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Speaker 2: We have the worst of the worst.

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Speaker 3: And with your number five second date update, how long

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Speaker 2: Maybe an hour? Possibly two? No?

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Speaker 3: Wrong, the correct answer is one hundred and twenty hours straight.

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Speaker 2: Wait, because that's exactly how long.

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Speaker 3: One of our listeners planned his first date to span

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Speaker 2: Oh no, the date doesn't go well.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I feel like hour two, she's already

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Speaker 2: A recipe for success to me.

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Speaker 3: I guess we'll find out what happened in your number

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Speaker 2: Second date Update date, What do you.

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Speaker 3: Do if you've been on the dating apps for so

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Speaker 1: Does that happen? Ye?

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Speaker 1: Delete it? And the two years later you get it

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Speaker 3: You start thinking like, oh, they haven't found somebody yet,

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Speaker 3: And that's where one of our listeners, Patrick found himself recently,

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Speaker 2: So let's find out Patrick. Welcome to the show.

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Speaker 4: Hey guys, thanks for having me.

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Speaker 1: It's funny to think that the people that are you

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Speaker 5: Her name was Lisa and our first day actually ended

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Speaker 6: Oh my god, take me with you, but like you

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Speaker 2: She realized you weren't compatible that way.

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Speaker 3: The thing is he still doesn't understand what prompted her

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Speaker 2: Meeting up is a vacation in itself, so hey, that

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Speaker 3: Let's start with trying to get Let's start with trying

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Speaker 2: But I'm going to dial her number right now. Let's

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Speaker 2: Hey is this Lisa?

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Speaker 2: the Morning. Lisa, Hey, Lisa, good morning.

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Speaker 6: Hi, good morning.

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Speaker 3: Sorry to interrupt your day like this, but we're doing

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Speaker 3: a segment on our show.

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Speaker 2: It's called a second Date Update.

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Speaker 3: I'm not sure if you're familiar with that, but one

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Speaker 6: Oh wow, okay, wow, Like oh wow, no, not.

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Speaker 4: Desperate.

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Speaker 4: What.

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Speaker 5: Okay, that's so wild.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, maybe it's you because he's not in loving.

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Speaker 1: Can't be in love with you. I mean, he just

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Speaker 6: He was behaving as if he loved me.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, you agreed to go on a five day

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Speaker 4: That's the thing.

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Speaker 6: Even if he was kidding, there was a note of kidding,

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Speaker 6: No, this is beyond like. He then wanted to stop

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Speaker 3: Okay, but did you tell him ahead of time that

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Speaker 6: I'm not against love and marriage and all those things.

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Speaker 6: It's more that I don't need it on my firm state,

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Speaker 4: That's true.

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Speaker 1: Shopping is wild.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I mean I was, I was almost engaging.

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Speaker 1: Maybe it was a local artisan shop, but he was

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Speaker 3: Well, we don't have to speculate on like what he

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Speaker 4: To talk to me.

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Speaker 6: I know.

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Speaker 4: He is.

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Speaker 1: Give him.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm kind of bummed out that I haven't heard

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Speaker 4: You haven't returned to any of my calls or messages.

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Speaker 7: Wow, Like I said it, really I didn't think it

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Speaker 1: Was that hard to hear?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we know for the ring shop.

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Speaker 5: I feel like you're blowing in out of proportion a

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Speaker 4: I was just curious what your taste was. It's kind

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Speaker 5: Sor you know, and yeah, it.

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Speaker 4: Was too much.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I know you're saying it's too much a lot,

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Speaker 4: It's like an instinctual.

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Speaker 5: Thing and you just feel it. For my parents, I mean,

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Speaker 4: They ended up having four kids very soon after that.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, and that reminds me of the time. Also, you said, oh,

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Speaker 5: Wow, Half, isn't that what everybody wants in life? I mean,

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Speaker 5: I thought that's why we were going on a date in.

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Speaker 4: The first place, is to find love.

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Speaker 7: Really? Is that why people we should have known a

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Speaker 1: Maybe he could slow it down, though, you know, maybe

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Speaker 4: I could plump the brakes. Yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 2: See, Wow, you're never playing hard to get bro I'm sorry.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm skeptical if he's capable of that.

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Speaker 3: But if he's able to dial it back, pull back

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Speaker 3: dinner date with him, no vacation, would you be up

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Speaker 4: Lisa?

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Speaker 5: Before you say anything, I just that day you left

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Speaker 4: And it hit me.

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Speaker 2: I'm not sure that's usually a romantic selling point.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, sounds like your second date is definitely going

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Speaker 6: I mean it seems like a lot of pressure. I

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but sometimes opposites a track. He is hopeless romantic

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Speaker 1: and you are more like Alexis. Yeah, I think she's

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Speaker 3: It's up to you, though, Lisa. We're not trying to

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Speaker 2: And what the whole purpose that we're on ear that means?

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Speaker 2: Would you give him one more chance?

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Speaker 7: I am open to it, It's just I need some

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Speaker 5: I've already dialed it back.

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Speaker 2: I feel it right now, It's totally I'm not sure

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Speaker 4: He hang up?

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Speaker 5: Why don't we just talk on the phone for a

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Speaker 4: We could start there, Yes, let's start start.

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Speaker 2: At least that you were wrong. You can make him.

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Speaker 4: Happy, definitely. She just made me happy with the phone call,

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Speaker 4: for sure.

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Speaker 2: Smile.

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Speaker 4: Okay, this is not.

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Speaker 3: Looking Jeffrey in the morning man. That was a missed

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Speaker 3: opportunity on my part. I apologize to everyone because she

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Speaker 3: Maybe got some dirty talking.

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Speaker 1: I need to hear anymore that. I have a feeling

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Speaker 1: that she might not answer the Yeah, yeah, you should.

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Speaker 2: Try to get them for an awkward Tuesday something. I

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Speaker 3: We're gonna let them work it out on their own

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Speaker 3: because they agreed to talk off the air, so that's good.

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Speaker 2: Who knows if it's going to be a true love

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Speaker 2: connection or not. That's going to be up to them.

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Speaker 1: I would like an update from them. Yeah they end

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Speaker 1: up talking for a minute. I'd like to hear where

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Speaker 1: they're at. By the time two months hit, they should

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Speaker 1: have three kids at released.

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Speaker 3: But even if it didn't work out for them, lately,

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Speaker 3: we've had plenty that did, and you can hear them

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Speaker 3: all on our Second Day podcast. They're up online wherever

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Speaker 3: you get yours, Abrook and Jeffrey