WEBVTT - #5 Second Date Update of 2025: Vacation No No

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, everybody does, like a top ten list of

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<v Speaker 1>twenty twenty five, but none are more disastrous than ours.

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<v Speaker 2>We have the worst of the worst.

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<v Speaker 3>And with your number five second date update, how long

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<v Speaker 3>should a good first date last?

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<v Speaker 4>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe an hour? Possibly two? No?

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<v Speaker 3>Wrong, the correct answer is one hundred and twenty hours straight.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait, because that's exactly how long.

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<v Speaker 3>One of our listeners planned his first date to span

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<v Speaker 3>five full days, and he did it with a woman

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<v Speaker 3>that he'd never met in person before.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, the date doesn't go well.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I feel like hour two, she's already

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<v Speaker 1>ready to tap out. Yeah, it sounds like.

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<v Speaker 2>A recipe for success to me.

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<v Speaker 3>I guess we'll find out what happened in your number

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<v Speaker 3>five second date update right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Second date Update date, What do you.

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<v Speaker 3>Do if you've been on the dating apps for so

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<v Speaker 3>long you start seeing the same people on there over

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<v Speaker 3>and over and over?

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<v Speaker 1>Does that happen? Ye?

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<v Speaker 2>Are you?

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<v Speaker 3>Like?

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<v Speaker 1>Delete it? And the two years later you get it

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<v Speaker 1>and you're like you again?

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<v Speaker 3>You start thinking like, oh, they haven't found somebody yet,

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<v Speaker 3>Oh that catfish account is still active. At that point,

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<v Speaker 3>they're not potential soulmates to you anymore. They're more like coworkers,

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<v Speaker 3>just occupying the same space as you every single day.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, Sarah, good to see you.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's where one of our listeners, Patrick found himself recently,

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<v Speaker 3>and he chose to do something about it.

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<v Speaker 2>So let's find out Patrick. Welcome to the show.

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<v Speaker 4>Hey guys, thanks for having me.

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<v Speaker 1>It's funny to think that the people that are you

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<v Speaker 1>were seeing are also seeing you and thinking the same thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, you know, but.

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<v Speaker 3>It sounds like you were on the dating apps for

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<v Speaker 3>a long time.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah I was.

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<v Speaker 1>Unfortunately, he's like, why bring it up, Jeff, Yeah, thanks.

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<v Speaker 4>For reminding me.

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<v Speaker 2>But it says that you decided to do something about

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<v Speaker 2>it to change that. What did you do?

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<v Speaker 4>So?

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<v Speaker 5>I kept seeing the same people, so I expanded my locate.

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<v Speaker 1>Willing to drive four hours for a year now.

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<v Speaker 4>Basically, OK, so you.

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<v Speaker 3>Expanded your search to farther away, and who did you

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<v Speaker 3>end up matching with?

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<v Speaker 5>Her name was Lisa and our first day actually ended

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<v Speaker 5>up being a vacation.

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<v Speaker 1>What wait, is that far away that you had to

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<v Speaker 1>take a whole weekend to get there?

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<v Speaker 4>What the heck?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, it was kind of more of a separate trip.

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<v Speaker 1>Whoa you invited her on a vacation, and she said.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, well it happened to coincide with the work vacation,

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<v Speaker 5>so I just thought I would bring her and it

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<v Speaker 5>sounded fun and spontaneous.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, because every time sometimes I feel like weh, I

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<v Speaker 3>go on a vacation and a girl always joked like.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh my god, take me with you, but like you

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<v Speaker 6>don't actually take them with you.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a stranger, bro.

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<v Speaker 1>Did she know you don't live in her city?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>I told her. I told you. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so confused.

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<v Speaker 1>And you're calling this a work vacation. Aren't those two

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<v Speaker 1>words that don't go together.

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<v Speaker 4>It's kind of sponsored by my work.

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<v Speaker 5>It's a five day trip that we could take if

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<v Speaker 5>we want.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, you spent five days together.

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<v Speaker 5>Wow, Well it was supposed to be five days. It

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<v Speaker 5>actually lasted about a day and a half half.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, that's not good. Why, well what happened?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I'm not quite sure.

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<v Speaker 5>Actually we were staying in the same room, and of

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<v Speaker 5>course we were going to restaurants, we were seeing the sites,

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<v Speaker 5>doing all the stuff and having a really good time.

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<v Speaker 4>In my mind, and my gosh.

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<v Speaker 1>Like you're staying in the same room. Did she like,

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<v Speaker 1>there's just so many layers to that. Like you're meeting

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<v Speaker 1>this person for the first time and you're going to

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<v Speaker 1>be using the same bathroom, is all I can think.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, to be.

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<v Speaker 3>Fair, we can't talk about anything without talking about the bathrooms.

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<v Speaker 2>If Brooks involved in.

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<v Speaker 1>The conversation, that like makes it super awkward.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, Oh yeah, having to.

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<v Speaker 1>Get ready and having the line and just.

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<v Speaker 2>Like when you have to you got a holder sometimes, right.

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<v Speaker 2>Is that why she ghested you after a day and

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<v Speaker 2>a half.

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<v Speaker 4>I hope not.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean I didn't think all that throughout the time,

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<v Speaker 5>and I should have for sure.

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<v Speaker 3>Is there like a moment bro like tell us about

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<v Speaker 3>like tell us about the vibe of the vacation, Like,

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<v Speaker 3>how did it go up to that point?

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<v Speaker 4>Well?

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<v Speaker 5>I thought it was going well, you know, we were

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<v Speaker 5>having a lot of laughs. She seemed to be enjoying herself.

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<v Speaker 5>I was enjoying myself. And we went on this bike

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<v Speaker 5>tour like the first day we were there, and we

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<v Speaker 5>were on the bus coming back from it, and she

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<v Speaker 5>just set a notehere and said, hey, I need to

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<v Speaker 5>talk to you.

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<v Speaker 4>Uh, I don't think I could make you happy.

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<v Speaker 2>Well that's what she said, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>And she got off the bus at the next stop,

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<v Speaker 5>and I don't know what happened to me, but I

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<v Speaker 5>just started crying.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh oh man, was it one of those so much?

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<v Speaker 1>Was it one of those wine bike tours? Because after

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<v Speaker 1>I drink sometimes.

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<v Speaker 4>There was no alcohol involved.

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<v Speaker 5>Actually, okay, I don't know why I got emotional. It's

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<v Speaker 5>probably I imagine it's because I've been on the apps

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<v Speaker 5>for so long, and then I finally found somebody that

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<v Speaker 5>I connected with and we were in.

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<v Speaker 4>A beautiful place. And there's one dramatic.

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<v Speaker 1>Again, it's not dramatic. That's just having feelings. Man, that's

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<v Speaker 1>all right.

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<v Speaker 2>Either that or you got dust in your eye. Could

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<v Speaker 2>be either way.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think she meant by I can't make

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<v Speaker 1>you happy?

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<v Speaker 5>That's what I would like to find out. I mean,

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<v Speaker 5>when I got back, she was kind of packing up

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<v Speaker 5>all her stuff, and yeah, I gave her space, and

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<v Speaker 5>then she left and I haven't really heard anything except

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<v Speaker 5>she texted once that we're probably better off friends.

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<v Speaker 3>It sounds like you planned a lot of activities for

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<v Speaker 3>your vacation, and some people when they traveled, they don't like.

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<v Speaker 4>To do that.

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<v Speaker 2>I go through one activity maybe too, but yeah, mostly

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<v Speaker 2>do beach time. No bike tours.

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<v Speaker 1>Jose and I could never vacation again.

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<v Speaker 2>She realized you weren't compatible that way.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I mean that could be.

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<v Speaker 5>She seemed to be into all the little things that

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<v Speaker 5>plans for us, though it's.

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<v Speaker 1>Just so much time together, and she's adventurous enough to

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<v Speaker 1>agree to a five day vacation with a guy off

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<v Speaker 1>a dating app.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe she just wanted the free vacation to like lie

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<v Speaker 3>up by the pool the whole time.

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<v Speaker 2>Didn't want to be going to the zoo and going to.

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<v Speaker 1>The work, and she was just getting Maybe that's what

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<v Speaker 1>she thought.

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<v Speaker 2>How long has it been since that happened.

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<v Speaker 4>It was about a week ago.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, okay, And obviously you're upset about it.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I'm very upset. I mean cry in front of strangers. Upset.

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<v Speaker 1>Hasn't cried in front of strangers? You're fine?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Well, maybe she's still even there now. Maybe she's

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<v Speaker 3>just parting it up wherever you guys went to, Maybe

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<v Speaker 3>she moved.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's find out when we call her, we'll come back.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll try and get you your second date update right

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<v Speaker 2>after this hold on second date update.

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<v Speaker 3>Some people like to go out to a restaurant for

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<v Speaker 3>a first date others might see a concert or hit

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<v Speaker 3>a mini golf, but not our listener Patrick. No, he

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<v Speaker 3>jumps straight to a five day vacation for his first

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<v Speaker 3>date with Lisa. At least it was supposed to be

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<v Speaker 3>five days, but she cut things off after just a

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<v Speaker 3>day and a half.

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<v Speaker 1>But she did it in a pretty respectful way.

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<v Speaker 3>The last thing that she said to him was I

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<v Speaker 3>don't think I can make you happy, And the last

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<v Speaker 3>thing he said to her was because he cried from

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<v Speaker 3>that comment. Understandably, he built up a lot of hope,

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<v Speaker 3>and those bike tours can make a chaf real bad too.

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<v Speaker 1>Not only that, but he's been on the dating apps

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<v Speaker 1>for years, so it's like years of pent up frustration

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<v Speaker 1>just coming out.

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<v Speaker 5>And I think it's.

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<v Speaker 2>Worse when you think things are going well, right yea,

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<v Speaker 2>and got blindsided.

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<v Speaker 3>The thing is he still doesn't understand what prompted her

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<v Speaker 3>to say that, Patrick, If you had to guess, what

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<v Speaker 3>do you think it is?

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe it was my breath. You usually have gum and

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't have.

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<v Speaker 1>She could be an aic. I'm not sure why that

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<v Speaker 1>would prompt her to say, I don't know why I

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<v Speaker 1>can't make you happy, but.

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<v Speaker 3>I cannot recommend a dentist. She didn't have gum either.

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<v Speaker 3>Bro the romantic tragedy of the century.

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<v Speaker 7>That makes sense.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, maybe you guys can try to get just

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<v Speaker 1>a single date together. Maybe that will be the key here.

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<v Speaker 4>I like that.

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<v Speaker 5>But we do live in different cities, so somebody's gonna

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<v Speaker 5>have to travel.

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<v Speaker 2>Meeting up is a vacation in itself, so hey, that

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<v Speaker 2>may be kind of fun. It's like once a month

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<v Speaker 2>someone takes a vacation. I could be.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's start with trying to get Let's start with trying

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<v Speaker 3>to get her to pick up the phone first and

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<v Speaker 3>hopefully get an answer out of her.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm going to dial her number right now. Let's

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<v Speaker 2>see how this goes.

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<v Speaker 6>Huh.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey is this Lisa?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, Hey, thanks for picking up.

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<v Speaker 2>We're a radio show. We're called Brooke and Jeffrey in

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<v Speaker 2>the Morning. Lisa, Hey, Lisa, good morning.

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<v Speaker 6>Hi, good morning.

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<v Speaker 3>Sorry to interrupt your day like this, but we're doing

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<v Speaker 3>a segment on our show.

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<v Speaker 2>It's called a second Date Update.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not sure if you're familiar with that, but one

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<v Speaker 3>of our listeners named Patrick has asked us to reach

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<v Speaker 3>out to you.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh wow, okay, wow, Like oh wow, no, not.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wow, Okay, are you surprised to be hearing from Patrick?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I'm surprised. Well, I guess I'm not surprised because

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<v Speaker 6>he seemed pretty.

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<v Speaker 4>Desperate.

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<v Speaker 2>Desperate.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, come on, that's a pretty harsh judgment for someone

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<v Speaker 3>that you hung out with for like a day, day

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<v Speaker 3>and half.

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<v Speaker 6>Trust me, you'd be saying the same thing if you

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<v Speaker 6>knew all the things that he Kenn did.

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<v Speaker 4>What.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, that's so wild.

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<v Speaker 1>Like we talked to him, he seems so mellow.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, maybe it's you because he's not in loving.

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<v Speaker 7>You like he was.

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<v Speaker 2>That's not fair either. I was sensing love vibe.

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<v Speaker 4>But he.

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<v Speaker 1>Can't be in love with you. I mean, he just

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<v Speaker 1>sounds like he really liked you and you two finally connected.

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<v Speaker 6>He was behaving as if he loved me.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh geez, what happened to make you say that? Because

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think we have the full story. Like we

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<v Speaker 3>know that he did a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>And yeah, you agreed to go on a five day

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<v Speaker 1>vacation with him, which is wild.

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<v Speaker 4>That's the thing.

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<v Speaker 7>It was just it was a lot, and yes, I

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<v Speaker 7>agreed to go on this trip, but there didn't need

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<v Speaker 7>to be extra pressure on top of it.

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<v Speaker 1>And there was okay.

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<v Speaker 6>How so, so our first night there, we went to

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<v Speaker 6>dinner and he was like, I could totally see myself

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<v Speaker 6>proposing here. He wasn't talking about me, but it was

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<v Speaker 6>like he was waiting for some of me to be like,

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<v Speaker 6>oh yeah, like, well it'll be so lovely one day,

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<v Speaker 6>you know, I don't know. I was like okay. And

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<v Speaker 6>then the next day we go on the tour and

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<v Speaker 6>he introduces me to the guide as, oh, this is

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<v Speaker 6>my future wife.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, maybe he kidding.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like this is my future Funny.

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<v Speaker 6>Even if he was kidding, there was a note of kidding,

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<v Speaker 6>but it was not enough to like to just.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, he sounds kind of like an earnest guy

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<v Speaker 1>who can be a little awkward right when we talked

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<v Speaker 1>to him.

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<v Speaker 6>No, this is beyond like. He then wanted to stop

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<v Speaker 6>at the jewelry store and he was like, hey, let's

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<v Speaker 6>go check out some like ring.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, but did you tell him ahead of time that

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<v Speaker 3>you're against love and the idea of marrying someone in.

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<v Speaker 1>A beautiful.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm not against love and marriage and all those things.

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<v Speaker 6>It's more that I don't need it on my firm state,

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<v Speaker 6>Like let's get to know each other.

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<v Speaker 4>That's true.

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<v Speaker 1>Shopping is wild.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I mean I was, I was almost engaging.

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<v Speaker 2>We still never one ring.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe it was a local artisan shop, but he was

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<v Speaker 1>just being a tourists.

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<v Speaker 2>Looking for a necklace there.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, we don't have to speculate on like what he

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<v Speaker 3>was thinking and where his mind is that because he's

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<v Speaker 3>actually on the other line right now waiting.

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<v Speaker 4>To talk to me.

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<v Speaker 6>I know.

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<v Speaker 4>He is.

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<v Speaker 1>Give him.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I'm kind of bummed out that I haven't heard

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<v Speaker 5>from you.

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<v Speaker 4>You haven't returned to any of my calls or messages.

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<v Speaker 7>Wow, Like I said it, really I didn't think it

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<v Speaker 7>was a good fit. I didn't think we were handling

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<v Speaker 7>the pace and everything and seeing eye to eye.

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<v Speaker 1>Was that hard to hear?

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<v Speaker 5>Patrick, Yeah, of course it's hard to hear. I mean,

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<v Speaker 5>to be fair, I didn't actually propose.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, we know for the ring shop.

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<v Speaker 5>I feel like you're blowing in out of proportion a

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<v Speaker 5>little bit.

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<v Speaker 4>I was just curious what your taste was. It's kind

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<v Speaker 4>of fun to go into a shop. It could have

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<v Speaker 4>been a T shirt.

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<v Speaker 5>Sor you know, and yeah, it.

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<v Speaker 4>Was too much.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I know you're saying it's too much a lot,

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<v Speaker 5>but sometimes people just know.

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<v Speaker 4>It's like an instinctual.

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<v Speaker 5>Thing and you just feel it. For my parents, I mean,

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<v Speaker 5>it would love at first sight. They fill within the

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<v Speaker 5>first few minutes of meeting each other.

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<v Speaker 4>They ended up having four kids very soon after that.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, that's a good timeline to lay out after what

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<v Speaker 1>she just said.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, and that reminds me of the time. Also, you said, oh,

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<v Speaker 6>one day, I hope we can have future kids little asses.

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<v Speaker 5>Wow, Half, isn't that what everybody wants in life? I mean,

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<v Speaker 5>I thought that's why we were going on a date in.

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<v Speaker 4>The first place, is to find love.

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<v Speaker 7>Really? Is that why people we should have known a

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<v Speaker 7>guy who invites to go on a five DA vacation

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<v Speaker 7>is serious.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe he could slow it down, though, you know, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you could pump the brakes a little bit.

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<v Speaker 4>I could plump the brakes. Yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>See, Wow, you're never playing hard to get bro I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I'm skeptical if he's capable of that.

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<v Speaker 3>But if he's able to dial it back, pull back

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<v Speaker 3>the reins on the love and just do like one

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<v Speaker 3>dinner date with him, no vacation, would you be up

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<v Speaker 3>for meeting Patrick one more time?

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<v Speaker 4>Lisa?

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<v Speaker 5>Before you say anything, I just that day you left

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<v Speaker 5>me on the bus and when you said you could

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<v Speaker 5>never make me happy. I cried when you got off

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<v Speaker 5>the bus, and I don't normally I'm not a big

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<v Speaker 5>cry here, especially in public.

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<v Speaker 4>And it hit me.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not sure that's usually a romantic selling point.

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<v Speaker 3>But yeah, sounds like your second date is definitely going

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<v Speaker 3>to be cashing.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean it seems like a lot of pressure. I

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<v Speaker 6>don't know about this.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but sometimes opposites a track. He is hopeless romantic

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<v Speaker 1>and you are more like Alexis. Yeah, I think she's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna wake up in bed with a ring on her finger. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>It's up to you, though, Lisa. We're not trying to

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<v Speaker 3>pressure you. We're not trying to like force you to

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<v Speaker 3>do anything you don't want to do. But we just

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<v Speaker 3>think that love is the most important thing in the

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<v Speaker 3>entire world.

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<v Speaker 2>And what the whole purpose that we're on ear that means?

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<v Speaker 2>Would you give him one more chance?

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<v Speaker 7>I am open to it, It's just I need some

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<v Speaker 7>confirmation that will be dialed back, like.

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<v Speaker 5>I've already dialed it back.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel it right now, It's totally I'm not sure

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<v Speaker 2>he likes you anymore. Honestly, honestly, did.

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<v Speaker 4>He hang up?

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<v Speaker 5>Why don't we just talk on the phone for a

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<v Speaker 5>while and see where things go from there?

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<v Speaker 4>We could start there, Yes, let's start start.

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<v Speaker 2>At least that you were wrong. You can make him.

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<v Speaker 4>Happy, definitely. She just made me happy with the phone call,

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<v Speaker 4>for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>Smile.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, this is not.

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<v Speaker 3>Looking Jeffrey in the morning man. That was a missed

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<v Speaker 3>opportunity on my part. I apologize to everyone because she

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<v Speaker 3>said that she agreed to a phone call. Why didn't

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<v Speaker 3>we hang up and call her back right there? Could

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<v Speaker 3>have just knocked it out while we were on the radio.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe got some dirty talking.

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<v Speaker 1>I need to hear anymore that. I have a feeling

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<v Speaker 1>that she might not answer the Yeah, yeah, you should.

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<v Speaker 2>Try to get them for an awkward Tuesday something. I

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<v Speaker 2>guess you know.

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<v Speaker 3>We're gonna let them work it out on their own

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<v Speaker 3>because they agreed to talk off the air, so that's good.

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<v Speaker 2>Who knows if it's going to be a true love

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<v Speaker 2>connection or not. That's going to be up to them.

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<v Speaker 1>I would like an update from them. Yeah they end

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<v Speaker 1>up talking for a minute. I'd like to hear where

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<v Speaker 1>they're at. By the time two months hit, they should

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<v Speaker 1>have three kids at released.

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<v Speaker 3>But even if it didn't work out for them, lately,

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<v Speaker 3>we've had plenty that did, and you can hear them

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<v Speaker 3>all on our Second Day podcast. They're up online wherever

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<v Speaker 3>you get yours, Abrook and Jeffrey