be.
Speaker 3: Fair, we can't talk about anything without talking about the bathrooms.
Speaker 2: If Brooks involved in.
Speaker 1: The conversation, that like makes it super awkward.
Speaker 2: Right, Oh yeah, having to.
Speaker 1: Get ready and having the line and just.
Speaker 2: Like when you have to you got a holder sometimes, right.
Speaker 2: Is that why she ghested you after a day and
Speaker 2: a half.
Speaker 4: I hope not.
Speaker 5: I mean I didn't think all that throughout the time,
Speaker 5: and I should have for sure.
Speaker 3: Is there like a moment bro like tell us about
Speaker 3: like tell us about the vibe of the vacation, Like,
Speaker 3: how did it go up to that point?
Speaker 4: Well?
Speaker 5: I thought it was going well, you know, we were
Speaker 5: having a lot of laughs. She seemed to be enjoying herself.
Speaker 5: I was enjoying myself. And we went on this bike
Speaker 5: tour like the first day we were there, and we
Speaker 5: were on the bus coming back from it, and she
Speaker 5: just set a notehere and said, hey, I need to
Speaker 5: talk to you.
Speaker 4: Uh, I don't think I could make you happy.
Speaker 2: Well that's what she said, Yeah.
Speaker 5: And she got off the bus at the next stop,
Speaker 5: and I don't know what happened to me, but I
Speaker 5: just started crying.
Speaker 2: Oh oh man, was it one of those so much?
Speaker 1: Was it one of those wine bike tours? Because after
Speaker 1: I drink sometimes.
Speaker 4: There was no alcohol involved.
Speaker 5: Actually, okay, I don't know why I got emotional. It's
Speaker 5: probably I imagine it's because I've been on the apps
Speaker 5: for so long, and then I finally found somebody that
Speaker 5: I connected with and we were in.
Speaker 4: A beautiful place. And there's one dramatic.
Speaker 1: Again, it's not dramatic. That's just having feelings. Man, that's
Speaker 1: all right.
Speaker 2: Either that or you got dust in your eye. Could
Speaker 2: be either way.
Speaker 1: What do you think she meant by I can't make
Speaker 1: you happy?
Speaker 5: That's what I would like to find out. I mean,
Speaker 5: when I got back, she was kind of packing up
Speaker 5: all her stuff, and yeah, I gave her space, and
Speaker 5: then she left and I haven't really heard anything except
Speaker 5: she texted once that we're probably better off friends.
Speaker 3: It sounds like you planned a lot of activities for
Speaker 3: your vacation, and some people when they traveled, they don't like.
Speaker 4: To do that.
Speaker 2: I go through one activity maybe too, but yeah, mostly
Speaker 2: do beach time. No bike tours.
Speaker 1: Jose and I could never vacation again.
Speaker 2: She realized you weren't compatible that way.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean that could be.
Speaker 5: She seemed to be into all the little things that
Speaker 5: plans for us, though it's.
Speaker 1: Just so much time together, and she's adventurous enough to
Speaker 1: agree to a five day vacation with a guy off
Speaker 1: a dating app.
Speaker 3: Maybe she just wanted the free vacation to like lie
Speaker 3: up by the pool the whole time.
Speaker 2: Didn't want to be going to the zoo and going to.
Speaker 1: The work, and she was just getting Maybe that's what
Speaker 1: she thought.
Speaker 2: How long has it been since that happened.
Speaker 4: It was about a week ago.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, And obviously you're upset about it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm very upset. I mean cry in front of strangers. Upset.
Speaker 1: Hasn't cried in front of strangers? You're fine?
Speaker 3: Yeah, Well, maybe she's still even there now. Maybe she's
Speaker 3: just parting it up wherever you guys went to, Maybe
Speaker 3: she moved.
Speaker 2: Let's find out when we call her, we'll come back.
Speaker 2: We'll try and get you your second date update right
Speaker 2: after this hold on second date update.
Speaker 3: Some people like to go out to a restaurant for
Speaker 3: a first date others might see a concert or hit
Speaker 3: a mini golf, but not our listener Patrick. No, he
Speaker 3: jumps straight to a five day vacation for his first
Speaker 3: date with Lisa. At least it was supposed to be
Speaker 3: five days, but she cut things off after just a
Speaker 3: day and a half.
Speaker 1: But she did it in a pretty respectful way.
Speaker 3: The last thing that she said to him was I
Speaker 3: don't think I can make you happy, And the last
Speaker 3: thing he said to her was because he cried from
Speaker 3: that comment. Understandably, he built up a lot of hope,
Speaker 3: and those bike tours can make a chaf real bad too.
Speaker 1: Not only that, but he's been on the dating apps
Speaker 1: for years, so it's like years of pent up frustration
Speaker 1: just coming out.
Speaker 5: And I think it's.
Speaker 2: Worse when you think things are going well, right yea,
Speaker 2: and got blindsided.
Speaker 3: The thing is he still doesn't understand what prompted her
Speaker 3: to say that, Patrick, If you had to guess, what
Speaker 3: do you think it is?
Speaker 4: Maybe it was my breath. You usually have gum and
Speaker 4: I didn't have.
Speaker 1: She could be an aic. I'm not sure why that
Speaker 1: would prompt her to say, I don't know why I
Speaker 1: can't make you happy, but.
Speaker 3: I cannot recommend a dentist. She didn't have gum either.
Speaker 3: Bro the romantic tragedy of the century.
Speaker 7: That makes sense.
Speaker 1: I mean, maybe you guys can try to get just
Speaker 1: a single date together. Maybe that will be the key here.
Speaker 4: I like that.
Speaker 5: But we do live in different cities, so somebody's gonna
Speaker 5: have to travel.
Speaker 2: Meeting up is a vacation in itself, so hey, that
Speaker 2: may be kind of fun. It's like once a month
Speaker 2: someone takes a vacation. I could be.
Speaker 3: Let's start with trying to get Let's start with trying
Speaker 3: to get her to pick up the phone first and
Speaker 3: hopefully get an answer out of her.
Speaker 2: But I'm going to dial her number right now. Let's
Speaker 2: see how this goes.
Speaker 6: Huh.
Speaker 2: Hey is this Lisa?
Speaker 4: Yeah, Hey, thanks for picking up.
Speaker 2: We're a radio show. We're called Brooke and Jeffrey in
Speaker 2: the Morning. Lisa, Hey, Lisa, good morning.
Speaker 6: Hi, good morning.
Speaker 3: Sorry to interrupt your day like this, but we're doing
Speaker 3: a segment on our show.
Speaker 2: It's called a second Date Update.
Speaker 3: I'm not sure if you're familiar with that, but one
Speaker 3: of our listeners named Patrick has asked us to reach
Speaker 3: out to you.
Speaker 6: Oh wow, okay, wow, Like oh wow, no, not.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, Okay, are you surprised to be hearing from Patrick?
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm surprised. Well, I guess I'm not surprised because
Speaker 6: he seemed pretty.
Speaker 4: Desperate.
Speaker 2: Desperate.
Speaker 3: Oh, come on, that's a pretty harsh judgment for someone
Speaker 3: that you hung out with for like a day, day
Speaker 3: and half.
Speaker 6: Trust me, you'd be saying the same thing if you
Speaker 6: knew all the things that he Kenn did.
Speaker 4: What.
Speaker 5: Okay, that's so wild.
Speaker 1: Like we talked to him, he seems so mellow.
Speaker 6: Yeah, maybe it's you because he's not in loving.
Speaker 7: You like he was.
Speaker 2: That's not fair either. I was sensing love vibe.
Speaker 4: But he.
Speaker 1: Can't be in love with you. I mean, he just
Speaker 1: sounds like he really liked you and you two finally connected.
Speaker 6: He was behaving as if he loved me.
Speaker 3: Oh geez, what happened to make you say that? Because
Speaker 3: I don't think we have the full story. Like we
Speaker 3: know that he did a lot.
Speaker 1: And yeah, you agreed to go on a five day
Speaker 1: vacation with him, which is wild.
Speaker 4: That's the thing.
Speaker 7: It was just it was a lot, and yes, I
Speaker 7: agreed to go on this trip, but there didn't need
Speaker 7: to be extra pressure on top of it.
Speaker 1: And there was okay.
Speaker 6: How so, so our first night there, we went to
Speaker 6: dinner and he was like, I could totally see myself
Speaker 6: proposing here. He wasn't talking about me, but it was
Speaker 6: like he was waiting for some of me to be like,
Speaker 6: oh yeah, like, well it'll be so lovely one day,
Speaker 6: you know, I don't know. I was like okay. And
Speaker 6: then the next day we go on the tour and
Speaker 6: he introduces me to the guide as, oh, this is
Speaker 6: my future wife.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, maybe he kidding.
Speaker 2: I feel like this is my future Funny.
Speaker 6: Even if he was kidding, there was a note of kidding,
Speaker 6: but it was not enough to like to just.
Speaker 1: I mean, he sounds kind of like an earnest guy
Speaker 1: who can be a little awkward right when we talked
Speaker 1: to him.
Speaker 6: No, this is beyond like. He then wanted to stop
Speaker 6: at the jewelry store and he was like, hey, let's
Speaker 6: go check out some like ring.
Speaker 3: Okay, but did you tell him ahead of time that
Speaker 3: you're against love and the idea of marrying someone in.
Speaker 1: A beautiful.
Speaker 6: I'm not against love and marriage and all those things.
Speaker 6: It's more that I don't need it on my firm state,
Speaker 6: Like let's get to know each other.
Speaker 4: That's true.
Speaker 1: Shopping is wild.
Speaker 2: I mean, I mean I was, I was almost engaging.
Speaker 2: We still never one ring.
Speaker 1: Maybe it was a local artisan shop, but he was
Speaker 1: just being a tourists.
Speaker 2: Looking for a necklace there.
Speaker 3: Well, we don't have to speculate on like what he
Speaker 3: was thinking and where his mind is that because he's
Speaker 3: actually on the other line right now waiting.
Speaker 4: To talk to me.
Speaker 6: I know.
Speaker 4: He is.
Speaker 1: Give him.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm kind of bummed out that I haven't heard
Speaker 5: from you.
Speaker 4: You haven't returned to any of my calls or messages.
Speaker 7: Wow, Like I said it, really I didn't think it
Speaker 7: was a good fit. I didn't think we were handling
Speaker 7: the pace and everything and seeing eye to eye.
Speaker 1: Was that hard to hear?
Speaker 5: Patrick, Yeah, of course it's hard to hear. I mean,
Speaker 5: to be fair, I didn't actually propose.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we know for the ring shop.
Speaker 5: I feel like you're blowing in out of proportion a
Speaker 5: little bit.
Speaker 4: I was just curious what your taste was. It's kind
Speaker 4: of fun to go into a shop. It could have
Speaker 4: been a T shirt.
Speaker 5: Sor you know, and yeah, it.
Speaker 4: Was too much.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I know you're saying it's too much a lot,
Speaker 5: but sometimes people just know.
Speaker 4: It's like an instinctual.
Speaker 5: Thing and you just feel it. For my parents, I mean,
Speaker 5: it would love at first sight. They fill within the
Speaker 5: first few minutes of meeting each other.
Speaker 4: They ended up having four kids very soon after that.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's a good timeline to lay out after what
Speaker 1: she just said.
Speaker 6: Yeah, and that reminds me of the time. Also, you said, oh,
Speaker 6: one day, I hope we can have future kids little asses.
Speaker 5: Wow, Half, isn't that what everybody wants in life? I mean,
Speaker 5: I thought that's why we were going on a date in.
Speaker 4: The first place, is to find love.
Speaker 7: Really? Is that why people we should have known a
Speaker 7: guy who invites to go on a five DA vacation
Speaker 7: is serious.
Speaker 1: Maybe he could slow it down, though, you know, maybe
Speaker 1: you could pump the brakes a little bit.
Speaker 4: I could plump the brakes. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2: See, Wow, you're never playing hard to get bro I'm sorry.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm skeptical if he's capable of that.
Speaker 3: But if he's able to dial it back, pull back
Speaker 3: the reins on the love and just do like one
Speaker 3: dinner date with him, no vacation, would you be up
Speaker 3: for meeting Patrick one more time?
Speaker 4: Lisa?
Speaker 5: Before you say anything, I just that day you left
Speaker 5: me on the bus and when you said you could
Speaker 5: never make me happy. I cried when you got off
Speaker 5: the bus, and I don't normally I'm not a big
Speaker 5: cry here, especially in public.
Speaker 4: And it hit me.
Speaker 2: I'm not sure that's usually a romantic selling point.
Speaker 3: But yeah, sounds like your second date is definitely going
Speaker 3: to be cashing.
Speaker 6: I mean it seems like a lot of pressure. I
Speaker 6: don't know about this.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but sometimes opposites a track. He is hopeless romantic
Speaker 1: and you are more like Alexis. Yeah, I think she's
Speaker 1: gonna wake up in bed with a ring on her finger. Yeah.
Speaker 3: It's up to you, though, Lisa. We're not trying to
Speaker 3: pressure you. We're not trying to like force you to
Speaker 3: do anything you don't want to do. But we just
Speaker 3: think that love is the most important thing in the
Speaker 3: entire world.
Speaker 2: And what the whole purpose that we're on ear that means?
Speaker 2: Would you give him one more chance?
Speaker 7: I am open to it, It's just I need some
Speaker 7: confirmation that will be dialed back, like.
Speaker 5: I've already dialed it back.
Speaker 2: I feel it right now, It's totally I'm not sure
Speaker 2: he likes you anymore. Honestly, honestly, did.
Speaker 4: He hang up?
Speaker 5: Why don't we just talk on the phone for a
Speaker 5: while and see where things go from there?
Speaker 4: We could start there, Yes, let's start start.
Speaker 2: At least that you were wrong. You can make him.
Speaker 4: Happy, definitely. She just made me happy with the phone call,
Speaker 4: for sure.
Speaker 2: Smile.
Speaker 4: Okay, this is not.
Speaker 3: Looking Jeffrey in the morning man. That was a missed
Speaker 3: opportunity on my part. I apologize to everyone because she
Speaker 3: said that she agreed to a phone call. Why didn't
Speaker 3: we hang up and call her back right there? Could
Speaker 3: have just knocked it out while we were on the radio.
Speaker 3: Maybe got some dirty talking.
Speaker 1: I need to hear anymore that. I have a feeling
Speaker 1: that she might not answer the Yeah, yeah, you should.
Speaker 2: Try to get them for an awkward Tuesday something. I
Speaker 2: guess you know.
Speaker 3: We're gonna let them work it out on their own
Speaker 3: because they agreed to talk off the air, so that's good.
Speaker 2: Who knows if it's going to be a true love
Speaker 2: connection or not. That's going to be up to them.
Speaker 1: I would like an update from them. Yeah they end
Speaker 1: up talking for a minute. I'd like to hear where
Speaker 1: they're at. By the time two months hit, they should
Speaker 1: have three kids at released.
Speaker 3: But even if it didn't work out for them, lately,
Speaker 3: we've had plenty that did, and you can hear them
Speaker 3: all on our Second Day podcast. They're up online wherever
Speaker 3: you get yours, Abrook and Jeffrey